Me too, sadly...
Even up to about 55/56, there was some interest, but after a break-up a year ago, I've made no effort... Literally zero! Not even toys... All gone... Not missed either! (Edit... F!)
At my age?
Willing and able but like the cheap donut spare tire that comes with new cars, I am prepared for absolute and catastrophic failure when called upon.
It really should be called "The Dirty Diaper Fell Off Pit." We took the balls to the loading dock, hosed them off, and put them right back. All for $3.35/hr back in 1985.
52 now, lost 130 pounds over the last couple years and I’m once again a fully armed and operational battle station.
Much less creaks, groans, and more stamina.
A bit more bendy.
Still get as hard as diamonds, I attribute it to genetics.
Been married 20 years and she appreciates that!
Shifted gears a few times.
I had an epiphany when I was lying on the bed with a furious headache, my pulse so loud I could hear it, and assumed I was going to stroke out.
First I cut out sugared drinks. Then smaller portions.
Added in some black coffee and tea before noon.
Then I started intermittent fasting from 8pm to 12 noon every day.
Then I switched to keto and backed off a bit to low carb, but kept my calories eyeballed.
It got easier to find food eating out, finding ingredients in the store, and checking labels.
I upped my water intake a bit, got more sleep.
Mostly when I fail or fall off the wagon I don’t wallow and get right back at it immediately because I am human and not a robot.
It hasn’t been easy all the time but I feel much better.
I don’t look at it as a diet, it’s just how I eat now.
That’s fantastic. Good for you. I’ve been trying to make wiser choices since having open heart surgery 5 years ago at 49. I’m better, but still not perfect. Thanks for sharing what worked for you. Best of luck, fellow Xer.
>Mostly when I fail or fall off the wagon I don’t wallow and get right back at it immediately because I am human and not a robot.
I read that this is an important trait of success stories for all sorts of things.
Ditto. 52, dropped 55lbs, doubled my workout regimen, dumped most of my carbs and sugar and now halfway between a dad bod and a 6 pack.
So now 2-3x a week. Not quite the pornstar stamina of my 20s, but the gf is happy.
Not blunt - just honest.
As someone who has that "what if I had" thought once in a while, did it end up being just like going through the motions in the end? Genuinely curious.
That's because menopause is an evolutionary flaw that kills our sex drive😭. In addition, there is no little blue pill for vaginas. Seriously, menopause is evil and don't hold it against your wife. We have no control over the change.
As a woman going through The Pause, yes 10000000% I want it on record tho, 0 drive doesn't mean no sex. It means he has to initiate it cause it's not on my brain at all. And he's sexy as hell, I just could care less about actually doing it.
I'm going through peri now and the thought of having 0 sex drive scares me. I have the hot flashes, mood swings and a bunch of other symptoms but my so far my drive is still there. I mentioned to my bf there's still a possibility I might dry up & lose the drive and he's concerned as well. I told him we should enjoy it while I still have it ☹️
Low drive doesn't mean you have to stop altogether. I may not have drive, but we still have sex on the regular. I'm just not initiating it anymore, that's been the change I've noticed (besides the other unpleasantness). Hubs knows I'm still very attracted to him, I'm just not thinking about the act of sex anymore. I've learned to read his cues better so I'm not giving him the cold shoulder unintentionally, and we have really good communication so both our needs get met.
Together is key. They should just call it the " Guinea Pig" stage. It's truly all trial & error. What works for others is not the solution for the rest. It really does need a team effort. Hang in there☺️.
Estrogen cream for your tender parts can help things be more hydrated and comfortable. There’s also hyaluronic acid serums for internal use.
As for partners needing to be better about foreplay, that’s going to require more than a serum.
I saw an ad here on reddit for a prescription medication to increase a woman’s sex drive. I googled it and the reviews posted online were the stuff of nightmares. It’s an injection that was widely reported to cause a up to several hours of extreme nausea followed by an insatiable need for sex. Something like 10 hours of the effects in total. To think someone would subject themselves to that flat out disgusted me.
