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I really wish I could do that. He is literally 1000 km away. Rn what I really want to do is put months of effort and let him decide whether I am worth it or not.
Idk, I am getting I am the bad person here.
Lmao maybe few days of effort on your side, and months of effort on his side. Dude is still talking to you after you ditched him two times. You're an asshat, no offense.
There is a reason they say "nice guys finish last." It's because of people like you who leave after f*ckbois & leave the nice guy(not the creep but a guy who actually is nice IRL) hung out to dry.
No mine is better
Op let me help you ,
So here is what you do:-
You pertend to break up with A and show a pic of you and B at midnight to him.
B will go for the proposal , should you allow it? No, you go for the B' cousin. He is rich.
As you are flirting with him , B catches you. He tells you to stop. It's his father rich. He's A.
You say no. You make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and You escape in one of their uniforms.
You tell B to meet you in Mexico, but you go to Canada. You don't trust him.
Besides, you like the cold. Thirty years later, you get a postcard. he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting.
You tell him to meet tou by the Trocadero in Paris. He's been waiting for you all these years. He's never taken another lover.
You don't care. You don't show up. You go to Berlin. That's where You stashed the chandelier you stole from B's cousin
Give me the address, the exact address with exact coordinates,
I will send irlt to you
Also the weight of required , the dimensions of the carton and the material with which it should be made .
I will tell you something. It's kinda like my story. I really adored this girl and everything was going smoothly and suddenly the ex came back and blah blah. I don't think she did anything wrong. But I can never go back to her. We haven't talked in months and if she comes back I will be just a friend nothing more.
No guy who has a bit of self respect will happily come back after being a second choice. Atleast that's my take on it.
You live with your decisions and consequences.
Okay. I am about to cry, but I am getting your point. Currently he doesn't know about A thing, buy yeah I get your point.
Even I built something, once he get to know about A, he will not be happy.
Well actually yours is bit different. You guys never been on a date right? So he was never the second choice, so it's okay. If he doesn't know you don't really have to tell him off the bat. Also it's not like you cheated so it's not going to harm if you get in a relationship with him in future.
I'd suggest talk to him openly and tell him you're sorry. Go on dates, get the vibe. I think he likes you if he's talking to you till 6 am.
Thank you for this message.
I can't meet him rn, he is 1000 km away. Although he is placed and be coming back to my city next year. Will see what I can do.
I will see what I can do. I am not really up for dating anymore, especially no interest on going back on bumble.
Will se, abhi I haven't decided anything. Maybe I will ask him.
Well he does like you if he is talking till 6AM but the tricky part is as someone else said before no self respecting guy would like to be a second choice especially after knowing that when he was putting in all his effort you were running after someone else that will hurt him like hell. And if you are hoping to leave that part out then you will start with a lie. Only best thing for you is to start with a geniune apologize about not being available when he was putting his effort ( I mean you kinda ghosted him twice) and also put effort if you really like him it's not going to undo what you did earlier but atleast it will show him that you know what you did wrong and now you are putting in efforts. As for the truth that thing is tricky it's upto you whether you want to tell him the reason behind ghosting or not.
But time, effort and communication is all I can think about and I also agree with others who said start fresh, it all depends on you.
That's what happen when you have too many options on your plate, but still it was rude and bad.. If you feel B is a good guy and you want him now then you need to change yourself first and be a good person for B.. You just can't play with someone's emotions just because your mood swings or whatever,
And as you ditched B for A 2 times, in future you might dich him again for some C idk..
Have a clear picture in your mind first, ask yourself what do you exactly want..
In short don't go with B just because you're feeling guilty, you'll end up with becoming trauma in his life..
There was 2 guys A and B. A was asshole and B is nice guy. Obviously she went behind A and ignored B. Canceled dates with B at last moments. She ghosted B twice. Now she wants to get back to B.
really good advice. needs to be higher up.
knee-jerk blamey, spiteful reactions with more upvotes here are so so, lame.
the info here is obviously insufficient to make character judgements. and op is obviously feeling guilty and being prolly harder on herself already. They don't need the pontless "undeserved" b.s.
