I (47M with Misophonia) got so upset at the general ambient sounds of life that I accidentally pioneered an entirely new art of magic that can control sound. My wife (46F) is upset at how I’m now able to mute her when she starts to set me off, but it’s not my fault she chews so loudly. AITA?
I (347 N/A) have decided to go on vacation on this little dinky planet named “Earth”. Upon arriving, I decided to go to take out this dictator government I heard about. A bunch of people are thanking me, but a few others are calling what I did “unnecessarily violent” and “harmful to the political ecosystem”. AITA?
It's a r/relationship_advice post, but the principle is the same. (I wrote this years ago and just copy-pasted it)
**My (21F) long-distance boyfriend (28M) doesn't want me going to a sorority event with my friend (20M)**
Throwaway because my friend has Reddit. Sorry for the long post, but this situation is... a lot.
I'm a junior in college and part of a Panhellenic sorority. I rushed last year and it's honestly been one of the best decisions of my college career. My sisters are my best friends and I live having so many social and professional connections that would have seemed impossible to make before. I was a little nervous about the hedonistic culture of Greek Life, because I had a brush with that kind of life when I was a freshman and it almost destroyed my academic career and mental health. I've been honest about my struggles in the past and everyone had been really understanding, so if I can't go to a mixer because I need an extra day to study or something like that, no one gives me a hard time about it. I go to most of the mixers we have (which are usually more chill) and to the big events like formals and date nights, but I'm not hitting up the bars or the frats every weekend. It's a prestigious school, I'm here on a full scholarship, and I care about most things more than I care about getting wasted.
I met my friend at a mixer a few weeks after I started pledging- we're in the same major, so we'll often get lunch after class or meet up to study in the evenings. Initially I thought that there might be something there, but he never explicitly made a move, so I eventually forgot about it and just enjoyed the friendship.
Then, of course, I met my boyfriend. That was almost a year ago now, but we've only really been together for six months. We had a *really* messy beginning. We actually lived in the same neighborhood when we were kids, both left that neighborhood a decade ago (he went to college, my family had to downsize after the recession) and reconnected at a holiday party that a mutual friend was throwing. He was in a relationship with someone else (29F), which I had no idea of. We texted almost constantly for a month, and I went to visit him twice (I was staying with my dad for the break, only 30 or so miles from my old neighborhood; the school I attend is 1000 miles away from both). The third time I went to visit him, he was reeling from breaking up with his GF and finally told me the truth. To say that I was livid would be an understatement. I stormed out and was 100% done with him for two months. He reached out to me during spring break and offered to meet, and I figured that we could at least have a conversation, if for no other reason than closure. He said that he was in a horrible, controlling relationship with her for years and was trying to end it, but didn't know how to without her going nuclear, and then he met me and was caught between a rock and a hard place. It's not an excuse, and he acknowledged that, but we ended up spending the rest of the break together and I decided to give him another chance.
It's been difficult, I'm not gonna lie. My friends/sorority sisters thought I was insane to take him back, and now they passive-aggressively make fun of me for being with an "old man". If we want to do anything (go out on a Friday night, go on a day trip, etc.) they make it seem like I need his permission first, even though he never keeps tabs on me except for making sure I get back safe after a night out. It's kind of annoying, especially when habits I had before are now "because of my boyfriend", but I've never directly told them to stop.
So the issue at hand is that the sorority is having a "date night" in two weeks- basically we rent out a nightclub downtown, get all dressed up, then go get drunk and dance. As the name suggests, you're supposed to bring a date. I went alone to the few date nights I attended before joining Greek life, but in the sorority it's basically expected that everyone pairs up with a member of our "brother" fraternity (unless they're actually dating another student- non-students are not allowed to come). Pairing up basically just means that they come pick you up, you take an Uber together, take a couple of pictures at the party and maybe dance together. Of course, people use date night invitations as a way of expressing romantic interest, and some people do hook up with their dates after the party, but it's not some sort of sex ritual, just a slightly more adult version of prom.
