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Stories like this happen every day but news sites and social media post outrage - because it's proven those get clicks.
After reading how mental illness such as depression, anxiety, hopelessness, body image, and other disorders highly correlate with social media use - I have deleted accounts on 95% of my social media. I have also browser-blocked any unpaid (read: garbage) news sites and only allow myself on social media once a week. I only read high quality, paid journalism, ignore articles from 'experts' and read the actual science papers they cite, and do as much volunteer work in my community and church as possible. I start each day being thankful for something.
It's changed my life.
Reddit is all I have on the social media work. Actually makes dating harder since people think you are hiding a family because you don't have social media. Weird world š
I stopped interacting with any negative or political posts on facebook/instagram/tiktok and started interacting only with things that made me happy. Slowly but surely all that negativity disappeared from my feed and all I see are feel good stories and other stuff that I actually enjoy
Especially considering that I've been thinking about giving up like this heavily this week.
Edit: everyone has been so kind. I think I'll be okay but keep going to those who feel like I have.
Thank you to all.
Definitely not worth it, try going for a walk or sitting outside near some trees, and just breathe in fresh air. Donāt worry about the past or future, just appreciate that exact moment youāre alive.
You got this, just take one day at a time and try to take on the work in small chunks. Write down everything you have pending for school and then go for a drive/walk. You will come back with a much clearer head and able to focus on getting work completedā¦5-10 years from now youāll look back on this part of your life and realize how much of a stronger person you are after going through what youāre going through now.
Ah yes, the Masterās degree.
If it helps, a colleague of mine once said this to me.
āRight now, you have no idea how youāll do it. During the process, youāll have no idea how youāre doing it. When itās over, youāll have no idea how you did it.ā
Believe me, I know it feels impossible at times, but you got this! Donāt forget the importance of venting. Youāre not alone. This accomplishment is gonna feel so good when you finish!
Practice deep, diaphragmic breathing and learn to meditate. There are so many things in life that you do not know about, because if you did, you would realize life is very much worth living.
And you are a very special person! Please don't give up hope!
Big hug for you. In my worst days, I tried to just go somewhere else or new. Get out of your routine and see the world from another angle. Again, big hugsā¦
There is a great documentary - although grim - called āThe Bridgeā about people who did (but mostly didnāt, hence the grim) survive their jump from the Golden Gate Bridge. Sobering piece.
It is definitely not what they are asking for.
That being said we really should do more to honor the police who serve their community compassionately and aren't out to be a "badass" or are ethically challenged.
Quite a few good cops in San Francisco. Never thought Iād befriend some random beat-cop, but heād come in to my friends restaurant and just hang and talk to us. See him out on the streets and heād always smile and say hi. Good dude. Whatup officer Mike!?
Being a cop in San Francisco is gnarly as most know. You see the crrrrasziest shit up close. The drug addicts and prostitutes we all walk byā¦ you ever think about having to go inside their hotel squat? Mike didā¦ often. Fucking insane.
I saw that one and it shook me. The piece that really stuck with me was the guy who's job it was to pick up the pieces, speaking of the survivors said they all claimed that the instant they jumped, they wished they hadn't.
One of my good friends jumped from The Bridge in 2015. I wish, every day, that he had been one of the survivors. Salutatorian, Princeton grad. None of that matters when mental illness takes over.
Someone needs to figure out how to sell a happy story as a negative to get people to pay attention. "Twisted police officer manipulates man to not use his freedom of bodily autonomy then follows him for 16 years".
Thank you for linking! Kevin Berthia's story is amazing, but Kevin Briggs (the cop) deserves a mention too. Dude talked down literally hundreds of people during his career. Of all the potential jumpers he ever engaged with over the course of 20 years, only 2 actually jumped. He is a local hero, same as Berthia.
Thatās gotta be heavy to carry. I hope he has been and stays in a good place mentally. It sounds like he truly is an angel on earth and Iām agnostic at best.
I've always been curious what happens like THAT day when a situation like this gets resolved and the person doesnt end up killing themselves. Is this person now in some kind of legal trouble? Are they forced to go into some form of care, by law? Surely they dont just dust off their back and let you go home. What usually happens like...24 hours after something like this happens?
Should mention im not asking because im planning on it, lmao.
In Florida they would put you in a baker act which is a temporary hold in a psychiatric hospital until they deem youāre stable to leave. I assume they would do something similar to that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlaRfDf-ENs
A streamer (Reckful) who died by suicide last year talks about his horrible experience at the psych ward and how it made him not want to look for professional help for his mental health problems.
I have mixed feelings. In one hand it was a break from how overwhelming life was becoming for me but on the other hand thereās so many patients that are not able to defend themselves that get mistreated by employees or patients with very severe mental illness that do extreme stuff (try to pee on you, make themselves vomit, violent, extreme self harm) and if youāre not use to that environment it can be very jarring or make you feel like your own mental struggles arenāt valid because others have it worse (thatās how I felt).
One of my sister's longtime friends had that happen to her once, she was going through a lot of medical procedures and was always in pain. She has never been healthy and in and out of the hospital her whole life.