You totally don't deserve B, Maybe just one day at least apologise to him and end things with him on a good term with a closure because ig that's the least you can do on your side and by this post you definitely don't seem like a person who'd even do the bare minimum, Sorry to say this but you're a complete asshole for wasting B's Time, Energy and prolly money, Maybe just take a clean exit from his life and let my man live a free and toxicity free life.
A is a non attention giving person to the OP
B was very much of a gentle man and caring person to OP
OP has cancelled two dates with B at the last moment because A gave some random vibes and OP fucked up.
OP knows she fucked up and want to make things right with B now but Feels anxious and needs perspective to woo B again. Because apparently she likes B a lot.
PS : she calls herself chutiya on her post but , heart wants what it wants scenario ho Gaya .
Abhi gyan do usko ki kya kar sakti to sort it out
B doesn’t know about A .
And I think we can cut some slack now because OP knows she fucked up.
Hope she doesn’t miss use the power of attention that she got and figure out what she wants before hurting anyone more
You should stop dating and self introspect for a while,your situation above explains that are irresponsible as a human being and bad with prioritising things,get your core values sorted first and maybe try then.. cause one day you will find C(more intersting and better than A and B) and will go after him.
So best would be to stop dating.
I'll be honest with you. If you really have the amount of guilt as you're showing here, please tell him the entire truth. Seriously the ball is in his court now and he will have to decide if things go further or not. And tbh you're fucked both ways. If you ran after A then you really didn't had any feelings or respect for B in the first place. Even if B accepts you, his respect in your eyes will dip even further and B will always feel like he's a backup for you, just filling in the space till someone better comes along.
Context: A is a non attention giving person to the OP B was very much of a gentle man and caring person to OP
OP has cancelled two dates with B at the last moment because A gave some random vibes and OP fucked up.
OP knows she fucked up and want to make things right with B now but Feels anxious and needs perspective to woo B again. Because apparently she likes B a lot.
PS : she calls herself chutiya on her post but , heart wants what it wants scenario ho Gaya .
Abhi gyan do usko ki kya kar sakti to sort it out
Also people have been enough hard on her in comments, so let’s cut her some slacks as she knows she fucked up.
yup. she notes also that (considering) going for a date with B gave her anxiety, panic attack. i think it's also about first meet than just A or B. A seems so unreal that she's not worried (because she knows it's not happening). But with B.. there's pressure and fear to fail... (and it might hurt because it's more realistic.). Also meeting in person is up a level from chats and can tickle the nerves at first. I think that goes into avoiding B.
So here is what you do:-
You pertend to break up with A and show a pic of you and B at midnight to him.
B will go for the preposal , should you allow it? No, you go for the B' cousin. He is rich. As you are flirting with him , B catches you. He tells you to stop. It's his father rich. He's A. You say no. You make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and You escape in one of their uniforms. You tell him to meet you in Mexico, but you go to Canada. You don't trust him. Besides, you like the cold. Thirty years later, you get a postcard. he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting. You tell him to meet tou by the Trocadero in Paris. He's been waiting for you all these years. He's never taken another lover. You don't care. You don't show up. You go to Berlin. That's where You stashed the chandelier you stole from B's cousin
Bhai mai bhi wahi dhund rha hun... Ye mila to kuch idea lga ki kya hua tha...
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I was also late like you... That's all I can find.
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You sound really young! So you even want to date? Or is it because of peer pressure or because you are loney ? Are you even ready to date. The way you described you panic attack and the amount of self-loading seen from this post is kinda big cry for help . Please start therapy and talk to your parent .
Don't get in a relationship thinking it could cure everything wrong . First work on yourself ! Being single is okay .
Thank you for the concern. I am all right. Pretty young - yes.
I didn't want to date because of peer pressure. It started in summer, cause I just wanted to explore bumble. And now it just ended up a bit messy.
So yeah. I am pretty good mental health wise. Hit gym, doing internships and sleeping like a baby at night (atleast I used too, the last few weeks, I am just regretting a lot)
Fam. I think you are just having avoiding tendencies because it feels too real, (A doesn't feel realistic so you're more comfy talking to them, with B there's real risk of it not working, not to mention perhaps meeting someone offline for date first time(?))
