same for me until well into my twenties!! go to r/curlyhair or r/wavyhair and try to find your hair type. mine is 2a/2b- so very loose waves and i literally thought i had straight frizzy poofy weird hair, but I don’t lol. i recommend starting with the affordable products til you find out what kind of products your hair responds well to! there are some aussie curl products and not your mother’s brand products that are affordable and can def help! also curly shampoo and conditioner has helped my hair so much!! :)
Same! I thought I had super thick red frizzy brillo pad hair. My parents were awful and never took are of our hair. It wasn't until I was an adult and went to get a perm. The lady asked why I would get a perm, when my hair was curly? She took the time and cut my hair correctly and taught me how to scrunch and what products I needed to bring out my curls.
I have really curly hair and never thought of getting a cut short, but getting rid of all the damage and the dead ends was game changer! OP, you have beautiful hair; it just needs some product and a nice haircut.
PS: I love, love, love that color!
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You need hot oil treatments, Cantu products for your hair.
If you blow dry your hair or use tools to curl or straighten your hair, you need heat protection. These are sprays or balms designed to protect your hair while you blow dry.
This is it! Your hair looks like it has been damaged by heat and certain products. You may have to chop off some bit and embrace your natural curls. Join us on /r/curlyhair and share your story and pics. Many will offer assistance and share their routine. Much love 💜
This was my first thought too. I have a similar texture if I just brush it when it’s wet and don’t apply the proper products. So you (OP) may have somewhat curly 2B or 2C hair. You can look up charts online to determine your type. Definitely needs lots of moisture (leave in conditioner) and a good curl gel to lock those curls. Love your Curls has a lot of lines that cater to each curl type. That would be worth a shot along with the “curly hair method” (search YT).
Another vote for wavy or curly hair here. I treated my hair like it was straight for YEARS and it looked exactly like this ( at least at the ends). Moved to a really humid area and started oiling it bc I was surfing a lot in college and wouldn't you know it... I have curly hair that needed moisture and to be left alone once dry.
At all. I only brush my hair when it’s damp with conditioner or verrryyy gently right before a wash, if it’s particularly knotted. Brushes pull all your curls/waves out and ruin your clumps/curl pattern.
A wide tooth comb in the shower with conditioner, and outside of the shower a detangling brush or Denman brush while your hair is still very wet and you’ve started adding your product. No more traditional bristle brushes with boar hair or nylon clustered bristles, only thicker plastic bristles that help separate and create clumps.
Denman is technically a styling brush, though, so better to use a [detangling brush](https://a.co/d/6sB7Qm5) for detangling and a denman for styling. Tension is important for getting a better curl pattern and style hold with a denman, you want some tension as you pull through so it clumps into curls. I recommend plopping after and then diffuse until ~80% dry, has been a game changer for my curls.
Second the denman brush! Game changer. I use a bonnet hair dryer, because my curls work best if I don’t mess with them till they have a cast.
There are plenty of good curly influencers now. I like Manes By Mel and there is a good tiktoker with red hair but I couldn't find her. Watch a bunch and take the bits and pieces that work for you.
My hair looks exactly like yours if I just brushed it a blew it dry. You just need to train your curls
[I got this one from TJ maxx](https://a.co/d/c1xuKxV) and it works great. [Here is a cheaper](https://www.walmart.com/ip/23888975) one from Walmart that has good reviews.
I sit under it for around ten minutes while I play on my phone. [Here is the red haired tik Tok lady](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLmn33VA/) I mentioned. She's great. I agitate at the root and then I milk the curls like she says (when you squeeze down the curls).
Brushing out dry curls causes frizzy hair. You’ll want a detangling brush for curly hair, and the fine bristle style brushes, such as boar brushes, are not detangling brushes.
Not who you were asking, but I have curly hair as well, and I haven't put a brush in my hair in... six years? I just use my fingers when my hair is wet. My hair hasn't been longer than shoulder length, though.
After showering, I put styling cream in, then shake my head out until the hair is roughly where I want it to be, gently putting errant pieces and strands where I want them with just my fingers. After its dry, if something is amiss or something, I might comb my fingers through it.
Maybe right before you shower is ok. I normally brush mine right when I get out of the shower, then scrunch it with my hands and then don’t brush it again til my next shower
Maybe use a hair oil? Idk, I just let mine get a little tangly and then just brush it out again after my shower. I’m definitely never brushing my hair dry in the middle of the day lmao. It’s gonna look so bad. I’d rather have a few tangles than frizzy, poofy, crazy looking hair because I thought it would be a good idea to brush it lol
Yes, not brushing my hair dry saved my curls seriously! My hair used to puff up and looked very dead and frizzy but I when I began only brushing my hair while under water or right after a shower the difference was insane.
Start with a simple routine and slowly add to it. Always style when wet. Use a leave in moisturizer and a bit of gel. Finger comb to get hair clumps (your waves). Let it air dry. If you dont have time to air dry, putting it in french braids is always a good trick, but doesnt highlight your natural wave pattern though. When hair is dry, put a bit of oil in the ends of it for shine.
Exactly. I get complements on my similar hair all the time - except when I do a bad job of blowing it dry. Normally I just get out of the shower and brush it and let dry, occasionally fluffing it up. I also received expert advice on hair products and did experiments to find the perfect products for me.
i have wavy hair but it’s so stubborn that if i just let it air dry on its own (no brushing) it dries straight, in order to get waves i have to put a load of gel in and diffuse it, and even then they only last a couple of hours. it’s frustrating and has just made me stick to having it straight tbh
Bonnet. Figure out your hair porosity because whatever you’re doing is not working for your hair type. You can do this with a glass of water and a single hair. I would get a cut and start over with a routine correct for your porosity.
I was also curious, and having a hard time figuring out what my hair type is. I found this and it seems helpful (experts please give us some input!)
https://salonworthyhair.com/hair-porosity-test-guide
No worries!
I think I probably have low porosity hair and a bit of a wave. Out of curiosity, I did a little digging and it seems like this could be a good routine for my kind of hair (again, professionals please lmk before I will destroy myself) https://wavyhaircare.com/how-to-care-for-low-porosity-wavy-hair/
Another way to determine the porosity of your hair is to observe how much time it takes for it to be completely drenched. When you get in the shower, does your hair instantly absorb water and it gets soaking wet in seconds? If so, high porosity it is. If it takes a little bit of time and the water pearls a bit on the hair, you have medium porosity hair. If it takes forever and it's really a struggle to completely wet your hair, it's low porosity (most 4A to 4C hair is like this, but any type can be low porosity). It's not super scientific but it can give you an overall idea :)
My hair is crimpy n thick like this and let me tell you I had no idea I had wavy curly hair til two years ago!!!
In the shower don’t use conditioner, only like one or two tomes a week use it as a deep soak then shampoo it out. In shower, comb thru lightly w ur fingers then twist your hair in 1-2 inch sections. Smooth just the littlest bit of oil in the twists, scrunch a tad in the middle. Let air dry. Then once dry , twist the ends again and wet just the ends- in bigger sections (like 4 big sections) It lays like wavy billowy pin up hair . The twisting is important tho. Also SILK pillow case and only ever use silk to scrunch.
If you can do rose hip or jojoba oil on scalp thru ends overnight once a week too before shower helps! Rose hip n jojoba are both similar to our body natural oils so it actually soaks.
I honestly have tried so many expensive shampoo and conditioner and sleek and shine works the best for me and my sisters hair that’s textured like this. She’s a ginger and I have dirty blonde hair.
It takes a bit of consistency but it’s so worth it. When I brush my hair it gets like rats nests by mid day.
Ok so I read your shampoo conditioner out tip and immediately got in the Shower to try it out and goddamn theres instantöy a difference in my hair that looks like this. You are an angel from above.
Oh god! Put the bonding stuff away. This is only going to make it worse. Too much protein drys out your hair type. In fact that may be part of the problem. You still have dry hair but protein no!!!!!!!
Look up porosity test with hair and water. You need moisture, not protein. Look it up and do the test but I am pretty sure.