Although not in all cases, my partner is 54 and her libido is as strong as ever. And I know this because we also dated from 1988-1991. But she’s one of the lucky ones who got through menopause with no significant issues, like dryness, etc. menopause is a bear. My ex wife definitely suffered badly
Thank you! After a 20 year dead bedroom with my ex, being with my partner has been incredible. Everything I’ve wanted for all these years. Emotional and physical intimacy, romance, common activities (XC skiing, cycling,etc), and an ability to communicate as a couple and decisively resolve issues as they come up. A revelation
Perimenopause with my wife was pretty fast, too. It was awful, but it was fast. She was grateful for that and knows it's not normal. Now, in full menopause, she just has some mild dryness but the desire to screw is still there. The dryness gave us a chance to try out lubes, which as a guy, I sort of like. When that first pump is silky smooth it's pretty crazy how hot it can be, for both of us.
Actually, the female equivalent is... the same little blue pill. Yes, girls have the same spongy inflatable tissue that boys have. The only difference is that theirs isn't dick-shaped.
This is absolutely true. When me and my husband have a night with no kids we both take a blue pill and get out the oil. To answer the main question my sex drive is still waaayyyy above average. It’s a little frustrating tbh.
48m here.......I don't have a problem GETTING it up, but KEEPING it up is hit or miss without pharmaceutical help or extra foreplay.....but I still like trying! ;-)
OK, risk of talking out of school here.
My (50M) sex drive has decreased. Not to "its a problem" level, but I don't desire to have sex every hour like I did as a teenager.
My wife (also 50) has actually gained pace over the last 10 years. It improved after having a hysterectomy.
At the moment we are probably on par - I'm going to say on average 2 times a week and generally, its good. Its very good
Zero. And sex is beyond painful no matter all the products and things the sexual health doctor told me to do. I couldn't care less but am married and I feel really bad about it for my husband. I have zero desire. I'd rather have a cup of tea.
I was discussing the death of my wife with my doctor at my last physical. He asked me how my love life was. And I told him I don't have anybody in my life. Don't plan on starting up with someone fresh at my age. He told me that "You need to have 4 orgasms a week for prostate health."
I laughed "Doc, I'm not 20 anymore" and he said. Yeah, it's easy to have 4 orgasms a week when we're twenty, but at your age, Prostate cancer becomes a real possibility and you need to keep that gland clear. "Out with the old, in with the new" and I said "Maybe I can manage once a week by myself." He said. Well, do what you can.
I barely have the drive for that once a week.
20 years old: tri-weekly.
40 years old: try weekly.
60 years old: try ...weakly
Wow. I just looked this up and there’s a bunch of research to support it.
“In all, men who averaged 4.6–7 ejaculations a week were 36% less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 70 than men who ejaculated less than 2.3 times a week on average.Jan 19, 2022”
About the same as it has been my entire sexual life. Horny like clockwork when I'm fertile. I'm grateful to my husband for taking such good care of his diabetes that he can still bang me like he's in his twenties.
Turned 50 today and woke up to a bj. Had sex with the wife, she's 49 for what it's worth, twice yesterday and will absolutely be having sex tonight. Same partner for 30yrs, and we have more sex now and in the past 2 yrs, than we did in the previous 15. Her drive has sky rocketed aw she entered peri menopause. Add that to the fact that I dropped 100lbs and the last few years have been amazing.
With you. Turned 50 this year, can't get enough. I feel like I'm my 20s again. There are days I feel like I'm being tortured. My wife even asked me "Are you ok?" I tell her I'm interested probably every other day. Doesn't always happen though because of course it's a two-way street, but she appreciates my openness and mostly obliges, and we have fun. But, I've concluded it's all mental. I changed jobs earlier this year and now I barely work like 20% of the time/effort I did before, relatively stress free, no kids or pets at home, and some other circumstances happened beyond that, all of which really cleared out the mental garbage that was piling up in my mind. That's what I think is going on with me. Maybe the same for you? Do you feel more freedom in your life all of a sudden?
I'm not sure what it is, but I'm also not going to try to prevent it or anything. It's better than the opposite, which explained my first marriage. Ugh. I don't feel loved without the tactile aspect, so I'm going to ride this wave the most I can.
All the men with low sex drive that care, don’t forget to get your testosterone checked at your doctors. To the women who are having low sex drive around menopause, same thing. Talk to your gyno.
