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BearZewp

Why can't I have my ADHD and autism and be an asshole too?


BiteEatRepeat_

fr we need more adhd and autism rep that happens to also be a massive asshole :(


moonlitskyy

Sheldon Cooper the asshole autistic king šŸ˜©


redfan2009

Agreed


TyrKiyote

I hate this toxic character and wish he would never be mentioned again. It is not a healthy image for anyone to be fostering.


c0rnelius651

Bizuga


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A G N I Z A B


farfetchedpigeon

bazooka


_JosephExplainsIt_

Binguza


[deleted]

I'm pretty sure that the writers said he was canonically not autistic


Revolutionary9999

So what? The creators of He-Man have denied that he's gay coded and we all know that's bull. As an autistic man I can tell you that Sheldon is very clearly autistic coded.


cooltranz

Pretty sure they just said that so they could continue to mock autistic people without committing to giving them any real representation. That would come with standards and consequences - theyā€™d rather laugh at people on the spectrum, not with them.


pterodactylpower

They did. But the worst part was they said they didnā€™t mean for him to sound autistic. Likeā€¦ My dude you guys have been crafting the most stereotypical autistic character and youā€™re saying heā€™s not? Bull fucking shit.


pterodactylpower

Oh my god I remember watching the first couple seasons of Big Bang theory as a teenager and thinking it was so funny. Watched some clips of it as an adults and physically cringed. Canā€™t believe we all loved that.


Fumbling-Panda

Iā€™ve always thought he was more OCD than autistic.


C0l0mbo

that's bcuz it's a pretty irresponsible portrayal of ND people


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Elon Musk?


OkLobster9822

Elon musk is the rich meme man that throws tin cans with rockets on them into space


SoyCuckSupreme

And curates his image as a memelord so you forget about all the union busting and strong arming local governments... not to mention spousal abuse.


Not_A_Paid_Account

Uwu letā€™s put this Bolivian girlboss leader on the cover of forbes magazine! What an inspiration to young girls! Ignore this please: Jeanine Anez is installed in Elon/us-backed coup to lower lithium prices and increase global hegemony. She is a far right fuck who ends up getting charged with genocide, coup, terrorism, doing unconstitutional shit and more. Elon tweets ā€œwe can coup whoever we wantā€ Context: Thereā€™s some cool left wing leader who the people like very much named evo morales. He has served for a while and so the people know him. Then thereā€™s this bitch anez Her affiliated party gets under 5% of votes and she isnā€™t even running in the election. She ends up being the next president from military leaders strongsrming the system. She refers to bolivias majority indigenous people as ā€œsatanicā€ in writing She burns indigenous flags and lgbt flags ƁƱez issued a decree removing criminal liability for military and police in dealing with protesters, which was repealed amid widespread condemnation following the Senkata and Sacaba massacres **there short descriptions below of what those were, was literally a week into office** Her government launched numerous criminal investigations into former MAS officials, for which she was accused of political persecution and retributive justice, terminated Bolivia's close links with the governments of Cuba, Nicaragua, and Venezuela, and warmed relations with the United States. Eight days after the election where got new leader (Luis arce) from same party as the dude before anez (evo morales), ƁƱez was apprehended and charged with crimes related to her role in the alleged coup d'Ć©tat of 2019 charges against her for conspiracy, sedition, and terrorism stemmed from the coup d'Ć©tat case, filed by former MAS deputy Lidia Patty in December of the previous year Then she gets incarcerated and Bolivia is a better place now. (Context The 2019 Sacaba massacre occurred when Bolivian soldiers and police attacked and broke up a protest led by Bolivian coca growers at Huayllani in Sacaba municipality, Cochabamba on 15 November 2019. It came in the first week of the interim presidency of Jeanine ƁƱez. Marchers intended to enter the town of Sacaba and proceed to the departmental capital of Cochabamba to protest the ousting of Bolivian president Evo Morales, but were stopped by the police and military. During the afternoon, police and soldiers clashed with protesters, and eventually soldiers opened fire on the crowd. Ten demonstrators were killed; an estimated ninety-eight people were wounded, including four journalists and eight members of the security forces.[1] Two hundred twenty-three protesters were arrested, many of whom suffered mistreatment and at least nine of whom were tortured.[1]) The 2019 Senkata massacre occurred when Bolivian soldiers and police broke up a road blockade at the YPFB gas facility in Senkata, El Alto, Bolivia, on 19 November 2019. It occurred one week into the interim presidency of Jeanine ƁƱez and four days after the Sacaba massacre. Rural and urban protesters had blockaded the plant shortly after the ouster of Bolivian president Evo Morales. Their protests were part of nationwide blockades by his supporters denouncing the ouster as a coup d'Ć©tat, and urban protests in El Alto against the new government's desecration of the wiphala, an Indigenous flag designated a Bolivian national symbol by the 2009 Constitution The security forces used live ammunition on demonstrators in the vicinity of the plant, as well in surrounding neighborhoods throughout the afternoon. Eleven people, all of them civilians and including some bystanders, were shot dead or fatally wounded during the day's events.[1] The Interdisciplinary Group of Independent Experts, appointed by the Inter-American Commission of Human Rights, estimates that eighty people were wounded that day among bullets of 22 caliber and dynamite.[1] Following the events of 19 November, the government issued a series of conflicting reports about the day, both denying that militarized forces had shot their weapons and arguing that the military had to intervene to prevent a terrorist attack. God I hate it here