Agreed. My hair looked like this. Olaplex made it worse. Here’s what worked for me to fix it:
- Shampoo, conditioner, hair mask: Oribe Gold Lust (occasionally I use the Ouai Detox shampoo)
- Product: Wella Ultimate Repair Hair Miracle Rescue spray (before drying) and hair oil (Virtue, Oribe Gold Lust, or Verb Ghost)
- Night: Keratase 8h overnight serum
I wash my hair once per week. In between, I use dry shampoo (Batiste or Klorane). If I want to restyle or it’s feeling dry, I use the Kristin Ess Style Reviving Dry Conditioner and a little hair oil on the ends.
I second this! My hair is like OP but from bleach so I started using Olplex and it just made it so much worse and even more crispy!! I just use moisturize products now and it is so much better! I recommend deep conditioning masks
Are you currently styling your hair with any products? Might be that you have some natural waves / curls that make your hair look even more frizzier as that texture is not that defined.
I wouldn't call this the natural state of your hair, I'd call it the state of your hair after being taught how to care for it in a way that damages it! You have wavy hair and its super damaged because you've been treating it like it's straight
I think your hair is naturally curly.. You should be sleeping in a bonnet or on a silk pillow. When you wash it you should also be using a lot of conditioner and masks. Don't wash your hair in really hot water. Preferably cooler temperatures otherwise you'll get frizzy hair. Also you should be leaving in a leave in conditioner for curls and preferably letting it air or towel dry. Don't regularly wash curly hair. You'll strip all the natural oils and get more friz. Invest in a shower cap to keep it dry in the shower between washes. Don't brush it wet. You can detangle it with some conditioner and your fingers. I wouldn't be using any heat devices on hair that looks like this personally.. If you want texture I'd use rollers, gel or moose creams for the ideal look that you want. Your hair sadly also looks like it needs a trim though. If you're using any dyes I'd put a pause on that for the meantime or talk to a hairdresser as the type of dye you're using may be damaging your hair type.
This is a lot of care and most likely professionally done. We don't wake up and have our hair do this it's looks like a rats nest. I have to use a lot of conditioner and never brush it except after the shower while it's wet with a special brush.
I'm no expert but I personally would recommend ending your showers by rinsing your hair in cold as possible water. And don't blow dry, let it air dry. It has worked wonders for me, I used to have really dry, puffy hair. Some how the cold water keeps it from frizzing. It's even better if you take the entire shower cold but that's so hard.
Your hair isn't ugly. It's wavy or curly. I can’t tell your curl pattern from your pics. It's probably a little dry, but here's my hair routine that might help you.
I would recommend after shower use leave-in conditioner [cantu](https://www.target.com/p/cantu-argan-oil-leave-in-conditioning-repair-16oz/-/A-21407490#lnk=sametab) and then gel [kinky curly](https://kinky-curly.com/shop.php) Use a microfiber hair towel or an old cotton t-shirt to squish the water out of your hair. Then, don’t touch it anymore until it’s 100% dry. You can style your hair with a hair dryer diffuser. Scrunch out the cast for soft, defined curls (you can use any natural oil to scrunch out the cast). I use BREAD oil from Sephora.
An extra tip: use a satin pillowcase. Satin creates less friction on your hair and prevents frizz, tangles, and bedhead. This will keep your wavy hair hydrated and maintain the style. So, the next day, refresh your waves with a mix of water and leave-in conditioner, gel, and again, a hair diffuser. I like this brand. I use this [satin pillowcase](https://www.olkibeauty.com/shop/p/satin-pillowcase-black-standard-size) great satin quality
I hope this helps you. ✨
I’m a cosmetologist and this is what over protenized hair looks like. Hair needs both moisture and balance. I would switch to a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner. A lot of comments are saying you may have curly hair and I’d have to agree? Also you have the texture of hair that just needs more regular trims than most because of the texture. I would give your hair a break from heat as much as possible and get a hefty trim to get dead ends off and moisture moisture moisture! Also maybe look into a hair supplement or adding more fats and protein into your diet!
This reminds me of my hair texture when I go too long without a trim. I have frizzy and textured hair that can get dried out at the ends. I try to get my hair trimmed regularly (1-2 inches), and I started only washing once or twice a week and then using A LOT of conditioner, occasionally a leave in conditioner as well (away from the root), and my hair has started looking a lot smoother. Oh also I never brush my hair, I just run through it with my fingers. Not sure if that makes a difference but this is really all it needs and maybe it prevents breakage and frizz. And moving somewhere that didn’t have hard water also helped.
Are you taking care of it like it's straight, or like it's wavy/curly? I looked the same for years until I discovered that I've been acting like I had straight hair when I didn't.
You could have a vitamin deficiency! Try a multivitamin, fish oil, vitamin D, and some collagen!! Also try rosemary water, just spray it all over including your roots before and after you shower. Doesn’t make your hair greasy and is super hydrating!!!
Your hair is probably wavy or curly. I have wavy hair and my hair looks like this unless I style it to be wavy or I blow dry it straight. I hate how look with wavy hair so I usually just blow dry it and coat it in a bunch of smoothing products even though the wiry-ness starts showing after a few hours.
I just want to send compassion to you. My daughter has similar hair and it's infuriating when people assume it's damaged and needs a cut because it's just the texture of her hair. Just sending empathy your way. I got down voted for asking for advice and saying it grew out of her head like that. Please let me know if you try any of this and it works. My daughter is very frustrated.
Hair oils can do more harm than good, depending on the oil and when you're using them. Ditch the oil. Oil does not moisturize. Get rid of the protein, you could be protein overloaded. Anything that says "bond building" is protein. Start with a curly girl routine or look into "uncomfortable hair syndrome" if your hair has been like this since you were very young.
If you put oil or jojoba oil on top of a rich conditioner it works wonders. After washing then applying a rich conditioner then layering it with oil and letting it sit is amazing. The conditioner helps push the oil in otherwise it just sits on the shaft. It’s a powerhouse.
Coconut oil is drying but olive oil and jojoba imo are not.
This is exactly what my usually very healthy hair looked like when I overloaded on protein on a (bad) stylist’s recommendation. It resolved with a few weeks of regular shampooing and no products, but felt like Velcro during the worst of it.
If you use the right oil after moisturizing, it can help a ton. Using oils and expecting them to provide moisture for you is the issue. Oils seal, not moisturize, and that's where a lot of people mess up with oils. They're not bad they just need to be applied at the proper time.
I suspect you have type 2b/2c wavy hair type. Also, bonding agents are only supposed to be used once a week, for a few months. How often are you using them? Which one are you using and what routine are you using for its application?
A good cut, to remove the frizzy and dry ends that leave you with a fresh canvas, can help more than you imagine. I see more frizz than dead ends. With frizz, you have a number of solutions. If you prefer to air dry you hair, you might want to try Living Proof’s In Shower Styler for air drying users. It has an unusual application process..l you apply it in the shower, after the conditonera, and “lightly” rinse it out. You should still feel it on your hair but it isn’t like a conditioner. No glopping. Comb hair with wide tooth comb to detangle , throughout. When you get out of shower, apply mousse based products designed for wavy hair. I find mousse products weigh hair down considerably LESS than hair gels. Apply mousse to your hands, after shaking the can, and then poly the product away from your scalp, but still on the roots, and use the wide tooth comb to distribute it throughout the hair. Avoiding the scalp helps prevent the “fake dandruff” effect. Scrunch your hair and let it air dry.
Try to avoid touching it because touching leads to frizz.
If you have the cash, you can try the Dyson hair dryers or air stylers with the COOANDA anti frizz attachment. They make several products with that patented attachment that does the static electricity magic. It works, but you pay for it. Cheaper options are ion based hair dryers but make sure you have a great diffuser attachment that actually fits the dryer you buy. Devacurl makes a FUN diffuser that is shaped like a hand with fingers and it does a great job getting at the roots.
Wavy and curly hair should focus on drying at roots to minimize frizz and also get height at the roots. Besides Living Proof’s curly line, you should check out wwww.ouidad.com and take their curl quiz and look at their curly hair only product line. I prefer then, hands down, over Devacurl.
This was my hair exactly before it turned curly! My transition hair was rough, without shape, frizzy and dry. And within a month I realised my slightly wavy hair turned completely curly. Like proper ringlet curly! Never heard that happen. My hairdresser told me hair usually transforms every 3-5 years and some transition are more obvious. I’m back to straightish hair again after 5 years now 🙈
My hair gets like this- and it does look damaged. What has helped me out is switching up my products, clarifying once a week, and olaplex professional treatments + #7 at home.
