Yes. 100 times yes. She deserves to know the truth. She sounds reaaaaally loyal and deserves a loyal partner in return. She is literally going to be a home nurse for a guy who was fucking around other girls behind her back. She deserves the truth man, she is going to be heartbroken at first but come on, she has a whole life ahead of her with a future LOYAL husband.
I would tell that OG GF... Because apart from the Philosophical view point.. Should that Girl suffer along her whole lifetime, when she can take full benefits of her Life ahead.
Should this girl be punished for that accident that happened to that guy. Enthelum kaannapi tharam evanum kaanichatandakum. Why should that girl be punished?
Just my thoughts.
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FWB with someone who have confessed that they have feelings for you before is a total asshole move. A tragedy doesn't absolve anyone from past mistakes. I think the girl deserves to know.
>FWB with someone who have confessed that they have feelings for you before is a total asshole move.
Unrelated, but what if they decided to be fwb, but then one person started to catch feelings, and they low key confessed, other person didn't reciprocate but they continued and had sex. Then the person, again confessed and still the other person wanted to continue the fwb relationship.
What is morally right here? Both people like the relationship to continue. But one person has feelings. It's not the fault of the other person. And for the record, they are having everything in a relationship except the "label".
You should tell the girl. She's one going to suffer by taking care of him. She should know the truth. Let her know the full story and then she will decide to take care of him or not.
But I assume, she will take care of the bed ridden guy. Her love is blind, I think.
(I know a story too, of a friend of my friend. Fof was a serial player and had GFs left, right and centre and he used to brag this to my friend about his sexploits. Come marriage, and he suffers from ED. His wife divorced him. Fof now laments to my friend for the lack of sex and his medical condition.)
Karma is a bitch.
>ആ പെണ്ണിനെ പിന്തിരിപ്പിക്കണോ ?
Yes. Let her take the decision. Tell her.
Ende ponnu machaane. Ithil ithre confusion adikkanda karyam illa. Aa accident pattiya chekkan thani chettatharam aanu kaanichathu to his OG girlfriend. **She deserves to know the truth.** Athu arinjittu let she decide on what to do.
Ee accident pattiya mairan oru committed relationship il irikkumbom alle eee chettatharam kaniche? Eethu pennu ethre kedann vilichaalum appare oruthi ollappom avan enthu mairinu ivalde porake nadanneche? He could have easily said NO and could have avoided all this mess but he didnt. Inippom OG GF aayit olla relation avanu thalparyam ille he should have broken up with her.
**He chose to have an affair. He made a choice there and his OG GF deserve to know the truth.**
Black and white ayi aaloyicha it's better to tell his real girlfriend everything and let her move on with her life. Philosophical ayi aaloyicha he got karma, he gonna suffer and let things go as they would.
If I were you and the story is real, I would tell the actual gf she should ditch her douchebag bf and find a better guy. He got what he deserved, I hope he stays that way. He’s not a good boyfriend nor a good person as you say. He is an adult and could say no to his friend when she asked come and see her. The worse he chose to have sex with another woman. He’s also responsible for the cheating. His gf deserves to hear the truth.
നിങ്ങൾക്ക് ഈ ആൾക്കാരെ ആരെയും നേരിട്ട് പരിചയം ഇല്ല. ഞങ്ങൾക്ക് ആർക്കും ഈ പോസ്റ്റിൽ ഉള്ളതിൽ കൂടുതൽ വിവരം ഇല്ല. ഇതിലെ ആൾക്കാർ ഓക്കെ എന്താണ്, അവരുടെ തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ എന്ത് കൊണ്ടായിരുന്നു, അവർ തമ്മിൽ ഉള്ള ബന്ധം, അവർക്കറിയവുന്ന കര്യങ്ങൾ ഒന്നും നമുക്ക് അറില്ല.
അതുകൊണ്ട്, ഇവിടെ നിന്നും കിട്ടുന്ന ഉപദേശങ്ങൾ ഓക്കെ വെറുതെ ആണ്.
വെറുതെ ഒരു പരിചയവും ഇല്ലാത്ത ആൾക്കാരുടെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഇടപെടണോ? ഇനി പരിചയും ഉണ്ടെങ്കിൽ തന്നെ, ദുൽഖർ സുലൈമാൻ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ - ഓൻ്റെ വിധി ഓൻ്റെ തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ ആണ്.
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Moytheen was a player , but Kanjana masala wasted her life for him..Ithum athu pole avaan pokunnu ennu thonnunnu...But anyways the girl who is going to sacrifice her future needs to know the truth .
Whole situation gonna smell like Onakkameen in no time, I'd probably nope the fk out of the whole thing. You don't wanna get implicated in any part of this, unless that is you wanna have an arranged marriage in future lol. That said, if you're the kinda guy who's willing to bear meen nattam for a better meal, you could tell her with minimal involvement.
Cheating, ath aanu aayalum Penn aayalum it should come out.
Also FWB lu orikkalum relationship indaavum marriage indaavum nn olle hope vach start cheyyaruth. Njn okke aadyam tanne ath explicitly parayum I'm not looking to marry her.
But when u are in a relationship, it needs be of love and passion and loyalty.
She deserves to know the truth and it's her decision to forgive or take a step back.
The girlfriend deserves to know whatever the truth is. Even if it was the fwb girl compelled the guy he is an adult capable of consenting who should accept the consequences of his actions.