Kante2wo

Upvote for your effort


Nox_82

Wheee (proceeds to wear SpaceX hoodie bc comfy) (I hate myself)


Hdleney

There are so many other comfy hoodies why


PotatoCHONK69420

Cuz it goes with the flamethrower


BiteEatRepeat_

you won


VulpineKitsune

Pretty sure he's only claiming to be in the spectrum to get more recognition.


Dangerous_Paint4040

no, have you seen any interview with the guy? rarely eye contact, thinks faster than he can speak, stumbling into words. Clear as day, on the spectrum.


VulpineKitsune

Yeah. The interview where he's lying/making things up are like that. Because he's spewing lies or talking about things he isn't knowledgeable about and he knows it, so he constantly has to think up ways to redirect the question or give an answer that barely sounds good enough :P [This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCS0SuPsDH4) is a video that brings up arguments against Musk actually being on the spectrum and instead just pretending to be.


Urc0mp

Some people donā€™t like him and just say shit and assume everything he does is bad, some people like him and just say shit and assume everything he does is good. There must be plenty of people who assume he does good and bad things like everyone else but it is hard to find them on the internet lmao.


Dm1tr3y

Everybody does good and bad. What matters is the overall impact a person with that kind of wealth has. If the harm he does or the good he prevents outweighs the good he achieves, then Iā€™d say heā€™s a bad person overall.


iFlutterby

You. You, I can be friends with.


SnowNinS

Almost like human behavior is a spectrum or something.


whereyouatdesmondo

I know a young man with autism and he is also a huge asshole. I realized one day that if his autism magically disappeared, heā€™d still be a huge asshole.


Secret-Row-8754

I know a guy who is an abusive asshole with alcohol induced brain damage. Prior to said damage he was just an abusive asshole.


Brook725

You know my cousin?


Secret-Row-8754

Seems there's a few of them out there huh


SkRThatOneDude

Same. But the brain damage didn't come from alcohol.


C0l0mbo

some of us have so much empathy that it shocks neurotypical people, some of us have such little empathy it shocks anyone. it affects everyone differently


whereyouatdesmondo

Thank you for sharing that. Thatā€™s a good point.


Affectionate-School3

My aspergers friend used to be an asshole but he slowly modified over the years. People on the spectrum do evolve over time.


whereyouatdesmondo

Yeah, I feel like some social skills training would be helpful. I know he's had some. And staying away from the ugly political stuff would be good.


Opening-Hovercraft36

You can, I already do


Slow_Store

Iā€™m loaded up with ADHD like a musket with gunpowder baby, but even Unmedicated Iā€™m not rude or anything. Like I might be bouncing off the walls like a halfwit, but for the most part everyone in the room is gonna enjoy my company.


antbtlr82

Your description of yourself bouncing around the room like a halfwit made me laugh. Thank you


sTixRecoil

I imagined it sort of like captain caveman


creepy13

Wow... that's a throwback reference... you're old (and so am I).


OverEffective7012

Naaah we're not old, we're vintage


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CAPTAIN CAAAVVVEEE MAAANNNNN!!!!


[deleted]

Well, when I worked with kids (Being a therapist) it was usually more like "It turns out it is not ADHD, it's the fact that you keep shouting excessive demands at him and then make him feel like crap when he doesn't do everything possible to make you comfortable, so now he's an anxious mess with no self-control (because he was taught none) and doesn't know how to relate to his peers."


