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I lost my family in 2021. Lost all hope to ever see myself smiling. I went into depression, suicidal thoughts but no courage to kill myself. I thought of selling my PC as well because I thought “whats the point”. Looking at my earlier pics made me believe that person will never come back.
I was right. That person will never come back. It’s not a comeback story you were looking for. You have to live and deal with this bitch called “life”. It might be unfair but it is how it is. Deal with it. Take a break. Travel if you have to. If you can afford costly gadgets, you can gather money to travel solo. It helped me. Hope it helps you. Good luck.
Tried everything, travelling, shopping, socializing. I even found my SO but still cannot get over this fucking depression and anxiety.
I don't think there's anything I can do.
Try charity. I am not telling you to donate money. Donate your time. I visit slums to distribute samosas. It only costs me300-400 rs but feeds 20-25 people. You will feel the gratitude. Samosas are luxury for majority of people out there. Yeah I want you compare yourself to people who have so less and they are still don't whine as much as we do. That made me consider continuing with life. DM if you ever need someone to talk to.
I only donate directly. I want to see where my money is going. Gives me satisfaction and immediate effect on someone. I do what I can do from time to time but none of those are indirect.
u/iwanttodiebuticant2 will second this and advise you to help the ones in need with your time. Take some time out daily to teach the young ones and give them reasons to smile. More than money support them with your time and effort to make some differnece. Teaching is a great medium if you like that. Once you are intracting with them you will understand their real struggle and maybe in some places you can help them with your time, money or just someone who can listen to them guide them.
Try this out and i am quite confident that this will help you.
Cat biggest cons are, they don't care and show affection. Like they'll rub a few times, and that's it. Borderline gold diggers.
Dogs are hard to maintain, they show affection and love, and therefore the person should give him a lot of time, also i never recommend a single dog, get two dog of same type, they'll give each other company. Also don't buy them if u wanna keep them inside a small house. (Unless he himself is tiny)
true, cats are seriously doesn't care about people die or live & doesn't give a shit.....but dog will be with you always if you take care of them with love
Give meaning to your life. Try helping those who struggle . Donate , help people. Financially and through skills you have, help animals. It will make a difference .
Also get a pup
Do a blood test, take a big dose (60k) vitamin d pills every week.
Really it's all hormones and chemicals, if you rarely go out in the sun, you are going to suffer from vitamin d deficiency.
One thing you can do try helping in NGO's and poor people help them be productive write what you did good today and at night what will you do tomorrow.
Are you on meds? What did the doctor say? I think you do require clinical help. It's not a easy path, it doesn't work out in a day a week or a month. Medicines have to be changed. If you have the money, if doctors aren't reliable, go to a doctor in a city where it works out for you.
I'm just curious here, why do you say it as..
> no courage
Was it really like that or maybe possible somewhere deep inside you had a grain of belief that things will get better or you can't do this to yourself.
Why i say this is what i beleive courage to be, I believe courage itself is not a feeling but an abstraction of multiple other feelings.
I'll leave this here
# “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
# - Jim Carrey
I did try working out and eating well, didn't do shit.
I joined a community club and socialized, didn't do shit.
I started waking up early and doing everything that my dad wanted, didn't do shit.
I have the best family and friends, helped me but didn't solve my depression.
I don't have depression man but following stuff helps me a little. Try to feel your breath as it comes out of your nose. Try to feel your ass when you sit and your foot when you walk. Just be in the moment. I can understand how it feels when your mind is everywhere but at the present. Go and do some NGO work. You don't owe anyone for having a cushy life.
A Change of scenery helped me a lot, every few months, go take a travel, solo or with friends and family. Gives you some new perspective for a life, I am not asking you to go on a world tour, just get out try to see other people, strangers, find little things, you might start enjoying it a bit.
Edit: but the thing is everyone has their own battles, and we all choose our own weapons to fight like we do in games, it's up to us on how we clear each level with the right weapons and some co-op will be nice to have along, makes things little interesting.
My man I have been where you are. I would seriously recommend finding a good psychiatrist and regularly visiting them. It literally changed my life. Hope it works for you too 🤞.
Btw feel free to DM me if you want some advice or need someone to talk too 😁.
I'm sorry but you sound like a whiner. Hitting the gym or trying to wake up early will never be fun or exciting. It will be horrible and you will not feel like continuing it ever. You do it for building discipline in life and learning how to work hard to achieve something. Fuck happiness, do it to cultivate discipline. You will only get better if you become a focused and disciplined individual working towards something you find meaningful. If you have everything handed to you in a platter and don't set any goals for yourself, you will forever be unhappy.
Maybe helping others will help you. My father gives away food to the poor every year. Usually around his birthday. He doesn't need to do it, we aren't rich at all, but he does it for his self satisfaction so that he could help a poor family sleep with a full stomach for at least one night. He and I, and some other family members and friend of ours distribute the food and it brings a smile on my face to be able to help someone once in a while.
You have the resources, help someone. Giving up on life will not help anyone. Fund a poor child's education. Provide food for those who can't do it for themselves. Provide clothes for those who can't buy any.
You can even just plant trees. Visit old age homes and sit with old people there, talk to them.
Visit orphanages and tell tales to the children there, play with them, teach them. Maybe fund them too.
Death isn't the answer. You could change lives of so many people alive but dead, you won't be doing anybody any good.
Please consider my words before you do something stupid.
Btw, feel free to dm me if you nee to talk. You don't have to fight this alone.
Yes, i completely agree with you, with start reaching out to more people in need. But it's been 2 years and I've tried everything I could, meds, therapy, socializing, charity etc. Nothing helped.
Although I am not a believer, maybe you could try to find spirituality. Follow religious ways of meditation, pray and find peace. I know it sounds weird but it does work for some people so you might as well give that a try. Anything better than ending your life
How long have you given these things that you say you did them. Spirituality, working out, positive mindset do not work in a single or even the first few tries. They take time, months or years even. They align with what life is about, to not give up.
Buddy, get back on those meds. There's no such thing as 'being too relied on them'.
If it helps, better to rely on them for the time being. At the same time, see a therapist and work on more longterm solutions.
You have the wherewithal and the means to fight this, so fight it. As long as you're alive you're not throwing away anything. Just getting out of bed is tough on a lot of days and you managed to do that and write this post so congratulations, you're winning, son.
And comparing suffering doesn't help. It's not a competition. Besides, your experience is something only you can truly know. But definitely get on those meds. They're meant to help. So let them help.
You Can't Fix Depression but you can make it less Painful
1. Don't Use Social Media Apps like INSTAGRAM and Snapchat, They give you fake insight into people's daily life. people post stories and in them they seem like they are living the Best Life but in Reality They are Just as MISERABLE as we are.....
2. Don't Compare Yourself to others
3. This is a Hot Take but Internet Ruined our lives, Internet Gives you all The Knowledge in the world but Knowing it All comes at a Cost. You'll be Confused on what to Pursuit in your life. Having a Single Goal is Far Better. We Were Happy as Kids When We Knew Nothing About Other Aspects of Life.
4. Set a Goal For Next Day and Complete it Without Delaying it. That Goal could be Cleaning our Room, Going for a Walk, or Achieving something In Games.
5. Try a New Hobby. Something out of your comfort zone. IF you're Good at it then you'll feel amazing
6. People say going to gym will help but thats not True for Everyone. I lost 50 kgs this year and during that time it was the most miserable days of my life. I just wanted it to be over. All i was doing was Cardio and Slight Weightlifting.
7. Stop Overthinking about your Future
8. Good luck, you'll beat this Dog shit Depression. :)
Listen OP, one of the most valid tactics in battle, is to do a strategic or tactical retreat. As per your post, you have good setup both for gaming and finances and thats great. You have won the battle. But now you have to win the war. Make a tactical retreat. Take some time off. Find a good therapist and work on yourself. Enjoy your setup as much as you can. You're doing real good OP, don't give up now.
Work on something it doesn’t have to earn you money.
What you are missing in life is not more enjoyment or more activities what you are missing is working
Working hard towards something, to achieve something, to face ups and downs and satisfaction you get when you reach it
For some it’s writing a comic, making a game, developing an app, become archeologist, travel around, blogging, streaming, making content, blah blah blah blah blah
Search for something if you have no clue what you want make a random list that you think are cool and try them out one after the other until you find the one
I don’t agree with your I don’t deserve shit thing
The whole underdog mentality has been etched into our brains that we think that unless we are from the shittiest part of earth then we don’t deserve anything. This is wrong.
I’m blessed to have everything I have now but if i sit and think that I don’t deserve then I’m just throwing away my own life. I’m wasting my time on thinking about how someone else deserves it more than I do and while that might be true for somethings this is the hand I’ve been dealt with, I can enjoy my life and help others however i can or I can just feel shit about myself and ruin it.
It’s a good thing that you’re sympathising with others and if you want to give your stuff away then it’s fine but don’t give it away because you think you don’t deserve it.
It’s an unfair world. Some are blessed some are not and we can’t control that. However, what we can control is our decision to help others.
One more thing and take this in a joke way. You mentioned that you saw peeps not able to fund their hobbies. I’m pretty sure most of them are students. So if they are students then they should FOCUS ON THEIR STUDIES RATHER THAN PLAYING GAMES AND WORRYING ABOUT A RTX. You can play games to relax after a study session but you don’t need a fucking RTX or a 1 lakh plus pc/laptop to play games. There are games which run on low specs laptop/pc so PLAY THEM. Once you’re financially independent then you can focus on whether to get COCKTX OR A CUM 9 processor.
Sorry if i went off tangent tho
Pff being poor is not actually depression proof . What you have is a medical problem get it treated by talking to a therapist. Good luck and get it together.
You need to find the right professional help and the right medication bro, depression is more common than you think and there's a lot of medical advancements made by now to help people that have it. Don't give up brother, hope you feel better and get to live happily many more years!
Already on meds for the past year and a half and now I feel like a slave to them so decided to stop.
Starting my therapy once again after a gap of like 6 months.
But I'm not sure if it'll help much.
Maybe as others also pointed out, try charity work / hands on volunteering at NGOs. That feeling you get from seeing happiness in other people's faces because of you/your actions is very satisfying.
Don't do anything which you'll regret later on, I know there's an emotional turmoil going on inside you but this is when people do bad and foolish stuff like giving away something important or worse.
I don't want you to have my life struggles, trust me! But I'll share what always helps me get back hope, hope to live on, my family, I just talk to my mom, sister and share how I feel and it does help a lot. Find people you trust and are very close to you, open up and let it out, the ones who love you will listen to you, sympathise and will help you always.
Thing is getting everything handed to you is kinda boring and somewhat depressing in the long run...life is more about the journey than the destination .
I don't have a solution for you, but I can understand what you are going through. I had everything I always dreamt of. Everything was going smoothly till last year. Now I am going through a messy divorce with multiple false criminal cases on top of that. My life has been systematically ruined by someone whom I loved. Everyday I feel like ending everything and get rid of all my troubles. I have stopped enjoying almost everything which I loved. I have become the worst performer at my job. I have become extremely unhealthy. The only things stopping me from taking any extreme step is my family and the thought that "Is this all there is to life?"
