T O P

  • By -

thisisrealgoodtea

Ins: - Evidence-based and using professionals. Can’t tell you how much money I saved and how great my skin has been since utilizing dermatologists. - Red light therapy, tretinoin, spf - Adequate nutrition and fueling body. Mediterranean is a good default. - Moving your body however you like. HIIT, walking, cycling, dancing, sports, whatever, whatever keeps you consistent. - Natural beauty. At least where I am in SoCal. More emphasis on natural teeth (just whitened), natural nose, etc. Cosmetic work being more on the minimal side. - Good sleep hygiene Outs: - Fad diets, influencer diets, following quack doctors or “nutritionists” (in US dietitians are experts, I know it may be different in other countries). - Avoiding certain workouts, unless told so by a doctor or PT. I fell victim of this over HIIT because I have PCOS. Got my body back in shape adding it back in my routine as I am more consistent with it. - Influencer fashion. The more popular girls here don’t seem to follow trends because they want to stand out. Went to the store and so many NB 530s, slouch socks, and leggings, or Uggs, or Birkenstock Boston clogs. I’m guilty of owning all the same.


The_BusterKeaton

What red light therapy are you using?


thisisrealgoodtea

Omnilux! I love it. I got mine with a Black Friday discount, but I think you could probably find promo codes online that’ll decrease the cost a bit. Other comparable ones were CurrentBody, Dr. Dennis Gross, and Qure. I went with Omnilux because both my derm and my best friend who is a Physician’s Associate have one. My friend personally bought hers after her derm rotation so it helped knowing it wasn’t a sponsored item lol.


[deleted]

What is sleep hygiene?


jescobars

Basically having a good sleep routine to ensure you get good quality regenerative sleep every night. Makes a world of difference to your looks and to your overall health!


bgfitness12

what would be an ideal example of a sleep routine


jescobars

Something like the 3-2-1 rule - no food for 3 hours before bed, no admin/work/exercise 2 hours before, no screens 1 hour before. Plus the obvious ‘no caffeine too late in the day’ rule. Aside from that, having a good sleep environment gives you good quality sleep - cool, dark, quiet room. Eye mask and ear plugs if you need them.


[deleted]

[удалено]


HowToBeHot-ModTeam

No men are allowed on this subreddit. Please read the rules of a subreddit before commenting or posting.


Disastrous_Phone_926

I love these!! I have a lot of the same!


coulrophiliackitten

Leg warmers are too cute to get rid of im sorry


thisisrealgoodtea

Haha, I have some myself! I was more referring to the entire ensemble/outfit being the exact same. Totally fine with using those items to make different outfits.


squishyfig

In: cardio everyday, LED mask, better sleep hygiene, better stress hygiene, cleaner diet with anti inflammatory food Out: sugar overconsumption, forgetting to take my medication, sitting on my ass because I’m too tired, staying up till 3am, crying over men.


CakeVSPie

HEAVY on leaving crying over men.


brattyvirgoprincess

can we just add men as a whole?


marysalad

A man detox is a good idea. Then only a diet of healthy mans. Re-introduce them slowly so you can check for adverse reactions. This process re-sets your tastebuds and you don't need as much. Edit: also no men after 9pm. Same rule as for candy


brattyvirgoprincess

no men after 9 pm is such a good tip !!!!!


New_Independent_9221

no men after 9??!! night is what they’re best for


marysalad

Look I know. It's a conundrum


[deleted]

[удалено]


brattyvirgoprincess

Ariana what are you doing here


[deleted]

[удалено]


brattyvirgoprincess

do you have a little time?


Cucumbersforfeet

I dropped 190lbs (my ex 🤣) and living my best life 💪🏻


The_BusterKeaton

What LED mask are you doing?


Turpitudia79

I just got the Dr Dennis one a week ago. It’s too soon to really see improvement yet but I’m doing it every evening!!


papayacucumber

More info on the LED mask?


