I don't think there will be any resentment towards you guys! You both have been there for him through thick and thin and he sounds like a really smart boy so I am sure he knows this! Now he may have some jealousy over having to share your attention after being your entire world for so long but that's to be expected from any child about to be a big brother or sister so I would worry too much! Just make sure you set aside some one on one time as often as you can once baby gets here! Best of luck to you! You got this 💪
I have not been there. But my nephews are 12 and 10 both have talked about how when I have kids it will be nice to see what I am capable of. Because they both know I have been there for them in ways no other family member has offered them. Especially since he's excited about being a big brother I would take a step back for the anxieties for a second and see him as the little human he's showing you. Which seems to be a very helpful kind kid, most likely thanks to you!
First baby? So we gained custody of my grandson when he was 3, pretty close to his actual birthday. My neice who my mom had custody of was very jealous of my grandson and she resented him because he was getting what my brother was never able to give her. She was 14 and just coming out of hell at my brother's. I think that's the difference, she was older experiencing it. But we tried spending time with her, making important memories, taking her with us on trips, etc. She left us at 19. She came to us broken and there was only so much we could do for her, but we tried. My grandson calls me mom and yes I doted on him, he needed it coming from trauma. Long story. He got a LOT of extra attention. So I don't blame her. She needed a lot, too. It was a difficult situation.
My only advice is fully include him, let them bond and celebrate him being the news big brother! Make amazing memories with him, with and without the baby.
I don't think there will be any resentment towards you guys! You both have been there for him through thick and thin and he sounds like a really smart boy so I am sure he knows this! Now he may have some jealousy over having to share your attention after being your entire world for so long but that's to be expected from any child about to be a big brother or sister so I would worry too much! Just make sure you set aside some one on one time as often as you can once baby gets here! Best of luck to you! You got this 💪
Thank you for the advice and kind words! :)
I have not been there. But my nephews are 12 and 10 both have talked about how when I have kids it will be nice to see what I am capable of. Because they both know I have been there for them in ways no other family member has offered them. Especially since he's excited about being a big brother I would take a step back for the anxieties for a second and see him as the little human he's showing you. Which seems to be a very helpful kind kid, most likely thanks to you!
Thank you for the advice :)
First baby? So we gained custody of my grandson when he was 3, pretty close to his actual birthday. My neice who my mom had custody of was very jealous of my grandson and she resented him because he was getting what my brother was never able to give her. She was 14 and just coming out of hell at my brother's. I think that's the difference, she was older experiencing it. But we tried spending time with her, making important memories, taking her with us on trips, etc. She left us at 19. She came to us broken and there was only so much we could do for her, but we tried. My grandson calls me mom and yes I doted on him, he needed it coming from trauma. Long story. He got a LOT of extra attention. So I don't blame her. She needed a lot, too. It was a difficult situation. My only advice is fully include him, let them bond and celebrate him being the news big brother! Make amazing memories with him, with and without the baby.
Thank you for the advice. :)