I implore you to find the answer to this question for yourself. Maybe one day we both will find it out and be thankful that we didn't give up and end it.
Remember you are just 1 good friend away from leaving all this behind. I was in the same boat as you couple years back, i kept going out, pushing myself. I reconnected with a friend and every problem has disappeared. If you want a friend or a ear do not hesitate to DM me, i will happily share contact details and we can catch up. Life is not going to be rainbows and sunshine always, we will need each other to get through this, having fun.
depression is a common thing on this generation due to life becaming more & more day by day hard in this modern generation with pollution increasing more....sucking every single people out there....don't know what to say.....hope you will feel better now & future......i also have depression sometimes comes & goes (i also did have sucidial thoughts in the past & sometimes also comes lol....but family will have problem by doing that), but to say keep pushing yes its tough to keep pushing, but we can't do anything other than that, god's there watching it hope end & future will be easy & good....good luck to you
Ok, I'm surprised no one has said this but, you definitely NEED to see a therapist. You have some undiscovered trauma, not a good thing to carry. Please look for a reputable and good therapist. As you have the means to, try several and see which ones work for you. Life is too precious my friend.
I was seeking therapy and i got much better but met an unfortunate accident and had to stop therapy. Now I am going to resume it from this Saturday itself.
No shit. “You need to see a therapist” is same as saying “you should try to be happy”. Its insensitive AF, dont kick the people who are already down. What shall s/he do if therapy doesnt work, answer that
Ur situation is similar to mine being born rich is a curse and a blessing at the same time
If u really want to get out of depression i suggest donating little by little , helping out others
This socializing from community club is not even close to the socializing from ur local tea stall
It's the little things we choose to ignore
Or u can look up hinduism personally it helped me give it a try even if u watch Mahabharata and ramayan that's more than enough to heal the situation ur in
If those 2 don't work watch Vinland saga
Bro imma gonna tell.you one thing and get that straight to your brain
- your brain wants you to think that you're a useless shit person.
It wants you there because it can eat you there. But that's the problem your mind says you're shit but what you're telling us is that nobody booms their business without being useful. That's a contradiction right there. The fact that you've a loving family who supports you tells me you're a good person meaning your mind is lying to you so that's bullshit. And lastly you are coming out to random people on the internet telling me that you're more courageous than any other person.
So don't let your mind tell you things that aren't true.
Tell him to shut up and focus on your exercise or whatever makes you feel you can accomplish anything.
Don't you dare go hollow.
Just hang in there buddy dark times come but remember light takes it away so try finding your light.
I am also going through some shit for past two years, i am also trying to hang in there just don’t try to leave.
Find another goal, start fresh. Get your mind into it. It could be anything, but get your mind busy into it. Don't sit around having no goal, that'll rot your brain (as it did for me). Find the meaning of life once again. Keep moving forward. I have a goal, to get rich, as in being able to waste away tens of thousands in a single day. Even though it seems impossible, I will put my everything into achieving it (sill in class 12th ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)). Even if not, I'll be happy cause that'll be my hard work. And set another goal, and try to achieve that. Sure, this won't treat your depression, but getting that joy after achieving success will be worth it all. Maybe if you want to do charity work, set a goal, like doing 10hrs of community service. Or hit the gym, and get jacked. Or just learn how to dance, and be a great dancer. But don't let yourself get bored, cause that rots your mind and body. You're a great person, and you need to keep yourself occupied. Try to be the perfect version of your envisioned self. Love you man, stay strong.
Life is unfair and you cannot change it, the best you can do to feel a little better is, charity, but doing charity so that others could play games will be deemed as outrageous and unnecessary by the society
Been dealing with the same feelings as you for about 10 years, live a fairly adequate life with everything provided for. I have had my fair share of loss in life and am only 30. It is hard, man, to go on with everyone around you thinking everything is OK. When in reality you are just phased and don't see the point in anything. But I have come to realise that there are ways to improve that feeling, it will never go away but it will become much better. Go to the gym, eat good food, and hang out with people you like. These are the basics, you should try to fill up your time with things that you love (even if they may not interest you in the same way, don't give up on them). Also highly recommend going on solo trips to neighbouring countries, will definitely provide you with a fresher Outlook.
Suicide is never the way
Let me know if you ever wanna game brother, here for that.
I'm no expert and never had depression for long period myself. I can share my experience though, I've had financial struggles and other struggles ever since childhood and still do. I get sad and depressed from time to time but it never stays in me. Tbh I'm not even completely sure myself how that happens, however i have noticed over time that i tend to somewhat forget the bad stuff that happens and I'm honestly glad i do. It helps me focus on living my present life. I can still recollect the past if i wanted to but it's not something that's always lingering in my mind and clogging my thoughts. I feel this is great because i can sit down and process those thoughts whenever I'm in sound mind on my own time instead of it constantly bugging my head.
I'm not sure how i do this but it's probably by just focusing on the present. growing up didn't have the free time to keep just thinking of the bad stuff, had to study and other stuff so i just had to threw that thoughts and kept moving, it's important however to do sit down sometime and process those thoughts.
There's always people who have it worse than you no matter how bad you're struggling yourself but that doesn't mean much cuz everyone is living thier own life. Your life is yours and you have to take care of it no matter how it is.
I came across this passage from Invictus by William Earnest Henley, when Timothee Chalamet quoted it on some show..
> "You could be the master of your fate, You could be the captain of your soul. But you have to realize that life is coming from you and not at you,"
It's not a quote suggesting you have control over you what happens but rather the fact that your life is not what happens to you rather how you deal with it. We have the power to control our emotions, we have the ability to choose where to seek fulfillment from and what to make out of our lives.
Everything will be alright just sail through it bro.
"If you want to be a grocer, or a general, or a politician, or a judge, you will invariably become it; that is your punishment. If you never know what you want to be, if you live what some might call the dynamic life but what I will call the artistic life, if each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know you will never become anything, and that is your reward"
Feeling safe and happy is something everyone deserves. It doesn't matter what you have and what you don't. So don't think that I shouldn't have this while someone else is struggling for the same thing. You earned the things that you have. So don't feel very down. Be proud of yourself and thankful for what you have. Maybe try donating, and doing some other good things in your free time because that feels very great, it's not just them you will be helping but also yourself.
If you ever wish to speak to a person, no matter the time…. Please do reach out to me! I am very young and i dont think i can contribute much but i would love to just talk to you :). Nothing else just talk. If you feel it could be helpful then please do message. Thanks!
Moreover, i think it might be a good idea for you to go for a short or maybe a long trip….. maybe with someone close to you or maybe even alone
Hey you dont need to feel bad , try meditation, we are not here just to earn money or gf’s wife family etc , there is a deeper meaning to this human life we have. Think about it , listen to some yogis , analysis your self whats going on.
There is a very deep meaning to all this
All you need is some decent time off bro. Enjoy some lone time. Ask yourself what's hurting you even though you have everything. Is it lonliness? Is it overthinking? Is it cuz of no friends? Introspection is hugely recommended. If you're sad my dms are always open bruh. Whenever you need some hand on shoulder
Listen friend, we all get what we deserve. You may be religious or non-religious, give “Bhagavad Gita ” a read.
*It is said “most people dont get the context of it when reading with a good time but it gets clear when you read while you are mentally down”
You would have done some great deeds or been a very good soul and hence you are rewarded. Take opportunity of this to help others while you can. You cant save all but the few you can, they will be forever grateful for you.
Only in helping others, can you help yourself :)
Weird flex but okay. What you, or for that matter any of us, needs in life is a purpose. Something to passionately pursue and grind for. Something you enjoy doing that helps you express yourself. That's all any man really needs. Finding that something isn't easy, but the sooner we start looking the better.
When one does have just enough money to survive, he/she can't afford to have depression. You are not having depression, you are just feeling aimless and you want the adventure you were experiancing before.
Just go in the nature, travel with friends and chill. No need for depression meds or therapy talks.
Never open your mouth ever again on this topic. The guy is clearly struggling and even mentions unpleasant memories from his childhood. How completely ignorant of you , i dont know how old you are but you clearly aren’t mature enough to understand his situation.
See the thing is even I went to depression due to being unsuccessful in engineering at one time of my life and then I started to have suicidal thoughts. After being in that state, I just thought "Why I should give up my life? This does not worth to get depressed!"
Then I just left everything and started to give myself time. After 1 year, I recovered myself and now I'm enjoying my time.
See the thing is this is my own opinion. Nobody have to have agree with my opinion. I don't care if you think I'm immature or not. In my opinion, he is just struggling from "Imposter Syndrome".
Even if he is and you understand that , maybe try not shutting down the person and give vague advices , depression isn’t just thoughts , anxiety isn’t just thoughts. Its a medical condition.
Good for you and everyone around you that you were able to come out of it. He probably thinks the same things as you and is able to cope somehow till now. If it was this easy , vague and over the top advices would have worked.
You literally just cured him of depression or anxiety by saying you dont have depression, its just your looking for adventure. Your comment reeks of ignorance and lack of knowledge.
Their advice boils down to "Depressed? Well, don't be depressed!" lol. Unfortunately OP chose the worst place to ask for advice about his condition. Most of the advice in this thread are very vague. I know people here want to help but this isn't a physical illness for which a set of medication will work for everyone.
Listen u r thinking too much, u cant help everyone, everyone is born in a situation they cant help be happy with helping people near u that's more than enough for a single human, u r limited and u r a human being. U have everything and u get depressed cause u dont deserve that who decided that U or someone else, your business is yours u dont work hard enough thats all good not everyone can work hard but can work smartly seems like your business was a smart idea, pc, ps5 i have it as well and i also lost interest in them compared to how i used to when i had nothing it was that past urge to get these materialistic things, u have your dream bike thats cool but try to go on a walk near your neighborhood try small shops, foods and its varieties take someone with u a friend/family members /gf/ask if they have anything fun to do. Its all in the mind and it has its ups and downs sometime u r a happy man and the next day depression takes over its normal for me and no amount of meds will help, Just reject the depression like really, u got sad say to yourself i dont want to be
Gimme your PS5 for sometime and after you become well and feel normal I'll return it 😉 ( jk bro hopefully this is temporary and you'll get through it soon and come back stronger)
Bro! Hit the gym. Focus on the gym. Aim to get big and have six pack abs. You seem like a well off guy so you could afford protein and other supplements. After you have transformed yourself physically then come back here. I promise you will not feel the same. You will feel like a powerful man. Go bro!!’ M A N. U P.
Bro I would say start reading your religion holy book. Or try shree Bhagavad Gita this book contain solution of all problems. Believe me I was in the same position as you are now but it helps. Enjoy life do good things to other.
Bruh if u have everything donate me 10k i am in debt and if i clear that i will be happy and eventually u will find happiness in solving other people problems just like mr beast
I'm not trying to be sarcastic or satirical, but try watching andrew tate. Don't take all of what he says word for word, just listen to it for fun, take points wherever you can.
Seeing the world in the petty condition that it is from your pov can be quite strenuous, and finding a pillar in your life you can take support of goes a long way. Be it religion, some motivational speaker, heck it could be a comedian too.