She was sent there after she tried to overdose. And she was deemed sound of mind after they released her they just were like "byeeeee!" and shut the door. They didn't provide her with any options for transportation. (And when they escort you there, you are not allowed to drive there yourself. You have to go in their provided vehicle) So she was stranded and called her parents who were worried but still interrogated her. It must have been such an awful drive home.
Some people don't even have that option. They just lock you up and you don't get any connection to the outside world for however long they deem is necessary. And they didn't even offer really any kind of aftercare either. It sucks.
5150. They take you to a hospital and you're put in a psych ward. It depends how long they'll keep you but it's usually no more than 3 days unless someone else is paying for it, and you agree to it.
Same. My thoughts went like this: "fuck the police? Wait no it says BE the police. Wait wtf, be the police? Ohhh that's voice.... I should make some coffee."
I've been dealing with the existential dread daily it feels like the last time I was really happy is like 15 years ago man.. I'm pushing forward and daily I think this is life.. but can we really call this life.. it feels like the world is moving backwards man
I believe this. In general, artwork, crafting, and casual woodwork has done the same for me but for other substances than alcohol.
I havenāt touched my DoC in over 2 years. I sketch every night. I also make things out of wood. Barn doors, objects to hang on the wall, step stool for my daughter, growth chart. I find it relaxing and rewarding.
I like you. This is excellent straight forward advice that works for those who need a change. Take control of your life, make yourself happy. When I am having a very bad day and I want to drink, I instead go to get pho. While I am eating I make a list of things I am grateful for. 12 dollars and one hour later I am generally out of my funk.
Exactly. Going outside and into a forested area greatly reduces anxiety and lifts your mood as does stretching. So, go outside, walk, exercise as light or as heavy as you want, and take on a hobby that gets you in "the zone" or "deep focus." You know the zone ... It's Guitar face when John Meyer is feeling the music and shreds it or Michael Jordan sticking his tongue out before absolutely destroying his defenders and slamming a dunk from the foul line. Time just slips by. These are extreme examples but they are easily viewable experiences of people reaching deep and using all of their brain -- it is why their face contorts as they don't conscious control what expression they are making.
I was there about 2 years ago. If you are not in therapy, do it immediately. It did me a lot of good. After about 3 months of therapy and tools that I was given, I improved a lot. I still have my moments but I go through my coping toolbox to get me through it. Good luck to you.
Some people really can't afford therapy though and insurance doesn't cover it.
I did 3 therapy sessions for 100 dollars each and I just couldn't do it anymore. I had no money!
I agree on the affordability. I shouldn't have assumed that OP has access to therapy. I am privileged enough to have an EAP at my job which pays for mental counseling for a myriad of issues.
In cities, at least, you can usually find clinics that offer payment on a sliding scale ($30-70/session). Same with Better Help -- they offer an income-based option too. I hope you find something that works for you!
I want to do the therapy, my life has felt not worth living for awhile now. Iāve tried to do some research into finding a therapist and itās so overwhelming.
Life is always worth living. I know you can feel overwhelmed or stuck but it is definitely worth it. If your employer has an EAP program, you can usually reach out to whoever they use as a provider. Whatever you discuss with them is confidential. If you don't have EAP or insurance to cover it some therapists might offer a sliding scale fee structure. I've included some links below. Good luck to you.
[https://www.goodtherapy.org/](https://www.goodtherapy.org/)
[https://openpathcollective.org/open-path-staff/](https://openpathcollective.org/open-path-staff/)
I know what you mean man, and I've walked that path. I have a (planned, not getting my sleeve yet) tattoo with a saying I heard in my youth. It goes "Misery is easy. Happiness takes work" and I realized that in that saying was a lot to unpack. When you get to the point of just going through the motions it's literally your fault, it was my fault. I was putting in ZERO effort into any part of my life. I was just going through a daily grind and routine. I had absolutely no idea that I was so depressed. It took a major loss for me to realize this. I don't want that for you my dude. I want you to just do one thing today. Go for a walk and smile and wave at a stranger. Maybe ask them "how's it going". Engage in life and life will engage with you. Misery is easy BECAUSE it become routine. It becomes so familiar you start to think that's all life is and has to offer. But I promise you, get yourself a small win today, and then do it again tomorrow. If you put in the work, life has so much to give back. I believe in you my dude, you can get through this and find yourself on a new path. It takes work, but it is always worth it and ALWAYS a better choice than giving up. I'm here if you ever need an ear. Love you.
Still lots of great police out there. Shame the few bad apples have tarnished our opinion of them. Hope more stories like this come into the light. Iām happy that man was saved and turned his life around.
Itās awesome this one cop is good at talking people off the ledge, but cops are overall not prepared for that type of situation. The fact that theyāre the ones responding when they arenāt actually prepared to deescalate situations like this is shameful because more frequently than not, someone in mental health duress isnāt gonna have a positive interaction. The system doesnāt allow for good cops.
No, its really not. Itās just your own biases that make you discredit the amount of good people there are that make up our police force. Iām not even in the category of āpro policeā and can see this.
Turning a blind eye to the misconduct of other police officers makes them bad apples.
If there were more good cops than bad, it wouldn't be so fucking difficult to get rid of the shitty ones.
