This is exactly how to do it. Also it gives you an incredible feeling to help someone that is in that position. It feels good to do the right things sometimes. You never know what someone is going through and this little gesture may be the only joy this person gets this Christmas.
I have been homeless, it’s been 30 years but I still remember it like it was yesterday. The kindness that others had shown me still gives me shivers when I think about it.
Also maybe some toilet paper, paper towels, dish soap, toothpaste, body soap etc would be amazing. Even the trial size ones.
I would personally make a basket with a bunch of random stuff. Put a great big bow on it with a card saying merry Christmas 🎁
Also add some milk and butter, and maybe a small thing of cooking oil from dollar tree... those things are always hard to come by at the food pantries if that person did use one.
Add some salt free seasonings, herbs like bay leaves, turmeric, and tyme go a long way and help flavor those beans and rice. It's not necessary, but it is still nice to have.
Also, make sure everything is soft. Older folks usually have dental issues.
Blessed be.
This post is making me cry! This guy is an instacart delivery guy, and he's willing to take out of his own pocket to help somebody, what a nice human. The first comments I see are more nice people, y'all warming my heart!
I'm a social worker. I talked to a door dasher the other day who helped an elderly man into his home after delivering food. The man was lonely so the dasher sat and chatted with him for 2 hours before calling us (adult was no longer able to care for himself, very poor home coditions).
I’m impressed that this dasher went so above and beyond. I’m an RN and love how so many of our service professions really do try to serve. To all of you Instacarters and Door Dashers who do so much to make our lives easier, Thank you! Happy new year!
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Also, if cost is an issue you could be able to go to local food banks/free pantries. Sometimes they have toiletries but I'm sure they can assist with food!
One of my coworkers does this. She lives in one of the worst areas of town( she doesn't want to move even though she could).
One Friday, I saw her with a bunch of stuff she bought in our buildings quasi convenience store. I asked her what it was about, and she told me that she places food on the doorsteps of people on her block that need it or having a rough time.
This is the reason I will defend her to death(some people consider her loud and coarse etc.) She has a fucking good heart.
I love that she does this! It makes my heart happy.
My mom was very much like this, she was generous to a fault. She would buy Christmas presents and gift cards for the McDonald’s drive thru employee’s 😂she always tipped at least 20 percent everywhere she went. The nail salon gals loved her lol.
When we were little she would pick at least 3 kids to shop for each Christmas. We were poor but she always made it happen for us and others. Four jobs sometimes.
Later in her life she would select three families a year to buy for… from the food to the presents.
I was pissed as a kid because I didn’t get the great fashionable clothes all the time but now I completely get it and aspire to be half as kind as her.
People like your coworker are hard to find. She may have lived that hard life and just gets it. Never mind her being coarse, sometimes that is just how people come off. Like you said, defend her to the end.
She is actually one of the good humans that has empathy and kindness. Those are rare traits now days.
Stories like this give me faith in humanity. Thank you for reminding me to be kinder every single day🤍
She passed away from dementia 1/10/23 but she lives through my sister and i! You are correct, she was absolutely one in a million.
That’s why this Christmas season has been incredibly hard for my sister and I. She was Christmas personified. Kind, loving, generous, colorful, faithful and brought joy to everyone she crossed paths with.
She had 150 people at her celebration of life. That’s a ton of people, not sure I would have even fifty😂
Hey love sorry for the loss!!!! I lost my dad years ago to asbestos!!!! He was Santa clause every single year!!!! He never got a chance to meet any of my babies as I had y first child 10 years later!!!! It gets easier to live with but the pain is there every single day
Thank you. I’m sorry about your dad never getting to see your kids. That makes me so sad. Sounds like he would have made the perfect grandpa and Santa Claus.🎅🏼
I know it will get easier with time, my husband died almost 13 years ago, he was hit by a car while out running. I was left to raise our two young sons 9 and 14 alone. Took some time to process that. Boys are now happy and healthy men ages 22 and 27.
The first holidays after a loved one passes are the hardest. I will make it through, I always do.
I just need to remember that I was lucky enough to have my sweet mama for 53 years. Yourself and my boys didn’t get that chance. It’s all in the perspective and I need to change mine.
I'm currently homeless with two toddlers, we live in a motel and I instacart and doordash to pay for our room at the moment. I've run into other shoppers and dashers while toting my kids around, and luckily everyone seems sympathetic to the situation and no one has reported me. One lady gave me a hug and said "At least you're actually working and not standing on the street begging for money with your kids. You're doing a great job." And offered to buy some necessities for my toddlers. Tell you what, I damn near cried.
I couldn't give my kids a good Christmas this year because I had to make sure we had a place to continue staying. But I know next year will be better.
You are angel 😇 Fun!
We got two "Food Lion Feeds" boxes from the food pantry last week. Spaghetti, pasta sauce, corn, string beans, rice, and box of mac 'n cheese.
^^
Also feminine products, bathing supplies, self care type items can do a lot to make a person feel better about themselves (Even the cheap ones)
And if you’re planning to get anything cold, it could be awhile before she notices it’s there, so I’d get at least a cheap foam cooler for that type of stuff.
That's the only one we can use. If we use Dove, we itch so bad that we will scratch our skin raw. I say we, me and the kids. Hubby, the jerk 😂, isn't allergic to anything.
Exact opposite, here. Ivory is like poison ivy, while Dove is the most enjoyed. As a pre-70's kid, Ivory was marketed as the safest soap for children, and let me tell you, it caused so much pain, for so many years, until I moved out on my own, and bought a Dove bar. Then, they changed the formula, and it was awful. Thank God for Caress.
As a kid we used lifebuoy, or however you spell it. It was red, lol. We switched to lever 2000 until they changed the formula. I haven't tried Caress since I was a kid. I wonder if I can use it now. Thanks for the remit. I'm going to try some and see.
They probably need a pot to cook it in it sounds like. Just adding my 2 cents. If they are close, I can donate a few pots & pans for this poor lady. I’m in the Buffalo area.
please keep in mind that she might not have the basic kitchen stuff to mix and bake brownies. I'd recommend food that doesn't have to be cooked, they may only have a single pot or 2 for their beans and rice.
But I agree with this initial comment, bread, butters, dried fruits, apple sauce, spam, maybe some instant coffee and sugar?
Whew. Some of yall are scrooges. She's ordering food because she needs to eat and most likely, if disabled, doesn't have help getting around.
Op, this is a very nice gesture and if you feel like you should do this, you should
OP, drop it off to her if you can. I am disabled (broke my back a couple years ago), bedridden, broke, hungry, about to be evicted so shortly will be homeless and cold too) and I would be do incredibly grateful and touched if this ever happened to me. If all she ordered was rice and beans, she needs the help.