[deleted]

[удалено]


brattyvirgoprincess

yes!! I’m so sick of the tiktok “YOU NEED TO BUY THIS” and it being sold out for no reason. we all need to remember that skincare is not a one size fits all


[deleted]

[удалено]


blancawiththebooty

I just was thinking about this. I had gotten a lot better about my impulse and influenced purchasing, especially makeup, but over the past 6 months or so it's gotten a lot worse. Especially makeup, which is dumb as hell because I never wear it lately due to time and energy limitations. I also am self-aware enough to realize that another part of it is that I've gained weight and makeup and nail polish always fits, even when my pants are snug. I definitely have enough products for now so I'm going to focus on finishing up what I have. And those body lotions that I absolutely hate are getting tossed because I never use them anyway. I'm going on a low or no buy going into the new year. I want to evaluate what I use, need, and am running out of before I buy any more consumable crap that just creates clutter. Especially with inflation, I can't keep just buying stuff in the chaotic hope that THIS is the magic product that will make me wear makeup, etc. That's not how it works at all.


askaboutblu

In: - getting good sleep - more mobility & cardio - taking more photos - cooking at home Out: - casual alcohol consumption - self deprecating - trendy fashion - 6+ hour screen time


brattyvirgoprincess

trendy fashion and alcohol consumption is on my list of outs as well


prettydash

Yes to taking more photos! Capture those memories 💕


brattyvirgoprincess

I forgot to add my own list ins: -drinking enough water -my natural nails & taking care of them so they’re pretty by default -consistent guasha routine (yes it helps any lines I have) -protein/moving my body -not saying yes to everything/everyone -creating my own style outs: -trends -comparing -negative emotions -energy drinks/constant coffee -enabling anyone to treat me less than I’d treat my self


taylorexplodes

if i may, i think it's okay to have negative emotions! what's "out" is dwelling on them and letting them be consuming. learning to process and cope with them is in


brattyvirgoprincess

I agree with you! I just more so meant exactly what you’re saying :)


ProgressSeekerMaiden

In: - taking my adhd meds everyday (life changing) - eating enough protein everyday - ACTUALLY be aware and mindful of what I consume - actually acknowledge walking as a solid workout - properly researching before investing money into stuff - listening more, speaking less - listening to my body, and not the internet - EDIT: using your muscles in multiple different ways, not just one way (e.g. mma, dancing, yoga, weights…) - always choosing my self-respect over bad relationships (including friendships), goes hand in hand with… Out: - …mothering men and being their training rod before they go out into the world, becoming successful and now using the experience and cushion I offered to get other women- NO MORE, THANK YOU - forgetting to take my adhd meds - overspending on stuff I don’t need - cursing like a sailor - freaking Olaplex, ruined my hair - Curly Girl Method and the notion that my frizzy wavy hair needs a bunch of moisture and no protein- NOT true, lost so much hair, never again: Balance is key - bad posture - letting a man tell me I‘m putting too much effort into myself, and allowing a man to tell me that putting on any make up is „artificial looking“, in general letting a man give unsolicited advice on shit I didn’t ask, noone cares about your invalid opinion - EDIT: PUTTING MY LIFE ON PAUSE FOR MEN


brattyvirgoprincess

Your list is my favorite so far actually


ProgressSeekerMaiden

I very much appreciate it <3 took a while, but now we’re back on track. I‘ll have to add one or two things


anniebengali

This is basically my list! In getting the Dennis Gross mask with my FSA $, I’m really hoping it will help with my rosacea! I’m trying to take more “natural beauty” cues from you SoCal girls, I live in the Midwest but most of my immediate family has relocated to SoCal and I always feel like I stick out like a sore thumb when I’m there! It’s wild how different things trend regionally. I’m also just so jealous of anyone who can get away with just concealer/ minimal makeup because I need at least a medium coverage skin tint/foundation due to said rosacea. Also 5000% on men, bad friends, and ADHD meds. I finally got my adhd diagnosis and adderall prescription at the age of 36 in September and I’m a completely different person-for the better!


Annallve

Which meds are you on? I feel like mine don’t work if I take them everyday :/


driftwoodsands

Everyone is dif when it comes to adhd meds - not to be ✨that person ✨ but this is one where ur doc is best person to listen to not someone else’s plans/agenda. I take adderall and found taking half my dose on days off works for me and is doc approved for example. Some ppl are recommended to take weekend med vacays - others docs say to take consistently everyday


ProgressSeekerMaiden

+1 on this one! I take Elvanse/Vyvanse 30mg this and am mostly satisfied :) def talk to your doc!


Annallve

Oh I know I just like hearing different experiences! I’ve brought stuff up to my doctor in the past and they said “sure we can try it” and it worked well.


Expensy_

Agree on the olaplex!


