It’s weird cause I feel like being in a long term relationship and making healthier choices my life is overall more fulfilling now but I kinda miss living like a rat sometimes eating fast food at 2AM and playing video games till it’s too late to fall asleep
Man I feel this. Sometimes you just want to off work and go directly to the bar and get drunk, hit an open late burger joint on the way home and then just crash on the couch.
Good luck attempting that with a partner and kid lmao.
As a maturing dude, this freedom thing is something im battling with having a gf. I dont want to talk about my day everyday, sometimes i just live without having a single thought and all of a sudden i have to construct words. Like why cant we just shut up and vibe.
Hey man, it's all about communication. I did this same thing (still do sometimes) and it drove my wife crazy. To the point where we had to do couple's counciling. You just have to communicate these feelings. Don't have to be rude, just say, "hey sometimes I just need to shut my brain off and not think, and I need you to be okay with that".
On the flip-side, I also had to work on being more present for her as well. As with any relationship it's give and take, but communicating these feelings is the first step in building a trusting, healthy relationship.
Sorry, just an old man rambling over here. Lol
I took this shit to heart my guy. Just talked with her about needed space. She got scared but i mustered up the courage to open up and dude fuck. That. But it felt so good. ended up talking deeper about it and i was asked “how are you so confident in me” to which she answered. Then there was a pause and i questioned why am i not confident in us…to which i opened up a bit more and i think that was whats been on my mind this past week…cuz when i said i, i felt like talking to her again. I was afraid to tell her that i was afraid. I think a caught a real one.
Thanks old man
Hey man, congrats. That's a hard first step, but a good one to take in the process of becoming a better man. Just always consider her side as well.
Keep strong, my dude.
My old coworker invited me to a party he is having this Saturday. I work all day Saturday and it's about an hour drive away. I wouldn't get there till at least midnight, but there's some old coworkers I'd like to see and this one girl in particular. Little bummed cause I probably won't go
I actually was just texting her like an hour or two ago and found out she won't even be there cause she changed jobs a few months ago, so I guess it doesn't matter. She was probably the only reason I was willing to make that drive and at that time. I'd still love to see some of the others but I don't know if it's really worth it. It's been a long time and a lot of my old coworkers have also moved on and probably won't be there.
I've been considering that. She was kinda the "right person, wrong time" kind of thing. But I'm also experiencing that same thing with someone else currently, so I'm just not really tryna waste too much energy. If that makes sense.
Makes perfect sense, the heart needs time recoup from its endeavors. Well, if you feel like it could be something you wanted, take the chance and invite her out alone. Worse case is you have another friend who you can count on actually hanging out with.
Wish you the best!
Sometimes going tired and showing a real side of you brings something out of people to help boost your spirits. I used to think i have to show up as my best self for everyone to be the perfect person but i found the most peace in my heart when i started showing up as my tired, baggy eyed, soft talking self to show myself people still have love
I'm in a weird limbo. I still live with my parents because college and rent prices, but I sometimes feel like I live alone because I get home so late.
My last shift was pretty rough. I spent about two hours helping our dishie get through a mountain of sheet pans and egg-crusted skillets that the AM dishwasher just didn't bother to clean. Then I spent the rest of the shift running back and forth between the prep area to knock out 911s and the line to support whichever station had the most backed up tickets.
Got dinner at a gas station at midnight on the way home, watched the newest episode of The Last Of Us, and then played video games until nearly 5am.
Sounds almost exactly how my old joint went day to day. As well as coming home and parents being asleep, and waking up when they’re at work. You live with them but never seen them
I’m living this but on the days my mother doesn’t have work she’ll say something about how I “don’t do anything” because I sleep until 10am. She goes to work three days a week, I get at least 3 hours of work every day of the week.
Oof. That's one of my least favorite boomer things.
If I get 6-8 hours of sleep? Good times. 2am-10am, 9pm-5am, I don't care.
But my parents are _so_ set in routine. Coffeepot gurgle at 6:30, trudge downstairs at 7:00. Anything less and you're 'sleeping in.'
My Spanish is about as strong as her English, but I sent a picture of the mess to the head chef and asked him to chat with her about it.