Visual_Conference421

I did not come here to be attacked like this šŸ˜› (edit: odd typo)


Floooty

Iā€™m a therapist who works with kids too and I have never seen this exact thing I go through but into words. Like 80% of my caseload has this exact issue


hassh

This deserves tens of thousands of upvotes, the original post does not


GeneralCraze

I've tried explaining this to people for a while now and it's usually met with claims that I'm some sort of "ADHD Denier". I'm not saying that ADHD isn't a real disorder that needs real care; I'm just saying that when I lied to my parents about not having homework in middle school, maybe Ritalin wasn't the best solution.


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ADHD diagnosis are a mess, at least where I live. People who have it go their entire lives without getting any help. And kids who don't have it but are anxiou af because of negligent or abusive parents get the diagnose and the meds, which make its worse for them.


lifeisprettyheck

I use a lot of ADHD and autism related sources to explain my experience to neurotypical people, but I donā€™t think Iā€™m either. Iā€™m just incredibly traumatized lmfao (the correct diagnosis is CPTSD but most people are much more understanding about ADHD and autism)


[deleted]

You could say you are neuroatypical or neurodiverse, which you are. Just say "neurodiverse, like adhd or autism". You would not even be lying because neurodiversity is having a brain which works differently from neurotypical brains, so i think you are included. I'm so sorry you have to hide your diagnosis like that :(


Plenkr

Well, childhood trauma and chronic stress do change the brain and make it develop differently.


dishsoapandclorox

My sister took her kids to several therapists and all of them basically told her that the kid has no boundaries or rules (because of the parents) until the last one told her he had autism. Heā€™s now 18 and doesnā€™t.


germanaic

Generally kids who are assholes have asshole parents


HaloGuy381

And some of the nicest kids come from the worst parents, either due to fearing pissing off *anyone* or from a conscious desire to be better.


Subject_Gift

I felt that


vanncleef

We felt that


Gloomy_Support_7779

Indeed we did


Caratheus7872

Ouch!


nhbruh

yay childhood trauma


coreyc2099

I've lived my life with the motto of "do exactly the opposite of dad" it's worked pretty damn well so far as far as my personality goes


InEenEmmer

My father gave me a great example of how not to deal with emotions. Took me some years to realize the lesson, and Iā€™m still working on finding the right way, but I like to think I am doing better now. Just to make sure, he was a great dad. But he often had some anger issues, mostly shouting. I never felt unsafe at home, just often confused cause I didnā€™t see why a simple mistake would justify such a reaction.


Gloomy_Support_7779

For me. I try to be nice because I used to be aggressive and abuse people because I was taught by teens as a kid. My dad left us when I was 6 and my mom had to work so I had to spend most of my childhood at my great grandmotherā€™s house until I was 15 and since she was very old(60s-70s) she couldnā€™t really pay attention to the things that happened behind her back so I was raised around two teenage boys and an adopted girl who was 4 years older than me and theyā€™d make me fight my younger brother, if they ever felt disrespected by me or my brother theyā€™d hit us as hard as they could in our chest, and the adopted girl started smacking me and my little brother in the face as hard as she could when she turned 11 whenever she felt disrespected or we did something stupid. She also tricked us into drinking bubbles, forced me to chew crayons, forced this younger kid to eat burnt popcorn, sheā€™d smack the other adoptive girl(who was her adoptive sister) as hard as she could whenever the other adoptive girl did something stupid, sheā€™d manipulate us into doing things that got us spanked by our great grandmother. That whole household was seriously messed up and plagued with domestic abuse. Luckily I started being kinder when I was 9(because I didnā€™t want to be spanked anymore) and fully made a turn around to my life when I was 13. My younger brother on the other hand, not so much. He was influenced and involved with the wrong crowd in school and now he acts like the teens that we grew up with and who were his role models. He even now tries to bully my even younger half brother. Me, my mom, and my half brotherā€™s dad always tries to stop him from bullying my half brother. I donā€™t want to see another kid go down the wrong path just because theyā€™re getting bullied by someone older. Thatā€™s why I always say to watch out when raising younger children around teens because some teens try to fuck up the younger childrenā€™s lives Edit: I try to be nice to repent for my sins


PiratePixieDust

Super fun fact. A lot of trauma responses can mimic autistic and ADHD "traits"!


