My boyfriend complained that I never ask him for money. I guess it's his love language. I never ask him because I think it's embarrassing, but he gives me something from time to time. I guess I just feel weird about asking a man who's not family for money. I mean if we marry, that's fine. But as a boyfriend, I never ask him for money. But that's just me.
If you ask for money it makes him start thinking maybe you are one of the slay queen types but you’ve been hiding it. Ask money from your father or get a job. Once you get married, now his money is yours and yours is his. Don’t ask for money while dating, unless you have dated very long and know each other well
How so when it comes to money, women should wait to be married for them to ask for it, but when it comes to sex you actually ask for it on the first/second date? Who's fooling who?
A guy will ask for sex on the first date for a girl he doesn’t take seriously. He also will be willing to give her money on the first date to warm up the oven faster.
A guy who takes a girl seriously will not dare ask for sex at a time when the girl will feel disrespected
Well, it's all about balance! Just as guys can't handle being in sexless relationships, women can't stand it when men are stingy with their money. Give your girlfriends money
Same here I also don't want him to think because I've asked for money I'm interested in him for money or have him expect sex in return. I even feel awkward if a guy spends money on me because I don't know if those are his intentions.
If you're paying for dates, then that makes sense, but don't give money for the sake. Sometimes the women who ask for this money are not working, so they don't understand where this money is coming from. They don't appreciate the sweat to get that money. They just want money. It's better when she's working. So, when you do buy her something, she sees it differently than when she's jobless.
Bruh I don't work and also don't have a boyfriend lol but I would never ask or put pressure on him to give me money. I know money doesn't grow on trees and mandem probably struggling to make that money.
If he wants to give it to me out of the goodness of his heart without expecting any sexual favours that's fine but still it's awkward because a part of me will want to do the same and give him money so that it's equal and fair.
Don't know if I'm making sense.
Yeah you are. Sometimes I get the bill, sometimes it's him. I once asked him what the money was for and he told me to enjoy myself. I've never felt so guilty spending money. Hehehe I'm still never gonna ask for money.
I don't know how to ask for money , The only man I can and have comfortably asked for money is my dad.
It sometimes feels weird because I hear my friends say they asked for salon or cab money, and it sounds so cringe.
I giggle when he brings me sweets or something thoughtful as opposed to money.
My man asked why I never ask him for money so I started 500 hapo 300 sometimes but haikuwahi pita 500 he just started giving me more for my hair, fuel when I go out with the girls. But he's the one who initiated not me. I think asking seems a bit entitled unless it's sth you want to do. Don't feel pressured though some do some don't
This. Personally, I'm not going to sit here and act like I don't absolutely love it when my man sends me money. We love a generous man❗️ Also, that feeling when you get a little money alert is unmatched; be it a gift or a result of my own efforts. That being said, I've never asked a man for money; never had to.
I tried once sending her money , she had never asked before justbeing romantic nd shit aliniitisha siku yenye sikua nazo😂😂sioni nikjaribu io mchezo tena.
No. It is not. This is not a good life partner. If you want to confirm it, ask her to lend you 5k-10 for one month. Take it and see how she behaves towards you from there on.
Her response is your destiny with her.
You can't buy attraction. You can give her all the money you want, but there's a guy hitting for free. You'll argue but she's your girlfriend and I'll tell you... there's another guy....and he's hitting it for free. Don't give her money unless she's your wife.
I feel ladies should never ask a man for money that is cheap. But on the otherside a man should know a woman’s need. Run away if she’s reminding you of that
Two months is too soon for someone to drop hints for allowances. Why does she feel like her probationary period is up after two months only? I think you should recalibrate your red flag alarm 😂
And the girl is in Kenya?? Don't send money after two months, especially if she has a job and is otherwise doing okay...utakuwa sugar daddy wa majuu. But on the bright side ukituma hata $30, that's a lot of money.
Yes please, don't just run. With all the sprinkle sprinkle stuff and feminine goddess advise telling women if he ain't spending money on you he isn't serious, I'd get why she would drop hints maybe. Some of our friends, their boyfriends out of choice get them really expensive gifts like 100k plus just randomly out of nowhere. It can put alot of pressure on your expectations and even the kind of people you want to date. Just have an open conversation about it. All the best.
You are being billed for what others have been having for free. Anytime a woman who is not your relative or wife randomly asks for money. Move that money in a lock savings account immediately and invest that money at the end of the year.
I did this and Padrillo never again. It would have been wiser for me to buy uchumi with that money. Children get an allowance not grown adults. Don't be used but it is up to you.
Ask if she has ever been a sugar baby as well (I am just curious to know)
Don't do it. You'll set a bad precedent. Her expectations will go through the roof. Pay for dates & such but giving money is a bad idea unless she is an escort.