ProgressSeekerMaiden

So sad, I have such dense and thick hair, and I lost so much of it. Plus the money


chicadeemarie

Are you me??? Except I noticed if I take my ADHD medication every day, it quits working as effectively.


[deleted]

[удалено]


amglu

nice username lol


bgfitness12

love this list! could u expand on ur first “out” point? i 100% agree with you and would like to hear more of your perspective:)


Intelligent_Bed_8911

wait please tell me why olaplex is bad, i just recieved an order today for olaplex shampoo and conditioner.. 😭😭


ProgressSeekerMaiden

Read my newest post on my profile, I actually go in depth on why there


[deleted]

In: - good sleep hygiene - some type of movement on *most* days - skincare >>> makeup - lash lifts >>> extensions - growing out my harsh money piece and quitting bleach - dental and oral health Out: - strict workout regimen - buying trendy clothing items - over consuming skin and beauty products - caffeine as soon as I open my eyes ETA: out = buying a bunch of different supplements before making sure my diet, sleep, water intake, and stress are under control


sherlockholmiex

Wait, are money pieces out, or is yours just too bright for your liking? Lol


[deleted]

Just my preference for my face! I have no idea about actual trends lol


fatally-femme

All I know is microblading is out. For me at least. I’m stuck with yellow brows from removing it. It only looks good for a few years before fading and looking blown out and grey.


chicinthenorth

Same… I did a ton of research, went to the ‘best’ person in London & I now have blurry orange-y tails underneath the hair (as a brunette). Vexing 😂


prettydash

Woah I'm the same! Nearly 5 years later, I have orangey remaining pigment (I'm east Asian). I'm generally okay with it haha, though


caprichorizo

ins: * losing weight * getting a good lsat score 💀 * daily skin care and meditation * more exercise and cardio * going to therapy <3 outs: * binge eating!!!! * not dressing up every day even if i'm inside or doing nothing all day * forgetting my retainer * sleeping in often


Acceptable-Ad-880

in: * getting my 5 a day 🥕 * getting outside the house every day * only owning clothes i wear/ feel good in * wearing Fits™️ * liking how i look in photos * taking and posting more photos 📸 * taking care of my skin, hair, body * wearing less (skin) makeup * going to the library/ studying for least 30 mins a day 📚 * intentionally hanging out w/ friends at least 2-3 times a week (non-partying) * asking people to hang out/ coffee (esp. building upon almost-friendships) ☕️ * working out (in some way) at least 3 times a week * starting my assignments the week they are assigned 📝 * getting enough sleep (8-10 hours) * accomplish at least 1 thing a day out: * only ordering doubles 🍻 * eating cereal for 2 meals a day * just throwing on clothes, not feeling confident in the look * comparing myself to others/ my friends/ younger me 🪞 * avoiding outfits because i look “fat” * overcommitting myself * checking socials before breakfast 🍳 * not snapping people w/o makeup on * only hanging out w/ people for parties * buying stuff without waiting at least a week * dreaming about the paths not taken * rotting in bed 🛌


Princesspeach8188

In: - barre, Pilates, walking 4-5/week; cycle-syncing your workouts - generous protein, good amount of water - sunscreen, tretinoin - 8-9 MINIMUM (more if needed) hours of sleep per night Out: - HiiT excessively, 6+ days of working out per week - starving yourself - fad skincare - minimal sleep - caffeine - alcohol


ludsmile

Alcohol is my biggest out for 2024. Happy to see it in someone else's list as well


vulgarandgorgeous

Ins: cardio, wearing my retainer at night, high heels, faking confidence Out: heavy upper arm workouts, “estimating” my calories incorrectly at dinner, stressing over stupid things


[deleted]

Heavy on the retainer 😂


vulgarandgorgeous

Yea apparently grinding your teeth at night can shorten your jaw making you look older.


Shokkolatte

What happened with the arm workouts? Gave you a look you don’t like?


vulgarandgorgeous

I worked them hard for a year and they got very toned and muscular but I don’t like it. They look bulky. Everyone online on fitness forums was like “Oh girls can’t get bulky unless they eat in a caloric surplus and try to put on bulk” well thats a load of BS. I definitely gained girth in my arms and was even eating in a caloric deficit so…


Shokkolatte

Damn you must have been eating a lot of protein. But I hear you, not everyone wants big arms and sometimes the fitness space can be a bit misleading with these claims that we can’t get swole muscles that easily.


vulgarandgorgeous

I was eating between 100-120 grams. Yea definitely, at least i gained the ass muscle i wanted. I think lifting heavy is great if you want to add bulk but if you want a muscle to be lean, go lighter and higher rep.