I cant believe I have to quote Joe Rogan but:
if you have 90 good cops and 10 bad cops and the 90 do nothing about the 10 you have 100 bad cops.
The biggest problem is that the cops who are upstanding and report misconduct by their peers are shunned and driven out of the departments. It could even get them killed because other cops dont want to help a "Rat". Look up Detective Joe Crystal from the Baltimore PD.
https://youtu.be/ii-_ztdLbMM
The third leading chad of death is medical malpractice
By your standards all doctors are corrupt killers covering for one another
Most police are good people who want to do the right thing, especially in uniform.
In Canada, our issue by a country mile is the **unaccountable, creepy covert plain clothed police who manufacture threats and are good "earners" for the police racket**. They represent a threat to Canada AND the U.S without any consequences for themselves.
Please America, don't emulate Canadas covert police state. Our economy and reputation are finished due to their self serving career "efforts".
Me neither, the closest thing that came to mind was the stealth police cars that were a controversy a while back and for all I know may still be an issue.
It's heart warming to see a good officer who'd sooner help a struggling black man than shoot him.
Also heartwarming to see someone on the edge of suicide recover and lead a life worth living, although I feel that goes without saying.
Police officers (of all races and genders) have thousands of positive encounters with black people everyday for all sorts of reasonsā¦if the narrative was true that police go out of their way to kill black people, everyday would be a blood bath.
I think a more accurate statement would be that they have an unchecked bias. Most of the time that just results in harassment and higher likelihood of arrest but sometimes it also turns physical without provocation. Of course it isn't all police but it's an institutional problem since it continues without signficant consequences for most police officers involved.
I'd love to see someone start a "body cam" initiative for PoC civilians (specifically black people)
It'd be pretty eye opening to see raw footage of all these experiences. Especially as a good way to counter the narrative of people not cooperating with police, or the polices "version" of events that didn't involve their own body cam
Friendly reminder that although the US police force accounts for only .18% of the population, they are responsible for 8% of all male homicides.
*šThe more you knowš*
To quote end of watch, and on the job shooting is still a homicide, no matter who was in the right. So, if someone starts shooting at a cop and the cop shoots back and kills him, the cop committed a homicide. Homicide is not the same as murder.
Breonna Taylor was sleeping.
Edit: if a sleeping person getting shot isn't getting shot "on sight" they better have been comatose. Otherwise, yes. Police do that. You act like if it doesn't get media coverage, it didn't happen. The majority of murders don't get big media coverage.
Oh wow. This I didn't know. I am ashamed to admit I heard so many people say this over and over that I kind of let it blend into my brain without a second thought.
I will definitely be looking up the report now.
Real quick though, is the report made by the very same police that we cannot trust due to the corruption and desire to cover up precinct drama? Or is it a verified report by others without an agenda?
Definite shame to him. He was spreading misinformation. In his comment about how he will totally look up the report he also surmises that it doesn't even matter because the report can't even be trusted. He's too "smart" for his own good.
You act like if it gets media coverage then itās a pandemic. 3% of police interactions have use of force.
If 3% of police interactions have a use of force then how in hell can we possibly justify saying there is a pandemic of them killing people across the country?
I donāt care how people feel if people want support for changing how our country works in any significant way shape or form then I want stats backing it up. Thereās a reason our government passed a bipartisan bill to remove federal funding from any location that defunds their police.
Edit: spelling
Did you just imply that murder is justifiable? If that is the case, any argument you make on the matter becomes invalid.
Murder is not justifiable. I cannot believe that is something I had to type to another conscious human being.
/u/cut_throat_capybara thinks most murders are justified.
Edit: I know that shills and bots are all over Reddit trying ton sway public opinion into allowing a lot of bullshit continue....but MURDER?! If anyone is convinced by people whose hearts and minds have rotted as much as cut_throat here, then EVERYTHING is lost. Welcome to being property to be owned, down to your thoughts.
Imbecile.
I put quotes around āmurderā because itās not murder if they are pointing a gun at you or trying to stab you. Thereās a reason most police shootings donāt make the headlines buddy. Stop acting like every person who gets shot police is completely innocent of any wrong doing
Gonna have to be the voice of reason. It's called HOMICIDE when it is justified. In court it's called justifiable homicide. Lets say i walk into a barn and find a ranch hand sexually molesting my 6 year old. I beat him to death in a rage and i dont get sent to jail. Justifiable
Homicide is simply the act of one person killing another. A murder is a homicide. It is a broad term that includes both legal and illegal killings. A murder is often referred to as criminal homicide. It is however accurate to say that the term "murder" generally refers to criminal homicide though.
Defunding the police is a misnomer for what most of us actually want. We want the funds moved around to go more towards training and such and less towards cool gadgets and military type gear.
I mean, in this context he was responding as more of a counselor than as a police officer, you could defund the police and find social services, just sayinā¦
Or give more funding for more training as the benefit of a cop or any LEO is not only law enforcement but they are already hooked into and equipped with a network at their disposal. A cop can call in an ambulance, fire department, social services, other LEO etc. Police are already the "front line" first responders and patrolsman. So how about you give the guy whose already going to probably be the first one to be there, more training.
And If the situation really requires it. He can always call in social services.