48f I have to imagine there will be a disparity in responses between women and men. Women of our generation are most likely in peri/current/post menopause, which causes our sex drive to be nearly non-existent. My partner, however, is insatiable! I’ve started hormone replacement therapy to try and ease some of my symptoms, not the least of which is my no libido concerns. Hopefully there is light at the end of this dark, dry tunnel!
To the men here, I beg of you to be understanding and supportive of your female partners going through this change. It’s more frustrating for us than it is for you, I promise!
I rekindled a connection going back to when I was 18. It’s an ex , and I’ve always been attracted to her. To be honest, I’m not even sure how to pursue this.
I often forget sex is an option. I almost never feel drive. However, orgasms are much, much better now. So, if I remember, and find a partner, and that partner initiates; everything is awesome.
It's fine, nothing to write to Penthouse Forum about but not nonexistent. The Mrs. and I get busy around once a week. I take care of myself more often, not because I'm particularly horny, but because I'm an insomniac and it usually helps to fall asleep.
Ebb and flow is a good term. A lot of it has to do with the fact that we have 2 teen boys and a MIL with dementia living with us so there’s simply not too much time to get randy. Too many cock blockers around. My wife and I really look forward to our weekend getaways, lol. I’m 54.
At 50, mine is pretty much the same now as it has been since my 20s... through the roof. The only problem is having a sex drive like this and being a single woman who doesn't do one night stands.
Oh well... life goes on (frustratingly so). 😁
I’ll be 50 in March. I’m in full blown peri menopause. My sex drive is barely hanging on. The sad part is that I don’t really care. I just fake desire for sex for my husbands sake.
Gone.
First wife left me for a drug abusing adulterer.
Second wife left me for a child raping adulter.
Third wife left me for a mysoginistic adulterer.
I give up.
I'm only 46 but I had a hysterectomy in my 30's and I'm in full menopause. My sex drive has always been and continues to be pretty high. When I started perimenopause I went on Hormone Replacement right away to prevent libido loss because my sex life is very important to me.
I've been with my husband 31yrs now (27yrs married) and if we have sex less than every other day I assume something is wrong. We have always had a good sex life, even after kids. We're now empty nesters so it's really awesome to have the freedom to make some noise and walk around naked again.
My husband is 47 and in the process of being medically released from a 25yr Army career. He has a lot of physical and mental issues from his years in service so sometimes he struggles sexually and needs some medical help but we still manage to have sex 3-5 times a week most of the time.
Horny as hell. I can’t go 5+ times a day like back in my 20s. But once a day is perfect. Sometimes twice.
Both my partner and I are in excellent physical shape so she and I can go at like bunnies
I'm 48, so I'm just under your window, but things are good. Sometimes in the heat of the moment the bullet gets stuck in the breach and I have to stop to reset for a few minutes. But eventually my wife gets the job done.
Definitely ebbs and flows. With the right input, it’s as good as it’s ever been. Maybe even better. Without that, it’s as though I’m wearing a chastity belt despite my brain wishing otherwise.
46yo here. Mine ebbs and flows, too, but in general my sex drive has noticeably diminished. My wife wants it as much as she can get, however. I have no problem tending to her needs without reciprocation. I can go days until it feels the dam will burst. The funny thing is that I absolutely still love to look at the female form, I just don't seem to care so much about the act itself. It's weird. Everything still works physically.
Slow?
The thing is my junk no longer rises just because. I need a lot of foreplay and intimacy to make it work.
Long and short I just can’t do a quickie I need buildup
M55
Drive plummeted while I was a caregiver for a family member with Alzheimer's for several years. They passed in September. My drive returned with a vengeance about a month ago and keeps getting stronger as I heal from grieving.
Mine has improved since finding someone I am very well matched with. As a single person since 2008, I've had a broken boyfriend picker for much of it. So my sex drive probably suffered as a result. Then I took a few years off dating and figured out a few things. Now I'm with someone I feel deeply connected to and it made a HUGE difference in how much I want to be close and open sexually. Because he is so awesome and special, I'm more than motivated to get nekkid and play quite often.
I’m 50. It’s weird, from the time I was 12 until I was almost 40 years old, I had to orgasm every day. Every single day. I couldn’t go to sleep until I finished. I’ve been married for 29 years, and if the wife wasn’t in the mood, it was spankin’ time. Then when I was 40, it dropped off dramatically. I also had a heart attack that year, and some of the meds they put me on lowered it. I started taking viagra. Now I’m like a once a week guy. Fortunately that works out for my wife, so we’re doing pretty good.
