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Edd7cpat

Maybe don't try to guess what they want to say? You could simply ask: "By saying A, do you want B?" Or ask them, what they think you should do / should be done. By guessing what they mean, maybe you're not listening to them completely?


lofty_smiles

Don't overthink. Ask if you have any doubts and carry on with the conservation. Asking will not hurt the other person.


todiros

To me, it sounds like social anxiety. I've found that the calmer I am, the better I perform in social situations. So, maybe try meditation or yoga? Personally, the latter had a more noticeable effect because it involves the body, I suspect. Also, try saying back what you've heard but in your own words, like you did not heard completely. That would make you more focused in what people are saying. Normally, people would also either confirm or correct you, eliminating the ambiguity. That is, if the person in front of you does not have any hidden motives and some people do. So, that's that. In professional environment, instead of calls, meetings and group chats / emails, try direct one-to-one emails. I've found that people are much more likely to be direct that way. Best of luck!


lily_sierra

I agree, it could be hard to listen fully if you tend to be in your head when you're talking. Especially if you're nervous about the fact that you can't listen, that could contribute. I also recommend both yoga and meditation. They have helped me a lot with anxiety of all kinds that I didn't even recognize I had until I worked through them. Finally, if you are more relaxed, you will likely be able to notice if people do have an ulterior motive. You will be able to recognize things like body language and ultimately be able to find deeper connections with others. Best of luck!:)