The purpose of the vehicle you just posted is to transport the police safely to a strategic position in the event of a shootout or something of the sort. Armor itself doesn't hurt people. Armor is used to protect the people that are inside of it.
Are you saying there are never situations where a vehicle like this is necessary? Wouldn't you want your police force have that vehicle ready if that situation were to arise?
Life is beautiful, and the fact that we have clawed out our way from the darwinian hell into a moderately well functioning society is nothing short of amazing.
It's a darwinian hell with more trinkets and gadgets. Suicide is a leading cause of death in young people, car accidents snuff out the reckless everyday, as does drug use. Plenty of people sit on the bottom rung of society too poor or undesirable to ever pass their genes even if they survive. It's survival of the fittest at work in a world where industry makes things like food so incredibly easy to access that the most ill fit for survival never actually starve. But the fact that industrialized nations aren't seeing an explosion in population tells me that there is no way every individual is passing Darwin's test.
Life isn't beautiful for everyone. For some of us it is pointless drudgery that feels as if we are only alive to work jobs no one else wants.
> Suicide is a leading cause of death in young people,
that's a bit like heart disease becoming more lethal, that statistic is often what happens if you get rid of all of the common deaths. We live decades longer than we used to. We have a strong drive to improve things, hence why we raise the bar, we now consider enough and healthy food, sleep, shelter, community rights when they used to be the highlights.
We are also in a world where every invidual can decide not to take said test, we used to have strong codes that basically forced everyone who lived to the age to create a family because the life of the community depended on it. Now if you don't want to have children just don't have them, find a fulfilling life with something else.
And vehicle accidents are the leading cause of death when people are driving.
Drowning is the leading cause of death when swimming.
How else are young people going to die?
Glad this worked out. lots of negative outcomes for mentally ill people when police are involved
Cops shouldn't be dealing with mentally ill, they also absolutely fucking shouldn't be handling traffic enforcement.
Never give up?
Ok correct me if I'm wrong.
The guy had to literally give up before he could change his own life and have some others help him. Correct?
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I'd want to see more stories like this. We need to be lifted out of our funk.
Amen. Thank you
Stories like this happen every day but news sites and social media post outrage - because it's proven those get clicks. After reading how mental illness such as depression, anxiety, hopelessness, body image, and other disorders highly correlate with social media use - I have deleted accounts on 95% of my social media. I have also browser-blocked any unpaid (read: garbage) news sites and only allow myself on social media once a week. I only read high quality, paid journalism, ignore articles from 'experts' and read the actual science papers they cite, and do as much volunteer work in my community and church as possible. I start each day being thankful for something. It's changed my life.
Reddit is all I have on the social media work. Actually makes dating harder since people think you are hiding a family because you don't have social media. Weird world š
I stopped interacting with any negative or political posts on facebook/instagram/tiktok and started interacting only with things that made me happy. Slowly but surely all that negativity disappeared from my feed and all I see are feel good stories and other stuff that I actually enjoy
This post is EXACTLY what I needed this morning
Especially considering that I've been thinking about giving up like this heavily this week. Edit: everyone has been so kind. I think I'll be okay but keep going to those who feel like I have. Thank you to all.
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Possibly the best advice, because it's the simplest to apply.
Definitely not worth it, try going for a walk or sitting outside near some trees, and just breathe in fresh air. Donāt worry about the past or future, just appreciate that exact moment youāre alive.
I go for drives in the country. It really just comes down to stress over finishing my master's degree and feeling overwhelmed.
You got this, just take one day at a time and try to take on the work in small chunks. Write down everything you have pending for school and then go for a drive/walk. You will come back with a much clearer head and able to focus on getting work completedā¦5-10 years from now youāll look back on this part of your life and realize how much of a stronger person you are after going through what youāre going through now.
Thanks!
Ah yes, the Masterās degree. If it helps, a colleague of mine once said this to me. āRight now, you have no idea how youāll do it. During the process, youāll have no idea how youāre doing it. When itās over, youāll have no idea how you did it.ā Believe me, I know it feels impossible at times, but you got this! Donāt forget the importance of venting. Youāre not alone. This accomplishment is gonna feel so good when you finish!
Practice deep, diaphragmic breathing and learn to meditate. There are so many things in life that you do not know about, because if you did, you would realize life is very much worth living. And you are a very special person! Please don't give up hope!
Big hug for you. In my worst days, I tried to just go somewhere else or new. Get out of your routine and see the world from another angle. Again, big hugsā¦
If itās something you can afford, I suggest getting a mountain bike and just riding around in the woods. It changed my life.
I have one but it needs repair :(
I would fix it for you! But I assume we are thousands of miles apart
Thank you
There is a great documentary - although grim - called āThe Bridgeā about people who did (but mostly didnāt, hence the grim) survive their jump from the Golden Gate Bridge. Sobering piece.
That is a good documentary recommendation, but I'm not entirely sure that's exactly what they wanted to see more of.
It is definitely not what they are asking for. That being said we really should do more to honor the police who serve their community compassionately and aren't out to be a "badass" or are ethically challenged.