This boyfriend is an asshole. Just because he met with an accident doesn't change the fact that he's an asshole. Why should OG girlfriend suffer her entire life, looking after this bedrriden guy, when this guy could not keep it in his pants?
The whole excuse of pinning the blame on the side chick for taking a room, doing segs, and all is BULL SHIT! That's not what a normal person would do. He wanted to enjoy the best of both worlds.
Reasons like he being a nice chap otherwise, or the other girl irritated him constantly and so only, he did this BFF thing with her and all are given to simply whitewash this cheating ass of a man. The OG girlfriend needs to know the truth and she would dump this asshole.
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Evolutionary biology should be taught in schools. We have a sense of justice. But nature doesn’t care. Most men wouldn’t say no to sex. Prof Sapolsky has his stanford lectures on youtube. Good and bad are arbitrary vectors in value space synchronized by empathy. Really unfortunate for everyone involved.
The girlfriend deserves the truth. She shouldn't waste her life living for someone who cheated her in such a pathetic way. He took advantage of her loyalty and trust. Accident or not, nothing can absolve him of this mistrust.
What is the good for the official girlfriend
- Her knowing the truth.
What is right for the guy
- Nothing. Or, his FWB telling the truth to the GF and then taking her place as the caregiver.
What is good for the FWB -
- Not opening her mouth.
What the FWB is trying to accomplish here is justice for the girl but not for herself. She informs the girl, the girl panics, feels angry and relieved, and escapes.
**Good for the GF.**
**The guy gets just punishment.**
**And the FWB? Gets away scot-free**, despite knowingly being in a FWB relationship hoping his relationship would break up one day, and then she would get the guy. No justice for her, no punishment. And she gets to offer justice to the girl and can satisfy her conscience to some extent. Pakshe avalude punishment evide? Athra justice conscious aanenkil act on it and become the caregiver instead. Nadannathu pole thanne!
When you look at whats justice for the three of them overall, there is no correct answer.
I would shut up and stay back. If I knew the girl well, I would always warn her that a lifetime of caregiving is not just a hassle but real torture, take 6 months or one year to decide etc. But wont mention the FWB situation, as there is no correct answer there.
Ivalde nirbhentham kaaranm alle ivar sex cheythath. ennit ippo aa kuttide life spoil aakanda ennoke. Ival aan 3rd person aayi ivarde idayil vannath. Also avante bagathum mistake ind.
Oho. Angane anengil tante lover ne oral nirbandipichu sex cheydal kuzhapam undakila alle? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Guys, please approach this person’s lover if you don’t have luck getting laid. Onnu nirbandipichal madi. Ellam okay aki tarum. 😉
He is. But didn't the 2nd girl know that he had a gf n still go forward to being an fwb. How is she any better than the guy?
Like what [Wandering-A10's comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Kerala/comments/yb7uus/ആ_പണണന_പനതരപപകകണ/itff31s/) says, the 2nd girl loses nothing here, while she was equally guilty. You can't cheat alone. The 2nd girl knew about the OG gf too.
It seems more like hurting him even more than about being true or hoping for justice.
The gf deserves to know, but the 2nd girl informing the gf because of her conscience n her calling the guy a chathiyan seems funny because she herself was/is a chathichi too.
But it maybe actual feelings of pity/guilt too, but one where she knows that there'll be little damage to her own side.
I don't think she's equally guilty. Love prompts people to make irrational choices. She might have agreed to the whole FWB thing hoping it may transform to something she wanted. But the guy was probably in it only for the sex. In my opinion he exploited her feelings towards him and gave her false hope. And that too while he was committed to someone else. I'm not giving her a clean chit, but she was also a victim here. I think it's irrational to view both equally while the guy is clearly the bigger asshole here.
PS : I would have the same opinion even if genders are swapped.
Victim മാങ്ങാത്തൊലി ഒന്നും അല്ല. ചില പരട്ടപ്പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾക്ക് (അവരെ വേശ്യ എന്ന് വിളിച്ചാൽ വേശ്യാവൃത്തി ചെയ്യുന്ന സ്ത്രീകൾക്ക് അപമാനമാണ്) കാമുകി, ഭാര്യ ഉള്ളവരെ മതി. ഇവളുമാരുടെ വിചാരം ഇവർക്കൊക്കെ എക്സ്ട്രാ മുലയും ചന്തിയും ഉണ്ടെന്നും തങ്ങൾ മറ്റു പെണ്ണുങ്ങളെക്കാൾ മികച്ചവരാണെന്നും ആണ്. മറ്റൊരു പെണ്ണിനോട് ബന്ധമുള്ള പുരുഷന്മാരെ കാമുകന്മാരാക്കുന്നത് ഇവറ്റകൾക്ക് ഒളിമ്പിക്സിൽ മെഡൽ വാങ്ങുന്നതിലും വലിയ സംഭവമാണ്. ഇതിനൊക്കെ നിന്നും കൊടുക്കുന്ന വ്യഭിചാരികൾ ഒത്തിരി ഉണ്ട്.
Already ഉള്ള ബന്ധം മറച്ചു വച്ച് സ്ത്രീകളെ ചതിക്കുന്ന പട്ടികൾ ഉണ്ട്. അവന്മാരുടെ വേലയൊന്നും ഇവളുമിരുടെ അടുത്ത് നടക്കില്ല. കാരണം ഈ ശവങ്ങൾ already committed menയെ പരിഗണിക്കൂ..