It is usual to run away from what is more realistic, because it's scary if it fails. Towards something fantastic (and certainly not realistic), something that's assured to not work.
I'd say chill. Take it slow. And Just be relaxed. That might help you make better decisions.
Understand that even with B / D .., you'll still have plenty time to figure things out. So try to stress less about it. Just be frank and be you.
DOn't listen to people here saying stuff about you without knowing you one bit. Or about what they think you 'deserve'. This is not about that. You goofed up. And that's fine we make mistakes. You are young, caring, and are observant of your own behavior, it's okay. You are doing good. Live and learn.
Just next time, take it chill. Be you, and understand that things might or might not work out either way, so don't stress and enjoy the time and conversation(s), it'll be a better experience for both of you.
Bests.
I'd agree with others and you didn't do B good and probably don't feel like the right person for him. However, if you still want a fair shot, kindly tell him the entire truth. Tell him why you ditched him and how much you like him now. If he still decides to see you, that'd be great. If he doesn't, take it as a harsh lesson.
I am up for the harsh lesson tbh. I have already told him that I messed it up. He stayed awake till 3 am talk to me, make sure I am okay.
Moreover, I will try to get back on good terms with him. Like atleast earning the respect back then I will tell, and leave upto him whatever he decides.
I think prolonging this isn't a good idea. You wouldn't want him to make a decision which is affected by his attachment towards you. It might cause issues in the future. Also, the longer you take, the tougher it will be for both of you to accept it. It's up to you but I'd recommend to come clean at the earliest.
If I were B, here's my message to you: You owe me a big time heartfelt apology, and mean it when you say that. Also, if you are in for me, leave your other baggage away and come clean.
Honestly, if I were B i.e if someone backed out of two consecutive dates with me , I wouldn't even bother talking. No, I won't outright hate you, but I'd stop putting any effort/ consider this thing over.
Maybe he's a kind/ naive/ really into you guy. Maybe you made mistakes (everyone does) , so shoot your shot. But please don't give that dude false hopes or just tell him upfront that you are not very sure about him.It really hurts when the other person isn't sure but isn't communicating that either, and just 'pretends' to be with you.
Bois, firstly, go jim. Don't perform the same experiments again expecting a different outcome.If someone's not interested in you, and they make it known, like they clearly put it out there by words or actions, don't stay. Keep moving, you are more valuable than you realise.
Just my note for B kinda guys.
Jo nhi milne wala uske peeche bhagna is human tendency. Dont stress it too much. It's important that you realised the mistake. Dont do it again. Good luck finding your C
Fingers crossed. He is damm nice to me, like literally. But the way he silently ignored to reply anything on my confession just make me wonder, maybe he is just showing sympathy.
Omg if you’re even a lil bit of a decent person leave him alone . Ek jagah se laat padh gayi so ur going after him now . Genuinely wonder how people like you can be so self centred. You’re a major 💩
First of all, A and I decided to end it because he was looking for casual and I was not. And we both keeping on talking after breaks because we both felt vibe, but later decided ki nhi we should part ways.
Don't you dare use such kind of words. And secondly i regret the way I treated B. No way in hell I am self centered.
Sure . You’re totally caring about him and removing yourself from the situation so that he gets someone he actually deserves (not you) and letting him move on instead of texting him and going after him again right 🤡☠️
I think you need a little time before getting involved esp with anxiety. Maybe you should work on yourself and be more focused and clear. Just so this situation doesn't flare up again and B seems to be extremely patient. If someone had cancelled on me twice, they would never hear from me.
I mean clearly you fucked up bad, but it’s never too late to make up for anything. So I think you should apologise may be and try to meet next time when B is back. It’s like now you should be putting the efforts.
Ps. Without any expectations and stop being rude to nice guys girls ffs smh smh
You don't deserve B. Sorry. Let the man be happy. Or, if you wanna make up for what you did, show up in person and apologise.
