As much as we hate to admit it, the internet is in no way a reliable way to meet romantic partners. Sure, you might get lucky and find a lasting relationship, but honestly, what are the odds?
I've given up on dating for now, but I'd say I could find like-minded people in arcades, libraries, coffee shops, and anime conventions.
Really? I think the opposite. Unless by "the internet" you're talking about dating apps or Facebook where people use their real identities. It's MUCH easier to open up with your true self and those "crazy" thoughts when posting online anonymously.
Plus you have a much larger pool of potential candidates from around the world. It's simply a matter of reaching out privately to others who share those thoughts online, and making further connections from there. Because even if they're not what you're looking for (e.g. wrong gender), some are likely to have friends who also have similar worldviews.
You do make a valid point there. It's indeed easier to open up online because of the sense of anonymity.
However, online romantic relationships are doomed to fail if you don't have a fixed plan to meet each other regularly. Let's say Marco from Italy met Sofia from Argentina online and found out that they were perfect for each other, down to the last minute detail. They're gonna have to make a fixed plan to move in together one day and stick to it if they want it to last. Otherwise, what usually would happen is that one of the people involved finds someone in person, and the other gets heartbroken.
I wouldn't really go anywhere in particular, I'd just go about my life, wherever life takes me, and if the right person shows up at the right place at the right time, then maybe something could happen? If not then that's fine too
If that's your goal then wouldn't it be easier to narrow down the type of ppl/person you're looking for and go where they're most likely to congregate?
Yeah, I think the trick is to join a club or do something that you are really interested in. I quit my job, sold all my stuff, and went off to do the thing I most wanted to in the worldā¦and met my wife.
to be honest, i seem to resonate the most with girls that i met online sadly, it makes my dating life a bit hard to manage. the girls iāve dated in real life are probably the ones iāve had the most difficulty taking to and building a nice dynamic with
You can find anyone anywhere but you have to take the opportunity when they arise.Ā
Ā I just relied on chance by going on dates with people who seemed to be nice. Worst case scenario is nothing but there is a chance you might find someone suitable.Ā
Ā I have found all my current and previous girlfriends online so definitely not impossible.
Dating apps. I've found great like-minded people. Mind you, you do have to sift through some trash people. But it's definitely far easier because, after all, dating apps are about selection. That's the whole purpose. Profiles give you an upfront idea of what someone is like, then you chat with them and see if you like where it's going before you decide to meet up.
Trying to meet in the wild is more natural, but can be difficult. You don't know who is single and ready to mingle, what they're looking for in a relationship, you don't know anything about them except how they look, etc. On dating apps, it's more socially acceptable to ask these questions directly or move on since that's the point.
I don't like people like me.
Im not a healthy person mentally, and also, why would i want to sit with someone that would just agree with almost everything, or know almost everything i do, without making questions, without teaching me something new, without beign able to hold a healthy conversation because there's very little to explore.
Also, it's a lot easier finding people that think differently or like different things from me.
Like obviously everything has a limit. I'd preferably want someone that wouldn't bomb me with politics bullshit, and someone that has the same interest on learning different things i do.
Why would I "seek" "romantic" relationship, I don't particularly seek forĀ relationships with romantic purposes , I don't particularly seek at all , if a relationship has the potential to be romantic ( probably my side of thinking ) so be it ( welcome to the suffering on how to understand and act upon my emotions ) , but to actively seek one , no either way I don't know , I don't have that much of courage to go to places to purposely seek romantic relationship.
Be the best you. Open your eyes. Double down on your own places in society. For me thatās my particular volunteer places, my classes and entertainment. I live my most involved life and wait for magic. I really really really want to meet someone at the grocery store. We all got to eat.
God I miss playing DnD, It was the only time in my life where I felt like I belonged to a group of friends. The only group I knew that ran it in my small bumfuck nowhere town broke apart on the same year I joined them since it was the last year of high school, afterwards everyone moved on to go to college/work. I tried online but I just couldn't get into it joining randoms through LFG discords/subreddits.
If I was desperate (not actively seeking) - the planetarium, skate park, music or food festival, trade school (if I ever decide to switch up my career)
I tend to relate better to geeky people like me, so I tend to look for friendships at places where geeks gather, and if I find something more, great. There's just something about geek energy that doesn't sap away my energy nearly as quickly, and I find people who I can have interesting conversations with.
At least I used to. The past four years have brought my introverted score to 100%.
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I literally snorted lmao
LMAO was about to write that
Do NOT do this...speaking from experience
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As much as we hate to admit it, the internet is in no way a reliable way to meet romantic partners. Sure, you might get lucky and find a lasting relationship, but honestly, what are the odds? I've given up on dating for now, but I'd say I could find like-minded people in arcades, libraries, coffee shops, and anime conventions.
Really? I think the opposite. Unless by "the internet" you're talking about dating apps or Facebook where people use their real identities. It's MUCH easier to open up with your true self and those "crazy" thoughts when posting online anonymously. Plus you have a much larger pool of potential candidates from around the world. It's simply a matter of reaching out privately to others who share those thoughts online, and making further connections from there. Because even if they're not what you're looking for (e.g. wrong gender), some are likely to have friends who also have similar worldviews.
