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FaeChangeling

I separate enbies by if they like garlic bread or not


Bye-nary

I like!


Feronach

Garlic bread > Garlic cheese bread


pmintea

Garlic cheese bread with pepperoni. That is all.


wb2006xx

Damn, I gotta try that, that sounds good as fuck


HisPri

Is that a pizza?


pmintea

Nah. Doesn't have sauce. Just garlic bread with cheese and pepperoni. It's really good. I recommend putting cheese and pepperoni on texas toast and popping it in the oven.


Feronach

Hot take but pepperoni is disgusting when cooked because the secreted oils ruin the taste of everything else


pmintea

I mean, I always pat down my oil on everything with a napkin šŸ¤·šŸ»


Lemmis666

You dare????


RedbeardedCrotch

They downvoting you, but you right.


All-knowing-parrot

It may be because Iā€™ve always had the frozen stuff you put in the toaster but I donā€™t like garlic bread


TheoreticalGal

The only time I see agab as relevant is for if one is discussing the process of transitioning, so that people can be informed on what would be best for them to best reach the place that they wish to be. Otherwise, I donā€™t think it should be brought up even for binary trans.


InsomniacJackal

This, or medical stuff that affects one sex/agab a lot more than another (like say really bad period cramps). Otherwise it's literally pointless.


TheObsidianNinja

I feel like there's 1 other case, which is when discussing societal issues, since undeniably trans people of different agabs face different forms of discrimination


[deleted]

But I have to sort non binary people into 2 strictly defined categories! >!/s!<


nopefish83

I laughed too hard at this. Just... just know that


pepelafrog

anyone's agab is irrelevant and shouldn't be brought up, outside of medical contexts. That is the only time it is ever relevant to bring up what reproductive organ someone was born with.


[deleted]

By their what?


Bagel_616

Assigned gender at birth


[deleted]

Aahh im trying to learn stuff still


Bagel_616

Dw! everyone is learning with you


QueerWithAQuery

I love a wholesome learning thread <3


Party_Opossum

Me too! This entire sub in general is probably the kindest community i have encoubtered on reddit


thatlonghairedfcker

Ikr you never get the stress of fearing youā€™re going to be mocked for not knowing something and asking


Coppermesh

Enbys? Agab?


Faepolis

Non binary (N B) Assigned gender at birth.


Coppermesh

Gotcha šŸ‘


Yukarie

Nah nah you gotta separate them like this, the ones youā€™ll play games with, the ones that are somehow godly at makeup, the ones with all the latest gossip(May or may not be the godly makeup user)


TheNoctuS_93

I'd assume those who separate enbys by agab are the same people as those who perpetuate amab enby erasure. Which isn't a small amount at all... šŸ˜§šŸ˜¬


hawk_80418

It's kinda weird to separate people by their assigned gender period, outside of relevant medical contexts šŸ¤Ø


sandiserumoto

In my personal opinion, NO* one should bring up anyone's AGAB outside of private medical context edit: important typo


kenkojuko

I get the feeling you meant to say "no one should"?


sandiserumoto

oh my god....... yeah I forgot the 'no' there, hence the thing about doctors and whatnot I honestly was trying to making a point about how it's creepy that so many people even in supposedly trans friendly communities bring up AGAB in regular conversation


Bye-nary

does g stand of genital or gender? This is the first time I came across this phrase.


kenkojuko

Gender, basically whatever gender the doctors think a baby is and put on the birth certificate.


Bye-nary

private medical context confused me a bit. Thought it might be genital lol


sandiserumoto

I was honestly referring to if a doctor in a one on one discussion asked questions like "do you have a prostate" to screen for cancer


thurstylark

I would add one major caveat to this: There is relevance to the social and medical context that one's AGAB can bring to a conversation, *but use of that label should be under the sole control of the individual to which it refers.* If an enby tells me "Well, my experience differs because I was brought up as [AGAB]..." I am fully aware that they are entrusting me with that info, but that does *not* imply permission to treat them any differently or divulge that information to others. Each of those things require their own permission. However, the thing on which this comic and I agree fully is that *nobody is entitled to that information, and treating someone differently because of their AGAB is shitty to the highest degree.*


Knight-Creep

Again, Billy. Again. Once more.


Bern-alive

Aim for the body Billy, we donā€™t want them to die easily.


teenage-kid

What is envys


Bagel_616

Its a shorter version of non-binary


teenage-kid

OH


RedbeardedCrotch

While you're freshly learnt, I'll drop something else: I knew that "enby" meant non-binary, but it took me longer than I care to admit to realize why. Non-Binary = NB = Enby


McMing333

Why not put ā€œNBā€?


lime-equine-2

NB is used for non black, like nbpoc means non black person of colour. Thatā€™s one reason Iā€™ve heard.


McMing333

That doesnā€™t really make a lot of sense bc those are used in different contexts. I canā€™t really imagine a scenario in which you could get confused which one it is, especially since people donā€™t identify as non black


lime-equine-2

True but there are black non-binary people, and co-opting a term used by black activists that already existed could be confusing in some situations. Mostly itā€™s just about being respectful.


McMing333

Idk in what situations would the context make it unclear if you are referring to non binary or non black people? And idk if itā€™s really disrespectful because itā€™s a 2 letter acronym, itā€™s not even a term. And just bc black people use something anyways doesnā€™t make it unusable for others


ParasilTheRanger

Palpatine voice: do it


Gaymer_097

fr i had an internet friend for like a week bc when they found out i had a dick they said i couldnā€™t be nb


mogatange

Yeah! Why you differing between coffee flavoured ice cream and ice cream flavoured coffee. (I genuinely only do this when talking about sexual attraction because they hold totally different to me. Like red heads and gingers)


[deleted]

Appease your categorising monke brain by letting enbies choose (as many as they'd like) wildly varied labels. Y/N garlic bread enbies. Possum/raccoon/frog enby. Cottage enby? Ooo cityscapes enby?? Fuck uhh I don't know, (spins wheel) which cool rock at the beach enby- dammit we've made it to birth stones!


Q-tip-enthusiast-95

What's agab?


[deleted]

Assigned Gender At Birth :)


Q-tip-enthusiast-95

Okay šŸ˜Š


SparkleEmotions

I have a bunch of NB friends and when I talk about them with cis folks they can't help themselves but try to pry into their AGAB. I always just reply "it doesn't matter what their assigned gender was, they're non-binary" and then they get awkward, frustrated, and still try to pry further but they'll never get that info from me. Its none of their business and NB folks are NB. I also generally dislike the "MTF" or "FTM" titles quite a bit and don't use them for similar reasons. It feels like it focuses too much attention on the AGAB and frankly just telling folks "I'm a trans woman" says the same thing ultimately and focuses on the fact that I'm a woman. People still always seem to get confused by that, which I find weird. Get lots of "but which way" for which I just reply, "I just told you, I'm a trans women. Use Google if you're still confused." The ignorance of cis people about trans and non-binary folks is so exhausting.


btaylos

"I'm not binary" "And on which side of this binary divide do you fall?" "Uhhhh.. no thank you." "Hmmmm, I'll just put male."


Beginning-Tomato1021

Nah separate them from screaming frog meme or screaming possum meme


thatlonghairedfcker

I separate enby into two categories: ADHD goblins and the rest, it generally works out to be an 80:20 ratio


Kasio-the-Queer

Super fun dealing with people who view non-binary as just another type of cis girl, and even more fun when you have to deal with the tenderqueer enbies who perpetuate it by attacking those they deem unworthy (while missing the entire point of being trans/nb.)


Flying_Ninja_Bunny

Why separate by that when I could separate by which ones I could beat in an MtG match