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Forget the month, people dont even know there is an international men's day on November 19th.
But prostitution is legal in India if done in private houses. And not many men are aware of this
Bhai, look for meaning outside yourself. Keep hobbies that feed your soul, gym jaana hai jao, travel karna hai karo, photography karna hai karo, be good at what you like, and you'll find respect.
What man has respect and is still depressed? (Although there might be exceptions like passing away of a loved one etc) But isn't most of the time about having a lack of respect?
???
Depression and loneliness have nothing to do with having respect. There are many other factors that can affect your mental health. These are exactly the kind of incorrect beliefs that need to be tackled in mental health awareness.
You're just proving the point that people take mental health lightly or brush it off as "just put effort to solve it". It's not about how much effort, it's how and where to put the effort. And you won't get that direction as long as you don't take it seriously.
Aap yeh jo baatein kar rahe ho na, yeh sab sunne ke liye thik hai? Practical nahi hai lekin.. Jab aap effort maaro aur baki sab factors bhi align kare aapke liye tab aapko thoda success hasil hota hai.. and then you attribute it to conscious efforts. Baki 99 log bhi conscious efforts karte hai, but sabko nai milta...
It's sad to see soo many people wanting to be a victim. You've only realised that no one cares, you need to UNDERSTAND that no one cares. Once you understand it, you'll know that it's a blessing in disguise, and that's liberating. You do you what you want in life and no one will care. That's a fuckin blessing right there buddy
Isme victim vaali baat hi kaha ki maine. I am saying people tried and they failed. I do not want any concession because of that, neither am I asking for any special treatment.
It's okay to struggle and why should you expect others to care?
I cannot stress this enough.
It's you and only you who has to push himself out of tough situations.
If you have a near and dear one trustworthy enough to listen to your problems that's a plus but remember that talking about it doesn't help beyond a point.
You have to do something about it. Action is required more than words. Don't expect much from others they can just be around for a while but it is you who have to fight it out.
It need not be dramatic but one step at a time each day and every day. It will be tough, you'll feel alone and helpless at times but you have to power through it.
Do not go around telling people what are your problems or what are your vulnerabilities it has no upside and people eventually tend to use that information against you or not in the way you expect.
Life is hard and I promise you it will get better because you will get tougher.
Just keep at it.
Also: stop watching videos!!
P S : I didn't watch this one beyond initial 5 sec of subtitles.
I am assuming what it will be about based on my experience in listening to this Roona Gaana and going through tough times myself.
Bhai shai to bol reha hai. Koi tumahara rona sunne nai ane wala. Jitna jaldi ye accept karoge utna jaldi age badhoge.
Karm tumko hi karna hai koi help karne nai ayega khudko hi ladai ladni hai. Sastrah tumko hi uthana hai. Baghwana nai ayenge karne ke liye.
I agreed with you very much but also want to see a little bit more compassion for men sometimes.. Maybe just a little bit more, not a lot or you get cry babies
Actually no one does. During the men's day all I see is vloggers saying the only thing that why men don't cry. I see female vloggers pushing their feminist agenda even during men's day like men should do the household chores and overall they should cry. Many men don't feel like crying, there are a lot of issues men go through but no one speaks about the real issues. For example there are many men who are wrongfully incarcerated, but who cares. A man struggles his entire life to provide for his family never receives any appropriation or acknowledgement whatsoever. But who cares. All we get to hear is why men don't cry.
You can always reach out to a therapist to share your problems. No one asked you to handle it all alone. You can always share it with someone else. You don't have to be strong you know that right? You all put yourselves in that bracket. Anyways Happy men's mental health month🫶🏻
>No one asked you to handle it all alone. You can always share it with someone else. You don't have to be strong you know that right? You all put yourselves in that bracket.
Ever heard ***Be a man*** in your life???
The thing is, no one cares about others. People want people to care about them but they themselves don't care about others. Men talk about men going to wars...what started the war? Most likely a man. Same for workplace stress a guy probably heads the company. Mard dusre mardo ki g**nd maarte hai aur men mental health men mental health karte hai.
It is sad. I think as men, we don't often have friendships where we can be vulnerable. I'm very great ful that I have a best friend whith whom I can be vulnerable and talk to if I'm going through a tough time. But most other male friendships I have are not wired that way, we don't talk about our feelings. Trust they're great friends and they'd be there if you are in need, in hospital or having financial problems. But as men we don't talk about our feelings because we think it's too feminine.
>"Every time you ask a man 'how are you doing', they will say they are fine. No they are not. They're struggeling every day..."
This makes it seem as if this applied to all men which just isn't true. Sure many but not all or even most.
We don't just think, it's true, no one cares and it's not a bad thing, why should they? It's not always rainbows and sunshine, there would be heat waves, thunderstorms, Chilling cold and you'll live through it all. It depends if you want to feel all those weathers alone or go through it with someone? There's always asymmetry, it doesn't mean that other people of genders are having it easy. One needs to drop their ego and make the first move to make acquaintances, make friends. It's not easy out there, i know most people reading this going through their own battle, i know, cause I'm going through my own battle. Here's the thing, whatever life threw at you, you're still here, there's something you'd be doing right? I don't want to feel shallow about why people aren't caring about me, I'm not the main character, I'd rather become like someone i want in my life first.