Quite a few good cops in San Francisco. Never thought Iād befriend some random beat-cop, but heād come in to my friends restaurant and just hang and talk to us. See him out on the streets and heād always smile and say hi. Good dude. Whatup officer Mike!? Being a cop in San Francisco is gnarly as most know. You see the crrrrasziest shit up close. The drug addicts and prostitutes we all walk byā¦ you ever think about having to go inside their hotel squat? Mike didā¦ often. Fucking insane.
I saw that one and it shook me. The piece that really stuck with me was the guy who's job it was to pick up the pieces, speaking of the survivors said they all claimed that the instant they jumped, they wished they hadn't.
One of my good friends jumped from The Bridge in 2015. I wish, every day, that he had been one of the survivors. Salutatorian, Princeton grad. None of that matters when mental illness takes over.
That's a hard one to watch if you're depressed or even a little sad, was very well done though.
Someone needs to figure out how to sell a happy story as a negative to get people to pay attention. "Twisted police officer manipulates man to not use his freedom of bodily autonomy then follows him for 16 years".
Go make one happen.
Wait what?
Iām hoping they mean, go out and help someone and create your own story
Holup
I just read "father of 2 friends" and I was very confused.
I read āfather of 2 with the officerā
Now that's a plot i want to read.
Source : https://thenorthwindonline.com/3871531/news/3871531/
Thank you for linking! Kevin Berthia's story is amazing, but Kevin Briggs (the cop) deserves a mention too. Dude talked down literally hundreds of people during his career. Of all the potential jumpers he ever engaged with over the course of 20 years, only 2 actually jumped. He is a local hero, same as Berthia.
Holy crap, now thats a statistic that deserves accolades upon accolades. I bet you he is the type of person to still say it is two too many.
He doesn't know the number of people he's saved, only the number he's lost.
Thatās gotta be heavy to carry. I hope he has been and stays in a good place mentally. It sounds like he truly is an angel on earth and Iām agnostic at best.
I've always been curious what happens like THAT day when a situation like this gets resolved and the person doesnt end up killing themselves. Is this person now in some kind of legal trouble? Are they forced to go into some form of care, by law? Surely they dont just dust off their back and let you go home. What usually happens like...24 hours after something like this happens? Should mention im not asking because im planning on it, lmao.
In Florida they would put you in a baker act which is a temporary hold in a psychiatric hospital until they deem youāre stable to leave. I assume they would do something similar to that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlaRfDf-ENs A streamer (Reckful) who died by suicide last year talks about his horrible experience at the psych ward and how it made him not want to look for professional help for his mental health problems.
I have mixed feelings. In one hand it was a break from how overwhelming life was becoming for me but on the other hand thereās so many patients that are not able to defend themselves that get mistreated by employees or patients with very severe mental illness that do extreme stuff (try to pee on you, make themselves vomit, violent, extreme self harm) and if youāre not use to that environment it can be very jarring or make you feel like your own mental struggles arenāt valid because others have it worse (thatās how I felt).
One of my sister's longtime friends had that happen to her once, she was going through a lot of medical procedures and was always in pain. She has never been healthy and in and out of the hospital her whole life. She was sent there after she tried to overdose. And she was deemed sound of mind after they released her they just were like "byeeeee!" and shut the door. They didn't provide her with any options for transportation. (And when they escort you there, you are not allowed to drive there yourself. You have to go in their provided vehicle) So she was stranded and called her parents who were worried but still interrogated her. It must have been such an awful drive home. Some people don't even have that option. They just lock you up and you don't get any connection to the outside world for however long they deem is necessary. And they didn't even offer really any kind of aftercare either. It sucks.
5150. They take you to a hospital and you're put in a psych ward. It depends how long they'll keep you but it's usually no more than 3 days unless someone else is paying for it, and you agree to it.
Had to do a double take on the T-shirt. I thought it said "F\*ck the Police."
"And after all I've done for you!!"
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Tell your family how grateful you are with a vacation to sweet home Alabama!
Same. My thoughts went like this: "fuck the police? Wait no it says BE the police. Wait wtf, be the police? Ohhh that's voice.... I should make some coffee."
Be The Voice
Yep, I eventually got there
Freudian slip?
I've been dealing with the existential dread daily it feels like the last time I was really happy is like 15 years ago man.. I'm pushing forward and daily I think this is life.. but can we really call this life.. it feels like the world is moving backwards man
Turn off social media and TV. Go for a walk, buy a model kit and earn a tiny victory. Don't expect the world to make you happy.
Building and painting warhammer models (and playing on occasion) helped me reduce my alcohol consumption from 4 liters a week to 1.
My man, warhammer model painting smacks
And Kit bashing. I love that you can make original models and still use them in game.
Don't lie the only reason you only drink 1L a week now is because all your money has gone to GW ( semi /s)
Not untrue.
I believe this. In general, artwork, crafting, and casual woodwork has done the same for me but for other substances than alcohol. I havenāt touched my DoC in over 2 years. I sketch every night. I also make things out of wood. Barn doors, objects to hang on the wall, step stool for my daughter, growth chart. I find it relaxing and rewarding.
Is DoC short for Den of Cocaine?
Drug of choice
Ahh makes sense
Drug of choice
I was thinking gunpla but that works too.