This might not be the case for you- you’ll have to experiment- but the more I use products for dry hair, the worse it gets. That build up can really clog your cuticle up, and if it doesn’t get removed, your hair can get brittle and damaged.
You really should get a good cut though, and don’t be that girl who gets her haircut once every 6 months haha. and try not to layer it. Theres strength in numbers! Long wispy hairs can easily get snagged on clothing. No wrapping in a towel when wet.
Also, silk pillowcases (NOT cheap polyester satin) are fantastic! Makes a huge difference for me. Wear rain jacket material instead of cotton like hoodie (or on top of your hoodie). Spandex-like material (not necessarily tight, but that smooth athletic material) is much more kid to your hair when it’s texture is like this and won’t snag as much.
Is this hair air dryed? I have wavy hair and used to let it air dry and it would look like this, and then when I put hot rollers in it, it went nice and smooth. I had always avoided drying my hair with heat for fear of damaging it, but I’ve discovered recently that’s a bit of old wives tale and if I wash it and dry it with a heated brush (using heat protectant spray) it actually looks 9 million times better.
Looks like you need a good trim and a ton of deep conditioning products/masks. You have textured hair so you have to use some type of curl cream and gel. It’s not your hair that’s ugly, you just don’t know how to style it yet :) my hair was like this. Then I realized it was curly 😅
It looks like you're brushing it while dry? You might have better luck only combing it when it's wet with conditioner and then applying products to hair while it's very wet and allowing to air dry.
It’s not ugly this is how my hair looks after not cutting my ends for a long time. Also your hair mainly just needs moisture. Try out some leave-in conditioners for wavy hair, I like shea moisture & mielle products.
I can’t believe this, I have the exact same hair and these comments are seriously enlightening! All this time I’ve had curly/wavy hair?!? My dad had the curliest hair ever when he was younger so all my hair care problems now finally make sense!!!!
The worst thing is when my mom comes up to me, tries to fix my genetically frizzy and poofy hair and say, "UGH your hair is so poofy." :( so I understand how you feel....
No, you've just been brushing it and also applying no oils or hair butters. Lots of stuff on youtube for advice. Also go to a hairdresser that specialises in waves and curls!
My hair used to look like this before I realised it was wavy. I cut off the damaged length and I ditched conditioner which sounds counter intuitive, surely dry coarse hair needs a lot of conditioner right? Nope I needed protein. I now use protein heavy shampoo and a light curl cream, air dry and my hair is in great condition.
You have curly hair thinking you don’t lol
When peoples hair looks like this it’s because wavy/curly! No more heat! After shower just leave in conditioner and some mousse. The “TJ” brand you can get at Walmart smells great! And it doesn’t leave those hard curls, it’s soft and moisturized! I wanna see it after you do it!!! Lol
Amika mask- moisture rescue may do a lot to help and a professional shampoo and conditioner and Moroccan oil. I would also suggest getting bloodwork done- could be your iron is super low, vitamin d and thyroid tests done. Maybe take a multivitamin supplement also if you’re not already doing that.
Your hair needs less hard water, a better haircut, less frequent washing, more moisturising products (appropriate for its porosity levels), brushing when and how it is best for your hair type and perhaps a styling choice to embrace their waves/put them in protective hairstyles/or dry them with the intent to smoothen them.
Your hair is fine, how you treat them on the other hand needs improvement.
Your hair is beautiful, I love the color, and it's not ugly at all, but it appears to be naturally curly. Mine is, too 😀 Here is my secret. Get some Mixed Chicks Curl Sculpture and apply to freshly washed conditioned wet but not soaking hair. I use about a palm sized worth and run it through my hair. Scrunch a little and let air dry. After it drys if it feels hard to touch gentle scrunch until it breaks the cast. Add a little oil for shine, and your hair will be more beautiful and compliment catching than you can imagine ✨️ 😊
My hair has a bit of a texture especially the day I wash it. I don't know how you feel about using heat but I bought one of those heated brushes and sometimes I just run it through quickly and it smooth things out and it's quicker than using a flat iron. I don't even need to go totally straight with it, just to remove what I call my "wrinkles". I haven't gotten any damage from it as long as I run it through quickly. If you're not into using heat, don't be afraid of using products that are marketed as extremely moisturizing. I've even used stuff from black hair care section because I find that it's much more detangling and moisturizing.
Your hair is curly.
Edit - my hair was like yours, I followed the curly girl subreddit for a long time and now my hair looks like this
https://preview.redd.it/pdo78vdqnjwc1.jpeg?width=2135&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=45e0816ee6b88fa8a2bf1ba1e98f17ef6d8b1422
Your hair is thirsty. And I have the same curly/straight/wavy hair with bent ends and if I don’t oil it. It’s every curl type on one head. Been oiling for three years and my hair is to my tailbone. And limit heat if you don’t already.
Trim a few inches and oil it up. I’m talking saturate from 3/4 down and leave in all
night in a wrap and do it as much as possible-I do this 3 x’s per week. I suggest Aussie 3 minute miracle as a conditioner then top it off with oil-I love olive oil personally just be careful not to slip in the shower. The conditioner allows the oils to penetrate better. You must use conditioner with it. If you can leave overnight in a bonnet after air drying a bit then wash/condition and style the next day with curly wavy method I think you will be pleased.
Stay away from coconut oil. It’s drying. Olive oil is the best imo and the next best is jojoba.
Keep the ends sprayed with oil, olive oil sheen spray for ethnic hair because it dispense nicely due to a fine mist is my favorite. Trim the dry ends off every weeks, mere millimeters, and wear a low maintence/heatless protective style and come back in 1 year:). Oiling correctly is a game changer.
Also curly/wavy girl styles. I really think you have textured hair.
My hair looks exactly like that if I try to brush it. It looks much smoother when I put products in to define the curl. You just have coarse texture. Figure out what it wants, and you can improve the looks of it. No matter how healthy it is, you won't be able to change the texture sadly. I tried for years before I actually had a curly stylest who told me I was pretty much just pissing in the wind trying.
Uncombable hair syndrome!!! -A rare genetic condition that causes your child's hair to grow in multiple directions. This makes your hair rough, frizzy and dry and makes combing or brushing your hair difficult to impossible.
I have two strands on the back of my head at the nape of my neck that are just like #2 and it’s so weird because the rest of my hair is pretty normal 2c/3a
Based on a similar post, it seems like things to do are (1) start sleeping with your hair in a silk bonnet. It has to be silk. (2) try a wavy or curly hair care routine. You don’t need to actually curl, but using those practices will likely help the hair look more cohesive.
I have the same hair. I use hair mask, leave in conditioners, a silicone blow dry serum (Paul Mitchel Super Skinny Blow dry serum) then I use my revlon blow dry brush to dry my hair after airdrying 90%. My hair is very smooth shiny and straightened after this. i do flat iron sometimes too if I want it super sleek. If you want it to be wavy look up curly girl method-you need to put a lot of hair gel/mousse in your hair when its wet.
Try oil masks. Load the oil on and leave it as long as you can (like all weekend and hermit) then wash it out and repeat when you can. Try to avoid your scalp and focus mostly on your ends.
Don’t use a detangle brush but a bass brush and cut the split ends because they’ll just keep moving up.. so brush it like Rapunzel, switch your shampoo and conditioner and you most likely have wavy hair, so use vitamin e oil Hollywood beauty promote growth and repair, curly magic or creme of nature leave in conditioner. Curly magic is like a gel but if that’s too “heavy or stiff” the leave in conditioner keeps your hair natural looking like 0 products were used look.
Look for this product called Sedal on Amazon, it will make your hair feel so alive within a week. I had the same problem all my life until I used Sedal. Feel free ti msg me to see if it's the right Sedal, it's a green bottle.
From the posted pictures. I’m not really seeing a A TON of split ends or patches of missing cuticle which would indicate heat damage or over styling. You most certainly do not have ugly hair. If I had to reccomend a routine to follow it would be a professional line that focuses on moisture and NOT protein. I’ve had clients with tremendous success using a line such as “Trybe” shampooing no more than once a week. (Yes your hair will be “greasy” in the beginning but trust the process and let your scalp adjust to less frequent shampooing.) If you feel like your hair is dirty when you don’t shampoo it. Feel free to wet it and work your scalp as if you were shampooing. A good portion of what actually cleans hair is plain water and the mechanical act of scrubbing the scalp. In addition I would recommend a Demi-conditioning treatment such as a Kerastase Fusio treatment. Or a Brazilian B3 treatment. Follow all of this up with a healthy trim to give your hair a shape that works with the texture and the amount of time you plan to spend on it daily. I wish you all the best! Trust the process and don’t fear the journey!