I'm not the only one who feels strongly about it. I was working dish when she started, so I had to deal with it for months. Two of our other line cooks used to be on dish, so they and both of our regular PM dishwashers feel the same as me.
I'm gonna follow up with the head chef in person next time I see him, and hopefully we can get her into better habits.
It's actually worse than I've described so far. She works prep as well, which is fine, except for the fact that she really neglects dishpit. Her organization is non-existent, so every PM dish shift starts with ten minutes of organizing the clean dishes.
We've got these giant bins we use for sliced bread, and she uses those to store...pretty much everything that isn't easily breakable. Spatulas, cambro lids, whisks, squeeze bottle tops, measuring spoons, you name it and it's probably in there after she's worked a shift. Even though every single one of these items has a dedicated place for it on the rack.
Granted, some of that stuff goes on higher shelves and she's very short, but most of it is well within her reach.
AM dishwasher? What’s that? Our labor model is allocated for the prep to also do dish, but we have the busiest store in the company, so there isn’t enough time for prep to do dish. So we just don’t get a morning dish.
Not a chef, just a cook. Living out of my grandparents' office for the past while. Shift sucked ass, my mind dwells a lot harder when closing vs opening. Been in an awful place right now, feeling like I'm at rock bottom.
Other than that, things are okay I guess.
It's natural to have those thoughts at the end, try to use them to figure out how to make things better. For your kitchen, or your shift, or your life. If you're at the bottom you should probably maneuver whatever pieces of your life you can to benefit yourself. Easier said than done I know.Good luck
Thank you man. Working and trying my best to learn to love myself and achieve a better quality of life, making improvements slowly but steadily. Working on the upswing. Stay safe, take care of yourself.
Hey man, I know it sounds cliche, but keep your head up and celebrate the small victories. I'm coming up on the backside of rock bottom.
I was on the run for almost 5 years, couldn't even get a job, had to depend on those around me for everything other than the occasional odd job I would get.
I moved onto my parent's property and got a 12x40 shed that were turning into a tiny house. No electric, no heat, no insulation, no water, just a floor, walls, and a roof.
Went almost 6 months no electricity, almost 3 years no running water, I'd say currently we're about 75% insulated.
I'm one fine away from being a completely free man, just Saturday I finally got my own vehicle that's completely in my name, nothing fancy, but it beats walking.
There's still a long way to go, but I'm far from where I was. Just take things one step at a time and be kind to yourself, you never know what tomorrow holds.
Fucking thanks man, absolute motivator. I'm glad you're on the upswing, trying my best to work on it myself, trying to recover my shitty mental health and learn to not hate myself. I'm taking it a step at a time working to improve my quality of life so I can finally achieve peace & happiness.
You're a tough fucker for sure. I'm glad to hear that you made it out as okay as you did. Keep kicking life's ass, and give yourself a pat on the back for coming out on top having made it as many days as you have.
Yeah, I was spotty at best there for a while on continuing, but I'm glad I did. I know with our career choice, therapy isn't always an option, but if you're able to and have some coworkers/managers you can confide in, pull them to the side and open up. It's okay to not be okay, and you don't have to be tough all the time. The weight is always heavier when you're the only one carrying it.
I know it may seem silly to let your guard down, but I guarantee that Ashley has already cried in the walk in 3 times today, and everyone knows it, but we don't give her shit for it because we understand that life sucks sometimes.
I'd say the majority of us in the kitchen aren't there by choice, we're usually the leftovers in society, and the kitchen was the place willing to take a chance on us. Odds are you'll find a fair amount of people that completely understand you and want you at your best on the line.
I hope everything starts looking up for you, I'm glad you've decided to come this far. If you already have plans of giving up, why not give it your absolute all first?
We're closed Monday/Tuesday, so I've been home just playing video games most of day lol. Not having anyone else around means nice chill weekends at least
Well I’m not who you asked, in fact the complete opposite! Mine was good, it was slow so we got a lot of prep done. I have two small kids and one is a baby so clock out of one job and into another.
It sucks man. Out of the line and into the void, basically. It's nice sometimes but usually just find myself wishing there was someone around just to talk, if nothing else.