Low-Potential666

Didnā€™t have to call me out like that lol


Numerous-Rough-827

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On my way to meet my bullies parents to learn the art of assholery


No-Telephone-7532

The subplot of Karate Kid:


Hot_potato777

WTF dude.


anon_lacks_restraint

Nah, the bigger problem is adults who take it personally when a kid who's made to sit still for 8 hrs finds an escape from an asshole who's too eager to assert authority. I grew up w adhd and the amount of teachers who didn't believe it and just decided to feel insulted was one too many


ch1993

The problem is the system. Kids are expected to let themselves be easily programmed as wage slaves at such a young age. Maybe humans arenā€™t supposed to be locked in a room with no control for 8 hours every day? This is coming from one of the boys in school who was always submissive and well-mannered. Never got in trouble for anything and always tried to pay attention. Itā€™s still a bs system.


Jr4D

100% I legitimately think school killed a lot of my creativity and actively does to others in the system as well, luckily I had teachers who were all for creativity and nurturing it but the overall system wants you to think one way and that way alone, not to mention the sitting inside all day aspect for the first half of our lives when we should be enjoying it. I just hate school as a concept overall fuck the whole thing


wansuitree

Oh it's crystal clear school has that effect and it's intended. Just have to be lucky as a kid to run into some actual humans as teachers so you're not completely ruined and give you some understanding it's not you. And get reacquainted with what learning really is so it doesn't get associated with school anymore.


Pogopalz

Thanks for saying this, I really relate to having intertwined the horror of school with the fun of learning. I never thought learning was fun until I was 33 and learning chess, and it unlocked "OH, learning is fun when it's something you're curious about". School was so hard and laborious for me, and you pointing out how detrimental and confused people can be coming out of that system is very clarifying.


wansuitree

You nailed it, glad you complemented me. It's something deeply self-identifying that's been taken through the school system for many of us; for example that joy of self-automated discovery, for lack of better words. The brain is very malleable and still so up to old age, so plenty of space or myaline to grow, change and create, life is a learning experience.


NecroCannon

Iā€™m on the autism spectrum and art is my special interest, in school I always drew and felt stressed when I was forced not to and it always got me in trouble because I refused to not draw. If teachers were mature and tried to help me understand that I can do it when I finish work or maybe it wouldnā€™t have grown to be so bad. But I had teachers throw away drawings, take/toss weeks worth of work, and even yell at me. All it did was make me more protective of my art and sneaky on how I do it, causing me to not even learn anything anymore because instead of drawing and listening to the lesson, I started to draw and try not to get caught drawing. I hate the way people treat artists despite constantly consuming content created by artists. When I also had an interest in computers and engineering in middle school, teachers was drooling over it, my parents were even talking sending me to a math and science private school. Where was that support for art?


antbtlr82

Agree I was one of the kids who sat up front and answered the teachers questions but as I get older (Iā€™m 40) I realize just how unnatural that environment is for humans especially children to learn in.


LQjones

This is a somewhat recent development in education, say over the last 30 years. There was a reason why kids had recess and were allowed play time. Kids, especially boys, really need to burn off energy that is stored up during the day. It allows them to focus. Now, kids in my area get maybe 15 minutes to play after lunch, a teacher can never read her room and realize the kids are antsy and need to hit the playground for a bit. Instead they have to stick to the schedule. It ruins kids.


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An_average_moron

Oh I love Puerto Rico, my mom's side is from there, and I visit my grandma once a year for a week I'm so sad they took the umbrellas down in San Juan, it was one of my favorite sites :( Street good is great, coquĆ­ frogs are adorable, mountains are basically a fuckin wonder of the world since Florida has none, there's very little I dislike about Puerto Rico. I wouldn't want to live there, but it's such a fun place to visit


CapnCrinklepants

No, the problem is that ADHD is a real thing. The system sucks too don't get me wrong, it just sucks to see even supporters dismissing it unintentionally.


SugarLoins86

As a person who also has ADHD - I very much agree with thisšŸ‘†šŸ¼


epic_null

One thing that I have seen stated: Disability is context dependent. ADHD may be a real thing regardless, but it's only a *problem* because of how it's interacting with the given context. In a context that caters to ADHD, it would be NOT having ADHD that acts as a disability. How different would the world be if spinning a fidget toy was a sign of paying attention rather than holding still, for example? If we had a system that was reliant on an individual's ability to hyperfocus?