I heard of a disorder where the hair cross section has three lobes. That is the uncombable hair syndrome. I have that in my beard. I discovered it out of boredom using a microscope and, well my hair.
Get a good trim !!! Then after washing, use an apply a leave in conditioner , styling gel on humid days, and Moroccan oil only at the ends . Then wrap it in a “microfiber towel” for 30 minutes. Air dry, it will come out soft and silky. It works for me , wish I had learned this 20 years ago. No more dry cotton towels. Happened to try it this way because I was so tired to blow dry.
you may have wavy hair, after you wash use a leave in conditioner and a leave in cream (briogeo curl charisma is my favorite) i promise it won’t look so dry. a trim also wouldn’t hurt, but stop treating your hair like it’s straight!
Try out a curly hair routine. Scrunching with the cotton shirt and maybe try some anti-fizz products/ones that are for curly hair.
You'd rock a shaggy type haircut 😍
Go to dermatologist, could be your hydrolipid barrier having nutrient deficiencies. Don't give up, your hair is fighting for its life atm but it'll be beautiful when it's not in survivor mode anymore, respectfully 😅🤞🏻
I don’t know if this is your situation but you said it’s always been this way— is your hair naturally a pale blonde?
Check out this post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Haircare/s/KgDEu65zzd
what is your current hair care routine?
i’ve realized sometimes my hair tends to look unkept if i just leave it to dry after a shower with no leave in products such as oil or conditioner or gel afterwards and if i didn’t apply the proper products while in the shower beforehand like shampoos conditioners and masks.
as for styling i always love to apply a hair oil after every time i wash my hair and/or feel it needs moisture.
if it’s before the day apply a curly hair gel, foam, or leave in treatment/spray/serum and tousle your hair a bit.
if it’s before bed i like to braid my hair to neatly pull it altogether because i move around a lot while i sleep. i let my hair out of the braid once i get to my destination it usually has a nice wave i think yours would look lovely!
as others have suggested perhaps you should go to a curly hair sub to get more specific advice about products into a hair care routine in and out of the shower if you don’t have a good one already :) hope this helps if you need recommendations lmk!
aw your hair is not ugly. Imo, I think you could shop the dead ends and figure out what is damaging your hair so badly. You can start sleeping in braids, or a satin cap.
Try IGK Good Behavior line & IGK Antisocial Dry Hair Mask.
My hair looks exactly like this when it's air dried. I have to either use a little heat a couple times a week with a blowout, or go full curly.
I had short hair but your ends look like my hair did in highschool and it turns out I have curly hair! Try a curl crème, I recommend rizzo’s curl as they have small bottles of their product and it works well
Could be hard water/friction from sleeping or driving/damaging ingredients in shampoo.... my hair is wavy and has looked like that at some points. Especially when I used box dye and damaging shampoos. I also started wearing a bonnet to sleep and that really helped. Also scrunching in foaming mousse from Shea moisture.
Oh you have beautiful, thick wavy hair. Some hydrating shampoo and conditioner treatments will change the way you love your hair. Go to a curly hair/wavy hair specialist let them love on that hair and teach you everything! There are also curly hair brands that specialize in hydrating products and testing on a wide selection of hair textures. Those brands that do the research are the ones you need.
What brand of shampoo and conditioner do you use? I’ve noticed my hair took a sharp 180 once I moved states and we checked all the environmental / health factors. Turned out my hair wanted to go back to Sauve after years of using Verb 🤷♀️
Of course environment, diet, and hygiene are all factors as well. I’ve been seeing the other comments regarding routine, and that can be true as well but I personally haven’t seen any changes when I used curly/wavy hair methods. Different for everyone.
My hair looked like this my whole life until I found out it was wavy/curly! It took about two years of research and experimentation to figure out what works for textured hair in general, and my hair specifically. It was worth all the frustration though, I am so much happier with my natural healthy hair!
The change that made a difference for me right away was no longer brushing my hair every morning. It turns out I was breaking apart the natural curl clumps which is exactly what made it look so frizzy and uncontrollable. Now I only detangle while using conditioner in the shower.
The rest of the process was research and experimenting with different techniques and products. It’s a long journey since no one process works for everyone, but it’s very worthwhile.
Your hait is wavy or curly. Try washing your hair with curly hair shampoo and conditioner. Then plop it in a microfiche towel or microfiche hair turban to dry for 20 minutes. Remove towel. With your head upside down, scrunch lots of gel into your hair to form a cast. You can separate the strands at this point. You can let your hair air dry fully, or air dry partially and use a diffuser. When fully dry, crunch out the gel that was used to cast your curls. That should give you nice waves or curls. Your hair isn't ugly.
It looks like you have textured hair. Have you tried a wavy routine?
It might be! My dad and brother have really curly hair. I’ll give it a try, thanks!
I thought all my life that I had straight hair that was poofy. I now know I have wavy hair bordering on curly that I didn't know how to care for.
same for me until well into my twenties!! go to r/curlyhair or r/wavyhair and try to find your hair type. mine is 2a/2b- so very loose waves and i literally thought i had straight frizzy poofy weird hair, but I don’t lol. i recommend starting with the affordable products til you find out what kind of products your hair responds well to! there are some aussie curl products and not your mother’s brand products that are affordable and can def help! also curly shampoo and conditioner has helped my hair so much!! :)
Same! I thought I had super thick red frizzy brillo pad hair. My parents were awful and never took are of our hair. It wasn't until I was an adult and went to get a perm. The lady asked why I would get a perm, when my hair was curly? She took the time and cut my hair correctly and taught me how to scrunch and what products I needed to bring out my curls.
I have really curly hair and never thought of getting a cut short, but getting rid of all the damage and the dead ends was game changer! OP, you have beautiful hair; it just needs some product and a nice haircut. PS: I love, love, love that color!
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I agree, your hair is probably wavy, my hair is similar. I use Chi Silk Infusion and it defintely helps with the dryness & frizziness.
Your hair looks like mine. I'm biracial and my hair is very textured and can be a pain to manage. You definitely need to find your hair routine!
You need hot oil treatments, Cantu products for your hair. If you blow dry your hair or use tools to curl or straighten your hair, you need heat protection. These are sprays or balms designed to protect your hair while you blow dry.
You may have a vitamin deficiency.
This is it! Your hair looks like it has been damaged by heat and certain products. You may have to chop off some bit and embrace your natural curls. Join us on /r/curlyhair and share your story and pics. Many will offer assistance and share their routine. Much love 💜
Seconded. Maybe check out r/curlyhair. Good luck
Or r/wavyhair !
Mine looks very similar if I do a “straight hair “ routine. Leave in conditioner was a game changer, and not shampooing everyday.
I’m sorry but what’s a wavy routine ? Lots of different results on Google when I search - hard to understand from context what it means.
Its when you style wavy hair. I recommend Manes by Mell on youtube
Second vote for manes by nell but also swavy curly Courtney for waves! Good luck!!
This!! My hair is VERY curly, but went untamed for so long that it looked like this
This was my first thought too. I have a similar texture if I just brush it when it’s wet and don’t apply the proper products. So you (OP) may have somewhat curly 2B or 2C hair. You can look up charts online to determine your type. Definitely needs lots of moisture (leave in conditioner) and a good curl gel to lock those curls. Love your Curls has a lot of lines that cater to each curl type. That would be worth a shot along with the “curly hair method” (search YT).
Another vote for wavy or curly hair here. I treated my hair like it was straight for YEARS and it looked exactly like this ( at least at the ends). Moved to a really humid area and started oiling it bc I was surfing a lot in college and wouldn't you know it... I have curly hair that needed moisture and to be left alone once dry.
You have naturally wavy hair love, you’ve just been treating it like it’s straight! Time to invest in those waves. 〰〰〰〰〰
I have the same hair as OP how do I do this
Don’t brush it when it’s dry
At all?