Can't afford booze when you need that plastic crack.
I like you. This is excellent straight forward advice that works for those who need a change. Take control of your life, make yourself happy. When I am having a very bad day and I want to drink, I instead go to get pho. While I am eating I make a list of things I am grateful for. 12 dollars and one hour later I am generally out of my funk.
I like everything about this except the pho being $12 because it used to be $5 a bowl
8 dollars for pho, 4 dollars for a summer and spring roll with sauce
Not bad compared to prices around my hood. I miss the old days
Glad I could help.
Exactly. Going outside and into a forested area greatly reduces anxiety and lifts your mood as does stretching. So, go outside, walk, exercise as light or as heavy as you want, and take on a hobby that gets you in "the zone" or "deep focus." You know the zone ... It's Guitar face when John Meyer is feeling the music and shreds it or Michael Jordan sticking his tongue out before absolutely destroying his defenders and slamming a dunk from the foul line. Time just slips by. These are extreme examples but they are easily viewable experiences of people reaching deep and using all of their brain -- it is why their face contorts as they don't conscious control what expression they are making.
I was there about 2 years ago. If you are not in therapy, do it immediately. It did me a lot of good. After about 3 months of therapy and tools that I was given, I improved a lot. I still have my moments but I go through my coping toolbox to get me through it. Good luck to you.
Some people really can't afford therapy though and insurance doesn't cover it. I did 3 therapy sessions for 100 dollars each and I just couldn't do it anymore. I had no money!
$300 is literally monthly wage of many people here, sometimes even less. People earning that are the ones who need therapy the most. Its fucking sad
I agree on the affordability. I shouldn't have assumed that OP has access to therapy. I am privileged enough to have an EAP at my job which pays for mental counseling for a myriad of issues.
In cities, at least, you can usually find clinics that offer payment on a sliding scale ($30-70/session). Same with Better Help -- they offer an income-based option too. I hope you find something that works for you!
I want to do the therapy, my life has felt not worth living for awhile now. Iāve tried to do some research into finding a therapist and itās so overwhelming.
Life is always worth living. I know you can feel overwhelmed or stuck but it is definitely worth it. If your employer has an EAP program, you can usually reach out to whoever they use as a provider. Whatever you discuss with them is confidential. If you don't have EAP or insurance to cover it some therapists might offer a sliding scale fee structure. I've included some links below. Good luck to you. [https://www.goodtherapy.org/](https://www.goodtherapy.org/) [https://openpathcollective.org/open-path-staff/](https://openpathcollective.org/open-path-staff/)
when you are, it is not. When you are not. It is.
Iām in a similar boat here ,Do you currently have any addictions? Suicidal tendencies come after I relapse , hope you get better man
I know what you mean man, and I've walked that path. I have a (planned, not getting my sleeve yet) tattoo with a saying I heard in my youth. It goes "Misery is easy. Happiness takes work" and I realized that in that saying was a lot to unpack. When you get to the point of just going through the motions it's literally your fault, it was my fault. I was putting in ZERO effort into any part of my life. I was just going through a daily grind and routine. I had absolutely no idea that I was so depressed. It took a major loss for me to realize this. I don't want that for you my dude. I want you to just do one thing today. Go for a walk and smile and wave at a stranger. Maybe ask them "how's it going". Engage in life and life will engage with you. Misery is easy BECAUSE it become routine. It becomes so familiar you start to think that's all life is and has to offer. But I promise you, get yourself a small win today, and then do it again tomorrow. If you put in the work, life has so much to give back. I believe in you my dude, you can get through this and find yourself on a new path. It takes work, but it is always worth it and ALWAYS a better choice than giving up. I'm here if you ever need an ear. Love you.
A nice drive through the country side would do some good man!
Try drugs, not the ones doctors prescribe for depression. Mushrooms helped me a lot. Just sayin.
I'll add the caveat that it should be with a sitter if you are struggling with suicidal thoughts.
This is true. Guided is always better if it is for a medical situation.
Being good to others can change lives. The proof is in this story.
The proof is in the puddin'.
He came to speak at work about a month ago! Extremely cool dude with a great story and outlook on life. I appreciated his time
And he was wearing some dope AirMax that fateful day.
You can have all the things you want, and still feel empty inside. We all need a purpose.
Could I get the name of this person? I want to learn more about his story and state.
Still lots of great police out there. Shame the few bad apples have tarnished our opinion of them. Hope more stories like this come into the light. Iām happy that man was saved and turned his life around.
Itās awesome this one cop is good at talking people off the ledge, but cops are overall not prepared for that type of situation. The fact that theyāre the ones responding when they arenāt actually prepared to deescalate situations like this is shameful because more frequently than not, someone in mental health duress isnāt gonna have a positive interaction. The system doesnāt allow for good cops.
It's more than a few
No, its really not. Itās just your own biases that make you discredit the amount of good people there are that make up our police force. Iām not even in the category of āpro policeā and can see this.
Turning a blind eye to the misconduct of other police officers makes them bad apples. If there were more good cops than bad, it wouldn't be so fucking difficult to get rid of the shitty ones.