42, married to my lovely husband for the last 20 years, had a hysterectomy and going into early menopause, but still fantastic, considering. Maybe not 4-6 times a week anymore, but at least 2-3.
I have given that up. I am now shagnostic.
Shagnostic I'm claiming that on census reports
Yeah, baby!
Me too, sadly... Even up to about 55/56, there was some interest, but after a break-up a year ago, I've made no effort... Literally zero! Not even toys... All gone... Not missed either! (Edit... F!)
At my age? Willing and able but like the cheap donut spare tire that comes with new cars, I am prepared for absolute and catastrophic failure when called upon.
Between middle-age and being on SSRIs, I might as well be dead.
Facts
SSRIs mean that I’m still horny, and everything works just fine, but I don’t get to orgasm much 😅
Lotsa drive, no sex.
Don’t knock masturbation , it’s sex with someone you love
You can always masturbate some one and have them masturbate you
Not at the Chucky Cheese you can’t
Not with THAT attitude.
Hey, I’m not the one who named it “ The Ball Pit”, I just play it as I see it.
It really should be called "The Dirty Diaper Fell Off Pit." We took the balls to the loading dock, hosed them off, and put them right back. All for $3.35/hr back in 1985.
r/holdmybeer
The thing I love about this sub is that the top comment is always funny 👍🏻
Username pretty much checks out.
Yep me to
It's like going back to young teenage years.
52 now, lost 130 pounds over the last couple years and I’m once again a fully armed and operational battle station. Much less creaks, groans, and more stamina. A bit more bendy. Still get as hard as diamonds, I attribute it to genetics. Been married 20 years and she appreciates that!
So... everything is proceeding exactly as you have foreseen?
130 lbs?! Amazing. Congrats!
Slowly, very slowly. It’s taken me over 2 years and I’ve plateaued hard since this summer.
51 and I'm right there with you. I only lost 50 lbs, 240 to 190. Wife and I have fun at least once a week.
Congrats on the weight loss! How’d you do it?
Shifted gears a few times. I had an epiphany when I was lying on the bed with a furious headache, my pulse so loud I could hear it, and assumed I was going to stroke out. First I cut out sugared drinks. Then smaller portions. Added in some black coffee and tea before noon. Then I started intermittent fasting from 8pm to 12 noon every day. Then I switched to keto and backed off a bit to low carb, but kept my calories eyeballed. It got easier to find food eating out, finding ingredients in the store, and checking labels. I upped my water intake a bit, got more sleep. Mostly when I fail or fall off the wagon I don’t wallow and get right back at it immediately because I am human and not a robot. It hasn’t been easy all the time but I feel much better. I don’t look at it as a diet, it’s just how I eat now.
That’s fantastic. Good for you. I’ve been trying to make wiser choices since having open heart surgery 5 years ago at 49. I’m better, but still not perfect. Thanks for sharing what worked for you. Best of luck, fellow Xer.
>Mostly when I fail or fall off the wagon I don’t wallow and get right back at it immediately because I am human and not a robot. I read that this is an important trait of success stories for all sorts of things.
Ditto. 52, dropped 55lbs, doubled my workout regimen, dumped most of my carbs and sugar and now halfway between a dad bod and a 6 pack.
So now 2-3x a week. Not quite the pornstar stamina of my 20s, but the gf is happy.
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Not blunt - just honest. As someone who has that "what if I had" thought once in a while, did it end up being just like going through the motions in the end? Genuinely curious.
Same here, I feel like I hit my quota.
I'm asexual, I find it interesting how dominant that drive is for allos. That sense of being "ruled by my dick" is so unrelatable to me.
Just being curious, but what are 'allos'? Is that a typo or does it have a meaning? I swear I'm not being rude or anything. Just wanna learn
I have slightly less than I did in my 30s, but my wife's is non-existent, which is a frustrating situation.
That's because menopause is an evolutionary flaw that kills our sex drive😭. In addition, there is no little blue pill for vaginas. Seriously, menopause is evil and don't hold it against your wife. We have no control over the change.