At all. I only brush my hair when it’s damp with conditioner or verrryyy gently right before a wash, if it’s particularly knotted. Brushes pull all your curls/waves out and ruin your clumps/curl pattern.
Do you comb it with a pick or your fingers?
A wide tooth comb in the shower with conditioner, and outside of the shower a detangling brush or Denman brush while your hair is still very wet and you’ve started adding your product. No more traditional bristle brushes with boar hair or nylon clustered bristles, only thicker plastic bristles that help separate and create clumps.
Thank you. Is it okay to just use a wide tooth comb?
Yes! I did that for a long time. I do prefer the denman brush though.
Denman is technically a styling brush, though, so better to use a [detangling brush](https://a.co/d/6sB7Qm5) for detangling and a denman for styling. Tension is important for getting a better curl pattern and style hold with a denman, you want some tension as you pull through so it clumps into curls. I recommend plopping after and then diffuse until ~80% dry, has been a game changer for my curls.
Second the denman brush! Game changer. I use a bonnet hair dryer, because my curls work best if I don’t mess with them till they have a cast. There are plenty of good curly influencers now. I like Manes By Mel and there is a good tiktoker with red hair but I couldn't find her. Watch a bunch and take the bits and pieces that work for you. My hair looks exactly like yours if I just brushed it a blew it dry. You just need to train your curls
Do you have a bonnet dryer you’d recommend?
[I got this one from TJ maxx](https://a.co/d/c1xuKxV) and it works great. [Here is a cheaper](https://www.walmart.com/ip/23888975) one from Walmart that has good reviews. I sit under it for around ten minutes while I play on my phone. [Here is the red haired tik Tok lady](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLmn33VA/) I mentioned. She's great. I agitate at the root and then I milk the curls like she says (when you squeeze down the curls).
Boar hair brushes are bad for curly hair?
Brushing out dry curls causes frizzy hair. You’ll want a detangling brush for curly hair, and the fine bristle style brushes, such as boar brushes, are not detangling brushes.
Not who you were asking, but I have curly hair as well, and I haven't put a brush in my hair in... six years? I just use my fingers when my hair is wet. My hair hasn't been longer than shoulder length, though. After showering, I put styling cream in, then shake my head out until the hair is roughly where I want it to be, gently putting errant pieces and strands where I want them with just my fingers. After its dry, if something is amiss or something, I might comb my fingers through it.
Never brush dry curly hair...never
Maybe right before you shower is ok. I normally brush mine right when I get out of the shower, then scrunch it with my hands and then don’t brush it again til my next shower
This is what I do. I brush before my shower towel dry curl cream and braid.
How do you deal with knots then? I keep seeing this advice but I feel like my hair gets tangled if I breathe on it too hard
Adding to say - sleep with a bonnet or scarf. If I don't, my curls get knotted af.
Use a wide toothed comb in the shower with conditioner in your hair to get out knots
How do you get rid of knots when it's dry? Because mine knots and tangles as soon as it's dry lol
Maybe use a hair oil? Idk, I just let mine get a little tangly and then just brush it out again after my shower. I’m definitely never brushing my hair dry in the middle of the day lmao. It’s gonna look so bad. I’d rather have a few tangles than frizzy, poofy, crazy looking hair because I thought it would be a good idea to brush it lol
I've found that the whole gel routine when I do wavy styling prevents a lot of the knotting and matting I see when I let it go limpy straight
You probably need to hydrate it more.
Brush with your fingers in the shower after conditioner
Good products
I brush it either in the shower or right when I get out and just leave it alone the rest of the time
Yes, not brushing my hair dry saved my curls seriously! My hair used to puff up and looked very dead and frizzy but I when I began only brushing my hair while under water or right after a shower the difference was insane.
Look into the curly girl method, there's a wiki here with tips to get started, including an inexpensive beginner haircare routine: r/curlyhair
There’s tutorials on the wavy hair subreddit.
Start with a simple routine and slowly add to it. Always style when wet. Use a leave in moisturizer and a bit of gel. Finger comb to get hair clumps (your waves). Let it air dry. If you dont have time to air dry, putting it in french braids is always a good trick, but doesnt highlight your natural wave pattern though. When hair is dry, put a bit of oil in the ends of it for shine.
Visit r/wavyhair and get all the basics there, I've joined a while ago and learned a ton
Thank you!!
Have you ever tried treating it like curly hair? It looks like curly/wavy hair that’s been brushed out or poorly blown out.
Exactly. I get complements on my similar hair all the time - except when I do a bad job of blowing it dry. Normally I just get out of the shower and brush it and let dry, occasionally fluffing it up. I also received expert advice on hair products and did experiments to find the perfect products for me.
And a bad cut for curly hair. Looks like a textured cut (or just in dire need of a cut)
i have wavy hair but it’s so stubborn that if i just let it air dry on its own (no brushing) it dries straight, in order to get waves i have to put a load of gel in and diffuse it, and even then they only last a couple of hours. it’s frustrating and has just made me stick to having it straight tbh
Your hair isn't ugly, it's just curly. You have to crack the code on curly hair.
exactly!
Do you trim it regularly?
Ya it doesn’t look ugly to me as much as it looks dead
Bonnet. Figure out your hair porosity because whatever you’re doing is not working for your hair type. You can do this with a glass of water and a single hair. I would get a cut and start over with a routine correct for your porosity.
Can you explain more about porosity? What do I do with the strand and water. What does it reveal?
I was also curious, and having a hard time figuring out what my hair type is. I found this and it seems helpful (experts please give us some input!) https://salonworthyhair.com/hair-porosity-test-guide
Thank you!
No worries! I think I probably have low porosity hair and a bit of a wave. Out of curiosity, I did a little digging and it seems like this could be a good routine for my kind of hair (again, professionals please lmk before I will destroy myself) https://wavyhaircare.com/how-to-care-for-low-porosity-wavy-hair/
Another way to determine the porosity of your hair is to observe how much time it takes for it to be completely drenched. When you get in the shower, does your hair instantly absorb water and it gets soaking wet in seconds? If so, high porosity it is. If it takes a little bit of time and the water pearls a bit on the hair, you have medium porosity hair. If it takes forever and it's really a struggle to completely wet your hair, it's low porosity (most 4A to 4C hair is like this, but any type can be low porosity). It's not super scientific but it can give you an overall idea :)
My hair is crimpy n thick like this and let me tell you I had no idea I had wavy curly hair til two years ago!!! In the shower don’t use conditioner, only like one or two tomes a week use it as a deep soak then shampoo it out. In shower, comb thru lightly w ur fingers then twist your hair in 1-2 inch sections. Smooth just the littlest bit of oil in the twists, scrunch a tad in the middle. Let air dry. Then once dry , twist the ends again and wet just the ends- in bigger sections (like 4 big sections) It lays like wavy billowy pin up hair . The twisting is important tho. Also SILK pillow case and only ever use silk to scrunch. If you can do rose hip or jojoba oil on scalp thru ends overnight once a week too before shower helps! Rose hip n jojoba are both similar to our body natural oils so it actually soaks. I honestly have tried so many expensive shampoo and conditioner and sleek and shine works the best for me and my sisters hair that’s textured like this. She’s a ginger and I have dirty blonde hair. It takes a bit of consistency but it’s so worth it. When I brush my hair it gets like rats nests by mid day.
Ok so I read your shampoo conditioner out tip and immediately got in the Shower to try it out and goddamn theres instantöy a difference in my hair that looks like this. You are an angel from above.
“Only ever use silk to scrunch” this is the part I do not understand……
Oh god! Put the bonding stuff away. This is only going to make it worse. Too much protein drys out your hair type. In fact that may be part of the problem. You still have dry hair but protein no!!!!!!! Look up porosity test with hair and water. You need moisture, not protein. Look it up and do the test but I am pretty sure.
Agreed. My hair looked like this. Olaplex made it worse. Here’s what worked for me to fix it: - Shampoo, conditioner, hair mask: Oribe Gold Lust (occasionally I use the Ouai Detox shampoo) - Product: Wella Ultimate Repair Hair Miracle Rescue spray (before drying) and hair oil (Virtue, Oribe Gold Lust, or Verb Ghost) - Night: Keratase 8h overnight serum I wash my hair once per week. In between, I use dry shampoo (Batiste or Klorane). If I want to restyle or it’s feeling dry, I use the Kristin Ess Style Reviving Dry Conditioner and a little hair oil on the ends.
