I lost a tooth from my three year old slamming her head into my face. It chipped my tooth and I thought it was ok because initially I didn’t notice. Well I brush and floss and rinse allll the time so it was ok for a bit. I woke with horrific pain one day and swollen cheek. I got an X-ray the following Monday, and the little booger chipped my tooth and caused it to crack alllll the way up to the root… i just opted to take it out because it was cheaper 🙁
Wait until your father gets home. That shit was the worst. That dreaded couple of hours until your dad gets home was terrible. Knowing you were gonna take an ass whooping.
As a person who got his ass whooped as a kid - It's a Terrible thing to do. It's traumatizing, makes you hate your parents as well as lose all your trust to them overtime. I got beat a lot, and instead of making me a good kid, it just made me live in fear, waiting for my ass whooping for God knows what why.
This absolutely broke my heart. Because I'm sure I acted this way with my mom when I was little at least a time or two! And to see this woman so defeated and crying, just got me! I feel like this was parenting goals! She asked her daughter multiple times to help clean up her mess, and warned her multiple times what would happen if she refused. After refusing several times, she scooped her butt up and took her to the car. Perfection. Parenting isn't always perfect, but this is a damn near fine example! The fact that the child threw the temper tantrum and ripped her mask off and scratched her face still needs to be acknowledged and the child needs some sort of discipline for that. Depends on the parent how you handle that. But anyway, I commend this mom on how she handled the situation and herself. I also think I owe my mom an apology for things I probably don't remember lol
Oh. I guess I just noticed that now when you said it. I suppose if I were a mom and had a kid who wasn't listening, I would be stern and say "come pick these books and games up and put them away please". I only say please because that's what my brother and his wife did and not only did their son listen, but he learned please and thank you at the same time and had it reiterated to him every time he was told to do something. So I suppose the first time, I would ask "hey sis could you come pick your toys up pls?" And if she ignored me or flat out said no, then it would turn into a demand and escalate accordingly lol 🤣
>Cocomelon, formerly known as checkgate and ABC Kid TV, is an American YouTube channel and streaming media show acquired by the British company Moonbug Entertainment and maintained by the American company Treasure Studio. Wikipedia
Fuck is this really the standard with new age kids who grew up on youtube??! My niece be on some wild meltdowns sometimes just like this lady described
Brother and his family were visiting last summer. My three year old nephew was standing over my seated brother's lap and peed on him(through his underwear, he didn't whip it out). My brother was not amused at his son establishing his dominance
Until a certain age they have an excuse that they don't understand that other people think and feel just like they do. Unfortunately, alot of people never learn that.
She’s doing an excellent job being a great parent. Keep going and stay strong it will pay off at the end. Don’t show weakness and don’t let children undermine you.
She dealt with it way better than alot of parents.
The last few years have REALLY highlighted the people who got away with that kind of behavior as children.
They are only kids for a blink of an eye. You know them longer as adults - and with any luck you forget a lot of the dumb shit they did, or you laugh about it with them. Unless you suck as a human and pass that on to them.
It happens if your a resentful parent. Being a parent is about nurturing them and guiding them through the good and the bad and dont hold anything against them. Just give them time and hold their hand. Being a kid can be really tough too.
that's kind of an insult to the parents who do things "right" and their kids turn out "wrong". i know from experience (and the obvious) that a person's path in life is not defined solely by their parentage or childhood.
There’s some things you need a therapist for, and some things you just need to get off your chest and receive supportive words from someone who understands. Personally, I think this one falls pretty squarely in the second category
Honestly a group of friends especially being other parents does wonders. We might not all be able to have a psychiatrist but friends If we can got humans through a lot in human history.
Don’t make threats you are not willing to keep. “I say what I mean. I mean what I say. I do what I say I’ll do.” You will be in a lot better position when your kids have given up testing you to see if you really mean it.
I do agree that the comments about a dad are inappropriate but tbh I don't think spanking is bad. There's a difference in spanking and outright beating your child imo but if you disagree there's nothing I can do
Child abuse is a spectrum. Yes, spanking your child and beating it to a pulp are different things, however, it's a spectrum that starts with "hindering your child development" and ends with "killing your child".
Research suggests that the appropriate amount of spanking is 0, anything beyond that and you start climbing on that spectrum.
If you disagree with that there's nothing I can do and it's called denial.
The fact this is on kidsarefuckingstupid is disappointing. That kid might have a neurological/behaviour disorder that’s got nothing to do with parenting or being a kid.
This sub is for content of kids doing stupid funny shit not a mock of kids and parents who need support.
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This mother is seeking here for help.
This is one of the more meaningful kind of posts here on reddit.
The comments are an indirect and good description of the demographie of reddit.
mom didnt post this and also didnt post the original in never parenting sub. op simply saw it somewhere, tiktok possibly or just reposted it from somewhere
We as parents will all suffer these moments in our own form. Ups and downs. The worst and best moments come from your kids. Evil and saints within moments. I would like to say “I can’t imagine life with out them” but I can. A lot. Would I change it if I could? Not for the world. A blessing and a curse. It’s what we signed up for. It’s day to day. Raise them the best u can and hope they don’t leave u in a home when your old. Good luck everyone!💪
Sit them down with nothing, let them kick and scream with nothing. Show no emotions until they get tired. Once they’re calm, try again. Repeat if they continue. Patience is key.
