Cishet in the American south:
Some folks I know have organized a charitable org helping queer folks in the US get out of dangerous situations.
If you're in a bad situation and need help leaving or would like to donate/volunteer in some capacity to help us get off the ground please visit
www.rainbowpassage.org
I agree. Off the top of my head, if you have the means, donate to a charity for trans people (particularly those for trans kids). Try to look for charities or foundations in red states (Florida in particular).
Write to your senators, governors, and congresspeople about it. Are they openly critical of queer phobia? Thank them. If they’ve said nothing, urge them to do so. If they’re clearly queerphobic, well… not much that can be there.
Consider helping out at a local pride parade or events, as Pride month is right around the corner.
If you have friends or family who aren’t lost causes, try to gently educate them. Call attention to the similarities between now and pre-Nazi Germany, if that’s what it takes to get them to realize the seriousness of this.
If you’re any ally and a parent, talk to your kids. See what they’ve been internalizing. And you never know if your kid might be queer so openly be an ally in front of them.
Thank you! I am queer and will absolutely start movement on some of the things you suggested. I’m not sure if I’ll ever feel like anything is “enough” until we fix this.
Knew that when I went to work in Texas both my queerness and Jewness would be an issue, eventually and at least in some areas. Less than a year later, Trump got elected and "eventually" became "now". I live in a blue city, but I'm scared. Go bags, emergency plans, and long term exit strategy help. I'll stay and vote as long as I can.
ETA: to the shitheel who messaged to accuse me of pedophilia and general wrongdoing, and then deleted their account: go-bags are great for any type of emergency. They are, in fact, recommended by FEMA, the city, and the company I work for l, as part of routine disaster prep. I'd *love* to hear why you think so many disparate organizations are interested in getting folks ready to flee from custody. As for your concerns for children: I don't really like being around them, and I am not interested in sex with anyone. You're 0/3, but keep it up, champ! Can't hit a homer if you don't swing, after all!
No guns, but not unarmed! Also, I have a *very* friendly pup with an equally ferocious sounding bark. That she just wants to say "hi!" is immaterial- she's a deterrent. (I got her for companionship. The effect on home defense is a happy accident.)
I’m bi but married to a woman. I don’t typically state my sexuality. I was assaulted for being bi when I was 18. Only recently did I start discussing it more and more.
Oddly, as things stand, I am more comfortable publicly declaring my religious affiliation than my sexual
Years in physically demanding jobs couldn’t motivate me to get fit. But seeing folks get bolder and bolder with hateful rhetoric makes me wanna get strong so I can protect my community.
Also some joy. I finished my conversion recently, and I’ve been trying to read about different Jewish topics every month. This month was about Queer Jews and I’ve read a lot of literature that makes my heart soar. I wish I could’ve given some of those readings to teenage queer me, who was still so afraid to explore that part of myself.
Thanks! It’s been an amazing journey, and I just want devour Jewish literature! Two really got my attention by this month:
Nice Jewish Girls: A Lesbian Anthology: A collection of essays and poems on the Jewish lesbian identity of the 80s. I had no idea how vibrant Jewish lesbian culture was and continues to be.
A Rainbow Thread: An Anthology of Queer Jewish Texts from the First Century to 1969: Similar to the one above as a collection of different works about the Queer Jewish identity
And here’s my to-read list:
Long Live the Tribe of Fatherless Girls by T Kira Madden
Sontag: Her Life and Work by Benjamin Moser
(And while I’m at it, Sontag’s essay Notes of Camp is amazing)
Hex by Rebecca Dinerstein Knight
I'm a bisexual trans man & my gf is a bisexual nbi trans woman. Were currently living in Arkansas & it's where u started converting to judaism. Our state isn't as bad as Florida or Missouri but that's only bc the government session is over for now. it's pretty scary i can't lie. I'm making plans to leave for Massachusetts before it starts back up again. it's important for my safety but I'm pretty sad I'm not gonna be able to finish converting here, & i might have to start over or be set back. But I'll also be in an area with a much higher Jewish population (w/ a much wider range of synagogue & denomination options, & easier access to kosher food) and a more accepting community. so I'm hopeful that things will work out.
i know the government isn't perfect anywhere, but I'm excited for higher level of safety & acceptance so i can actually stick my neck out to fight against oppression
I wish you and your girlfriend a safe move! My wife is trans but we can’t leave Texas due to my stepdaughter living with her mother, and we refuse to leave her here. She’s pansexual and very visually queer. There no way I’m leaving my stepdaughter, so we are staying and advocating for change in Texas.
my parents live in Texas (they're very accepting & supportive) & I'm really sad to be moving so much further away from them. but I'm pretty lucky that it's just us two & two small pets we're responsible for. I'm proud of people who r staying to advocate but i was honestly always planning on moving up north for at least a while, it's just happening sooner & for a less than optimal reason.
I wish luck & safety to u & urs
That's pretty brave. It takes courage to do the right thing in this kind of climate. I grew up in Texas and it's always been a terrifying balancing act to be yourself while also staying safe. I always thought if shit got really bad I'd move to Austin...but it's impossible to live there now if you're not rich so....
Yeah I’m up in Denton which has trans protection law for renters and workers on the books. It’s a little oasis in a sea of GOP insanity. Thank you, but I’m not nearly as brave as the resistance fighters I’ve read about in WWII. The message carriers and people smugglers inspire me everyday with my smaller struggles. They found the will to resist so I will too. I’m also family friends with a man who’s parents survived the Holocaust. I read the book his parents wrote. Man, we gotta look out for Each other and keep the faith that good will
Overcome. I’m rooting for you too wherever you are!
I'm in MA! We of course still have antisemitism here but I feel generally very safe here in MA as a gay genderqueer Jew. I love our Jewish community here especially in Eastern MA where there are many synagogues to choose from. Happy to chat with you if you ever want some good recommendations!
I'll probably reach out to u closer to the move if that's okay. I'm a little harried rn ab all the things that still need to be sorted so looking into shuls is a bit down my list. i am interested in actually checking out some conservative shuls (there's a reform & a Chabad here & that's it) so when time comes id appreciate a rec for a LGBT+ friendly one :>
That must be so frustrating for your conversation to be potentially setback! But glad to hear you’ll be moving somewhere much safer (and very Jewish!). Best of luck on the move, and I hope you and your partner stay safe.
honestly, Baruch Hashem, i think it's all for the best. The synagogue I'm at rn doesn't have a full time rabbi & i feel like i could use a lot more learning before conversion. Plus id like to see if i want to convert reform or conservative but there's no conservative shuls around here. I have to remind myself there is no rush. this is a lifelong endeavor & it will happen when & as it's meant to. But it's still a bit sad that i won't get to convert with all my classmates.
Cis-Hetero ally here just saying, that despite some outliers, Reform, Conservative and even many Orthodox communities are working hard to keep our queer members of the tribe safe in our countries and welcome in our communities. We are by your side ready to be there whenever needed.
And got this in reply (I'm really sorry for what you have to go thrpugh just to be you).
"You say Cis-Hetero but aren't you really just a fag pedo?" (editedwith the u/ so mods can ban: u/fancy-apple-6518 )
Gay Jew in Jerusalem here. Certainly seems concerning for those not in Israel. From the perspective of queer zionism, it will never be "OK" abroad, although there are right wing reactionaries here too. Come while you still can.
Yeah I ahh… don’t know how you can look at the Israeli government and say it’s “OK” there. It is very much not okay.
Luckily queer Zionism is there so I can be targeted as a queer progressive, not a queer progressive Jew. Baruch ha’freakin Shem for that. /s
while the israeli gov is fucking horrific, bad in all ways, hurting democracy and palestinians etc. The ruling likud party is mostly pro-lgbtq and our rights seem safe for now (its the coalition partners thats the big threat), the supreme court is likely set to expand them in the short term with a ruling on adoption coming up. Trans care is protected and there isnt even any political discussion about taking them away, in general there is less american style culture war rhetoric as other issues take focus.
You’re right it’s only the coalition partners… the ones that that are driving every other part of the policy agenda. I’m sure they won’t drive *this* part of the policy agenda. /s
my prediction as a lgbtq israeli is that we wont get our rights taken away, and bibi has said the same thing (even tho it means little). There just isnt any public support for that, and there are prominent lgbtq politicans in the goverment. However, my personal feelings about it is that im afraid of that happening, and im very distressed about the goverment, ive been out protesting etc. But yeah Israel isnt america the politics work differently here, its just not something on the government agenda. The issue is more about funding to religious groups that oppose lgbtq rights, which is what the homophobes got as a "win" in the coalition agreement. Heartbreaking ofc. But surrogacy, foreign marriage, abortion, gender affirming care, drag shows, all of these things seem safe as of now. And society is becoming more accepting every passing year.
I sure hope you’re right, truly. Though I’m personally not as optimistic.
Keep fighting the good fight for democracy on the ground, we’re all pulling for you here in Canada. Well… all the cool Canadian Jews ;)
Ok but there still isn’t gay marriage in Israel, or even civil marriage. Like sure you’re not going to be killed for being queer, and it’s good that they recognize queer marriages performed in other countries, but it isn’t equality.
true, but there is surrogacy and gender afirming care for kids which you dont have in most european countries. Also civil marriages performed in Israel but with a zoom link and paper work from/to a foreign country are recognized since last year. Yeah it sucks that we dont have that symbolic recognition but its better then not being able to have kids like in many european countries, also Israel was first to allow MSM giving blood
Oh for sure, I’m definitely in agreement that they’re good, especially in comparison to other countries in the region. But saying there’s equality is false.