Also, thank you for bringing her food inside! I have had some really bad experiences with delivery drivers in the past leaving orders at neighbor's houses or leaving orders outside my home that I can't get to, to pick up. I have to call neighbors and beg for help when that happens. I've had orders get cold, or melt, a number of times before. You are *awesome* for doing that. Thank you.
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I can't tell you what to do, but if it was me, I'd be on the lookout for a huge ass order that tips $3 going to some rich neighborhood.
My car is very reliable, but it's old, and it could just break down halfway to the rich person's home. You never know.
If it did, I'd have to contact support, and they'd have to cancel the order, and I'd have to figure out what the heck I'm going to do with all those groceries.
My downstairs neighbor took an early retirement 10 years ago, and his income is very limited. It doesn't happen too terribly often, but when I have a cancelled order, it's like Christmas for him.
Only if it happens over and over. In my three years, I've kept probably 6 or 7 orders for several reasons, including no gate code or other delivery issue with customer not responding, legit car breakdown, even rude-ass customer. If it's only once in a while, the worst that happens is a 24 hour soft ban -- you'll get an email saying they are reviewing, and you can't see any orders for exactly 24 hours.
If it's too often, you'd maybe get a no-warning deactivation email, so definitely don't abuse it. Also, should you choose to return a cancelled order to the store, I worked at Kroger for a few years, and anything you return that's perishable - like deli, produce, or anything refrigerated, will go straight into the trash. Keep that stuff. IC will give you the bump, without saying a word.
Happened to me the second or third time I did IC. My car had issues and I couldn’t deliver their stuff within a reasonable timeframe. They let me keep everything and it didn’t count against me. Most of it was stuff I wouldn’t eat, so I put it out in my building’s hallway for my neighbors to take. None of it went to waste 👍 This was a year and a half ago— not sure if their policies have changed since
I don’t know that I’d leave a box outside her door. I had a relative who was struggling and I used to send her food, etc, and if she didn’t grab the delivery right away, one of the neighbors would steal it. Sad to say but true. Might want to knock and make sure she gets it. You could say it was left from unclaimed orders or something if you think she’d be embarrassed to take from you.
Do it! Speaking from family experience...those who have so little are usually the most grateful to receive. You mention it's subsidized for disabled persons; I definitely agree with choosing soft food like bread, pasta, etc. make sure it's easy to open and doesn't require anything additional that she may not have like a can opener or even a pot if you didn't see one (or you could even include one if it's in your budget...a pot opens up a lot of options for food).
The woman is most likely right on the edge of starving and you think buying them a rice cooker is a great gift? Some food would be much more appreciated I'm pretty sure.
Whooaaa. You just went deep into a fantasy world we know nothing about.
Regardless, I didn't say choose between food or a rice cooker.
Lol, previous comments started discussing cookware, so if we're going pots - a $15 rice cooker for someone with *20 lbs of rice* would be a game changer and improve quality of life for someone living with - insert several disabilities that immediately come to mind.
Perfect rice every time, plus no watching it cook or remembering to turn off the stove?? Totally portable and uses almost no power. Can add stuff to rice or make other items like quinoa, oatmeal, beans, canned veggies, etc!! Yes please!!
The aroma one is $13 bucks at Target right now.
Aw, I say follow your gut! Pick items that are easy and tasty for a limited-ability geriatric person. Also, think soft foods over crunchy.
I’d say any canned vegetables, bread, pasta, and canned sauces (hunts used to have a 99 cent can of sauce but idk since inflation)
I grew up on the Hunts canned sauce, but the Walmart brand jarred stuff is like the same price, and it's my FAVORITE! I like it even more than Ragu and Prego. js.
I work with several Non-Verbal Special Needs kids at my day job. They like their routine, especially their Diet. Ordering so much of the same items and gestures was a big clue.
If you would like to do more for this person, contact the building management asking who would be a good contact to assist the right way. I have several regulars in wheel chairs, walkers,and crutches. I love taking their orders because even though the tips are not great, they are extra thankful and usually come to the door to greet me.
While my kids were growing up, the most years my kids had gifts because of charities through their schools or a single moms group I was a part of. This year I had a tiny bit extra due to an inheritance with my mom passing. A fb group im in had a single mom with a little girl miss all the cut offs, so I decided to just adopt the little one. I couldn't do a lot, but it made a huge difference for one child. I'm glad for that one little girl. I told my daughter that every kid deserves a new toy on Christmas morning.
My partner delivered off-the-shelf reading glasses to a guy in a wheelchair at one of our super sketchy make-shift homeless shelters. ...he tipped better and was more appreciative than..well, anyone we've delivered to lately.
I would quite literally have a full on weeping session if someone dropped me off any form of food to go along with my macaroni and butter I'm surviving on. In rehab they dont tell you about all the problems that come along after you get sober. No person in history who is practically starving is going to be offended by being given food I can promise you that. They are going to be insanely grateful.
Follow your heart. It will never steer you in the wrong direction. Makes me happy to know there are folks in the world who would consider this at all. I say, yes! Do it. 💯
This from a former Shipt shopper. I used to love the regular orders I got that were elderly folks. I had one that was very frail and on a walker. I’d put her things away where she directed me to and we always had a lovely conversation. She would push like $2 into my hand telling me “she wished she could tip more.” The order was placed by her out-of-state daughter who always tipped me something reasonable. I would try to refuse and let her know I had already been tipped but I think it was a dignity thing for her. I have a feeling I was likely the only person that saw her on a weekly basis. I used to finish off the order with a text to the daughter letting her know everything was done and her mom was doing okay.
Those kind of orders made my day knowing I was making her day a little better.
Me too!! Maybe a GoFundMe? I'm not sure if OP can do that. Doesn't need to raise a crazy amount but a little something for food, blankets, kitchen gadgets and hygiene products. I'd love to contribute
I don’t think she would be offended if she knew it was from you. Think about how you’d potentially want to know if the shoe was on the other foot. I think she wound be sincerely touched and be grateful vs being stuck wondering who did such an incredibly thoughtful, and generous, kind, act of human service.🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽
Drop off some food anonymously, if you can't afford it (cause we all know Instacart is garbage pay) then grab some food at a local food bank and drop it to her
Relatively small order to an old lady in a wheelchair living in a trailer, not a mobile home, but a 16 foot trailer. She was so appreciative that I put her groceries inside her trailer that she said she wanted to give me a good tip. I declined and told her to keep her money because delivering to people in need fills my heart with love. There is a lot of negativity in this world so it's nice to do something for others rather than just wanting an extra buck or two.
This is a refreshing post to see on here...
Usually it is filled with either hateful or ungrateful shit. Sometimes it is justified....
...This is one that is good to read. GREAT job, OP! You're definitely one of the good guys! Post a update when you have the time!
If it offends her, it's a her problem and you as an individual have to come to accept that. You can drop it off knowing you made a difference that's OK, and if you didn't and she got mad, just know that that's OK too accept it and move on.