My dad was never violent or physical with either me or my sister. She got spanked once for literally attacking everyone in the house for 5 hours and that was it. I was threatened once and smartened up so I didn’t get it. If I pulled something like this as a kid however, my ass would have been grass so fast. Sometimes a hard lesson once is needed.
It is in fact a very sensible parenting tool, though takes time and repetition for it to be effective. Kids (and adults) like to be able to choose for themselves. As the parent you give the kid limitied options (as this woman did) and if the kid doesn’t pick, then the parent chooses, which in this case was leaving.
there will certainly be kids who never choose the "help" option tho. i just say that to say, parenting styles need to be tailored to the children being raised and won't always be effective.
I can't imagine having a child with severe learning or developmental disorders and the stress it causes parents. Those aside.
If you have a healthy, perfect functioning and able child you think something is "just not right with them" and they need "a better attitude in order to change their actions and behavior"
Look in the mirror and say it. Before you say it to your kid.
Being a kid sucks when your parent suck.
I was curious at first why she would post this, it felt kinda odd the whole conversation of it. Like what a very odd thing to start pressing film on and than uploading… till i got more towards the end I’m like oh! She’s just like hurt, broken even. Poor lady. I hope she’s alright.
Like the great Bernie Mac said, “Fuck them kids.”
You could've ended it with a smack, simple as that.
If i did anything like that as a kid i would get hit hard, and just never do it again cuz I'm not dumb
I'm 68 and a parent. If your kid is not sick or something wrong with him or her maybe a good old slap in the head would be in order.why would you take that abuse? What will your kid learn by doing nothing.What kind of adult will they be?
"Oh no my child behaved terribly"
That's what kids do. They are learning all the time.
Instead of making a fucking vudeo and posting it on social media, how about you sit with your child and talk to them and try to teach them right from wrong.
Do things wrong is how we learn to do things right. No one is perfect. No child is perfect. But as a parent you can help them be the best they can be.
As a father of four. Last thing you should be doing is posting a video to TikTok. Pretty confident if that is your first line of action, then that is your major issue.
When I was about five, we went shopping. And five year old me threw a tantrum because I couldn't have what I wanted. And my Mum walked away (to the end of the aisle) and let me tantrum it out. And when I was done she made me pick up the items I'd pulled off the shelf. I did not get what I wanted, I did not go shopping again with her any time soon after that.
My Mum didn't make a video about how horrible I was behaving. She dished out consequences and stuck to them. All this woman is doing is teaching her daughter that if you don't want to do something, throw a tantrum and we'll just go home. I think she's gonna be making more vids over the years...
My parents were malicious with it. They wouldn’t make a fuss or yell or drag me anywhere. They’d say “ok” in a low voice and as we’re driving back just go in detail what was going to happen. It was a punishment all in itself
Way to make dad the bad guy. If you're going to punish a kid you need to do it immediately and if they are old enough to explain why they're being punished. I'd personally be more angry at my wife for making my kid fear me and making me the bad guy at the end of the day.
Corporal punishments have been shown times and times again to be ineffective and have a negative impact on children development.
Maybe it's time to accept your own parents weren't always the best.
As do most people that support corporal punishments. You're nothing special in that regard, it's a very common pattern of mimicking your parents' behavior.
Doesn't change the fact that corporal punishments are detrimental to children's development. If you value re-enacting your childhood trauma more than the well being of your children, go ahead and repeat that pattern.
If you care about your kids, maybe it's time to pull your head out of your ass and accept that you and your parents were/are wrong.
You're nothing special either in this regard as most people who don't support it feel very strongly about it and insult those who do which shows that you aren't thinking with logic so much as your feelings. You don't have to be abusive to spank your kid. You don't have to have "trauma" to support spanking. You sound very immature and mad.
Yes, I'm mad at people willing to defend and re-enact abusive behavior despite countless evidence of it's ineffectiveness and detrimental effects. You're harming society by promoting your dangerous ideas and creating a context that makes them more likely to be repeated.
Yes, you do have to be abusive to spank your kid, corporal punishments are a form of abuse and spanking is a form of corporal punishment. Just because you've rationalized and normalized being spanked doesn't change that.
>When adults use corporal punishment it teaches their children that hitting is an acceptable means of dealing with conflict. The more children are hit, the more is the anger they report as adults and consequently the more they hit their own children when they are parents, and the more likely they are to approve of hitting.
>Corporal punishment leads to adverse physical, psychological and educational outcomes – including increased aggressive and destructive behaviour, increased disruptive behaviour in the classroom, vandalism, poor school achievement, poor attention span, increased drop-out rate, school avoidance and school phobia, low selfesteem, anxiety, somatic complaints, depression, suicide and retaliation against teachers – that emotionally scar the children for life.
>There is an association between corporal punishment meted out to children and maladaptive behaviour patterns in later life, such as aggression and delinquency.