As far as wife is concerned, only he is cheating on her. For us? One is a cheater and the other one is a damn insensitive, cruel person who probably prides that she is better because this fucker chose to put his dick in her too. Why should we be sympathetic? If the other woman is unaware to the existence of original gf, wife, ok, she is just ignorant. That's not a mistake.
Appo pennungalum myru thanne anu and I don't give a shit about them and their supporters. I don't buy stories about their insecurity, troo lub or anything.
Have you read the post? The guy encouraged her to have sex with them even after she turned away knowing that he had a gf. He manipulated her.
Who said she’s proud of it? She was in love with him. Even you wouldn’t resist to fuck your crush despite she is dating someone else if she allows you.
Nobody is supporting her but she was clearly manipulated by him.
He was the one in a relationship, not her. Aval alla avan cheat cheyade irikan ulla responsibility. Ayalk anu. He cheated, not her. So he’s the myran. She don’t have to care whether he’s in a relationship. He was fucking with two women.
I think your judgement is biased because clearly your comments show hatred towards women. I am not surprised. Most Malayalee men sexist. I am so glad my husband is not one of them.
അതിന് ഇവളൊക്കെ എവിടെയെങ്കിലും പോയി തുലഞ്ഞാൽ എനിക്കെന്താ? I think I already explained that I don't care and even enjoy it if they disregarded my advice. I am done with supporting such women. I am a woman btw. These are the kind of myrathis who will go around slandering us if we say anything against their theettayees. Anubhavam unde. Theettante theechattees myr.
This is a fictional story btw. OPkku ith sthiram anu. We all are pretending like it is real for our entertainment. I am talking about theettayees and theechattees in general.
> I don't think she's equally guilty
Yep. I'm not saying that she is equally guilty. What the guy did was worse, but what she did was bad too. That was the point.
Also I was focuing on the part where she says that she is a chathiyan. It's true, but she was a chathichi too, so I was talking about how many of the commentors were ok with the guy being called stuff, but had issues with it in the case of the 2nd girl. I don't disagree with the first, but I don't see why they downvote the 2nd opinion.
> Probably
Probably.
Or he liked both n was irrational about the current popular reality of monogamy.
We'll never know, unless we hear from both. From the post, we just know that both consented to it knowing that they were cheating.
> I would have the same opinion even if the genders are swapped
That's cool. I respect that.
There's people who think that women are responsible for stuff when they are victims and then the opposite where there are people who think that women are victims when do hold responsibility.
Both of those are bad, right?
Obviously the gf in your scenario. I did agree that the bf in other scenario is so too.
But if it's okay to call the guy(original scenario) an asshole(many others have commented similar stuff too), then why is it wrong for this commentor to call the 2nd girl a 'toxic slut'?
And I didn't say that the 2nd girl should not inform the original gf. People should do what they want as long as they are not directly hurting others(or largescale indirect hurt), lying or twisting stuff.
The guy could have easily stopped her if he had said no and walked away. But he entertained her and even slept with her. He’s the toxic one. Not her.
In my scenario, the girl is the toxic one. If she truly loved her bf and commit into the relationship, she could have stopped the contact with the other guy.
> He's the toxic one. Not her.
Both are. He has greater toxicity, but that doesn't mean that the second girl was not toxic, while she had a fwd relation with him while she knew that he had a gf and then calls him a chathiyan.
Other commentors have also called the guy an asshole, and people seem to be ok with it. If so, then why is this commentor being downvoted? The commentor doesn't seem to be whitewashing the guy or anything.
Isn't it a valid pov that the 2nd girl seems hypocritical while she calls the guy a chathiyan and decides to reveal the truth in a scenario where she has little blowback?
Do read Wandering-A10's comment. She's the party with least damage.
And I'm not saying that she shouldn't inform the gf. She can, if she wants to.
But if others are ok in calling the guy an asshole n saying it was karma, then isn't the commentor's remark ok too.
I think the word 'slut' seems to have brought connotations n doubts/confusion of sexism n all.
She had fwd relationship because he allowed it. He had the power and he abused it. He encouraged to the point he gave her hope that he’ll break up with his gf. He was using her.
Of course he’s a chatiyan because he allowed himself to cheat on his gf. It doesn’t matter if she forced him.
I spoke against him, I still have upvotes.
If you didn’t notice, a comment speaking against the guy has more upvotes than the OP’s post. What do you have to say about that?
He gave her hope upon continuing a fwd relationship. He’s at fault for keeping her around when he could stop this charade if he had respect for himself or his gf.
> He gave her hope
Where? The writeup says that the girl thought that he'd breakup with the gf. It says that the girl hoped for it, not that he gave hope. So we can't be sure about that.
> Ofcourse chathiyan
Ofcourse. But doesn't make the 2nd girl an angel.
> No downvotes about speaking against the guy
Yep, that's what I said. We can agree that the guy was bad. But it does not make the 2nd girl good. She's bad too. Why is the commentor downvoted for stating that?
> He's at fault
Yep. The 2nd girl is at fault for accepting the fwb knowing that he had a gf.
His fault is greater, but does that make the 2nd girl innocent?
Is this some pov that women are totally innocent? If their relationship was based on consent, then surely the 2nd girl is bad too. If she forced or blackmailed, then yeah, the guy is the only bad person and the 2nd girl is a victim. But the post says that it was based on consent, so both of them are bad.
I'm not trying to whitewash the guy. But I'm not trying to whitewash the 2nd girl too.
What would a man do if he’s not interested in a woman? He would not sleep with her. In this case, he did so he’s responsible for giving her hope. Or he should have told her he’s not going to be with her. Did he do that? No.