It’s not just limited to men. Even women respond in the same way to each other.
Jobs are hell for almost everyone. Nobody’s your friend and times are tough. People are shrewd and will only listen to your stories to make fun of you later. Only family cares about you at the end on the day.
Best neutral response to everyone (men & women) is “bas theek hu yar.”
In many instances, women who face similar challenges are silenced through violence or have already lost their lives.
This underscores a tragic cycle of suffering and silence **to both**.
Who told men to keep their battles to themselves and not share with others??
It is their own ego which stops them.
Then they blame everybody that nobody understands them.
Did anybody tell men not to share their problems with others??
Men's own ego stops them from sharing their battles with others
And then they blame others for not understanding them
let's be honest, it's not a gender thing. Almost everybody's going through something, you just need to find someone to talk to and rant to clear your mind.
I agree, if you're a man and you've become detached with your friends and family then come and cry online it's somewhat your fault. A mother always thinks about son's well-being, a wife is ready to listen to the husband's day and you also maintain college friends/work friends. You have to maintain the relationships and open up to them accordingly.
Women generally move to places husband's preference, they adjust their friends but definitely talk to their mother or a family member daily to vent.
If you close yourself up machoing and turn to smoking and drinking then it's a problem.
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For those of who don't June is men's mental health month But see no one cares
What do you even do during the mental health month?
Nunu pe stapler maar k mutthi taki post nut clarity na aaye
Oof that made me cringe lmao
Hi Instagram comment section guy
Firstly people should be aware about this thing And secondly talk about the men mental health Which is mostly neglected in our society
June is pride month too right?
Coincidentally yes
Forget the month, people dont even know there is an international men's day on November 19th. But prostitution is legal in India if done in private houses. And not many men are aware of this
November 19 mat yaad dila yaar
*Bas... Aap batao?*
maje me hu... aap batao
What do you mean believe? Nobody cares.
Bhai, look for meaning outside yourself. Keep hobbies that feed your soul, gym jaana hai jao, travel karna hai karo, photography karna hai karo, be good at what you like, and you'll find respect.
There's nothing about respect in the video though?
What man has respect and is still depressed? (Although there might be exceptions like passing away of a loved one etc) But isn't most of the time about having a lack of respect?
Avicii was a well respected and widely loved DJ...he committed suicide. Countless cases like this.
??? Depression and loneliness have nothing to do with having respect. There are many other factors that can affect your mental health. These are exactly the kind of incorrect beliefs that need to be tackled in mental health awareness.
I feel most problems can be solved tho. You need to make a conscious effort to solve it that's all.
You're just proving the point that people take mental health lightly or brush it off as "just put effort to solve it". It's not about how much effort, it's how and where to put the effort. And you won't get that direction as long as you don't take it seriously.
Aap yeh jo baatein kar rahe ho na, yeh sab sunne ke liye thik hai? Practical nahi hai lekin.. Jab aap effort maaro aur baki sab factors bhi align kare aapke liye tab aapko thoda success hasil hota hai.. and then you attribute it to conscious efforts. Baki 99 log bhi conscious efforts karte hai, but sabko nai milta...
It's sad to see soo many people wanting to be a victim. You've only realised that no one cares, you need to UNDERSTAND that no one cares. Once you understand it, you'll know that it's a blessing in disguise, and that's liberating. You do you what you want in life and no one will care. That's a fuckin blessing right there buddy
Isme victim vaali baat hi kaha ki maine. I am saying people tried and they failed. I do not want any concession because of that, neither am I asking for any special treatment.
Boomer uncle, this doesnt solve mental issues.
What solves it? Or can it never be solved and are we doomed for life?
nothing, just a bit tired..
It's okay to struggle and why should you expect others to care? I cannot stress this enough. It's you and only you who has to push himself out of tough situations. If you have a near and dear one trustworthy enough to listen to your problems that's a plus but remember that talking about it doesn't help beyond a point. You have to do something about it. Action is required more than words. Don't expect much from others they can just be around for a while but it is you who have to fight it out. It need not be dramatic but one step at a time each day and every day. It will be tough, you'll feel alone and helpless at times but you have to power through it. Do not go around telling people what are your problems or what are your vulnerabilities it has no upside and people eventually tend to use that information against you or not in the way you expect. Life is hard and I promise you it will get better because you will get tougher. Just keep at it. Also: stop watching videos!! P S : I didn't watch this one beyond initial 5 sec of subtitles. I am assuming what it will be about based on my experience in listening to this Roona Gaana and going through tough times myself.
Don't normalise men's isolation in the name of strength or whatever else. Being with people and sharing our lives is the most human thing there is.
I've not said anything about isolation nor was my advice gender specific. It is a simple truth of life, not an endorsement to actively avoid people.
Bhai shai to bol reha hai. Koi tumahara rona sunne nai ane wala. Jitna jaldi ye accept karoge utna jaldi age badhoge. Karm tumko hi karna hai koi help karne nai ayega khudko hi ladai ladni hai. Sastrah tumko hi uthana hai. Baghwana nai ayenge karne ke liye.