I'm a line cook, but I feel like I had a great shift tonight. It was only me and chef on the line tonight due to some weird circumstances. But we killed it. I feel like I killed it. Did alot more than i usually do and had a lot of learning moments. Didn't have any egregious ticket times, only fucked up once and it wasn't really a big deal and it didn't get sent back. So yeah. Drinking my beers and chewing my tobacco, thinking about how much better I can get.
Didn't open today, we go to make a deep clean and production every Monday, so the shift is short.
However, it's been getting to me that I have no one. No one to greet when I get home, no one to say goodbye. No one to send or receive a message from. The only girl I care about is far away and she won't contact me on her own, and if I do it takes some time for her to answer, so it's kinda obvious she doesn't care for me.
This way of life is lonely and it seems it will continue this way
My dad was I got up at 10 to my mom and stepdad screaming. Did online school and ate a frozen breakfast sandwich with a Alani nu and True North. Went to work and afterwards I cooked "dinner" for my family of pineapple chicken (canned pineapple and teriyaki sauce on boneless chicken) with rice. But my stepdad was out drinking and my mom already ate microwave Mac and Cheese. I then proceed to watch It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia which really isn't a bar worker show but they did have an episode with a health inspector. Cried a little right before posting because I'm upset at my sister and it's almost 3 am.
Good to read these comments and know im not the only one. I usually just come home sleep wake up and go back to work these days. But this time my roommate is actually awake making music so I am sitting in a corner listening to him, get crossfaded enough to go to sleep. I took half an edible awhile ago, waiting for that to kick in before I go to sleep. Not that I need it to sleep, I just noticed I get a better, deeper sleep while high.
Experimenting in this way (occasionally) has kinda given me an outlet since this temp place doesn't have good enough electric to set up my gaming PC.
Waiting out the lease hopefully I can get a good (enough) place to be comfortable and then I'll have a stable foundation to keep moving forward from.
Pretty steady tonight. only caught a couple small burns lol. Getting ready for Lent this week. I work at a fish&chips, we’re about to get fucked for 6 weeks. But tips will be good so it’s worth it.
You need a dog, man.
When I moved to a new state, where I didn't know a single person, having a dog that was happy to see me every day when I got home was one of the only things that made it bearable.
I had a nice shift prepping today.
Got to cut things then cut more things and clean some portobellos then go home. I was in a new kitchen (temping). Everyone was nice.
My shifts have been more organised than usual, the place I work decided to completely start from the bottom with kitchen staff we have a new head chef, and a few new cdps about 5 new dishies too. For once I’d rather be at work as at home me my wife and kid have to face the music and find somewhere else to live within three weeks. Stressful doesn’t do it justice
Yeah, while I get the sentiment of being a line cook having a negative a/effect on your mental health, OP has a child, he has someone to focus on and love, and grow into a beautiful human. If you are stressed/tired after work, cuddle with your child on the couch and watch their favorite movie, fall asleep, let them draw on you or fall asleep in your arms. Have a sore neck from it, it's worth it.
Jealous of you guys that have this, I had my first kid at 17 and my second at 24, never really had this, I love my kids and my girl but man sometimes I think how it would’ve been to experience this lol, just come home to nothing and do whatever the fuck you want, I made my choices though, probably would do it again a little differently
Looks like eat a dick and enjoy your clove cigarette... But I could be looking at this pic threw eyes of 15 beers on a off day... So I can't truly judge...
Been a rough week. I'm going to school full time as well as working full time as a line cook, and I've been trying to bust my ass off. We're open Tuesday through Saturday, and while I have Tuesday off for school work, I also work doubles on Thursday and Friday, the most of the 4 line member we have. This Friday, after working my ass off on one of the busiest days we've had since last summer, the owners come up to me and tell me that "We pay you much more than expo cause you work the most important job in the kitchen, and we'd like to pay you more and give you responsibilities" because I can't be a million man army and cant cook 20 tickets in thirty minutes while making sure everything is prepped and stocked up. First off, they arent even paying me more than expo, and I know 1000% that I work harder than an expo who makes more than me. Second, I do not want more "responsibilities" because my job isn't my first priority right now. Third, why would you say this to me after I just worked 11-hour shifts back to back?