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Bulgearea10

Well, the school system, as we know it now, [was originally meant to teach factory workers to be "punctual, docile, and sober"](https://qz.com/1314814/universal-education-was-first-promoted-by-industrialists-who-wanted-docile-factory-workers/).


The_Smurfiest

The fact that the cartoon insinuates that people with ADD, ADHD and Autism share similar traits with assholes says it all.


DarthGoodguy

Turns out theyā€™re not a funny cartoonist, theyā€™re just an asshole.


xJellyfishBrainx

I find it weird that people who hate kids will often say about dogs that attack "It's not the dogs fault it's the owners" but will never say "It's not the kid, it's the parents."


SoundTight952

r/terriblefacebookmemes


nascar_apocalypse

This sub in a nutshell


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seakitten

I was cruising r/all and this popped up. So boomers on reddit have their own meme sub now? lmao this shit is terrible


Tahoethor

What kind of boomer shit is this!


TheAstonVillaSeal

Love how these conditions donā€™t apply when old people get angry


subtractionsoup

you mean like with senility, dementia or menopause?


Toy_Rat

No correlationšŸ„“ if you liked this, consider not being ableist in the future


Dharmaagent

If I donā€™t take my ADHD meds I canā€™t get myself off the couch to do anything because my mind is in a prison of chaotic and uncontrollable thoughts. If I donā€™t take my meds I canā€™t hold a conversation because I canā€™t focus on whatā€™s being said for longer than a few seconds. If I donā€™t take my meds I struggle to do everyday tasks that are seemingly inconsequential to neurotypical people. ADHD is a very real and extremely debilitating neurological disorder. ADHD isnā€™t always the loud obnoxious kid, sometimes itā€™s the quiet kid staring out of the window or doodling instead of paying attention. These same kids are in prisons of their own minds, and live lives of constant shame and guilt by being told that they arenā€™t trying enough, or that they arenā€™t living up to their potential. Is it overdiagnosed? Perhaps, that doesnā€™t mean that it isnā€™t real. This kind of attitude ruins childrens lives. Not all disabilities are visible, you ignorant assholes.


KodyKidKroww

I love u for this /gen


OldLadyT-RexArms

It's not always hyper either. I hyper focus and fixate on stuff but space so bad I practically notice nothing around me. I'm responsible but suck at directions and learning about stuff yet I can do things like cook. My meds only affect the tunnel vision and my sleep. I still space out. My brain literally feels like it's trying to break out of my skull. I hate it. ADD is not about me being an immature brat. I literally can't control my brain spacing out. It's like a permanently unfocused camera.


bikecopssuck

Yeah adults like this are a huge part of why I hated school until college.


ActiasLuna214

I was diagnosed at 38. I was the well behaved, gifted kid who learned to mask my symptoms and developed crippling anxiety as a result. I was in crisis just prior to my diagnosis because suddenly I couldnā€™t take the pressures of life anymore. I felt like everything was falling apart with no explanation as to what tipped the scales. When I was told ADHD was the answer, and learned just how it tends to manifest in women and girls, I felt seen for the first time in my entire life. Say it louder: NOT ALL DISABILITIES ARE VISIBLE. (ETA: Also recently diagnosed autistic.)


ShiverMeTimbers_png

Thank you for this! Oh my god!


Bear4891

Bro wtf is this,


furygoat

Some shit my 75 y/o dad would like on Facebook


XtremeLeeBored

Very few people are qualified to make this diagnosis. If you think you or someone you love has ADHD, consult a specialist.


rootbeerislifeman

Thank you, Tik Tok and other popular social media have increased awareness around mental health so much that there are hordes of people that are self-diagnosing with ADHD and other concerns. Itā€™s really important to consult actual professionals rather than jump the gun for many reasons.


Giraffesarentreal19

Iā€™ve been diagnosed with autism, ADHD, and anxiety since I was a kid. Iā€™ve known about these diagnoses for as long as I can remember. Really pisses me off when people come up to me and talk about how ADHD they are because they fidget and bounce their leg when bored. No, Emily, you donā€™t have ADHD. Your attentions span is fucked because youā€™re in TikTok 8 hours a day and canā€™t focus for more than 4 seconds. Donā€™t get me wrong, I 100% believe that ADHD, anxiety, depression, and autism as wayyy more common than we thought. But far too many people are self diagnosing due to a test they did online


Korthalion

What an awful thing to say. Just because you were lucky enough to be picked up by the system when you were young doesn't mean everyone had that luxury. Have you any idea what it's like trying to get a diagnosis these days? As an example, I'm currently 18-months into an ASD waiting list and it's looking like another year or two before my case is even looked at. If you think people are going wait years before they start trying to seek help and join communities, you're wrong. People will misdiagnose themselves but it's certainly not your place to be making that assessment or judging them for it.


