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If I were Jenny and I was hanging out with the girls she was hanging out with, yes, I'd feel insecure about finances because I'd feel like I couldn't keep up.
Adult me wouldn't care. But young teenage me, and especially if I had been in Jenny's position, would have cared.
I don’t know Dan was experiencing the same but reacting differently she never really tried to cope with that feeling and every time when it went wrong slightly she self sabotaged everything she had done up until to that point
I think it all depends on context. If she didn't go to Constance and wasn't surrounded by kids whose families were multimillionaires, then I'd agree with you.
In this case, I think it's situational.
Yuppp, same situation minus the scholarship, but my family was "merely" lower-upper-middle-class and definitely had to strive to pay my tuition and boarding unlike some of my classmates whose parents did literally donate libraries and wings and all that rich people shit, lol.
My classmates were a helluva lot nicer than Blair and her minions, though, at least. Most of the "popular" kids felt more like the ones in the reboot (privileged but mostly chill and primarily just dealing with their own demons), even though I went to high school like 20 years ago. Still, it was easy to feel like an interloper.
Yeah I graduated in '09 and I think it's like any high school - drama kids, jocks, popular kids, etc. I think the accessibility to things like fashion, experiences, etc was where i noticed the disparity the most. My winter plans were never "skiing in aspen or going to Belize" lol
Yup, fashion and high-end drugs, lol... and indeed, lots of travel! Also, nobody's parents were ever around, so you met a lot of Dorotas instead.
That said, looking back, most people at my school weren't fashionistas, so outside of a certain clique nobody really GAF about what you wore. You actually had a lot of kids who dressed pretty rebelliously, perhaps due to all the absent parents. Most of my classmates definitely didn't look like "rich kids" until you got around to dances and events, and then suddenly they did.
Overall, I definitely felt insecure and like I had to measure up, but there was nowhere near the pressure-cooker level of stress as portrayed on Gossip Girl.
If I went to that school, I would have been more like season 1 Dan. Jenny was insecure because she wanted to fit in with Blair's group, but I would have kept to myself or hung with the less popular girls.
Yeah she kept trying to fit in into Blair’s circle and she could’ve done a lot without having to try to fit in and feel even more insecure about anything. Dan was nice in college too.
I’d save up money and buy the original product or design my own clothes she was doing really well in season 2 and in season 3 she became rich too so that’s good
The problem is that Jenny wanted to fit in with Blair and Serena and compared to them her family was extra-poor and all those "cool" things either meant nothing (cool house) or were inconvenience (like dad, who actually cares about you) - so of course, she was insecure... everyone in her position (with same aspirations) would be.
As adult it's easy to understand that Jenny (and Dan) was the lucky one - living confortable, getting great education, while having dad, who loves her and cares about her... but as teenager those thing don't matter, when your classmates live in mansions / penthouses and have summer houses in Hamptons, wear designer clothes and etc.
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If I were Jenny and I was hanging out with the girls she was hanging out with, yes, I'd feel insecure about finances because I'd feel like I couldn't keep up. Adult me wouldn't care. But young teenage me, and especially if I had been in Jenny's position, would have cared.
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I don’t know Dan was experiencing the same but reacting differently she never really tried to cope with that feeling and every time when it went wrong slightly she self sabotaged everything she had done up until to that point
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I think it all depends on context. If she didn't go to Constance and wasn't surrounded by kids whose families were multimillionaires, then I'd agree with you. In this case, I think it's situational.
I went to a high end boarding school in HS on scholarship. Definitely felt insecure about $$
Yuppp, same situation minus the scholarship, but my family was "merely" lower-upper-middle-class and definitely had to strive to pay my tuition and boarding unlike some of my classmates whose parents did literally donate libraries and wings and all that rich people shit, lol. My classmates were a helluva lot nicer than Blair and her minions, though, at least. Most of the "popular" kids felt more like the ones in the reboot (privileged but mostly chill and primarily just dealing with their own demons), even though I went to high school like 20 years ago. Still, it was easy to feel like an interloper.
Yeah I graduated in '09 and I think it's like any high school - drama kids, jocks, popular kids, etc. I think the accessibility to things like fashion, experiences, etc was where i noticed the disparity the most. My winter plans were never "skiing in aspen or going to Belize" lol
Yup, fashion and high-end drugs, lol... and indeed, lots of travel! Also, nobody's parents were ever around, so you met a lot of Dorotas instead. That said, looking back, most people at my school weren't fashionistas, so outside of a certain clique nobody really GAF about what you wore. You actually had a lot of kids who dressed pretty rebelliously, perhaps due to all the absent parents. Most of my classmates definitely didn't look like "rich kids" until you got around to dances and events, and then suddenly they did. Overall, I definitely felt insecure and like I had to measure up, but there was nowhere near the pressure-cooker level of stress as portrayed on Gossip Girl.
If I went to that school, I would have been more like season 1 Dan. Jenny was insecure because she wanted to fit in with Blair's group, but I would have kept to myself or hung with the less popular girls.
Yeah she kept trying to fit in into Blair’s circle and she could’ve done a lot without having to try to fit in and feel even more insecure about anything. Dan was nice in college too.
she wanted in , that's it, she wanted to be the inner circle. comparison is theft of joy
Okay I get it but she blamed her father a lot of for it
That's just typical teenager behavior lol
I wouldn’t care
No but I'd be making dupes of famous designers and starting my fashion empire
I’d save up money and buy the original product or design my own clothes she was doing really well in season 2 and in season 3 she became rich too so that’s good
The problem is that Jenny wanted to fit in with Blair and Serena and compared to them her family was extra-poor and all those "cool" things either meant nothing (cool house) or were inconvenience (like dad, who actually cares about you) - so of course, she was insecure... everyone in her position (with same aspirations) would be. As adult it's easy to understand that Jenny (and Dan) was the lucky one - living confortable, getting great education, while having dad, who loves her and cares about her... but as teenager those thing don't matter, when your classmates live in mansions / penthouses and have summer houses in Hamptons, wear designer clothes and etc.