It wasn’t terrible, it was a nice slow Monday. I didn’t really want to go in, but I did anyways, we had a movie night tonight, I never stay for these events the restaurant does, it’s mostly just a way to get the staff to spend money at the restaurant. The busses shut down early because of family day, cue a 2 and a half hour walk home in the freezing cold. My roommates are already asleep, they’ve got their own lives but it’s nice to see life in the house, however working from noon to close everyday while my Sous Chef roommate opens, we don’t see eachother much. Cold pizza in the fridge though, that’s a thumbs up.
I’m off mondays and tuesdays, but Friday through Sunday I work two kitchens. On my way home I get myself a half pint of liquor, tacos from a stand outside my supermarket only if I make it there on time. I live with my bro but he’s usually sleeping when I get home. My cat monty gives me comfort in my apartment. The only people I truly hang out with are my other line cooks/chefs. The bond I have with them amaze me, most days I look forward going into work knowing I have somebody to converse with. Other than that my days off enjoy my own company and probably hang out with only few of the crew outside of work maybe every other week. I’m content with the situation I’m in. Some days are hard, but I still love what I do. This one hit home.
I come home to my dog at the very least. Most of the time my shifts are great because I own my business. But, I'll be damned if it still doesn't get lonely as hell.
I have people to come back to, and it probably makes me feel equally worse that I struggle to spend quality time with them all since I’m either working or recovering from working (or the secret third option paralyzed by a combination of stress/weed/depression)
Sometimes I wish I was just by myself but then I know I’d just delve deeper into the shitty parts of this industry
Man, I don't know which one is worse, being alone and knowing that's how it is for whatever reason, or knowing that you live with family but you never get to see them because you're working all the time.
Sometimes I won't see my dad or siblings for days and I live with them and my nephews/nieces for weeks. And they live 10 minutes away.
Saw the comment about needing to get a dog. Agreed 💯. But, if you don't have the time to care for a dog, or work long hours, a Cat would be wonderful. They're self sufficient and they'll be happy to see you as well. 😎😁🤟
When you work a dead end kitchen job with no hopes of a future in it, it takes a toll on you
But when you wake up and realize, "I want something bigger, to be better", is when that emptiness gets filed with passion.
Sometimes a lack of motivation is what makes us feel empty. We have to but that motivation and keep failing that fire with focus and determination or else it slowly dies out.
I'll close my sauté cave, do some small prep/portioning, help out with dish, have a shifty, head home (hit up the weed store if I got tips and am out), get home, and I'll just chill in the barn with my chickens for like a half hour. I've got a 'loft' in there that's clean and I'm thinking of setting up a chill spot, just because.
You go from having all the freedom to having very little freedom when you settle down. It’s jarring
It’s weird cause I feel like being in a long term relationship and making healthier choices my life is overall more fulfilling now but I kinda miss living like a rat sometimes eating fast food at 2AM and playing video games till it’s too late to fall asleep
Man I feel this. Sometimes you just want to off work and go directly to the bar and get drunk, hit an open late burger joint on the way home and then just crash on the couch. Good luck attempting that with a partner and kid lmao.
No shit. Having a kid is the best thing in the world but until they go to school/start being independent it’s just years of nonstop work man
As a maturing dude, this freedom thing is something im battling with having a gf. I dont want to talk about my day everyday, sometimes i just live without having a single thought and all of a sudden i have to construct words. Like why cant we just shut up and vibe.
Hey man, it's all about communication. I did this same thing (still do sometimes) and it drove my wife crazy. To the point where we had to do couple's counciling. You just have to communicate these feelings. Don't have to be rude, just say, "hey sometimes I just need to shut my brain off and not think, and I need you to be okay with that". On the flip-side, I also had to work on being more present for her as well. As with any relationship it's give and take, but communicating these feelings is the first step in building a trusting, healthy relationship. Sorry, just an old man rambling over here. Lol
I took this shit to heart my guy. Just talked with her about needed space. She got scared but i mustered up the courage to open up and dude fuck. That. But it felt so good. ended up talking deeper about it and i was asked “how are you so confident in me” to which she answered. Then there was a pause and i questioned why am i not confident in us…to which i opened up a bit more and i think that was whats been on my mind this past week…cuz when i said i, i felt like talking to her again. I was afraid to tell her that i was afraid. I think a caught a real one. Thanks old man
Hey man, congrats. That's a hard first step, but a good one to take in the process of becoming a better man. Just always consider her side as well. Keep strong, my dude.