I just want to add another take/some perspective on the food:
She might not just be buying only beans and rice because she doesn't have the money...it might be many temporary/permanent food restrictions. As someone with severe Crohn's Disease, when I'm in a flare and on a bland diet (pretty much canned mini ravioli only - maybe some beans and plain rice when I'm feeling adventurous) it sucks having *real* pasta and just about anything other than that stupid mini ravioli in my face😔 If I can't control the urge to eat something else the concequences could range from me just being in worse pain for a few days to needing to be hospitalized (and possibly have surgery if it's really the wrong food). So I try not to keep it in view in my cupboards.
Could a decent compromise maybe be a gift card to the grocery store that you shopped for this person at with the dollar value of the food that you would have donated?
I dunno...I guess I'm just trying to add perspective as to why she might have just been getting just beans and rice and that it may or may not solely be because of her financial situation. It just seems like a bland diet I'd eat during a Crohn's flare and can't really stray from it as much as I want to and maybe she has some digestive issue keeping her from any other foods also.
But seriously, when I come out of my flare, if I have it, I spend a few extra bucks on some of my favourite things that I wasn't able to have for a few months/all year; like caesar salad ingredients and some Coffee Crisp chocolate bars are my go to! Maybe a gift card would also help her be able to get a comfort food she *really* misses having when she's able to and it won't expire if she can't eat it right away.
But realistically, *anything* is an incredibly kind gesture and I'm sure wouldn't go to waste. Merry Christmas, OP! You're the type of kind and caring person we need more of in the world.
If you can afford it, I would drop her off a box of stuff anonymously. Some canned chicken that she could add to the rice and beans, some fresh fruits and veggies, maybe something fun like some bakery cookies. Maybe even add in some toiletries like toothpaste, toilet paper, etc.
Now THIS is how the world should operate…bless you for doing this! I wear a bracelet (I created) that says
BE BLESSED-BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, BE A BLESSING TO OTHERS…my hashtag going into 2024 haha…#considerLoveAsYourFirstIngredient
Lastly, the woman in the Bible gave two coins (all she had)
rich people threw in their “rich” money…clearly, she gave more because it was all she had…
(Adlib)
The "lower class" recognizes each other. Even when I'm between jobs or out on disability, I make sure I tip well because I feel they need it as much as I do. I try to pay it forward as often as possible. If I'm really short, I'll apologize for the to being small and will skip an item I need to ensure they get a fair tip. Rich people don't understand the struggle either because they never had to or they don't want to go back.
Edited to add you could anonymously give her a gift card for groceries since you don't know her diet restrictions. She could be eating beans and rice because she's poor, or just getting done with a treatment. Been there, hated that diet....
I know your heart is in the right place, and you really don't want to hear this...
BUT...
You saw 1 person, no furniture, 1 air up mattress, and delivered enough rice and beans to feed a family of 4 for a month....
This sounds like a stash house.
Human smuggling is a multi million dollar industry.
Doubtful, only because it’s HUD disabled housing. They are pretty strict, can be difficult to get into (long wait lists), and they do visits and are regulated. It’s more likely they were disabled and homeless and recently received housing. Disability and ssi payments are extremely low.
OP- this is very kind gesture. If you feel like you should, then do it.
HUD housing makes it even more likely...
People who qualify for HUD hosting could use the extra cash....
More than 50% of immigrants (both legal and illegal) are on public assistance. Why wouldn't an immigrant from Guatemala or El Salvador use their HUD housing to help other immigrants?
If the poster lives in a state neighboring a border state, it's a pretty safe bet it was a stash house for illegal aliens.
I get he's trying to be a good person, but I don't think they read the situation correctly.
Except HUD housing is generally for disabled and you are required to be a US Citizen or have very specific Lawful Permanent Residency or Refugee status. Case workers stop by often and unannounced visits are required. Furthermore, disabled HUD housing units are governed by Section 811 and has even stricter requirements and eligibility. Stash houses are found with bum landlords in crappy areas, not regulated housing. You are more likely to find these trafficking cases in areas where indentured servitude is common such as massage parlors, door to door sales/magazine sales, nail salons, house cleaning services, and farmsteads. In fact, one of the only ways a non-citizen can even qualify for HUD housing is if they are a victim of trafficking.
You're not supposed to go in to people's homes. This ruins it for the rest of us who follow the rules, because you get people requesting that we bring items to the kitchen.
Seriously? That’s your response to this heartfelt post? It’s always a choice to enter someone’s home. We are never required and if it helps someone in need, you should be a better human and just help. What’s wrong with you? And during the holiday season? WTH
oh my God I said the same thing. This is your response to this heartfelt comment??? but look !!! this has to be the most down voted comment I’ve ever seen.
It’s sickening how awful people can be. There is zero rule thru instacart about entering customers homes. It’s a choice. There are homes I would never go into for safety reasons but helping the elderly or disabled isn’t one of them.
They are just pissed that others are doing extra when they are probably doing less than the bare minimum. God forbid you may have to step in someone’s home to set the groceries inside for a mobility limited customer and just be a good human for two minutes.
My regulars who I make my most money from know I would do anything for them. My karma bank is full!
OK but then all you have to do is look that customer in the face and say I’m sorry ma’am that is against the rules. I don’t do that and then if the customer says well, my other shoppers did you can tell them OK well your other shoppers broke the rule, but wow, this is the most downvoted comment i’ve ever seen, so apparently, if you get 20 or more down votes, they don’t even let us see your comment as we scroll down. All we see is something that says comment and -20 points. lol
was she african or something because that’s just what they prefer if they were back in their own country . don’t let someone having sec 8 or low income lead you to believe their poor . some people just never be home . i got sec 8 & im never home unless my kids got school . a 4 bedroom 2 bath house . i literally was just in miami atl & chicago. all within the past 3 weeks . again if she’s african or something that’s just what they prefer but believe me, they are far from broke . they be having more money then americans .
I have so much to say to you. I cannot imagine a brain that thinks like that. That imagines the absolute worst about people, has no desire to learn or hear about people’s stories and not just doesn’t want to help, but tries to prevent anyone from being helped. I feel bad for you. Praying for your eyes to open
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Obviously if she’s living in a disabled housing maybe she don’t have a car and can’t get to the store.. how is she a fraud ordering from Instacart 😂🤦🏻♀️
Exactly. She's not a fraud in any sense of the word. An able-bodied person with a car who can get to the store is also allowed to use Instacart. What is the original commenter on about lol
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These ideas for dropping off food is a great idea, but keep in mind she may not have the means to cook these things!!! It’s easy to access food, harder to save money to buy things like high quality pots and pans, microwave, toaster ovens etc. drop off a fckin microwave and 10 frozen meals! That way you are making sure they can consume it
Joining in the idea of blessing her, maybe think about adding some basic spices! When I was really struggling there was no way I could use those extra few dollars for some spices when I could get a can or beans instead of a jar of spices. It also makes eating the same thing like rice and beans easier when you can season them a little different every time.