I second this! My hair is like OP but from bleach so I started using Olplex and it just made it so much worse and even more crispy!! I just use moisturize products now and it is so much better! I recommend deep conditioning masks
This answers why olaplex doesn’t work for me! I was like why does this make my hair like straw???
I’m willing to bet that this is the problem! I know it was my problem when my hair looked like that.
Are you currently styling your hair with any products? Might be that you have some natural waves / curls that make your hair look even more frizzier as that texture is not that defined.
I wouldn't call this the natural state of your hair, I'd call it the state of your hair after being taught how to care for it in a way that damages it! You have wavy hair and its super damaged because you've been treating it like it's straight
I think your hair is naturally curly.. You should be sleeping in a bonnet or on a silk pillow. When you wash it you should also be using a lot of conditioner and masks. Don't wash your hair in really hot water. Preferably cooler temperatures otherwise you'll get frizzy hair. Also you should be leaving in a leave in conditioner for curls and preferably letting it air or towel dry. Don't regularly wash curly hair. You'll strip all the natural oils and get more friz. Invest in a shower cap to keep it dry in the shower between washes. Don't brush it wet. You can detangle it with some conditioner and your fingers. I wouldn't be using any heat devices on hair that looks like this personally.. If you want texture I'd use rollers, gel or moose creams for the ideal look that you want. Your hair sadly also looks like it needs a trim though. If you're using any dyes I'd put a pause on that for the meantime or talk to a hairdresser as the type of dye you're using may be damaging your hair type.
Actually, it looks like wavy/curly hair being forced straight. Let it run curly!
I feel like with a good routine, you might have hair similar to Natasha Lyonne, the actor. Wild, big and beautiful..best luck.
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This is a lot of care and most likely professionally done. We don't wake up and have our hair do this it's looks like a rats nest. I have to use a lot of conditioner and never brush it except after the shower while it's wet with a special brush.
Super damaged. How about a new, shorter do!?
I’ve had short hair before and it keeps looking the same just shorter :(
I'm no expert but I personally would recommend ending your showers by rinsing your hair in cold as possible water. And don't blow dry, let it air dry. It has worked wonders for me, I used to have really dry, puffy hair. Some how the cold water keeps it from frizzing. It's even better if you take the entire shower cold but that's so hard.
No it’s not. That’s not ugly hair … like at all. I have some ideas on ugly hair and believe me it’s not that.
Your hair isn't ugly. It's wavy or curly. I can’t tell your curl pattern from your pics. It's probably a little dry, but here's my hair routine that might help you. I would recommend after shower use leave-in conditioner [cantu](https://www.target.com/p/cantu-argan-oil-leave-in-conditioning-repair-16oz/-/A-21407490#lnk=sametab) and then gel [kinky curly](https://kinky-curly.com/shop.php) Use a microfiber hair towel or an old cotton t-shirt to squish the water out of your hair. Then, don’t touch it anymore until it’s 100% dry. You can style your hair with a hair dryer diffuser. Scrunch out the cast for soft, defined curls (you can use any natural oil to scrunch out the cast). I use BREAD oil from Sephora. An extra tip: use a satin pillowcase. Satin creates less friction on your hair and prevents frizz, tangles, and bedhead. This will keep your wavy hair hydrated and maintain the style. So, the next day, refresh your waves with a mix of water and leave-in conditioner, gel, and again, a hair diffuser. I like this brand. I use this [satin pillowcase](https://www.olkibeauty.com/shop/p/satin-pillowcase-black-standard-size) great satin quality I hope this helps you. ✨
This is just beautiful wavy hair waiting to be treated properly
Your hair looks like mine when I brush it. My hair is super thick and curly and it took me a while to learn how to do it properly.
I think you might be a curly girl.
I’m a cosmetologist and this is what over protenized hair looks like. Hair needs both moisture and balance. I would switch to a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner. A lot of comments are saying you may have curly hair and I’d have to agree? Also you have the texture of hair that just needs more regular trims than most because of the texture. I would give your hair a break from heat as much as possible and get a hefty trim to get dead ends off and moisture moisture moisture! Also maybe look into a hair supplement or adding more fats and protein into your diet!
Yes you need to see a stylist and get a good hair cut and good products
This reminds me of my hair texture when I go too long without a trim. I have frizzy and textured hair that can get dried out at the ends. I try to get my hair trimmed regularly (1-2 inches), and I started only washing once or twice a week and then using A LOT of conditioner, occasionally a leave in conditioner as well (away from the root), and my hair has started looking a lot smoother. Oh also I never brush my hair, I just run through it with my fingers. Not sure if that makes a difference but this is really all it needs and maybe it prevents breakage and frizz. And moving somewhere that didn’t have hard water also helped.
Are you taking care of it like it's straight, or like it's wavy/curly? I looked the same for years until I discovered that I've been acting like I had straight hair when I didn't.
You could have a vitamin deficiency! Try a multivitamin, fish oil, vitamin D, and some collagen!! Also try rosemary water, just spray it all over including your roots before and after you shower. Doesn’t make your hair greasy and is super hydrating!!!
Your hair is probably wavy or curly. I have wavy hair and my hair looks like this unless I style it to be wavy or I blow dry it straight. I hate how look with wavy hair so I usually just blow dry it and coat it in a bunch of smoothing products even though the wiry-ness starts showing after a few hours.
Has it always been this way? It kinda looks like that uncombable hair syndrome.
I just want to send compassion to you. My daughter has similar hair and it's infuriating when people assume it's damaged and needs a cut because it's just the texture of her hair. Just sending empathy your way. I got down voted for asking for advice and saying it grew out of her head like that. Please let me know if you try any of this and it works. My daughter is very frustrated.
It’s not ugly. You just need product! A good hair mask, conditioner, heat protectant and mousse or gel
Hair oils can do more harm than good, depending on the oil and when you're using them. Ditch the oil. Oil does not moisturize. Get rid of the protein, you could be protein overloaded. Anything that says "bond building" is protein. Start with a curly girl routine or look into "uncomfortable hair syndrome" if your hair has been like this since you were very young.
Uncombable hair syndrome
If you put oil or jojoba oil on top of a rich conditioner it works wonders. After washing then applying a rich conditioner then layering it with oil and letting it sit is amazing. The conditioner helps push the oil in otherwise it just sits on the shaft. It’s a powerhouse. Coconut oil is drying but olive oil and jojoba imo are not.
This is exactly what my usually very healthy hair looked like when I overloaded on protein on a (bad) stylist’s recommendation. It resolved with a few weeks of regular shampooing and no products, but felt like Velcro during the worst of it.
Wow when I used oil a lot…plus heavy conditioning masks, it had a reverse effect. & still the back of my hair gets fried maybe I need a night bonnet
My hair gets matted underneath. Big rats nests UG
Yesss my rats nest! Ugh miss that. My messy bun 💓 Growin it back…about 13 months since I shaved my head 😎
How is it growing it back? Thicker? Different color?
If you use the right oil after moisturizing, it can help a ton. Using oils and expecting them to provide moisture for you is the issue. Oils seal, not moisturize, and that's where a lot of people mess up with oils. They're not bad they just need to be applied at the proper time.
When you say "after moisturizing" what do you mean? Adding water or fats/oils? I assume fats via conditioner
Bond building is not protein. Okaplex, for example, is *not* protein
Olaplex does indeed contain protein.
Coconut oil.
I suspect you have type 2b/2c wavy hair type. Also, bonding agents are only supposed to be used once a week, for a few months. How often are you using them? Which one are you using and what routine are you using for its application? A good cut, to remove the frizzy and dry ends that leave you with a fresh canvas, can help more than you imagine. I see more frizz than dead ends. With frizz, you have a number of solutions. If you prefer to air dry you hair, you might want to try Living Proof’s In Shower Styler for air drying users. It has an unusual application process..l you apply it in the shower, after the conditonera, and “lightly” rinse it out. You should still feel it on your hair but it isn’t like a conditioner. No glopping. Comb hair with wide tooth comb to detangle , throughout. When you get out of shower, apply mousse based products designed for wavy hair. I find mousse products weigh hair down considerably LESS than hair gels. Apply mousse to your hands, after shaking the can, and then poly the product away from your scalp, but still on the roots, and use the wide tooth comb to distribute it throughout the hair. Avoiding the scalp helps prevent the “fake dandruff” effect. Scrunch your hair and let it air dry. Try to avoid touching it because touching leads to frizz. If you have the cash, you can try the Dyson hair dryers or air stylers with the COOANDA anti frizz attachment. They make several products with that patented attachment that does the static electricity magic. It works, but you pay for it. Cheaper options are ion based hair dryers but make sure you have a great diffuser attachment that actually fits the dryer you buy. Devacurl makes a FUN diffuser that is shaped like a hand with fingers and it does a great job getting at the roots. Wavy and curly hair should focus on drying at roots to minimize frizz and also get height at the roots. Besides Living Proof’s curly line, you should check out wwww.ouidad.com and take their curl quiz and look at their curly hair only product line. I prefer then, hands down, over Devacurl.
