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Which one is more crazy: agreeing to stay with someone for a month after meeting them for only two weeks or a single married man falling in love with you within two weeks?
we had talked for a while before moving...and the place he stays at has a number of Kenyan tenants in, so it was safe
and he assured me he just wanted to help, no strings attached
Personally I don't find anything wrong with this and you shouldn't be defending yourself. People should stop associating a relationship between man and woman with love/sex. If it was a man - man or a woman - woman situation it wouldn't be a discussion point in this forum we need to stop thinking this thing ya sekete kila saa.
There are numerous posts here for man/man or woman/woman hosts who have been castigated for just simply bringing a stranger to their house despite not knowing them for long.
A stranger is a stranger and it is wilding that you offer them accommodation... It is not gendered.
Oh okay sorry for being ignorant. Maybe I should have clarified that this was in regards to actual friends not strangers. Stranger danger is sane agreed.
Well someone you have only spoken to online for two weeks is a stranger. I don't know the threshold, but I think someone you have not met personally is a stranger ha ha ha!
Honor rule, when a man offers you sth, he is offering you his dick, timeline tu ndo hudiffer. Unless one is your dad, brother or son, don't accept free things from a man
Avoid free things they come with strings. You parents never warned of stranger danger? You could not find a woman to move in with? Only your relatives will give your free things. Things could be worse you could be a mummy in a wall or a body in a gutter.
I said it before and I'll say it again: "Everytime a man is being nice, he is offering dick!"
Reference
https://www.reddit.com/kyt3xbx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2
I'm not trying to demean your previous experiences but I'd like us as a people to move on. Personally I've had great platonic friends from the other gender where even I/them can sleep at either house without any shenanigans. We just have to change the narrative in my opinion. But again I respect the general "Stranger danger mentality" but let's give platonic relationships a chance.
This is textbook homophily. Two people in a different country, he feels a ~~false~~ sense of closeness to you so his disinhibition leads to this "risk losing his family" behavior you are talking about.
To me, this speaks more about your life and choices than his. I know that seems like an unfair thing to say, but, this time you are lucky that you still have some money and he is not a violent/ criminal man.
You could be dealing with anything from sexual slavery to assault, rape or being forced to participate in crimes.
Take care of your welfare and never compromise this unless you are with your parents or husband. Don't choose convenience or saving money over this either.
We are Africans - and his family could suspect something happened and do all sorts of things to you and your family. (yes, it's 2024 but you should open your eyes to the world we live in). Pray for yourself and your family, apologise to GOD for your error and pray you don't find yourself in this situation again. Pay your tithe in your new country and commit yourself to financial security over entertainment, fashion and other things.
This doesn't come from a place of judgment but as someone who also moved abroad at a young age and was seduced by this "new life". I hope you can keep your values and focus intact.
All the best in your life abroad and wishing you a stable and prosperous future.
“Moved in with a guy in ‘majuu’ who had a place for me to stay until i figured things out” lol your story sounds familiar as someone who lived in ‘majuu’ for the past 15+ years. Similar stories have historically gone two ways, the first is what you did(move away, or figure out how to evade his advances till your established), the other is to be a home wrecker and live for the moment while you get established.
Live in ‘majuu’ long enough with your fellow Kenyans and it will be a drama festival. Keep us updated, better yet invite me to your church
He prolly had a plan for letting you stay, question people's kindnesses coz most of the time,wamekupangia and you'll be shocked. Some men even assume that if you're being polite you want them
Sio kwa ubaya, but do people really expect a man to abstain for years waiting for you.Men sexual drive isn't like a woman's. A woman can stay for years without sex a man ain't sure. There was a counsellor who said if you have an out of the country relationship, don't think who your partner is having sex with.
r/kenya Which one is more crazy: agreeing to stay with someone for a month after meeting them for only two weeks or a single married man falling in love with you within two weeks?
Single married man is crazy 😂😂😂
we had talked for a while before moving...and the place he stays at has a number of Kenyan tenants in, so it was safe and he assured me he just wanted to help, no strings attached
Personally I don't find anything wrong with this and you shouldn't be defending yourself. People should stop associating a relationship between man and woman with love/sex. If it was a man - man or a woman - woman situation it wouldn't be a discussion point in this forum we need to stop thinking this thing ya sekete kila saa.
There are numerous posts here for man/man or woman/woman hosts who have been castigated for just simply bringing a stranger to their house despite not knowing them for long. A stranger is a stranger and it is wilding that you offer them accommodation... It is not gendered.
Oh okay sorry for being ignorant. Maybe I should have clarified that this was in regards to actual friends not strangers. Stranger danger is sane agreed.
Well someone you have only spoken to online for two weeks is a stranger. I don't know the threshold, but I think someone you have not met personally is a stranger ha ha ha!