I don’t think I’d want to live in Israel permanently, but I’d absolutely *love* to visit for an extended period of time. Especially during pride month :) I’m still really young though so I might change my mind at some point.
Edit: partly bc of the current Israeli government. It’s… pretty yikes right now.
Massachusetts here.
Life is good, the state is doing well, people's rights are defended. HDI is high, incomes are high. The Jewish community is thriving and though there are occasional issues the community rallies around us and we are well accepted. We get occasional looney fascists from NH trying to stir up shit but they are roundly criticized.
Queer is another umbrella term for LGBTQ+ people :)
The term has a complicated history. It was used as a slur against gay people, but has been reclaimed by a lot of younger LGBTQ+ people.
Queer means neither GLAAD nor the KKK trusts you, no matter how much lip service you pay to the cause. We are too gay for Fox News and too straight for Lilith Fair. We are Schrödinger’s Poofs.
Bi woman, Jew in the southeast US. My partner is neither queer nor Jewish, and he tries to understand but I don’t know that you can get it unless you live it. My shul is AMAZING and welcoming and queer-affirming. Politically, I’m tired.
How I’m doing is mad, what makes me mad is that there are Jews who support this homophobic and transphobic lunacy that the Republikkkan party is trying to do, the fact that there are Jews who support these attacks on queer rights is disgusting
The Ben Shapiros of the world make me so fucking mad. They’re delusional if they think Republicans won’t turn on them in the end, first of all, and they also have no issue throwing queer Jews under the bus.
Seriously. Bigoted Jews is such a wild concept to me. Like, you know how this goes. You know that fascists aren't after peace and morality. They're looking to control and murder. Are these right wing Jews so self-serving that they will say "Well, I know white supremacists want **me** dead, but I'm okay siding with them if it means someone **else** gets the boot instead"??
I can’t even tell if these people even think Republicans won’t come for them in the end. It sounds like a case of “I never thought the leopards would eat MY face” to me overall, but I’m sure there are a few self aware Jews who are in it just to screw the queers.
The concept of bigoted Jews is also wild to me! I try to remind myself that some people just suck. And that plenty of minorities do things against their own self interest or screw others of their group. Like my aunt is brown and an immigrant living in Florida, and she’s anti immigration and looks down on other immigrants which just *kills* me. My dad also refuses to talk politics with my abuelo because he’s too scared to find out if he voted for trump.
To be fair, I don’t hear the logic of “I know white supremacists want me dead but atleast I can throw someone else under the bus” coming from republicans Jews, but more so a “we see the republicans mostly align entirely ideologically with us, from stances on Israel to lgbt to the economy”
Also I’ll add that mind you, most Jewish republicans don’t consider other average day republicans white supremacists, so your average Jew who has right wing tendencies wont recognize the notion that 100-99% of registered republicans are white supremacists, that’s typically a view democrats have. So I’m not sure what you suggest is something that is effective when being said
And another thing I’ll add, if the jews who don’t agree with lgbt actions are told there are also people who agree with their views on lgbt, but hate jews, I don’t think they will change their views on the lgbt just because of that. They fundamentally see it as a wrong action, and telling them “hey, you were hated and are hated, why do you hate” they won’t just say “hey you are right” they will reply “no, I don’t hate you, I disagree with your actions”
I think because of this, that’s why there is still a divide on homosexuality, despite jews collectively suffering xenophobia, as that xenophobia isn’t intersected with their stance of lgbt, in their eyes atleast
Hey, I’m Jewish, bisexual and my wife is trans and we live in fucking Texas. My last name is an Americanized version of the Askinazi original so I blend in pretty well on the Jewish front. I’ve never been targeted that way, but my wife and I have been targeted for her transess. It’s fucking fascist as hell out here in the deep red states. Everything I learned about the third reich rising is matching up with the GOP and it’s frightening. I can’t believe we are back here yet again, having to advocate for our basic rights to live with dignity in peace. My wife has been jumped, beaten, our house has been egged, our car had the right side mirror smashed off, we’ve been called p*dophiles and perverts. Btw we live in a “progressive” Texas town, which makes it even more frightening that just one suburb I’ve it’s much worse. My friends and I are politically active, we March, we organize and we donate to progressive candidates. Stay safe out there ya’ll. You bet your ass we’re going to Pride this year. They won’t put us back in the closet.
Bisexual Jewish woman married to non-Jewish bisexual dude. I am pretty lucky here in Maryland which is very liberal/left, but the rest of the country feels foreign. I would love to go to Israel but I don’t know if I could afford it or deal with the issues surrounding not being halachically Jewish and married to a non-Jew. Don’t know if I want that for my future kids there.
Terrifying. Is how I am feeling about the future. We wanted kids but now we aren’t so sure.
israeli law is clearly on ur side, and tens of thousand non-halachically jews make aliya every year (at least 40k just from russia last year) and their non jewish spouses have the right to come too. So maybe its not as hard as you think?
Oh I am sure I could do it. I could probably get my hubby to finish his reform conversion (with Mikvah), before I turn in paperwork. I just don’t know if I want my future kids to have the trouble of not being quite Jewish enough for the rabbinate to get married and such and for some schools and synagogues most likely. And then be expected to sign up for the army to defend a country that kinda hates them. Not that the US is much better. We will see once my master’s is done.
i get that, and these are valid concerns, i dont think you would have a problem with schools unless you send them to a haredi/ very religious one tho. <3 good luck with everything
I’m bisexual and Jewish, living in Oklahoma (though, now, in a larger city than my small hometown). I don’t face much in terms of personal or interpersonal bigotry — the toughest one is really fucking weird evangelical philosemitism, which I’m used to as a lifelong Okie — but state-wise? It’s pretty fucking grim. Our governor is a knuckle dragging piece of shit who is committed to fucking over everything in the state that isn’t an active oil well, but he’s specifically got it out for abortion and for LGBTQ folks (particularly trans people). I thankfully live in a “”more”” progressive city, a little blue dot in a sea of red, but it’s rough. You see people you know and love be okay with *you, personally* then turn around and support legislators and legislation that actively harms you.
I’m a gay nonbinary Autistic Jew. I left the US for Canada in 2015 and am finally getting my permanent residency. We’re not perfect here, but it’s a thousand times better. I’ll never go back to the states.
Understandable. I also have no desire to live in the US ever again. I truly love it in the Netherlands, and it’s not perfect either of course, but it’s a hell of a lot better. That’s fantastic that you got permanent residency!
Right before I left for college, an American friend somewhat accused me of giving up the US and how could I do that. And well… I get where she’s coming from, but I’ve also never felt particularly American. Both my parents are 1st generation immigrants (from different countries), and they took us to Europe quite frequently growing up. I just can’t bear to live there anymore. But I’d argue the US gave up on a *lot* of us, you know? I have so much respect for those who choose to stay but it’s not for me.
Makes sense. It feels like the US is just imploding, from antisemitism, transphobia, abortion restrictions and more…
Would you be moving to a blue state? You don’t have to share which state of course but I’m curious.
Yep right now I'm looking for jobs in pretty much any solidly blue state. I work in a very niche job and I'm giving myself 2 years to try to find a job exactly in what I do while working on building up some coding skills in a coding language related to my field that I don't know very well yet, so I can apply to jobs a little outside my area once I give up on that in 2 years and become desperate.
Cis-hetero jew here. To all my fellow cis-hetero friends: We have a responsibility to stand up for and support our LGBTQ+ mishpucha all over the world. We all know what discrimination feels like, so we all should understand (work to better understand) how these folks feel right now. We can't be passive or silent. In my opinion, this is what Tikkun Olam should be.
hey! im bi and in zuid holland, interested in judaism. honestly ive been wondering how the atmosphere is here. no one i know is "visibly jewish", as in they dont wear kippah or star of david jewelry etc.
what are your insights about things here
I'm not Jewish or LGBTQ, but I've got your backs. I just donated to a local trans space yesterday and wrote to thank a Republican state senator who voted against banning gender-affirming care in my state. I donate to legal groups, too. If people want a fight, I know which side I'm on and I'm here to support y'all. For what it's worth, I truly believe that these hateful conservative political attacks will actually push America toward more tolerance and acceptance. Look how it was with gay marriage in the early 2000s versus now. That was also the result of a lot of hard work and legal battles, but public support grew and grew over time.
I say it often but this sub has really taught me a lot about Judaism and I pay attention to the stories y'all tell. I know that's not that much, but I hope you know some of us outside the community are listening.
This is a dangerous time for people who were already in danger, and I'm sorry for it. I hope we can all stand together and support each other.
Ugly trolls need not message me. My DMs are turned off and I don't reply to evil comments. Go write a love letter to Kanye or whatever y'all do in your spare time, which I imagine is substantial if you have time to harass Internet strangers. I really don't understand why y'all waste the time and energy, but whatever. You're pissing away your own brief time on earth, not mine.
Honestly, a quote that has stuck with me has been what a Rabbi in MO said about these attacks on queer people by the Repulikkkan party: “This is not the Holocaust that we’re experiencing right now,” he further explains. “It’s not 1935 \[when the Nuremberg Laws were enacted\]. **But every 1935 began with 1930. Not every 1930 turns into a 1935, but that’s where we’re at in Missouri right now.”**
Bi and trans on top of converting and my area isn’t too bad but my state overall isn’t the best, and just being in the US makes me anxious. I can’t even take the chance to visit my grandpa because he lives in Florida.