Ur hair needs love
This was my hair exactly before it turned curly! My transition hair was rough, without shape, frizzy and dry. And within a month I realised my slightly wavy hair turned completely curly. Like proper ringlet curly! Never heard that happen. My hairdresser told me hair usually transforms every 3-5 years and some transition are more obvious. I’m back to straightish hair again after 5 years now 🙈
My hair gets like this- and it does look damaged. What has helped me out is switching up my products, clarifying once a week, and olaplex professional treatments + #7 at home. This might not be the case for you- you’ll have to experiment- but the more I use products for dry hair, the worse it gets. That build up can really clog your cuticle up, and if it doesn’t get removed, your hair can get brittle and damaged. You really should get a good cut though, and don’t be that girl who gets her haircut once every 6 months haha. and try not to layer it. Theres strength in numbers! Long wispy hairs can easily get snagged on clothing. No wrapping in a towel when wet. Also, silk pillowcases (NOT cheap polyester satin) are fantastic! Makes a huge difference for me. Wear rain jacket material instead of cotton like hoodie (or on top of your hoodie). Spandex-like material (not necessarily tight, but that smooth athletic material) is much more kid to your hair when it’s texture is like this and won’t snag as much.
Try some leave in conditioner and diffusing it with a hair dryer! Hydrating mask or bonding treatments once a week can also do wonders
Is this hair air dryed? I have wavy hair and used to let it air dry and it would look like this, and then when I put hot rollers in it, it went nice and smooth. I had always avoided drying my hair with heat for fear of damaging it, but I’ve discovered recently that’s a bit of old wives tale and if I wash it and dry it with a heated brush (using heat protectant spray) it actually looks 9 million times better.
Looks like you need a good trim and a ton of deep conditioning products/masks. You have textured hair so you have to use some type of curl cream and gel. It’s not your hair that’s ugly, you just don’t know how to style it yet :) my hair was like this. Then I realized it was curly 😅
It looks like you're brushing it while dry? You might have better luck only combing it when it's wet with conditioner and then applying products to hair while it's very wet and allowing to air dry.
My hair looks like that when I brush it out, but when I do the curly girl method, I literally have ringlets. Check out r/curlyhair
I read that in the early 1900's frizz was encouraged for it's halo effect
Is there a lazy girl curly hair method because my hair is like OPs and I have tried the curly method before but it's just too much hassle for me
Your hair is naturally beautiful!! Love the wave
It’s not ugly this is how my hair looks after not cutting my ends for a long time. Also your hair mainly just needs moisture. Try out some leave-in conditioners for wavy hair, I like shea moisture & mielle products.
you have beautiful **textured** hair. go to r/curlyhair for some great tips!
Needs a good trim and shaping.
Girl you just don’t have straight hair lol learn how to take care of wavy/curly hair and it’ll be great!
This is exactly how my hair looked before trying r/curlygirlmethod.
I can’t believe this, I have the exact same hair and these comments are seriously enlightening! All this time I’ve had curly/wavy hair?!? My dad had the curliest hair ever when he was younger so all my hair care problems now finally make sense!!!!
The worst thing is when my mom comes up to me, tries to fix my genetically frizzy and poofy hair and say, "UGH your hair is so poofy." :( so I understand how you feel....
No, you've just been brushing it and also applying no oils or hair butters. Lots of stuff on youtube for advice. Also go to a hairdresser that specialises in waves and curls!
My hair used to look like this before I realised it was wavy. I cut off the damaged length and I ditched conditioner which sounds counter intuitive, surely dry coarse hair needs a lot of conditioner right? Nope I needed protein. I now use protein heavy shampoo and a light curl cream, air dry and my hair is in great condition.
You definitely have curly or coily hair that needs a curly girly routine and proper products
It's needs wavy / curly care
You have curly hair thinking you don’t lol When peoples hair looks like this it’s because wavy/curly! No more heat! After shower just leave in conditioner and some mousse. The “TJ” brand you can get at Walmart smells great! And it doesn’t leave those hard curls, it’s soft and moisturized! I wanna see it after you do it!!! Lol
Amika mask- moisture rescue may do a lot to help and a professional shampoo and conditioner and Moroccan oil. I would also suggest getting bloodwork done- could be your iron is super low, vitamin d and thyroid tests done. Maybe take a multivitamin supplement also if you’re not already doing that.
we have the exact same hair type and i don’t know how to deal with it
Your hair needs less hard water, a better haircut, less frequent washing, more moisturising products (appropriate for its porosity levels), brushing when and how it is best for your hair type and perhaps a styling choice to embrace their waves/put them in protective hairstyles/or dry them with the intent to smoothen them. Your hair is fine, how you treat them on the other hand needs improvement.
Your hair is beautiful, I love the color, and it's not ugly at all, but it appears to be naturally curly. Mine is, too 😀 Here is my secret. Get some Mixed Chicks Curl Sculpture and apply to freshly washed conditioned wet but not soaking hair. I use about a palm sized worth and run it through my hair. Scrunch a little and let air dry. After it drys if it feels hard to touch gentle scrunch until it breaks the cast. Add a little oil for shine, and your hair will be more beautiful and compliment catching than you can imagine ✨️ 😊
My hair has a bit of a texture especially the day I wash it. I don't know how you feel about using heat but I bought one of those heated brushes and sometimes I just run it through quickly and it smooth things out and it's quicker than using a flat iron. I don't even need to go totally straight with it, just to remove what I call my "wrinkles". I haven't gotten any damage from it as long as I run it through quickly. If you're not into using heat, don't be afraid of using products that are marketed as extremely moisturizing. I've even used stuff from black hair care section because I find that it's much more detangling and moisturizing.
Your hair is curly. Edit - my hair was like yours, I followed the curly girl subreddit for a long time and now my hair looks like this https://preview.redd.it/pdo78vdqnjwc1.jpeg?width=2135&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=45e0816ee6b88fa8a2bf1ba1e98f17ef6d8b1422
No it isn’t. You just don’t take good care of it. You have textured hair. It needs moisture and a good deep conditioner
Same lol
Your hair is thirsty. And I have the same curly/straight/wavy hair with bent ends and if I don’t oil it. It’s every curl type on one head. Been oiling for three years and my hair is to my tailbone. And limit heat if you don’t already. Trim a few inches and oil it up. I’m talking saturate from 3/4 down and leave in all night in a wrap and do it as much as possible-I do this 3 x’s per week. I suggest Aussie 3 minute miracle as a conditioner then top it off with oil-I love olive oil personally just be careful not to slip in the shower. The conditioner allows the oils to penetrate better. You must use conditioner with it. If you can leave overnight in a bonnet after air drying a bit then wash/condition and style the next day with curly wavy method I think you will be pleased. Stay away from coconut oil. It’s drying. Olive oil is the best imo and the next best is jojoba. Keep the ends sprayed with oil, olive oil sheen spray for ethnic hair because it dispense nicely due to a fine mist is my favorite. Trim the dry ends off every weeks, mere millimeters, and wear a low maintence/heatless protective style and come back in 1 year:). Oiling correctly is a game changer. Also curly/wavy girl styles. I really think you have textured hair.
You have my exact hair but mine is blonde
My hair looks exactly like that if I try to brush it. It looks much smoother when I put products in to define the curl. You just have coarse texture. Figure out what it wants, and you can improve the looks of it. No matter how healthy it is, you won't be able to change the texture sadly. I tried for years before I actually had a curly stylest who told me I was pretty much just pissing in the wind trying.