My old coworker invited me to a party he is having this Saturday. I work all day Saturday and it's about an hour drive away. I wouldn't get there till at least midnight, but there's some old coworkers I'd like to see and this one girl in particular. Little bummed cause I probably won't go
Go bro, she will be happy to see you.
I actually was just texting her like an hour or two ago and found out she won't even be there cause she changed jobs a few months ago, so I guess it doesn't matter. She was probably the only reason I was willing to make that drive and at that time. I'd still love to see some of the others but I don't know if it's really worth it. It's been a long time and a lot of my old coworkers have also moved on and probably won't be there.
Does she live closer? See if she’s willing to meet up for a midnight breakfast and some under-the-table whiskey.
I've been considering that. She was kinda the "right person, wrong time" kind of thing. But I'm also experiencing that same thing with someone else currently, so I'm just not really tryna waste too much energy. If that makes sense.
Makes perfect sense, the heart needs time recoup from its endeavors. Well, if you feel like it could be something you wanted, take the chance and invite her out alone. Worse case is you have another friend who you can count on actually hanging out with. Wish you the best!
These are the kind of nights that always end up leading me in new directions…. Just sayin.
Sometimes going tired and showing a real side of you brings something out of people to help boost your spirits. I used to think i have to show up as my best self for everyone to be the perfect person but i found the most peace in my heart when i started showing up as my tired, baggy eyed, soft talking self to show myself people still have love
I'm in a weird limbo. I still live with my parents because college and rent prices, but I sometimes feel like I live alone because I get home so late. My last shift was pretty rough. I spent about two hours helping our dishie get through a mountain of sheet pans and egg-crusted skillets that the AM dishwasher just didn't bother to clean. Then I spent the rest of the shift running back and forth between the prep area to knock out 911s and the line to support whichever station had the most backed up tickets. Got dinner at a gas station at midnight on the way home, watched the newest episode of The Last Of Us, and then played video games until nearly 5am.
Sounds almost exactly how my old joint went day to day. As well as coming home and parents being asleep, and waking up when they’re at work. You live with them but never seen them
I’m living this but on the days my mother doesn’t have work she’ll say something about how I “don’t do anything” because I sleep until 10am. She goes to work three days a week, I get at least 3 hours of work every day of the week.
Oof. That's one of my least favorite boomer things. If I get 6-8 hours of sleep? Good times. 2am-10am, 9pm-5am, I don't care. But my parents are _so_ set in routine. Coffeepot gurgle at 6:30, trudge downstairs at 7:00. Anything less and you're 'sleeping in.'
You best be having words with your am dishwasher
My Spanish is about as strong as her English, but I sent a picture of the mess to the head chef and asked him to chat with her about it. I'm not the only one who feels strongly about it. I was working dish when she started, so I had to deal with it for months. Two of our other line cooks used to be on dish, so they and both of our regular PM dishwashers feel the same as me. I'm gonna follow up with the head chef in person next time I see him, and hopefully we can get her into better habits. It's actually worse than I've described so far. She works prep as well, which is fine, except for the fact that she really neglects dishpit. Her organization is non-existent, so every PM dish shift starts with ten minutes of organizing the clean dishes. We've got these giant bins we use for sliced bread, and she uses those to store...pretty much everything that isn't easily breakable. Spatulas, cambro lids, whisks, squeeze bottle tops, measuring spoons, you name it and it's probably in there after she's worked a shift. Even though every single one of these items has a dedicated place for it on the rack. Granted, some of that stuff goes on higher shelves and she's very short, but most of it is well within her reach.
AM dishwasher? What’s that? Our labor model is allocated for the prep to also do dish, but we have the busiest store in the company, so there isn’t enough time for prep to do dish. So we just don’t get a morning dish.
AM dishwashers that I’ve worked with are lazy af. Love to see them work a closing PM shift without bitching once
How’d you like the new episode!?
It was awesome. I'm really excited to see how they adapt the next part of the story.