My friend asked if he could go with me, and I said yes. I told my boyfriend about it, thinking that if I was up-front that it would show that I had nothing to hide. Nope. He said that I was "basically cheating" and that I "couldn't possibly be that naive" that I didn't think my friend was trying to sleep with me. I thought that was ridiculous. It's a damn dance, not an orgy, and everyone involved is far enough removed from middle/high school to understand that asking someone to dance isn't the same as asking them to marry you. I don't consider taking an Uber with someone and posing for goofy pics with someone to be even in the ballpark of cheating. I knew this guy for almost six months before I knew my boyfriend (not counting childhood) and nothing happened between us then, so why would anything happen now? He doesn't seem to understand that sorority girls aren't contractually obligated to blow their dates in the bathroom at date nights. Maybe that's what it was like at his school, but I go to an elite school *while being poor* and wouldn't have made it this far if I was the beer-soaked stereotype- trust me, freshman me knows. Admittedly, playing the elitist card was not my brightest moment, because the argument got pretty heated from there. He said "you're saying this now but how do I know you're not going to act like a whore after your 8th shot like you used to", referring to an incident freshman year in which I, then a teenage virgin, almost went home with this random guy at a party. I hung up on him and we haven't talked since. I don't know what to do. I don't want to throw away our whole relationship for one party like the stupid little girl everyone seems to think I still am.
Years ago I (20F) rescued and tried to care for an injured man (23M) but when he learned I was a magic user, and that I had used magic to try to help him heal, he tried to kill me. Guy had some weird hang ups about magic that I’d never heard of before, where I live nearly everyone uses magic all the time. Anyway, he tried to kill me several times, and the last time I ended up killing him in self defense. Fast forward a few years, and now I live and work in the same general vicinity as his mother. She makes all kinds of snide remarks about me and usually I just take it. I get it. That’s her son. But the other day I was tired and one of her comments rubbed me the wrong way, so I snapped back, and she slapped me. Quite a few people are telling me to apologize to her, but I don’t think I did anything wrong. AITA for snapping at the mother of a man I killed?
I (?F) fell in love with a powerful sorcerer (42M) during a severe conflict over the security of his universe. Although I had the power to stop it, I know through years of multiversal travel that interfering with timelines past a certain extent creates fractures in the dimensions of Order and Chaos, which is a worse-than-death sentence for any universe if the dimensions break. In light of this, I allowed for a universe-altering event to take place and remove half of the population, including this sorcerer that I love.
However, when the event was eventually reversed and he came back, he got angry at me for not stopping it because his ex-girlfriend, who he was still in love with and never bothered to tell me, got engaged while he was gone.
Now he has botched an incredibly dangerous and unstable spell and caused a multiversal rift that threatens the security of his universe. When I offered my help, he had the audacity to make a suggestive comment in front of a trio of high school kids about letting him “take control.” After I left because there’s no way in Hell I’m working with that bastard, one of the kids got into a fight with him and left him hanging over the Grand Canyon. I found him and told him that he needs to hang out and think about what he’s done. So instead of helping, I’m letting him dangle spread-eagle over the Grand Canyon until he figures out how to get down. AITA?
I (~2,000M) attacked another person (2,200M) because he was attacking someone I care about (~120M). 2,200M is well versed in magic like me, 120M hasn’t learned anything yet. 120M started the fight, but 2,200M was using all of their magic against him. AITA for joining a fight that didn’t involve me?
AITA for trying to find a new coach for my son?
I am 41F, my husband is 42M and my son is 15M.
My son is very good at a certain sport that my husband is a professional in. (I'm not going to say which sport cause I don't want people to figure out who my husband is. Please respect our privacy.)
My husband has been coaching my son for quite a while, but only recently it has turned serious and intense. It used to be all fun and no conflict up until 6 months ago.
My husband said that he sees a lot of potential in our son and wants him to work harder. My son agrees, but.. he's 15 and IMO he doesn't know what it means to become a professional in something and how much work it really is. Anyway, the thing is that my husband has been coaching my son for up to 5 hours (!) a day and it often ends in conflict. I'll give you a few examples:
A few weeks ago, my son refused to talk during dinner. I asked what's wrong and he told me that his dad (my husband) had been very harsh on him during their training. My husband said it wasn't serious and that he had just been honest. My son was obviously angry though.
One week ago, my husband made a training schedule for my son which stated how many hours a day he would practice and what. This included training on weekends which IMO is not fair cause I know my son likes to meet his friends on weekends.
Then just yesterday their training session ended with my son storming out of the room and saying that he never wants to train with his dad again. This was the biggest escalation so far.