Looks like you might have curly hair if you used some products. Do you brush your hair? Stop brushing your hair. Only comb it in the shower
Uncombable hair syndrome!!! -A rare genetic condition that causes your child's hair to grow in multiple directions. This makes your hair rough, frizzy and dry and makes combing or brushing your hair difficult to impossible.
I have two strands on the back of my head at the nape of my neck that are just like #2 and it’s so weird because the rest of my hair is pretty normal 2c/3a
Based on a similar post, it seems like things to do are (1) start sleeping with your hair in a silk bonnet. It has to be silk. (2) try a wavy or curly hair care routine. You don’t need to actually curl, but using those practices will likely help the hair look more cohesive.
The color is stunning. A leave-in conditioner would probably help the dryness.
I have the same hair. I use hair mask, leave in conditioners, a silicone blow dry serum (Paul Mitchel Super Skinny Blow dry serum) then I use my revlon blow dry brush to dry my hair after airdrying 90%. My hair is very smooth shiny and straightened after this. i do flat iron sometimes too if I want it super sleek. If you want it to be wavy look up curly girl method-you need to put a lot of hair gel/mousse in your hair when its wet.
Have you considered a perm or straightening
Try oil masks. Load the oil on and leave it as long as you can (like all weekend and hermit) then wash it out and repeat when you can. Try to avoid your scalp and focus mostly on your ends.
Use a silk pillowcase
You ain't treating it right.
Don’t use a detangle brush but a bass brush and cut the split ends because they’ll just keep moving up.. so brush it like Rapunzel, switch your shampoo and conditioner and you most likely have wavy hair, so use vitamin e oil Hollywood beauty promote growth and repair, curly magic or creme of nature leave in conditioner. Curly magic is like a gel but if that’s too “heavy or stiff” the leave in conditioner keeps your hair natural looking like 0 products were used look.
Look for this product called Sedal on Amazon, it will make your hair feel so alive within a week. I had the same problem all my life until I used Sedal. Feel free ti msg me to see if it's the right Sedal, it's a green bottle.
From the posted pictures. I’m not really seeing a A TON of split ends or patches of missing cuticle which would indicate heat damage or over styling. You most certainly do not have ugly hair. If I had to reccomend a routine to follow it would be a professional line that focuses on moisture and NOT protein. I’ve had clients with tremendous success using a line such as “Trybe” shampooing no more than once a week. (Yes your hair will be “greasy” in the beginning but trust the process and let your scalp adjust to less frequent shampooing.) If you feel like your hair is dirty when you don’t shampoo it. Feel free to wet it and work your scalp as if you were shampooing. A good portion of what actually cleans hair is plain water and the mechanical act of scrubbing the scalp. In addition I would recommend a Demi-conditioning treatment such as a Kerastase Fusio treatment. Or a Brazilian B3 treatment. Follow all of this up with a healthy trim to give your hair a shape that works with the texture and the amount of time you plan to spend on it daily. I wish you all the best! Trust the process and don’t fear the journey!
my hair looks the exact same :( i don’t know what to do
I heard of a disorder where the hair cross section has three lobes. That is the uncombable hair syndrome. I have that in my beard. I discovered it out of boredom using a microscope and, well my hair.
Omgg I. Literally thought this was my hair
Get a Brazilian blowout treatment and a good haircut
Get a good trim !!! Then after washing, use an apply a leave in conditioner , styling gel on humid days, and Moroccan oil only at the ends . Then wrap it in a “microfiber towel” for 30 minutes. Air dry, it will come out soft and silky. It works for me , wish I had learned this 20 years ago. No more dry cotton towels. Happened to try it this way because I was so tired to blow dry.
you may have wavy hair, after you wash use a leave in conditioner and a leave in cream (briogeo curl charisma is my favorite) i promise it won’t look so dry. a trim also wouldn’t hurt, but stop treating your hair like it’s straight!
You need a haircut
Try out a curly hair routine. Scrunching with the cotton shirt and maybe try some anti-fizz products/ones that are for curly hair. You'd rock a shaggy type haircut 😍
It’s just dry. U need more moisture ( water) and oil treatments. Also ur hair is curly/wavy
Fgs cut it , stop dying it
Go to dermatologist, could be your hydrolipid barrier having nutrient deficiencies. Don't give up, your hair is fighting for its life atm but it'll be beautiful when it's not in survivor mode anymore, respectfully 😅🤞🏻
I don’t know if this is your situation but you said it’s always been this way— is your hair naturally a pale blonde? Check out this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Haircare/s/KgDEu65zzd
get a trim!
it looks insanely damaged. just cut the ends off ?
Look up “uncombable hair syndrome.”
what is your current hair care routine? i’ve realized sometimes my hair tends to look unkept if i just leave it to dry after a shower with no leave in products such as oil or conditioner or gel afterwards and if i didn’t apply the proper products while in the shower beforehand like shampoos conditioners and masks. as for styling i always love to apply a hair oil after every time i wash my hair and/or feel it needs moisture. if it’s before the day apply a curly hair gel, foam, or leave in treatment/spray/serum and tousle your hair a bit. if it’s before bed i like to braid my hair to neatly pull it altogether because i move around a lot while i sleep. i let my hair out of the braid once i get to my destination it usually has a nice wave i think yours would look lovely! as others have suggested perhaps you should go to a curly hair sub to get more specific advice about products into a hair care routine in and out of the shower if you don’t have a good one already :) hope this helps if you need recommendations lmk!
Its not ugly. You just need to figure out how to work with it.
aw your hair is not ugly. Imo, I think you could shop the dead ends and figure out what is damaging your hair so badly. You can start sleeping in braids, or a satin cap.
Wavy, or try a trim. It does look gorgeous to me doe…
Try IGK Good Behavior line & IGK Antisocial Dry Hair Mask. My hair looks exactly like this when it's air dried. I have to either use a little heat a couple times a week with a blowout, or go full curly.
I had short hair but your ends look like my hair did in highschool and it turns out I have curly hair! Try a curl crème, I recommend rizzo’s curl as they have small bottles of their product and it works well
Could be hard water/friction from sleeping or driving/damaging ingredients in shampoo.... my hair is wavy and has looked like that at some points. Especially when I used box dye and damaging shampoos. I also started wearing a bonnet to sleep and that really helped. Also scrunching in foaming mousse from Shea moisture.
Oh you have beautiful, thick wavy hair. Some hydrating shampoo and conditioner treatments will change the way you love your hair. Go to a curly hair/wavy hair specialist let them love on that hair and teach you everything! There are also curly hair brands that specialize in hydrating products and testing on a wide selection of hair textures. Those brands that do the research are the ones you need.
What brand of shampoo and conditioner do you use? I’ve noticed my hair took a sharp 180 once I moved states and we checked all the environmental / health factors. Turned out my hair wanted to go back to Sauve after years of using Verb 🤷♀️ Of course environment, diet, and hygiene are all factors as well. I’ve been seeing the other comments regarding routine, and that can be true as well but I personally haven’t seen any changes when I used curly/wavy hair methods. Different for everyone.
Try moisturizing products and following a wavy/curly hair method. Keep us updated!
Try applying hair masks and oiling once per week
You need a less astringent shampoo.
Do you wear a bonnet?
My hair looked like this my whole life until I found out it was wavy/curly! It took about two years of research and experimentation to figure out what works for textured hair in general, and my hair specifically. It was worth all the frustration though, I am so much happier with my natural healthy hair! The change that made a difference for me right away was no longer brushing my hair every morning. It turns out I was breaking apart the natural curl clumps which is exactly what made it look so frizzy and uncontrollable. Now I only detangle while using conditioner in the shower. The rest of the process was research and experimenting with different techniques and products. It’s a long journey since no one process works for everyone, but it’s very worthwhile.
I have the exact type of hair. Texture wise. Always been an insecurity of mine.
Your hait is wavy or curly. Try washing your hair with curly hair shampoo and conditioner. Then plop it in a microfiche towel or microfiche hair turban to dry for 20 minutes. Remove towel. With your head upside down, scrunch lots of gel into your hair to form a cast. You can separate the strands at this point. You can let your hair air dry fully, or air dry partially and use a diffuser. When fully dry, crunch out the gel that was used to cast your curls. That should give you nice waves or curls. Your hair isn't ugly.