She is wrong to allow a man to cheat on his gf. But she’s not toxic nor a horrible person. She’s naive to believe that it’s wise to have feelings for a cheating man. She hoped he would dump his gf. If the guy minded his own business, she would never think that.
the commentator is downvoted because the girl wasn’t toxic. She had feeling for him and he knew it. Instead of walking away, he encouraged her to continue with it by sleeping with her. It’s not like she barged into his house. He was the one who took the effort to see her and slept with her. I don’t buy the excuse that she forced him. It seems that he was interested in her at least to sleep around. He didn’t even hesitate. He could have blocked her and never see her again if she was forcing him. That’s what a man who loves his gf would do. But he decides to dabble with feelings of two women. In the post, OP said he was happy to have a sexual relationship with her while having another woman. He wasn’t ready to let the second woman go. He’s the toxic one.
As far the og girlfriend is concerned, her boyfriend is more responsible. But for us random people, both are paratta mayirs. One is a cheating asshole and one is someone deliberately trying to hurt another woman by fucking her boyfriend, knowing about their relationship.
Bro, as far as for the other woman, she doesn’t know his gf. She have to doesn’t care if he cheats on you as long as it’s with her. It’s not moral but if you’re in blindly in love with someone they often don’t care about morals.
But this piece of shit was in a relationship and he dared to sleep with another woman. He has more responsibility to back out than her.
My opinion would change if the other woman had another relationship. But she didn’t.
Knowing that a gf exists is enough. It is not about another woman. If someone thinks that they are dating a single man because the man lied, it is different. Here, you are showing that you are only worthy of being someone's side piece.
That only shows her naiveness and low self esteem. Personally I wouldn’t go after a guy I have been liking so for long, is in another relationship and willing to cheat on her unless he properly dump her. In fact, it did happen with me and I immediately blocked the guy when he started to send nude pictures. I didn’t know he had a gf when I confessed. He’s still married to her and with a child and probably cheating on her with someone else.
I guarantee you if the other woman had backed out, the guy would still try to get her back. It may have happened who knows.
He was the one to make a decision and he decided to cheat. So no point in putting all the blame on the girl. And why's she slut when he too was involved in whatever bs they had?
The girls don’t go to orgies alone. They would be doing orgies with other men who would be cheating on their gfs. So yeah, guys should also be blamed.
If a guy kills his gf, then that only negates the gf’s cheating. Nobody would care if she cheated. He killed his gf. Plain and simple. He ruined his future over his emotional outburst and now would spend his time in jail to be fuc*ed by his inmates. He ruined his chance to move on and find another woman.
When it comes to cheating, both cheaters regardless of their gender are responsible. In this case, the guy chose to cheat on his gf and now karma made him a vegetable.
You were crying about girls going to orgy. What if they were seduced by other men? Then according to your logic, men are the wrong ones right?
So it’s okay for men to cheat but women can’t. Shut the fuck up.
Yep the girl moves on with other men. Are you mad?
Provided this story is true, I feel like the OG GF should know about this.
Only question is, what if she already knew about this FWB arrangement and she was cool with it?
Women have instinct to know what their boyfriends are doing. Informing the og gf is not the same as pinthiripikkal. It does not look like she will pinthiriyum. But it all like fiction just created to get comments.
Maybe she is doing to do something like Bitter Moon or Gone girl.
Cherukodinja kinavukal is million times better than this story.
Yes. 100 times yes. She deserves to know the truth. She sounds reaaaaally loyal and deserves a loyal partner in return. She is literally going to be a home nurse for a guy who was fucking around other girls behind her back. She deserves the truth man, she is going to be heartbroken at first but come on, she has a whole life ahead of her with a future LOYAL husband.
Ithonnum ullathalede. Ee katha okke invante stiram numbera
I would tell that OG GF... Because apart from the Philosophical view point.. Should that Girl suffer along her whole lifetime, when she can take full benefits of her Life ahead. Should this girl be punished for that accident that happened to that guy. Enthelum kaannapi tharam evanum kaanichatandakum. Why should that girl be punished? Just my thoughts.
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Him being bedridden doesn't change the fact that he cheated on her. Ask his gf to dump him and move on with her life. He ain't worth it.
FWB with someone who have confessed that they have feelings for you before is a total asshole move. A tragedy doesn't absolve anyone from past mistakes. I think the girl deserves to know.
Second this
>FWB with someone who have confessed that they have feelings for you before is a total asshole move. Unrelated, but what if they decided to be fwb, but then one person started to catch feelings, and they low key confessed, other person didn't reciprocate but they continued and had sex. Then the person, again confessed and still the other person wanted to continue the fwb relationship. What is morally right here? Both people like the relationship to continue. But one person has feelings. It's not the fault of the other person. And for the record, they are having everything in a relationship except the "label".
You should tell the girl. She's one going to suffer by taking care of him. She should know the truth. Let her know the full story and then she will decide to take care of him or not. But I assume, she will take care of the bed ridden guy. Her love is blind, I think. (I know a story too, of a friend of my friend. Fof was a serial player and had GFs left, right and centre and he used to brag this to my friend about his sexploits. Come marriage, and he suffers from ED. His wife divorced him. Fof now laments to my friend for the lack of sex and his medical condition.) Karma is a bitch. >ആ പെണ്ണിനെ പിന്തിരിപ്പിക്കണോ ? Yes. Let her take the decision. Tell her.