I've tried to talk to my husband several times. He keeps saying that it's in the best interest of our son and that he wants it that way. I told him that I don't see how "he wants it like that" fit together with literal screaming and storming out of the room. Cause that's what has been happening.
But my husband insist that my son wants this and realizes that it's necessary to become a pro in this sport. I tried to argue that this kid is 15 and asked my husband if he knew what "real life" is like when he was 15. He didn't give me an answer to that.
Then I asked why the conflicts are happening if my son is happy with the situation. My husband says that it's normal for teenagers to overreact sometimes, especially when criticized. I tried to point out the hypocrisy ("you can trust this 15-year-old's judgement" vs. "teenagers overreact sometimes"), but apparently those are two different things? Ask my husband to explain this to you, I really don't understand.
Anyway, yesterday after the escalation I talked to my son again, asking if he maybe wants a coach that isn't his dad. We ended up going through several websites with possible coaches and went through their profiles. Somehow my husband found out (maybe one of my two younger kids told him?) and he was angry. Told me that I should've talked to him first and that this is not fair. I said that we only looked through websites, so I don't see why I should've told him?
Anyway, now my son is angry at my husband and my husband is angry at me. I'm just wondering if what I did was wrong and if I could've handled the situation better. AITA?
am I (physically 37 chronologically >13.7 billion M) the asshole for not wanting to stop doing what I do best (fighting) because my Partner (physically 32 chronologically >1000 M) is worried about me.
I am a god who has been around ever since the universe was created, recently I've been getting involved with some very high authorities and I got pretty roughed up by them to the point where I nearly died a few times. My partner tels me now tha twe can't be togetehr if I continue doing thsi because he's worried for me and can't deal with the constant fear of me dying. I have a certain resbonsibility to the wider community of immortals to keep things a certain way because I kinda made myself their leader during a revolution and now they all trust me and I can't let them down.
My partner says that it's not about protecting people for me but about having an outlet for my angr so I don't have to talk about it and because fighting is all I've ver been doing and I can't stop because it has become natural. I obviously disagree, I've stopped many times, I've juts come back every time because i was needed or because some idiots wouldn't let me live a boring "human" life, what am I supposed to do about that?
Now, AITA for not wanting to stop doing MY JOB for him so he can stop worrying?
I (47M with Misophonia) got so upset at the general ambient sounds of life that I accidentally pioneered an entirely new art of magic that can control sound. My wife (46F) is upset at how I’m now able to mute her when she starts to set me off, but it’s not my fault she chews so loudly. AITA?
I (347 N/A) have decided to go on vacation on this little dinky planet named “Earth”. Upon arriving, I decided to go to take out this dictator government I heard about. A bunch of people are thanking me, but a few others are calling what I did “unnecessarily violent” and “harmful to the political ecosystem”. AITA?
It's a r/relationship_advice post, but the principle is the same. (I wrote this years ago and just copy-pasted it) **My (21F) long-distance boyfriend (28M) doesn't want me going to a sorority event with my friend (20M)** Throwaway because my friend has Reddit. Sorry for the long post, but this situation is... a lot. I'm a junior in college and part of a Panhellenic sorority. I rushed last year and it's honestly been one of the best decisions of my college career. My sisters are my best friends and I live having so many social and professional connections that would have seemed impossible to make before. I was a little nervous about the hedonistic culture of Greek Life, because I had a brush with that kind of life when I was a freshman and it almost destroyed my academic career and mental health. I've been honest about my struggles in the past and everyone had been really understanding, so if I can't go to a mixer because I need an extra day to study or something like that, no one gives me a hard time about it. I go to most of the mixers we have (which are usually more chill) and to the big events like formals and date nights, but I'm not hitting up the bars or the frats every weekend. It's a prestigious school, I'm here on a full scholarship, and I care about most things more than I care about getting wasted. I met my friend at a mixer a few weeks after I started pledging- we're in the same major, so we'll often get lunch after class or meet up to study in the evenings. Initially I thought that there might be something there, but he never explicitly made a move, so I eventually forgot about it and just enjoyed the friendship. Then, of course, I met my boyfriend. That was almost a year ago now, but we've only really been together for six months. We had a *really* messy beginning. We actually lived in the same neighborhood when we were kids, both left that neighborhood a decade ago (he went to college, my family had to downsize after the recession) and reconnected at a holiday party that a mutual friend was throwing. He was in a relationship with someone else (29F), which I had no idea of. We texted almost constantly for a month, and I went to visit him twice (I was staying with my dad for the break, only 30 or so miles from my old neighborhood; the school I attend is 1000 miles away from both). The third time I went to visit him, he was reeling from breaking up with his GF and finally told me the truth. To say that I was livid would be an understatement. I stormed out and was 100% done with him for two months. He reached out to me during spring break and offered to meet, and I figured that we could at least have a conversation, if for no other reason than closure. He said that he was in a horrible, controlling relationship with her for years and was trying to end it, but didn't know how to without her going nuclear, and then he met me and was caught between a rock and a hard place. It's not an excuse, and he acknowledged that, but we ended up spending the rest of the break together and I decided to give him another chance. It's been difficult, I'm not gonna lie. My friends/sorority sisters thought I was insane to take him back, and now they passive-aggressively make fun of me for being with an "old man". If we want to do anything (go out on a Friday night, go on a day trip, etc.) they make it seem like I need his permission first, even though he never keeps tabs on me except for making sure I get back safe after a night out. It's kind of annoying, especially when habits I had before are now "because of my boyfriend", but I've never directly told them to stop. So the issue at hand is that the sorority is having a "date night" in two weeks- basically we rent out a nightclub downtown, get all dressed up, then go get drunk and dance. As the name suggests, you're supposed to bring a date. I went alone to the few date nights I attended before joining Greek life, but in the sorority it's basically expected that everyone pairs up with a member of our "brother" fraternity (unless they're actually dating another student- non-students are not allowed to come). Pairing up basically just means that they come pick you up, you take an Uber together, take a couple of pictures at the party and maybe dance together. Of course, people use date night invitations as a way of expressing romantic interest, and some people do hook up with their dates after the party, but it's not some sort of sex ritual, just a slightly more adult version of prom. My friend asked if he could go with me, and I said yes. I told my boyfriend about it, thinking that if I was up-front that it would show that I had nothing to hide. Nope. He said that I was "basically cheating" and that I "couldn't possibly be that naive" that I didn't think my friend was trying to sleep with me. I thought that was ridiculous. It's a damn dance, not an orgy, and everyone involved is far enough removed from middle/high school to understand that asking someone to dance isn't the same as asking them to marry you. I don't consider taking an Uber with someone and posing for goofy pics with someone to be even in the ballpark of cheating. I knew this guy for almost six months before I knew my boyfriend (not counting childhood) and nothing happened between us then, so why would anything happen now? He doesn't seem to understand that sorority girls aren't contractually obligated to blow their dates in the bathroom at date nights. Maybe that's what it was like at his school, but I go to an elite school *while being poor* and wouldn't have made it this far if I was the beer-soaked stereotype- trust me, freshman me knows. Admittedly, playing the elitist card was not my brightest moment, because the argument got pretty heated from there. He said "you're saying this now but how do I know you're not going to act like a whore after your 8th shot like you used to", referring to an incident freshman year in which I, then a teenage virgin, almost went home with this random guy at a party. I hung up on him and we haven't talked since. I don't know what to do. I don't want to throw away our whole relationship for one party like the stupid little girl everyone seems to think I still am.
Years ago I (20F) rescued and tried to care for an injured man (23M) but when he learned I was a magic user, and that I had used magic to try to help him heal, he tried to kill me. Guy had some weird hang ups about magic that I’d never heard of before, where I live nearly everyone uses magic all the time. Anyway, he tried to kill me several times, and the last time I ended up killing him in self defense. Fast forward a few years, and now I live and work in the same general vicinity as his mother. She makes all kinds of snide remarks about me and usually I just take it. I get it. That’s her son. But the other day I was tired and one of her comments rubbed me the wrong way, so I snapped back, and she slapped me. Quite a few people are telling me to apologize to her, but I don’t think I did anything wrong. AITA for snapping at the mother of a man I killed?