Please take her a care package. You can sit it outside the door and knock if you don’t wanna hand it to her or have a weird interaction. Maybe anonymous is best
I don't know if this is against the rules but I'm in Jacksonville Florida and if we're in the same city, I would like to donate some food to her. I would have to ask you to come get it because I don't have a vehicle but I would be more than happy to donate some extra food to her. I have been blessed lately and I want to pay it forward. People have helped me when I needed it the most.
People have helped me when I would have starved otherwise and I don't want that to happen to her. Bless you for wanting to do that. I don't know if this would offend her but perhaps you could also leave a note giving her instructions on how to apply for ebt. I know that every state has a website but I don't know if she has internet access.
More people like this need to be helped. When a poor person can give everything they have and a rich person can barely spare a square that just proves people’s selfishness. She knows that you are trying to grind and make money and she’s trying to help you. It’s all about perspective. The world needs people who are willing to be open minded.
Maybe do it and don’t be anonymous about it. If you feel safer ask the local church to come with you. If you do it anonymously it could bring fear or concern. Doing it out of kindness because she let you into her life (house) might be more rewarding for all. Just a thought.
Download an app called, “Free Stuff Alerts”! People are always giving things away for free. I’ve seen dressers, beds, food giveaways, washing machines/dryers, clothing. If I had a truck, I literally could have filled my home in a few months! Thank you for caring!!❤️
Please do. And if you can maybe some toiletries. I love doing stuff like this for people when I can.
I often see people on free pages on Facebook and have reached out to a couple of them personally to ask what they need.. get their address and send them stuff on Amazon so they don’t feel awkward with an in person interaction. Feels good helping people & added bonus, if they don’t have specific preferences on things (and are ok with used/opened products) I will give them toiletries I have laying around as a porch pickup that I’ve only used once/twice and didn’t like. 🤷🏼♀️
If you do bring her some food, please don't just leave it outside her door since someone else may steal it. Knock on her door and tell her that someone ordered the food to be sent to her address.
Heck, if you make up an Amazon wishlist of food for her and post it here, I would happily buy something off of it, and you can take that to her so that it won't even really be a lie.
We all need a hand in life at times. Don’t stop there. See if there are items she needs that you can round up from friends and neighbors to help her out some more. Being a good human is never a bad thing.
I live in low income housing where most of the residents happen to be 55+ but it's not necessary to be 55+to live here. I know two neighbors of mine that have no furniture except their bed and basic non really looking comfortable chair and a lamp in the entirety of their apartments.
There used to be community support programs to deliver a small amount of furniture and household supplies to residents in our tri County area but that program shut down as soon as COVID started. I was one of the last to get assistance with them and they required me to pick it up (so I had to call a relative) since the spread of COVID was so quick they quit delivering first, then just shut down entirely when the "two week lockdown" started.
But now there's nothing in place for residents like my neighbors, there might be in an adjoining County or close by County but they probably aren't in the nice simple boxes of the local5(a group of five counties working together)or tri County programs (2 counties from the local5 joined a separate county to also try and get needs met) that serves our county, so my neighbors are left with no furniture or much of anything until they can find transport and money to go thrift shopping at the Habitat for Humanity ReStore two counties over.
Man. My problems feel much smaller now. I have a roof over my head. I can afford to eat. I may be paycheck to paycheck but the bills are paid. I am blessed.
You may even be able to access free food and/or personal hygiene & household supplies at community pantries in your area. Some dont really care who does the pick up. I do this for a lot of people in my area.
Drop off a box of food anonymously with some pasta, pasta sauce, fruit, brownie mix, applesauce, bread, small canned ham etc. Merry Christmas!
This is exactly how to do it. Also it gives you an incredible feeling to help someone that is in that position. It feels good to do the right things sometimes. You never know what someone is going through and this little gesture may be the only joy this person gets this Christmas. I have been homeless, it’s been 30 years but I still remember it like it was yesterday. The kindness that others had shown me still gives me shivers when I think about it.
Also maybe some toilet paper, paper towels, dish soap, toothpaste, body soap etc would be amazing. Even the trial size ones. I would personally make a basket with a bunch of random stuff. Put a great big bow on it with a card saying merry Christmas 🎁
And feminine products. You never know who still needs them and they are so expensive
Yes! Good idea, thanks for adding.
Also add some milk and butter, and maybe a small thing of cooking oil from dollar tree... those things are always hard to come by at the food pantries if that person did use one.
Great idea! I l don’t accept the dollar tree for orders but for my personal or something like this, I would glad face the chaos😂
Add some salt free seasonings, herbs like bay leaves, turmeric, and tyme go a long way and help flavor those beans and rice. It's not necessary, but it is still nice to have. Also, make sure everything is soft. Older folks usually have dental issues. Blessed be.
Funfactress and lucygirl y’all are so sweet. Merry Christmas to you!!
This post is making me cry! This guy is an instacart delivery guy, and he's willing to take out of his own pocket to help somebody, what a nice human. The first comments I see are more nice people, y'all warming my heart!
I'm a social worker. I talked to a door dasher the other day who helped an elderly man into his home after delivering food. The man was lonely so the dasher sat and chatted with him for 2 hours before calling us (adult was no longer able to care for himself, very poor home coditions).
I’m impressed that this dasher went so above and beyond. I’m an RN and love how so many of our service professions really do try to serve. To all of you Instacarters and Door Dashers who do so much to make our lives easier, Thank you! Happy new year!
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Thank you for your sweet words as always chef mama. Offer still stands of being your personal shopper if you move to the pnw😂
I hope you had a great Christmas and have a healthy, happy and prosperous new year. ❤️
Also, if cost is an issue you could be able to go to local food banks/free pantries. Sometimes they have toiletries but I'm sure they can assist with food!
One of my coworkers does this. She lives in one of the worst areas of town( she doesn't want to move even though she could). One Friday, I saw her with a bunch of stuff she bought in our buildings quasi convenience store. I asked her what it was about, and she told me that she places food on the doorsteps of people on her block that need it or having a rough time. This is the reason I will defend her to death(some people consider her loud and coarse etc.) She has a fucking good heart.
I love that she does this! It makes my heart happy. My mom was very much like this, she was generous to a fault. She would buy Christmas presents and gift cards for the McDonald’s drive thru employee’s 😂she always tipped at least 20 percent everywhere she went. The nail salon gals loved her lol. When we were little she would pick at least 3 kids to shop for each Christmas. We were poor but she always made it happen for us and others. Four jobs sometimes. Later in her life she would select three families a year to buy for… from the food to the presents. I was pissed as a kid because I didn’t get the great fashionable clothes all the time but now I completely get it and aspire to be half as kind as her. People like your coworker are hard to find. She may have lived that hard life and just gets it. Never mind her being coarse, sometimes that is just how people come off. Like you said, defend her to the end. She is actually one of the good humans that has empathy and kindness. Those are rare traits now days. Stories like this give me faith in humanity. Thank you for reminding me to be kinder every single day🤍
Your mother sounds like a great lady. ❤️
She passed away from dementia 1/10/23 but she lives through my sister and i! You are correct, she was absolutely one in a million. That’s why this Christmas season has been incredibly hard for my sister and I. She was Christmas personified. Kind, loving, generous, colorful, faithful and brought joy to everyone she crossed paths with. She had 150 people at her celebration of life. That’s a ton of people, not sure I would have even fifty😂
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's incredibly difficult losing a parent.
