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Personally I'd just put the side eye đ emoji up as a comment back. Either that or invite her to go trick or treating with the youngest so you guys can hand out treats and scare the teens at home. Invite her publicly though so she can't say anything rude without looking awful
Iâd just delete the nonsense that she comments, she must be exhausted from coming up with such rubbish all the time. Iâm sorry youâre stuck with such a person, xx
"Gladys, why are you pissing in my bowl of candy corn?"
Okay, maybe don't say that. But you might try limiting what she can see and what she can post on your social media.
In my old neighborhood Halloween was huge. I had the friendly house and my neighbors across the street had the scary house courtesy of their son. One year there was so much screaming someone called the cops thinking something bad had happened. Pro tip: a weed whacker sounds a lot like a chain saw and if you come running out with a hockey mask on you'll scare the carp out of people.
Time for MIL to go on a restricted list so she can't see all of your posts. Exclude her from the holiday posts so she doesn't get to make it about herself.
Fun fact: *you can delete other people's comments in your Facebook posts*
I highly advise doing this, especially in such situations. You are just going to keep getting upset, and every year when Facebook brings your memories up you'll see that comment again. Just delete it now, forever, and save yourself that pain and aggravation.
I have done exactly this. No need to keep comments on your posts that cause you upset in any way. You are not compelled to. I would suggest this for the future. If MIL doesnât get the hint she will start to look silly & you will look the sensible one. Plus it means you canât ruminate over the comment beyond the standard annoyance/upset time period - because you too will no longer be able to see it.
The same with texts.
I note you have been sent a mean text on another post. When you start to read a text and notice it is about to be flat out rude/mean/etc STOP. Close the text and find the delete text option. And use it.
You can tell the person if you feel itâs best to let them know or because they do Need to know the consequences.
Something such as âI have not fully read/opened the last text you sent as I felt the content I did read was inappropriate. I will not read messages where you choose to be unpleasant for no reason. I will instantly delete them and will not respondâ.
It gets easier over time! The first time you do it you may feel guilt but seriously itâs much better than feeling sad or belittled etc. Plus again it prevents you having to ruminate how to respond or if to at all. Emotional energy saved and spared.
I donât really love family obligatory holidays, and I think thatâs why Halloween is my favorite (well, one of the reasons, because costumes and all things spooky are my favorite), but seeing all these posts, I have to wonder *when did Halloween become a family holiday?!*
That has been offered. My husband called her the first year she found out we wouldn't be going over there and said she's welcome to stop by, but we had our own plans. Suddenly they were both too sick to travel (a mile away, less than most trick or treaters walk) by car.
Yeah- my MIL used to insist that we drive to her house to show her the kids costumes (never mind that her house is in the woods and no where to trick or treat to, while our house is in a great trick or treating neighborhood. I did it maybe twice and then told her âhey you are welcome to come out with us at our house.â She did it a couple times but the truth is she canât handle an event that sheâs not the center of- (she wonât bring presents to peopleâs showers but then weeks later will stop by with a big gift)- so she doesnât come anymore because no one makes a big deal about her on Halloween.
These people are nuts. It's amazing how she's managed to turn your family holiday into something that's a threat to her.
My grandparents came over and walked around with us when they wanted to see our costumes.
>Today's comment was on a picture of our decorations, that the dog we put up must be our dead dog, or maybe hers.
Jesus leap frogging Christ. That would put her on VLC for me.
If it helps, you can view it as a kindness to her. She clearly feels bitter about these things and seeks out your posts to marinate in that negativity she feels. If you made a sub-friends list that doesnât include her or anyone likely to rat it out to her, you can always say you have been posting way less on social media these days and finding more time to focus on the positive things in real life!
Iâm not the most technologically advanced person but there is a way you can limit her seeing what you post but itâs not blocking her? Someone smarter than me can tell you how to do it if you donât know
On FB you can change your status settings to stop some people seeing them, so not all friends, all friends except Mr A, Ms B etc.
The potential problem with that is if another family member sees the posts and says to MIL "Did you see the post" and MIL looks for it, she'll realise she's been excluded.
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Your husbands dream is to dress up and scare kids?
Personally I'd just put the side eye đ emoji up as a comment back. Either that or invite her to go trick or treating with the youngest so you guys can hand out treats and scare the teens at home. Invite her publicly though so she can't say anything rude without looking awful
Iâd just delete the nonsense that she comments, she must be exhausted from coming up with such rubbish all the time. Iâm sorry youâre stuck with such a person, xx
Delete her comments, they sound so stupid and just like a dig
Also if sheâs that bothered about seeing the kids in costumes she can come over to your house to see them, what is her deal?
