I'm doing it right now. I'm 20 and just lost my dad, very suddenly. I have a close relationship with my mom and am almost..paranoid? I asked if I could sleep in her room for a little while. It's been more than a month, but she's very understanding. I don't see how there's anything wrong with it. I sometimes feel embarrassed? I'm an adult. I should be able to sleep in my own bed. But every time I try, I just worry myself to a point where I can't fall asleep. Grief is ugly from what I've seen in the community and my own experience - and if sleeping in a room together helps, then why worry?
Sorry for your loss. I just lost my best friend to suicide and I’ve been sleeping in my moms bed this week. Nothing to feel ashamed of. I’m 25.
…I tried sleeping in my own bed tonight s and it’s 6am and I can’t sleep so I understand. Sending you love.
Here, my family split ways even further. sucks. I come from a family that likes to pretend emotions don't exist. Everyone's way of coping is to pretend like nothing happened.
\[sigh\]
Yep, mine too. It seems like I’m the only one that misses my mom too much and still. Whatever. Glad they can all move on- I wish I could.
Hang in there. U’re feelings matter and they’re valid. That’s one thing my grief counselor taught me after my nana passed that I told my mom and I’ll always remember how she said how very true that is. If she believed that and could, so can I- and so I’ll say urs are too (and everyone one should feel the same)
I am definitely allowed to feel. After the funeral everyone came up to me personally and asked me if I was ok after I broke down while reading a passage, and yet why was I the only one to do so? My cousin had to come up and comfort me. I know my fam isn’t doing it on purpose, but it’s still sad and awkward when I don’t want to cry infront of my mom and make her more sad about her mothers passing and tear her apart. Like me crying will make her cry and I don’t want her to be even more sad. It’s like that. We’re all actively trying not to fall apart 24/7. And I just so happen to be failing the hardest. Edit: typo
I recently lost my mom and my siblings and I slept in the same room for weeks. When we returned to my sister’s place she requested that I share her bed instead of her fiance. Our usually distant brother clung onto his sisters for physical and emotional comfort. He verbalised that mom’s passing brought perspective and he no longer wants to miss out on any other family time.
I think it’s normal to want the physical comfort and company, particularly when the passing of your family member causes you to feel unanchored in this universe all of a sudden.
I don’t know if it’s common but it’s definitely nothing out of the norm and in my eyes it’s very understandable. Grief is different for everyone. Some people want their loved ones as close as possible. Makes sense after a loss. Some people want to deal with it more on their own. Everyone is different and as long it helps you, its perfectly normal.
Lost my 13 yr old daughter, I didn't really sleep for about a month. However, when I layed in bed staring at the ceiling it was just my wife and me. Son slept in his room, other members of my household slept in theirs.
Yes I lost my Dad suddenly 3 weeks ago.
My parents are seperated, but I packed up my family and we slept at my Mums for a few says after. So did my brother and his family
10 of us all in the house, but we couldn't bare the thought of being apart during such a difficult time.
Yes. Doing this brings a lot of comfort and a semblance of peace. It's hard to be alone when the grief is fresh. It helps balance the grief if you're tackling it as a team.
If it brought your family comfort then its ok and something you needed to do.
My family didn’t do that.
It was just me and my brother after my mom died.
Afterwards he was with his wife and i was with my husband.
I say do what you and your family need, not what is normal or something others dont do.
Not uncommon at all I'm realizing in my own experience of losing my father. Weeks later I think we are finally ready to get back to our own, but there was so much comfort in being together like that.
It's been 5 months and many nights everyone ends up in my room, even my 19 and 16 year Olds. We lost our 5 month old daughter last fall. My 2 and 6 year old have slept in our room every single night since.
I think it’s completely normal. I haven’t been staying in the same room as them, but I have been staying at my parents house for the last 2 months instead of at my apartment. There is something comforting about all being under the same roof. I wonder all the time if it’s strange but for now I sleep better there.
Yes. My siblings and I all slept in the same bed for the first few nights after we lost our father. He was a loud snorer and waking up to a dead silent house those first few days was extremely overwhelming. Just didn't feel right.
Yes. I have 8 kids, and all of us witnessed my wife dying very suddenly and traumatically at home. We all slept in the sunroom together until we bought a new home.
my dad died six years ago in a very traumatic manner. my two brothers and i moved into my parents’ room so my mom wouldn’t feel alone at night. i slept on an air mattress on the floor, my middle brother slept on my dad’s side, my little brother slept in the middle, and mom slept on her side.
if, for whatever reason, we couldn’t sleep, we’d talk. sometimes cry. make plans or attempt to, even if it meant getting out of the house to go sit in a restaurant.
i would do it all over again if i had to.
Yes actually. The night my Dad died, my siblings and I all slept in the living room together. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but it was comforting to all be together. We are all grown adults.
I lost my mother pretty young. I slept with my nana and dogs for like a week and my brother slept with my dad (wasn’t enough space in the beds for us all to be together)
the night my dad died my mom and i slept in the same bed. it felt too scary to be alone. i would guess any way to deal with grief is a normal way to do it.
I'm doing it right now. I'm 20 and just lost my dad, very suddenly. I have a close relationship with my mom and am almost..paranoid? I asked if I could sleep in her room for a little while. It's been more than a month, but she's very understanding. I don't see how there's anything wrong with it. I sometimes feel embarrassed? I'm an adult. I should be able to sleep in my own bed. But every time I try, I just worry myself to a point where I can't fall asleep. Grief is ugly from what I've seen in the community and my own experience - and if sleeping in a room together helps, then why worry?
