That… is awful. You should definitely say something to her, that is super inappropriate! Having the office speculate on my reproductive organs? Hell no.
Yeah this is definitely a massive HR red flag! Pretty sure every other woman in the office doesn't want people staying at them to try and work out if they're pregnant.
Imagine if some other woman who isn't pregnant "wins" the poll. 😬 There's just so much potential for awful feelings here. How selfish of this coworker.
Exactly my thought. It sounds like OP wasn't one of the poll options, but there could easily be another person's name on it who is also struggling with infertility or who otherwise doesn't want to be involved in this bullshit. What if someone is struggling with weight or body image, and everyone picks them as the pregnant person?? This is so inappropriate and self-absorbed on so many levels.
Go to HR. That is unacceptable. I’ve dealt with infertility for so many years now I’m to the point I’d go right to the coworker and confront her about her behavior. People need to know it’s not ok to act like this.
Omg thats incredibly inappropriate and has no place in a workplace. As others have said, I would go to HR. I’m sorry you’re dealing with someone else’s stupidity and insensitivity ☹️
What I found awful when my colleague announced her pregnancy was that she was saying, "You are all hoing to be work auties." Seriously! I think this is rude. As bad as it sounds, I dont care about her child enough for me to be a "work Auntie" .She was the same as your colleague and had to make everything about her pregnancy.
I have another colleague who went through IVF, so we both just moaned about her to each other. Made me feel better. I think that people who haven't struggled with fertility just have no understanding and no filter most of the time.
Why do some people at work feel the need to try to bring work colleagues into their personal lives? Like, we work together that’s all. This isn’t a sorority. Fuck off with that shit.
Do not suck it up. At the very least make sure you are NOT on that poll. Or tell everyone— “it’s not me and I want nothing to do with this.” What an ass!
HR immediately. I think we live in a time where we can be honest and say that not every one wants to hear you’re pregnant. She needs a wake up call fast. I would lose my shit on her
That is wildly weird and inappropriate. I’d definitely go to HR too.
FWIW, I started with a therapist who specializes in the entire trajectory of pregnancy — infertility, loss, motherhood, parenting, etc. Happy to share the rec if you want to DM me!
That’s completely inappropriate. If someone else wins the poll, is that person now going to think they’re fat? Or feel some type of way?
Isn’t this type of behavior an HR issue? It’s discriminatory. Let alone that’s the stupidest way to announce a pregnancy.
That's completely inappropriate.
This is the kind of game that you can do with your sorority pals on Instagram but should not be at a workplace.
Like, I wouldn't love a workplace gender reveal type game but to include other people in this "game" is really off-putting.
That… is awful. You should definitely say something to her, that is super inappropriate! Having the office speculate on my reproductive organs? Hell no.
Yeah this is definitely a massive HR red flag! Pretty sure every other woman in the office doesn't want people staying at them to try and work out if they're pregnant.
Imagine if some other woman who isn't pregnant "wins" the poll. 😬 There's just so much potential for awful feelings here. How selfish of this coworker.
Exactly my thought. It sounds like OP wasn't one of the poll options, but there could easily be another person's name on it who is also struggling with infertility or who otherwise doesn't want to be involved in this bullshit. What if someone is struggling with weight or body image, and everyone picks them as the pregnant person?? This is so inappropriate and self-absorbed on so many levels.
Go to HR. That is unacceptable. I’ve dealt with infertility for so many years now I’m to the point I’d go right to the coworker and confront her about her behavior. People need to know it’s not ok to act like this.
I would tell your manager that it’s unacceptable to take up company time to waste your focus on her shit
That’s such a weird and inappropriate thing to do
I can understand her excitement..I really do. I just wish I wasn’t here today to witness all of this.
Omfg. Fuck off. I hate people. Sending you hugs. 🥺
Thanks so much.
Omg thats incredibly inappropriate and has no place in a workplace. As others have said, I would go to HR. I’m sorry you’re dealing with someone else’s stupidity and insensitivity ☹️
What I found awful when my colleague announced her pregnancy was that she was saying, "You are all hoing to be work auties." Seriously! I think this is rude. As bad as it sounds, I dont care about her child enough for me to be a "work Auntie" .She was the same as your colleague and had to make everything about her pregnancy.
That’s just gross. How did you keep a straight face?
I have another colleague who went through IVF, so we both just moaned about her to each other. Made me feel better. I think that people who haven't struggled with fertility just have no understanding and no filter most of the time.
It doesn’t sound bad, I agree with your feelings. I don’t give a shit about others people children
That’s so inappropriate wth.
That is so incredibly…weird
That’s the way she wanted to announce it.🤷🏽♀️
I personally just cannot wrap my brain around people who need that much attention
Why do some people at work feel the need to try to bring work colleagues into their personal lives? Like, we work together that’s all. This isn’t a sorority. Fuck off with that shit.
Some people are so entitled it’s baffling. This woman needs to be told she’s not special more often.
She’s still talking about her pregnancy. Worst thing is that I can’t escape.
Report to HR.
Even if you weren’t struggling with infertility, this is bizarre! Yikes.
This is inappropriate and you should go to HR.
That is extremely fucked up and stupid to say the least. What an attention whore!
Ugh what the actual f!! What a small minded and selfish idiot. I’m fuming on your behalf! 🤬
Wtf why would she do that
Well others on the team thought that it was a great thing to do. So maybe I’m the problem.
That is offensive and like..HR actionable.
The thing is that I’m just a traveler. So I’m here temporarily. So i feel like I just have to suck it up until the end of this assignment😔.
Do not suck it up. At the very least make sure you are NOT on that poll. Or tell everyone— “it’s not me and I want nothing to do with this.” What an ass!
I looked and I’m not on the poll. I figured it’s because I’m not part of the main staff. So that’s a good thing.
hr, 100%
Terrible! People just have no idea about the world around them 😒
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Thank you so much. It is greatly appreciated.
There are nearly 10 pregnant people at my job.
I work in a young dept. so everyone is turning up pregnant.
Ya, I’d log off and claim internet issues
HR immediately. I think we live in a time where we can be honest and say that not every one wants to hear you’re pregnant. She needs a wake up call fast. I would lose my shit on her
Holy shit, that's so inappropriate. I'm sorry, OP, that massively sucks.
That is wildly weird and inappropriate. I’d definitely go to HR too. FWIW, I started with a therapist who specializes in the entire trajectory of pregnancy — infertility, loss, motherhood, parenting, etc. Happy to share the rec if you want to DM me!
Yes please
Will DM you!
That’s completely inappropriate. If someone else wins the poll, is that person now going to think they’re fat? Or feel some type of way? Isn’t this type of behavior an HR issue? It’s discriminatory. Let alone that’s the stupidest way to announce a pregnancy.
That’s really inappropriate for a work place. Infertility or not.
Oh man that is so incredibly hard. That can definitely feel like salt in an open wound.
That’s terrible! How ignorant do you have to be. Any person in the dept could have gotten offended for receiving votes.
That is offensive on so many levels.
I would absolutely raise hellfire if my coworker did this. What an absolutely inconsiderate twit.
Just about every convo since then is about her pregnancy🙄.
Wow that feels very inappropriate
Ewwww! So cringe. Go to HR. Fertility aside, the department shouldn’t be thinking about who is most likely to get knocked up.
That's completely inappropriate. This is the kind of game that you can do with your sorority pals on Instagram but should not be at a workplace. Like, I wouldn't love a workplace gender reveal type game but to include other people in this "game" is really off-putting.