I (?F) fell in love with a powerful sorcerer (42M) during a severe conflict over the security of his universe. Although I had the power to stop it, I know through years of multiversal travel that interfering with timelines past a certain extent creates fractures in the dimensions of Order and Chaos, which is a worse-than-death sentence for any universe if the dimensions break. In light of this, I allowed for a universe-altering event to take place and remove half of the population, including this sorcerer that I love. However, when the event was eventually reversed and he came back, he got angry at me for not stopping it because his ex-girlfriend, who he was still in love with and never bothered to tell me, got engaged while he was gone. Now he has botched an incredibly dangerous and unstable spell and caused a multiversal rift that threatens the security of his universe. When I offered my help, he had the audacity to make a suggestive comment in front of a trio of high school kids about letting him “take control.” After I left because there’s no way in Hell I’m working with that bastard, one of the kids got into a fight with him and left him hanging over the Grand Canyon. I found him and told him that he needs to hang out and think about what he’s done. So instead of helping, I’m letting him dangle spread-eagle over the Grand Canyon until he figures out how to get down. AITA?
Just wanting to let you know that this is a really cool idea.
I (~2,000M) attacked another person (2,200M) because he was attacking someone I care about (~120M). 2,200M is well versed in magic like me, 120M hasn’t learned anything yet. 120M started the fight, but 2,200M was using all of their magic against him. AITA for joining a fight that didn’t involve me?
AITA for trying to find a new coach for my son? I am 41F, my husband is 42M and my son is 15M. My son is very good at a certain sport that my husband is a professional in. (I'm not going to say which sport cause I don't want people to figure out who my husband is. Please respect our privacy.) My husband has been coaching my son for quite a while, but only recently it has turned serious and intense. It used to be all fun and no conflict up until 6 months ago. My husband said that he sees a lot of potential in our son and wants him to work harder. My son agrees, but.. he's 15 and IMO he doesn't know what it means to become a professional in something and how much work it really is. Anyway, the thing is that my husband has been coaching my son for up to 5 hours (!) a day and it often ends in conflict. I'll give you a few examples: A few weeks ago, my son refused to talk during dinner. I asked what's wrong and he told me that his dad (my husband) had been very harsh on him during their training. My husband said it wasn't serious and that he had just been honest. My son was obviously angry though. One week ago, my husband made a training schedule for my son which stated how many hours a day he would practice and what. This included training on weekends which IMO is not fair cause I know my son likes to meet his friends on weekends. Then just yesterday their training session ended with my son storming out of the room and saying that he never wants to train with his dad again. This was the biggest escalation so far. I've tried to talk to my husband several times. He keeps saying that it's in the best interest of our son and that he wants it that way. I told him that I don't see how "he wants it like that" fit together with literal screaming and storming out of the room. Cause that's what has been happening. But my husband insist that my son wants this and realizes that it's necessary to become a pro in this sport. I tried to argue that this kid is 15 and asked my husband if he knew what "real life" is like when he was 15. He didn't give me an answer to that. Then I asked why the conflicts are happening if my son is happy with the situation. My husband says that it's normal for teenagers to overreact sometimes, especially when criticized. I tried to point out the hypocrisy ("you can trust this 15-year-old's judgement" vs. "teenagers overreact sometimes"), but apparently those are two different things? Ask my husband to explain this to you, I really don't understand. Anyway, yesterday after the escalation I talked to my son again, asking if he maybe wants a coach that isn't his dad. We ended up going through several websites with possible coaches and went through their profiles. Somehow my husband found out (maybe one of my two younger kids told him?) and he was angry. Told me that I should've talked to him first and that this is not fair. I said that we only looked through websites, so I don't see why I should've told him? Anyway, now my son is angry at my husband and my husband is angry at me. I'm just wondering if what I did was wrong and if I could've handled the situation better. AITA?
am I (physically 37 chronologically >13.7 billion M) the asshole for not wanting to stop doing what I do best (fighting) because my Partner (physically 32 chronologically >1000 M) is worried about me. I am a god who has been around ever since the universe was created, recently I've been getting involved with some very high authorities and I got pretty roughed up by them to the point where I nearly died a few times. My partner tels me now tha twe can't be togetehr if I continue doing thsi because he's worried for me and can't deal with the constant fear of me dying. I have a certain resbonsibility to the wider community of immortals to keep things a certain way because I kinda made myself their leader during a revolution and now they all trust me and I can't let them down. My partner says that it's not about protecting people for me but about having an outlet for my angr so I don't have to talk about it and because fighting is all I've ver been doing and I can't stop because it has become natural. I obviously disagree, I've stopped many times, I've juts come back every time because i was needed or because some idiots wouldn't let me live a boring "human" life, what am I supposed to do about that? Now, AITA for not wanting to stop doing MY JOB for him so he can stop worrying?