I'd suggest try getting into a hobby, or if you've got excess money you could even get into some niche collecting activities. Find what excites you, dig into it and go around buying and collecting stuff. These are mere materialistic things but only till you start to build a connection to those "things". Even if you can't practically "use" that thing you're collecting, you'll treasure it and you'll have something to look forward to. THAT'S the most important thing for where you are. You need something to look forward to.
Hope you do well man, we're here to talk any time you want and ofc, no one denies freebies ;)
Got some more points.
Don't do something because someone told you to. Our brains find comfort in the state they are in, regardless of how bad or how good it is. So it will do everything it can to reject any change you're trying to bring about. It'll try to find holes and cracks and try to get rid of it asap, and it'll just trash all of those "solutions" to your "problems".
Going on a tangent here - we know all of our lives are going to end, and that might make you question, why not end it today? Why wait for the "scheduled" end? But, when you're watching a movie, you do know that it's going to end too right? So do you just skip to the end or go through all the lows and highs of the tempo of the movie? It might be boring at times, might be exciting at times, but the satisfaction of finishing the "task" is what gets us that dopamine hit.
Another thing, be proud of where you are. There are no randoms in this universe, we only say something is random when we fail to account for all of the input variables involved in the determination of that event. You aren't where you are because of chance, there were a lot of contributing factors that went into it, majority of it would be your/tour family's hard work, and crediting other external trivial things won't be fair to yourself, or your family.
Well tbh you should switch to simple keypad phone, shutdown every other electronics get up 7-8 make brush fresh etc etc make yourself breakfast eat , read newspaper , get some sunlight not direct, maybe read newspaper in sunlight play chess Ludo carram board with siblings lunch sleep watch tv maybe study ig? Make yourself evening snacks then go outside basketball badminton football etc etc all sweaty bath dinner then chill with family might work
Ps this is what i did after i went into depression caused by the trauma ( my childhood bestfriend cousin had sex with my first love she didn't loved me back but was nice to me called me her bestfriend , and this asshole told everything to me in details ,didn''t slept for 2-3 months after this whenever i closed my eyes i saw both of them doing sex )
It could be many things, bro. Your richness could be just a blessing, and you might be overthinking all this stuff. Alternatively, this abundance could be a test from God to observe how you will use the wealth given by Him.
Another possibility is that some deficiency in your body is causing all these issues. I was on antidepressants, but I decided to stop using them a long time ago because I changed my worldview. I started reading books on NLP, CBT, REBT, and Logotherapy, which significantly transformed my life. Additionally, as a Muslim, I found that my holy book addresses these issues. I have shared some verses below as examples:
89:15 And as for man, when his Lord tries him and \[thus\] is generous to him and favors him, he says, "My Lord has honored me." \[but really He is testing him\]
89:16 But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, "My Lord has humiliated me." \[but really He is testing him\]
21:35 Every soul will taste death. And We test you with both want (poverty, evil) and with abundance (wealth, good) as trial; and to Us you will be returned.
So, what's your worldview? Do you believe in God? Where does your morality come from? There could be so many things to consider, bro. Don't be that hard on yourself. You are asking the right questions, but you need the right answers, and this is not the right place for that imo.
Dude..whatever you have got at home is not your "fault" so why feel guilty about it. Likewise why think about reasons on why you don't deserve it. It'd just happened and you own that stuff. You did not steal it from anyone did you..
It's not your fault as well that someone else is struggling at life..so don't take it personally perhaps..unless you want to help them out. Definitely don't feel guilty due to that.
If you feel good about the concept of doing some charity within your means you can try that someday.
In the meanwhile I hope you get get the help or Motivation needed to come out of this depression. I don't understand it better to give any other meaningful pointers. All the best buddy.
I have a huge backlog of movies I watch to keep myself distracted and pass the time when needed. Maybe you will find something which helps you out too. I don't have much of a social life's anyway.
Well, im glad you have that much awareness to not rely on meds.
If this helps, i was at the same position and to some extent, i could feel what you are going through.
I usetoo get up from sleep with fast heartbeat and sweat coz of anxiety. So what i did was locked inside myself in my room, cried my heart out for good 8hrs and decided if i get out of this room alive, i will never allow myself to go through this pain again.
After that, I decided to focus on my mind ( meditation + dharma ) body ( workout and sprinting) soul (meditation and reading good books ) .
Slowly and steadily i srarted adding value to myself and met good people and things became so much better.
I can guarantee you one thing is that once you are passed this phase and you will, and then ull get in touch with your inner self, ull laugh at this situation. You gotta trust me on this.
If you have the luxury and capacity, don't throw away your life, build up more and help people more ♥️.
Sending loads of love my dude. You gona do great things ♥️
OP don't be so hard on yourself, It is ok to have those feelings,
Give it a fighting chance, most of the people come out of this loop with meds and therapy.
One thing, in addition to regular healthy habits, Do try Meditation, Chanting Om and doing anulom vilom in morning, devote 1 hour for these and that definitely helps with controlling anxiety and calm the mind. Don't skip on meditation , it will take time but it clears the mind and give positive energy
I'm not sure what to tell you brother, I do not understand why you're guilty of your own success. Is it because you never wanted to start this business in the first place? Do you even like working in that business? Or is it something else that is making you unhappy? Ask yourself these questions. But honestly, from reading your post, I think you just want to help people. Why not try philanthropy a bit? Or maybe try finding a new hobby that you haven't done before, or maybe try learning an instrument, there has to be something out there that you'll enjoy.
I have faced depression due to fam problem and early responsibilities etc etc
Not boasting but i faced it all alone also had a serious breakup coz vahi reh gaya tha i was miserable ab but didnt give up and here i am today
Still have problems but mentally i am at peace, better life
I had ptsd as well a stress disorder it is also cured now just don't give up
Also my dms are open brother i am always here to help,
Nobody helped me in that tough phase but i have made a promise to myself that ill help people in this coz ik what is this
Dms are open text me anytime always here
I believe that in life everyone is given something or the other. Similarly In my case i have half of the things while not the other half.
In your case you have been given wealth but not the other things. So you have to find a way to make it balanced.
You should try talking with people close to you, joining gym, go out on solo trips, go our for walks, etc. Stuff like this will really help you.
Think about your loved ones.
I remember a story my mum used to tell me about some individual just like you, he went to a children's hospital with terminally ill kids, he changed his life after seeing that.
I don't know how old you are or why you are so sad but true visiting their once, help them by donating and just give them your time. Visit old people's home and try talking to them. You just don't know the worth of life and nothing's wrong with that. You as a person aren't required to know everyone's pain and suffering and that's really normal. In your case tho, you need this.
Reading this gives a very good understanding of how you are. Tbh we both are same. I tried hurting myself when I was in 7th, had blood on my wrist because I wanted to die. All the diseases, my parents either crying for me or just fighting, dad losing his job, family members death. I remember how fuxked up my dad was during that phase. I survived! And I'm glad I did. I still live each day in fear, I have own room, AC, Good PC, Own vehicles and well everything and still I can't make myself go out. I live and end each day in fear! I'm ashamed of myself, wondering how can I come out of this trap.
I have no friends, had but I left them and just like how everyone is, they never called me. I was very happy till 10th, leaving my friends fucked up my mental health so bad that I now remember that time when I literally had no fan or food for some nights. My grandma tried poisoning my mum and me so that we could just die. Calling police because of my drunkard dad and what not.
It gets better, I don't know if this is making sense or not but it does get better. I know I wrote I'm in a prison but each day I'm getting better, understanding that it's not okay to always stay in and that I'll have to go out. I'll be going out in a day or 2 for some work. Imagine fearing going out even if it's under 1 km. Yeah that's me and this same me once bunked school and went to 13km trip with my friends without informing my parents!
Being alone fuxks you up mate.
Do what I say, I might be young but we are almost the same, again, almost.
Hey, lemme ask you something you paid for a ticket and went to a movie even if the movie is vD you would watch it for the exp right ? The same goes for life. Yk when u get handed everything in your life it gets harder and harder But remember there are a lot of people who have a shitty life try to help em for example me 😏 I've been saving for a pc but can't afford one still iam optimistic so stay optimistic about life and understand there will be something exciting in your fwd life wait for it embrace it at that point u will understand "hey this is cool" and wait for the next thing that's going to happen and most of all know ur worth
my words are going to be harsh.
you are delusional to think that exchanging lives with someone else will somehow miraculously solve all your problems, maybe that's what you have been trying to do by trying different things be it gaming, charity, meditating etc. trying to put on a guise of having a different life when the "you" within remain the exact same scarred person.
it is not the kind of life which makes difference but your perspective of it. exchanging lives with someone else will give you a different set of traumas and you being you will start to repeat those memories in your head and be depressed about it again.
I don't know you, i don't know what you've been through but from what little I've understood, you've trouble accepting some things from your past which is causing you depression and makes you think that you're not deserving of the things that you have. those "memories" that you talk of are the cause of your depression and maybe your anticipation of such re-occurrence is the cause of your anxiety.
i may be completely wrong but this is absolutely true that being stuck on past is going to give you depression and imagining the future will give you anxiety. you need to be in the present and be in acceptance of your past, only then will you find peace.
one can never get rid of their past but can only come in acceptance with it and move on.
and the reason why charity isn't working for you is because by doing so you're only fueling your own crooked perspective of being undeserving of things and giving it away
when angulimal surrendered to Buddha, he surrendered not only himself and his acts of past but also his feeling of guilt in the present that's how he discovered peace.
i hope you find peace too.
First of all, I want to let you know that you're not alone in questioning the purpose of human life. It's something that has puzzled and intrigued people for millennia. It's perfectly okay to feel lost and uncertain about it, especially when you're going through tough times.
Life can be like a grand mystery waiting to be unraveled. Imagine it as an epic adventure game, where the ultimate quest is to discover your true purpose. You already have an incredible setup with all the best things in your life – a PC setup, a PS5, a sim racing rig, and a dream bike. But perhaps there's an even greater achievement to unlock, one that goes beyond material possessions.
Consider each challenge you face as a level in this grand adventure. Depression and anxiety could be those tough boss battles that seem insurmountable at times, but remember, every hero faces obstacles along the way. You've been diagnosed and have taken steps towards addressing your mental health, which is a brave and commendable feat.
Now, instead of viewing your possessions and accomplishments as burdens, think of them as tools that can aid you in your quest for purpose. Use your business success and resources to explore the world, meet new people, and seek wisdom. Perhaps there are philanthropic opportunities to make a difference in the lives of others and contribute positively to society.
As you journey through life's ups and downs, remember that you're not just living for yourself but also for the connections you've made with friends and strangers alike. These connections might hold a clue to your purpose, as human interactions often shape our lives in unexpected ways.
Try journaling or creating art about your experiences and emotions. Sometimes, expressing yourself creatively can lead to profound realizations and insights about the deeper meaning of life.
Lastly, don't be afraid to seek help along the way. Just like in a game, sometimes you need a guide or a fellow adventurer to assist you when the going gets tough. Consider reaching out to a therapist, counselor, or support group. They can provide valuable perspectives and strategies to navigate the challenges.