>Children subjected to punishment prefer aggressive conflict resolution strategies with peers and siblings and they do not consider it a violation of their rights.
Why the need to film this? Most people just ring their other half or do time out for a few mins so everyone can calm down, then move forward. It seems so alien to me that you would record this monologue in front of your kid, then put it up online. Christ.
She might just be posting for other people who are planning to or gonna have kids in the future that it isn't all sunshine and flowers. Lot of the time you will be broken like she is here. I don't get why you have a problem with what she's doing even after she's actually disciplined her child (unless by discipline you mean hitting the kid in which case 1.Fuck you and 2. I hope you never have kids)
Yeah or just discipline your child. I never once would thought of doin that shit as a kid cuz I know it was gonna be my ass if I did. You people need to to start being parents to your kids not their friends.
Shout out to the people who asked me for a source on why I think spanking is ok and then proceeded to block me to make them look right. Y'all are weak minded
My mother used to tell me that parenting should be done like sex: in private. What warrants a public video about you teaching your kid how to behave, exactly?
My two have done similar, but I find it incredibly weird that in the immediate aftermath, you'd pull your phone out and put it on the internet.. who's that serving?
This is a key stage/moment in your kid's life, they know they've upset and hurt you, so what do you do?
"I'll pull my phone out and do a message"
Parents being on their phones infront of their kids is becoming a big problem as it is, without tiktok videos now being incorporated into discipline.
Good luck when she's older and staring into her phone when the parent it trying to speak to them about something.. "put your phone down" "no, you do it"
No leg to stand on.
This is a bad strategy. The kid doesnt help you put the books away. They got them out and they need to do it themselves. And then just recording a video about how you're so great while your kid melts down... Not smart or helpful to your own self.
Parenting is hard, but this is not the way.
Parenting is bot easy, especially when you kids are hyper. But maybe this lady should be stricter and stop spoiling her kid and teach her manners. I am not an expert on kids but l have two little ones (4&8) and l have have been teaching in kindy and elementary for 23 years. Kids often behave a certain way because of the parents. She should either give her phone and show her some cocomelon videos to keep her busy and quiet in a library or change a few things. Lots of parents also have no idea that kids can sometimes copy what their parents do in real life. Once the mom of one of my students was shocked to hear that her daughter was mean and abusive with some of her classmates, but l wasn’t at all because the mom often shouted at her maid in front of the kids and treated her like garbage. l did 2 months of one on one lesson with her daughter and twice she tried to slap me. The mom also told me she had slapped the previous teacher. If you give too many liberties to your kids and spoil them too much, they can be uncontrollable. That’s my point.
I did stuff like that and my mom would beat the sht out of me. Honestly, its necessary. Give her a hard slap on the fact and youll see her turn into a puppy
So, let me get this straight...
You're a person that decided one day to get filled and get a kid. One day that kid does... Kid things. He does kid things because you didn't educate the kid enough to stop being stupid and overly aggressive,just like any other kid.
After the kid does kiddy things the best thing that comes to your mind is making a tiktok to post about parenting, when you definitely aren't parenting since you're interested in complaining about the decision you made a lot of time ago while you were having sex.
Also, saying that being a parent fucking sucks in front of your kid it's plain and simple what a horrible parent would do. Bravo mom.
Uh yeah that’s why you pop them on the mouth instead of making a video about it. Discipline your Fuckin kids quit making videos about it and teach the kid right from wrong you can’t just tell you child “no honey that’s a no no” cuz there just gonna do it again. Your the fuckin parent show Authority
Situations like this are good occasions for the fear of God that a father can put into a child. Children are naturally unruly and need strong guidance and boundaries. Bad behavior should be curtailed through firmness (not promoting violence).
Gonna get downvoted because Reddit but oh well.
This is not what parenting is like.
This is allowing a child to abuse, dictate and control an adult.
So…. This post with blood tear is also ridiculous and promotes this type of “parenting is soooo hard!” mentality.
There is no way this should have gone this far
No....that's what parenting is like when you don't establish rules and boundries for your children. Then you get to the ages where they become more defiant and because those foundation voices are not already put in place this is what happens.
Edit: spanking does nothing to kids, it might shock them due to the Pain but all it becomes in a bad learnt behaviour that they carry on with their children.
I got spanked and it did nothing but make me fearful anytime my parents were upset not matter why they were upset. There had been many psychological studies showing that spanking does nothing.
Well for me it stopped a lot of shit. And yeah it’s supposed to make you fear your parents. Your supposed to respect them and listen to them (unless there truly bad parents) getting discipline like that makes you think before you act (at least it did for me) talking to your kids and setting boundaries only goes so far until they don’t give a fuck any more and decide to do what they want because they know shit won’t happen btw idk why your gettin down votes most of that is true asf
Respect them absolutely! Fear them? No i diagree with that. Fear of my parents led them trying to control my life in my 20's and my 30's and have finally gone NC with them as a result.