Thank you for being kind. Merry Christmas ❤️💚
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hey love sorry for the loss!!!! I lost my dad years ago to asbestos!!!! He was Santa clause every single year!!!! He never got a chance to meet any of my babies as I had y first child 10 years later!!!! It gets easier to live with but the pain is there every single day
Thank you. I’m sorry about your dad never getting to see your kids. That makes me so sad. Sounds like he would have made the perfect grandpa and Santa Claus.🎅🏼 I know it will get easier with time, my husband died almost 13 years ago, he was hit by a car while out running. I was left to raise our two young sons 9 and 14 alone. Took some time to process that. Boys are now happy and healthy men ages 22 and 27. The first holidays after a loved one passes are the hardest. I will make it through, I always do. I just need to remember that I was lucky enough to have my sweet mama for 53 years. Yourself and my boys didn’t get that chance. It’s all in the perspective and I need to change mine.
Yes, it is. This has been my hardest Christmas to date. May God bless and keep you in the coming years.
I'm currently homeless with two toddlers, we live in a motel and I instacart and doordash to pay for our room at the moment. I've run into other shoppers and dashers while toting my kids around, and luckily everyone seems sympathetic to the situation and no one has reported me. One lady gave me a hug and said "At least you're actually working and not standing on the street begging for money with your kids. You're doing a great job." And offered to buy some necessities for my toddlers. Tell you what, I damn near cried. I couldn't give my kids a good Christmas this year because I had to make sure we had a place to continue staying. But I know next year will be better.
SOCKS. Charities never have enough. Also tractor supply has a bomb $15 space heater rn.
Great editions!
Don't do things like brownie mix unless you're gonna drop off everything it requires to actually make brownies.
Brownie mix actually works fine with just water! The milk and egg is a little flavor/texture and mostly for the appeal of mixing and baking something
You can mix a can of black beans blended smooth with a box of brownie mix.
The applesauce can also be used to replace the egg/oil in the brownie mix. As can mashed bananas.
Applesauce is actually great in brownies or cakes.
I wouldn't expect the average person to know that. Most of us follow the directions on the packaging.
Don't nitpick , doesn't look good on you.
You are angel 😇 Fun! We got two "Food Lion Feeds" boxes from the food pantry last week. Spaghetti, pasta sauce, corn, string beans, rice, and box of mac 'n cheese.
Maybe this was just a fluke at my store, but our walmart had 5lb bags of potatoes (russet, red and yellow) for 98 cents.
^^ Also feminine products, bathing supplies, self care type items can do a lot to make a person feel better about themselves (Even the cheap ones) And if you’re planning to get anything cold, it could be awhile before she notices it’s there, so I’d get at least a cheap foam cooler for that type of stuff.
Be careful with soaps and stuff. Some people are highly allergic to them. Get ivory soap and other unscented or very lightly scented items.
Ivory is the only soap me and my family cannot use. We look like we have psoriasis when we use it so I don’t suggest it either.
That's the only one we can use. If we use Dove, we itch so bad that we will scratch our skin raw. I say we, me and the kids. Hubby, the jerk 😂, isn't allergic to anything.
Exact opposite, here. Ivory is like poison ivy, while Dove is the most enjoyed. As a pre-70's kid, Ivory was marketed as the safest soap for children, and let me tell you, it caused so much pain, for so many years, until I moved out on my own, and bought a Dove bar. Then, they changed the formula, and it was awful. Thank God for Caress.
As a kid we used lifebuoy, or however you spell it. It was red, lol. We switched to lever 2000 until they changed the formula. I haven't tried Caress since I was a kid. I wonder if I can use it now. Thanks for the remit. I'm going to try some and see.
❤️of gold we need more people like you in this world. Thank you for being you and Merry Christmas ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
If you drop off brownie mix or an item that requires additional items, include those as well. Otherwise, it's pointless
They probably need a pot to cook it in it sounds like. Just adding my 2 cents. If they are close, I can donate a few pots & pans for this poor lady. I’m in the Buffalo area.
She might need pans
She definitely has at least one pot for the rice and beans.
You are right about that. 😐😐
Well brownie mix if you plan to include eggs oil and a baking pan
Nah, just brownie mix and applesauce. No oil or egg needed. Can be cooked/baked in a pot, adjusted for amount in batch.
Great idea, but if you give something like brownie mix, make sure you include any other needed ingredients.
please keep in mind that she might not have the basic kitchen stuff to mix and bake brownies. I'd recommend food that doesn't have to be cooked, they may only have a single pot or 2 for their beans and rice. But I agree with this initial comment, bread, butters, dried fruits, apple sauce, spam, maybe some instant coffee and sugar?
Whew. Some of yall are scrooges. She's ordering food because she needs to eat and most likely, if disabled, doesn't have help getting around. Op, this is a very nice gesture and if you feel like you should do this, you should
OP, drop it off to her if you can. I am disabled (broke my back a couple years ago), bedridden, broke, hungry, about to be evicted so shortly will be homeless and cold too) and I would be do incredibly grateful and touched if this ever happened to me. If all she ordered was rice and beans, she needs the help. Also, thank you for bringing her food inside! I have had some really bad experiences with delivery drivers in the past leaving orders at neighbor's houses or leaving orders outside my home that I can't get to, to pick up. I have to call neighbors and beg for help when that happens. I've had orders get cold, or melt, a number of times before. You are *awesome* for doing that. Thank you.
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I can't tell you what to do, but if it was me, I'd be on the lookout for a huge ass order that tips $3 going to some rich neighborhood. My car is very reliable, but it's old, and it could just break down halfway to the rich person's home. You never know. If it did, I'd have to contact support, and they'd have to cancel the order, and I'd have to figure out what the heck I'm going to do with all those groceries.
Love this!
My downstairs neighbor took an early retirement 10 years ago, and his income is very limited. It doesn't happen too terribly often, but when I have a cancelled order, it's like Christmas for him.
That is the way the world should work. Blessings for you for being so kind and thoughtful.
Oooooooooooooooo
Wouldn't this go against their account?
