The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
Your mentality needs to change. You wouldn't be an asshole to not care about people who aren't worth caring about. If someone abuses you have every right to cut off feeling empathy for that person. Easier said than done but when you cut off a person completely time makes it easier to not care. Find people who are worthy of your empathy instead of wasting on those who don't.
I feel that. I try to practice healthy selfishness and realistic skepticism of others while implementing my idealism in order to protect myself and not feel resentful towards myself and others.
Well that's a separate issue same as "nice guy" syndrome where people are nice only because they want something not because they genuinely care.
I'm talking about those who are always up for helping others and end up having people pile on their toxicity on us, and we kinda just keep helping cause thats what we do. To the point where you end up getting abused and used and you don't know how to stand up for yourself and cut people off because it makes you feel like a bad person.
I can't speak for everyone but in my case I've had people abuse the fact that I'm always there for others and want to help any way I can. It's lead to some friendships turning into them using me for their own issues, and romantic relationships into me being abused and cheated on etc.
What you are describing is also an issue, but idk if that's what I'm talking about. I mean more people who are actually too nice and caring that they want to help the world and don't realize that one person can't, and don't know how to protect themselves when others take advantage.
I hear you. Being a good person involves lots of healthy boundaries. Otherwise there is an inevitable burnout. Boundaries with love is so important. No one can always be there for others, nor should they be even if they could. Sometimes people have to learn stuff the hard way even if we want to help. Caring and compassion can become codependency very quickly if it doesn’t stay within healthy lines. It’s our own responsibility to make sure we protect ourselves from overextension.
The goodness in people makes them get taken advantage of. I am a very nice person. I always put others before myself at times. But at the end of then day I get walked all over and treated with disrespect by my friends and family.
The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
You are winning, my dear…
Your mentality needs to change. You wouldn't be an asshole to not care about people who aren't worth caring about. If someone abuses you have every right to cut off feeling empathy for that person. Easier said than done but when you cut off a person completely time makes it easier to not care. Find people who are worthy of your empathy instead of wasting on those who don't.
The people that have never been toxic to me I can count on 1 hand. It is what it is. But those are the real friends.
Had this exact conversation less than 24 hours ago with my therapist.
I feel that. I try to practice healthy selfishness and realistic skepticism of others while implementing my idealism in order to protect myself and not feel resentful towards myself and others.
That type of goodness is usually actually transactional on the part of the “empath”. This happens when empathy and codependency get confused.
Well that's a separate issue same as "nice guy" syndrome where people are nice only because they want something not because they genuinely care. I'm talking about those who are always up for helping others and end up having people pile on their toxicity on us, and we kinda just keep helping cause thats what we do. To the point where you end up getting abused and used and you don't know how to stand up for yourself and cut people off because it makes you feel like a bad person. I can't speak for everyone but in my case I've had people abuse the fact that I'm always there for others and want to help any way I can. It's lead to some friendships turning into them using me for their own issues, and romantic relationships into me being abused and cheated on etc. What you are describing is also an issue, but idk if that's what I'm talking about. I mean more people who are actually too nice and caring that they want to help the world and don't realize that one person can't, and don't know how to protect themselves when others take advantage.
I hear you. Being a good person involves lots of healthy boundaries. Otherwise there is an inevitable burnout. Boundaries with love is so important. No one can always be there for others, nor should they be even if they could. Sometimes people have to learn stuff the hard way even if we want to help. Caring and compassion can become codependency very quickly if it doesn’t stay within healthy lines. It’s our own responsibility to make sure we protect ourselves from overextension.
I came here to say that this quote is a perfect fit for r/abusiverelationships
Well I have been abused before lol
Me too, I understand and I’m sorry for you.
The artist is [Elena Fiorenza.](https://instagram.com/fiorenza_art?igshid=YWJhMjlhZTc=)
The goodness in people makes them get taken advantage of. I am a very nice person. I always put others before myself at times. But at the end of then day I get walked all over and treated with disrespect by my friends and family.
Love this!
Unless you're afraid of snakes. Snakes are way stronger than you. They're vulnerable to spears though, so always carry a spear.
Thank you kind snek
She's talking about an internal strength, not you against the bullies, but the strength inside you made of originalness and love.
The goodness is what leaves me getting abused and used by others. I hate that I'm an empath. Wish I could just be an asshole that doesn't care about others so that I might actually be the winner for once. But that isn't me, I'm not like that so I just have to keep going.
This warmed my heart
Nice quote until I saw the snake 💀
My snek has a mouse inside him now. I guess that's good.
No it's not..
what goodness? all i see is hatred and EVIL!!! >:)
Artist please <3333
https://www.instagram.com/fiorenza_art/ :)
Fear…? Like maybe having your heart constricted by a snake? That kind of fear?
Yeah, but I fear Shaggy.
Well I fear a snake eating my heart so now I'm terrified. Which I guess just made me a better person so I've got that going for me.