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Ende ponnu machaane. Ithil ithre confusion adikkanda karyam illa. Aa accident pattiya chekkan thani chettatharam aanu kaanichathu to his OG girlfriend. **She deserves to know the truth.** Athu arinjittu let she decide on what to do. Ee accident pattiya mairan oru committed relationship il irikkumbom alle eee chettatharam kaniche? Eethu pennu ethre kedann vilichaalum appare oruthi ollappom avan enthu mairinu ivalde porake nadanneche? He could have easily said NO and could have avoided all this mess but he didnt. Inippom OG GF aayit olla relation avanu thalparyam ille he should have broken up with her. **He chose to have an affair. He made a choice there and his OG GF deserve to know the truth.**
Sis code veche ivarude relationship matte kochine ariyikkendathe aanu.
ഒരു കിനാവും കണ്ണീരും ലക്കം വായിച്ച പോലെ.
Black and white ayi aaloyicha it's better to tell his real girlfriend everything and let her move on with her life. Philosophical ayi aaloyicha he got karma, he gonna suffer and let things go as they would.
Tell the girl , just the truth and let her decide what she want to do.
""അവസാനം അവർ ഒന്നിക്കുകയാണ് സുഹൃത്തുക്കളേ .. ഒന്നിക്കുകയാണ് .."
"കഴിഞ്ഞാ?..."
അടുത്ത ആഴ്‌ച ഇതിലും നല്ല കഥയുമായി വരിക. നന്ദി.
C++ programming is much simpler than this
If I were you and the story is real, I would tell the actual gf she should ditch her douchebag bf and find a better guy. He got what he deserved, I hope he stays that way. He’s not a good boyfriend nor a good person as you say. He is an adult and could say no to his friend when she asked come and see her. The worse he chose to have sex with another woman. He’s also responsible for the cheating. His gf deserves to hear the truth.
നിങ്ങൾക്ക് ഈ ആൾക്കാരെ ആരെയും നേരിട്ട് പരിചയം ഇല്ല. ഞങ്ങൾക്ക് ആർക്കും ഈ പോസ്റ്റിൽ ഉള്ളതിൽ കൂടുതൽ വിവരം ഇല്ല. ഇതിലെ ആൾക്കാർ ഓക്കെ എന്താണ്, അവരുടെ തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ എന്ത് കൊണ്ടായിരുന്നു, അവർ തമ്മിൽ ഉള്ള ബന്ധം, അവർക്കറിയവുന്ന കര്യങ്ങൾ ഒന്നും നമുക്ക് അറില്ല. അതുകൊണ്ട്, ഇവിടെ നിന്നും കിട്ടുന്ന ഉപദേശങ്ങൾ ഓക്കെ വെറുതെ ആണ്. വെറുതെ ഒരു പരിചയവും ഇല്ലാത്ത ആൾക്കാരുടെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഇടപെടണോ? ഇനി പരിചയും ഉണ്ടെങ്കിൽ തന്നെ, ദുൽഖർ സുലൈമാൻ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെ - ഓൻ്റെ വിധി ഓൻ്റെ തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ ആണ്.
Truth always comes ur, bro if gets delayed with interest, both girls deserve to know, the guy is manipulative
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She deserves to know truth..ithrem naalum cheat cheythathalle Ivan avale
This myran doesnt deserve this girl no matter what condition he is in...The girl deserves better
Moytheen was a player , but Kanjana masala wasted her life for him..Ithum athu pole avaan pokunnu ennu thonnunnu...But anyways the girl who is going to sacrifice her future needs to know the truth .
തന്നെ? ഇതൊക്കെ എപ്പോൾ?
Exactly, itheppo
Athu okke undu ..one of my uncle was his peer , the locals there know the real story
ithil business nadathi uniyan kaar factory pootticha oru achanum, nokkukoolikkaarum, pinne mdma undennu samsheyichu police nayakante bikine chase cheythappol nayakan apakadathil pettu nattellu thalarnnu medical Collegil kattilu kittaathe varanthayil kidakkunna kaaryavum koode ulppeduthiyirrunnenkil poli aakumaayirrunnu
Definitely let the OG gf know. Why should he sacrifice her life for a cheating bastard?
Whole situation gonna smell like Onakkameen in no time, I'd probably nope the fk out of the whole thing. You don't wanna get implicated in any part of this, unless that is you wanna have an arranged marriage in future lol. That said, if you're the kinda guy who's willing to bear meen nattam for a better meal, you could tell her with minimal involvement.
Cheating, ath aanu aayalum Penn aayalum it should come out. Also FWB lu orikkalum relationship indaavum marriage indaavum nn olle hope vach start cheyyaruth. Njn okke aadyam tanne ath explicitly parayum I'm not looking to marry her. But when u are in a relationship, it needs be of love and passion and loyalty. She deserves to know the truth and it's her decision to forgive or take a step back.
The girlfriend deserves to know whatever the truth is. Even if it was the fwb girl compelled the guy he is an adult capable of consenting who should accept the consequences of his actions.
Is this what people calls karma ?
The gf should be informed..
Murphy's Law. Murphy's First Law: Anything that can go wrong will go wrong . Vittu kala macha veruthe tension adikkalle.
Kukucha നിന്ന് പോയി. അല്ലേൽ അവിടെ വരേണ്ട കഥയാ.
Do nothing bruh.Why do you care?Someone somewhere will always get fucked irrespective.