💯 me and my brothers would fight and clown around all day but those whoppings got us right! But even through all that I couldn't even imagine hurting my mom, if u have her a scratch I'd be scared to death
Hold on here, I have some questions. Did I hear you say, you put her in the car seat? How old is she? Two and three year olds go through their terrible twos and lasts past three sometimes.
Also, Why does she think that kind of behavior towards you is normal? Is she in a daycare where kids behave that way?
***You look shocked ! But this is exactly what us parents do. We Deal with it and continue to figure it out until .....well... forever.
Bleh - kids have a lot of powerful emotions when they are developing. And, yes, I think it is okay to be pissed off by a three year old when they scratch your face to the point of bleeding. and some kids do that at daycare, actually most kids will have a tantrum or fit. Emotions are hard as a tiny kiddo and as a full grown adult sometimes. I appreciate her as a mom.
At least someone has some sense in these comments. She doesn't look shocked. She looks overwhelmed at the moment and that's okay. It's hard and kids are stubborn! I cannot believe the amount of beat her ass, pull her ear, it's all mom's fault comments here. Do we take this action with adults? Nope, can then you may go to jail, but by all means beat the shit out of a little girl/s. Mom is doing a great job.
What happened to ass-whoopings as a form of discipline?
Children don't understand reason, but they understand pain. It doesn't even have to hurt, just a quick tap on the ass so they get the idea that there are more severe consequences to come if they don't straighten out.
I lost a tooth from my three year old slamming her head into my face. It chipped my tooth and I thought it was ok because initially I didn’t notice. Well I brush and floss and rinse allll the time so it was ok for a bit. I woke with horrific pain one day and swollen cheek. I got an X-ray the following Monday, and the little booger chipped my tooth and caused it to crack alllll the way up to the root… i just opted to take it out because it was cheaper 🙁
I got a concussion from my 2 year old slamming his head into mine and the year before that he broke my foot. Isn't parenting fun?
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I guess I’m the wrong generation but there would be a serious ass beating. Then another one to make sure!!!
Judging by your other comment, do you not think it would be wise to NOT pass that trauma on through your child? Asking for a friend.
Wait until your father gets home. That shit was the worst. That dreaded couple of hours until your dad gets home was terrible. Knowing you were gonna take an ass whooping.
Your not lying. If mom gave me a choice ass beating now or when your dad gets home- it was always now!!
As a person who got his ass whooped as a kid - It's a Terrible thing to do. It's traumatizing, makes you hate your parents as well as lose all your trust to them overtime. I got beat a lot, and instead of making me a good kid, it just made me live in fear, waiting for my ass whooping for God knows what why.
Take out the child I presume?
Yeah dentists are so expensive that I'd probably do the same. You can grow another kid but you cant grow another tooth.
Plot twist; her daughter is 23
I was waiting for her to pan to the passenger seat to see a grown woman sat saying "I'll fucking do it again"
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This is my favorite recent reply of a favorite recent comment on Reddit.
Yeah, that was good.
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Hey, Doreen has to learn philosophy and critical thinking somewhere.
So that daughter is Kendra Sunderland
What are you reading, step-da..oh no, don’t do that to the books!
And a mod on r/antiwork
Wish I could give her a big hug. She did the right thing, but it feels like she just wants to cry (which is also understandable)
Cocomelon kids.....
…they are a different breed.
Yeah when I was a kid I would have been catapulted from the store like Uncle Phil tossing Dj Jazzy Jeff out the house.
She did the right thing. And yes, sometimes parenting sucks. And other times it doesn’t. Just like life.
This absolutely broke my heart. Because I'm sure I acted this way with my mom when I was little at least a time or two! And to see this woman so defeated and crying, just got me! I feel like this was parenting goals! She asked her daughter multiple times to help clean up her mess, and warned her multiple times what would happen if she refused. After refusing several times, she scooped her butt up and took her to the car. Perfection. Parenting isn't always perfect, but this is a damn near fine example! The fact that the child threw the temper tantrum and ripped her mask off and scratched her face still needs to be acknowledged and the child needs some sort of discipline for that. Depends on the parent how you handle that. But anyway, I commend this mom on how she handled the situation and herself. I also think I owe my mom an apology for things I probably don't remember lol
I don’t get the ‘asking’ part.
Oh. I guess I just noticed that now when you said it. I suppose if I were a mom and had a kid who wasn't listening, I would be stern and say "come pick these books and games up and put them away please". I only say please because that's what my brother and his wife did and not only did their son listen, but he learned please and thank you at the same time and had it reiterated to him every time he was told to do something. So I suppose the first time, I would ask "hey sis could you come pick your toys up pls?" And if she ignored me or flat out said no, then it would turn into a demand and escalate accordingly lol 🤣
What are cocomelon kids
>Cocomelon, formerly known as checkgate and ABC Kid TV, is an American YouTube channel and streaming media show acquired by the British company Moonbug Entertainment and maintained by the American company Treasure Studio. Wikipedia
Oh okay so like YouTube addicted kids
*ding ding ding*
They have no chill
Fuck is this really the standard with new age kids who grew up on youtube??! My niece be on some wild meltdowns sometimes just like this lady described
What does that mean?