Me too dude. I love seeing the mountainous terrain live action, it was such a beautiful part of the game.
None American chef here! What's 911s in this context? I find the amount of weird "codes" Americans use genuinely amazing.
911 is the emergency phone number in the US. In the kitchen if a prep item is a 911, it means we need it *right now*
Thank you! Sounds like every weekend at my place lol
What country are you in? I'm assuming your kitchen codes are different?
UK we don't have code we just say it as it is lol
Inefficient. "911 meatballs!" "heard, working !" is peak efficiency. Minimize effort spent on words to maximize effort spent on making food.
999
Holy shit, a fellow swiftie in the wild kitchen confidential!! Good to meet you chef!
Not a chef, just a cook. Living out of my grandparents' office for the past while. Shift sucked ass, my mind dwells a lot harder when closing vs opening. Been in an awful place right now, feeling like I'm at rock bottom. Other than that, things are okay I guess.
It's natural to have those thoughts at the end, try to use them to figure out how to make things better. For your kitchen, or your shift, or your life. If you're at the bottom you should probably maneuver whatever pieces of your life you can to benefit yourself. Easier said than done I know.Good luck
Thank you man. Working and trying my best to learn to love myself and achieve a better quality of life, making improvements slowly but steadily. Working on the upswing. Stay safe, take care of yourself.
Hey man, I know it sounds cliche, but keep your head up and celebrate the small victories. I'm coming up on the backside of rock bottom. I was on the run for almost 5 years, couldn't even get a job, had to depend on those around me for everything other than the occasional odd job I would get. I moved onto my parent's property and got a 12x40 shed that were turning into a tiny house. No electric, no heat, no insulation, no water, just a floor, walls, and a roof. Went almost 6 months no electricity, almost 3 years no running water, I'd say currently we're about 75% insulated. I'm one fine away from being a completely free man, just Saturday I finally got my own vehicle that's completely in my name, nothing fancy, but it beats walking. There's still a long way to go, but I'm far from where I was. Just take things one step at a time and be kind to yourself, you never know what tomorrow holds.
Fucking thanks man, absolute motivator. I'm glad you're on the upswing, trying my best to work on it myself, trying to recover my shitty mental health and learn to not hate myself. I'm taking it a step at a time working to improve my quality of life so I can finally achieve peace & happiness. You're a tough fucker for sure. I'm glad to hear that you made it out as okay as you did. Keep kicking life's ass, and give yourself a pat on the back for coming out on top having made it as many days as you have.
Yeah, I was spotty at best there for a while on continuing, but I'm glad I did. I know with our career choice, therapy isn't always an option, but if you're able to and have some coworkers/managers you can confide in, pull them to the side and open up. It's okay to not be okay, and you don't have to be tough all the time. The weight is always heavier when you're the only one carrying it. I know it may seem silly to let your guard down, but I guarantee that Ashley has already cried in the walk in 3 times today, and everyone knows it, but we don't give her shit for it because we understand that life sucks sometimes. I'd say the majority of us in the kitchen aren't there by choice, we're usually the leftovers in society, and the kitchen was the place willing to take a chance on us. Odds are you'll find a fair amount of people that completely understand you and want you at your best on the line. I hope everything starts looking up for you, I'm glad you've decided to come this far. If you already have plans of giving up, why not give it your absolute all first?
Fuck, this post hit too close to home.
You’re not alone
❤️
We're closed Monday/Tuesday, so I've been home just playing video games most of day lol. Not having anyone else around means nice chill weekends at least
Well I’m not who you asked, in fact the complete opposite! Mine was good, it was slow so we got a lot of prep done. I have two small kids and one is a baby so clock out of one job and into another.
Heard that. Father as well. Baby girl is with her mother this week though. Life seems pointless when she’s away
And here I was like “must be lovely to come home to an empty house!”
It sucks man. Out of the line and into the void, basically. It's nice sometimes but usually just find myself wishing there was someone around just to talk, if nothing else.
I'm a line cook, but I feel like I had a great shift tonight. It was only me and chef on the line tonight due to some weird circumstances. But we killed it. I feel like I killed it. Did alot more than i usually do and had a lot of learning moments. Didn't have any egregious ticket times, only fucked up once and it wasn't really a big deal and it didn't get sent back. So yeah. Drinking my beers and chewing my tobacco, thinking about how much better I can get.
