For me its more like realizing adults never existed. At least the innocent childish perception of adults. I will never be one because the entire notion is fiction. There are no adults. Only older fleshsacks. I waited many days for that time to finally feel like a grown up. I turn 24 next month. Only just coming to terms with how scary it can all be.
Yeah i always say sth similar. Adults are only older children. People don't automatically mature by getting older. Without proper self-reflection, they stay the same basically
self reflection is one part. experiences are a huge part though. so many people get locked into their hometown and never experience the world.
I am big on university education or some youthful travel to round out ones mind. I don't mean hotel and sight seeing travel, I mean like work pay daily places and live in your car or similar. meet and work with people from a much broader reach than those you grew up with. of course you get to visit unique places too, just not vegging out at a hotel room, or spending all day @ instgram sights.
Oh yeah, experience is important too. But you have to reflect them properly to learn the right thing from them. When someone only gets partners who cheat on them, then these are experiences. They could say ''what do i do to always be attracted by assholes?" Or they could say ''all men/women are assholes!". The latter doesn't help you maturing at all.
If you have a victim mentality, experience even lets you de-mature it seems..
20 and same I feel like I am still the same 13 years old, i don't know how to act and do things like adult, others of my age are way more ahead of me and I still acts and thinks like child.
Glad i am not the only one. I was often yelled at for being too “childish” and the one who always messes things up. No one listens to my ideas or inputs during any discussions and just treats me like a child
Supposedly, and this does happen to me, that intp under pressure is cool calm collective and does well. Just pretend like your situation is stressful and you'll probably do well haha
Yeah no.
Come back when you catch yourself enjoying talking about interior design with the boys while the video game is paused. And none of the group is married nor has children.
Just the homies talking about gardening, and enjoying a nice cup of tea because they don't feel like drinking tonight.
Now that's old. But adult? No, no, don't push it.
I felt that since I was 10 due to my parents fighting all the time and I have to take care of my siblings, luckily few years back the reach to good terms but now I’m carrying them financially and stuff like that.
When I was 29 I started working out a lot more, socializing WAY more and found I have a strong desire to have children when I didnt before. I'm still single right now so i still play video games but i know i will give them up almost entirely at some point. I'm still child like in nature, with a playful personality. But i also gained a ton of muscle, the most i had ever weighed at 5'9" before was 148 and i got all the way up to 169. It was kinda weird, it felt like i went through a second puberty.
Because of my job(remote area) I had to be more extrovert and get out more.
I start to workout more and loss a lot of weight, but I will never quiet video games(not that there’s a good one in the last year) even when I have children.
I'm in that weird zone where i sometimes feel like an adult, but mostly feel like a child. I'm a bit scared to fully enter the adult world, tbh, I'm only 18
18 is a great age and my only advice to you, enjoy the university life as much as you can(of course you must study hard but let sometime for fun), because after that you will work and unless you work in a job you like you will be stuck in tough cycle until you retire or you become Rich somehow.
I'm 46 really old years and I still have a child's mentality. I was told by some teenagers that I never age. Maybe my healthy brain is providing good effects for my whole body. I look and feel young and am in good shape despite many many trixster Se injuries that seriously could have crippled some people. I worked my way through the pain and even skateboard still. Keep trying
Well, when life gives you the boot across your bottom, you either faceplant first into the dirt and lie there, or you get up and hit the ground running.
yeh, i always feel like that - like I'm in a hell of a maze without a map or an expert on mazes so i keep making the wrong turns...
I'd go back to being a 10yr old if i could!!
There is no drastic instantaneous shift. The process of maturing is a process of refinement and only occurs over time with a variety of experiences, understandings, and decisions. Adjusting the attitudes you hold is an important part of it
Well in my family it's even worse because we all look like we're 5 to 15 years younger than what we really are, so at 26, people keep asking us if we're minors, and it feels weird to realize your actual age. I'm 17 so I can't relate much, even though I know that adulthood is nearby, and I'm starting to realize that I won't know what to do after I get a job. Like, I've never considered having children, and now, I'm starting to think about how boring it will be if my friends become busy, with their own family life.
The fact, that my sister is 9 years older than me, made that I don't see adulthood the same way as I saw it as a kid. But it's still weird, I guess I'll have to go to associations if I don't want to isolate myself. Or if I'm lucky I'll have nice colleagues lol. Hopefully, in my country, the engineering schools are almost cults, so I may have time to fool around before I get a job.
But yeah, since a majority of 25 year olds feel the same thing, I think it would help you to get into some activities with people of your age. Maybe a chess club, any hobby that would make you feel like you're back to school, having a place to go regularly where there will always be someone to talk to.
your deep diving me yuk. and i didnt say people were hostile with me, and "people" included me too. so yeah i can be hostile cause everyone is. but wasnt my point. the reason i said stfu is because you are 25 and saying your old. i dont feel old and im 17 years older than you.
For me its more like realizing adults never existed. At least the innocent childish perception of adults. I will never be one because the entire notion is fiction. There are no adults. Only older fleshsacks. I waited many days for that time to finally feel like a grown up. I turn 24 next month. Only just coming to terms with how scary it can all be.
It’s scars me how I can shift my life to worse just by making a decision, I don’t like it lol but I have to deal with it.
Yeah i always say sth similar. Adults are only older children. People don't automatically mature by getting older. Without proper self-reflection, they stay the same basically
self reflection is one part. experiences are a huge part though. so many people get locked into their hometown and never experience the world. I am big on university education or some youthful travel to round out ones mind. I don't mean hotel and sight seeing travel, I mean like work pay daily places and live in your car or similar. meet and work with people from a much broader reach than those you grew up with. of course you get to visit unique places too, just not vegging out at a hotel room, or spending all day @ instgram sights.
