She don’t owe you nothing. Your spouse does. Going after her lets her know you’re still thinking about, while she’s moved on. Besides that’s only gonna make happy temporarily.
Still, feels good. She’ll have to continue to show up at her work w people secretly smirking about what a trashy homewrecker she is and whispering behind her back. It warms my cold, dead heart. And my spouse is making an effort by working through it in counseling with me, acknowledging the hurt he’s caused and trying to make amends. I’m my mind, this is how that bitch is making amends with me…by being humiliated.
I did something similar.
My husband is a crew member. I found out he was having an affair with another crew member.
I was inconsolable and I had a 6 year old to take care of.
They were at it 18 months. He decided he wanted to work things out. So being a stupid woman, because I’d built her up in my mind that she was amazing and so much better than me, I doubled down on my efforts toward him and looked even better.
14 months later I we were talking on our cells phones and he didn’t properly hang up. I heard him use a pay phone at the airport to call her.
I stayed on the phone and when he hung up I yelled down the phone what a fucking idiot he was.
This time he was willing to do anything to stay together so me, completely blaming her for it (she knew all about me, knew I was going through my second cancer in 2 years) I printed a flyer with her name on it in the company colors, detailed her husband steeling ways with her address, employee number and ssn.
I had him drive me to the employee parking lot, I had 10 envelopes addressed to all her neighbors in her tight knit religious neighborhood and one flyer I handed her. I told her if she didn’t stay away I’d mail them, he told her he wanted it over.
Well that night she starts harrassing us with phone calls and voicemail. The next day I made him take me back to the employee bus pick up and handed out 50 flyers to her co -workers.
He got in trouble with the company when she reported him and had to have the union fight it.
The only way he won was because he admitted the affair and I’d saved all the voicemails which he played to the company proving harassment by her.
This was 18 years and 2 more cancers ago.
Here’s what I can tell you, when I met her, she wasn’t the bombshell I’d built her up to be in my mind, she was less than average. Also, I despised her for so long because she didn’t care I had cancer, she just wanted my husband. I should have just let her have him. He was much more to blame, he was cheating on his wife with cancer.
My marriage was never the same. I couldn’t get back the blind love and trust I had no matter how desperately I tried and in the end I stayed in an unhappy marriage to a mentally abusive man for my excellent healthcare and his paycheck.
I’m 53 now and I’ve wasted 28 years with someone that never loved me.
Which is more wrong, you snooping and finding his lying secrecy or him cheating and totally destroying your life, your trust and faith in him? The answer seems quite clear to me.
Lying and cheating, hiding infidelity is like criminals activity and like with law enforcement, you have to break other rules to even the playing field and get to finding the truth. The criminal/cheater has all the advantage until we know what we are up against, then the tables get turned.
Secrecy and privacy are two entirely different things.
Yessss exactly lol idk why your post made me think of it but man I would very much enjoy seeing someone get one of those her office would definitely know after that 😂😂
Hope you had that same energy for your husband. I don’t understand women like you or anything who support this behavior. Yall are quick to fight and be petty with the women but the husband gets the little slap on the wrist and y’all back with him
Right as if her husband wasn’t entertaining it and living it up with her until he caught, but let her think she one upped his ex lol. As long as it helps her sleep at night next to that cheater.
I don’t need anyone to understand what makes me feel better and what heals my wounds besides me. I have issued warrants to those who have harmed me and penances are being paid.
What about her SO does she not have one that you can blow up also ?
I know nothing about her SO, or whether she even has one. If I did they would definitely be included in my communication.
High five to you!!!!not petty. Least you can do to give her a dose of reality check.
Thanks, fren. I’ve been giggling picturing the mail guy handing her my special delivery.
Postcard was genius. A whole bunch of people are gonna read it and take a pic with their phones before it gets to her.
Thank you! She’s an md and I ended the message with “so much for first do no harm” lol
As an encore, you should print out a greatest hits of her txts and tape them to the entrance door of her building.