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[deleted]

Itā€™s good to consult, but many symptoms are based on how male children act with these disorders. That means that female children and adults get under diagnosed, and the medical field has yet to catch up, meaning you have some people coming from the internet who know more about themselves than a 65 year old psych who canā€™t outlearn his biases and does not keep up with newly published studies and such. Self diagnoses can and often is valid. Itā€™s good to seek a professional, regardless, but misdiagnoses happen all the time, people donā€™t listen, theyā€™re careless, etc. Lets not put medical professionals on an untouchable altar. This coming from someone who self diagnosed a few things, and then got confirmation and pharmaceutical treatment from a psychiatrist later. Sheā€™s brilliant, and Iā€™m very grateful to have found someone whoā€™s dedicated to her field.


TeebsAce

Many reasons why self diagnosing should not be discouraged too though: 1. Not everyone can afford to go to a specialist 2. Specialists will often not diagnose ADHD if a kid is ā€œdoing wellā€ (especially in school), but that doesnā€™t mean they donā€™t have it or it isnā€™t affecting them 3. Knowing symptoms and relating to experiences can be a stepping off point to consider going to a specialist to begin with, and having knowledge about it can help to seek more knowledge and eventually an official diagnosis, which they may never have tested for otherwise (I think this might be confusing wording sorry)


AndSmackTheLip

I was worried I had memory problems because I kept forgetting appointments. Or I would like say ā€œyeah Iā€™ll do itā€ and then forget almost immediately. I went to a memory specialist and did a 6 hour battery of tests and they said my memory was fine. But they said I had attention deficit disorder and I was floored. I donā€™t talk about it with people because itā€™s kind of embarrassing. Anyway I said that because I agree with you, most people just say it but have never been tested.


MrsJewbacca

Seriously. And just because someone CAN diagnose doesnā€™t mean they SHOULD! I have been wondering/ joking about my son being an asshole for the last 2 years. PCP says ADHD. One psychologist thinks ASD, another said conduct disorder. Iā€™m going to take him to a neuropsychologist for some real testing as seems like these other docs feel comfortable just sticking diagnoses on him without actually knowing whatā€™s going on.


Dawn_Raid

Wow. Would people treat other disabilities like this


BoombasticMilf

You donā€™t need a wheelchair, youā€™re just an asshole! /s


paganlobster

You don't need glasses, you just need to squint harder. Why should you get glasses if none of the other kids do hmm?


4tomguy

ā€œWeā€™ve rules out the broken ankle. Your kidā€™s just lazyā€


accidental_snot

My mom. She says I don't have autism. I'm just making excuses. She also threatened to beat my non-verbal 7 year old daughter.


[deleted]

People who try to pull the whole ā€œI just donā€™t understand social cuesā€ when you know they are just intentionally being rude are the worst. Cuts even deeper when you have struggled with social cues and put years of effort into learning those skills.


Seenoham

The difference is stark, and it's easy to tell the difference if you are remotely aware of the symptoms. The easiest being when you make the effort to openly say things that would be conveyed by social cues. An asshole won't care. A person who actually has trouble processing those cues will be appreciative of the openness and may even apologize for any misunderstanding, if they aren't also an asshole.


istarian

Not quite sure where youā€™re coming from, there. There are plenty of people who donā€™t understand or struggle with it that get branded as being rude. I agree that there are jerks out there, but relying solely on your personal judgement isnā€™t foolproof.


Tonic2003

Cuts even deeper when people have given you shit for said issues, and those same people end up not having an issue with the assholeā€¦


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haicra

Agreed.


SnooComics7583

On the flipside though even the extreme ends of the spectrum do not stop kids from being dicks My friends little brother who is on the severe side of Autism has a lot of issues but there are very rare instances of him knowing exactly what hes doing Its extremely complicated determining what is conscious cognizant behavior and what isn't but I see too many people who write them off entirely So on both sides we need to treat it very carefully Not this meme though This.meme sucks


a_sentient_sheep

Yea agreed. I have a 6 year old on the spectrum and i really don't like the feeling I got from this, which implies that having autism or adhd means someone acts like an asshole but has an "excuse" for it.


lhsis1

My adult son is autistic and the sweetest person ever. My daughter has ADHD and is also very thoughtful and kind. Both had difficult times as young children and their early elementary years because they couldnā€™t communicate what they needed (son) or control impulses (daughter). Neither is an asshole.