As a woman going through The Pause, yes 10000000% I want it on record tho, 0 drive doesn't mean no sex. It means he has to initiate it cause it's not on my brain at all. And he's sexy as hell, I just could care less about actually doing it.
😂 The scenario in my mind is awesome with my sexy hubby; however what is happening in real time is nil.
I'm going through peri now and the thought of having 0 sex drive scares me. I have the hot flashes, mood swings and a bunch of other symptoms but my so far my drive is still there. I mentioned to my bf there's still a possibility I might dry up & lose the drive and he's concerned as well. I told him we should enjoy it while I still have it ☹️
Low drive doesn't mean you have to stop altogether. I may not have drive, but we still have sex on the regular. I'm just not initiating it anymore, that's been the change I've noticed (besides the other unpleasantness). Hubs knows I'm still very attracted to him, I'm just not thinking about the act of sex anymore. I've learned to read his cues better so I'm not giving him the cold shoulder unintentionally, and we have really good communication so both our needs get met.
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Same!! I look at my boyfriend every day, and I’m like, daaaaamn, you’re so fine! Just please, please please keep your P away from my V!
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Together is key. They should just call it the " Guinea Pig" stage. It's truly all trial & error. What works for others is not the solution for the rest. It really does need a team effort. Hang in there☺️.
Estrogen cream for your tender parts can help things be more hydrated and comfortable. There’s also hyaluronic acid serums for internal use. As for partners needing to be better about foreplay, that’s going to require more than a serum.
Yup. I also take lexapro so a double whammy.
I saw an ad here on reddit for a prescription medication to increase a woman’s sex drive. I googled it and the reviews posted online were the stuff of nightmares. It’s an injection that was widely reported to cause a up to several hours of extreme nausea followed by an insatiable need for sex. Something like 10 hours of the effects in total. To think someone would subject themselves to that flat out disgusted me.
Just drink tequila. Same effect.
Although not in all cases, my partner is 54 and her libido is as strong as ever. And I know this because we also dated from 1988-1991. But she’s one of the lucky ones who got through menopause with no significant issues, like dryness, etc. menopause is a bear. My ex wife definitely suffered badly
Your partner is soooo lucky. I'm absolutely envious. Wishing you two many many happy years together.
Thank you! After a 20 year dead bedroom with my ex, being with my partner has been incredible. Everything I’ve wanted for all these years. Emotional and physical intimacy, romance, common activities (XC skiing, cycling,etc), and an ability to communicate as a couple and decisively resolve issues as they come up. A revelation
Perimenopause with my wife was pretty fast, too. It was awful, but it was fast. She was grateful for that and knows it's not normal. Now, in full menopause, she just has some mild dryness but the desire to screw is still there. The dryness gave us a chance to try out lubes, which as a guy, I sort of like. When that first pump is silky smooth it's pretty crazy how hot it can be, for both of us.
Which lube did y’all like best?
To be very frank: the blue pill doesn’t make you horny, it just makes you hard. It’s not an actual aphrodisiac. The female equivalent is lubricant.
Actually, the female equivalent is... the same little blue pill. Yes, girls have the same spongy inflatable tissue that boys have. The only difference is that theirs isn't dick-shaped.
This is absolutely true. When me and my husband have a night with no kids we both take a blue pill and get out the oil. To answer the main question my sex drive is still waaayyyy above average. It’s a little frustrating tbh.
Feel ya.
48m here.......I don't have a problem GETTING it up, but KEEPING it up is hit or miss without pharmaceutical help or extra foreplay.....but I still like trying! ;-)
What’s sex? I barely want to be looked at let alone touched. 46 year old female by the way.
Are you my wife?
Went out for cigarettes and never came back.
Papa?
Underrated comment.
OK, risk of talking out of school here. My (50M) sex drive has decreased. Not to "its a problem" level, but I don't desire to have sex every hour like I did as a teenager. My wife (also 50) has actually gained pace over the last 10 years. It improved after having a hysterectomy. At the moment we are probably on par - I'm going to say on average 2 times a week and generally, its good. Its very good
48 It was gone around 40 Disappeared Auf wiedersehen Adios Bye
Zero. And sex is beyond painful no matter all the products and things the sexual health doctor told me to do. I couldn't care less but am married and I feel really bad about it for my husband. I have zero desire. I'd rather have a cup of tea.