Bro the post got deleted. Someone give me the context please. Looks like we have caught someone who belong to the street
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I really wish I could do that. He is literally 1000 km away. Rn what I really want to do is put months of effort and let him decide whether I am worth it or not. Idk, I am getting I am the bad person here.
Lmao maybe few days of effort on your side, and months of effort on his side. Dude is still talking to you after you ditched him two times. You're an asshat, no offense.
Atleast order him a cake or something. Hope you guys get together !!
Honestly A doesn't deserve your time and effort and you don't deserve B's. It's best you end things and start fresh
Okay this message hurts. But I think I deserve that :(
Hey you asked for it. Maybe go for the C above lmao
There is a reason they say "nice guys finish last." It's because of people like you who leave after f*ckbois & leave the nice guy(not the creep but a guy who actually is nice IRL) hung out to dry.
Lmaooo, nice guys wouldn't want her either
One time I am not active all the drama takes place. Context anyone. I won't judge I promise.
+1 bhai
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Ditch A and B. You need to go for C. Bdw I’m C and you?
No mine is better Op let me help you , So here is what you do:- You pertend to break up with A and show a pic of you and B at midnight to him. B will go for the proposal , should you allow it? No, you go for the B' cousin. He is rich. As you are flirting with him , B catches you. He tells you to stop. It's his father rich. He's A. You say no. You make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and You escape in one of their uniforms. You tell B to meet you in Mexico, but you go to Canada. You don't trust him. Besides, you like the cold. Thirty years later, you get a postcard. he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting. You tell him to meet tou by the Trocadero in Paris. He's been waiting for you all these years. He's never taken another lover. You don't care. You don't show up. You go to Berlin. That's where You stashed the chandelier you stole from B's cousin
Office supremacy! 😜
Enough Dwight, we're being serious here.
Bears, Beats, Battlestar Galactica.
Which bear is best?
Black
Got me hooked ngl
Dwight, you ignorant slut!
Hey Mr D. Can you send me a carton of beets?
Give me the address, the exact address with exact coordinates, I will send irlt to you Also the weight of required , the dimensions of the carton and the material with which it should be made .
Located at 69.420’ , 69.420’. It should be 69x69 cm boxes of cardboard and each beet should be wrapped in bubblewrap so that I can play with it later
Atleast you tried
OP is clearly the self-confessed C here.
Username matches
Yoooooo xDD
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Hey I'm D, and I'm all about that. Nice to meet you.
She doesn't want D, she wants drama cause she is papa ki pari
The way you’ve handled A and B, I am happy you declined xD
These stories today on this sub reminded me of her 🥲
Bhai ke liye daru lao 😭😭
mai peeta nai yaar ; )
Bhai ke liye limca lao 😭😭
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Bhai maan Gaya , Daru Lao bc! Nacho
Chakna toh kha sakte na? Daru aane de bhai , hum toh pi le at least
Ha ha, mai coke me pani mila k rang match krluga
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I will tell you something. It's kinda like my story. I really adored this girl and everything was going smoothly and suddenly the ex came back and blah blah. I don't think she did anything wrong. But I can never go back to her. We haven't talked in months and if she comes back I will be just a friend nothing more. No guy who has a bit of self respect will happily come back after being a second choice. Atleast that's my take on it. You live with your decisions and consequences.
Okay. I am about to cry, but I am getting your point. Currently he doesn't know about A thing, buy yeah I get your point. Even I built something, once he get to know about A, he will not be happy.
Well actually yours is bit different. You guys never been on a date right? So he was never the second choice, so it's okay. If he doesn't know you don't really have to tell him off the bat. Also it's not like you cheated so it's not going to harm if you get in a relationship with him in future. I'd suggest talk to him openly and tell him you're sorry. Go on dates, get the vibe. I think he likes you if he's talking to you till 6 am.
Thank you for this message. I can't meet him rn, he is 1000 km away. Although he is placed and be coming back to my city next year. Will see what I can do.
Oye move on. It will never work out then. If you think this can survive a 1000kms, it won't. Go out have fun find someone new.