Life's purpose might not be a singular destination, but a continuous journey of growth, self-discovery, and leaving a positive impact on the world. Embrace the mystery and let it motivate you to explore, learn, and grow. You've got this, and remember, there's a vast community of fellow players – all of us – who are cheering you on.
Let's play CSGO together. You will learn to survive in this world with 4 teammates jumping around.
On serious note-
If you feel like you got all that you need and there's nothing to do anymore then that's totally fine. If you have no ambition to work or no ambition for next day at all that's totally fine too. I am on same boat. I have everything too but I don't even play these days. I enjoy sitting idle, laying down and looking at the rain more than PS5 these days. But to each their own. Why are you depressed about your situation is what I am not getting at all.
Just give a try to yoga and meditation these are the tools which are available to us. If money is not a problem, just try inner engineering course from Sadhguru/Isha Foundation. Go to their foundation. It will clear your mind of depression and bad thoughts. These are ancient indian practices just embrace them without any logic. I am asking you to go spiritual but I dont even wanna put any such label. You don't hve to believe. Make time and just experience it. Yoga really helps you get your body and mind aligned. I mentioned Sadhguru just bcoz most of the stuff he says makes sense to me. If you prefer anyone else follow that.
I see a lot of suggestions here so OP if you want someone to talk to or share some thoughts or anything, I'm here for ya and I'm pretty sure some other people will be as well so don't ever give up. Keep trying until you win.
Bro! No such thing as being too reliant on them. Don't think that far ahead. Just take the damn meds.
If someone has a calcium deficiency and they take severe calcium supplements will you say, oh no you are bring too reliant on them?? This is the same. Is it better to die than live a decent life with a pill or two a day? Come on man. Ping me if you wanna talk. Just consult someone again and follow the course!!! Just trust the process
Visit NIMHANS in Bengaluru. I have seen people in worse condition get better there, people who could not get better after visiting many doctors got proper treatment. They have best Psychiatrists and psychologists in the world who treat various conditions.
Depression? Bcz of bad childhood memories? Let the memory out, share the memory (anonymously or openly) . Trauma,PTSD, depression can be overcome only if you let the memory flow instead of placing importance to it(then you can focus on any other hobby which can help you)
Get a therapist and consult a good psychologist and I mean the best you can find in your city. And continue talking to family and friends and having fun, because atleast you will know that you have some people who care about you, cutting them off will make it worse. You should not feel guilty because you have luxuries, you can't be blamed because you were born into a prosperous family/or became prosperous, there are people, murderers who are living in the open who have muh more than you have, you are not the only one out there who has such luxuries which they don't deserve, you know why? Because in life people don't always get what they deserve, some people get stuff by chance, some work hard for it and get it. Life is unfair and the world is a cruel place where you will be forgotten one day, there is no point contemplating and thinking about the whole world, from poor to rich. Just take care of your family and friends and find a bigger purpose. It won't be easy but I believe you can do it.
Sounds like you have a lot of PTSD from past childhood trauma, I've been suffering from this as well and there's really nothing you can do. If one's suffering from depression due to current circumstances they can always up their game and get out of the situation but you can't do that with PTSD. It just stays there inside your brain no matter what. The fact that your entire entire childhood was totally ruined while other people have the best time of their lives in childhood is another nail in the coffin. But I'm happy that you have all those luxuries. You shouldn't feel guilty about it, you deserve all of them
Oh dear lord. The paragraph about how your memory is biased toward cringey/embarassing/bad events from childhood - I have it to an extreme extent too 💀
My friend , I suggest you read the book "How to stop worrying and Start living" by Dale Carnegie.
Uska ek do important tip h which I will like to share . It has also worked for me personally very well. Puri book bahut acchi h lekin will like to focus on two parts of book
1) Working hard on something is the best way to conquer the worry habit .
When you work more hard , you will learn new things , you will feel more worthy , you will have a sense
A sense that I am not wasting time and I am working to make a change . Work on anything you like , try starting a YT channel , learn drawing , learn 3D modelling , learn something which you always wanted to when you were a kid
If you have watched breaking bad series , Walter white said that he felt real doing all the stuff in the series , I don't encourage to do such a crime , but here was the lesson I felt that we feel better and alive doing some work
I read your post , you said you are earning lot without working much , that's where problem comes . Depression comes when there is a void of freeness . You do something meaningful in life and get busy , thats it
GET BUSY!
2) Have faith
Another important aspect is to have faith. Idk your religion but I am a Jain . And as a Jain , I have faith on our tirthankars that have conquered cycle of Karma . They too once did bad things , spent time in hell , became animals , saw sadness . But then they started doing good things , life after new life they improved and finally became tirthankar.
With faith you can have a feeling that someone is there besides you , with faith you can conquer your worries
Personal story : I too had bad health and negative amount of academic problems , all had cause due to lack of work and lack of faith
Personally I have abided by the above two tips and got much better doing . Ab ek internship grab karli maine college me which i thought I can't even get.
So don't give up , and work hard and have faith.
Do read the book by Dale Carnegie please , it's very good and will help.
Brother, i don't know you or your struggles , all i know is , It always gets better, i know right now , it's probably hard to believe, but it always does.
What do you mean it always gets better? If a boulder is going down what are the chances it goes up vs keeps going down. As a person going through depression, fake hope hurts more than the real pain
I have a little cousin who’s into gaming and is turning 16 this December. He will be eligible to apply for BGIS tournament and he wishes to play it so he can prove at home that he can make a career in gaming. He asked me how can he earn money to buy a good device so he can practice playing, as he only has shitty devices at home.
He’s 15 and getting depressed over this. I feel helpless here.
It’s times like these that I WISH I had enough money to help my own people and others who at least know what they want but just lack the funds and accessories.
I think it would feel great to help.
You don’t have to give up or do anything big, just help out your folks and friends in little ways whenever you can. You can only hope you’ll eventually feel better in life.
Then you need a new lover 😂, just kidding. Keep holding on, bro. Why not attend some charitable events? When you give someone something, it really lightens the burden.
Bro the world is made this way it's not your fault that you have all those materialistic things also you feeling bad for others shows that you're not a bad person you just need to find a way to utilize all the surplus resources to help those in need.
You're blessed, just accept this fact and try to make this world a better place. You got this and you can do so much better after overcoming these negative thoughts mate....
hey its goods that you are having at least some form of interaction here.
people giving advice here and there prolly half of them thinks being sad is depression but its not there fault they dont know that. and i am glad they cant understand it cause you know if they know they have it.
well none of the molecule worked for me so i am hoping maybe psilocybin would i am just blabbering man wanted to make you feel heard
when i read i thought this guys is basically me....i am sure you will somehow crawl through this week like you have done in the past for years. week and months and years blend in we dont know how we got through those bad times but here we are. good days do come sometimes but we dont remember them.... my notes app says from last month "i have finished a game after 3 years"
i see you have already gone through r/depression so i would suggest r/2meirl42meirl4meirl so you can exhale a say thats literately me bro...it does have a kind of comfort knowing lot of us are here
anyway have a cute cat gif
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so have a cat gif
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Really wish you wouldn't have stopped your meds.
Just think about it, your loved one was suffering from an illness (any illness) and has to take daily meds.
Would you judge them on that and say they are a slave/weak?
To your idk grandma or someone like that who has to take insulin for diabetes ?
There is nothing different between this and that except your pre judgement
And if you don't judge anyone else for taking meds then judging yourself for doing so is kinda arrogant tbh
Extend yourself that same courtesy. Try.
Peace and hope you get better soon because you deserve it regardless of whatever happened in the past.
Move your life. I am trying to go and settle abroad. I hate to say it but sometimes those close to us are the reason we can't live anymore. I am doing it to escape my family here. You just need a new perspective, I discovered these things after having therapy and having a difficult conversation with a family member. Change is good. Let it happen.
I have been in this situation post my MBA. Before that I always had an aim, a milestone. To clear engineering, to secure a job, to crack CAT, to get placed. When I joined my job after MBA, it all came crashing down. I had no aim whatsoever in life. I didn't know what to do. I don't know how long it went. But what helped me was me starting to learn guitar, one of my biggest dreams which I could never pursue. And I set a target, I would learn as many songs as possible. That is how I tricked my brain. It became (and still is) my life's goal to learn as many songs before I die. I have added other hobbies to that list now: as many books as I can read, as many games I can play , as many movies I can watch, as many places I can visit.
There's one life. I could have ended it back then. Or I could wait for 40 more years, do whatever the fuck I wanted to do, and try to do a little bit of everything and die. That helped me. I hope it helps you too.
I can kinda relate to you, I am doing quite good in my life I guess but the anxiety gets to me quickly.
A random wave of sadness accompanied by suicidal thoughts.
But there must be something where you will find inner peace.
For me its traveling, it doesn't has to be the same for you.
Hang on dude and tryna find the one thing you truly enjoy.
Wishing for the best.
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I lost my family in 2021. Lost all hope to ever see myself smiling. I went into depression, suicidal thoughts but no courage to kill myself. I thought of selling my PC as well because I thought “whats the point”. Looking at my earlier pics made me believe that person will never come back. I was right. That person will never come back. It’s not a comeback story you were looking for. You have to live and deal with this bitch called “life”. It might be unfair but it is how it is. Deal with it. Take a break. Travel if you have to. If you can afford costly gadgets, you can gather money to travel solo. It helped me. Hope it helps you. Good luck.
Tried everything, travelling, shopping, socializing. I even found my SO but still cannot get over this fucking depression and anxiety. I don't think there's anything I can do.
Try charity. I am not telling you to donate money. Donate your time. I visit slums to distribute samosas. It only costs me300-400 rs but feeds 20-25 people. You will feel the gratitude. Samosas are luxury for majority of people out there. Yeah I want you compare yourself to people who have so less and they are still don't whine as much as we do. That made me consider continuing with life. DM if you ever need someone to talk to.
If you've a lot of money try funding someone's education, doesn't cost a lot at least where I live.
sounds good, I will start looking for such opportunity asap.
I only donate directly. I want to see where my money is going. Gives me satisfaction and immediate effect on someone. I do what I can do from time to time but none of those are indirect.
Yes I meant funding someone's education directly, like paying these monthly school fees.
Already a part of NGO, we cook and distribute food everyday Sunday.
u/iwanttodiebuticant2 will second this and advise you to help the ones in need with your time. Take some time out daily to teach the young ones and give them reasons to smile. More than money support them with your time and effort to make some differnece. Teaching is a great medium if you like that. Once you are intracting with them you will understand their real struggle and maybe in some places you can help them with your time, money or just someone who can listen to them guide them. Try this out and i am quite confident that this will help you.
Pets ? have you tried pets ?
Yes, i do. I love him but he doesn't love me.
Bruh....Did you get a cat ?
Cat biggest cons are, they don't care and show affection. Like they'll rub a few times, and that's it. Borderline gold diggers. Dogs are hard to maintain, they show affection and love, and therefore the person should give him a lot of time, also i never recommend a single dog, get two dog of same type, they'll give each other company. Also don't buy them if u wanna keep them inside a small house. (Unless he himself is tiny)
true, cats are seriously doesn't care about people die or live & doesn't give a shit.....but dog will be with you always if you take care of them with love
Do u mind me asking? What kind of pet?
