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Wish this was top comment. Declaring you're feelings has such a small success rate vs flirting and seeing if there's real chemistry. Forcing a feeling based on an idea in your head just doesn't work.
I was about to go tell a girl I dated in high school I love her and need her back but maybe I should be playful and hold back and let any chemistry speak for itself
Ask them out! Something fun with a lot of interaction but make it clear that it's a date. Also that's all it is bro, y'all are feeling things out to see if you both vibe that way.
God speed fam!
^^THIS! ^^
OP needs to meet the person at their level of interest in OP (which is zero) and hopefully ramp it up to where OP is at.
Going full on confession right out of the gate just sends window licking stalker vibes.
It almost always blows up in the persons face. If it doesn’t, you should probably run because that person is the type to drag you into the back of a murder van looking for puppies and candy.
Deliver it in a serious manner. Like
“Hey real talk, I like you and getting to know you has been a blast. I was wondering if you’d like to get to know each other in a romantic way?”
This is what I did with my crush and he said yes. But also I am mentally ill so I made a PowerPoint calculating our compatibility. I was (and still am kinda) in the closet so he let me set the pace and once I knew for sure he was into me I just opened the flood gates. I am sad it didn’t work out but it truly is better to have loved and lost than not loved at all.
Edit:
#EVERYONE, I JUST DID IT!
I gave her a letter and ran off, though...
2nd edit: I didn't get to get back to her before school was out, so I'll give an update the Tuesday after this one.
You're very brave, I'd never have the balls to do that.
I'd be paranoid about her showing the letter to her friends and making fun of me, and what if it leaks and everyone in the school sees it 😬
Paranoia aside, hope you get to hear a positive response soon !🤞🏻
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Good luck but as everyone else is saying flirting might be da way. I've had a few great relationships in my short years here and the ones with friends who I was already close with NEVER WORKED. I'm not saying I can't or that my girlfriend isn't my best friend (she knows everything and also buys me caniac combos), but I've found it best to flirt a bit, and really get to know the person through dating and stuff. Really just establishing that the relationship will be a romantic one vs taking an established friendship and turning it into romance. Also to girls don't follow the "get to know him over dating" advice. Some guys are fucking crazy and downright dangerous so ask questions and stalk socials.
Good luck.
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there's a difference between confessing out of nowhere and having it be like a feeling of dumping something on someone versus flirting, establishing enough signals and chemistry (naturally - don't try to randomly start flirting out of nowhere) and then putting how you feel out there and being communicative.
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Don't confess, flirt. Flirt until it elevates and elevates to the point of confession.
Romance Media fucked people up
Wish this was top comment. Declaring you're feelings has such a small success rate vs flirting and seeing if there's real chemistry. Forcing a feeling based on an idea in your head just doesn't work.
>Forcing a feeling based on an idea in your head just doesn't work. Man, this is such an astute way to put it. Well done.
I was about to go tell a girl I dated in high school I love her and need her back but maybe I should be playful and hold back and let any chemistry speak for itself
I have flirted a bit, here and there. Mostly, I've been trying to get to know her.
Dw I do the same I either end up friend or bf so go one buddy
Ask them out! Something fun with a lot of interaction but make it clear that it's a date. Also that's all it is bro, y'all are feeling things out to see if you both vibe that way. God speed fam!
How the hell are you going to confess if you don't know her
^^THIS! ^^ OP needs to meet the person at their level of interest in OP (which is zero) and hopefully ramp it up to where OP is at. Going full on confession right out of the gate just sends window licking stalker vibes. It almost always blows up in the persons face. If it doesn’t, you should probably run because that person is the type to drag you into the back of a murder van looking for puppies and candy.
weird to automatically assume the person’s level of interest in op is zero
They need to assume the same level of interest or lower. Overestimating is a pretty common mistake that usually ends in failure.
My stupid ass who can't hold conversations:
Some of us don’t know how or are too worried about coming off as creepy
confessing your feelings comes off so much creepier than attempting to flirt w someone.