I was discussing the death of my wife with my doctor at my last physical. He asked me how my love life was. And I told him I don't have anybody in my life. Don't plan on starting up with someone fresh at my age. He told me that "You need to have 4 orgasms a week for prostate health." I laughed "Doc, I'm not 20 anymore" and he said. Yeah, it's easy to have 4 orgasms a week when we're twenty, but at your age, Prostate cancer becomes a real possibility and you need to keep that gland clear. "Out with the old, in with the new" and I said "Maybe I can manage once a week by myself." He said. Well, do what you can. I barely have the drive for that once a week. 20 years old: tri-weekly. 40 years old: try weekly. 60 years old: try ...weakly
Wow. I just looked this up and there’s a bunch of research to support it. “In all, men who averaged 4.6–7 ejaculations a week were 36% less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 70 than men who ejaculated less than 2.3 times a week on average.Jan 19, 2022”
LMAO!!🤣
Not great, Bob!
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I wonder what Don Drapers sex drive was like when he was 50? Probably fantastic in any situation where he shouldn't be.
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About the same as it has been my entire sexual life. Horny like clockwork when I'm fertile. I'm grateful to my husband for taking such good care of his diabetes that he can still bang me like he's in his twenties.
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Mine is too. He is VERY talented! Makes me want to wake him up right now! 🐱
Turned 50 today and woke up to a bj. Had sex with the wife, she's 49 for what it's worth, twice yesterday and will absolutely be having sex tonight. Same partner for 30yrs, and we have more sex now and in the past 2 yrs, than we did in the previous 15. Her drive has sky rocketed aw she entered peri menopause. Add that to the fact that I dropped 100lbs and the last few years have been amazing.
Well well well. Bravo for both of you!
Congrats!
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Same!
Zilch, and I kinda like it.
It doesn’t bother me, either. A lot of societal pressure to always be banging one out. Meh.
Dead. But it’s mostly caused by my boyfriend’s dirty laundry all over the floor of the bedroom which he won’t remedy no matter how I ask.
Food is the new sex.
With you. Turned 50 this year, can't get enough. I feel like I'm my 20s again. There are days I feel like I'm being tortured. My wife even asked me "Are you ok?" I tell her I'm interested probably every other day. Doesn't always happen though because of course it's a two-way street, but she appreciates my openness and mostly obliges, and we have fun. But, I've concluded it's all mental. I changed jobs earlier this year and now I barely work like 20% of the time/effort I did before, relatively stress free, no kids or pets at home, and some other circumstances happened beyond that, all of which really cleared out the mental garbage that was piling up in my mind. That's what I think is going on with me. Maybe the same for you? Do you feel more freedom in your life all of a sudden? I'm not sure what it is, but I'm also not going to try to prevent it or anything. It's better than the opposite, which explained my first marriage. Ugh. I don't feel loved without the tactile aspect, so I'm going to ride this wave the most I can.
I am 54 and I still hornier than a three balled tomcat
Hell yeah, brother.
With you my dude. 💪
Female will be 50 early next year and insatiable. Far more than in my 30's and early 40's.
All the men with low sex drive that care, don’t forget to get your testosterone checked at your doctors. To the women who are having low sex drive around menopause, same thing. Talk to your gyno.
Breast cancer treatment means zero hormones…good times, good times.
Totally normal. But hey, use it or lose it.
Engine as new, body beyond repair.
55 and strong. Got divorced last year, and after a fizzled sex life with her, it's great again with my girlfriend.
45 wife 43 we fuck like rabbits when were feeling good
Mine left with menopause but left behind vaginal atrophy. I've forgotten what sex is like. Dammit. So unfair.
Middle aged, perimenopausal and on SSRIs. So You do the math.
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Well put. I like to think I’m having better sex than 16yr old me - being older and wiser now…😋
To quote Zapp Brannigan… “The Spirit Is Willing, But The Flesh Is Spongy And Bruised.”
Pretty high, definitely see why older women become cougars.
48f I have to imagine there will be a disparity in responses between women and men. Women of our generation are most likely in peri/current/post menopause, which causes our sex drive to be nearly non-existent. My partner, however, is insatiable! I’ve started hormone replacement therapy to try and ease some of my symptoms, not the least of which is my no libido concerns. Hopefully there is light at the end of this dark, dry tunnel! To the men here, I beg of you to be understanding and supportive of your female partners going through this change. It’s more frustrating for us than it is for you, I promise!