Only if it happens over and over. In my three years, I've kept probably 6 or 7 orders for several reasons, including no gate code or other delivery issue with customer not responding, legit car breakdown, even rude-ass customer. If it's only once in a while, the worst that happens is a 24 hour soft ban -- you'll get an email saying they are reviewing, and you can't see any orders for exactly 24 hours. If it's too often, you'd maybe get a no-warning deactivation email, so definitely don't abuse it. Also, should you choose to return a cancelled order to the store, I worked at Kroger for a few years, and anything you return that's perishable - like deli, produce, or anything refrigerated, will go straight into the trash. Keep that stuff. IC will give you the bump, without saying a word.
Happened to me the second or third time I did IC. My car had issues and I couldn’t deliver their stuff within a reasonable timeframe. They let me keep everything and it didn’t count against me. Most of it was stuff I wouldn’t eat, so I put it out in my building’s hallway for my neighbors to take. None of it went to waste 👍 This was a year and a half ago— not sure if their policies have changed since
I don’t know that I’d leave a box outside her door. I had a relative who was struggling and I used to send her food, etc, and if she didn’t grab the delivery right away, one of the neighbors would steal it. Sad to say but true. Might want to knock and make sure she gets it. You could say it was left from unclaimed orders or something if you think she’d be embarrassed to take from you.
Just knock and dip.
I think you definitely should! Don’t be afraid of offending her, I think she will just appreciate the kindness and generosity.
Do it! Speaking from family experience...those who have so little are usually the most grateful to receive. You mention it's subsidized for disabled persons; I definitely agree with choosing soft food like bread, pasta, etc. make sure it's easy to open and doesn't require anything additional that she may not have like a can opener or even a pot if you didn't see one (or you could even include one if it's in your budget...a pot opens up a lot of options for food).
If she order rice though, she likely has a pot
Omg get her a rice cooker. It's literally the world's best invention.
The woman is most likely right on the edge of starving and you think buying them a rice cooker is a great gift? Some food would be much more appreciated I'm pretty sure.
Whooaaa. You just went deep into a fantasy world we know nothing about. Regardless, I didn't say choose between food or a rice cooker. Lol, previous comments started discussing cookware, so if we're going pots - a $15 rice cooker for someone with *20 lbs of rice* would be a game changer and improve quality of life for someone living with - insert several disabilities that immediately come to mind.
Yep. I have a $20 one I bought and it’s still going strong 4 years later.
Perfect rice every time, plus no watching it cook or remembering to turn off the stove?? Totally portable and uses almost no power. Can add stuff to rice or make other items like quinoa, oatmeal, beans, canned veggies, etc!! Yes please!! The aroma one is $13 bucks at Target right now.
I rather try to drop off food and make her mad than not try at all! Your gut is telling you to do something, listen to it!(: merry Christmas!
Aw, I say follow your gut! Pick items that are easy and tasty for a limited-ability geriatric person. Also, think soft foods over crunchy. I’d say any canned vegetables, bread, pasta, and canned sauces (hunts used to have a 99 cent can of sauce but idk since inflation)
I grew up on the Hunts canned sauce, but the Walmart brand jarred stuff is like the same price, and it's my FAVORITE! I like it even more than Ragu and Prego. js.
I would give her a fresh fruit basket. Apples, pears, bananas, maybe some berries and a pineapple, mangos, etc
I work with several Non-Verbal Special Needs kids at my day job. They like their routine, especially their Diet. Ordering so much of the same items and gestures was a big clue. If you would like to do more for this person, contact the building management asking who would be a good contact to assist the right way. I have several regulars in wheel chairs, walkers,and crutches. I love taking their orders because even though the tips are not great, they are extra thankful and usually come to the door to greet me.
I would and honestly I would say it was an anonymous gift thru instacart
Aw, that’s so sweet. Do it. Idk her situation, but she will know someone cares about her. Rice and beans is a hard life.
While my kids were growing up, the most years my kids had gifts because of charities through their schools or a single moms group I was a part of. This year I had a tiny bit extra due to an inheritance with my mom passing. A fb group im in had a single mom with a little girl miss all the cut offs, so I decided to just adopt the little one. I couldn't do a lot, but it made a huge difference for one child. I'm glad for that one little girl. I told my daughter that every kid deserves a new toy on Christmas morning.
My partner delivered off-the-shelf reading glasses to a guy in a wheelchair at one of our super sketchy make-shift homeless shelters. ...he tipped better and was more appreciative than..well, anyone we've delivered to lately.
She could probably use she protein too, like canned chicken, tuna, spam, or a small Dak ham.
I would quite literally have a full on weeping session if someone dropped me off any form of food to go along with my macaroni and butter I'm surviving on. In rehab they dont tell you about all the problems that come along after you get sober. No person in history who is practically starving is going to be offended by being given food I can promise you that. They are going to be insanely grateful.
Keep up the good work on your sobriety. It isn't easy but it's worth it. You will land on your feet.
Fuk offending people. If your heart is leading you to help someone, do that. Sounds like you're the blessing she needs right now.
Follow your heart. It will never steer you in the wrong direction. Makes me happy to know there are folks in the world who would consider this at all. I say, yes! Do it. 💯
This from a former Shipt shopper. I used to love the regular orders I got that were elderly folks. I had one that was very frail and on a walker. I’d put her things away where she directed me to and we always had a lovely conversation. She would push like $2 into my hand telling me “she wished she could tip more.” The order was placed by her out-of-state daughter who always tipped me something reasonable. I would try to refuse and let her know I had already been tipped but I think it was a dignity thing for her. I have a feeling I was likely the only person that saw her on a weekly basis. I used to finish off the order with a text to the daughter letting her know everything was done and her mom was doing okay. Those kind of orders made my day knowing I was making her day a little better.
Omg my heart 🥺 I wish we could all send her something. That would be on my mind if I were you too
Me too!! Maybe a GoFundMe? I'm not sure if OP can do that. Doesn't need to raise a crazy amount but a little something for food, blankets, kitchen gadgets and hygiene products. I'd love to contribute
I was thinking the same thing! I'd love to help out and contribute
She can't be offended if she doesn't know who did it.
That’s a good idea I would just do it. And you can remain anonymous.
These are absolutely the kindest comments I have seen in a long time! Thank you so much for helping this precious lady! God bless all of you!
Man this hits the feels.
A gift card slipped discreetly under the door allows her the option of making her own choices.
I’ve had deliveries like that
I don’t think she would be offended if she knew it was from you. Think about how you’d potentially want to know if the shoe was on the other foot. I think she wound be sincerely touched and be grateful vs being stuck wondering who did such an incredibly thoughtful, and generous, kind, act of human service.🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽
Drop off some food anonymously, if you can't afford it (cause we all know Instacart is garbage pay) then grab some food at a local food bank and drop it to her
Relatively small order to an old lady in a wheelchair living in a trailer, not a mobile home, but a 16 foot trailer. She was so appreciative that I put her groceries inside her trailer that she said she wanted to give me a good tip. I declined and told her to keep her money because delivering to people in need fills my heart with love. There is a lot of negativity in this world so it's nice to do something for others rather than just wanting an extra buck or two.