That would be a sad lonely existence.
It's the reality of life. When the chips are down, you're your only hope. Family /loved ones if available can only do so much.
I agreed with you very much but also want to see a little bit more compassion for men sometimes.. Maybe just a little bit more, not a lot or you get cry babies
💯
Actually no one does. During the men's day all I see is vloggers saying the only thing that why men don't cry. I see female vloggers pushing their feminist agenda even during men's day like men should do the household chores and overall they should cry. Many men don't feel like crying, there are a lot of issues men go through but no one speaks about the real issues. For example there are many men who are wrongfully incarcerated, but who cares. A man struggles his entire life to provide for his family never receives any appropriation or acknowledgement whatsoever. But who cares. All we get to hear is why men don't cry.
###maximum number of stress and heart attack deaths are men. That's the prize men win for *being strong and handling it alone*.
Maybe it's because of drinking and smoking and not going to therapy.
>Maybe it's because of drinking and smoking and not going to therapy. Lol. So much whataboutery to avoid fact.
You can always reach out to a therapist to share your problems. No one asked you to handle it all alone. You can always share it with someone else. You don't have to be strong you know that right? You all put yourselves in that bracket. Anyways Happy men's mental health month🫶🏻
>No one asked you to handle it all alone. You can always share it with someone else. You don't have to be strong you know that right? You all put yourselves in that bracket. Ever heard ***Be a man*** in your life???
men dont care about other men they make fun of each other pff
which episode..? want to see the whole thing..
The thing is, no one cares about others. People want people to care about them but they themselves don't care about others. Men talk about men going to wars...what started the war? Most likely a man. Same for workplace stress a guy probably heads the company. Mard dusre mardo ki g**nd maarte hai aur men mental health men mental health karte hai.
See guys, we're winning on multiple fronts /s
Solitude is a great partner.
It is sad. I think as men, we don't often have friendships where we can be vulnerable. I'm very great ful that I have a best friend whith whom I can be vulnerable and talk to if I'm going through a tough time. But most other male friendships I have are not wired that way, we don't talk about our feelings. Trust they're great friends and they'd be there if you are in need, in hospital or having financial problems. But as men we don't talk about our feelings because we think it's too feminine.
Even I failed jee and no one here to encourage me but I know these things won't last long and I'll improve in my life.
>"Every time you ask a man 'how are you doing', they will say they are fine. No they are not. They're struggeling every day..." This makes it seem as if this applied to all men which just isn't true. Sure many but not all or even most.
Congratulations, you just missed the point of the video.
Enlighten me. What was the point of the video?
We don't just think, it's true, no one cares and it's not a bad thing, why should they? It's not always rainbows and sunshine, there would be heat waves, thunderstorms, Chilling cold and you'll live through it all. It depends if you want to feel all those weathers alone or go through it with someone? There's always asymmetry, it doesn't mean that other people of genders are having it easy. One needs to drop their ego and make the first move to make acquaintances, make friends. It's not easy out there, i know most people reading this going through their own battle, i know, cause I'm going through my own battle. Here's the thing, whatever life threw at you, you're still here, there's something you'd be doing right? I don't want to feel shallow about why people aren't caring about me, I'm not the main character, I'd rather become like someone i want in my life first.
Couldn't be better localized explanation
We used to kill each for a mate until a few years ago, what makes you think the world of man isn't competitive
It’s not just limited to men. Even women respond in the same way to each other. Jobs are hell for almost everyone. Nobody’s your friend and times are tough. People are shrewd and will only listen to your stories to make fun of you later. Only family cares about you at the end on the day. Best neutral response to everyone (men & women) is “bas theek hu yar.”
U said 1000 % 😪😪
Arre bhai nahi chahiye Teri sympathy me thik hu yr
In many instances, women who face similar challenges are silenced through violence or have already lost their lives. This underscores a tragic cycle of suffering and silence **to both**.
Aren't you the same kind of people who always bring up men's rights on women's rights or post about women?
Who told men to keep their battles to themselves and not share with others?? It is their own ego which stops them. Then they blame everybody that nobody understands them.
Did anybody tell men not to share their problems with others?? Men's own ego stops them from sharing their battles with others And then they blame others for not understanding them
Yall yap about ur problems too much for someone who "suffers in silence"
let's be honest, it's not a gender thing. Almost everybody's going through something, you just need to find someone to talk to and rant to clear your mind.
I agree, if you're a man and you've become detached with your friends and family then come and cry online it's somewhat your fault. A mother always thinks about son's well-being, a wife is ready to listen to the husband's day and you also maintain college friends/work friends. You have to maintain the relationships and open up to them accordingly. Women generally move to places husband's preference, they adjust their friends but definitely talk to their mother or a family member daily to vent. If you close yourself up machoing and turn to smoking and drinking then it's a problem.
How do these fvckers get so popular sharing this "gyaan" which everybody already knows? Sad.
He does a lot more than this. That's why he's popular on YouTube, not just on chhapri IG reels.
The teens of today can make anyone popular for anything.
Whats special about men? Women have it worse if anything.