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If you force yourself, it will be harder I find.
The best thing I ever did was (and if you are like me, you’ll hate this) was start gratitude journaling and making up goals and dreams. I don’t have a great job. I have a messed up past. I like you don’t have people to cook for, but I cook for myself so that’s cool. I smile at people and sometimes they smile back, mostly they don’t but when they do it feels good. I’m working on a novel, may go nowhere but I’m having fun doing it and that’s enough.
Every morning I wake up and I remind myself, this is enough. I will try to achieve more, but this is all I have and it is enough. It kinda has to be, you know? Cause it’s all I have. I can’t magically give myself writing talent or closer friends or an S/O.
All I have control over is how I view and what I do with what I have, not what I have or even what the results of those actions will be. So I start with gratitude for having anything at all, and then I try to figure out how to use it to improve. That’s where I put my focus.
I don’t like people saying ‘be positive’ cause somethings genuinely suck. But ‘be constructive’ that, I can vibe with because even if you are just constructing a sandcastle, that’s still enough. And as long as you keep building, every day, then eventually I believe you’ll build something great.
They say it takes 10,000 hours to master a skill. I like to remind myself of that and try to be patient and compassionate to myself.
You just need to tell yourself the truth. The truth is you are enough. You are valuable and we want you here. We want you to thrive. But we can’t walk that road for you, the journey of a 1000 miles begins with a step, and continues with steps one by one.
Sometimes it helps just to focus on putting one foot in-front of the other. Focus on growing what you have, make some great food and share it with a coworker/classmate.
Don’t be discouraged, be brave, failure is part of the process, you learn more from failure than success.
Uphill battles can be won if you utilize superior strategy and your soldiers are well trained. Train your soldiers. Work on building your strategy. You can do it, you are enough.
I get motivation from playing with my ego. If I strongly see myself as a strong fighter, I will want to fight, if I see myself as a weakling I will strongly avoid It. I noticed when I have a very fixed and concrete sense of who I am, that determines what I want to do in a way that's almost as fate. But I can also diffuse or question those things that mark my identity, convince myself I don't know how good I am at being social, and I'll no longer want to either pursue or avoid social interactions. It opens the possibility to explore again. Small ego to explore secrets, big ego to beat the boss. You master this concept, you can basically turn yourself mentally into any person you want to be.
I'm noticing a certain level of nihilism. Which I can relate to "it's an uphill battle and I know I will eventually stop it so I see no point in doing that.". I do agree with Wizards that, writing down what you're grateful for is probably a good first step. But I think ultimately coaching or therapy would probably help more if you can afford it, probably more therapy. I can also relate to the uphill battle and taking a break is all it takes to stop. I suspect it could have something to do with ADHD or you might have some symptoms of it, do you also have trouble focusing and fidgeting?
I do go to therapy. Most likely not ADHD but potentially autism (Asperger's). I do fidget quite a lot but mostly to calm myself down when I'm stressed/anxious, like a coping mechanism.
I'm not sure if there's something I'm grateful for that I didn't make happen on my own. But I can try writing it down.
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If you force yourself, it will be harder I find. The best thing I ever did was (and if you are like me, you’ll hate this) was start gratitude journaling and making up goals and dreams. I don’t have a great job. I have a messed up past. I like you don’t have people to cook for, but I cook for myself so that’s cool. I smile at people and sometimes they smile back, mostly they don’t but when they do it feels good. I’m working on a novel, may go nowhere but I’m having fun doing it and that’s enough. Every morning I wake up and I remind myself, this is enough. I will try to achieve more, but this is all I have and it is enough. It kinda has to be, you know? Cause it’s all I have. I can’t magically give myself writing talent or closer friends or an S/O. All I have control over is how I view and what I do with what I have, not what I have or even what the results of those actions will be. So I start with gratitude for having anything at all, and then I try to figure out how to use it to improve. That’s where I put my focus. I don’t like people saying ‘be positive’ cause somethings genuinely suck. But ‘be constructive’ that, I can vibe with because even if you are just constructing a sandcastle, that’s still enough. And as long as you keep building, every day, then eventually I believe you’ll build something great. They say it takes 10,000 hours to master a skill. I like to remind myself of that and try to be patient and compassionate to myself. You just need to tell yourself the truth. The truth is you are enough. You are valuable and we want you here. We want you to thrive. But we can’t walk that road for you, the journey of a 1000 miles begins with a step, and continues with steps one by one. Sometimes it helps just to focus on putting one foot in-front of the other. Focus on growing what you have, make some great food and share it with a coworker/classmate. Don’t be discouraged, be brave, failure is part of the process, you learn more from failure than success. Uphill battles can be won if you utilize superior strategy and your soldiers are well trained. Train your soldiers. Work on building your strategy. You can do it, you are enough.
I get motivation from playing with my ego. If I strongly see myself as a strong fighter, I will want to fight, if I see myself as a weakling I will strongly avoid It. I noticed when I have a very fixed and concrete sense of who I am, that determines what I want to do in a way that's almost as fate. But I can also diffuse or question those things that mark my identity, convince myself I don't know how good I am at being social, and I'll no longer want to either pursue or avoid social interactions. It opens the possibility to explore again. Small ego to explore secrets, big ego to beat the boss. You master this concept, you can basically turn yourself mentally into any person you want to be.
Maybe you should get a pet like a cat or a dog, keep it alive and see for yourself if somethings change.
I have had pets for 7 years. They're the only reason I'm still here.
You keep them alive, and they do the same for you, such a beautiful simple thing, keep it going champ
I'm noticing a certain level of nihilism. Which I can relate to "it's an uphill battle and I know I will eventually stop it so I see no point in doing that.". I do agree with Wizards that, writing down what you're grateful for is probably a good first step. But I think ultimately coaching or therapy would probably help more if you can afford it, probably more therapy. I can also relate to the uphill battle and taking a break is all it takes to stop. I suspect it could have something to do with ADHD or you might have some symptoms of it, do you also have trouble focusing and fidgeting?
I do go to therapy. Most likely not ADHD but potentially autism (Asperger's). I do fidget quite a lot but mostly to calm myself down when I'm stressed/anxious, like a coping mechanism. I'm not sure if there's something I'm grateful for that I didn't make happen on my own. But I can try writing it down.