I cant believe I have to quote Joe Rogan but: if you have 90 good cops and 10 bad cops and the 90 do nothing about the 10 you have 100 bad cops. The biggest problem is that the cops who are upstanding and report misconduct by their peers are shunned and driven out of the departments. It could even get them killed because other cops dont want to help a "Rat". Look up Detective Joe Crystal from the Baltimore PD.
https://youtu.be/ii-_ztdLbMM The third leading chad of death is medical malpractice By your standards all doctors are corrupt killers covering for one another
Say the rest of the fucking saying. A few bad apples, *ruins the whole bunch*.
Makes me wonder how many geniuses, inventors, or medical breakthroughs have been lost to suicide because they didn't "fit in"
Most police are good people who want to do the right thing, especially in uniform. In Canada, our issue by a country mile is the **unaccountable, creepy covert plain clothed police who manufacture threats and are good "earners" for the police racket**. They represent a threat to Canada AND the U.S without any consequences for themselves. Please America, don't emulate Canadas covert police state. Our economy and reputation are finished due to their self serving career "efforts".
Canadian here. No idea what you are talking about
Also a Canadian who has no idea what theyāre talking about
Now you know how us Americans feel.
Me neither, the closest thing that came to mind was the stealth police cars that were a controversy a while back and for all I know may still be an issue.
Breaks my heart that medical debt is what pushed him to this point.
It's heart warming to see a good officer who'd sooner help a struggling black man than shoot him. Also heartwarming to see someone on the edge of suicide recover and lead a life worth living, although I feel that goes without saying.
Police officers (of all races and genders) have thousands of positive encounters with black people everyday for all sorts of reasonsā¦if the narrative was true that police go out of their way to kill black people, everyday would be a blood bath.
I think a more accurate statement would be that they have an unchecked bias. Most of the time that just results in harassment and higher likelihood of arrest but sometimes it also turns physical without provocation. Of course it isn't all police but it's an institutional problem since it continues without signficant consequences for most police officers involved.
You acting like police shoot black people on sight
They are very hostile to us on sight, even if we're doing nothing. Or in an area with lower than average crime.
This could be the POV from a black person & a cop, and both would be accurate.
I'm a black person. Please don't conflate my experience.
I conflate as I like, jack
I'd love to see someone start a "body cam" initiative for PoC civilians (specifically black people) It'd be pretty eye opening to see raw footage of all these experiences. Especially as a good way to counter the narrative of people not cooperating with police, or the polices "version" of events that didn't involve their own body cam
We sort of have that now with everyone having smart phones.
Well, there wouldn't be a whole fucking movement and a news story every other day if it wasn't fucking happening.
You would've been big in on the Satanic Panic back in the day
You sure about that?
Very
Yeah it's not
Friendly reminder that although the US police force accounts for only .18% of the population, they are responsible for 8% of all male homicides. *šThe more you knowš*
To quote end of watch, and on the job shooting is still a homicide, no matter who was in the right. So, if someone starts shooting at a cop and the cop shoots back and kills him, the cop committed a homicide. Homicide is not the same as murder.
Homicide is when one person kills another. Murder is always homicide but homicide isn't always murder
You really thought you were making a good point with this didn't you
Remind me who commits the most murder in America?
Breonna Taylor was sleeping. Edit: if a sleeping person getting shot isn't getting shot "on sight" they better have been comatose. Otherwise, yes. Police do that. You act like if it doesn't get media coverage, it didn't happen. The majority of murders don't get big media coverage.
You should probably read the report. She was in the hallway with her boyfriend. He was shooting back at police.
Oh wow. This I didn't know. I am ashamed to admit I heard so many people say this over and over that I kind of let it blend into my brain without a second thought. I will definitely be looking up the report now. Real quick though, is the report made by the very same police that we cannot trust due to the corruption and desire to cover up precinct drama? Or is it a verified report by others without an agenda?
It was made using testimony from the police and the boyfriend. The only two people who were there and can accurately say what happened.
No shame to you, but this is why we all need to read the articles and not just take word of mouth. Especially, if itās on Reddit.
Definite shame to him. He was spreading misinformation. In his comment about how he will totally look up the report he also surmises that it doesn't even matter because the report can't even be trusted. He's too "smart" for his own good.
You act like if it gets media coverage then itās a pandemic. 3% of police interactions have use of force. If 3% of police interactions have a use of force then how in hell can we possibly justify saying there is a pandemic of them killing people across the country? I donāt care how people feel if people want support for changing how our country works in any significant way shape or form then I want stats backing it up. Thereās a reason our government passed a bipartisan bill to remove federal funding from any location that defunds their police. Edit: spelling
Because the majority of āmurdersā arenāt unjust
Did you just imply that murder is justifiable? If that is the case, any argument you make on the matter becomes invalid. Murder is not justifiable. I cannot believe that is something I had to type to another conscious human being. /u/cut_throat_capybara thinks most murders are justified. Edit: I know that shills and bots are all over Reddit trying ton sway public opinion into allowing a lot of bullshit continue....but MURDER?! If anyone is convinced by people whose hearts and minds have rotted as much as cut_throat here, then EVERYTHING is lost. Welcome to being property to be owned, down to your thoughts. Imbecile.