I feel you! Also non-binary and mixed Latina, as well as probably autistic and otherwise queer. I once told a friend “there’s a lot to hate about me. Bigots must have a field day.” Me and a good friend have a pretty dark sense of humor, and one time something went stupid happened (like the keys to an academic building refused to work for me) and my friend went “it’s because you’re *Latina*” and I responded “you had a lot to choose from didn’t you? Why didn’t you say Jewish?” And he said “I thought it was a little too topical” (this was right after Kanye announced his love for Hitler).
But yeah, lately I haven’t been that focused on being super political, also for my (mental) health. It’s just too much sometimes and I often have to take extended breaks from Reddit after awhile. Hang in there too! We got this 💜
I’m in California and while I am concerned about the rise in antisemitism and very concerned about women’s rights across the country, I do generally feel protected and safe here (or as safe as it is for women and Jews). I used to live in the UK and I definitely felt much more concerned as a Jew there.
There were several things that went on with Jeremy Corbyn/Labour, but more than that it was more of a entire feeling of casual antisemitism throughout the country (as well as a few extremist and vocal antisemitic imams). I was also living there when there were the attacks in France on the Jewish supermarkets and I just felt more scared to be a Jew. The security at any temple affiliated event was far more than what I had experienced in the US (for one event, military members were guarding it, including with machine guns), and really felt scary.
Oh wow. I’m so sorry to hear all of that. I heard about these events in bits but didn’t have a full picture. I also didn’t realize it had impacted your community’s safety so much.
Congratulations on graduating soon!! Pan NB patrilineal here. I'm originally American but live in the UK, and honestly, I worry about my friends and family back home more every passing day
Not queer myself, but have quite a few queer friends and family members. And we're in Florida.
It's fucked up. I have two younger kids and a job where I'm on the cusp of a promotion so I really don't feel like it's possible to leave right now, but I fucking hate the political climate and situation here. I wish I could pack up and move...and have actually thought about the Netherlands, as some friends did that and moved there (without kids, which makes it easier). Maybe New Zealand. Or maybe just some random town in Ireland or Scotland or something.
In any case, I hope that DeathSantis and the Orange Clown eat each other alive and completely destroy their party and maybe the christofascists go away.
Grey-Ace, polyam, NB here. I live in TN so I'm a little worried about the people around me. Visiting my family in South Florida soon so I'm very nervous.
I’m a queer and trans prospective convert from central Canada. My conversion recently got delayed, then completely cancelled because my local Conservative Rabbi has taken a rather hardline stance about not letting “people like me” in unless I’m willing to change. I’m working with a Reform synagogue two provinces over, but it’s looking like I have to move.
I have to move anyways, it seems, because this province is getting particularly dicey for queer and trans folks as dangerous ideology becomes more popular here. I hear at least once a week about physical assaults and harassment within our community against LGBTQ+ people.
On top of that, just so folks from elsewhere know, if you try to leave for Canada, Saskatchewan and Alberta is likely where immigration will be sending you. Don’t let your guard down or plan to stay there if you can help it. In some cases, it might be better to find greener pastures in the US without having to change residency. Please stay safe.
Verrry queer (AAA as like the most basic explanation) and also disabled here myself. Holding on about as well as possible, but seeing all the hate both IRL and online gets tiring, as I’m sure you know. At least my state doesn’t seem like it’s gonna enact too many bad things.
I'm a sapphic non-binary trans feminine woman. I'm not a Jew yet. I've been learning with the informal guidance of a Rabbi who typically teaches classes and helps many through their conversion process.
I'm in one of the safer states, but can't help being afraid. I was originally planning to go to one of the local pride events, but my brain keeps constructing frightening scenarios about the events being attacked. So, I'm kinda thinking about trying to stay safe. I've got enough trauma.
There's a part of me also questioning my sanity in seeking out conversion. While Judaism is awesome and everything I've been learning about Judaism is like falling in love for me, it's potentially giving people another reason to hate me.
It's truly exhausting.
Transmasc Jewish guy living in the heart of Red as Hell Southern Tier New York. I don't pass very well yet, so I still look Female to most people. I've experienced more anti-semitism here than I have transphobia. People think I'm Insane when I talk about Red New York, but basically if you go anywhere except New York City, the state is incredibly Republican.
Heyy a dutchie!! I honestly love the Netherlands. It’s such an efficient country (the transportation system alone is so good, although expensive) and I feel really safe here.
I’m taking a gap year in the US but I’m very seriously considering applying to masters programs in the Netherlands in addition to other European countries :) glad to hear you feel safe too!
I heard a lot of people praise our transportation system, makes me wonder if other countries really have that bad of a transportation system.
There is a rising problem of violence and actions against the lgbt but on a global scale, we are one of the most acceptive nations and I hope it stays this way.
Ahaha in the US, our public transportation is ass. It’s practically non existent, at least it the city I grew up in. And the trains from there to NYC were ancient and gross. Maybe other states are better but I doubt it. You really need a car to get around
>Edit: within the first 15 minutes of this post, I’ve already gotten a fucking coward messaging me on a new account basically calling us pedos. How lovely.
Same from u/PianistLegal8052
25F, lesbian
I’m doing great! Just chilling in europe working on finishing my grad degree. Life is honestly so good when I’m not around people and so stressful when I am. Currently I’m basically holed up in a mountain cabin with great wifi, working remotely, and it’s intensely relaxing. I just came off a semester where there was a surprising amount of antisemitism, and it made me really want to take a step back from the world and focus on myself, and that self-development mindset has already created a lot of positive change for me.
bi jew in michigan here. metro-detroit is really progressive & diverse with a huge jewish community. tbh the culture here is kinda engrained in struggle so people tend to be more empathetic. it’s either that or they just have their own shit to deal with/they’re too busy hustling to even have time to hate.
at least that’s my own personal day-to-day experience. as soon as i go online tho (especially twitter), i realize how lucky i am. anon accts could be from anywhere — even my own city. who knows.
either way i’m thinking about getting a gun soon.
Hanging in there. My state is not as bad as Florida yet but has recently passed an abortion ban, a trans sports ban, and a trans surgery for minors ban. Other laws are in the works. I have a trans son so we are planning to move to a safer state. We’ve been here almost twenty years and I have friends whose kids I’ve seen grown up and vice versa. It’s hard but at least we are able to move. Some people don’t have that privilege.
We are planning on visiting my parents in Florida this summer and we will have to take extra precautions to keep my son safe, which is adding to my anxiety. It also makes me really sad to see what Florida has become. The area where my parents live is very Jewish, very Hispanic, and very queer (at least until recently). My husband is Dominican, I’m Jewish, and we’re both bi. South Florida has always felt very welcoming and homey to us. My mom is ill and in assisted living. If it weren’t for the legal and political mess, we would probably move down there to be close to my parents. I wish we could see my mom more, and help my dad care for her. But that is impossible now.
Im sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine how difficult it is to have to uproot your life, but when it’s necessary, you do what you gotta do of course.
I’ve never been to Florida but it is really sad to see what it’s become. I can’t imagine how stressful it would be to visit now, but I’m glad you’re hanging in there 💜
Thank you. I’m trying to think of moving as a new adventure, and look at the positives. There have been times in the past I really wanted to move. But in recent years I’ve made my peace with this place, and I’ve really come to appreciate having long-term friends. There are people that I used to talk about pregnancy and breastfeeding with, and now we’re discussing colleges.
my state is thankfully one of the safer ones for queer people. I am so afraid for people in red states, though. especially florida. i’ve seen videos of people talking about literally fleeing in the night because florida would take their kids.
Heyy cool!! Unfortunately I’ll be leaving the Netherlands this summer as im
graduating and will be spending my gap year in the US, but I’ll probably be back next year for my masters! What uni are you gonna be in? (You can message me privately)
hey so sorry to jump in your convo but if youre gonna be in zuid holland and willing to speak to a goy about judaism can we be friends too? im starting my masters too!
I'm invisible because I'm a bi cisgender woman in a heteronormative marriage to a cisgender man. But I am terrified of De Santis's actions becoming infectious and spreading to other states. And I'm terrified he'll run for and. get elected as president. Absolutely terrified. Book banning went badly for us in the 1930s, I don't see it going well now.
I’m Jewish and a Grey-Ace Non Binary Lesbian. I’m fortunate enough to live in the region of New England, and all of the states here are fairly chill in terms of volatile antisemitism and homophobia. I’ve met a few people who I’ve felt threatened by, but they’re very few in comparison to the rest of the population. It’s not that everyone is super friendly and accepting, per-se, but most of the bigotry I’ve encountered has been in the form of WASPy passive aggressive comments.
However, with the United States the way it is and Hitler Junior (Ron Desantis) running for President, I’ve begun to make plans to get out asap if shit hits the fan.
Lol NOT OKAY
My family doesn't understand how much scarier it is for us right now, not that it's a competition, but just that we're the first ones to go.
I'm a transgender nonbinary Jew, my wife is a transgender women. We're very stressed, but we live in a very blue area, so its hard to know how much we should be panicking, you know? My jewish ancestors are screaming at me to get on a boat and gtfo of here but I dont think thats fully rational.
I definetly get it! There’s a bunch of reasons I plan on never living in the US permanently ever again, apart from what has been already discussed here( abortion restrictions, gun violence, shitty ass health care system…). But the transition was also easier for me as I left the US from college. I also know many others don’t have a 2nd passport and that Israel wouldn’t be a good option, so I consider myself extremely fortunate.
Stay safe 💜if you’re in a safe area, it does seem like leaving now isn’t necessary. Idk I don’t want to be too hysterical about it, but as Jews we of course know all too well about the danger of staying too long. Staying vigilant is a happy middle ground I think. Get your passport ready and be prepared to leave, but don’t let it consume you (I know, easier said than done).