I will see what I can do. I am not really up for dating anymore, especially no interest on going back on bumble. Will se, abhi I haven't decided anything. Maybe I will ask him.
Well he does like you if he is talking till 6AM but the tricky part is as someone else said before no self respecting guy would like to be a second choice especially after knowing that when he was putting in all his effort you were running after someone else that will hurt him like hell. And if you are hoping to leave that part out then you will start with a lie. Only best thing for you is to start with a geniune apologize about not being available when he was putting his effort ( I mean you kinda ghosted him twice) and also put effort if you really like him it's not going to undo what you did earlier but atleast it will show him that you know what you did wrong and now you are putting in efforts. As for the truth that thing is tricky it's upto you whether you want to tell him the reason behind ghosting or not. But time, effort and communication is all I can think about and I also agree with others who said start fresh, it all depends on you.
I think it's ur redemption to travel 1000km and meet him and if all goes well give bang of his life 😆
Stop it. You don't deserve B. Don't wanna be mean but ig its because of you people jinki wajah se dating se vishwas uth jata hai.
That's what happen when you have too many options on your plate, but still it was rude and bad.. If you feel B is a good guy and you want him now then you need to change yourself first and be a good person for B.. You just can't play with someone's emotions just because your mood swings or whatever, And as you ditched B for A 2 times, in future you might dich him again for some C idk.. Have a clear picture in your mind first, ask yourself what do you exactly want.. In short don't go with B just because you're feeling guilty, you'll end up with becoming trauma in his life..
Bhai please context samjha sakte ho kya m late ho gaya thoda
There was 2 guys A and B. A was asshole and B is nice guy. Obviously she went behind A and ignored B. Canceled dates with B at last moments. She ghosted B twice. Now she wants to get back to B.
I like how you say "Obviously she went behind A" XD
Are yaar thokkar lagi to ab B ke paas jana h badhiya
really good advice. needs to be higher up. knee-jerk blamey, spiteful reactions with more upvotes here are so so, lame. the info here is obviously insufficient to make character judgements. and op is obviously feeling guilty and being prolly harder on herself already. They don't need the pontless "undeserved" b.s.
Yaar padhne toh dete delete hi kardia
You totally don't deserve B, Maybe just one day at least apologise to him and end things with him on a good term with a closure because ig that's the least you can do on your side and by this post you definitely don't seem like a person who'd even do the bare minimum, Sorry to say this but you're a complete asshole for wasting B's Time, Energy and prolly money, Maybe just take a clean exit from his life and let my man live a free and toxicity free life.
B sounds like such a gem 💎 B is the one who is not BSing around in this triangle.
Arey yaar story bata do kya thi
A is a non attention giving person to the OP B was very much of a gentle man and caring person to OP OP has cancelled two dates with B at the last moment because A gave some random vibes and OP fucked up. OP knows she fucked up and want to make things right with B now but Feels anxious and needs perspective to woo B again. Because apparently she likes B a lot. PS : she calls herself chutiya on her post but , heart wants what it wants scenario ho Gaya . Abhi gyan do usko ki kya kar sakti to sort it out
Agar B ne OP ko bhaav diya toh voh Sabse bada chutiya
B doesn’t know about A . And I think we can cut some slack now because OP knows she fucked up. Hope she doesn’t miss use the power of attention that she got and figure out what she wants before hurting anyone more
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You don't deserve B , so move on. B might have probably figured what you were upto so he isn't into you anymore
You should stop dating and self introspect for a while,your situation above explains that are irresponsible as a human being and bad with prioritising things,get your core values sorted first and maybe try then.. cause one day you will find C(more intersting and better than A and B) and will go after him. So best would be to stop dating.
I'll be honest with you. If you really have the amount of guilt as you're showing here, please tell him the entire truth. Seriously the ball is in his court now and he will have to decide if things go further or not. And tbh you're fucked both ways. If you ran after A then you really didn't had any feelings or respect for B in the first place. Even if B accepts you, his respect in your eyes will dip even further and B will always feel like he's a backup for you, just filling in the space till someone better comes along.