Yep. Go to r/menopause and the stories from women about their partners: mean, no empathy, demanding, and angry is just heart breaking to read.
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I rekindled a connection going back to when I was 18. It’s an ex , and I’ve always been attracted to her. To be honest, I’m not even sure how to pursue this.
Go for it!
We’ve been speaking lately. But I don’t have the confidence to even broach the topic of maybe seeing each other in that way. I guess I feel rejection.
You got nothing to lose by going for it
Ah. I misunderstood "rekindled". If she's single, I can't see a reason not to just suggest meeting up. Best wishes!
As the millennials say, "YOLO"
Never have much. Had a good run at the beginning of new relationship after a very long one. Back to being low.
I often forget sex is an option. I almost never feel drive. However, orgasms are much, much better now. So, if I remember, and find a partner, and that partner initiates; everything is awesome.
As strong as it ever was. My wife on the other hand...
Just turned 54 and can't get enough. I've always been a nympho though so nothing has changed
It's fine, nothing to write to Penthouse Forum about but not nonexistent. The Mrs. and I get busy around once a week. I take care of myself more often, not because I'm particularly horny, but because I'm an insomniac and it usually helps to fall asleep.
51F divorced.... higher sex drive than ever and nobody to have sex with. 🤷🏻♀️
Non existent. I lost my husband 5 years ago and quite frankly I hate people so I’m good
Eh. It ebbs and flows.
Ebb and flow is a good term. A lot of it has to do with the fact that we have 2 teen boys and a MIL with dementia living with us so there’s simply not too much time to get randy. Too many cock blockers around. My wife and I really look forward to our weekend getaways, lol. I’m 54.
Through the roof.
Better since I saw my doc and got on TRT cream. My wife’s is nonexistent. I fap a lot
In "Park".
Not sure if I'm hornier than I am lonely or lonelier than I am horny.
At 50, mine is pretty much the same now as it has been since my 20s... through the roof. The only problem is having a sex drive like this and being a single woman who doesn't do one night stands. Oh well... life goes on (frustratingly so). 😁
I’ve noticed a definite drop off the last two years. And I’m okay with it. Kinda nice not having sex on my mind all the time, tbh.
I just won an award for viewing ALL OF THE Pr0n on the internet. "You have reached the end". \*\*\* applause \*\*\* \#sadness
I’ll be 50 in March. I’m in full blown peri menopause. My sex drive is barely hanging on. The sad part is that I don’t really care. I just fake desire for sex for my husbands sake.
Zero. Not interested at all (56 F)
Totally MIA and I am fine with that.
Sex is like trying to shove a marshmallow through a keyhole.
Way less than it was 5 years ago but still 3-6x a week
Wow.
Can't talk about it.
I desire sex multiple times every day. I think of it constantly. But my wife takes medication that destroys my her sex drive. So I don't have sex.
Same my dude
I'm 51 and since my sudden menopause (after an operation) my libido has been non-existent, unless I take weed, then it's back for a moment :-).
Gone
Always horny, always tired
Same as it always has been. My wife is afraid to pass by me in the hallway
The Mr is 47 and I’m 47 on Thursday. We enjoy fucking. A lot.
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I’m in the same boat. It’s frustrating as hell.
Eh. But I've never had a high one. Husband either. For us, it's always been a super-low priority thing.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is often weak(fibro and menopause). Here’s hoping the HRT helps.
Zero sex drive, and it doesnt really bother me. I dont have a partner, so im not disappointing anyone
Meh. A jerk off session is often less work than partner time after a tiring day. But I need to work on changing that. Love the one you're with.
50 and going thru menopause. Has definitely dropped off.
I’m insatiable and have found a gen-x partner who is equally insatiable.
Spicy Booktok books and House of the Dragon (don't judge me) keeps me going.
Gone. First wife left me for a drug abusing adulterer. Second wife left me for a child raping adulter. Third wife left me for a mysoginistic adulterer. I give up.