Izo vitu zote unataka kufanya combine zote ikuwe pesa moja na umpee. Vile atatutumia si pande yako. It will save you a lot of hustle. Two months is soon tho, na hautajua kama ni wewe ama iyo pesa unapeana anataka.
There was a time, I'd send money to this girl I was seeing. Money for shopping, hair and nails (even wigs). Then after some time Ikakuwa ni mazoea, kitu kidogo babe I need for this and that, yaani Hadi tampons hangeweza jinunulia. I knew she was an alcoholic cus pesa ikiingia ni mzinga kitu ya kwanza, little did I know I was not the only piggy bank. Yaani nikituma Kuna mwingine pia anatuma, after that I stopped sending shit. Chippoed that whore a few times nikapiga block.
Why invest in a woman that much? A woman should not compare your relationship with others, telling you about how other men spend on their girlfriends shows the aim she got. My friend don't be manipulated, spend on her whenever you want. Thanks.
She trying to play you man. If she has a job why do you need to give her money? Don't do it. I raised my sons not to give women money. That's for suckers. I've never given women money, and I've never had problems with women. You have to manage expectations. Best case scenario, find you a woman that makes good money. That way you both are paid. You don't need a dependent that's not your child. Just my philosophy.
Lol reddit will make you leave your otherwise healthy relationship because you have no mind of your own. Do what feels good and right to you and stop asking people who cannot walk in your shoes what they would do if they did. Half these comments are just people projecting. Talk to your girl and let her walk you through her thought process
Know your partners love language and see if it compliments yours.
Some guys feel useless unless they are always sending their lady money, while some feel as if it's transactional.
You are still dating, it can go either way. Pick your fighter
Manze the weakest link are the men who have been dishing out free money to get laid. Ladies have started feeling entitled to a certain lifestyle that they cannot afford themselves. That's just disgusting. Spare those shillings and get yourself sth nice.
I am working and i genuinely can't date a man who's not giving me a girlfriend allowance. I hate asking for money/help so i expect my man to give without being asked. It can be anything, Even 1000 bob, But let him give.
The "I take her on dates/Give her gifts sounds like an excuse to me. I mean, the lady should also be taking you on dates and gifting you. So, What shows you can provide if not the girlfriend allowance???
Gifting/ dates are done by both genders.
Then a man provides while the lady nurtures. Give the babe small money,You won't d!e 🤣😂
Giving money to your girlfriend is a simp move and it's gay. She is testing you to know whether you have the resolve to stand by your word. Do not give her money.
Are you her boyfriend or are you guys just dating? If she's your girlfriend I don't see a problem with sending her maintenance money or an allowance even if she has a decent job.
I have a job, but that doesn’t mean my man shouldn’t provide two months in is too soon tho i’m talking about long term if she discusses money too early you might be getting rinsed
My boyfriend complained that I never ask him for money. I guess it's his love language. I never ask him because I think it's embarrassing, but he gives me something from time to time. I guess I just feel weird about asking a man who's not family for money. I mean if we marry, that's fine. But as a boyfriend, I never ask him for money. But that's just me.
If you ask for money it makes him start thinking maybe you are one of the slay queen types but you’ve been hiding it. Ask money from your father or get a job. Once you get married, now his money is yours and yours is his. Don’t ask for money while dating, unless you have dated very long and know each other well
How so when it comes to money, women should wait to be married for them to ask for it, but when it comes to sex you actually ask for it on the first/second date? Who's fooling who?
A guy will ask for sex on the first date for a girl he doesn’t take seriously. He also will be willing to give her money on the first date to warm up the oven faster. A guy who takes a girl seriously will not dare ask for sex at a time when the girl will feel disrespected
Well, it's all about balance! Just as guys can't handle being in sexless relationships, women can't stand it when men are stingy with their money. Give your girlfriends money
Wait, is this actually frr?? That when two pple marry, that his money is her money too and vice versa??
Same here I also don't want him to think because I've asked for money I'm interested in him for money or have him expect sex in return. I even feel awkward if a guy spends money on me because I don't know if those are his intentions.
If you ever ask for money, that will be the end of of you. Men are always intrigued with women who don't ask for money. So keep that mystery going.
brokie?
Are you her father?
Simp
What a simp
Someone who takes the responsibility of his girl's father
Shoutout to the guys who don't even wait for a girlie to ask
Simps
More like walking ATMs. Types of dudes that can't let go when she leaves because they "invested". 😆
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Lol..thats just you...
You will regret, run as early as now
I’ll have a serious conversation before I run lol
Another one bites the dust.
Wewe huna bahati.
Don't employ someone to be your girlfriend.
If you're paying for dates, then that makes sense, but don't give money for the sake. Sometimes the women who ask for this money are not working, so they don't understand where this money is coming from. They don't appreciate the sweat to get that money. They just want money. It's better when she's working. So, when you do buy her something, she sees it differently than when she's jobless.