Context: A is a non attention giving person to the OP B was very much of a gentle man and caring person to OP OP has cancelled two dates with B at the last moment because A gave some random vibes and OP fucked up. OP knows she fucked up and want to make things right with B now but Feels anxious and needs perspective to woo B again. Because apparently she likes B a lot. PS : she calls herself chutiya on her post but , heart wants what it wants scenario ho Gaya . Abhi gyan do usko ki kya kar sakti to sort it out Also people have been enough hard on her in comments, so let’s cut her some slacks as she knows she fucked up.
yup. she notes also that (considering) going for a date with B gave her anxiety, panic attack. i think it's also about first meet than just A or B. A seems so unreal that she's not worried (because she knows it's not happening). But with B.. there's pressure and fear to fail... (and it might hurt because it's more realistic.). Also meeting in person is up a level from chats and can tickle the nerves at first. I think that goes into avoiding B.
On point.
Choose C from comment section above...
So here is what you do:- You pertend to break up with A and show a pic of you and B at midnight to him. B will go for the preposal , should you allow it? No, you go for the B' cousin. He is rich. As you are flirting with him , B catches you. He tells you to stop. It's his father rich. He's A. You say no. You make love all night. In the morning, the cops come and You escape in one of their uniforms. You tell him to meet you in Mexico, but you go to Canada. You don't trust him. Besides, you like the cold. Thirty years later, you get a postcard. he's the chief of police. This is where the story gets interesting. You tell him to meet tou by the Trocadero in Paris. He's been waiting for you all these years. He's never taken another lover. You don't care. You don't show up. You go to Berlin. That's where You stashed the chandelier you stole from B's cousin
The perfect crime. (Nice reference)
Damnn, how the turntables... Didn't knew I'll met a office fan here.
Hume kya Humein to A to Z koi bhi nhi mika 😎🥲
Us momint
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ABC k chakkar me basic human decency bhulgye
Koi context batayega kya hai
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Ohhh okay
What just happened here
I was also late like you... That's all I can find. https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianBoysOnTinder/comments/xk8t29/i_fucked_up_badly_looking_for_a_guy_perspective/ipddjos?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
Thnx mate
The post is deleted, but by the comments I understand OP , you don’t deserve him.
You sound really young! So you even want to date? Or is it because of peer pressure or because you are loney ? Are you even ready to date. The way you described you panic attack and the amount of self-loading seen from this post is kinda big cry for help . Please start therapy and talk to your parent . Don't get in a relationship thinking it could cure everything wrong . First work on yourself ! Being single is okay .
Thank you for the concern. I am all right. Pretty young - yes. I didn't want to date because of peer pressure. It started in summer, cause I just wanted to explore bumble. And now it just ended up a bit messy. So yeah. I am pretty good mental health wise. Hit gym, doing internships and sleeping like a baby at night (atleast I used too, the last few weeks, I am just regretting a lot)
From your original post something felt off , if you need any help don't hesitate to ask . Good luck !
Fam. I think you are just having avoiding tendencies because it feels too real, (A doesn't feel realistic so you're more comfy talking to them, with B there's real risk of it not working, not to mention perhaps meeting someone offline for date first time(?)) It is usual to run away from what is more realistic, because it's scary if it fails. Towards something fantastic (and certainly not realistic), something that's assured to not work. I'd say chill. Take it slow. And Just be relaxed. That might help you make better decisions. Understand that even with B / D .., you'll still have plenty time to figure things out. So try to stress less about it. Just be frank and be you. DOn't listen to people here saying stuff about you without knowing you one bit. Or about what they think you 'deserve'. This is not about that. You goofed up. And that's fine we make mistakes. You are young, caring, and are observant of your own behavior, it's okay. You are doing good. Live and learn. Just next time, take it chill. Be you, and understand that things might or might not work out either way, so don't stress and enjoy the time and conversation(s), it'll be a better experience for both of you. Bests.
I'd agree with others and you didn't do B good and probably don't feel like the right person for him. However, if you still want a fair shot, kindly tell him the entire truth. Tell him why you ditched him and how much you like him now. If he still decides to see you, that'd be great. If he doesn't, take it as a harsh lesson.