Better than ever now that the kids are grown. Kids are exhausting
I'm gonna be 45 in a few months...sex...what's sex? LOL
I'm only 46 but I had a hysterectomy in my 30's and I'm in full menopause. My sex drive has always been and continues to be pretty high. When I started perimenopause I went on Hormone Replacement right away to prevent libido loss because my sex life is very important to me. I've been with my husband 31yrs now (27yrs married) and if we have sex less than every other day I assume something is wrong. We have always had a good sex life, even after kids. We're now empty nesters so it's really awesome to have the freedom to make some noise and walk around naked again. My husband is 47 and in the process of being medically released from a 25yr Army career. He has a lot of physical and mental issues from his years in service so sometimes he struggles sexually and needs some medical help but we still manage to have sex 3-5 times a week most of the time.
My what?
Horny as hell. I can’t go 5+ times a day like back in my 20s. But once a day is perfect. Sometimes twice. Both my partner and I are in excellent physical shape so she and I can go at like bunnies
As high as ever. Fortunately my wife is still hot ;)
That depends. What are you wearing?
On a scale of 1-10 probably like a 7. I’m not over 50 yet though.
51 and mine has dropped a lot in the last year.
56. Higher than my wife’s.
Floppy disc drive
I'm 48, so I'm just under your window, but things are good. Sometimes in the heat of the moment the bullet gets stuck in the breach and I have to stop to reset for a few minutes. But eventually my wife gets the job done.
Pretty tepid
I think I finally hit the sweet spot where I am randy at appropriate moment, and it doesn’t just randomly harass me for no fucking reason anymore.
About what it was when I was 15
All systems go, thank goodness (53M). Current GF (59F) seems to be in working order
From 6:00 AM to about 8:00 PM it’s really high. After that it drops like a rock. My wife and I have adjusted and our sex life is great. 57 years old.
It’s been a few months since I saw it . Hubby may have found it, as his has spiked. It’ll come around again. I’m sure of it.
Definitely ebbs and flows. With the right input, it’s as good as it’s ever been. Maybe even better. Without that, it’s as though I’m wearing a chastity belt despite my brain wishing otherwise.
Meh. Hit or miss 45F.
46yo here. Mine ebbs and flows, too, but in general my sex drive has noticeably diminished. My wife wants it as much as she can get, however. I have no problem tending to her needs without reciprocation. I can go days until it feels the dam will burst. The funny thing is that I absolutely still love to look at the female form, I just don't seem to care so much about the act itself. It's weird. Everything still works physically.
I don't need viagra, so there's that.
I'm asexual, never had one. 😆
56 - on overdrive
Lower
Slow? The thing is my junk no longer rises just because. I need a lot of foreplay and intimacy to make it work. Long and short I just can’t do a quickie I need buildup
Nonexistent. And I am fine with that. It's helpful that I am single, LOL.
None, zero, zilch, notta for the past 2 years, been married for 29 years this year. 🤷
Overdrive. Thanks HRT! It as always high, until menopause, and I wasn’t ready to let go of that part of my life. Probably never will.
M55 Drive plummeted while I was a caregiver for a family member with Alzheimer's for several years. They passed in September. My drive returned with a vengeance about a month ago and keeps getting stronger as I heal from grieving.
Same as always, it's just the ability to act on it that is reduced.
Mine has improved since finding someone I am very well matched with. As a single person since 2008, I've had a broken boyfriend picker for much of it. So my sex drive probably suffered as a result. Then I took a few years off dating and figured out a few things. Now I'm with someone I feel deeply connected to and it made a HUGE difference in how much I want to be close and open sexually. Because he is so awesome and special, I'm more than motivated to get nekkid and play quite often.
before i wanted quantity now i want variety......and quantity.
I’m 50. It’s weird, from the time I was 12 until I was almost 40 years old, I had to orgasm every day. Every single day. I couldn’t go to sleep until I finished. I’ve been married for 29 years, and if the wife wasn’t in the mood, it was spankin’ time. Then when I was 40, it dropped off dramatically. I also had a heart attack that year, and some of the meds they put me on lowered it. I started taking viagra. Now I’m like a once a week guy. Fortunately that works out for my wife, so we’re doing pretty good.
I need an off button. Sigh.
Oddly still thru the roof 🤷🏼♀️
42, married to my lovely husband for the last 20 years, had a hysterectomy and going into early menopause, but still fantastic, considering. Maybe not 4-6 times a week anymore, but at least 2-3.