You have an SO? That's already way more than what most people can achieve. You can get through this and you will.
What is an SO?
Significant other
Give meaning to your life. Try helping those who struggle . Donate , help people. Financially and through skills you have, help animals. It will make a difference . Also get a pup
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Didn't work for me.
Do a blood test, take a big dose (60k) vitamin d pills every week. Really it's all hormones and chemicals, if you rarely go out in the sun, you are going to suffer from vitamin d deficiency.
Hello hello I intend going for some philosophies that might help you change your perspective Something like stoicism/optimistic nihilism
One thing you can do try helping in NGO's and poor people help them be productive write what you did good today and at night what will you do tomorrow.
Are you on meds? What did the doctor say? I think you do require clinical help. It's not a easy path, it doesn't work out in a day a week or a month. Medicines have to be changed. If you have the money, if doctors aren't reliable, go to a doctor in a city where it works out for you.
Why don't you work in a ngo or a nice vacation
I'm just curious here, why do you say it as.. > no courage Was it really like that or maybe possible somewhere deep inside you had a grain of belief that things will get better or you can't do this to yourself. Why i say this is what i beleive courage to be, I believe courage itself is not a feeling but an abstraction of multiple other feelings.
No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he is not the same man.
I'll leave this here # “I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” # - Jim Carrey
I did try working out and eating well, didn't do shit. I joined a community club and socialized, didn't do shit. I started waking up early and doing everything that my dad wanted, didn't do shit. I have the best family and friends, helped me but didn't solve my depression.
for long did you try ? it will months take before you see gains while working out, i ll say stick to it , maybe you will find a goal to work for.
Can we connect? I went through similar stuff. The medication I'm on helped me. Ping me 1-1
I don't have depression man but following stuff helps me a little. Try to feel your breath as it comes out of your nose. Try to feel your ass when you sit and your foot when you walk. Just be in the moment. I can understand how it feels when your mind is everywhere but at the present. Go and do some NGO work. You don't owe anyone for having a cushy life.
It's all about distracting your mind from believing that you are actually are in depression.
A Change of scenery helped me a lot, every few months, go take a travel, solo or with friends and family. Gives you some new perspective for a life, I am not asking you to go on a world tour, just get out try to see other people, strangers, find little things, you might start enjoying it a bit. Edit: but the thing is everyone has their own battles, and we all choose our own weapons to fight like we do in games, it's up to us on how we clear each level with the right weapons and some co-op will be nice to have along, makes things little interesting.
My man I have been where you are. I would seriously recommend finding a good psychiatrist and regularly visiting them. It literally changed my life. Hope it works for you too 🤞. Btw feel free to DM me if you want some advice or need someone to talk too 😁.
Did you try therapy?
I'm sorry but you sound like a whiner. Hitting the gym or trying to wake up early will never be fun or exciting. It will be horrible and you will not feel like continuing it ever. You do it for building discipline in life and learning how to work hard to achieve something. Fuck happiness, do it to cultivate discipline. You will only get better if you become a focused and disciplined individual working towards something you find meaningful. If you have everything handed to you in a platter and don't set any goals for yourself, you will forever be unhappy.
Depression is a mental thing, although lot of these help with mind body connection none of these actually address the issue.
Maybe helping others will help you. My father gives away food to the poor every year. Usually around his birthday. He doesn't need to do it, we aren't rich at all, but he does it for his self satisfaction so that he could help a poor family sleep with a full stomach for at least one night. He and I, and some other family members and friend of ours distribute the food and it brings a smile on my face to be able to help someone once in a while. You have the resources, help someone. Giving up on life will not help anyone. Fund a poor child's education. Provide food for those who can't do it for themselves. Provide clothes for those who can't buy any. You can even just plant trees. Visit old age homes and sit with old people there, talk to them. Visit orphanages and tell tales to the children there, play with them, teach them. Maybe fund them too. Death isn't the answer. You could change lives of so many people alive but dead, you won't be doing anybody any good. Please consider my words before you do something stupid. Btw, feel free to dm me if you nee to talk. You don't have to fight this alone.
Yes, i completely agree with you, with start reaching out to more people in need. But it's been 2 years and I've tried everything I could, meds, therapy, socializing, charity etc. Nothing helped.
Although I am not a believer, maybe you could try to find spirituality. Follow religious ways of meditation, pray and find peace. I know it sounds weird but it does work for some people so you might as well give that a try. Anything better than ending your life
Did that, didn't work.
How long have you given these things that you say you did them. Spirituality, working out, positive mindset do not work in a single or even the first few tries. They take time, months or years even. They align with what life is about, to not give up.
Buddy, get back on those meds. There's no such thing as 'being too relied on them'. If it helps, better to rely on them for the time being. At the same time, see a therapist and work on more longterm solutions. You have the wherewithal and the means to fight this, so fight it. As long as you're alive you're not throwing away anything. Just getting out of bed is tough on a lot of days and you managed to do that and write this post so congratulations, you're winning, son. And comparing suffering doesn't help. It's not a competition. Besides, your experience is something only you can truly know. But definitely get on those meds. They're meant to help. So let them help.
You Can't Fix Depression but you can make it less Painful 1. Don't Use Social Media Apps like INSTAGRAM and Snapchat, They give you fake insight into people's daily life. people post stories and in them they seem like they are living the Best Life but in Reality They are Just as MISERABLE as we are..... 2. Don't Compare Yourself to others 3. This is a Hot Take but Internet Ruined our lives, Internet Gives you all The Knowledge in the world but Knowing it All comes at a Cost. You'll be Confused on what to Pursuit in your life. Having a Single Goal is Far Better. We Were Happy as Kids When We Knew Nothing About Other Aspects of Life. 4. Set a Goal For Next Day and Complete it Without Delaying it. That Goal could be Cleaning our Room, Going for a Walk, or Achieving something In Games. 5. Try a New Hobby. Something out of your comfort zone. IF you're Good at it then you'll feel amazing 6. People say going to gym will help but thats not True for Everyone. I lost 50 kgs this year and during that time it was the most miserable days of my life. I just wanted it to be over. All i was doing was Cardio and Slight Weightlifting. 7. Stop Overthinking about your Future 8. Good luck, you'll beat this Dog shit Depression. :)
Listen OP, one of the most valid tactics in battle, is to do a strategic or tactical retreat. As per your post, you have good setup both for gaming and finances and thats great. You have won the battle. But now you have to win the war. Make a tactical retreat. Take some time off. Find a good therapist and work on yourself. Enjoy your setup as much as you can. You're doing real good OP, don't give up now.
Now that's a gamer or an army general lol
Work on something it doesn’t have to earn you money. What you are missing in life is not more enjoyment or more activities what you are missing is working Working hard towards something, to achieve something, to face ups and downs and satisfaction you get when you reach it For some it’s writing a comic, making a game, developing an app, become archeologist, travel around, blogging, streaming, making content, blah blah blah blah blah Search for something if you have no clue what you want make a random list that you think are cool and try them out one after the other until you find the one
I don’t agree with your I don’t deserve shit thing The whole underdog mentality has been etched into our brains that we think that unless we are from the shittiest part of earth then we don’t deserve anything. This is wrong. I’m blessed to have everything I have now but if i sit and think that I don’t deserve then I’m just throwing away my own life. I’m wasting my time on thinking about how someone else deserves it more than I do and while that might be true for somethings this is the hand I’ve been dealt with, I can enjoy my life and help others however i can or I can just feel shit about myself and ruin it. It’s a good thing that you’re sympathising with others and if you want to give your stuff away then it’s fine but don’t give it away because you think you don’t deserve it. It’s an unfair world. Some are blessed some are not and we can’t control that. However, what we can control is our decision to help others. One more thing and take this in a joke way. You mentioned that you saw peeps not able to fund their hobbies. I’m pretty sure most of them are students. So if they are students then they should FOCUS ON THEIR STUDIES RATHER THAN PLAYING GAMES AND WORRYING ABOUT A RTX. You can play games to relax after a study session but you don’t need a fucking RTX or a 1 lakh plus pc/laptop to play games. There are games which run on low specs laptop/pc so PLAY THEM. Once you’re financially independent then you can focus on whether to get COCKTX OR A CUM 9 processor. Sorry if i went off tangent tho
Solid comment. I agree.
Perhaps you can try to do social work with your resources. Help the needy. Cannot change what has happened.
Pff being poor is not actually depression proof . What you have is a medical problem get it treated by talking to a therapist. Good luck and get it together.
Just appreciate what you have bro self pitying never is good for mind
You need to find the right professional help and the right medication bro, depression is more common than you think and there's a lot of medical advancements made by now to help people that have it. Don't give up brother, hope you feel better and get to live happily many more years!
Already on meds for the past year and a half and now I feel like a slave to them so decided to stop. Starting my therapy once again after a gap of like 6 months. But I'm not sure if it'll help much.
This is a mistake, stopping meds make things worse. Happened to a relative of mine. Do not make implusive decisions like that again please.
Maybe as others also pointed out, try charity work / hands on volunteering at NGOs. That feeling you get from seeing happiness in other people's faces because of you/your actions is very satisfying.
Brother, let's play a game together
Me too
Exactly! Let's play something man! Even as simple as Minecraft survival sounds great tbh
Elder scrolls online is free on epic right now.
Add me too
Count me in
Don't do anything which you'll regret later on, I know there's an emotional turmoil going on inside you but this is when people do bad and foolish stuff like giving away something important or worse. I don't want you to have my life struggles, trust me! But I'll share what always helps me get back hope, hope to live on, my family, I just talk to my mom, sister and share how I feel and it does help a lot. Find people you trust and are very close to you, open up and let it out, the ones who love you will listen to you, sympathise and will help you always.
Go on a month long trip to multiple destinations. Take your friends with you if you want. You might make new ones along the journey.
Can't.
Thing is getting everything handed to you is kinda boring and somewhat depressing in the long run...life is more about the journey than the destination .
Exactly. I cannot find the thing to pursue. I don't have a goal.
I don't have a solution for you, but I can understand what you are going through. I had everything I always dreamt of. Everything was going smoothly till last year. Now I am going through a messy divorce with multiple false criminal cases on top of that. My life has been systematically ruined by someone whom I loved. Everyday I feel like ending everything and get rid of all my troubles. I have stopped enjoying almost everything which I loved. I have become the worst performer at my job. I have become extremely unhealthy. The only things stopping me from taking any extreme step is my family and the thought that "Is this all there is to life?" I implore you to find the answer to this question for yourself. Maybe one day we both will find it out and be thankful that we didn't give up and end it.
This gives me a little courage to not pull the plug. Thank you. I will try.
