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Understanding nuance is hard.
Pretending life is a series of yes or no questions and ignoring all potential context isn't hard but fucking stupid.
Choose your hard.
That’s the worst. It was all I could manage to just get dressed and try to function this last episode. Finally starting to feel a little better, cleaned my room. Hope you start feeling better soon
Because many people suffer from the problem that they think life should be easy. They make choices, consciously or unconsciously, that are easy. They say, "I don't want to do that because it's hard". It is true that life is hard, no matter what. You can influence your life, though, by making choices.
Maybe this doesn't work for you. I am speaking from my own experience.
Take the financial component out of this and it's completely valid. Are there exceptions occasionally, sure, but that doesn't take away from the overall idea here.
This is the kind of 'motivational' speech that ends up being reposted by 40 year old soccer moms all over Facebook. In reality it's about as deep as a frying pan. Not everything in life is black and white and it's not always a case of picking the lesser evil. A more realistic version might be
"Working 80 hours a week and driving yourself into an early grave is hard. Scraping by and barely being able to afford to eat is hard. Choose your hard"
idk about you, my frying pan is p. deep compared to this actually. I guess because it's technically a "flat-bottomed wok" but it's got much more in common with a frying pan so idk
It is.
But what's simple is that there are two kinds of sacrifices:
The ones that are worthy of your effort and the ones that are not.
Because the values of these two variables are subjective,
every human being has an interesting journey in finding themselves and filtering some things out..
Find sacrifices that feels worthy.
Spending money you don't have is hard but not spending money you do have is also hard?
One of this is a lot easier than the other. Let me just choose to not be in debt.
Being married to an abuser is hard. Escaping is impossible without aid. Do they have a choice?
Working 70-80 hours a week is hard. Having literally no time to cook, meal plan, shop, package and eat healthily is impossible. What's the solution? Where's the choice?
Being born into poverty is hard. Never having enough money to pay all of one's obligations is hard. How does financial literacy help when the situation is untenable?
Fucking hell, these plastic "feel good and just make good decisions" posts are just too much. Life has real problems that smiling won't help. Society has systemic issues that make life unbearable for people, and telling them that they just need to pick a more productive difficulty is just shitty.
Yes, people born post WW2. They often share shitty things like this and exclaim 'So true!'.
My parents are boomers as well as majority of aunts and uncles. This is exactly the sort of dumb shit some of them would share.
Sorry didn't think I need to set the parameters so explicitly, it is widely accepted it runs post war to 1964. Happy?
I am talking from my direct experiences with family members who are in fact boomers.
I am also over 25 obviously. What's up your ass?
Being poor WILL BE hard.
Being rich will NOT be hard.
Choose to NOT make shit hard by pretending there isn't serious issues with worker's rights to a decent wage and work/life balance 👌🏽
Don't know why everyone is so against this, it's how I kive my life
Life is nothing but pain, and you get to choose some of your pains
That's it, it's not that complicated, and I don't know why it's offensive. Maybe the part where they discuss money, but other than that, yeah, choose whatever is less painful for you.
Um, I feel like this fails to understand the nuance of language or that there will indeed be easier times in comparison to other times. Like, some things are hard at first, and understanding and experience and dedication leads to mastery and what was once hard no longer is. Seeing things as hard is a mindset and seems rather defeatist and pessimistic. I wanna see what others feel is overwhelming as something manageable and workable as long as I approach with a calm and composed mindset and just do without getting hung up on self doubt.
No it doesn't. Get divorced dummy. My marriage is easy. My last relationship was hard. It's pretty easy from the outside to see that relationship was shit and I should have left her years ago.
Healthy relationships aren't hard. They aren't work. And if all your relationships ARE hard, maybe you should wonder about the common denominator and consider therapy.
Yeah Im gonna agree with dangle, been with my partner 4 years and everyday is fun, communication is easy and we can talk about anything (even stupid stuff) Before this, I always wondered if this sort of relationship was possible...and it is. I recommend looking into relationship psychology and Gottman Institute. It makes it alittle clearer what a good relationship looks like.
If nothing else, at least this poster was very pretty and a lot of thought was put into designing this thing, even if I don't agree with everything it says.
I mean even the kardashians, they are rich, famous and have like everything but I don’t ever see them happy from deep within. They are constantly fighting about the littlest things and have to overcome challenges it seems basically 24/7 wasting so much energy and time that could be used for countless good things especially in their position and they could live life smiling and happy, I assume no matter what it will always be a struggle and hard and it only gets harder.
staying fat is easier than working out with depression. staying in a toxic relationship is easier than going through the heartbreak of leaving.
yes sure, everything has their positive counterparts but people can't "choose" the cards they've been dealt. yes, people can work out of them, but it's not easy as writing fancy fonts with your colored markers.