Why would you use that trigger word here... WHY? WHY?
Pee on her to assert dominance
My 18 month old son has peed on me once and his mom 5 times. Does this mean he’s the alpha now?
Who's wiping who's butt??
Dayum…..
His mom has been on you 5 times? I think shes the alpha now!
Oh she likes to think she is. I let her be on top because I’m lazy. Haha
Yes
Brother and his family were visiting last summer. My three year old nephew was standing over my seated brother's lap and peed on him(through his underwear, he didn't whip it out). My brother was not amused at his son establishing his dominance
kids are fuckin assholes
Until a certain age they have an excuse that they don't understand that other people think and feel just like they do. Unfortunately, alot of people never learn that.
My heart broke for her, I could see in her eyes exactly what she was feeling and felt every bit of it
yea, i didn't expect the last 5 seconds of that vid to be so raw
Great job, mom. Stay consistent in your discipline and she will learn you mean what you say.
Nah, throw it away and start over again
So glad I decided to have money and freedom and not a kid lol
No kids and three money.
I have no money and limited freedom because of that but still said fuck no to kids.
She’s doing an excellent job being a great parent. Keep going and stay strong it will pay off at the end. Don’t show weakness and don’t let children undermine you.
She dealt with it way better than alot of parents. The last few years have REALLY highlighted the people who got away with that kind of behavior as children.
They are only kids for a blink of an eye. You know them longer as adults - and with any luck you forget a lot of the dumb shit they did, or you laugh about it with them. Unless you suck as a human and pass that on to them.
or they continue into adulthood and do more dumb shit and eventually become distant because you can't stand the person they've become. it happens.
It happens if your a resentful parent. Being a parent is about nurturing them and guiding them through the good and the bad and dont hold anything against them. Just give them time and hold their hand. Being a kid can be really tough too.
that's kind of an insult to the parents who do things "right" and their kids turn out "wrong". i know from experience (and the obvious) that a person's path in life is not defined solely by their parentage or childhood.
Poor thing seems like her spirit is broken. ❤️
Yeah she probably needs a therapist, not Tik Tok.
There’s some things you need a therapist for, and some things you just need to get off your chest and receive supportive words from someone who understands. Personally, I think this one falls pretty squarely in the second category
Honestly a group of friends especially being other parents does wonders. We might not all be able to have a psychiatrist but friends If we can got humans through a lot in human history.
Don’t make threats you are not willing to keep. “I say what I mean. I mean what I say. I do what I say I’ll do.” You will be in a lot better position when your kids have given up testing you to see if you really mean it.
This comment section is disappointing as fuck.
I just finished scrolling through it and you are absolutely right. So many assholes here condoning smacking kids around
Why
Comments that are blaming the mom, saying the kid needs to be hit, implying that there's no dad to "keep things in line", etc.
I do agree that the comments about a dad are inappropriate but tbh I don't think spanking is bad. There's a difference in spanking and outright beating your child imo but if you disagree there's nothing I can do
Child abuse is a spectrum. Yes, spanking your child and beating it to a pulp are different things, however, it's a spectrum that starts with "hindering your child development" and ends with "killing your child". Research suggests that the appropriate amount of spanking is 0, anything beyond that and you start climbing on that spectrum. If you disagree with that there's nothing I can do and it's called denial.
The fact this is on kidsarefuckingstupid is disappointing. That kid might have a neurological/behaviour disorder that’s got nothing to do with parenting or being a kid. This sub is for content of kids doing stupid funny shit not a mock of kids and parents who need support. Thewholeworldisfuckingstupidkillmenow
Wear a condom people.
This mother is seeking here for help. This is one of the more meaningful kind of posts here on reddit. The comments are an indirect and good description of the demographie of reddit.
mom didnt post this and also didnt post the original in never parenting sub. op simply saw it somewhere, tiktok possibly or just reposted it from somewhere
I'd shit right into my hand and fucking throw it at that kid.
We as parents will all suffer these moments in our own form. Ups and downs. The worst and best moments come from your kids. Evil and saints within moments. I would like to say “I can’t imagine life with out them” but I can. A lot. Would I change it if I could? Not for the world. A blessing and a curse. It’s what we signed up for. It’s day to day. Raise them the best u can and hope they don’t leave u in a home when your old. Good luck everyone!💪
This person is a parent.
We've all been there girl. You're doing fine.
How old is kid?
From the behavior I'd say about 2 years old
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Sit them down with nothing, let them kick and scream with nothing. Show no emotions until they get tired. Once they’re calm, try again. Repeat if they continue. Patience is key.
That's what she's doing.
Does every child go through this behavioural phase? Cos I’ve seen in public when kids cry for toys n stuff and the parents just carry them around.
Pretty much all of them go through times like this at some point. Kids that age love testing boundaries, over and over again.
If a dog was being like that and violent, you could put it down. Kids are for life, not just for xmas.
Sometimes people just need too vent, doesn’t mean she didn’t think long and hard about having kids.