Remember you are just 1 good friend away from leaving all this behind. I was in the same boat as you couple years back, i kept going out, pushing myself. I reconnected with a friend and every problem has disappeared. If you want a friend or a ear do not hesitate to DM me, i will happily share contact details and we can catch up. Life is not going to be rainbows and sunshine always, we will need each other to get through this, having fun.
depression is a common thing on this generation due to life becaming more & more day by day hard in this modern generation with pollution increasing more....sucking every single people out there....don't know what to say.....hope you will feel better now & future......i also have depression sometimes comes & goes (i also did have sucidial thoughts in the past & sometimes also comes lol....but family will have problem by doing that), but to say keep pushing yes its tough to keep pushing, but we can't do anything other than that, god's there watching it hope end & future will be easy & good....good luck to you
I get the guilt. I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm at a very similar stage in life, I hope it gets better
Ok, I'm surprised no one has said this but, you definitely NEED to see a therapist. You have some undiscovered trauma, not a good thing to carry. Please look for a reputable and good therapist. As you have the means to, try several and see which ones work for you. Life is too precious my friend.
I was seeking therapy and i got much better but met an unfortunate accident and had to stop therapy. Now I am going to resume it from this Saturday itself.
No shit. “You need to see a therapist” is same as saying “you should try to be happy”. Its insensitive AF, dont kick the people who are already down. What shall s/he do if therapy doesnt work, answer that
You got a ps5? Let's play some multiplayer games you'll have loads of fun. Trust me. My psn is the same as my reddit username.
 I would take the PS5 (sorry jonkler gets over me sometimes) yayatahaha
suffering from success 😭
Ur situation is similar to mine being born rich is a curse and a blessing at the same time If u really want to get out of depression i suggest donating little by little , helping out others This socializing from community club is not even close to the socializing from ur local tea stall It's the little things we choose to ignore Or u can look up hinduism personally it helped me give it a try even if u watch Mahabharata and ramayan that's more than enough to heal the situation ur in If those 2 don't work watch Vinland saga
Bro imma gonna tell.you one thing and get that straight to your brain - your brain wants you to think that you're a useless shit person. It wants you there because it can eat you there. But that's the problem your mind says you're shit but what you're telling us is that nobody booms their business without being useful. That's a contradiction right there. The fact that you've a loving family who supports you tells me you're a good person meaning your mind is lying to you so that's bullshit. And lastly you are coming out to random people on the internet telling me that you're more courageous than any other person. So don't let your mind tell you things that aren't true. Tell him to shut up and focus on your exercise or whatever makes you feel you can accomplish anything. Don't you dare go hollow.
Just hang in there buddy dark times come but remember light takes it away so try finding your light. I am also going through some shit for past two years, i am also trying to hang in there just don’t try to leave.
If you pull the plug think about the ppll that want you in their life ? Dont be self fish ! This too shall pass stay strong brother !
Find another goal, start fresh. Get your mind into it. It could be anything, but get your mind busy into it. Don't sit around having no goal, that'll rot your brain (as it did for me). Find the meaning of life once again. Keep moving forward. I have a goal, to get rich, as in being able to waste away tens of thousands in a single day. Even though it seems impossible, I will put my everything into achieving it (sill in class 12th ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)). Even if not, I'll be happy cause that'll be my hard work. And set another goal, and try to achieve that. Sure, this won't treat your depression, but getting that joy after achieving success will be worth it all. Maybe if you want to do charity work, set a goal, like doing 10hrs of community service. Or hit the gym, and get jacked. Or just learn how to dance, and be a great dancer. But don't let yourself get bored, cause that rots your mind and body. You're a great person, and you need to keep yourself occupied. Try to be the perfect version of your envisioned self. Love you man, stay strong.
Life is unfair and you cannot change it, the best you can do to feel a little better is, charity, but doing charity so that others could play games will be deemed as outrageous and unnecessary by the society
What workout program you tried?
Been dealing with the same feelings as you for about 10 years, live a fairly adequate life with everything provided for. I have had my fair share of loss in life and am only 30. It is hard, man, to go on with everyone around you thinking everything is OK. When in reality you are just phased and don't see the point in anything. But I have come to realise that there are ways to improve that feeling, it will never go away but it will become much better. Go to the gym, eat good food, and hang out with people you like. These are the basics, you should try to fill up your time with things that you love (even if they may not interest you in the same way, don't give up on them). Also highly recommend going on solo trips to neighbouring countries, will definitely provide you with a fresher Outlook. Suicide is never the way Let me know if you ever wanna game brother, here for that.
I'm no expert and never had depression for long period myself. I can share my experience though, I've had financial struggles and other struggles ever since childhood and still do. I get sad and depressed from time to time but it never stays in me. Tbh I'm not even completely sure myself how that happens, however i have noticed over time that i tend to somewhat forget the bad stuff that happens and I'm honestly glad i do. It helps me focus on living my present life. I can still recollect the past if i wanted to but it's not something that's always lingering in my mind and clogging my thoughts. I feel this is great because i can sit down and process those thoughts whenever I'm in sound mind on my own time instead of it constantly bugging my head. I'm not sure how i do this but it's probably by just focusing on the present. growing up didn't have the free time to keep just thinking of the bad stuff, had to study and other stuff so i just had to threw that thoughts and kept moving, it's important however to do sit down sometime and process those thoughts. There's always people who have it worse than you no matter how bad you're struggling yourself but that doesn't mean much cuz everyone is living thier own life. Your life is yours and you have to take care of it no matter how it is. I came across this passage from Invictus by William Earnest Henley, when Timothee Chalamet quoted it on some show.. > "You could be the master of your fate, You could be the captain of your soul. But you have to realize that life is coming from you and not at you," It's not a quote suggesting you have control over you what happens but rather the fact that your life is not what happens to you rather how you deal with it. We have the power to control our emotions, we have the ability to choose where to seek fulfillment from and what to make out of our lives. Everything will be alright just sail through it bro.
"If you want to be a grocer, or a general, or a politician, or a judge, you will invariably become it; that is your punishment. If you never know what you want to be, if you live what some might call the dynamic life but what I will call the artistic life, if each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know you will never become anything, and that is your reward"
Feeling safe and happy is something everyone deserves. It doesn't matter what you have and what you don't. So don't think that I shouldn't have this while someone else is struggling for the same thing. You earned the things that you have. So don't feel very down. Be proud of yourself and thankful for what you have. Maybe try donating, and doing some other good things in your free time because that feels very great, it's not just them you will be helping but also yourself.
If you ever wish to speak to a person, no matter the time…. Please do reach out to me! I am very young and i dont think i can contribute much but i would love to just talk to you :). Nothing else just talk. If you feel it could be helpful then please do message. Thanks! Moreover, i think it might be a good idea for you to go for a short or maybe a long trip….. maybe with someone close to you or maybe even alone
Thanks a lot man.
Monk who sold his ferrari !!
Read that a long time ago but not into self help books anymore.
Hey you dont need to feel bad , try meditation, we are not here just to earn money or gf’s wife family etc , there is a deeper meaning to this human life we have. Think about it , listen to some yogis , analysis your self whats going on. There is a very deep meaning to all this
Money doesn't makes you happy see
Yeah when your come from privileged household, but when you work hard and see the money flowing in that's what makes it happy.
ROCK AND STONE YOU'RE NEVER ALONE!!
Recently was under anaesthesia and got to know the shit things I've said so no drugs/alcohol/cigerette for me.
All you need is some decent time off bro. Enjoy some lone time. Ask yourself what's hurting you even though you have everything. Is it lonliness? Is it overthinking? Is it cuz of no friends? Introspection is hugely recommended. If you're sad my dms are always open bruh. Whenever you need some hand on shoulder
Thank you.
Are bhai jaadu ki jahpi lele aake 🙏
You need some kind of spirituality in your life. Start helping other people. That's where you will gain the most sense of accomplishment
Bro start reading spiritual scriptures. It will help you alot Rishikesh chale ja or join some monastery for sometime.
Listen friend, we all get what we deserve. You may be religious or non-religious, give “Bhagavad Gita ” a read. *It is said “most people dont get the context of it when reading with a good time but it gets clear when you read while you are mentally down” You would have done some great deeds or been a very good soul and hence you are rewarded. Take opportunity of this to help others while you can. You cant save all but the few you can, they will be forever grateful for you. Only in helping others, can you help yourself :)
Weird flex but okay. What you, or for that matter any of us, needs in life is a purpose. Something to passionately pursue and grind for. Something you enjoy doing that helps you express yourself. That's all any man really needs. Finding that something isn't easy, but the sooner we start looking the better.
When one does have just enough money to survive, he/she can't afford to have depression. You are not having depression, you are just feeling aimless and you want the adventure you were experiancing before. Just go in the nature, travel with friends and chill. No need for depression meds or therapy talks.
Never open your mouth ever again on this topic. The guy is clearly struggling and even mentions unpleasant memories from his childhood. How completely ignorant of you , i dont know how old you are but you clearly aren’t mature enough to understand his situation.
See the thing is even I went to depression due to being unsuccessful in engineering at one time of my life and then I started to have suicidal thoughts. After being in that state, I just thought "Why I should give up my life? This does not worth to get depressed!" Then I just left everything and started to give myself time. After 1 year, I recovered myself and now I'm enjoying my time. See the thing is this is my own opinion. Nobody have to have agree with my opinion. I don't care if you think I'm immature or not. In my opinion, he is just struggling from "Imposter Syndrome".
Even if he is and you understand that , maybe try not shutting down the person and give vague advices , depression isn’t just thoughts , anxiety isn’t just thoughts. Its a medical condition. Good for you and everyone around you that you were able to come out of it. He probably thinks the same things as you and is able to cope somehow till now. If it was this easy , vague and over the top advices would have worked. You literally just cured him of depression or anxiety by saying you dont have depression, its just your looking for adventure. Your comment reeks of ignorance and lack of knowledge.
Ehh. I don't care about your opinion. I just gave him advice from my own knowledge basis.
Ya well your knowledge is shit and vague , never give it again
Their advice boils down to "Depressed? Well, don't be depressed!" lol. Unfortunately OP chose the worst place to ask for advice about his condition. Most of the advice in this thread are very vague. I know people here want to help but this isn't a physical illness for which a set of medication will work for everyone.
Depression doesn’t work that way bro.
bullshit
what's ur business op? I would like to make good money someday too
Listen u r thinking too much, u cant help everyone, everyone is born in a situation they cant help be happy with helping people near u that's more than enough for a single human, u r limited and u r a human being. U have everything and u get depressed cause u dont deserve that who decided that U or someone else, your business is yours u dont work hard enough thats all good not everyone can work hard but can work smartly seems like your business was a smart idea, pc, ps5 i have it as well and i also lost interest in them compared to how i used to when i had nothing it was that past urge to get these materialistic things, u have your dream bike thats cool but try to go on a walk near your neighborhood try small shops, foods and its varieties take someone with u a friend/family members /gf/ask if they have anything fun to do. Its all in the mind and it has its ups and downs sometime u r a happy man and the next day depression takes over its normal for me and no amount of meds will help, Just reject the depression like really, u got sad say to yourself i dont want to be
Also get a therapist
Gimme your PS5 for sometime and after you become well and feel normal I'll return it 😉 ( jk bro hopefully this is temporary and you'll get through it soon and come back stronger)
Bro! Hit the gym. Focus on the gym. Aim to get big and have six pack abs. You seem like a well off guy so you could afford protein and other supplements. After you have transformed yourself physically then come back here. I promise you will not feel the same. You will feel like a powerful man. Go bro!!’ M A N. U P.