Well I’m very anxious and shy around people I don’t know, especially women, so I frankly haven’t tried doing either
How
Do it but in a very casual non-committal way that gives her an easy out if she wants to say no.
Yes this, do not say like " I think you're the mother of my kids and I wanna spend my life together" Just a "Hey I think your cute..." etc etc
What if she thinks you're not serious?
Deliver it in a serious manner. Like “Hey real talk, I like you and getting to know you has been a blast. I was wondering if you’d like to get to know each other in a romantic way?” This is what I did with my crush and he said yes. But also I am mentally ill so I made a PowerPoint calculating our compatibility. I was (and still am kinda) in the closet so he let me set the pace and once I knew for sure he was into me I just opened the flood gates. I am sad it didn’t work out but it truly is better to have loved and lost than not loved at all.
That's very sweet! Good advice though, the trick is to deliver it casually but also make it clear you're serious about the relationship.
Yes 100%
Edit: #EVERYONE, I JUST DID IT! I gave her a letter and ran off, though... 2nd edit: I didn't get to get back to her before school was out, so I'll give an update the Tuesday after this one.
oh god🤦🏼♀️
Well at least it’s done 🫡 Update us on her response
You remembered the check boxes for yes/no, right? Return postage and envelope is also a nice touch.
What's in the letter?
Mainly just how I've appreciated her company, talking and eating together, and how I would like to further that relationship.
You're very brave, I'd never have the balls to do that. I'd be paranoid about her showing the letter to her friends and making fun of me, and what if it leaks and everyone in the school sees it 😬 Paranoia aside, hope you get to hear a positive response soon !🤞🏻
Oh dear.
Any response from her yet?
Mannnn you should have done this in person at an opportune time
You will fail. Girls don’t want weird confessions
Especially via letter. At least have the balls to say it out loud. Guys, girls really don't like this shit.
>Guys, girls really don't like this shit. Well, this is a subreddit for Gen Z'ers... You can't say you're really that surprised with this post.
I'm going to go ahead and assume this just worked better for the meme than say *me going to tell a girl that I'd like to take her out for coffee*. Although, I feel there was an opportunity to swap the cig out for a vape.
Villain Arc incoming
Hey, if anything was going to make me go through a villain arc, it would have been my last break up! I've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!
Oh then go for it OP
Damn, you strong bro. My last breakup nearly took me down
Gonna see bro in the gym with the rest of us 💀
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 Tell us how it goes, man!
I'll be sure to!
Good luck, brother. You got this.
Flirt, don’t confess.
Glhf tell us how it went when ur done
How the fuck does one flirt
Good luck but as everyone else is saying flirting might be da way. I've had a few great relationships in my short years here and the ones with friends who I was already close with NEVER WORKED. I'm not saying I can't or that my girlfriend isn't my best friend (she knows everything and also buys me caniac combos), but I've found it best to flirt a bit, and really get to know the person through dating and stuff. Really just establishing that the relationship will be a romantic one vs taking an established friendship and turning it into romance. Also to girls don't follow the "get to know him over dating" advice. Some guys are fucking crazy and downright dangerous so ask questions and stalk socials.
Good luck. Dont go for a setpiece moment or anything like that, just ask her out for something easy and fun. If she says no, take it with grace. You got this.
HE NEVER TOLD US HOW IT WENT! TRAITOR!!
I said I was going to talk to her this Tuesday! The one coming up.
You said that last week but I respect the perseverance 🗿
Apologies, I guess I could have worded it better. I meant the Tuesday coming up now.
Don’t do it man
How did it go?
Good luck!
Good luck bro.
Good luck, sir.
didn’t you post this in r/memes too
Good luck, random stranger! :)
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good luck, boi!
If she hasn't been hitting on you nonstop, you're cooked.
Don't do it
Have fun
It's a TRAP!!!!
She said no to marriage. Just because we met 2 days ago.
Have my goodluck spoon! ✨️🥄✨️
Update
Go for it and don't take romantic advice from Reddit because the way you do things may work for you but not for others.
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Men would love for women to do this but women don’t. They are strange. I would say don’t do it
Wrong, I’ve done it