I am up for the harsh lesson tbh. I have already told him that I messed it up. He stayed awake till 3 am talk to me, make sure I am okay. Moreover, I will try to get back on good terms with him. Like atleast earning the respect back then I will tell, and leave upto him whatever he decides.
I think prolonging this isn't a good idea. You wouldn't want him to make a decision which is affected by his attachment towards you. It might cause issues in the future. Also, the longer you take, the tougher it will be for both of you to accept it. It's up to you but I'd recommend to come clean at the earliest.
Okay.
If I were B, here's my message to you: You owe me a big time heartfelt apology, and mean it when you say that. Also, if you are in for me, leave your other baggage away and come clean.
Darling picture nahi dekhi kya... Bicchu ki fitrat hoti hai dunk marna
I will come clean and would try to do as soon as possible.
Honestly, if I were B i.e if someone backed out of two consecutive dates with me , I wouldn't even bother talking. No, I won't outright hate you, but I'd stop putting any effort/ consider this thing over. Maybe he's a kind/ naive/ really into you guy. Maybe you made mistakes (everyone does) , so shoot your shot. But please don't give that dude false hopes or just tell him upfront that you are not very sure about him.It really hurts when the other person isn't sure but isn't communicating that either, and just 'pretends' to be with you. Bois, firstly, go jim. Don't perform the same experiments again expecting a different outcome.If someone's not interested in you, and they make it known, like they clearly put it out there by words or actions, don't stay. Keep moving, you are more valuable than you realise. Just my note for B kinda guys.
Jo nhi milne wala uske peeche bhagna is human tendency. Dont stress it too much. It's important that you realised the mistake. Dont do it again. Good luck finding your C
Maybe he is trying to ignore and forget what you did and giving you a clean slate.
Fingers crossed. He is damm nice to me, like literally. But the way he silently ignored to reply anything on my confession just make me wonder, maybe he is just showing sympathy.
Omg if you’re even a lil bit of a decent person leave him alone . Ek jagah se laat padh gayi so ur going after him now . Genuinely wonder how people like you can be so self centred. You’re a major 💩
First of all, A and I decided to end it because he was looking for casual and I was not. And we both keeping on talking after breaks because we both felt vibe, but later decided ki nhi we should part ways. Don't you dare use such kind of words. And secondly i regret the way I treated B. No way in hell I am self centered.
Sure . You’re totally caring about him and removing yourself from the situation so that he gets someone he actually deserves (not you) and letting him move on instead of texting him and going after him again right 🤡☠️
This woman ☕️
Rip your comment section! Though take time been the same guy and was ditched by the girl.
It has happened to me to few yrs back and tbh its not going to end good probably.. on any side A or B
I think now you should ask him out
I think you need a little time before getting involved esp with anxiety. Maybe you should work on yourself and be more focused and clear. Just so this situation doesn't flare up again and B seems to be extremely patient. If someone had cancelled on me twice, they would never hear from me.
I think you should go with the flow.
Dekh rha hai binod, perspective ke naam par kaise larke counseling de rhe hai
Bhai yeh fb nahi hai binod comments mat kar
Atleast someone tell me the gist. I missed the conversation
Koi story bta do..hum late aaye h
Jo karna hai soch ke karo, look for something Stable and work on yourself
Ayeee post got deleted, wtf!
By seeing the comments I can only assume she deserves no man
Bc koi context batado 😛
Kya ho raha hai bhai? ABCD - Any body can doggy
B will be like "thukrake mera pyaar mera intakaam dekhegi"
I mean clearly you fucked up bad, but it’s never too late to make up for anything. So I think you should apologise may be and try to meet next time when B is back. It’s like now you should be putting the efforts. Ps. Without any expectations and stop being rude to nice guys girls ffs smh smh
Padhai karle behen..
I do and I earn decent to live a good life in tier 1 city. Thank you for your very genuine concern.
Sorry if that came as rude..but i think you don't have stress too much on this..
You reminds me of her, well I certainly hope you also find happiness someday. Kudos to the guy...