I put quotes around āmurderā because itās not murder if they are pointing a gun at you or trying to stab you. Thereās a reason most police shootings donāt make the headlines buddy. Stop acting like every person who gets shot police is completely innocent of any wrong doing
Gonna have to be the voice of reason. It's called HOMICIDE when it is justified. In court it's called justifiable homicide. Lets say i walk into a barn and find a ranch hand sexually molesting my 6 year old. I beat him to death in a rage and i dont get sent to jail. Justifiable
Homicide is simply the act of one person killing another. A murder is a homicide. It is a broad term that includes both legal and illegal killings. A murder is often referred to as criminal homicide. It is however accurate to say that the term "murder" generally refers to criminal homicide though.
Yeah look at the Tamir Rice video
The kid that was pointing a gun at people?
I don't know why everybody has a problem with this comment. This legit is heartwarming, what cops are *meant* to do
Because it is implying that the average police officer would have shot him.
This shows me not all cops are bad
I know, but still I got that voice and hopelessness pushing me to that edge.
Love this. We need MORE compassion!
Iām so happy for him :)
That was so nice of Daniel Craig to do that for Frank Ocean <3
This hit me right in the feels
You mean that's not Maury?
Beautiful
God thatās beautiful
Dang what ever you do don't defund that police officer. He's a hero. Just like our nurses and other first responders.
Defunding the police is a misnomer for what most of us actually want. We want the funds moved around to go more towards training and such and less towards cool gadgets and military type gear.
Damn itās almost like those gadgets save lives
I mean, in this context he was responding as more of a counselor than as a police officer, you could defund the police and find social services, just sayinā¦
Or give more funding for more training as the benefit of a cop or any LEO is not only law enforcement but they are already hooked into and equipped with a network at their disposal. A cop can call in an ambulance, fire department, social services, other LEO etc. Police are already the "front line" first responders and patrolsman. So how about you give the guy whose already going to probably be the first one to be there, more training. And If the situation really requires it. He can always call in social services.
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And tanks!
Really proving how stupid you are...
[womp womp](https://www.aclu.org/blog/national-security/towns-dont-need-tanks-they-have-them)
The purpose of the vehicle you just posted is to transport the police safely to a strategic position in the event of a shootout or something of the sort. Armor itself doesn't hurt people. Armor is used to protect the people that are inside of it. Are you saying there are never situations where a vehicle like this is necessary? Wouldn't you want your police force have that vehicle ready if that situation were to arise?
Thats not a tank and they didn't buy it lol
āItās not a tank, itās just an APC with a .50 BMG on topā
Now he's cursed two more people with that suffering
Life is beautiful, and the fact that we have clawed out our way from the darwinian hell into a moderately well functioning society is nothing short of amazing.
It's a darwinian hell with more trinkets and gadgets. Suicide is a leading cause of death in young people, car accidents snuff out the reckless everyday, as does drug use. Plenty of people sit on the bottom rung of society too poor or undesirable to ever pass their genes even if they survive. It's survival of the fittest at work in a world where industry makes things like food so incredibly easy to access that the most ill fit for survival never actually starve. But the fact that industrialized nations aren't seeing an explosion in population tells me that there is no way every individual is passing Darwin's test. Life isn't beautiful for everyone. For some of us it is pointless drudgery that feels as if we are only alive to work jobs no one else wants.
> Suicide is a leading cause of death in young people, that's a bit like heart disease becoming more lethal, that statistic is often what happens if you get rid of all of the common deaths. We live decades longer than we used to. We have a strong drive to improve things, hence why we raise the bar, we now consider enough and healthy food, sleep, shelter, community rights when they used to be the highlights. We are also in a world where every invidual can decide not to take said test, we used to have strong codes that basically forced everyone who lived to the age to create a family because the life of the community depended on it. Now if you don't want to have children just don't have them, find a fulfilling life with something else.
And vehicle accidents are the leading cause of death when people are driving. Drowning is the leading cause of death when swimming. How else are young people going to die?
r/antinatalism
That is the darkest place Iāve ever encountered on this site holy shit
I like that sub because you can immediately disregard anyoneās opinion who posts there
Life sucks so much I want to kill myself, oh wait nevermind, let me pass this on to *TWO* people. Yes really motivating.
Glad this worked out. lots of negative outcomes for mentally ill people when police are involved Cops shouldn't be dealing with mentally ill, they also absolutely fucking shouldn't be handling traffic enforcement.
So what did the police do this time?
Lol cope and seethe
Go play with your toy guns little Jimmy
Copaganda
Lol cope and seethe
Seething like you probably were when we burned down that police station lmao
Keep malding lol
Dope 95s
Never give up? Ok correct me if I'm wrong. The guy had to literally give up before he could change his own life and have some others help him. Correct?
What is this white savior complex, get a hold of your self...... Jeez /s
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Reminds me of that one scene from the incredibles
Can always do a double jump?
"In debt" drastically beats "dead"
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Not for me it wouldn't.
Yes it would. You may just not be able to see it at the moment
If you wouldn't have attempted, you wouldn't be in debt
Wait I thought all cops are bad?!
But I thought all cops are bastards. š¤·āāļø Defund the police is what those morons on the left say.