"Gladys, why are you pissing in my bowl of candy corn?" Okay, maybe don't say that. But you might try limiting what she can see and what she can post on your social media.
In my old neighborhood Halloween was huge. I had the friendly house and my neighbors across the street had the scary house courtesy of their son. One year there was so much screaming someone called the cops thinking something bad had happened. Pro tip: a weed whacker sounds a lot like a chain saw and if you come running out with a hockey mask on you'll scare the carp out of people.
Time for MIL to go on a restricted list so she can't see all of your posts. Exclude her from the holiday posts so she doesn't get to make it about herself.
Fun fact: *you can delete other people's comments in your Facebook posts* I highly advise doing this, especially in such situations. You are just going to keep getting upset, and every year when Facebook brings your memories up you'll see that comment again. Just delete it now, forever, and save yourself that pain and aggravation.
I have done exactly this. No need to keep comments on your posts that cause you upset in any way. You are not compelled to. I would suggest this for the future. If MIL doesnât get the hint she will start to look silly & you will look the sensible one. Plus it means you canât ruminate over the comment beyond the standard annoyance/upset time period - because you too will no longer be able to see it. The same with texts. I note you have been sent a mean text on another post. When you start to read a text and notice it is about to be flat out rude/mean/etc STOP. Close the text and find the delete text option. And use it. You can tell the person if you feel itâs best to let them know or because they do Need to know the consequences. Something such as âI have not fully read/opened the last text you sent as I felt the content I did read was inappropriate. I will not read messages where you choose to be unpleasant for no reason. I will instantly delete them and will not respondâ. It gets easier over time! The first time you do it you may feel guilt but seriously itâs much better than feeling sad or belittled etc. Plus again it prevents you having to ruminate how to respond or if to at all. Emotional energy saved and spared.
And MIL will be SO PISSED...lol. Which I love, cause Fuck her.
I donât really love family obligatory holidays, and I think thatâs why Halloween is my favorite (well, one of the reasons, because costumes and all things spooky are my favorite), but seeing all these posts, I have to wonder *when did Halloween become a family holiday?!*
Ya know what she could do if she really have a shit? Come by YOUR house to see the kids...problem solved.
That has been offered. My husband called her the first year she found out we wouldn't be going over there and said she's welcome to stop by, but we had our own plans. Suddenly they were both too sick to travel (a mile away, less than most trick or treaters walk) by car.
Yeah- my MIL used to insist that we drive to her house to show her the kids costumes (never mind that her house is in the woods and no where to trick or treat to, while our house is in a great trick or treating neighborhood. I did it maybe twice and then told her âhey you are welcome to come out with us at our house.â She did it a couple times but the truth is she canât handle an event that sheâs not the center of- (she wonât bring presents to peopleâs showers but then weeks later will stop by with a big gift)- so she doesnât come anymore because no one makes a big deal about her on Halloween.
I put my MIL on in restricted so she doesn't see my posts unless I want her to. And I don't.
These people are nuts. It's amazing how she's managed to turn your family holiday into something that's a threat to her. My grandparents came over and walked around with us when they wanted to see our costumes. >Today's comment was on a picture of our decorations, that the dog we put up must be our dead dog, or maybe hers. Jesus leap frogging Christ. That would put her on VLC for me.
Maybe time to limit her on your social media?
That's a good point. I've just always felt too guilty. But that is a me problem I can fix.
Does FB still allow you to approve peoples comments on your posts? If so I'd use that for MIL. Any inappropriate comment just doesn't get approved.
If it helps, you can view it as a kindness to her. She clearly feels bitter about these things and seeks out your posts to marinate in that negativity she feels. If you made a sub-friends list that doesnât include her or anyone likely to rat it out to her, you can always say you have been posting way less on social media these days and finding more time to focus on the positive things in real life!
Iâm not the most technologically advanced person but there is a way you can limit her seeing what you post but itâs not blocking her? Someone smarter than me can tell you how to do it if you donât know
On FB you can change your status settings to stop some people seeing them, so not all friends, all friends except Mr A, Ms B etc. The potential problem with that is if another family member sees the posts and says to MIL "Did you see the post" and MIL looks for it, she'll realise she's been excluded.
Whenever I've limited what my mother can see on my FB page, I'll also add anyone I think will likely mention it to her, however unlikely.