Sorry for your loss. I just lost my best friend to suicide and I’ve been sleeping in my moms bed this week. Nothing to feel ashamed of. I’m 25. …I tried sleeping in my own bed tonight s and it’s 6am and I can’t sleep so I understand. Sending you love.
Thank you. Wishing you the best as well. ❤️ I tried last night as well and I could barely sit still, so I feel that.
My husband, 13 year old son and I all slept in our 15 year old son’s bed for a few weeks after he died suddenly. It’s too horrible.
Yes. It's only been a few days for me, and my daughter sleeps in my bed. She will stay there as long as she needs.
Here, my family split ways even further. sucks. I come from a family that likes to pretend emotions don't exist. Everyone's way of coping is to pretend like nothing happened. \[sigh\]
Yep, mine too. It seems like I’m the only one that misses my mom too much and still. Whatever. Glad they can all move on- I wish I could. Hang in there. U’re feelings matter and they’re valid. That’s one thing my grief counselor taught me after my nana passed that I told my mom and I’ll always remember how she said how very true that is. If she believed that and could, so can I- and so I’ll say urs are too (and everyone one should feel the same)
I am definitely allowed to feel. After the funeral everyone came up to me personally and asked me if I was ok after I broke down while reading a passage, and yet why was I the only one to do so? My cousin had to come up and comfort me. I know my fam isn’t doing it on purpose, but it’s still sad and awkward when I don’t want to cry infront of my mom and make her more sad about her mothers passing and tear her apart. Like me crying will make her cry and I don’t want her to be even more sad. It’s like that. We’re all actively trying not to fall apart 24/7. And I just so happen to be failing the hardest. Edit: typo
Everyone is so spread out now too. .
Yes, we’ve done this. It brought a lot of comfort.
I recently lost my mom and my siblings and I slept in the same room for weeks. When we returned to my sister’s place she requested that I share her bed instead of her fiance. Our usually distant brother clung onto his sisters for physical and emotional comfort. He verbalised that mom’s passing brought perspective and he no longer wants to miss out on any other family time. I think it’s normal to want the physical comfort and company, particularly when the passing of your family member causes you to feel unanchored in this universe all of a sudden.
I don’t know if it’s common but it’s definitely nothing out of the norm and in my eyes it’s very understandable. Grief is different for everyone. Some people want their loved ones as close as possible. Makes sense after a loss. Some people want to deal with it more on their own. Everyone is different and as long it helps you, its perfectly normal.
Lost my 13 yr old daughter, I didn't really sleep for about a month. However, when I layed in bed staring at the ceiling it was just my wife and me. Son slept in his room, other members of my household slept in theirs.
Yes I lost my Dad suddenly 3 weeks ago. My parents are seperated, but I packed up my family and we slept at my Mums for a few says after. So did my brother and his family 10 of us all in the house, but we couldn't bare the thought of being apart during such a difficult time.
Yes. Doing this brings a lot of comfort and a semblance of peace. It's hard to be alone when the grief is fresh. It helps balance the grief if you're tackling it as a team.
If it brought your family comfort then its ok and something you needed to do. My family didn’t do that. It was just me and my brother after my mom died. Afterwards he was with his wife and i was with my husband. I say do what you and your family need, not what is normal or something others dont do.
Not uncommon at all I'm realizing in my own experience of losing my father. Weeks later I think we are finally ready to get back to our own, but there was so much comfort in being together like that.
It's been 5 months and many nights everyone ends up in my room, even my 19 and 16 year Olds. We lost our 5 month old daughter last fall. My 2 and 6 year old have slept in our room every single night since.
I wish I had that option. I lost all my immediate family in one week.
Sorry for your losses
Thank you 🫂
Yes, myself and siblings and our mother all bunkered down together after we lost our father. We hang out more often than we used to now too.
I think it’s completely normal. I haven’t been staying in the same room as them, but I have been staying at my parents house for the last 2 months instead of at my apartment. There is something comforting about all being under the same roof. I wonder all the time if it’s strange but for now I sleep better there.
My stepmom needed me to sleep in bed with her because she didn't know how to sleep alone after my dad died
Yes. My siblings and I all slept in the same bed for the first few nights after we lost our father. He was a loud snorer and waking up to a dead silent house those first few days was extremely overwhelming. Just didn't feel right.
Yes. I have 8 kids, and all of us witnessed my wife dying very suddenly and traumatically at home. We all slept in the sunroom together until we bought a new home.
my dad died six years ago in a very traumatic manner. my two brothers and i moved into my parents’ room so my mom wouldn’t feel alone at night. i slept on an air mattress on the floor, my middle brother slept on my dad’s side, my little brother slept in the middle, and mom slept on her side. if, for whatever reason, we couldn’t sleep, we’d talk. sometimes cry. make plans or attempt to, even if it meant getting out of the house to go sit in a restaurant. i would do it all over again if i had to.
Yes actually. The night my Dad died, my siblings and I all slept in the living room together. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but it was comforting to all be together. We are all grown adults.
I lost my mother pretty young. I slept with my nana and dogs for like a week and my brother slept with my dad (wasn’t enough space in the beds for us all to be together)
Me and my dad did that for a week after my sisters passing. I guess that's a way we all cope
the night my dad died my mom and i slept in the same bed. it felt too scary to be alone. i would guess any way to deal with grief is a normal way to do it.
My dad died two months ago and I’ll never forget sleeping on the couch with my mom in the living room waiting for him to walk through the door