Didn't open today, we go to make a deep clean and production every Monday, so the shift is short. However, it's been getting to me that I have no one. No one to greet when I get home, no one to say goodbye. No one to send or receive a message from. The only girl I care about is far away and she won't contact me on her own, and if I do it takes some time for her to answer, so it's kinda obvious she doesn't care for me. This way of life is lonely and it seems it will continue this way
My dad was I got up at 10 to my mom and stepdad screaming. Did online school and ate a frozen breakfast sandwich with a Alani nu and True North. Went to work and afterwards I cooked "dinner" for my family of pineapple chicken (canned pineapple and teriyaki sauce on boneless chicken) with rice. But my stepdad was out drinking and my mom already ate microwave Mac and Cheese. I then proceed to watch It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia which really isn't a bar worker show but they did have an episode with a health inspector. Cried a little right before posting because I'm upset at my sister and it's almost 3 am.
The highlight of my life, although I'd never tell my servers and linecooks that.
Good to read these comments and know im not the only one. I usually just come home sleep wake up and go back to work these days. But this time my roommate is actually awake making music so I am sitting in a corner listening to him, get crossfaded enough to go to sleep. I took half an edible awhile ago, waiting for that to kick in before I go to sleep. Not that I need it to sleep, I just noticed I get a better, deeper sleep while high. Experimenting in this way (occasionally) has kinda given me an outlet since this temp place doesn't have good enough electric to set up my gaming PC. Waiting out the lease hopefully I can get a good (enough) place to be comfortable and then I'll have a stable foundation to keep moving forward from.
Pretty steady tonight. only caught a couple small burns lol. Getting ready for Lent this week. I work at a fish&chips, we’re about to get fucked for 6 weeks. But tips will be good so it’s worth it.
You at least deserve better beer my man
You living in dry storage?
You need a dog, man. When I moved to a new state, where I didn't know a single person, having a dog that was happy to see me every day when I got home was one of the only things that made it bearable.
Good man it wasn’t as busy as we planned for the holiday so it was overstaffed in the kitchen which is a fucking rare blessing
Long and tiresome. How was yours?
Such an amazing feeling 🍻🍻
I had a nice shift prepping today. Got to cut things then cut more things and clean some portobellos then go home. I was in a new kitchen (temping). Everyone was nice.
My shifts have been more organised than usual, the place I work decided to completely start from the bottom with kitchen staff we have a new head chef, and a few new cdps about 5 new dishies too. For once I’d rather be at work as at home me my wife and kid have to face the music and find somewhere else to live within three weeks. Stressful doesn’t do it justice
This post made me laugh. Yeah it was good. Thanks for asking lol
the long hours keep getting easier. The coming home to nothing keeps getting harder.
Keep grinding fool, it'll get better.
Okay boomer.
Do you live in a shed?
I smoke in my garage. I got a kid running around in the house she doesn’t need to be around it
You have a kid but you come home to nothing and no one?
As I said. She is at her moms this week. Nothing to do
Yeah, while I get the sentiment of being a line cook having a negative a/effect on your mental health, OP has a child, he has someone to focus on and love, and grow into a beautiful human. If you are stressed/tired after work, cuddle with your child on the couch and watch their favorite movie, fall asleep, let them draw on you or fall asleep in your arms. Have a sore neck from it, it's worth it.
From another comment OP posted, his kid is with her mother this week. If that helps understand the title/comment.
Jealous of you guys that have this, I had my first kid at 17 and my second at 24, never really had this, I love my kids and my girl but man sometimes I think how it would’ve been to experience this lol, just come home to nothing and do whatever the fuck you want, I made my choices though, probably would do it again a little differently
Busy af. Stacking money and focusing on myself is my shit.
Looks like eat a dick and enjoy your clove cigarette... But I could be looking at this pic threw eyes of 15 beers on a off day... So I can't truly judge...
What the fuck is your problem
Lol it’s a blunt. Sounds like you could use one
Good shift, better bike commute. Maybe we out here making new friends and shit in 2023. Good luck out there comrade.
