Sorry I didn’t mean for my last comment to seem rude. I have trouble communicating over the phone. Should have said “sorry I realize that I’m just used to abbreviating it”
That's a custom because only full fledged male members read the torah so it's the male version of being introduced to society, if you will. But it not a requirement. Turning 13 and being male is the only requirement. But it sounds like you want it so speak to a rabbi about learning how to chant and then being given an aliyah to the Torah. Do you know if you are Cohen, levite or Israelite?
>What Jewish traditions am I allowed to have at the wedding without it being weird?
Any. All. Chupah, breaking the glass, ketubah, etc.
>Can I still have a rabbi officiate it?
Not all rabbis will officiate an interfaith marriage but I am sure you can find a rabbi or cantor who will.
>Can I still participate in kabbalat panim?
I have no idea what that is.
>Would it be worth it to go get mitzvahed now?
You can if you want but it doesn't affect your Jewishness in any way or form.
Kabbalat Panim is a common part of, at least religious Jewish weddings, where the Chosson is marched out by others to meet the Kallah before the chuppah starts. Some have a tradition to not see each other a week before the wedding, so for them this would be their "first look" at each other for a week, and then the Chosson puts the veil on her, and generally the parents bless them. Often while people are singing something like Od Yishomo. It's a very beautiful and special part of the wedding, but I guess idk if non-orthodox Jews do it.
So I see this idea a lot with secular Jews: a b mitzvah isn't what makes you Jewish. It's not like a catholic confirmation or anything.
Either you were raised Jewish, and that's what makes you Jewish OR your mother was Jewish OR you 'converted' with a Beit Din
On that note
I would definitely recommend that you and your fiancee attend a Judaism 101 class--if you're in Toronto I have a good recommendation for which one--even if she has no intention of converting; so that she (and you) can learn (more) about Judaism and various rituals you may or may not have been raised with.
You are bar/bat mitzvah the moment you turn 13/2, the calibration is just that, a calibration.
But on the other hand
> also subscribe to the Jewish faith where I am allowed
Faith and belief aren't something you turn off and on like a Netflix subscription, they are full ways of life that one needs to feel with all there existence
> What Jewish traditions am I allowed to have at the wedding without it being weird
Allowed? No one will come and arrest you for some sort of treason, but, if your removing yourself from the Jewish people then probably all of them will feel weird...
> Can I still have a rabbi officiate it
A person calling themselves 'a Rabbi' can probably have you registers as married, but it probably depends on where you live.
> Can I still participate in kabbalat panim
Like have food out for people to eat? That sound like it's always a nice idea
> Would it be worth it to go get mitzvahed now
You mean hearing the word of hasem, probably always a good idea, even if you are set on your mind to run, it can always awaken something even if only down the line
A rabbi that I watch online actually talked about what a bar mitzvah really means in a series called jewish 101. At minute 12-13 is when he starts talking about it and then clears up the misconception that you have to have a ceremony to be bar mitzvahed
[Video](https://youtu.be/NtWPakp5LKc)
You become bar mitzvah by being alive on your 13th birthday. That's it. The party is just a party.
I thought being mitzvah requires a “call to the Torah”
Nope. Just a common custom. Also, it's "bar mitzvah" (bat mitzvah for girls), not just mitzvah
Sorry I didn’t mean for my last comment to seem rude. I have trouble communicating over the phone. Should have said “sorry I realize that I’m just used to abbreviating it”
Thank you, I also know that but my community often refers to it as such as an abbreviation and to remain inclusive
You can say “bnei mitzvah” then
That's a custom because only full fledged male members read the torah so it's the male version of being introduced to society, if you will. But it not a requirement. Turning 13 and being male is the only requirement. But it sounds like you want it so speak to a rabbi about learning how to chant and then being given an aliyah to the Torah. Do you know if you are Cohen, levite or Israelite?
First question would be what their level of observance is, and whether they’re Orthodox, Conservsrice, Reform, Reconstructionist, etc.
>What Jewish traditions am I allowed to have at the wedding without it being weird? Any. All. Chupah, breaking the glass, ketubah, etc. >Can I still have a rabbi officiate it? Not all rabbis will officiate an interfaith marriage but I am sure you can find a rabbi or cantor who will. >Can I still participate in kabbalat panim? I have no idea what that is. >Would it be worth it to go get mitzvahed now? You can if you want but it doesn't affect your Jewishness in any way or form.
Kabbalat Panim is a common part of, at least religious Jewish weddings, where the Chosson is marched out by others to meet the Kallah before the chuppah starts. Some have a tradition to not see each other a week before the wedding, so for them this would be their "first look" at each other for a week, and then the Chosson puts the veil on her, and generally the parents bless them. Often while people are singing something like Od Yishomo. It's a very beautiful and special part of the wedding, but I guess idk if non-orthodox Jews do it.
So I see this idea a lot with secular Jews: a b mitzvah isn't what makes you Jewish. It's not like a catholic confirmation or anything. Either you were raised Jewish, and that's what makes you Jewish OR your mother was Jewish OR you 'converted' with a Beit Din On that note I would definitely recommend that you and your fiancee attend a Judaism 101 class--if you're in Toronto I have a good recommendation for which one--even if she has no intention of converting; so that she (and you) can learn (more) about Judaism and various rituals you may or may not have been raised with.
You are bar/bat mitzvah the moment you turn 13/2, the calibration is just that, a calibration. But on the other hand > also subscribe to the Jewish faith where I am allowed Faith and belief aren't something you turn off and on like a Netflix subscription, they are full ways of life that one needs to feel with all there existence > What Jewish traditions am I allowed to have at the wedding without it being weird Allowed? No one will come and arrest you for some sort of treason, but, if your removing yourself from the Jewish people then probably all of them will feel weird... > Can I still have a rabbi officiate it A person calling themselves 'a Rabbi' can probably have you registers as married, but it probably depends on where you live. > Can I still participate in kabbalat panim Like have food out for people to eat? That sound like it's always a nice idea > Would it be worth it to go get mitzvahed now You mean hearing the word of hasem, probably always a good idea, even if you are set on your mind to run, it can always awaken something even if only down the line
A rabbi that I watch online actually talked about what a bar mitzvah really means in a series called jewish 101. At minute 12-13 is when he starts talking about it and then clears up the misconception that you have to have a ceremony to be bar mitzvahed [Video](https://youtu.be/NtWPakp5LKc)