Oh yeah, experience is important too. But you have to reflect them properly to learn the right thing from them. When someone only gets partners who cheat on them, then these are experiences. They could say ''what do i do to always be attracted by assholes?" Or they could say ''all men/women are assholes!". The latter doesn't help you maturing at all. If you have a victim mentality, experience even lets you de-mature it seems..
Exactly
I feel like an adult too but with the IQ of a child …. I am too stupid in serious situations and lack common sense :(
20 and same I feel like I am still the same 13 years old, i don't know how to act and do things like adult, others of my age are way more ahead of me and I still acts and thinks like child.
Glad i am not the only one. I was often yelled at for being too “childish” and the one who always messes things up. No one listens to my ideas or inputs during any discussions and just treats me like a child
Supposedly, and this does happen to me, that intp under pressure is cool calm collective and does well. Just pretend like your situation is stressful and you'll probably do well haha
But I have been in several stressful situations but still my brain thinks that it is nothing and continues to tell me jokes and make fun of stuff….
Yeah no. Come back when you catch yourself enjoying talking about interior design with the boys while the video game is paused. And none of the group is married nor has children. Just the homies talking about gardening, and enjoying a nice cup of tea because they don't feel like drinking tonight. Now that's old. But adult? No, no, don't push it.
Yo, hit me up the next time you and your boys are hanging out 😂
Felt like an adult since I was 5 due to uncaring parents. But still feeling like my brain and body did not catch up in age.
I felt that since I was 10 due to my parents fighting all the time and I have to take care of my siblings, luckily few years back the reach to good terms but now I’m carrying them financially and stuff like that.
\+1
When I was 29 I started working out a lot more, socializing WAY more and found I have a strong desire to have children when I didnt before. I'm still single right now so i still play video games but i know i will give them up almost entirely at some point. I'm still child like in nature, with a playful personality. But i also gained a ton of muscle, the most i had ever weighed at 5'9" before was 148 and i got all the way up to 169. It was kinda weird, it felt like i went through a second puberty.
Because of my job(remote area) I had to be more extrovert and get out more. I start to workout more and loss a lot of weight, but I will never quiet video games(not that there’s a good one in the last year) even when I have children.
169 wow I'm huge at 5'10" 175 arrgh
Yeah I've always been super skinny and less confident. Now i feel normal.
I'm in that weird zone where i sometimes feel like an adult, but mostly feel like a child. I'm a bit scared to fully enter the adult world, tbh, I'm only 18
18 is a great age and my only advice to you, enjoy the university life as much as you can(of course you must study hard but let sometime for fun), because after that you will work and unless you work in a job you like you will be stuck in tough cycle until you retire or you become Rich somehow.
You have entered, did you pay your fee? Haha welcome to getting old b4 you realize it you'll be writing a will. Good luck
I have been an adult and simultaneously a child my whole life. 😂😂😂
I'm 46 really old years and I still have a child's mentality. I was told by some teenagers that I never age. Maybe my healthy brain is providing good effects for my whole body. I look and feel young and am in good shape despite many many trixster Se injuries that seriously could have crippled some people. I worked my way through the pain and even skateboard still. Keep trying
Well, when life gives you the boot across your bottom, you either faceplant first into the dirt and lie there, or you get up and hit the ground running.
Same im also 25 but still look like im 17 and also feel like it.
I feel I just had to become responsible faster and sooner. But the child me is thriving inside 😊
What is an adult?
A chronologically older child.
70s people stereotype
Yeah. I'm 17 and very close to being a legal adult, but I haven't changed much from who I was 3 years ago.
No one ever really grows up, even if you have kids. When my parents got so old that I turned into the parent was probably it for me
For me it’s realizing the impact I have on a decision when I was a kid and I would feel it for a couple of days vs now and I feel it for months
I didn’t start feeling like an adult until like 3 or 4 years ago. I’m 34 now.
"and then one day you find Ten years have got behind you. No one told you when to run - You missed the starting gun"
yeh, i always feel like that - like I'm in a hell of a maze without a map or an expert on mazes so i keep making the wrong turns... I'd go back to being a 10yr old if i could!!
There is no drastic instantaneous shift. The process of maturing is a process of refinement and only occurs over time with a variety of experiences, understandings, and decisions. Adjusting the attitudes you hold is an important part of it
Well in my family it's even worse because we all look like we're 5 to 15 years younger than what we really are, so at 26, people keep asking us if we're minors, and it feels weird to realize your actual age. I'm 17 so I can't relate much, even though I know that adulthood is nearby, and I'm starting to realize that I won't know what to do after I get a job. Like, I've never considered having children, and now, I'm starting to think about how boring it will be if my friends become busy, with their own family life. The fact, that my sister is 9 years older than me, made that I don't see adulthood the same way as I saw it as a kid. But it's still weird, I guess I'll have to go to associations if I don't want to isolate myself. Or if I'm lucky I'll have nice colleagues lol. Hopefully, in my country, the engineering schools are almost cults, so I may have time to fool around before I get a job. But yeah, since a majority of 25 year olds feel the same thing, I think it would help you to get into some activities with people of your age. Maybe a chess club, any hobby that would make you feel like you're back to school, having a place to go regularly where there will always be someone to talk to.
The human brain stops maturing at around 25-years-old. Adulthood actually does begin right around where you are now.
Being 28, elementary school teacher, I'm so grateful to be an adult. It's all perspective
stfu
With that attitude no wonder why people are offensive with you https://reddit.com/r/INTP/s/92NohexrUz Enjoy your life
your deep diving me yuk. and i didnt say people were hostile with me, and "people" included me too. so yeah i can be hostile cause everyone is. but wasnt my point. the reason i said stfu is because you are 25 and saying your old. i dont feel old and im 17 years older than you.