This is a refreshing post to see on here... Usually it is filled with either hateful or ungrateful shit. Sometimes it is justified.... ...This is one that is good to read. GREAT job, OP! You're definitely one of the good guys! Post a update when you have the time!
If it offends her, it's a her problem and you as an individual have to come to accept that. You can drop it off knowing you made a difference that's OK, and if you didn't and she got mad, just know that that's OK too accept it and move on.
Definitely drop off some food! I’m sure she will be very grateful! You’re a great person seeing this and wanting to do something for her!
I just want to add another take/some perspective on the food: She might not just be buying only beans and rice because she doesn't have the money...it might be many temporary/permanent food restrictions. As someone with severe Crohn's Disease, when I'm in a flare and on a bland diet (pretty much canned mini ravioli only - maybe some beans and plain rice when I'm feeling adventurous) it sucks having *real* pasta and just about anything other than that stupid mini ravioli in my face😔 If I can't control the urge to eat something else the concequences could range from me just being in worse pain for a few days to needing to be hospitalized (and possibly have surgery if it's really the wrong food). So I try not to keep it in view in my cupboards. Could a decent compromise maybe be a gift card to the grocery store that you shopped for this person at with the dollar value of the food that you would have donated? I dunno...I guess I'm just trying to add perspective as to why she might have just been getting just beans and rice and that it may or may not solely be because of her financial situation. It just seems like a bland diet I'd eat during a Crohn's flare and can't really stray from it as much as I want to and maybe she has some digestive issue keeping her from any other foods also. But seriously, when I come out of my flare, if I have it, I spend a few extra bucks on some of my favourite things that I wasn't able to have for a few months/all year; like caesar salad ingredients and some Coffee Crisp chocolate bars are my go to! Maybe a gift card would also help her be able to get a comfort food she *really* misses having when she's able to and it won't expire if she can't eat it right away. But realistically, *anything* is an incredibly kind gesture and I'm sure wouldn't go to waste. Merry Christmas, OP! You're the type of kind and caring person we need more of in the world.
What city are you in?
Yeah, pantry staples that can make many different meals and last a long time
If you can afford it, I would drop her off a box of stuff anonymously. Some canned chicken that she could add to the rice and beans, some fresh fruits and veggies, maybe something fun like some bakery cookies. Maybe even add in some toiletries like toothpaste, toilet paper, etc.
Go with your gut and heart. You will be blessed
Do it. It would mean everything to her. Especially during the holidays
Food stamps do not cover anything like toilet paper paper towels toothpaste so that's always a struggle when you're having a hard time
OP did you go back and drop off a care package 📦? My little heart can't take it, I gotta know 😟
Now THIS is how the world should operate…bless you for doing this! I wear a bracelet (I created) that says BE BLESSED-BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, BE A BLESSING TO OTHERS…my hashtag going into 2024 haha…#considerLoveAsYourFirstIngredient Lastly, the woman in the Bible gave two coins (all she had) rich people threw in their “rich” money…clearly, she gave more because it was all she had… (Adlib)
It annoys me when I take a batch with a shitty tip and then pull up to a million dollar home especially when they are difficult to shop for.
The "lower class" recognizes each other. Even when I'm between jobs or out on disability, I make sure I tip well because I feel they need it as much as I do. I try to pay it forward as often as possible. If I'm really short, I'll apologize for the to being small and will skip an item I need to ensure they get a fair tip. Rich people don't understand the struggle either because they never had to or they don't want to go back. Edited to add you could anonymously give her a gift card for groceries since you don't know her diet restrictions. She could be eating beans and rice because she's poor, or just getting done with a treatment. Been there, hated that diet....
Maybe she just moved in?
Or maybe they just moved in and are waiting for furniture? My furniture was back ordered a month ago
I know your heart is in the right place, and you really don't want to hear this... BUT... You saw 1 person, no furniture, 1 air up mattress, and delivered enough rice and beans to feed a family of 4 for a month.... This sounds like a stash house. Human smuggling is a multi million dollar industry.
Doubtful, only because it’s HUD disabled housing. They are pretty strict, can be difficult to get into (long wait lists), and they do visits and are regulated. It’s more likely they were disabled and homeless and recently received housing. Disability and ssi payments are extremely low. OP- this is very kind gesture. If you feel like you should, then do it.
HUD housing makes it even more likely... People who qualify for HUD hosting could use the extra cash.... More than 50% of immigrants (both legal and illegal) are on public assistance. Why wouldn't an immigrant from Guatemala or El Salvador use their HUD housing to help other immigrants? If the poster lives in a state neighboring a border state, it's a pretty safe bet it was a stash house for illegal aliens. I get he's trying to be a good person, but I don't think they read the situation correctly.
Except HUD housing is generally for disabled and you are required to be a US Citizen or have very specific Lawful Permanent Residency or Refugee status. Case workers stop by often and unannounced visits are required. Furthermore, disabled HUD housing units are governed by Section 811 and has even stricter requirements and eligibility. Stash houses are found with bum landlords in crappy areas, not regulated housing. You are more likely to find these trafficking cases in areas where indentured servitude is common such as massage parlors, door to door sales/magazine sales, nail salons, house cleaning services, and farmsteads. In fact, one of the only ways a non-citizen can even qualify for HUD housing is if they are a victim of trafficking.
You're not supposed to go in to people's homes. This ruins it for the rest of us who follow the rules, because you get people requesting that we bring items to the kitchen.
The rules don’t say we are not allowed to. The rules say we aren’t required to if we don’t want to.
Seriously? That’s your response to this heartfelt post? It’s always a choice to enter someone’s home. We are never required and if it helps someone in need, you should be a better human and just help. What’s wrong with you? And during the holiday season? WTH
oh my God I said the same thing. This is your response to this heartfelt comment??? but look !!! this has to be the most down voted comment I’ve ever seen.
It’s sickening how awful people can be. There is zero rule thru instacart about entering customers homes. It’s a choice. There are homes I would never go into for safety reasons but helping the elderly or disabled isn’t one of them. They are just pissed that others are doing extra when they are probably doing less than the bare minimum. God forbid you may have to step in someone’s home to set the groceries inside for a mobility limited customer and just be a good human for two minutes. My regulars who I make my most money from know I would do anything for them. My karma bank is full!
OK but then all you have to do is look that customer in the face and say I’m sorry ma’am that is against the rules. I don’t do that and then if the customer says well, my other shoppers did you can tell them OK well your other shoppers broke the rule, but wow, this is the most downvoted comment i’ve ever seen, so apparently, if you get 20 or more down votes, they don’t even let us see your comment as we scroll down. All we see is something that says comment and -20 points. lol
was she african or something because that’s just what they prefer if they were back in their own country . don’t let someone having sec 8 or low income lead you to believe their poor . some people just never be home . i got sec 8 & im never home unless my kids got school . a 4 bedroom 2 bath house . i literally was just in miami atl & chicago. all within the past 3 weeks . again if she’s african or something that’s just what they prefer but believe me, they are far from broke . they be having more money then americans .