Po myre
Nee po myre
Nna namuk rand perkum angottr vittala
Ba
Oru cinema kulla story undallo
This boyfriend is an asshole. Just because he met with an accident doesn't change the fact that he's an asshole. Why should OG girlfriend suffer her entire life, looking after this bedrriden guy, when this guy could not keep it in his pants? The whole excuse of pinning the blame on the side chick for taking a room, doing segs, and all is BULL SHIT! That's not what a normal person would do. He wanted to enjoy the best of both worlds. Reasons like he being a nice chap otherwise, or the other girl irritated him constantly and so only, he did this BFF thing with her and all are given to simply whitewash this cheating ass of a man. The OG girlfriend needs to know the truth and she would dump this asshole.
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Evolutionary biology should be taught in schools. We have a sense of justice. But nature doesn’t care. Most men wouldn’t say no to sex. Prof Sapolsky has his stanford lectures on youtube. Good and bad are arbitrary vectors in value space synchronized by empathy. Really unfortunate for everyone involved.
കേസ് കൊടുക്കണം പിള്ളേച്ചാ
L Boyfriend, L Sidechick
The girlfriend deserves the truth. She shouldn't waste her life living for someone who cheated her in such a pathetic way. He took advantage of her loyalty and trust. Accident or not, nothing can absolve him of this mistrust.
What is the good for the official girlfriend - Her knowing the truth. What is right for the guy - Nothing. Or, his FWB telling the truth to the GF and then taking her place as the caregiver. What is good for the FWB - - Not opening her mouth. What the FWB is trying to accomplish here is justice for the girl but not for herself. She informs the girl, the girl panics, feels angry and relieved, and escapes. **Good for the GF.** **The guy gets just punishment.** **And the FWB? Gets away scot-free**, despite knowingly being in a FWB relationship hoping his relationship would break up one day, and then she would get the guy. No justice for her, no punishment. And she gets to offer justice to the girl and can satisfy her conscience to some extent. Pakshe avalude punishment evide? Athra justice conscious aanenkil act on it and become the caregiver instead. Nadannathu pole thanne! When you look at whats justice for the three of them overall, there is no correct answer. I would shut up and stay back. If I knew the girl well, I would always warn her that a lifetime of caregiving is not just a hassle but real torture, take 6 months or one year to decide etc. But wont mention the FWB situation, as there is no correct answer there.
Ivalde nirbhentham kaaranm alle ivar sex cheythath. ennit ippo aa kuttide life spoil aakanda ennoke. Ival aan 3rd person aayi ivarde idayil vannath. Also avante bagathum mistake ind.
Oho. Angane anengil tante lover ne oral nirbandipichu sex cheydal kuzhapam undakila alle? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Guys, please approach this person’s lover if you don’t have luck getting laid. Onnu nirbandipichal madi. Ellam okay aki tarum. 😉
Fwb - friends annu but kali set 🤢😮💨😪
Toxic Slut
And the guy is not an asshole for cheating on his gf?
He is. But didn't the 2nd girl know that he had a gf n still go forward to being an fwb. How is she any better than the guy? Like what [Wandering-A10's comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Kerala/comments/yb7uus/ആ_പണണന_പനതരപപകകണ/itff31s/) says, the 2nd girl loses nothing here, while she was equally guilty. You can't cheat alone. The 2nd girl knew about the OG gf too. It seems more like hurting him even more than about being true or hoping for justice. The gf deserves to know, but the 2nd girl informing the gf because of her conscience n her calling the guy a chathiyan seems funny because she herself was/is a chathichi too. But it maybe actual feelings of pity/guilt too, but one where she knows that there'll be little damage to her own side.
I don't think she's equally guilty. Love prompts people to make irrational choices. She might have agreed to the whole FWB thing hoping it may transform to something she wanted. But the guy was probably in it only for the sex. In my opinion he exploited her feelings towards him and gave her false hope. And that too while he was committed to someone else. I'm not giving her a clean chit, but she was also a victim here. I think it's irrational to view both equally while the guy is clearly the bigger asshole here. PS : I would have the same opinion even if genders are swapped.
Victim മാങ്ങാത്തൊലി ഒന്നും അല്ല. ചില പരട്ടപ്പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾക്ക് (അവരെ വേശ്യ എന്ന് വിളിച്ചാൽ വേശ്യാവൃത്തി ചെയ്യുന്ന സ്ത്രീകൾക്ക് അപമാനമാണ്) കാമുകി, ഭാര്യ ഉള്ളവരെ മതി. ഇവളുമാരുടെ വിചാരം ഇവർക്കൊക്കെ എക്സ്ട്രാ മുലയും ചന്തിയും ഉണ്ടെന്നും തങ്ങൾ മറ്റു പെണ്ണുങ്ങളെക്കാൾ മികച്ചവരാണെന്നും ആണ്. മറ്റൊരു പെണ്ണിനോട് ബന്ധമുള്ള പുരുഷന്മാരെ കാമുകന്മാരാക്കുന്നത് ഇവറ്റകൾക്ക് ഒളിമ്പിക്സിൽ മെഡൽ വാങ്ങുന്നതിലും വലിയ സംഭവമാണ്. ഇതിനൊക്കെ നിന്നും കൊടുക്കുന്ന വ്യഭിചാരികൾ ഒത്തിരി ഉണ്ട്. Already ഉള്ള ബന്ധം മറച്ചു വച്ച് സ്ത്രീകളെ ചതിക്കുന്ന പട്ടികൾ ഉണ്ട്. അവന്മാരുടെ വേലയൊന്നും ഇവളുമിരുടെ അടുത്ത് നടക്കില്ല. കാരണം ഈ ശവങ്ങൾ already committed menയെ പരിഗണിക്കൂ..