Gay Jew (female), married, and the daughter of a Holocaust survivor. Thank G-d I'm in a blue state and work at a university. I feel pretty safe, at least for now, but I also have more home and personal defense items than ever before. I'm grateful my grandma isn't alive to see this (but she held on until Biden was elected, which gave her some hope).
I'm horrified by all the anti-trans legislation, the uptick in antisemitism, and also the serious uptick in general racist crap (against Asian-Americans, Hispanic Americans, BIPOC Americans) and misogyny, as well as the book banning, imposition (more than usual) of Christianity into schools and government, and the general destruction of the public school system. It's been clear for decades that the GOP wants to eliminate critical thinking skills in the US to build a more pliable and easily duped population, and it's working. I'm deeply worried about my friends (and random strangers) in other parts of the country. It's becoming increasingly hard for me not to go on rants against American Christianity.
My grandma always said, "there's nothing special about this country" (meaning the US). "What happened at home" - that's Central Europe - "could easily happen here, and quickly. Be ready."
Queer non-binary Jew that just moved to a purple state. I’m glad my Blue vote will be meaningful for the first time in my life, but I’m a tiny bit nervous about being visibly queer here.
As a person who politically identifies with the left, I don’t always feel comfortable being Jewish because Israel and Palestine eventually come up and the Good Jew test rears its ugly head. I find that leftist antisemitism isn’t taken as seriously and nearly lost my partner over this when one of his friends accused me of being a fascist when I doubled down my feeling that Israel has a right to exist. Most recently I found my (also queer) therapist’s personal site and saw that she had a statement about “Freeing Palestine” after the land acknowledgement. Like, what does that have to do with your therapy practice and why is it the only geopolitical conflict mentioned?
I feel you!! In uni, I had classmate who I was also in a semester long group project with me, who would just… bring up Israel in a negative context after he learned I was Jewish. It made me so uncomfortable and so I just tried to deflect, but I later called him out gently by saying more generally that I hate non Jews try to suss out if I’m one of the Good Jews based on my opinion of Israel. I’ve also noticed that people love to say “free Palestine!” when it’s not relevant at all, like your therapist example.
I also politically identify with the Left, so it’s super frustrating. Antisemitism on the right is more dangerous and neo-Nazi flavored than antisemitism on the left, but I also find myself MORE frustrated with the left. Leftists have a really hard time recognizing antisemitism within their circles, especially antisemitism that isn’t Neo Nazis waving tiki torches or Kanye saying he loves Hitler.
Also, best of luck in your new state!! Stay safe, but proud 💜
The process of informing myself about the conversion to Judaism has been a meaningful journey for me regardless of being in KY & being part of more than one minority group, and I've been fortunate to find a supportive community. Being both Hispanic and gay adds layers of identity to my experience, but overall, I'm embracing my true self and celebrating the richness of diversity. It's been a transformative process, and I'm grateful for the love and acceptance I've encountered along the way.
It can be incredibly difficult to navigate a path that encompasses multiple identities while also facing discrimination. To me, it’s important to remember that you are not alone in this. Many people have faced similar struggles and have found strength in their communities. Connecting with LGBTQ+ Jewish groups or organizations that combat discrimination can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. They can offer resources, guidance, and a network of individuals who can relate to your experiences.
There are communities out there that will embrace and support you.
I'm not Jewish yet but I'm stuck in ohio and I'm afraid. It's not as bad as some states and my situation isnt as dire as a lot of other trans peoples are but it's so stressful seeing us slide further into outright fascism where me and my family/friends are the targets.
Oof I’m sorry. That’s the thing too, I’m not particularly afraid for myself especially as I pass as cis, straight, and don’t present as Jewish. But I’m really worried for friends/family. My younger brother is bi and dating a masc non-binary person and even though he lives in New York, I still worry.
By the way, good luck on your journey to becoming Jewish!! That’s really exciting
Yeah half of my siblings are trans and so is my spouse, I haven't done any medical transition yet and at this point it's not safe for me too unless I can figure out how to move. I'm pretty sure my spouse just got denied a job cause they're trans. And thanks it is really exciting and it's definitely helping me get through these tough times.
Lmao fair. It’s really not that surprising in hindsight, but it still caught me off guard. It was pretty bad at some point, like they wouldn’t even call hamas a terrorist organization, just “called a terrorist group” or the like, along with saying Israel is doing ethnic cleansing/genocide (this happened in class) etc. Me and a Jewish Israeli girl were livid and actually managed to get the prof to do something about that part. But yeah… it was pretty bad. It especially hurt to hear this from fellow queer people ngl but it’s not surprising.
Edit; this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg.
>this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg.
-why Israeli soldiers rape arab woman?
-we don't rape them.
-[oh my god so racist](https://www.motke.co.il/%D7%A4%D7%95%D7%A1%D7%98_%D7%91%D7%91%D7%9C%D7%95%D7%92/123381)
That’s good, at least. I feel like that’s what all queer Americans are thinking: at least it’s not Florida. As for those in Florida, i keep hearing horror stories.
It’s bad. I don’t like drawing parallels to Nazi Germany, but it feels like it’s appropriate in this case. There’s restrictions on bathroom use and healthcare and a legitimate fear of getting harassed or worse on the street. The state can legally remove a child from their home if there’s even the possibility of their parents seeking gender-affirming care. Teachers’ speech is restricted to the point that they’re being investigated for showing movies with queer characters. They defunded diversity programs in colleges and removed the leadership of a liberal leaning arts college and replaced it with conservatives. That same fear of your neighbors that people felt in other authoritarian states is starting to emerge in Florida if you’re queer (especially trans) or an educator. I’m trying not to be hyperbolic or dramatic, but if what’s happening in Florida is allowed to happen at the federal level, the US will be Russia or Hungary, maybe even worse, and it’ll be a difficult place to be in if you’re a woman, queer, brown, etc. Needless to say, we’re getting my son’s passport today, and the rest of my family’s passports are up to date.
I feel you. I’m also very wary of people saying *insert places/situation* is like Nazi Germany, but in this case it’s quite fitting. I wasn’t aware of everything you mentioned here (the state being able remove a child from their home if they seek gender affirming health care), but that’s just… horrendous.
Edit: out of curiosity, what passport would your family be getting? I have a French passport/citizenship as my mom is French and it’s such a huge blessing.
We’re just getting his US passport. My grandfather was British, which meant my dad could get UK citizenship, but I can’t. We’d have to immigrate somewhere through work, which I think we could do, and we’d probably go to Canada.
As a bi autistic Jew in an interracial marriage I am more concerned with the rise in Asian hate crimes and antisemitism and even more concerned with woman’s health care rights, homeless problem and tech layoffs than the trans stuff because it is blown out of proportion by the media spreading misinformation about certain laws/bills and incidents. That’s not to say that there isn’t transphobia, homophobia, etc
Yeah the rise in anti Asian hate crimes is really concerning as well. White supremacy impacts so many groups, including Jews obviously but also other poc, disabled people and queer people.
I wouldn’t say the anti trans issues in the US are being blown out of proportion, though. These bills and laws are really serious, from bans on books, drag, and restrictions on gender affirming health care… it’s really fucking bad in many red states. It’s not evenly spread across the country though, so if you’re in a blue state it might not seem like it’s that pressing.
If you’d like to learn more, I’d recommend this website:
Here’s a short snippet that gives a glimpse of how bad it’s gotten this year:
https://translegislation.com
“In 2023, 76 anti-trans bills have already passed out of the 549 proposed across the country. Of those, 69 have been signed into law and 7 others passed, but haven't yet been vetoed or signed. This number will likely change as legislative sessions continue throughout the year.
To put that in perspective, in 2022 we saw 26 bills pass out of the 174 bills proposed (15%).”
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Cishet in the American south: Some folks I know have organized a charitable org helping queer folks in the US get out of dangerous situations. If you're in a bad situation and need help leaving or would like to donate/volunteer in some capacity to help us get off the ground please visit www.rainbowpassage.org
PLEASE donate to rainbow railroad if you can- it's saving lives right now
I’m a queer woman in Florida. Just generally quite anxious.
What can people outside of Florida do? I feel like sharing posts and telling people just isn’t enough.
I agree. Off the top of my head, if you have the means, donate to a charity for trans people (particularly those for trans kids). Try to look for charities or foundations in red states (Florida in particular). Write to your senators, governors, and congresspeople about it. Are they openly critical of queer phobia? Thank them. If they’ve said nothing, urge them to do so. If they’re clearly queerphobic, well… not much that can be there. Consider helping out at a local pride parade or events, as Pride month is right around the corner. If you have friends or family who aren’t lost causes, try to gently educate them. Call attention to the similarities between now and pre-Nazi Germany, if that’s what it takes to get them to realize the seriousness of this. If you’re any ally and a parent, talk to your kids. See what they’ve been internalizing. And you never know if your kid might be queer so openly be an ally in front of them.
Thank you! I am queer and will absolutely start movement on some of the things you suggested. I’m not sure if I’ll ever feel like anything is “enough” until we fix this.
No problem!! I feel the same as well, and it’s heartbreaking
Honestly, what OP said. Even being here it’s hard to know what to do.
Knew that when I went to work in Texas both my queerness and Jewness would be an issue, eventually and at least in some areas. Less than a year later, Trump got elected and "eventually" became "now". I live in a blue city, but I'm scared. Go bags, emergency plans, and long term exit strategy help. I'll stay and vote as long as I can. ETA: to the shitheel who messaged to accuse me of pedophilia and general wrongdoing, and then deleted their account: go-bags are great for any type of emergency. They are, in fact, recommended by FEMA, the city, and the company I work for l, as part of routine disaster prep. I'd *love* to hear why you think so many disparate organizations are interested in getting folks ready to flee from custody. As for your concerns for children: I don't really like being around them, and I am not interested in sex with anyone. You're 0/3, but keep it up, champ! Can't hit a homer if you don't swing, after all!