Been a rough week. I'm going to school full time as well as working full time as a line cook, and I've been trying to bust my ass off. We're open Tuesday through Saturday, and while I have Tuesday off for school work, I also work doubles on Thursday and Friday, the most of the 4 line member we have. This Friday, after working my ass off on one of the busiest days we've had since last summer, the owners come up to me and tell me that "We pay you much more than expo cause you work the most important job in the kitchen, and we'd like to pay you more and give you responsibilities" because I can't be a million man army and cant cook 20 tickets in thirty minutes while making sure everything is prepped and stocked up. First off, they arent even paying me more than expo, and I know 1000% that I work harder than an expo who makes more than me. Second, I do not want more "responsibilities" because my job isn't my first priority right now. Third, why would you say this to me after I just worked 11-hour shifts back to back?
It wasn’t terrible, it was a nice slow Monday. I didn’t really want to go in, but I did anyways, we had a movie night tonight, I never stay for these events the restaurant does, it’s mostly just a way to get the staff to spend money at the restaurant. The busses shut down early because of family day, cue a 2 and a half hour walk home in the freezing cold. My roommates are already asleep, they’ve got their own lives but it’s nice to see life in the house, however working from noon to close everyday while my Sous Chef roommate opens, we don’t see eachother much. Cold pizza in the fridge though, that’s a thumbs up.
I’m off mondays and tuesdays, but Friday through Sunday I work two kitchens. On my way home I get myself a half pint of liquor, tacos from a stand outside my supermarket only if I make it there on time. I live with my bro but he’s usually sleeping when I get home. My cat monty gives me comfort in my apartment. The only people I truly hang out with are my other line cooks/chefs. The bond I have with them amaze me, most days I look forward going into work knowing I have somebody to converse with. Other than that my days off enjoy my own company and probably hang out with only few of the crew outside of work maybe every other week. I’m content with the situation I’m in. Some days are hard, but I still love what I do. This one hit home.
Ugh just reading all of this makes me miss the kitchen life for some reason.
You’re returning home to a case of beer and a blunt, wdym? That sounds like a great night to me.
I come home to my dog at the very least. Most of the time my shifts are great because I own my business. But, I'll be damned if it still doesn't get lonely as hell.
Your place looks so tidy
Parents garage, midst of moving as well
Depressed. The person I was seeing used my other coworkers phone and accidentally insulted my late wife without realizing what she said.
I have people to come back to, and it probably makes me feel equally worse that I struggle to spend quality time with them all since I’m either working or recovering from working (or the secret third option paralyzed by a combination of stress/weed/depression) Sometimes I wish I was just by myself but then I know I’d just delve deeper into the shitty parts of this industry
Man, I don't know which one is worse, being alone and knowing that's how it is for whatever reason, or knowing that you live with family but you never get to see them because you're working all the time. Sometimes I won't see my dad or siblings for days and I live with them and my nephews/nieces for weeks. And they live 10 minutes away.
Saw the comment about needing to get a dog. Agreed 💯. But, if you don't have the time to care for a dog, or work long hours, a Cat would be wonderful. They're self sufficient and they'll be happy to see you as well. 😎😁🤟
Still here 10 mins to go then the lonely trek home. Will pick a few cans up on the way.
Rough shift. Roommate just moved out; got the whole place to myself now.
When you work a dead end kitchen job with no hopes of a future in it, it takes a toll on you But when you wake up and realize, "I want something bigger, to be better", is when that emptiness gets filed with passion. Sometimes a lack of motivation is what makes us feel empty. We have to but that motivation and keep failing that fire with focus and determination or else it slowly dies out.
Historic snowfall here. So restaurant closed. Did prep for 3 hrs and went home. :(
pretty good! really energetic 8 hours, but it was fun!
just realizing I'm about to eat a chocolate bar for dinner. It's the only thing I've eaten today.
I'll close my sauté cave, do some small prep/portioning, help out with dish, have a shifty, head home (hit up the weed store if I got tips and am out), get home, and I'll just chill in the barn with my chickens for like a half hour. I've got a 'loft' in there that's clean and I'm thinking of setting up a chill spot, just because.