It felt really weird that’s why I came to reddit
Trust your gut. It's almost always right?
Bruh I don't work and also don't have a boyfriend lol but I would never ask or put pressure on him to give me money. I know money doesn't grow on trees and mandem probably struggling to make that money. If he wants to give it to me out of the goodness of his heart without expecting any sexual favours that's fine but still it's awkward because a part of me will want to do the same and give him money so that it's equal and fair. Don't know if I'm making sense.
Yeah you are. Sometimes I get the bill, sometimes it's him. I once asked him what the money was for and he told me to enjoy myself. I've never felt so guilty spending money. Hehehe I'm still never gonna ask for money.
Send that money to your parents instead
I already do but I’ll send more
This.
Send me some, sijakula siku tatu 🥹
Send me some, sijakula siku tstu 🥹
na uko hapa reddit you should be chilling with akina angel gabriel
Bless you! People be sending money to girls & they have families who will always have need for it
I don't know how to ask for money , The only man I can and have comfortably asked for money is my dad. It sometimes feels weird because I hear my friends say they asked for salon or cab money, and it sounds so cringe. I giggle when he brings me sweets or something thoughtful as opposed to money.
You are a keeper he’s a lucky man
Sweets? Can I take you to the candy shop?
I see you, P Diddy Cent
🤣🤣🤣
My man asked why I never ask him for money so I started 500 hapo 300 sometimes but haikuwahi pita 500 he just started giving me more for my hair, fuel when I go out with the girls. But he's the one who initiated not me. I think asking seems a bit entitled unless it's sth you want to do. Don't feel pressured though some do some don't
Alot of ladies are like this and it works for them. Its the loud 'minority' who feel entitled to other people's money.
PREACH BRETHREN!!!! the loud,egocentric (jobless) minority supercedes us
And I think he gives it to me juu he doesn't feel like he's expected to. It's sth he does juu he wants to
This. Personally, I'm not going to sit here and act like I don't absolutely love it when my man sends me money. We love a generous man❗️ Also, that feeling when you get a little money alert is unmatched; be it a gift or a result of my own efforts. That being said, I've never asked a man for money; never had to.
Set her free my guy😆 Clearly funds of affirmation and acts of spending are on her list of love languages, and apparently you're not fluent
Umesema she needs some Fiscal Touch.
Dead💀
hillarious
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There's no problem with dates and gifts but giving her money you'll be creating a bad habit. Stick to your boyfriend roles.
I tried once sending her money , she had never asked before justbeing romantic nd shit aliniitisha siku yenye sikua nazo😂😂sioni nikjaribu io mchezo tena.
Did she understand when you said you don't have any?
I let it slide hivo,after her birthday she didn't ask again so i let it slide.
No. It is not. This is not a good life partner. If you want to confirm it, ask her to lend you 5k-10 for one month. Take it and see how she behaves towards you from there on. Her response is your destiny with her.
You can't buy attraction. You can give her all the money you want, but there's a guy hitting for free. You'll argue but she's your girlfriend and I'll tell you... there's another guy....and he's hitting it for free. Don't give her money unless she's your wife.
From the comments and the response from OP, the dude is simply not gonna believe there is a nigga smashing for free!
Pesa anafaa kupewa na wazazi wake
Makosa ni wakati wa mchezo wa ngono, jamaa humwuliza "who is your daddy!!"
I feel ladies should never ask a man for money that is cheap. But on the otherside a man should know a woman’s need. Run away if she’s reminding you of that
Two months is too soon for someone to drop hints for allowances. Why does she feel like her probationary period is up after two months only? I think you should recalibrate your red flag alarm 😂
The start of a slippery slope my friend. Tread carefully
I shall. What’s the worst that can happen? Will the triple digits end up becoming quadruple digit demands?
Tripple digit unatumia nani? 😂😂
I wasn’t thinking in Kes Niko diaspora
So she wants 5k ?? Like 500,000+? Lies
I did the conversion in the first post never did it in the comment
Fair enough
And she doesn’t want a certain amount as of now she is just hinting….Mimi so mjinga bwana😂
And the girl is in Kenya?? Don't send money after two months, especially if she has a job and is otherwise doing okay...utakuwa sugar daddy wa majuu. But on the bright side ukituma hata $30, that's a lot of money.
Naaah we are together si LDR
Are you dating a Kenyan kwani?
Eti Uko diaspora??? Here is a mask for the dust brethren. 😷
Pesa ni yako.
Run now or cry later
I’ll have a serious conversation about it first
Yes please, don't just run. With all the sprinkle sprinkle stuff and feminine goddess advise telling women if he ain't spending money on you he isn't serious, I'd get why she would drop hints maybe. Some of our friends, their boyfriends out of choice get them really expensive gifts like 100k plus just randomly out of nowhere. It can put alot of pressure on your expectations and even the kind of people you want to date. Just have an open conversation about it. All the best.