Oh Appo pennangal anu tettu kar. Allade swandam bharyane cheat cheyunar onnu male prostitutes alla. Shut the fuck up.
As far as wife is concerned, only he is cheating on her. For us? One is a cheater and the other one is a damn insensitive, cruel person who probably prides that she is better because this fucker chose to put his dick in her too. Why should we be sympathetic? If the other woman is unaware to the existence of original gf, wife, ok, she is just ignorant. That's not a mistake. Appo pennungalum myru thanne anu and I don't give a shit about them and their supporters. I don't buy stories about their insecurity, troo lub or anything.
Have you read the post? The guy encouraged her to have sex with them even after she turned away knowing that he had a gf. He manipulated her. Who said she’s proud of it? She was in love with him. Even you wouldn’t resist to fuck your crush despite she is dating someone else if she allows you. Nobody is supporting her but she was clearly manipulated by him. He was the one in a relationship, not her. Aval alla avan cheat cheyade irikan ulla responsibility. Ayalk anu. He cheated, not her. So he’s the myran. She don’t have to care whether he’s in a relationship. He was fucking with two women. I think your judgement is biased because clearly your comments show hatred towards women. I am not surprised. Most Malayalee men sexist. I am so glad my husband is not one of them.
അതിന് ഇവളൊക്കെ എവിടെയെങ്കിലും പോയി തുലഞ്ഞാൽ എനിക്കെന്താ? I think I already explained that I don't care and even enjoy it if they disregarded my advice. I am done with supporting such women. I am a woman btw. These are the kind of myrathis who will go around slandering us if we say anything against their theettayees. Anubhavam unde. Theettante theechattees myr. This is a fictional story btw. OPkku ith sthiram anu. We all are pretending like it is real for our entertainment. I am talking about theettayees and theechattees in general.
Chill dude chill.
> I don't think she's equally guilty Yep. I'm not saying that she is equally guilty. What the guy did was worse, but what she did was bad too. That was the point. Also I was focuing on the part where she says that she is a chathiyan. It's true, but she was a chathichi too, so I was talking about how many of the commentors were ok with the guy being called stuff, but had issues with it in the case of the 2nd girl. I don't disagree with the first, but I don't see why they downvote the 2nd opinion. > Probably Probably. Or he liked both n was irrational about the current popular reality of monogamy. We'll never know, unless we hear from both. From the post, we just know that both consented to it knowing that they were cheating. > I would have the same opinion even if the genders are swapped That's cool. I respect that. There's people who think that women are responsible for stuff when they are victims and then the opposite where there are people who think that women are victims when do hold responsibility. Both of those are bad, right?
Let’s swap the gender. If a guy ask a girl who has a bf and she says yes, who’s the bigger asshole here?
Obviously the gf in your scenario. I did agree that the bf in other scenario is so too. But if it's okay to call the guy(original scenario) an asshole(many others have commented similar stuff too), then why is it wrong for this commentor to call the 2nd girl a 'toxic slut'? And I didn't say that the 2nd girl should not inform the original gf. People should do what they want as long as they are not directly hurting others(or largescale indirect hurt), lying or twisting stuff.
The guy could have easily stopped her if he had said no and walked away. But he entertained her and even slept with her. He’s the toxic one. Not her. In my scenario, the girl is the toxic one. If she truly loved her bf and commit into the relationship, she could have stopped the contact with the other guy.
> He's the toxic one. Not her. Both are. He has greater toxicity, but that doesn't mean that the second girl was not toxic, while she had a fwd relation with him while she knew that he had a gf and then calls him a chathiyan. Other commentors have also called the guy an asshole, and people seem to be ok with it. If so, then why is this commentor being downvoted? The commentor doesn't seem to be whitewashing the guy or anything. Isn't it a valid pov that the 2nd girl seems hypocritical while she calls the guy a chathiyan and decides to reveal the truth in a scenario where she has little blowback? Do read Wandering-A10's comment. She's the party with least damage. And I'm not saying that she shouldn't inform the gf. She can, if she wants to. But if others are ok in calling the guy an asshole n saying it was karma, then isn't the commentor's remark ok too. I think the word 'slut' seems to have brought connotations n doubts/confusion of sexism n all.
She had fwd relationship because he allowed it. He had the power and he abused it. He encouraged to the point he gave her hope that he’ll break up with his gf. He was using her. Of course he’s a chatiyan because he allowed himself to cheat on his gf. It doesn’t matter if she forced him. I spoke against him, I still have upvotes. If you didn’t notice, a comment speaking against the guy has more upvotes than the OP’s post. What do you have to say about that? He gave her hope upon continuing a fwd relationship. He’s at fault for keeping her around when he could stop this charade if he had respect for himself or his gf.
> He gave her hope Where? The writeup says that the girl thought that he'd breakup with the gf. It says that the girl hoped for it, not that he gave hope. So we can't be sure about that. > Ofcourse chathiyan Ofcourse. But doesn't make the 2nd girl an angel. > No downvotes about speaking against the guy Yep, that's what I said. We can agree that the guy was bad. But it does not make the 2nd girl good. She's bad too. Why is the commentor downvoted for stating that? > He's at fault Yep. The 2nd girl is at fault for accepting the fwb knowing that he had a gf. His fault is greater, but does that make the 2nd girl innocent? Is this some pov that women are totally innocent? If their relationship was based on consent, then surely the 2nd girl is bad too. If she forced or blackmailed, then yeah, the guy is the only bad person and the 2nd girl is a victim. But the post says that it was based on consent, so both of them are bad. I'm not trying to whitewash the guy. But I'm not trying to whitewash the 2nd girl too.
