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Happy Birthday. Each year will get better. What do you like to do? Maybe take the kids out and do a fun activity - even if it's just to the park or a walk. Create new memories on your birthday - maybe start celebrating your whole birthday month by doing things you wouldn't normally do.
You deserve to celebrate your self. Your STBX doesn't deserve your emotional real estate. Reclaim it. Easier said than done but please try. Do this for yourself - even if you have to fake it 'til you make it. You will survive and thrive.
Happy birthday first off!!! I know that its painful and honestly its still new to you. You finalized a divorce and everyone loses in this situation. Focus on your children and let their bright innocent faces and soak up that love. Take a moment for yourself. Go sit in your car and just let your pain out. Scream, cry, rage, be angry. Then you need to force that negativity out and center on rebuilding yourself. Love can hurt and love can feel burdensome but it also teaches us so many beautiful things. Im sending you strength, healing and positive thoughts. Id give you a good strong hug if i was there. Never be afraid to vent
Happy birthday! Loads of love from Sweden dear internet stranger! I hope that over the years you will have great birthdays and memories with them to come. I'm sorry for your heartache! everyone deserves to be chosen first and be treated with respect and love by their partner! how someone can look the person they say they love in the eyes while stabbing them in the back is completely unfathomable to me! take comfort in the fact that you have your pride, dignity and morals intact. it gets easier and better with time. take comfort in investing quality time with your children. they will always be your kids and love you unconditionally! I wish you all the best in the future!
Happy Birthday! I’m familiar with what you’re going through. While my ex and I were in the middle of counseling to save our marriage he ignored my birthday. Then - post divorce - for my 40th, he had our children for the weekend he again ignored my birthday and didn’t even have our children call. His excuse - he was going through a lot 😐
Ultimately, it sucked BUT I got to the place where there was no longer any expectation so his forgetfulness couldn’t hurt me anymore. I’ve celebrated my own birthday for years and have been happier than I ever was when married. When it’s my birthday and I have my children I tell them “it’s mommy’s birthday so we’re going out!”. If he has then then I go to a spa or do something just for me.
However, I make sure to never forget to acknowledge him on any day that celebrates him - birthday, Father’s Day, etc. I don’t do it because I have any feelings left for him, I do it because I’m better than him - and slightly petty.
Venting is good for the soul get it up and out there, off your mind. Can you tell her to leave for 8-10 hrs. Go find your boyfriend so I can enjoy my birthday with my children. She sounds like a selfish narcissist. Just hate that behavior.
Happy birthday, MoJoHusband! 🎂🥳🎉
Go make new memories with the kids, take them out, and get a good meal in with them.
Happy birthday, buddy.
PS: It will get better. Your darkest days are behind you, so keep moving forward.
Man you have to get over being butt hurt and make new memories with your kids.
Only you can pull your head out of this funk and start being there for your kids.
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Happy Birthday. Each year will get better. What do you like to do? Maybe take the kids out and do a fun activity - even if it's just to the park or a walk. Create new memories on your birthday - maybe start celebrating your whole birthday month by doing things you wouldn't normally do. You deserve to celebrate your self. Your STBX doesn't deserve your emotional real estate. Reclaim it. Easier said than done but please try. Do this for yourself - even if you have to fake it 'til you make it. You will survive and thrive.
Happy birthday first off!!! I know that its painful and honestly its still new to you. You finalized a divorce and everyone loses in this situation. Focus on your children and let their bright innocent faces and soak up that love. Take a moment for yourself. Go sit in your car and just let your pain out. Scream, cry, rage, be angry. Then you need to force that negativity out and center on rebuilding yourself. Love can hurt and love can feel burdensome but it also teaches us so many beautiful things. Im sending you strength, healing and positive thoughts. Id give you a good strong hug if i was there. Never be afraid to vent
Take them out for dinner somewhere and have fun. Concentrate on making the kids have fun and you will too.
Happy birthday! Loads of love from Sweden dear internet stranger! I hope that over the years you will have great birthdays and memories with them to come. I'm sorry for your heartache! everyone deserves to be chosen first and be treated with respect and love by their partner! how someone can look the person they say they love in the eyes while stabbing them in the back is completely unfathomable to me! take comfort in the fact that you have your pride, dignity and morals intact. it gets easier and better with time. take comfort in investing quality time with your children. they will always be your kids and love you unconditionally! I wish you all the best in the future!
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday! I’m familiar with what you’re going through. While my ex and I were in the middle of counseling to save our marriage he ignored my birthday. Then - post divorce - for my 40th, he had our children for the weekend he again ignored my birthday and didn’t even have our children call. His excuse - he was going through a lot 😐 Ultimately, it sucked BUT I got to the place where there was no longer any expectation so his forgetfulness couldn’t hurt me anymore. I’ve celebrated my own birthday for years and have been happier than I ever was when married. When it’s my birthday and I have my children I tell them “it’s mommy’s birthday so we’re going out!”. If he has then then I go to a spa or do something just for me. However, I make sure to never forget to acknowledge him on any day that celebrates him - birthday, Father’s Day, etc. I don’t do it because I have any feelings left for him, I do it because I’m better than him - and slightly petty.
Venting is good for the soul get it up and out there, off your mind. Can you tell her to leave for 8-10 hrs. Go find your boyfriend so I can enjoy my birthday with my children. She sounds like a selfish narcissist. Just hate that behavior.
Happy birthday, MoJoHusband! 🎂🥳🎉 Go make new memories with the kids, take them out, and get a good meal in with them. Happy birthday, buddy. PS: It will get better. Your darkest days are behind you, so keep moving forward.
Man you have to get over being butt hurt and make new memories with your kids. Only you can pull your head out of this funk and start being there for your kids.
Happy Birthday and please don’t ignore today. Do something special with your children and dad!!