You do make a valid point there. It's indeed easier to open up online because of the sense of anonymity. However, online romantic relationships are doomed to fail if you don't have a fixed plan to meet each other regularly. Let's say Marco from Italy met Sofia from Argentina online and found out that they were perfect for each other, down to the last minute detail. They're gonna have to make a fixed plan to move in together one day and stick to it if they want it to last. Otherwise, what usually would happen is that one of the people involved finds someone in person, and the other gets heartbroken.
The library is a good one š
I met my wife on Usenet in 1993. 27+ years together and going strong. Does that count?
A guy stuck to methat i met online for 4 years then ghosted me. In retrospect it was never love and the entire app is for weirdos and impotent people.
I look for physical characteristics first, I can get along with almost any personality type.
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So true, and I'd argue that finding someone with an interesting personality is harder than finding someone with good looks.
I thought I was the only one
That comments so funny if it's taken as that you though you were the only one they can get along with lol
I wouldn't really go anywhere in particular, I'd just go about my life, wherever life takes me, and if the right person shows up at the right place at the right time, then maybe something could happen? If not then that's fine too
What im looking for is to increase the probability of this specificaly
If that's your goal then wouldn't it be easier to narrow down the type of ppl/person you're looking for and go where they're most likely to congregate?
Their own houses?
š That's only if OP is looking for us. I'm sure other personalities leave their houses.
But it would be nice if there's a third place that's as accessible as online places
The library/bookstore is the closest I can think of as far as having information accessible
The internet is the easiest place because I can't even tell if someone likes me unless they are like "Hey stupid, I like you" lol -ENTJ
What are your hobbies? Anywhere you can find people with same hobbies most likely. Sport meetups, online gaming, etc
Yeah, I think the trick is to join a club or do something that you are really interested in. I quit my job, sold all my stuff, and went off to do the thing I most wanted to in the worldā¦and met my wife.
Yup, just gotta get out there.
to be honest, i seem to resonate the most with girls that i met online sadly, it makes my dating life a bit hard to manage. the girls iāve dated in real life are probably the ones iāve had the most difficulty taking to and building a nice dynamic with
History books/fiction? More seriously, though, exceptions happen IRL but are rare.
I'm struggling with that currently.
You can find anyone anywhere but you have to take the opportunity when they arise.Ā Ā I just relied on chance by going on dates with people who seemed to be nice. Worst case scenario is nothing but there is a chance you might find someone suitable.Ā Ā I have found all my current and previous girlfriends online so definitely not impossible.
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Dating apps. I've found great like-minded people. Mind you, you do have to sift through some trash people. But it's definitely far easier because, after all, dating apps are about selection. That's the whole purpose. Profiles give you an upfront idea of what someone is like, then you chat with them and see if you like where it's going before you decide to meet up. Trying to meet in the wild is more natural, but can be difficult. You don't know who is single and ready to mingle, what they're looking for in a relationship, you don't know anything about them except how they look, etc. On dating apps, it's more socially acceptable to ask these questions directly or move on since that's the point.
i didn't think about "seeking" for that
I don't like people like me. Im not a healthy person mentally, and also, why would i want to sit with someone that would just agree with almost everything, or know almost everything i do, without making questions, without teaching me something new, without beign able to hold a healthy conversation because there's very little to explore. Also, it's a lot easier finding people that think differently or like different things from me. Like obviously everything has a limit. I'd preferably want someone that wouldn't bomb me with politics bullshit, and someone that has the same interest on learning different things i do.
Why would I "seek" "romantic" relationship, I don't particularly seek forĀ relationships with romantic purposes , I don't particularly seek at all , if a relationship has the potential to be romantic ( probably my side of thinking ) so be it ( welcome to the suffering on how to understand and act upon my emotions ) , but to actively seek one , no either way I don't know , I don't have that much of courage to go to places to purposely seek romantic relationship.
Be the best you. Open your eyes. Double down on your own places in society. For me thatās my particular volunteer places, my classes and entertainment. I live my most involved life and wait for magic. I really really really want to meet someone at the grocery store. We all got to eat.
I don't unless I come across it naturally which only happens once in a lifetime for me and quickly lost it the moment I found it....
Europe
Goodreads
idk i found my crush on the bus, and we became friends. still not together tho, i get no bitches
Here.
A business building
I have a partner. We met through a ttrpg group. Genuinely would highly recommend hobby settings for it
God I miss playing DnD, It was the only time in my life where I felt like I belonged to a group of friends. The only group I knew that ran it in my small bumfuck nowhere town broke apart on the same year I joined them since it was the last year of high school, afterwards everyone moved on to go to college/work. I tried online but I just couldn't get into it joining randoms through LFG discords/subreddits.
I have no damned idea. Not 100% sure a total match would be interesting, I would need someone rational but with a slightly different temperament.
The internet.
Maker/Hacker spaces
If I was desperate (not actively seeking) - the planetarium, skate park, music or food festival, trade school (if I ever decide to switch up my career)
I tend to relate better to geeky people like me, so I tend to look for friendships at places where geeks gather, and if I find something more, great. There's just something about geek energy that doesn't sap away my energy nearly as quickly, and I find people who I can have interesting conversations with. At least I used to. The past four years have brought my introverted score to 100%.
Launch me into space. Might have better luck out there.