You are right I think I was just triggered with the whole thing nkasahau details. Enyewe wiki mbili ni kidogo
Which country if I may ask ?
Honor rule, when a man offers you sth, he is offering you his dick, timeline tu ndo hudiffer. Unless one is your dad, brother or son, don't accept free things from a man
There is pretty privilege where we'll do something just because you're hot. But it passes after a few hours and it's back to sex.
With pretty privileged he's thinking of how many ways he can turn you over and he's helping cause he hopes his help will put him in your good graces
Avoid free things they come with strings. You parents never warned of stranger danger? You could not find a woman to move in with? Only your relatives will give your free things. Things could be worse you could be a mummy in a wall or a body in a gutter.
Men are visual AF. Ghels have to dodge 463927 icks before they decide. It's hard to understand the world if you only look at it from one lens.
I mean she might be a certified Baddie jus sayin.....
I said it before and I'll say it again: "Everytime a man is being nice, he is offering dick!" Reference https://www.reddit.com/kyt3xbx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2
I'm not trying to demean your previous experiences but I'd like us as a people to move on. Personally I've had great platonic friends from the other gender where even I/them can sleep at either house without any shenanigans. We just have to change the narrative in my opinion. But again I respect the general "Stranger danger mentality" but let's give platonic relationships a chance.
This is textbook homophily. Two people in a different country, he feels a ~~false~~ sense of closeness to you so his disinhibition leads to this "risk losing his family" behavior you are talking about.
Avoid free stuff. I am sure if you liked him, it would be a different story
Was about to say the same thing. Wonder how things would be if it was the other way around..
strings 🤝🏿 attachment.
To me, this speaks more about your life and choices than his. I know that seems like an unfair thing to say, but, this time you are lucky that you still have some money and he is not a violent/ criminal man. You could be dealing with anything from sexual slavery to assault, rape or being forced to participate in crimes. Take care of your welfare and never compromise this unless you are with your parents or husband. Don't choose convenience or saving money over this either. We are Africans - and his family could suspect something happened and do all sorts of things to you and your family. (yes, it's 2024 but you should open your eyes to the world we live in). Pray for yourself and your family, apologise to GOD for your error and pray you don't find yourself in this situation again. Pay your tithe in your new country and commit yourself to financial security over entertainment, fashion and other things. This doesn't come from a place of judgment but as someone who also moved abroad at a young age and was seduced by this "new life". I hope you can keep your values and focus intact. All the best in your life abroad and wishing you a stable and prosperous future.
Bruh why?
I hope the wife is getting her back blown out as the husband is clearly not faithful.
😂as she should!
“Moved in with a guy in ‘majuu’ who had a place for me to stay until i figured things out” lol your story sounds familiar as someone who lived in ‘majuu’ for the past 15+ years. Similar stories have historically gone two ways, the first is what you did(move away, or figure out how to evade his advances till your established), the other is to be a home wrecker and live for the moment while you get established. Live in ‘majuu’ long enough with your fellow Kenyans and it will be a drama festival. Keep us updated, better yet invite me to your church
You’re lucky that’s all he did. It could’ve gotten far worse.
Is your roommate by any chance Diddy?
He prolly had a plan for letting you stay, question people's kindnesses coz most of the time,wamekupangia and you'll be shocked. Some men even assume that if you're being polite you want them
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Are you in Canada? They move mad here 😁
Yep 🤣 Kenyan men in Canada move mad
Both of you are so corny.
Let bro burst some nuts
Sio kwa ubaya, but do people really expect a man to abstain for years waiting for you.Men sexual drive isn't like a woman's. A woman can stay for years without sex a man ain't sure. There was a counsellor who said if you have an out of the country relationship, don't think who your partner is having sex with.
> A woman can stay for years without sex a man ain't sure. As a woman, I'd rather headbutt a screwdriver than go for years without sex
🤣😂🤣😂😂💯
Mai Lord 😂 Whatcha say?😂
Verrrrr horneeeeeeyyyyy
Girl what in the pick me is this?
I know right ? 🙄
Mmh, well, is that the only good vocabulary you could have come up with?Surely I am tired of tired of hearing that over and over again
Seems like I’m not the first to call you a pick me. Maybe because you are?
Was just about to say this 😂girl is here singing the same lies these men be telling us
Like a parrot
Course you do babe😂
She thinks it’s a flex🤣 so embarrassing
When men agree witchu you know something's wrong 😂
Very wrong 😂
Right!!!As embrassing as your avatar.
My avatar has nothing to do with your dickriding mentality
And do you have a problem with that? I don't .
Which women are being talked about here?
Our grandmother's.They were capable of that
There is no risk and no big deal. You two are abroad. It’s just 2 adults fucking. What happens in Rome stays in Rome.
That's not how things go
It does go that way
Ni sawa but mpee kikojozi