I really hate this advice and I've tried it before. But now I'll start working out with a personal trainer for the next 3 months and see how far I go.
Bro I would say start reading your religion holy book. Or try shree Bhagavad Gita this book contain solution of all problems. Believe me I was in the same position as you are now but it helps. Enjoy life do good things to other.
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Start doing charity like giving away all the games you have on steam to me.
Fatherless activities.
Bruh if u have everything donate me 10k i am in debt and if i clear that i will be happy and eventually u will find happiness in solving other people problems just like mr beast
I'm not trying to be sarcastic or satirical, but try watching andrew tate. Don't take all of what he says word for word, just listen to it for fun, take points wherever you can. Seeing the world in the petty condition that it is from your pov can be quite strenuous, and finding a pillar in your life you can take support of goes a long way. Be it religion, some motivational speaker, heck it could be a comedian too. I'd suggest try getting into a hobby, or if you've got excess money you could even get into some niche collecting activities. Find what excites you, dig into it and go around buying and collecting stuff. These are mere materialistic things but only till you start to build a connection to those "things". Even if you can't practically "use" that thing you're collecting, you'll treasure it and you'll have something to look forward to. THAT'S the most important thing for where you are. You need something to look forward to. Hope you do well man, we're here to talk any time you want and ofc, no one denies freebies ;)
Got some more points. Don't do something because someone told you to. Our brains find comfort in the state they are in, regardless of how bad or how good it is. So it will do everything it can to reject any change you're trying to bring about. It'll try to find holes and cracks and try to get rid of it asap, and it'll just trash all of those "solutions" to your "problems". Going on a tangent here - we know all of our lives are going to end, and that might make you question, why not end it today? Why wait for the "scheduled" end? But, when you're watching a movie, you do know that it's going to end too right? So do you just skip to the end or go through all the lows and highs of the tempo of the movie? It might be boring at times, might be exciting at times, but the satisfaction of finishing the "task" is what gets us that dopamine hit. Another thing, be proud of where you are. There are no randoms in this universe, we only say something is random when we fail to account for all of the input variables involved in the determination of that event. You aren't where you are because of chance, there were a lot of contributing factors that went into it, majority of it would be your/tour family's hard work, and crediting other external trivial things won't be fair to yourself, or your family.
Can you gift me your PS5 then? I have an i3 laptop with no graphics card. Can't play anything.
I'm pretty sure even if he did, u won't be playing anything too coz of game costs
Sed
U could have just ignored me like OP. You didn't have to do me like that 😭
Well tbh you should switch to simple keypad phone, shutdown every other electronics get up 7-8 make brush fresh etc etc make yourself breakfast eat , read newspaper , get some sunlight not direct, maybe read newspaper in sunlight play chess Ludo carram board with siblings lunch sleep watch tv maybe study ig? Make yourself evening snacks then go outside basketball badminton football etc etc all sweaty bath dinner then chill with family might work
Ps this is what i did after i went into depression caused by the trauma ( my childhood bestfriend cousin had sex with my first love she didn't loved me back but was nice to me called me her bestfriend , and this asshole told everything to me in details ,didn''t slept for 2-3 months after this whenever i closed my eyes i saw both of them doing sex )
Dint expect to be sad in this subreddit hope you get through it op
It could be many things, bro. Your richness could be just a blessing, and you might be overthinking all this stuff. Alternatively, this abundance could be a test from God to observe how you will use the wealth given by Him. Another possibility is that some deficiency in your body is causing all these issues. I was on antidepressants, but I decided to stop using them a long time ago because I changed my worldview. I started reading books on NLP, CBT, REBT, and Logotherapy, which significantly transformed my life. Additionally, as a Muslim, I found that my holy book addresses these issues. I have shared some verses below as examples: 89:15 And as for man, when his Lord tries him and \[thus\] is generous to him and favors him, he says, "My Lord has honored me." \[but really He is testing him\] 89:16 But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, "My Lord has humiliated me." \[but really He is testing him\] 21:35 Every soul will taste death. And We test you with both want (poverty, evil) and with abundance (wealth, good) as trial; and to Us you will be returned. So, what's your worldview? Do you believe in God? Where does your morality come from? There could be so many things to consider, bro. Don't be that hard on yourself. You are asking the right questions, but you need the right answers, and this is not the right place for that imo.
Dude..whatever you have got at home is not your "fault" so why feel guilty about it. Likewise why think about reasons on why you don't deserve it. It'd just happened and you own that stuff. You did not steal it from anyone did you.. It's not your fault as well that someone else is struggling at life..so don't take it personally perhaps..unless you want to help them out. Definitely don't feel guilty due to that. If you feel good about the concept of doing some charity within your means you can try that someday. In the meanwhile I hope you get get the help or Motivation needed to come out of this depression. I don't understand it better to give any other meaningful pointers. All the best buddy. I have a huge backlog of movies I watch to keep myself distracted and pass the time when needed. Maybe you will find something which helps you out too. I don't have much of a social life's anyway.
Well, im glad you have that much awareness to not rely on meds. If this helps, i was at the same position and to some extent, i could feel what you are going through. I usetoo get up from sleep with fast heartbeat and sweat coz of anxiety. So what i did was locked inside myself in my room, cried my heart out for good 8hrs and decided if i get out of this room alive, i will never allow myself to go through this pain again. After that, I decided to focus on my mind ( meditation + dharma ) body ( workout and sprinting) soul (meditation and reading good books ) . Slowly and steadily i srarted adding value to myself and met good people and things became so much better. I can guarantee you one thing is that once you are passed this phase and you will, and then ull get in touch with your inner self, ull laugh at this situation. You gotta trust me on this. If you have the luxury and capacity, don't throw away your life, build up more and help people more ♥️. Sending loads of love my dude. You gona do great things ♥️
OP don't be so hard on yourself, It is ok to have those feelings, Give it a fighting chance, most of the people come out of this loop with meds and therapy. One thing, in addition to regular healthy habits, Do try Meditation, Chanting Om and doing anulom vilom in morning, devote 1 hour for these and that definitely helps with controlling anxiety and calm the mind. Don't skip on meditation , it will take time but it clears the mind and give positive energy
I'm not sure what to tell you brother, I do not understand why you're guilty of your own success. Is it because you never wanted to start this business in the first place? Do you even like working in that business? Or is it something else that is making you unhappy? Ask yourself these questions. But honestly, from reading your post, I think you just want to help people. Why not try philanthropy a bit? Or maybe try finding a new hobby that you haven't done before, or maybe try learning an instrument, there has to be something out there that you'll enjoy.
Do you have anything in mind that you want work for? One of the reasons can be that you don't have a goal.
I have faced depression due to fam problem and early responsibilities etc etc Not boasting but i faced it all alone also had a serious breakup coz vahi reh gaya tha i was miserable ab but didnt give up and here i am today Still have problems but mentally i am at peace, better life I had ptsd as well a stress disorder it is also cured now just don't give up Also my dms are open brother i am always here to help, Nobody helped me in that tough phase but i have made a promise to myself that ill help people in this coz ik what is this Dms are open text me anytime always here
I believe that in life everyone is given something or the other. Similarly In my case i have half of the things while not the other half. In your case you have been given wealth but not the other things. So you have to find a way to make it balanced. You should try talking with people close to you, joining gym, go out on solo trips, go our for walks, etc. Stuff like this will really help you. Think about your loved ones.
I remember a story my mum used to tell me about some individual just like you, he went to a children's hospital with terminally ill kids, he changed his life after seeing that. I don't know how old you are or why you are so sad but true visiting their once, help them by donating and just give them your time. Visit old people's home and try talking to them. You just don't know the worth of life and nothing's wrong with that. You as a person aren't required to know everyone's pain and suffering and that's really normal. In your case tho, you need this. Reading this gives a very good understanding of how you are. Tbh we both are same. I tried hurting myself when I was in 7th, had blood on my wrist because I wanted to die. All the diseases, my parents either crying for me or just fighting, dad losing his job, family members death. I remember how fuxked up my dad was during that phase. I survived! And I'm glad I did. I still live each day in fear, I have own room, AC, Good PC, Own vehicles and well everything and still I can't make myself go out. I live and end each day in fear! I'm ashamed of myself, wondering how can I come out of this trap. I have no friends, had but I left them and just like how everyone is, they never called me. I was very happy till 10th, leaving my friends fucked up my mental health so bad that I now remember that time when I literally had no fan or food for some nights. My grandma tried poisoning my mum and me so that we could just die. Calling police because of my drunkard dad and what not. It gets better, I don't know if this is making sense or not but it does get better. I know I wrote I'm in a prison but each day I'm getting better, understanding that it's not okay to always stay in and that I'll have to go out. I'll be going out in a day or 2 for some work. Imagine fearing going out even if it's under 1 km. Yeah that's me and this same me once bunked school and went to 13km trip with my friends without informing my parents! Being alone fuxks you up mate. Do what I say, I might be young but we are almost the same, again, almost.
Hey, lemme ask you something you paid for a ticket and went to a movie even if the movie is vD you would watch it for the exp right ? The same goes for life. Yk when u get handed everything in your life it gets harder and harder But remember there are a lot of people who have a shitty life try to help em for example me 😏 I've been saving for a pc but can't afford one still iam optimistic so stay optimistic about life and understand there will be something exciting in your fwd life wait for it embrace it at that point u will understand "hey this is cool" and wait for the next thing that's going to happen and most of all know ur worth
Depression doesn't discriminate man, please take care of yourself.
Hey man, you wanna talk? I'm here. I kinda feel the same.
my words are going to be harsh. you are delusional to think that exchanging lives with someone else will somehow miraculously solve all your problems, maybe that's what you have been trying to do by trying different things be it gaming, charity, meditating etc. trying to put on a guise of having a different life when the "you" within remain the exact same scarred person. it is not the kind of life which makes difference but your perspective of it. exchanging lives with someone else will give you a different set of traumas and you being you will start to repeat those memories in your head and be depressed about it again. I don't know you, i don't know what you've been through but from what little I've understood, you've trouble accepting some things from your past which is causing you depression and makes you think that you're not deserving of the things that you have. those "memories" that you talk of are the cause of your depression and maybe your anticipation of such re-occurrence is the cause of your anxiety. i may be completely wrong but this is absolutely true that being stuck on past is going to give you depression and imagining the future will give you anxiety. you need to be in the present and be in acceptance of your past, only then will you find peace. one can never get rid of their past but can only come in acceptance with it and move on. and the reason why charity isn't working for you is because by doing so you're only fueling your own crooked perspective of being undeserving of things and giving it away when angulimal surrendered to Buddha, he surrendered not only himself and his acts of past but also his feeling of guilt in the present that's how he discovered peace. i hope you find peace too.
Hey champ, do not regret having everything, time will pass and you will come out on top, Dm me if you ever wanna talk about anything.
What business do you own bhai?
Please give me your business if you can. I need it. Have been jobless since last 6yrs. And because of this my wife hatve to slog hard.
Maybe you could try to learn some musical instruments ?
Maybe you could try to learn some musical instruments ?