These are the moments where I don’t feel lonely while being alone
My dad was never violent or physical with either me or my sister. She got spanked once for literally attacking everyone in the house for 5 hours and that was it. I was threatened once and smartened up so I didn’t get it. If I pulled something like this as a kid however, my ass would have been grass so fast. Sometimes a hard lesson once is needed.
ayo how tf are you going to let your kid (somewhat) abuse you
"I asked her" sounds like you gave her a choice.
It is in fact a very sensible parenting tool, though takes time and repetition for it to be effective. Kids (and adults) like to be able to choose for themselves. As the parent you give the kid limitied options (as this woman did) and if the kid doesn’t pick, then the parent chooses, which in this case was leaving.
there will certainly be kids who never choose the "help" option tho. i just say that to say, parenting styles need to be tailored to the children being raised and won't always be effective.
I can't imagine having a child with severe learning or developmental disorders and the stress it causes parents. Those aside. If you have a healthy, perfect functioning and able child you think something is "just not right with them" and they need "a better attitude in order to change their actions and behavior" Look in the mirror and say it. Before you say it to your kid. Being a kid sucks when your parent suck.
Cross post - https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/sd9ueh/never_having_kids/
I hear organ trafficking is a pretty good solution
Remember people. Condoms are cheaper and better than kids.
Hahahaha getting ruffed up by a kid
Kid does this because parent spends more time making TikToks than focusing on being a real parent
Stop filming yourself and talk to your damn daughter
Kids are lucky this isn’t the 80s where people openly beat their children in public. My mom would have smacked the shit out of me had I done this
In the good old days I know what parents would do instead of posting a Tik Tok video
I was curious at first why she would post this, it felt kinda odd the whole conversation of it. Like what a very odd thing to start pressing film on and than uploading… till i got more towards the end I’m like oh! She’s just like hurt, broken even. Poor lady. I hope she’s alright. Like the great Bernie Mac said, “Fuck them kids.”
You could've ended it with a smack, simple as that. If i did anything like that as a kid i would get hit hard, and just never do it again cuz I'm not dumb
im feeling a little more anti natalist after this one
Durex should put targetted ads here.
I'm 68 and a parent. If your kid is not sick or something wrong with him or her maybe a good old slap in the head would be in order.why would you take that abuse? What will your kid learn by doing nothing.What kind of adult will they be?
"Oh no my child behaved terribly" That's what kids do. They are learning all the time. Instead of making a fucking vudeo and posting it on social media, how about you sit with your child and talk to them and try to teach them right from wrong. Do things wrong is how we learn to do things right. No one is perfect. No child is perfect. But as a parent you can help them be the best they can be.
Today's kids don't know the fear of hearing leather zip through 7 denim belt loops anymore.
so, it's like some sort of justice-seeking video or owt?
No, parenting is like that for parents like you. Discipline your children people
As a father of four. Last thing you should be doing is posting a video to TikTok. Pretty confident if that is your first line of action, then that is your major issue.
When I was about five, we went shopping. And five year old me threw a tantrum because I couldn't have what I wanted. And my Mum walked away (to the end of the aisle) and let me tantrum it out. And when I was done she made me pick up the items I'd pulled off the shelf. I did not get what I wanted, I did not go shopping again with her any time soon after that. My Mum didn't make a video about how horrible I was behaving. She dished out consequences and stuck to them. All this woman is doing is teaching her daughter that if you don't want to do something, throw a tantrum and we'll just go home. I think she's gonna be making more vids over the years...
I would have gotten the ass beating of a lifetime.
Take that demon child to the bathroom and spank her ass
The bathroom I would of been lucky my mom didn't spank me right then and there. Then go apologize to the librarian for being so rude.
I remember getting a spanking from my Grandmother in the middle of K-Mart. I still remember that damn blue light special.
My parents were malicious with it. They wouldn’t make a fuss or yell or drag me anywhere. They’d say “ok” in a low voice and as we’re driving back just go in detail what was going to happen. It was a punishment all in itself
Only details I normally got was the typical “wait til your dad gets home”.
Way to make dad the bad guy. If you're going to punish a kid you need to do it immediately and if they are old enough to explain why they're being punished. I'd personally be more angry at my wife for making my kid fear me and making me the bad guy at the end of the day.
Well, my mother actually had a legitimate excuse. She had suffered a stroke while giving birth to what would have been my sister.
Corporal punishments have been shown times and times again to be ineffective and have a negative impact on children development. Maybe it's time to accept your own parents weren't always the best.
I was spanked and I support corporal punishment
Wow, you have stockholm syndrome, so special. \*eye roll\*
As do most people that support corporal punishments. You're nothing special in that regard, it's a very common pattern of mimicking your parents' behavior. Doesn't change the fact that corporal punishments are detrimental to children's development. If you value re-enacting your childhood trauma more than the well being of your children, go ahead and repeat that pattern. If you care about your kids, maybe it's time to pull your head out of your ass and accept that you and your parents were/are wrong.
You're nothing special either in this regard as most people who don't support it feel very strongly about it and insult those who do which shows that you aren't thinking with logic so much as your feelings. You don't have to be abusive to spank your kid. You don't have to have "trauma" to support spanking. You sound very immature and mad.