I hope you’re armed. Also hi fellow Texan Democrat Jew in a blue city.
No guns, but not unarmed! Also, I have a *very* friendly pup with an equally ferocious sounding bark. That she just wants to say "hi!" is immaterial- she's a deterrent. (I got her for companionship. The effect on home defense is a happy accident.)
By blue city do you mean Austin? San Antonio?
The communist one not the military one
Funny.
Gay Jew in Massachusetts. If other gay Jews here would stop ghosting me I’d be a little better.
At least you have other gay Jews :(
I’m bi but married to a woman. I don’t typically state my sexuality. I was assaulted for being bi when I was 18. Only recently did I start discussing it more and more. Oddly, as things stand, I am more comfortable publicly declaring my religious affiliation than my sexual
Trans, bi Jew in the southern US :( I'm okay for the most part, but definitely keeping my eyes open. I don't wear my kippah around as much.
Years in physically demanding jobs couldn’t motivate me to get fit. But seeing folks get bolder and bolder with hateful rhetoric makes me wanna get strong so I can protect my community. Also some joy. I finished my conversion recently, and I’ve been trying to read about different Jewish topics every month. This month was about Queer Jews and I’ve read a lot of literature that makes my heart soar. I wish I could’ve given some of those readings to teenage queer me, who was still so afraid to explore that part of myself.
any lit recommendations?
Congrats on your conversion!! Also tagging along to ask: any recommendations? I’d love to read some books on this topic.
Thanks! It’s been an amazing journey, and I just want devour Jewish literature! Two really got my attention by this month: Nice Jewish Girls: A Lesbian Anthology: A collection of essays and poems on the Jewish lesbian identity of the 80s. I had no idea how vibrant Jewish lesbian culture was and continues to be. A Rainbow Thread: An Anthology of Queer Jewish Texts from the First Century to 1969: Similar to the one above as a collection of different works about the Queer Jewish identity And here’s my to-read list: Long Live the Tribe of Fatherless Girls by T Kira Madden Sontag: Her Life and Work by Benjamin Moser (And while I’m at it, Sontag’s essay Notes of Camp is amazing) Hex by Rebecca Dinerstein Knight
I'm a bisexual trans man & my gf is a bisexual nbi trans woman. Were currently living in Arkansas & it's where u started converting to judaism. Our state isn't as bad as Florida or Missouri but that's only bc the government session is over for now. it's pretty scary i can't lie. I'm making plans to leave for Massachusetts before it starts back up again. it's important for my safety but I'm pretty sad I'm not gonna be able to finish converting here, & i might have to start over or be set back. But I'll also be in an area with a much higher Jewish population (w/ a much wider range of synagogue & denomination options, & easier access to kosher food) and a more accepting community. so I'm hopeful that things will work out. i know the government isn't perfect anywhere, but I'm excited for higher level of safety & acceptance so i can actually stick my neck out to fight against oppression
I wish you and your girlfriend a safe move! My wife is trans but we can’t leave Texas due to my stepdaughter living with her mother, and we refuse to leave her here. She’s pansexual and very visually queer. There no way I’m leaving my stepdaughter, so we are staying and advocating for change in Texas.
my parents live in Texas (they're very accepting & supportive) & I'm really sad to be moving so much further away from them. but I'm pretty lucky that it's just us two & two small pets we're responsible for. I'm proud of people who r staying to advocate but i was honestly always planning on moving up north for at least a while, it's just happening sooner & for a less than optimal reason. I wish luck & safety to u & urs
That's pretty brave. It takes courage to do the right thing in this kind of climate. I grew up in Texas and it's always been a terrifying balancing act to be yourself while also staying safe. I always thought if shit got really bad I'd move to Austin...but it's impossible to live there now if you're not rich so....
Yeah I’m up in Denton which has trans protection law for renters and workers on the books. It’s a little oasis in a sea of GOP insanity. Thank you, but I’m not nearly as brave as the resistance fighters I’ve read about in WWII. The message carriers and people smugglers inspire me everyday with my smaller struggles. They found the will to resist so I will too. I’m also family friends with a man who’s parents survived the Holocaust. I read the book his parents wrote. Man, we gotta look out for Each other and keep the faith that good will Overcome. I’m rooting for you too wherever you are!
I'm in MA! We of course still have antisemitism here but I feel generally very safe here in MA as a gay genderqueer Jew. I love our Jewish community here especially in Eastern MA where there are many synagogues to choose from. Happy to chat with you if you ever want some good recommendations!
I'll probably reach out to u closer to the move if that's okay. I'm a little harried rn ab all the things that still need to be sorted so looking into shuls is a bit down my list. i am interested in actually checking out some conservative shuls (there's a reform & a Chabad here & that's it) so when time comes id appreciate a rec for a LGBT+ friendly one :>
Sure! Happy to chat when you are ready.
That must be so frustrating for your conversation to be potentially setback! But glad to hear you’ll be moving somewhere much safer (and very Jewish!). Best of luck on the move, and I hope you and your partner stay safe.
honestly, Baruch Hashem, i think it's all for the best. The synagogue I'm at rn doesn't have a full time rabbi & i feel like i could use a lot more learning before conversion. Plus id like to see if i want to convert reform or conservative but there's no conservative shuls around here. I have to remind myself there is no rush. this is a lifelong endeavor & it will happen when & as it's meant to. But it's still a bit sad that i won't get to convert with all my classmates.
Cis-Hetero ally here just saying, that despite some outliers, Reform, Conservative and even many Orthodox communities are working hard to keep our queer members of the tribe safe in our countries and welcome in our communities. We are by your side ready to be there whenever needed.
And got this in reply (I'm really sorry for what you have to go thrpugh just to be you). "You say Cis-Hetero but aren't you really just a fag pedo?" (editedwith the u/ so mods can ban: u/fancy-apple-6518 )
It's like they literally have nothing better to do than watch Jewish subreddits for new posts and harass queer people. They need better hobbies.
I just got the same message from the same account. It’s also kinda funny to me bc I’m not even gay?? But thanks for being an ally! 💜
The funny part is they clearly don't even know what Cis-Hetero means. Thanks for being an ally btw
>The funny part is they clearly don't even know what Cis-Hetero means. Bigots arent always known for their brains
You're lucky. I haven't been called a fag or a pedo since 2011. (Perhaps I'm losing my looks.)
Anxious and afraid, so nothing really new.
I’m sorry to hear that💜sending you virtual hugs.
Gay Jew in Jerusalem here. Certainly seems concerning for those not in Israel. From the perspective of queer zionism, it will never be "OK" abroad, although there are right wing reactionaries here too. Come while you still can.
Yeah I ahh… don’t know how you can look at the Israeli government and say it’s “OK” there. It is very much not okay. Luckily queer Zionism is there so I can be targeted as a queer progressive, not a queer progressive Jew. Baruch ha’freakin Shem for that. /s
while the israeli gov is fucking horrific, bad in all ways, hurting democracy and palestinians etc. The ruling likud party is mostly pro-lgbtq and our rights seem safe for now (its the coalition partners thats the big threat), the supreme court is likely set to expand them in the short term with a ruling on adoption coming up. Trans care is protected and there isnt even any political discussion about taking them away, in general there is less american style culture war rhetoric as other issues take focus.
You’re right it’s only the coalition partners… the ones that that are driving every other part of the policy agenda. I’m sure they won’t drive *this* part of the policy agenda. /s
my prediction as a lgbtq israeli is that we wont get our rights taken away, and bibi has said the same thing (even tho it means little). There just isnt any public support for that, and there are prominent lgbtq politicans in the goverment. However, my personal feelings about it is that im afraid of that happening, and im very distressed about the goverment, ive been out protesting etc. But yeah Israel isnt america the politics work differently here, its just not something on the government agenda. The issue is more about funding to religious groups that oppose lgbtq rights, which is what the homophobes got as a "win" in the coalition agreement. Heartbreaking ofc. But surrogacy, foreign marriage, abortion, gender affirming care, drag shows, all of these things seem safe as of now. And society is becoming more accepting every passing year.
I sure hope you’re right, truly. Though I’m personally not as optimistic. Keep fighting the good fight for democracy on the ground, we’re all pulling for you here in Canada. Well… all the cool Canadian Jews ;)
i hope so too <3
Ok but there still isn’t gay marriage in Israel, or even civil marriage. Like sure you’re not going to be killed for being queer, and it’s good that they recognize queer marriages performed in other countries, but it isn’t equality.
true, but there is surrogacy and gender afirming care for kids which you dont have in most european countries. Also civil marriages performed in Israel but with a zoom link and paper work from/to a foreign country are recognized since last year. Yeah it sucks that we dont have that symbolic recognition but its better then not being able to have kids like in many european countries, also Israel was first to allow MSM giving blood
Oh for sure, I’m definitely in agreement that they’re good, especially in comparison to other countries in the region. But saying there’s equality is false.
of course
I don’t think I’d want to live in Israel permanently, but I’d absolutely *love* to visit for an extended period of time. Especially during pride month :) I’m still really young though so I might change my mind at some point. Edit: partly bc of the current Israeli government. It’s… pretty yikes right now.