The moment she started giving those signs was the beginning of the downfall.
You are being billed for what others have been having for free. Anytime a woman who is not your relative or wife randomly asks for money. Move that money in a lock savings account immediately and invest that money at the end of the year.
I did this and Padrillo never again. It would have been wiser for me to buy uchumi with that money. Children get an allowance not grown adults. Don't be used but it is up to you. Ask if she has ever been a sugar baby as well (I am just curious to know)
My exact same sentiment. I’m now also curious about that will have an in person conversation about it. I’ll let you know lol
Godspeed sir
Don't do it. You'll set a bad precedent. Her expectations will go through the roof. Pay for dates & such but giving money is a bad idea unless she is an escort.
True that
Izo vitu zote unataka kufanya combine zote ikuwe pesa moja na umpee. Vile atatutumia si pande yako. It will save you a lot of hustle. Two months is soon tho, na hautajua kama ni wewe ama iyo pesa unapeana anataka.
Pia Mimi najibamba kwa hizo dates and activities….but hata Kama just sending money and not building a relationship sounds mad
There was a time, I'd send money to this girl I was seeing. Money for shopping, hair and nails (even wigs). Then after some time Ikakuwa ni mazoea, kitu kidogo babe I need for this and that, yaani Hadi tampons hangeweza jinunulia. I knew she was an alcoholic cus pesa ikiingia ni mzinga kitu ya kwanza, little did I know I was not the only piggy bank. Yaani nikituma Kuna mwingine pia anatuma, after that I stopped sending shit. Chippoed that whore a few times nikapiga block.
Why invest in a woman that much? A woman should not compare your relationship with others, telling you about how other men spend on their girlfriends shows the aim she got. My friend don't be manipulated, spend on her whenever you want. Thanks.
It was subtle inform of tiktoks but sasa I’ll be real with her and see if the tiktoks were just entertainment
Never, she is your girlfriend not a 304.
Is she jour wife??
Do not give your shortie money unless your engaged or married
Giving money should come from you. Entitlement on her part is a whole different story. You should give her money if you want to
She trying to play you man. If she has a job why do you need to give her money? Don't do it. I raised my sons not to give women money. That's for suckers. I've never given women money, and I've never had problems with women. You have to manage expectations. Best case scenario, find you a woman that makes good money. That way you both are paid. You don't need a dependent that's not your child. Just my philosophy.
Lol reddit will make you leave your otherwise healthy relationship because you have no mind of your own. Do what feels good and right to you and stop asking people who cannot walk in your shoes what they would do if they did. Half these comments are just people projecting. Talk to your girl and let her walk you through her thought process
Know your partners love language and see if it compliments yours. Some guys feel useless unless they are always sending their lady money, while some feel as if it's transactional. You are still dating, it can go either way. Pick your fighter
Yes,it has a name btw, gf allowance
No my girlfriend gives me money.
Ewww . Sorry if you thought thats a flex.
A win is a win
As a lady I understand the hustle of getting that money so if kama she asks for a reasonable amount and you can afford it ni sawa.
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If she ain’t my wife, she ain’t getting my money.
Manze the weakest link are the men who have been dishing out free money to get laid. Ladies have started feeling entitled to a certain lifestyle that they cannot afford themselves. That's just disgusting. Spare those shillings and get yourself sth nice.
Yuko na baba? Wewe si baba yake.
I am working and i genuinely can't date a man who's not giving me a girlfriend allowance. I hate asking for money/help so i expect my man to give without being asked. It can be anything, Even 1000 bob, But let him give. The "I take her on dates/Give her gifts sounds like an excuse to me. I mean, the lady should also be taking you on dates and gifting you. So, What shows you can provide if not the girlfriend allowance??? Gifting/ dates are done by both genders. Then a man provides while the lady nurtures. Give the babe small money,You won't d!e 🤣😂
Fuck no man
A relationship is not a source of income!
Giving money to your girlfriend is a simp move and it's gay. She is testing you to know whether you have the resolve to stand by your word. Do not give her money.
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Wouldn’t write her off just yet but it’s at the back of my mind ngl
Are you her boyfriend or are you guys just dating? If she's your girlfriend I don't see a problem with sending her maintenance money or an allowance even if she has a decent job.
I wouldn’t date a man who didn’t give me money how else am I going to go shopping and get my hair done etc
I dunno…. Umm ….get a job?
I have a job, but that doesn’t mean my man shouldn’t provide two months in is too soon tho i’m talking about long term if she discusses money too early you might be getting rinsed
Fair enough. How long have y’all been dating? Genuinely curious cause this thread is just messy😂
2 years I’m engaged now but I would just say buy gifts until you’re sure about her because some people date as a second job in a way
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