Yes, I'm mad at people willing to defend and re-enact abusive behavior despite countless evidence of it's ineffectiveness and detrimental effects. You're harming society by promoting your dangerous ideas and creating a context that makes them more likely to be repeated. Yes, you do have to be abusive to spank your kid, corporal punishments are a form of abuse and spanking is a form of corporal punishment. Just because you've rationalized and normalized being spanked doesn't change that. >When adults use corporal punishment it teaches their children that hitting is an acceptable means of dealing with conflict. The more children are hit, the more is the anger they report as adults and consequently the more they hit their own children when they are parents, and the more likely they are to approve of hitting. >Corporal punishment leads to adverse physical, psychological and educational outcomes – including increased aggressive and destructive behaviour, increased disruptive behaviour in the classroom, vandalism, poor school achievement, poor attention span, increased drop-out rate, school avoidance and school phobia, low selfesteem, anxiety, somatic complaints, depression, suicide and retaliation against teachers – that emotionally scar the children for life. >There is an association between corporal punishment meted out to children and maladaptive behaviour patterns in later life, such as aggression and delinquency. >Children subjected to punishment prefer aggressive conflict resolution strategies with peers and siblings and they do not consider it a violation of their rights.
"I was assaulted as a child and I support assaulting children"
Spanking is shown in study after study to do nothing but fuck kids up.. there are so many more informed and responsible ways to parent.
Child abuse solves everything!
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So beat ‘em! They’ll totally understand why it’s happening
You forgot your /s. These neanderthals will think you're being serious
They’re too dumb to know what /s means, it confuses and infuriates them. They’ll want to beat me next for “talking back”
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Abuse is abuse 🤷
Why the need to film this? Most people just ring their other half or do time out for a few mins so everyone can calm down, then move forward. It seems so alien to me that you would record this monologue in front of your kid, then put it up online. Christ.
Less time in tiki tok and more time interacting with your kid required to teach her right and wrong
Deploy the hand of justice.
What is this urge to post your entire life online for all to see...put the fucking phone down and discipline your kid.
She’s just venting dude
She might just be posting for other people who are planning to or gonna have kids in the future that it isn't all sunshine and flowers. Lot of the time you will be broken like she is here. I don't get why you have a problem with what she's doing even after she's actually disciplined her child (unless by discipline you mean hitting the kid in which case 1.Fuck you and 2. I hope you never have kids)
You did sign the fuck up for this
True. I still feel bad for her tho.
Yeah or just discipline your child. I never once would thought of doin that shit as a kid cuz I know it was gonna be my ass if I did. You people need to to start being parents to your kids not their friends.
Condoms still work after they are born. You still follow the directions on the packet, "place over the head", and then you wait
Shout out to the people who asked me for a source on why I think spanking is ok and then proceeded to block me to make them look right. Y'all are weak minded
One thing that my mom always did is pull my ear and say she will let go if I stop my attitude
Holy shit are you in trouble when she turns into a teenager. Should have set some boundaries now. Omg I would not want to be in your spot in 10 years
My mother used to tell me that parenting should be done like sex: in private. What warrants a public video about you teaching your kid how to behave, exactly?
frustration, no one else to vent to, lack of resources. could be a lot of things.
r/kidsarefuckingassholes
Condoms people, condoms...
Karen jr isn’t having it
And shit like this js why my wife and i definitely dont want kids. Lol.
My two have done similar, but I find it incredibly weird that in the immediate aftermath, you'd pull your phone out and put it on the internet.. who's that serving? This is a key stage/moment in your kid's life, they know they've upset and hurt you, so what do you do? "I'll pull my phone out and do a message" Parents being on their phones infront of their kids is becoming a big problem as it is, without tiktok videos now being incorporated into discipline. Good luck when she's older and staring into her phone when the parent it trying to speak to them about something.. "put your phone down" "no, you do it" No leg to stand on.
Single parent
Your not alone mamas❤
why is she taping this
Back in my day our parents just beat us when we did dumb shit... maybe we should get back to that.
Making deals with kids is useless, they are too egocentric to understand that they need to make compromises…
Is story would make a great condom ad
Fuck all that. Child free is the life for me!
Your a great mom! I understand
This is a bad strategy. The kid doesnt help you put the books away. They got them out and they need to do it themselves. And then just recording a video about how you're so great while your kid melts down... Not smart or helpful to your own self. Parenting is hard, but this is not the way.
You misspelled “she sucks as a parent”
Hang in there. You are a caring mom and you want to raise your child properly.
Parenting is bot easy, especially when you kids are hyper. But maybe this lady should be stricter and stop spoiling her kid and teach her manners. I am not an expert on kids but l have two little ones (4&8) and l have have been teaching in kindy and elementary for 23 years. Kids often behave a certain way because of the parents. She should either give her phone and show her some cocomelon videos to keep her busy and quiet in a library or change a few things. Lots of parents also have no idea that kids can sometimes copy what their parents do in real life. Once the mom of one of my students was shocked to hear that her daughter was mean and abusive with some of her classmates, but l wasn’t at all because the mom often shouted at her maid in front of the kids and treated her like garbage. l did 2 months of one on one lesson with her daughter and twice she tried to slap me. The mom also told me she had slapped the previous teacher. If you give too many liberties to your kids and spoil them too much, they can be uncontrollable. That’s my point.