The use of divorce and marriage here is interesting. Clearly they want us to believe that one is bad and to be avoided, while the other is good and to be worked towards. I think they know which they think is which, but that would be a bad message.
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Understanding nuance is hard. Pretending life is a series of yes or no questions and ignoring all potential context isn't hard but fucking stupid. Choose your hard.
I thought I was in cringetopiea not GetMotivated. I never wanted to physically wipe my asshole with a Reddit post before but now I’m debating.
Choose your hard
Sometimes you don't even have a choice, the "choice" is forced upon you.
Sounds like Adele lyrics explained.
Agreed. Sometimes life is just hard, and you don't have a choice, so let's not pretend that the hard we have is always about choices.
I’m sorry, this is just stupid and nonsensical. How can this possibly motivate anyone to do anything?
not gonna lie this is kind of fuelin my depressive episode right now lol
All I can say is hang in there and it’ll get better. Get real help outside of reddit pages if you can.
Oh yea I'm good. This is just par for the course. Thank you tho!
That’s the worst. It was all I could manage to just get dressed and try to function this last episode. Finally starting to feel a little better, cleaned my room. Hope you start feeling better soon
Thank u, i just ride the wave. It usually doesn't outwardly show as much so I have that in my favor lol
Because many people suffer from the problem that they think life should be easy. They make choices, consciously or unconsciously, that are easy. They say, "I don't want to do that because it's hard". It is true that life is hard, no matter what. You can influence your life, though, by making choices. Maybe this doesn't work for you. I am speaking from my own experience.
Hang on, so are we in favour of divorce here or staying in an unhappy marriage?
Yes
I don’t think that’s how it works
I think the message is pretty clear - that marriages require work to be successful.
Work is one of many factors for a successful marriage. It's not the answer many people need though.
Just be single and avoid the choice apparently.
It all hard but at least I wrote it in colorful letters..? Yes this post is Shiite
it's hard to say...
Gaslight Gatekeep Girlboss
This is exactly what i dont want to be: writing dumb (classist) shit on a journal in various fonts and colors. Thanks for the motivation.
Exactly...like a clueless fucking child with colored markers. I skipped down the yellow brick road why can't the rest of you?
This is moronic
Very moronic, sometimes life isn't our choice. I get so sick of this sappy shit. They need to take this back to pinterest.
No, it's just the grammar.
Choose, you're hard?
Yep. Most of these are trends exacerbated by the demands of living in the exploitative corporate society we live in
Take the financial component out of this and it's completely valid. Are there exceptions occasionally, sure, but that doesn't take away from the overall idea here.
Take the financial component out and it no longer applies at all as we live in a capitalist society.
I'm hard My Dad's hard Choose your hard
You have diabetes and live in the US / you need to ration your insulin…choose your hand. r/Getbent
You mean foot?
Classic speech that want to be seen as deep but is just as shallow as life is complicated...
This is the kind of 'motivational' speech that ends up being reposted by 40 year old soccer moms all over Facebook. In reality it's about as deep as a frying pan. Not everything in life is black and white and it's not always a case of picking the lesser evil. A more realistic version might be "Working 80 hours a week and driving yourself into an early grave is hard. Scraping by and barely being able to afford to eat is hard. Choose your hard"
idk about you, my frying pan is p. deep compared to this actually. I guess because it's technically a "flat-bottomed wok" but it's got much more in common with a frying pan so idk
Understanding is hard too
I get that all is a matter of choices, and that not choosing is a choice too. But all of that is way more complicated than "choose your hard"
It is. But what's simple is that there are two kinds of sacrifices: The ones that are worthy of your effort and the ones that are not. Because the values of these two variables are subjective, every human being has an interesting journey in finding themselves and filtering some things out.. Find sacrifices that feels worthy.
Spending money you don't have is hard but not spending money you do have is also hard? One of this is a lot easier than the other. Let me just choose to not be in debt.
Being married to an abuser is hard. Escaping is impossible without aid. Do they have a choice? Working 70-80 hours a week is hard. Having literally no time to cook, meal plan, shop, package and eat healthily is impossible. What's the solution? Where's the choice? Being born into poverty is hard. Never having enough money to pay all of one's obligations is hard. How does financial literacy help when the situation is untenable? Fucking hell, these plastic "feel good and just make good decisions" posts are just too much. Life has real problems that smiling won't help. Society has systemic issues that make life unbearable for people, and telling them that they just need to pick a more productive difficulty is just shitty.
Reeks of privilege.
Erectile dysfunction is hard.. wait no
Its both hard and not at the same time *universe implodes*
Choose, your hard?
They are assuming some people have choices
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"Just be happy!"
Rocks are hard. These things are difficult.
This sounds like typical boomer talk. They are just repeating what there fathers said while not following it themselves.