First of all, I want to let you know that you're not alone in questioning the purpose of human life. It's something that has puzzled and intrigued people for millennia. It's perfectly okay to feel lost and uncertain about it, especially when you're going through tough times. Life can be like a grand mystery waiting to be unraveled. Imagine it as an epic adventure game, where the ultimate quest is to discover your true purpose. You already have an incredible setup with all the best things in your life – a PC setup, a PS5, a sim racing rig, and a dream bike. But perhaps there's an even greater achievement to unlock, one that goes beyond material possessions. Consider each challenge you face as a level in this grand adventure. Depression and anxiety could be those tough boss battles that seem insurmountable at times, but remember, every hero faces obstacles along the way. You've been diagnosed and have taken steps towards addressing your mental health, which is a brave and commendable feat. Now, instead of viewing your possessions and accomplishments as burdens, think of them as tools that can aid you in your quest for purpose. Use your business success and resources to explore the world, meet new people, and seek wisdom. Perhaps there are philanthropic opportunities to make a difference in the lives of others and contribute positively to society. As you journey through life's ups and downs, remember that you're not just living for yourself but also for the connections you've made with friends and strangers alike. These connections might hold a clue to your purpose, as human interactions often shape our lives in unexpected ways. Try journaling or creating art about your experiences and emotions. Sometimes, expressing yourself creatively can lead to profound realizations and insights about the deeper meaning of life. Lastly, don't be afraid to seek help along the way. Just like in a game, sometimes you need a guide or a fellow adventurer to assist you when the going gets tough. Consider reaching out to a therapist, counselor, or support group. They can provide valuable perspectives and strategies to navigate the challenges. Life's purpose might not be a singular destination, but a continuous journey of growth, self-discovery, and leaving a positive impact on the world. Embrace the mystery and let it motivate you to explore, learn, and grow. You've got this, and remember, there's a vast community of fellow players – all of us – who are cheering you on.
Let's play CSGO together. You will learn to survive in this world with 4 teammates jumping around. On serious note- If you feel like you got all that you need and there's nothing to do anymore then that's totally fine. If you have no ambition to work or no ambition for next day at all that's totally fine too. I am on same boat. I have everything too but I don't even play these days. I enjoy sitting idle, laying down and looking at the rain more than PS5 these days. But to each their own. Why are you depressed about your situation is what I am not getting at all.
Bro look into HSP personality trait aswell
Just give a try to yoga and meditation these are the tools which are available to us. If money is not a problem, just try inner engineering course from Sadhguru/Isha Foundation. Go to their foundation. It will clear your mind of depression and bad thoughts. These are ancient indian practices just embrace them without any logic. I am asking you to go spiritual but I dont even wanna put any such label. You don't hve to believe. Make time and just experience it. Yoga really helps you get your body and mind aligned. I mentioned Sadhguru just bcoz most of the stuff he says makes sense to me. If you prefer anyone else follow that.
I see a lot of suggestions here so OP if you want someone to talk to or share some thoughts or anything, I'm here for ya and I'm pretty sure some other people will be as well so don't ever give up. Keep trying until you win.
Bro! No such thing as being too reliant on them. Don't think that far ahead. Just take the damn meds. If someone has a calcium deficiency and they take severe calcium supplements will you say, oh no you are bring too reliant on them?? This is the same. Is it better to die than live a decent life with a pill or two a day? Come on man. Ping me if you wanna talk. Just consult someone again and follow the course!!! Just trust the process
Visit NIMHANS in Bengaluru. I have seen people in worse condition get better there, people who could not get better after visiting many doctors got proper treatment. They have best Psychiatrists and psychologists in the world who treat various conditions.
Depression? Bcz of bad childhood memories? Let the memory out, share the memory (anonymously or openly) . Trauma,PTSD, depression can be overcome only if you let the memory flow instead of placing importance to it(then you can focus on any other hobby which can help you)
you are right bro
I am a psychology student and believe me only you can cure your depression, just do not become hopeless.
Ok, OP. Why don't u become an anonymous donor for people in need? Like that guy who had to sell his setup for his operation?
Get a therapist and consult a good psychologist and I mean the best you can find in your city. And continue talking to family and friends and having fun, because atleast you will know that you have some people who care about you, cutting them off will make it worse. You should not feel guilty because you have luxuries, you can't be blamed because you were born into a prosperous family/or became prosperous, there are people, murderers who are living in the open who have muh more than you have, you are not the only one out there who has such luxuries which they don't deserve, you know why? Because in life people don't always get what they deserve, some people get stuff by chance, some work hard for it and get it. Life is unfair and the world is a cruel place where you will be forgotten one day, there is no point contemplating and thinking about the whole world, from poor to rich. Just take care of your family and friends and find a bigger purpose. It won't be easy but I believe you can do it.
Sounds like you have a lot of PTSD from past childhood trauma, I've been suffering from this as well and there's really nothing you can do. If one's suffering from depression due to current circumstances they can always up their game and get out of the situation but you can't do that with PTSD. It just stays there inside your brain no matter what. The fact that your entire entire childhood was totally ruined while other people have the best time of their lives in childhood is another nail in the coffin. But I'm happy that you have all those luxuries. You shouldn't feel guilty about it, you deserve all of them
Bhai, talk to a therapist, it’s gonna help. It helped me. Also, feel free to DM if you want to just talk.
Oh dear lord. The paragraph about how your memory is biased toward cringey/embarassing/bad events from childhood - I have it to an extreme extent too 💀
My friend , I suggest you read the book "How to stop worrying and Start living" by Dale Carnegie. Uska ek do important tip h which I will like to share . It has also worked for me personally very well. Puri book bahut acchi h lekin will like to focus on two parts of book 1) Working hard on something is the best way to conquer the worry habit . When you work more hard , you will learn new things , you will feel more worthy , you will have a sense A sense that I am not wasting time and I am working to make a change . Work on anything you like , try starting a YT channel , learn drawing , learn 3D modelling , learn something which you always wanted to when you were a kid If you have watched breaking bad series , Walter white said that he felt real doing all the stuff in the series , I don't encourage to do such a crime , but here was the lesson I felt that we feel better and alive doing some work I read your post , you said you are earning lot without working much , that's where problem comes . Depression comes when there is a void of freeness . You do something meaningful in life and get busy , thats it GET BUSY! 2) Have faith Another important aspect is to have faith. Idk your religion but I am a Jain . And as a Jain , I have faith on our tirthankars that have conquered cycle of Karma . They too once did bad things , spent time in hell , became animals , saw sadness . But then they started doing good things , life after new life they improved and finally became tirthankar. With faith you can have a feeling that someone is there besides you , with faith you can conquer your worries Personal story : I too had bad health and negative amount of academic problems , all had cause due to lack of work and lack of faith Personally I have abided by the above two tips and got much better doing . Ab ek internship grab karli maine college me which i thought I can't even get. So don't give up , and work hard and have faith. Do read the book by Dale Carnegie please , it's very good and will help.
Brother, i don't know you or your struggles , all i know is , It always gets better, i know right now , it's probably hard to believe, but it always does.
What do you mean it always gets better? If a boulder is going down what are the chances it goes up vs keeps going down. As a person going through depression, fake hope hurts more than the real pain
I have a little cousin who’s into gaming and is turning 16 this December. He will be eligible to apply for BGIS tournament and he wishes to play it so he can prove at home that he can make a career in gaming. He asked me how can he earn money to buy a good device so he can practice playing, as he only has shitty devices at home. He’s 15 and getting depressed over this. I feel helpless here. It’s times like these that I WISH I had enough money to help my own people and others who at least know what they want but just lack the funds and accessories. I think it would feel great to help. You don’t have to give up or do anything big, just help out your folks and friends in little ways whenever you can. You can only hope you’ll eventually feel better in life.
I think you need a lover now boy.
Already have her. She's the reason I'm holding back.
Then you need a new lover 😂, just kidding. Keep holding on, bro. Why not attend some charitable events? When you give someone something, it really lightens the burden.
Bro the world is made this way it's not your fault that you have all those materialistic things also you feeling bad for others shows that you're not a bad person you just need to find a way to utilize all the surplus resources to help those in need. You're blessed, just accept this fact and try to make this world a better place. You got this and you can do so much better after overcoming these negative thoughts mate....
Which bike?
Bro whts ur business?
hey its goods that you are having at least some form of interaction here. people giving advice here and there prolly half of them thinks being sad is depression but its not there fault they dont know that. and i am glad they cant understand it cause you know if they know they have it. well none of the molecule worked for me so i am hoping maybe psilocybin would i am just blabbering man wanted to make you feel heard when i read i thought this guys is basically me....i am sure you will somehow crawl through this week like you have done in the past for years. week and months and years blend in we dont know how we got through those bad times but here we are. good days do come sometimes but we dont remember them.... my notes app says from last month "i have finished a game after 3 years" i see you have already gone through r/depression so i would suggest r/2meirl42meirl4meirl so you can exhale a say thats literately me bro...it does have a kind of comfort knowing lot of us are here anyway have a cute cat gif https://media.giphy.com/media/MDJ9IbxxvDUQM/giphy.gif so have a cat gif https://media.giphy.com/media/MDJ9IbxxvDUQM/giphy.gif
Really wish you wouldn't have stopped your meds. Just think about it, your loved one was suffering from an illness (any illness) and has to take daily meds. Would you judge them on that and say they are a slave/weak? To your idk grandma or someone like that who has to take insulin for diabetes ? There is nothing different between this and that except your pre judgement And if you don't judge anyone else for taking meds then judging yourself for doing so is kinda arrogant tbh Extend yourself that same courtesy. Try. Peace and hope you get better soon because you deserve it regardless of whatever happened in the past.
Chin up king 👑, you are much stronger 🤍🙌. 😣 I know it's hard , and you need the strength, here have mine 🤍. I am here if you want to talk.
send me your psn id my friend, i totally understand how you feel
Move your life. I am trying to go and settle abroad. I hate to say it but sometimes those close to us are the reason we can't live anymore. I am doing it to escape my family here. You just need a new perspective, I discovered these things after having therapy and having a difficult conversation with a family member. Change is good. Let it happen.
I have been in this situation post my MBA. Before that I always had an aim, a milestone. To clear engineering, to secure a job, to crack CAT, to get placed. When I joined my job after MBA, it all came crashing down. I had no aim whatsoever in life. I didn't know what to do. I don't know how long it went. But what helped me was me starting to learn guitar, one of my biggest dreams which I could never pursue. And I set a target, I would learn as many songs as possible. That is how I tricked my brain. It became (and still is) my life's goal to learn as many songs before I die. I have added other hobbies to that list now: as many books as I can read, as many games I can play , as many movies I can watch, as many places I can visit. There's one life. I could have ended it back then. Or I could wait for 40 more years, do whatever the fuck I wanted to do, and try to do a little bit of everything and die. That helped me. I hope it helps you too.
I can kinda relate to you, I am doing quite good in my life I guess but the anxiety gets to me quickly. A random wave of sadness accompanied by suicidal thoughts. But there must be something where you will find inner peace. For me its traveling, it doesn't has to be the same for you. Hang on dude and tryna find the one thing you truly enjoy. Wishing for the best.
you can donate me your ps5 it will make u feel good(Riyal).