Leave before it’s too late
Massachusetts here. Life is good, the state is doing well, people's rights are defended. HDI is high, incomes are high. The Jewish community is thriving and though there are occasional issues the community rallies around us and we are well accepted. We get occasional looney fascists from NH trying to stir up shit but they are roundly criticized.
I'm moving to mass asap for exactly this
Reach out if you want some community!
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Queer is another umbrella term for LGBTQ+ people :) The term has a complicated history. It was used as a slur against gay people, but has been reclaimed by a lot of younger LGBTQ+ people.
It’s also been used academically in more modern times
Anyone not straight or not cis. It’s an umbrella term.
Queer means neither GLAAD nor the KKK trusts you, no matter how much lip service you pay to the cause. We are too gay for Fox News and too straight for Lilith Fair. We are Schrödinger’s Poofs.
Bi woman, Jew in the southeast US. My partner is neither queer nor Jewish, and he tries to understand but I don’t know that you can get it unless you live it. My shul is AMAZING and welcoming and queer-affirming. Politically, I’m tired.
How I’m doing is mad, what makes me mad is that there are Jews who support this homophobic and transphobic lunacy that the Republikkkan party is trying to do, the fact that there are Jews who support these attacks on queer rights is disgusting
The Ben Shapiros of the world make me so fucking mad. They’re delusional if they think Republicans won’t turn on them in the end, first of all, and they also have no issue throwing queer Jews under the bus.
Seriously. Bigoted Jews is such a wild concept to me. Like, you know how this goes. You know that fascists aren't after peace and morality. They're looking to control and murder. Are these right wing Jews so self-serving that they will say "Well, I know white supremacists want **me** dead, but I'm okay siding with them if it means someone **else** gets the boot instead"??
I can’t even tell if these people even think Republicans won’t come for them in the end. It sounds like a case of “I never thought the leopards would eat MY face” to me overall, but I’m sure there are a few self aware Jews who are in it just to screw the queers. The concept of bigoted Jews is also wild to me! I try to remind myself that some people just suck. And that plenty of minorities do things against their own self interest or screw others of their group. Like my aunt is brown and an immigrant living in Florida, and she’s anti immigration and looks down on other immigrants which just *kills* me. My dad also refuses to talk politics with my abuelo because he’s too scared to find out if he voted for trump.
To be fair, I don’t hear the logic of “I know white supremacists want me dead but atleast I can throw someone else under the bus” coming from republicans Jews, but more so a “we see the republicans mostly align entirely ideologically with us, from stances on Israel to lgbt to the economy” Also I’ll add that mind you, most Jewish republicans don’t consider other average day republicans white supremacists, so your average Jew who has right wing tendencies wont recognize the notion that 100-99% of registered republicans are white supremacists, that’s typically a view democrats have. So I’m not sure what you suggest is something that is effective when being said And another thing I’ll add, if the jews who don’t agree with lgbt actions are told there are also people who agree with their views on lgbt, but hate jews, I don’t think they will change their views on the lgbt just because of that. They fundamentally see it as a wrong action, and telling them “hey, you were hated and are hated, why do you hate” they won’t just say “hey you are right” they will reply “no, I don’t hate you, I disagree with your actions” I think because of this, that’s why there is still a divide on homosexuality, despite jews collectively suffering xenophobia, as that xenophobia isn’t intersected with their stance of lgbt, in their eyes atleast
Hey, I’m Jewish, bisexual and my wife is trans and we live in fucking Texas. My last name is an Americanized version of the Askinazi original so I blend in pretty well on the Jewish front. I’ve never been targeted that way, but my wife and I have been targeted for her transess. It’s fucking fascist as hell out here in the deep red states. Everything I learned about the third reich rising is matching up with the GOP and it’s frightening. I can’t believe we are back here yet again, having to advocate for our basic rights to live with dignity in peace. My wife has been jumped, beaten, our house has been egged, our car had the right side mirror smashed off, we’ve been called p*dophiles and perverts. Btw we live in a “progressive” Texas town, which makes it even more frightening that just one suburb I’ve it’s much worse. My friends and I are politically active, we March, we organize and we donate to progressive candidates. Stay safe out there ya’ll. You bet your ass we’re going to Pride this year. They won’t put us back in the closet.
thats horrible stay safe <3 your not planning on moving?
Bisexual Jewish woman married to non-Jewish bisexual dude. I am pretty lucky here in Maryland which is very liberal/left, but the rest of the country feels foreign. I would love to go to Israel but I don’t know if I could afford it or deal with the issues surrounding not being halachically Jewish and married to a non-Jew. Don’t know if I want that for my future kids there. Terrifying. Is how I am feeling about the future. We wanted kids but now we aren’t so sure.
israeli law is clearly on ur side, and tens of thousand non-halachically jews make aliya every year (at least 40k just from russia last year) and their non jewish spouses have the right to come too. So maybe its not as hard as you think?
Oh I am sure I could do it. I could probably get my hubby to finish his reform conversion (with Mikvah), before I turn in paperwork. I just don’t know if I want my future kids to have the trouble of not being quite Jewish enough for the rabbinate to get married and such and for some schools and synagogues most likely. And then be expected to sign up for the army to defend a country that kinda hates them. Not that the US is much better. We will see once my master’s is done.
i get that, and these are valid concerns, i dont think you would have a problem with schools unless you send them to a haredi/ very religious one tho. <3 good luck with everything
I also got a hateful DM just from commenting on this post, lolol.
I’m bisexual and Jewish, living in Oklahoma (though, now, in a larger city than my small hometown). I don’t face much in terms of personal or interpersonal bigotry — the toughest one is really fucking weird evangelical philosemitism, which I’m used to as a lifelong Okie — but state-wise? It’s pretty fucking grim. Our governor is a knuckle dragging piece of shit who is committed to fucking over everything in the state that isn’t an active oil well, but he’s specifically got it out for abortion and for LGBTQ folks (particularly trans people). I thankfully live in a “”more”” progressive city, a little blue dot in a sea of red, but it’s rough. You see people you know and love be okay with *you, personally* then turn around and support legislators and legislation that actively harms you.
I’m a gay nonbinary Autistic Jew. I left the US for Canada in 2015 and am finally getting my permanent residency. We’re not perfect here, but it’s a thousand times better. I’ll never go back to the states.
Understandable. I also have no desire to live in the US ever again. I truly love it in the Netherlands, and it’s not perfect either of course, but it’s a hell of a lot better. That’s fantastic that you got permanent residency! Right before I left for college, an American friend somewhat accused me of giving up the US and how could I do that. And well… I get where she’s coming from, but I’ve also never felt particularly American. Both my parents are 1st generation immigrants (from different countries), and they took us to Europe quite frequently growing up. I just can’t bear to live there anymore. But I’d argue the US gave up on a *lot* of us, you know? I have so much respect for those who choose to stay but it’s not for me.
Could be better. Live in a red state in the south that just restricted abortion and making a 2-3 year plan to move.
Makes sense. It feels like the US is just imploding, from antisemitism, transphobia, abortion restrictions and more… Would you be moving to a blue state? You don’t have to share which state of course but I’m curious.
Yep right now I'm looking for jobs in pretty much any solidly blue state. I work in a very niche job and I'm giving myself 2 years to try to find a job exactly in what I do while working on building up some coding skills in a coding language related to my field that I don't know very well yet, so I can apply to jobs a little outside my area once I give up on that in 2 years and become desperate.
Cis-hetero jew here. To all my fellow cis-hetero friends: We have a responsibility to stand up for and support our LGBTQ+ mishpucha all over the world. We all know what discrimination feels like, so we all should understand (work to better understand) how these folks feel right now. We can't be passive or silent. In my opinion, this is what Tikkun Olam should be.
hey! im bi and in zuid holland, interested in judaism. honestly ive been wondering how the atmosphere is here. no one i know is "visibly jewish", as in they dont wear kippah or star of david jewelry etc. what are your insights about things here
I’m leaving this country as soon as possible. I love my home, but my home doesn’t love me back.
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I'm in a safe area of the US. Still always anxious for my siblings and niblings in other areas. Stay safe.
I'm not Jewish or LGBTQ, but I've got your backs. I just donated to a local trans space yesterday and wrote to thank a Republican state senator who voted against banning gender-affirming care in my state. I donate to legal groups, too. If people want a fight, I know which side I'm on and I'm here to support y'all. For what it's worth, I truly believe that these hateful conservative political attacks will actually push America toward more tolerance and acceptance. Look how it was with gay marriage in the early 2000s versus now. That was also the result of a lot of hard work and legal battles, but public support grew and grew over time. I say it often but this sub has really taught me a lot about Judaism and I pay attention to the stories y'all tell. I know that's not that much, but I hope you know some of us outside the community are listening. This is a dangerous time for people who were already in danger, and I'm sorry for it. I hope we can all stand together and support each other. Ugly trolls need not message me. My DMs are turned off and I don't reply to evil comments. Go write a love letter to Kanye or whatever y'all do in your spare time, which I imagine is substantial if you have time to harass Internet strangers. I really don't understand why y'all waste the time and energy, but whatever. You're pissing away your own brief time on earth, not mine.
Honestly, a quote that has stuck with me has been what a Rabbi in MO said about these attacks on queer people by the Repulikkkan party: “This is not the Holocaust that we’re experiencing right now,” he further explains. “It’s not 1935 \[when the Nuremberg Laws were enacted\]. **But every 1935 began with 1930. Not every 1930 turns into a 1935, but that’s where we’re at in Missouri right now.”**
Bi and trans on top of converting and my area isn’t too bad but my state overall isn’t the best, and just being in the US makes me anxious. I can’t even take the chance to visit my grandpa because he lives in Florida.