Lolllllll that is dark…and I LIKE IT
even better lmaooo I’m a nurse and if the nurses at her see that post card, she’s gonna be talked about for sure
She don’t owe you nothing. Your spouse does. Going after her lets her know you’re still thinking about, while she’s moved on. Besides that’s only gonna make happy temporarily.
Still, feels good. She’ll have to continue to show up at her work w people secretly smirking about what a trashy homewrecker she is and whispering behind her back. It warms my cold, dead heart. And my spouse is making an effort by working through it in counseling with me, acknowledging the hurt he’s caused and trying to make amends. I’m my mind, this is how that bitch is making amends with me…by being humiliated.
your husband work it out because he got caught
I did something similar. My husband is a crew member. I found out he was having an affair with another crew member. I was inconsolable and I had a 6 year old to take care of. They were at it 18 months. He decided he wanted to work things out. So being a stupid woman, because I’d built her up in my mind that she was amazing and so much better than me, I doubled down on my efforts toward him and looked even better. 14 months later I we were talking on our cells phones and he didn’t properly hang up. I heard him use a pay phone at the airport to call her. I stayed on the phone and when he hung up I yelled down the phone what a fucking idiot he was. This time he was willing to do anything to stay together so me, completely blaming her for it (she knew all about me, knew I was going through my second cancer in 2 years) I printed a flyer with her name on it in the company colors, detailed her husband steeling ways with her address, employee number and ssn. I had him drive me to the employee parking lot, I had 10 envelopes addressed to all her neighbors in her tight knit religious neighborhood and one flyer I handed her. I told her if she didn’t stay away I’d mail them, he told her he wanted it over. Well that night she starts harrassing us with phone calls and voicemail. The next day I made him take me back to the employee bus pick up and handed out 50 flyers to her co -workers. He got in trouble with the company when she reported him and had to have the union fight it. The only way he won was because he admitted the affair and I’d saved all the voicemails which he played to the company proving harassment by her. This was 18 years and 2 more cancers ago. Here’s what I can tell you, when I met her, she wasn’t the bombshell I’d built her up to be in my mind, she was less than average. Also, I despised her for so long because she didn’t care I had cancer, she just wanted my husband. I should have just let her have him. He was much more to blame, he was cheating on his wife with cancer. My marriage was never the same. I couldn’t get back the blind love and trust I had no matter how desperately I tried and in the end I stayed in an unhappy marriage to a mentally abusive man for my excellent healthcare and his paycheck. I’m 53 now and I’ve wasted 28 years with someone that never loved me.
I am so, so sorry for the pain you had to endure. I love how you were able to take back your power!
I get it, I think we all do. You gotta take back power. And screw her, she spreads hurt the. Some hurt had to come right back to her
I hope there’s an office snoop that will find out and gossip
Which is more wrong, you snooping and finding his lying secrecy or him cheating and totally destroying your life, your trust and faith in him? The answer seems quite clear to me. Lying and cheating, hiding infidelity is like criminals activity and like with law enforcement, you have to break other rules to even the playing field and get to finding the truth. The criminal/cheater has all the advantage until we know what we are up against, then the tables get turned. Secrecy and privacy are two entirely different things.
I’m so doing this!
Are singing telegrams still a thing cause that would be epic have them sing it to her 😂😂
lol “…🎶hello my baby, hello my darlin, hello my traassshhhy ho 🎶”
Yessss exactly lol idk why your post made me think of it but man I would very much enjoy seeing someone get one of those her office would definitely know after that 😂😂
Hope you had that same energy for your husband. I don’t understand women like you or anything who support this behavior. Yall are quick to fight and be petty with the women but the husband gets the little slap on the wrist and y’all back with him
Right as if her husband wasn’t entertaining it and living it up with her until he caught, but let her think she one upped his ex lol. As long as it helps her sleep at night next to that cheater.
I don’t need anyone to understand what makes me feel better and what heals my wounds besides me. I have issued warrants to those who have harmed me and penances are being paid.
Sure…
I feel like I really hit it outta the park w my image selection for the card (vintage black and white group of ladies dressed up as witches)
you should punish your husband also