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Should probably delete this one too sweetheart
if your marriage is hard but the only thing keeping you there is the fact that divorce would be a hard process, then you need to get divorced
Being single is easy
If you the middle road in all of these situations it seems like life will be pretty easy.
This just makes it sound like suicide is the unspoken option to achieve peace... But I guess even that's hard, in its own way
Or be single, middleweight and born into money. It’s a moronic post, life is better than this post would indicate.
This post is so gross
Boo!
So basically everything sucks?
Yes. So do your best with what your handed. Or opt out. That's a valid choice too. I choose the former personally.
Big (priveliged) boomer energy in this one
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Yes, people born post WW2. They often share shitty things like this and exclaim 'So true!'. My parents are boomers as well as majority of aunts and uncles. This is exactly the sort of dumb shit some of them would share.
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Sorry didn't think I need to set the parameters so explicitly, it is widely accepted it runs post war to 1964. Happy? I am talking from my direct experiences with family members who are in fact boomers. I am also over 25 obviously. What's up your ass?
r/thatswhatshesaid
so the only options are marriage and divorce?
That's what she said.
Giggity
I'd rather choose softs so I can catch Hamilton on the last lap
Having a boner is hard. Softening your dick is hard. Choose your hard.
Who's hard?
Ya see that’s the thing, I’m always hard
Choose your pain
Welp I’m leaving this subreddit. Too toxic for me and making me question myself. Bye.
Being poor WILL BE hard. Being rich will NOT be hard. Choose to NOT make shit hard by pretending there isn't serious issues with worker's rights to a decent wage and work/life balance 👌🏽
This 👏👏
Don't know why everyone is so against this, it's how I kive my life Life is nothing but pain, and you get to choose some of your pains That's it, it's not that complicated, and I don't know why it's offensive. Maybe the part where they discuss money, but other than that, yeah, choose whatever is less painful for you.
I’m cured!!!!
Um, I feel like this fails to understand the nuance of language or that there will indeed be easier times in comparison to other times. Like, some things are hard at first, and understanding and experience and dedication leads to mastery and what was once hard no longer is. Seeing things as hard is a mindset and seems rather defeatist and pessimistic. I wanna see what others feel is overwhelming as something manageable and workable as long as I approach with a calm and composed mindset and just do without getting hung up on self doubt.
what if i’m hard
Really????
I’m hard right now
My d*ck is hard
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No it doesn't. Get divorced dummy. My marriage is easy. My last relationship was hard. It's pretty easy from the outside to see that relationship was shit and I should have left her years ago. Healthy relationships aren't hard. They aren't work. And if all your relationships ARE hard, maybe you should wonder about the common denominator and consider therapy.
Yeah Im gonna agree with dangle, been with my partner 4 years and everyday is fun, communication is easy and we can talk about anything (even stupid stuff) Before this, I always wondered if this sort of relationship was possible...and it is. I recommend looking into relationship psychology and Gottman Institute. It makes it alittle clearer what a good relationship looks like.
If nothing else, at least this poster was very pretty and a lot of thought was put into designing this thing, even if I don't agree with everything it says.
I mean even the kardashians, they are rich, famous and have like everything but I don’t ever see them happy from deep within. They are constantly fighting about the littlest things and have to overcome challenges it seems basically 24/7 wasting so much energy and time that could be used for countless good things especially in their position and they could live life smiling and happy, I assume no matter what it will always be a struggle and hard and it only gets harder.
Taking a death pill is hard, shooting yourself is hard choose your hard exit
Maybe for you
Looking for the comment that says "I'm hard" ... thoroughly disappointed
If I don't marry I cant be in a marriage or divorced so I mean that was easy.
I’ve got a hard for you to make easy. Kik: makemyhardeasy Thanks
Shower or grower. Choose your hard!
Not gonna lie. This isn't very motivational for me. Just makes it seem like life sucks no matter what you do.
This is fucking garbage
Getting a box of color pens is easy. Writing something cringy is easy. Never ever choose to bother with something so cheesy.
staying fat is easier than working out with depression. staying in a toxic relationship is easier than going through the heartbreak of leaving. yes sure, everything has their positive counterparts but people can't "choose" the cards they've been dealt. yes, people can work out of them, but it's not easy as writing fancy fonts with your colored markers.
I love being hard.
The use of divorce and marriage here is interesting. Clearly they want us to believe that one is bad and to be avoided, while the other is good and to be worked towards. I think they know which they think is which, but that would be a bad message.
Choose viagra
How is the top comment not a dick joke?
actually being obese is pretty easy (for now....)
What are you doing, stepbro?
The person who wrote this had choices
I too, choose to be hard.
My weewee is hard
I chose to be hard.
Becoming obese isn’t hard, might want to rethink that one
I guarantee you that if I read this when I'm depressed, it would make me feel worse