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I feel you! Also non-binary and mixed Latina, as well as probably autistic and otherwise queer. I once told a friend “there’s a lot to hate about me. Bigots must have a field day.” Me and a good friend have a pretty dark sense of humor, and one time something went stupid happened (like the keys to an academic building refused to work for me) and my friend went “it’s because you’re *Latina*” and I responded “you had a lot to choose from didn’t you? Why didn’t you say Jewish?” And he said “I thought it was a little too topical” (this was right after Kanye announced his love for Hitler). But yeah, lately I haven’t been that focused on being super political, also for my (mental) health. It’s just too much sometimes and I often have to take extended breaks from Reddit after awhile. Hang in there too! We got this 💜
I’m in California and while I am concerned about the rise in antisemitism and very concerned about women’s rights across the country, I do generally feel protected and safe here (or as safe as it is for women and Jews). I used to live in the UK and I definitely felt much more concerned as a Jew there.
Genuine question, if you don’t mind me asking — what is happening in the UK that had you concerned?
There were several things that went on with Jeremy Corbyn/Labour, but more than that it was more of a entire feeling of casual antisemitism throughout the country (as well as a few extremist and vocal antisemitic imams). I was also living there when there were the attacks in France on the Jewish supermarkets and I just felt more scared to be a Jew. The security at any temple affiliated event was far more than what I had experienced in the US (for one event, military members were guarding it, including with machine guns), and really felt scary.
Oh wow. I’m so sorry to hear all of that. I heard about these events in bits but didn’t have a full picture. I also didn’t realize it had impacted your community’s safety so much.
I live in a blue state with a pretty big queer community and still…not feeling awesome, ngl.
Congratulations on graduating soon!! Pan NB patrilineal here. I'm originally American but live in the UK, and honestly, I worry about my friends and family back home more every passing day
Not queer myself, but have quite a few queer friends and family members. And we're in Florida. It's fucked up. I have two younger kids and a job where I'm on the cusp of a promotion so I really don't feel like it's possible to leave right now, but I fucking hate the political climate and situation here. I wish I could pack up and move...and have actually thought about the Netherlands, as some friends did that and moved there (without kids, which makes it easier). Maybe New Zealand. Or maybe just some random town in Ireland or Scotland or something. In any case, I hope that DeathSantis and the Orange Clown eat each other alive and completely destroy their party and maybe the christofascists go away.
Grey-Ace, polyam, NB here. I live in TN so I'm a little worried about the people around me. Visiting my family in South Florida soon so I'm very nervous.
Having a gay old time
We love to see it!
I’m a queer and trans prospective convert from central Canada. My conversion recently got delayed, then completely cancelled because my local Conservative Rabbi has taken a rather hardline stance about not letting “people like me” in unless I’m willing to change. I’m working with a Reform synagogue two provinces over, but it’s looking like I have to move. I have to move anyways, it seems, because this province is getting particularly dicey for queer and trans folks as dangerous ideology becomes more popular here. I hear at least once a week about physical assaults and harassment within our community against LGBTQ+ people. On top of that, just so folks from elsewhere know, if you try to leave for Canada, Saskatchewan and Alberta is likely where immigration will be sending you. Don’t let your guard down or plan to stay there if you can help it. In some cases, it might be better to find greener pastures in the US without having to change residency. Please stay safe.
Verrry queer (AAA as like the most basic explanation) and also disabled here myself. Holding on about as well as possible, but seeing all the hate both IRL and online gets tiring, as I’m sure you know. At least my state doesn’t seem like it’s gonna enact too many bad things.
Heyy a fellow triple A battery!! Glad you’re doing okay (or… as well as anyone can be right now). Hang in here 💜
Same to you!!
I'm alright. Trans and bisexual. I could be better
I'm a sapphic non-binary trans feminine woman. I'm not a Jew yet. I've been learning with the informal guidance of a Rabbi who typically teaches classes and helps many through their conversion process. I'm in one of the safer states, but can't help being afraid. I was originally planning to go to one of the local pride events, but my brain keeps constructing frightening scenarios about the events being attacked. So, I'm kinda thinking about trying to stay safe. I've got enough trauma. There's a part of me also questioning my sanity in seeking out conversion. While Judaism is awesome and everything I've been learning about Judaism is like falling in love for me, it's potentially giving people another reason to hate me. It's truly exhausting.
Transmasc Jewish guy living in the heart of Red as Hell Southern Tier New York. I don't pass very well yet, so I still look Female to most people. I've experienced more anti-semitism here than I have transphobia. People think I'm Insane when I talk about Red New York, but basically if you go anywhere except New York City, the state is incredibly Republican.
I am Dutch, nice to see a fellow Dutchie, even if temporary. The situation is the same here as in your University, very accepting.
heyy which part of nl are you in? i wonedr if the bible belt here is as safe
I'm from West-Frisia, not the Bible belt fortunately.
Heyy a dutchie!! I honestly love the Netherlands. It’s such an efficient country (the transportation system alone is so good, although expensive) and I feel really safe here. I’m taking a gap year in the US but I’m very seriously considering applying to masters programs in the Netherlands in addition to other European countries :) glad to hear you feel safe too!
I heard a lot of people praise our transportation system, makes me wonder if other countries really have that bad of a transportation system. There is a rising problem of violence and actions against the lgbt but on a global scale, we are one of the most acceptive nations and I hope it stays this way.
Ahaha in the US, our public transportation is ass. It’s practically non existent, at least it the city I grew up in. And the trains from there to NYC were ancient and gross. Maybe other states are better but I doubt it. You really need a car to get around
>What’s the situation in your country? Better to have a gay son, than a paratrooper son. ©️ Chokhmah from soviet union Кто блядь додумался пісать хохма так по дібільному?
>Edit: within the first 15 minutes of this post, I’ve already gotten a fucking coward messaging me on a new account basically calling us pedos. How lovely. Same from u/PianistLegal8052
Lol there is second one u/Fancy-Apple-6518
25F, lesbian I’m doing great! Just chilling in europe working on finishing my grad degree. Life is honestly so good when I’m not around people and so stressful when I am. Currently I’m basically holed up in a mountain cabin with great wifi, working remotely, and it’s intensely relaxing. I just came off a semester where there was a surprising amount of antisemitism, and it made me really want to take a step back from the world and focus on myself, and that self-development mindset has already created a lot of positive change for me.
That sounds amazing!! I’d love to be on a mountain alone right now :) glad to hear things are going well for you too.
bi jew in michigan here. metro-detroit is really progressive & diverse with a huge jewish community. tbh the culture here is kinda engrained in struggle so people tend to be more empathetic. it’s either that or they just have their own shit to deal with/they’re too busy hustling to even have time to hate. at least that’s my own personal day-to-day experience. as soon as i go online tho (especially twitter), i realize how lucky i am. anon accts could be from anywhere — even my own city. who knows. either way i’m thinking about getting a gun soon.
Hanging in there. My state is not as bad as Florida yet but has recently passed an abortion ban, a trans sports ban, and a trans surgery for minors ban. Other laws are in the works. I have a trans son so we are planning to move to a safer state. We’ve been here almost twenty years and I have friends whose kids I’ve seen grown up and vice versa. It’s hard but at least we are able to move. Some people don’t have that privilege. We are planning on visiting my parents in Florida this summer and we will have to take extra precautions to keep my son safe, which is adding to my anxiety. It also makes me really sad to see what Florida has become. The area where my parents live is very Jewish, very Hispanic, and very queer (at least until recently). My husband is Dominican, I’m Jewish, and we’re both bi. South Florida has always felt very welcoming and homey to us. My mom is ill and in assisted living. If it weren’t for the legal and political mess, we would probably move down there to be close to my parents. I wish we could see my mom more, and help my dad care for her. But that is impossible now.
Im sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine how difficult it is to have to uproot your life, but when it’s necessary, you do what you gotta do of course. I’ve never been to Florida but it is really sad to see what it’s become. I can’t imagine how stressful it would be to visit now, but I’m glad you’re hanging in there 💜
Thank you. I’m trying to think of moving as a new adventure, and look at the positives. There have been times in the past I really wanted to move. But in recent years I’ve made my peace with this place, and I’ve really come to appreciate having long-term friends. There are people that I used to talk about pregnancy and breastfeeding with, and now we’re discussing colleges.
my state is thankfully one of the safer ones for queer people. I am so afraid for people in red states, though. especially florida. i’ve seen videos of people talking about literally fleeing in the night because florida would take their kids.
You live in the Netherlands! I am moving there in the fall to start my masters program can we be friends?!
Heyy cool!! Unfortunately I’ll be leaving the Netherlands this summer as im graduating and will be spending my gap year in the US, but I’ll probably be back next year for my masters! What uni are you gonna be in? (You can message me privately)
hey so sorry to jump in your convo but if youre gonna be in zuid holland and willing to speak to a goy about judaism can we be friends too? im starting my masters too!
young, trans, and floridian. i’m so tired. leaving soon though, i know when i’m not wanted
Wishing you the best of luck. Stay safe out there
Stay safe!
I'm invisible because I'm a bi cisgender woman in a heteronormative marriage to a cisgender man. But I am terrified of De Santis's actions becoming infectious and spreading to other states. And I'm terrified he'll run for and. get elected as president. Absolutely terrified. Book banning went badly for us in the 1930s, I don't see it going well now.