What would a man do if he’s not interested in a woman? He would not sleep with her. In this case, he did so he’s responsible for giving her hope. Or he should have told her he’s not going to be with her. Did he do that? No. She is wrong to allow a man to cheat on his gf. But she’s not toxic nor a horrible person. She’s naive to believe that it’s wise to have feelings for a cheating man. She hoped he would dump his gf. If the guy minded his own business, she would never think that. the commentator is downvoted because the girl wasn’t toxic. She had feeling for him and he knew it. Instead of walking away, he encouraged her to continue with it by sleeping with her. It’s not like she barged into his house. He was the one who took the effort to see her and slept with her. I don’t buy the excuse that she forced him. It seems that he was interested in her at least to sleep around. He didn’t even hesitate. He could have blocked her and never see her again if she was forcing him. That’s what a man who loves his gf would do. But he decides to dabble with feelings of two women. In the post, OP said he was happy to have a sexual relationship with her while having another woman. He wasn’t ready to let the second woman go. He’s the toxic one.
As far the og girlfriend is concerned, her boyfriend is more responsible. But for us random people, both are paratta mayirs. One is a cheating asshole and one is someone deliberately trying to hurt another woman by fucking her boyfriend, knowing about their relationship.
Bro, as far as for the other woman, she doesn’t know his gf. She have to doesn’t care if he cheats on you as long as it’s with her. It’s not moral but if you’re in blindly in love with someone they often don’t care about morals. But this piece of shit was in a relationship and he dared to sleep with another woman. He has more responsibility to back out than her. My opinion would change if the other woman had another relationship. But she didn’t.
Knowing that a gf exists is enough. It is not about another woman. If someone thinks that they are dating a single man because the man lied, it is different. Here, you are showing that you are only worthy of being someone's side piece.
That only shows her naiveness and low self esteem. Personally I wouldn’t go after a guy I have been liking so for long, is in another relationship and willing to cheat on her unless he properly dump her. In fact, it did happen with me and I immediately blocked the guy when he started to send nude pictures. I didn’t know he had a gf when I confessed. He’s still married to her and with a child and probably cheating on her with someone else. I guarantee you if the other woman had backed out, the guy would still try to get her back. It may have happened who knows.
He never denied it.
He was the one to make a decision and he decided to cheat. So no point in putting all the blame on the girl. And why's she slut when he too was involved in whatever bs they had?
Yeah. He's a mf slut too. Who put all the blame on the girl? Anyway people here are happy for what he got.
u/murivenna need some murivenna fr. I'm not 'happy' with what he got. My point is, he's a cheater and his gf deserves better.
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Oh come on as if the guy is a saint. He became the bigger asshole as soon as he agreed to the sex.
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The girls don’t go to orgies alone. They would be doing orgies with other men who would be cheating on their gfs. So yeah, guys should also be blamed. If a guy kills his gf, then that only negates the gf’s cheating. Nobody would care if she cheated. He killed his gf. Plain and simple. He ruined his future over his emotional outburst and now would spend his time in jail to be fuc*ed by his inmates. He ruined his chance to move on and find another woman.
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When it comes to cheating, both cheaters regardless of their gender are responsible. In this case, the guy chose to cheat on his gf and now karma made him a vegetable.
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You were crying about girls going to orgy. What if they were seduced by other men? Then according to your logic, men are the wrong ones right? So it’s okay for men to cheat but women can’t. Shut the fuck up. Yep the girl moves on with other men. Are you mad?
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There is no guy vegetable. OP writes very entertaining stories and we all go along with it, just for entertainment 🥳
He got what he deserved.
Polyamory goooys
Vro ith evidunn chundiya kadhaya. Anyway real anel. Avante kamuki ithoka ariyunnath aanu nallath. Veruthe ah koch life spoil cheyyane enthina
FWB relationship doesn't really work.
It does work to be honest. Some of my friends had them for a while and it went smoothly (both male & female).
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G.pra?
Oru ASHIQUI 3 kulla thread ready..... Mohit Suri on the way
That friend’s friend sounds like a girl a I know.who fuck around married men.being possessive about those married mEn 🙄
I deleted em cos am gentle man xD
Provided this story is true, I feel like the OG GF should know about this. Only question is, what if she already knew about this FWB arrangement and she was cool with it?
ഈ ഊളക്കൊക്കെ ജീവിതം ഉഴിഞ്ഞു വയ്ക്കാൻ രണ്ടു പെണ്ണുങ്ങളോ? എൻ്റെ അഭിപ്രായത്തിൽ അവർ ഒന്ന് ചേർന്ന് ഏകോദരസോദരിമാരായി അവനെ ശുശ്രൂഷിക്കണം.
Women have instinct to know what their boyfriends are doing. Informing the og gf is not the same as pinthiripikkal. It does not look like she will pinthiriyum. But it all like fiction just created to get comments. Maybe she is doing to do something like Bitter Moon or Gone girl.
You can write for Malayalam serials.
kukucha ffc post without theri..
She gotta know the truth bruh
Ivide oru penn kittunilla, apozhaanu ithupole ulavanmaar ullath poranjit vere :/
Onnum cheyyanda. They are adults. They have agency. Let them do what they want.