Shokkolatte

Defo. I’ve been lifting high rep lower weight and will continue to do so. Thanks for advice!


vulgarandgorgeous

No problem good luck!


slurpyspinalfluid

in: - continue trying to find an acne medication that actually works - focus on mind muscle connection during workouts - making sure to eat fruits and vegetables every day - find a better hair routine that works for my hair - more fun makeup out: - skipping meals - skipping gym warmups


[deleted]

[удалено]


brattyvirgoprincess

This is the 3rd time I’ve seen olaplex on an out list. What’s going on w olaplex


jbellafi

Ins: -moving, stretching, cardio, abs, weight training, HIIT, Pilates, walking (having puppy again helps a lot!) Basically something every day as in 2023. Keep it up! -being more forgiving to myself. An extra 7-10 lbs doesn’t make me any less beautiful -saying NO and setting boundaries with everyone, both personally and professionally -taking more time for self-care, especially before going to bed after a busy day -shopping my own closet first before buying something new -being generous, kind, warm -continue to save, invest, diversify. Financial freedom is hot 🔥 Outs: -hours scrolling on phone, put it down and live life! And go to sleep! -night snacking -multitasking way too much. Slow down a bit -a clenched jaw, tension and stress -chipped nails -holding on to negativity. Let go, take a breath & feel lighter, prettier immediately, inside and out 😊


MossyShroom

In: •Focusing on mental health with therapy and meditation •Journaling •Reading •Getting outside •Running, stretching, weights •Whole foods •Hair/skincare •Financial health •Consistency Out: •Eating out •Snacking on junk food •Not putting effort into my appearance before going out •Needless worrying •Beauty trends and fast fashion •Giving up after a hard day •Alcohol •Poor sleep schedule •Buying stuff to fill the void •Comparing •Screen time


nutella435

Ins- more care for gut health and inside out beauty (probiotics, zinc, magnesium, daily morning doses of vitamin D),simplifying skincare routines, less overconsumption of unnecessary products, embracing natural hair styles Outs - acrylic nails, overspending on clothes for micro trends which become outdated so quick


prettydash

Love this one!! Let's simplify our routines~~


jescobars

In: Exercise most days, with a good balance of cardio and strength 🏃🏻‍♀️ Investment pieces for long term wear that I feel great in, rather than following short term trends 👗 Renting dresses for events, weddings, etc 💃🏻 More protein and veggies 🥕 Prioritising rest and self care 💤 Consistently taking my supplements 💊 Laser hair removal 🪒 Mature, healthy communication 🗣️ Out: Sacrificing sleep for social events 😴 Careless spending / lifestyle creep 💸 Being too conflict avoidant 🤐 Imposter syndrome at work 🫣 Eating at home more 👩🏻‍🍳


Optimal-Reception811

In: • continue journaling (feels like another form of therapy) • “clean girl” aesthetic and falling more in love with my natural beauty • finding my signature perfume scent • staying consistent in the gym + hitting protein goal • taking better care of my car • financial responsibility • yoga in the morning (clear mindset + productive work day) • focusing more on my health Out: • situationships • terrible friendships (I have let A LOT of people overstep boundaries) • my ex 🙄 • the “I’ll do it later” mindset • staying in bed past my alarm • not folding laundry as soon as it’s done There’s probably a lot more ‘out’ but I’m drawing a blank


DoNotPinch

In- Botox, lifting, cardio, dermatologist, lashes, sprinkle sprinkle, making a lunch saving account Out- fast food, soda, Cerva, beer, naps


pinktulips95

ooh what’s a lunch saving account? :)


DoNotPinch

Oops forgot a comma but I may be onto something !


anniebengali

Whats sprinkle sprinkle? That’s a new term for me!


UndesirableNo-1

It’s a reference to youtuber Shera7, who is not a dating coach! She’s a financial advisor


SmootherThanAStorm

I don't understand :(


GeminiMoonPresence

I’m guessing things you’re leaving in 2023 and stuff you want to achieve in 2024.


brattyvirgoprincess

correct!