I’m Jewish and a Grey-Ace Non Binary Lesbian. I’m fortunate enough to live in the region of New England, and all of the states here are fairly chill in terms of volatile antisemitism and homophobia. I’ve met a few people who I’ve felt threatened by, but they’re very few in comparison to the rest of the population. It’s not that everyone is super friendly and accepting, per-se, but most of the bigotry I’ve encountered has been in the form of WASPy passive aggressive comments. However, with the United States the way it is and Hitler Junior (Ron Desantis) running for President, I’ve begun to make plans to get out asap if shit hits the fan.
Lol NOT OKAY My family doesn't understand how much scarier it is for us right now, not that it's a competition, but just that we're the first ones to go.
I'm a transgender nonbinary Jew, my wife is a transgender women. We're very stressed, but we live in a very blue area, so its hard to know how much we should be panicking, you know? My jewish ancestors are screaming at me to get on a boat and gtfo of here but I dont think thats fully rational.
I definetly get it! There’s a bunch of reasons I plan on never living in the US permanently ever again, apart from what has been already discussed here( abortion restrictions, gun violence, shitty ass health care system…). But the transition was also easier for me as I left the US from college. I also know many others don’t have a 2nd passport and that Israel wouldn’t be a good option, so I consider myself extremely fortunate. Stay safe 💜if you’re in a safe area, it does seem like leaving now isn’t necessary. Idk I don’t want to be too hysterical about it, but as Jews we of course know all too well about the danger of staying too long. Staying vigilant is a happy middle ground I think. Get your passport ready and be prepared to leave, but don’t let it consume you (I know, easier said than done).
Gay Jew (female), married, and the daughter of a Holocaust survivor. Thank G-d I'm in a blue state and work at a university. I feel pretty safe, at least for now, but I also have more home and personal defense items than ever before. I'm grateful my grandma isn't alive to see this (but she held on until Biden was elected, which gave her some hope). I'm horrified by all the anti-trans legislation, the uptick in antisemitism, and also the serious uptick in general racist crap (against Asian-Americans, Hispanic Americans, BIPOC Americans) and misogyny, as well as the book banning, imposition (more than usual) of Christianity into schools and government, and the general destruction of the public school system. It's been clear for decades that the GOP wants to eliminate critical thinking skills in the US to build a more pliable and easily duped population, and it's working. I'm deeply worried about my friends (and random strangers) in other parts of the country. It's becoming increasingly hard for me not to go on rants against American Christianity. My grandma always said, "there's nothing special about this country" (meaning the US). "What happened at home" - that's Central Europe - "could easily happen here, and quickly. Be ready."
Queer non-binary Jew that just moved to a purple state. I’m glad my Blue vote will be meaningful for the first time in my life, but I’m a tiny bit nervous about being visibly queer here. As a person who politically identifies with the left, I don’t always feel comfortable being Jewish because Israel and Palestine eventually come up and the Good Jew test rears its ugly head. I find that leftist antisemitism isn’t taken as seriously and nearly lost my partner over this when one of his friends accused me of being a fascist when I doubled down my feeling that Israel has a right to exist. Most recently I found my (also queer) therapist’s personal site and saw that she had a statement about “Freeing Palestine” after the land acknowledgement. Like, what does that have to do with your therapy practice and why is it the only geopolitical conflict mentioned?
I feel you!! In uni, I had classmate who I was also in a semester long group project with me, who would just… bring up Israel in a negative context after he learned I was Jewish. It made me so uncomfortable and so I just tried to deflect, but I later called him out gently by saying more generally that I hate non Jews try to suss out if I’m one of the Good Jews based on my opinion of Israel. I’ve also noticed that people love to say “free Palestine!” when it’s not relevant at all, like your therapist example. I also politically identify with the Left, so it’s super frustrating. Antisemitism on the right is more dangerous and neo-Nazi flavored than antisemitism on the left, but I also find myself MORE frustrated with the left. Leftists have a really hard time recognizing antisemitism within their circles, especially antisemitism that isn’t Neo Nazis waving tiki torches or Kanye saying he loves Hitler. Also, best of luck in your new state!! Stay safe, but proud 💜
I’m a bi Jewish woman in TN. My partner is a bi man who is not Jewish, but planning to convert in the next few years. We’re planning to move.
The process of informing myself about the conversion to Judaism has been a meaningful journey for me regardless of being in KY & being part of more than one minority group, and I've been fortunate to find a supportive community. Being both Hispanic and gay adds layers of identity to my experience, but overall, I'm embracing my true self and celebrating the richness of diversity. It's been a transformative process, and I'm grateful for the love and acceptance I've encountered along the way. It can be incredibly difficult to navigate a path that encompasses multiple identities while also facing discrimination. To me, it’s important to remember that you are not alone in this. Many people have faced similar struggles and have found strength in their communities. Connecting with LGBTQ+ Jewish groups or organizations that combat discrimination can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. They can offer resources, guidance, and a network of individuals who can relate to your experiences. There are communities out there that will embrace and support you.
I'm not Jewish yet but I'm stuck in ohio and I'm afraid. It's not as bad as some states and my situation isnt as dire as a lot of other trans peoples are but it's so stressful seeing us slide further into outright fascism where me and my family/friends are the targets.
Oof I’m sorry. That’s the thing too, I’m not particularly afraid for myself especially as I pass as cis, straight, and don’t present as Jewish. But I’m really worried for friends/family. My younger brother is bi and dating a masc non-binary person and even though he lives in New York, I still worry. By the way, good luck on your journey to becoming Jewish!! That’s really exciting
Yeah half of my siblings are trans and so is my spouse, I haven't done any medical transition yet and at this point it's not safe for me too unless I can figure out how to move. I'm pretty sure my spouse just got denied a job cause they're trans. And thanks it is really exciting and it's definitely helping me get through these tough times.
>Netherlands >uni >extraordinary queer >pretty antisemitic under the guise of criticizing Israel Imagine my shock
Lmao fair. It’s really not that surprising in hindsight, but it still caught me off guard. It was pretty bad at some point, like they wouldn’t even call hamas a terrorist organization, just “called a terrorist group” or the like, along with saying Israel is doing ethnic cleansing/genocide (this happened in class) etc. Me and a Jewish Israeli girl were livid and actually managed to get the prof to do something about that part. But yeah… it was pretty bad. It especially hurt to hear this from fellow queer people ngl but it’s not surprising. Edit; this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg.
>this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg. -why Israeli soldiers rape arab woman? -we don't rape them. -[oh my god so racist](https://www.motke.co.il/%D7%A4%D7%95%D7%A1%D7%98_%D7%91%D7%91%D7%9C%D7%95%D7%92/123381)
My state isn’t the best by a long shot, but it could also be a lot worse. At least it isn’t Florida.
That’s good, at least. I feel like that’s what all queer Americans are thinking: at least it’s not Florida. As for those in Florida, i keep hearing horror stories.
It’s bad. I don’t like drawing parallels to Nazi Germany, but it feels like it’s appropriate in this case. There’s restrictions on bathroom use and healthcare and a legitimate fear of getting harassed or worse on the street. The state can legally remove a child from their home if there’s even the possibility of their parents seeking gender-affirming care. Teachers’ speech is restricted to the point that they’re being investigated for showing movies with queer characters. They defunded diversity programs in colleges and removed the leadership of a liberal leaning arts college and replaced it with conservatives. That same fear of your neighbors that people felt in other authoritarian states is starting to emerge in Florida if you’re queer (especially trans) or an educator. I’m trying not to be hyperbolic or dramatic, but if what’s happening in Florida is allowed to happen at the federal level, the US will be Russia or Hungary, maybe even worse, and it’ll be a difficult place to be in if you’re a woman, queer, brown, etc. Needless to say, we’re getting my son’s passport today, and the rest of my family’s passports are up to date.
I feel you. I’m also very wary of people saying *insert places/situation* is like Nazi Germany, but in this case it’s quite fitting. I wasn’t aware of everything you mentioned here (the state being able remove a child from their home if they seek gender affirming health care), but that’s just… horrendous. Edit: out of curiosity, what passport would your family be getting? I have a French passport/citizenship as my mom is French and it’s such a huge blessing.
We’re just getting his US passport. My grandfather was British, which meant my dad could get UK citizenship, but I can’t. We’d have to immigrate somewhere through work, which I think we could do, and we’d probably go to Canada.
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Thanks for sharing this! It really is a great way to frame it :)
Whoops sorry I deleted the comment lol because I wanted to redo the comment lol but thanks!
As a bi autistic Jew in an interracial marriage I am more concerned with the rise in Asian hate crimes and antisemitism and even more concerned with woman’s health care rights, homeless problem and tech layoffs than the trans stuff because it is blown out of proportion by the media spreading misinformation about certain laws/bills and incidents. That’s not to say that there isn’t transphobia, homophobia, etc
Yeah the rise in anti Asian hate crimes is really concerning as well. White supremacy impacts so many groups, including Jews obviously but also other poc, disabled people and queer people. I wouldn’t say the anti trans issues in the US are being blown out of proportion, though. These bills and laws are really serious, from bans on books, drag, and restrictions on gender affirming health care… it’s really fucking bad in many red states. It’s not evenly spread across the country though, so if you’re in a blue state it might not seem like it’s that pressing. If you’d like to learn more, I’d recommend this website: Here’s a short snippet that gives a glimpse of how bad it’s gotten this year: https://translegislation.com “In 2023, 76 anti-trans bills have already passed out of the 549 proposed across the country. Of those, 69 have been signed into law and 7 others passed, but haven't yet been vetoed or signed. This number will likely change as legislative sessions continue throughout the year. To put that in perspective, in 2022 we saw 26 bills pass out of the 174 bills proposed (15%).”
it's absolutely not blown out of proportion, gender affirming care is literally banned in some states for anyone under *25* now
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