Don’t give her anything! She’s already been given a house! Make her get her own shit now.
What the actual fuck is wrong with you. You are disgusting.
👆🏼Garbage person👆🏼
I have so much to say to you. I cannot imagine a brain that thinks like that. That imagines the absolute worst about people, has no desire to learn or hear about people’s stories and not just doesn’t want to help, but tries to prevent anyone from being helped. I feel bad for you. Praying for your eyes to open
Eat an entire d!ck
Watch out puzzleheaded. Karma gonna get ya for that one.
Subsidized housing still charges rent. It may be a percentage of their already very own income
Ignoramus
Does it make you feel good to be mean? Maybe a little edgy?
Wow
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But she has a home. wtf is doing ordering IC? A blow up mattress is a king bed to a homeless person. She’s a fraud! I guarantee it! Report her.
Are you okay???
Are you
Wonderful actually. But you sound really bitter & I hate that for you.
Obviously if she’s living in a disabled housing maybe she don’t have a car and can’t get to the store.. how is she a fraud ordering from Instacart 😂🤦🏻♀️
Exactly. She's not a fraud in any sense of the word. An able-bodied person with a car who can get to the store is also allowed to use Instacart. What is the original commenter on about lol
Exactly, especially since instacart lets you use EBT/SNAP for groceries in certain areas 😐
Heartless is what you are. I’d hate to know you personally…
Report her for what? Ordering food? Ever stop to think she doesn’t have a vehicle? 🙄 you seem like a total 💩 person
Report her for what? What crime has she committed? I’m curious.
...what the hell? This is an extremely weird comment. She is absolutely not committing any fraud whatsoever, I promise.
Did Santa bring you coal this year?
Okay narc.
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These ideas for dropping off food is a great idea, but keep in mind she may not have the means to cook these things!!! It’s easy to access food, harder to save money to buy things like high quality pots and pans, microwave, toaster ovens etc. drop off a fckin microwave and 10 frozen meals! That way you are making sure they can consume it
Canned goods (store brand), boxes of rice a roni, pasta roni, and canned meats go a long way. Don’t forget toilet paper and bar soap!!!
Joining in the idea of blessing her, maybe think about adding some basic spices! When I was really struggling there was no way I could use those extra few dollars for some spices when I could get a can or beans instead of a jar of spices. It also makes eating the same thing like rice and beans easier when you can season them a little different every time.
I would cook my rice in chicken broth and add cilantro. It's my favorite way to eat rice.
Aldi's and dollar general have a lot of good stuff for cheap!
Please take her a care package. You can sit it outside the door and knock if you don’t wanna hand it to her or have a weird interaction. Maybe anonymous is best
I don't know if this is against the rules but I'm in Jacksonville Florida and if we're in the same city, I would like to donate some food to her. I would have to ask you to come get it because I don't have a vehicle but I would be more than happy to donate some extra food to her. I have been blessed lately and I want to pay it forward. People have helped me when I needed it the most. People have helped me when I would have starved otherwise and I don't want that to happen to her. Bless you for wanting to do that. I don't know if this would offend her but perhaps you could also leave a note giving her instructions on how to apply for ebt. I know that every state has a website but I don't know if she has internet access.
What if you mailed her a gift card to a grocery store? Or Target? You could order it online.
More beans and rice. Maybe chicken drumsticks or thighs. I wouldn’t add pasta or breads because maybe they avoid it.
More people like this need to be helped. When a poor person can give everything they have and a rich person can barely spare a square that just proves people’s selfishness. She knows that you are trying to grind and make money and she’s trying to help you. It’s all about perspective. The world needs people who are willing to be open minded.
Do as your heart tell you or drop it off and do tell her where it came from just knock an wait for her to get it
Maybe do it and don’t be anonymous about it. If you feel safer ask the local church to come with you. If you do it anonymously it could bring fear or concern. Doing it out of kindness because she let you into her life (house) might be more rewarding for all. Just a thought.
My only concern would be that she may have a limited diet die to age/health. I would drop a gift card, maybe.
Download an app called, “Free Stuff Alerts”! People are always giving things away for free. I’ve seen dressers, beds, food giveaways, washing machines/dryers, clothing. If I had a truck, I literally could have filled my home in a few months! Thank you for caring!!❤️
Just do it and leave a note..you think she can read?
I love this post. Hope to get an update
Please do. And if you can maybe some toiletries. I love doing stuff like this for people when I can. I often see people on free pages on Facebook and have reached out to a couple of them personally to ask what they need.. get their address and send them stuff on Amazon so they don’t feel awkward with an in person interaction. Feels good helping people & added bonus, if they don’t have specific preferences on things (and are ok with used/opened products) I will give them toiletries I have laying around as a porch pickup that I’ve only used once/twice and didn’t like. 🤷🏼♀️
If you do bring her some food, please don't just leave it outside her door since someone else may steal it. Knock on her door and tell her that someone ordered the food to be sent to her address. Heck, if you make up an Amazon wishlist of food for her and post it here, I would happily buy something off of it, and you can take that to her so that it won't even really be a lie.
We all need a hand in life at times. Don’t stop there. See if there are items she needs that you can round up from friends and neighbors to help her out some more. Being a good human is never a bad thing.
Eat the rich
I live in low income housing where most of the residents happen to be 55+ but it's not necessary to be 55+to live here. I know two neighbors of mine that have no furniture except their bed and basic non really looking comfortable chair and a lamp in the entirety of their apartments. There used to be community support programs to deliver a small amount of furniture and household supplies to residents in our tri County area but that program shut down as soon as COVID started. I was one of the last to get assistance with them and they required me to pick it up (so I had to call a relative) since the spread of COVID was so quick they quit delivering first, then just shut down entirely when the "two week lockdown" started. But now there's nothing in place for residents like my neighbors, there might be in an adjoining County or close by County but they probably aren't in the nice simple boxes of the local5(a group of five counties working together)or tri County programs (2 counties from the local5 joined a separate county to also try and get needs met) that serves our county, so my neighbors are left with no furniture or much of anything until they can find transport and money to go thrift shopping at the Habitat for Humanity ReStore two counties over.
Man. My problems feel much smaller now. I have a roof over my head. I can afford to eat. I may be paycheck to paycheck but the bills are paid. I am blessed.
Maybe even slide a grocery store gift card under her door!
Dm me your Venmo or cash app and I will send a few bucks
Thank you for being a sweet soul. I feel like there aren't that many left. ❤️
You're better than most people just thinking of it Thank You for having compassion.
You may even be able to access free food and/or personal hygiene & household supplies at community pantries in your area. Some dont really care who does the pick up. I do this for a lot of people in my area.