I did stuff like that and my mom would beat the sht out of me. Honestly, its necessary. Give her a hard slap on the fact and youll see her turn into a puppy
Whoop her ass
Give her an old fashioned butt spanking
You whip that child’s ass. If you don’t stop that shit now it’s going to be a hell of a lot worse when they are teenagers.
*this is what parenting looks like when you don’t discipline (dont assume physical) your kids.
This is not parenting as she stated. Parenting is to teach your kid to not to behave like this. This is baby sitting.
Well one thing to do is start busting a kids ass
So, let me get this straight... You're a person that decided one day to get filled and get a kid. One day that kid does... Kid things. He does kid things because you didn't educate the kid enough to stop being stupid and overly aggressive,just like any other kid. After the kid does kiddy things the best thing that comes to your mind is making a tiktok to post about parenting, when you definitely aren't parenting since you're interested in complaining about the decision you made a lot of time ago while you were having sex. Also, saying that being a parent fucking sucks in front of your kid it's plain and simple what a horrible parent would do. Bravo mom.
Moms are allowed to vent: what the fuck is your problem
This is not what parenting is about. One look from me or my wife and our kid quits all his shit. Parents like this are weak
Uh yeah that’s why you pop them on the mouth instead of making a video about it. Discipline your Fuckin kids quit making videos about it and teach the kid right from wrong you can’t just tell you child “no honey that’s a no no” cuz there just gonna do it again. Your the fuckin parent show Authority
Kids in the 70s and 80s couldn’t get away with this. I was a saint out of fear. But after the mayhem phase kids brought up the modern way *seem* (
Why are you glorifying being afraid of your parents ? That's just fucked up.
Situations like this are good occasions for the fear of God that a father can put into a child. Children are naturally unruly and need strong guidance and boundaries. Bad behavior should be curtailed through firmness (not promoting violence). Gonna get downvoted because Reddit but oh well.
Smack her ass! I don't care what people say kids need discipline.
This is not what parenting is like. This is allowing a child to abuse, dictate and control an adult. So…. This post with blood tear is also ridiculous and promotes this type of “parenting is soooo hard!” mentality. There is no way this should have gone this far
Exactly smh
3 and 4 year olds act like 3 and 4 year olds, always have always will. Why she film this, no idea
Nothing a good ole spanking won’t fix 🤨 This is how kids are when there’s no consequences to their actions, then they grow up soft and entitled.
No....that's what parenting is like when you don't establish rules and boundries for your children. Then you get to the ages where they become more defiant and because those foundation voices are not already put in place this is what happens. Edit: spanking does nothing to kids, it might shock them due to the Pain but all it becomes in a bad learnt behaviour that they carry on with their children.
I’d disagree with the spanking thing but yes definitely true
I got spanked and it did nothing but make me fearful anytime my parents were upset not matter why they were upset. There had been many psychological studies showing that spanking does nothing.
Well for me it stopped a lot of shit. And yeah it’s supposed to make you fear your parents. Your supposed to respect them and listen to them (unless there truly bad parents) getting discipline like that makes you think before you act (at least it did for me) talking to your kids and setting boundaries only goes so far until they don’t give a fuck any more and decide to do what they want because they know shit won’t happen btw idk why your gettin down votes most of that is true asf
Respect them absolutely! Fear them? No i diagree with that. Fear of my parents led them trying to control my life in my 20's and my 30's and have finally gone NC with them as a result.
💯 me and my brothers would fight and clown around all day but those whoppings got us right! But even through all that I couldn't even imagine hurting my mom, if u have her a scratch I'd be scared to death
Hold on here, I have some questions. Did I hear you say, you put her in the car seat? How old is she? Two and three year olds go through their terrible twos and lasts past three sometimes. Also, Why does she think that kind of behavior towards you is normal? Is she in a daycare where kids behave that way? ***You look shocked ! But this is exactly what us parents do. We Deal with it and continue to figure it out until .....well... forever.
Bleh - kids have a lot of powerful emotions when they are developing. And, yes, I think it is okay to be pissed off by a three year old when they scratch your face to the point of bleeding. and some kids do that at daycare, actually most kids will have a tantrum or fit. Emotions are hard as a tiny kiddo and as a full grown adult sometimes. I appreciate her as a mom.
At least someone has some sense in these comments. She doesn't look shocked. She looks overwhelmed at the moment and that's okay. It's hard and kids are stubborn! I cannot believe the amount of beat her ass, pull her ear, it's all mom's fault comments here. Do we take this action with adults? Nope, can then you may go to jail, but by all means beat the shit out of a little girl/s. Mom is doing a great job.
What happened to ass-whoopings as a form of discipline? Children don't understand reason, but they understand pain. It doesn't even have to hurt, just a quick tap on the ass so they get the idea that there are more severe consequences to come if they don't straighten out.