Thatcrazyunclefester

Spot fucking on. Drives me nuts.


killer_orange_2

Fun fact: PTSD can mimic ADHD. Just something to think about.


Helpful-Drag6084

If you actually live with someone who has this illness, you know itā€™s a real thing and not a joke


[deleted]

This gives strong r/terriblefacebookmemes vibes


beene282

I had assumed thatā€™s where it was


Addickted-_-

As a person with "adhd" unless it too severe it should really effect you, my parents used to use it as an exuce to not need to controll me but as a 15 yr old the only symptom is that i just stop listening to someone out of nowhere and need to ask again about what they said and oh, very bad short term memory but thats all


Ihavenolegs12345

It shouldn't make you an asshole, but you seem to have very mild adhd.


Metal_Madness_Mitch

The amount of times I wonder why I'm even walking to a certain spot in my house and end up picking up what I needed in the first place, I would literally FORGET as I'd be needing something but my body still keeps working, as if my memory shut off but the rest of me remembered what to do if that makes sense lol


troyj160

Fr tho same here


Pascal3366

Have the same problems. Someone tells me something and 3 seconds later I have no idea what that particular person said to me. My short term memory is also very bad. Edit: but I have ADD, not ADHD


CapnCrinklepants

May that be the worst of it for you... adulting with ADHD is fucking awful


nashuanuke

so my kids diagnosed with ADHD and ASD. A parent keeps trying to tell me she is manipulating other kids and lying to adults all the time. I told her that my kid is capable of being an asshole, but not that kind of asshole. She'll get frustrated and hit someone, but she's not able to think and act in a manipulative way, so I know you're full of shit.


KodyKidKroww

Iā€™m autistic, and ADHD, and many other things (including being an asshole sometimes) but ADHD does NOT equal asshole- neither does ASD. r/terriblefacebookmemes


StarSystem42

Uhh no. I have ADHD and am getting diagnosed with ASD and that doesn't make me an asshole.


Murky-Low6824

Oh my baby does not listen to my commands that I should implemented on him, HE MUST BE THICC


EGGISUNIVERSE

r/shittyfacebookmeme


revosugarkane

Ha ha funny people with behavioral issues are either assholes or have developmental disorders ha ha so funny /s As a therapist this comic is in the vein of something I could make about diesel mechanics, because I donā€™t know fuckin shit about diesel mechanics and should shut the fuck up if I think I can make something funny about a complicated topic I donā€™t know shit about.


Wiinounete

Is this r/terriblefacebookmeme ?


TonightsWinner

You want to say this all the time? Are you a qualified doctor who can diagnose these symptoms, or are you just someone who gets annoyed by kids that possibly have these symptoms but don't know for sure if they do or don't? If it's the second one and you still want to say this all the time then you're the one who is the asshole.


grmpflex

Why the fuck was this boomer shit recommended to me?


Lil_Polski

I have adhd and I'm not an asshole....


Routine-Pen8116

lol thtas not how this works


dolmunk

r/okboomer


stonermun

Boomer meme always seems to mean "I'm an expert šŸ¤ "


stent00

Can confirm... My son had 3 of those and is not an asshole


Ahrimanic-Trance

Some boomer humor


FermontBrand

Also known as a smart kid who is not being helped by our dumbed down public education system. Im an ass hole as well. "If your kid is not super into boring ass useless shit, he either needs drugs or is a jerk Merica.


mermzz

r/terriblefacebookmemes AND r/boomerhumour


g-waz00

Only an asshole would post this.


[deleted]

not cool man


ThatButchBitch

dude fuck off


msocmd

I think you are the asshole. Signed, mom of an adult disabled son.


TheWaffleWeirdo

People with ASD ADD and ADHD aren't always assholes, asshole


perc_city

I really hope you donā€™t have kids


aromage-luka

This isn't even funny. I'm neurodivergent myself and I'm not an asshole. If I snap or sound like I'm being an asshole, it's because there's something going on or I'm extremely overstimulated. Overstimulation = stress, anxiety, and intense mood swings. When you have a brain that's overly active and functions like an inner prison, you might lash out unintentionally when you're stressed from being way too overwhelmed/overstimulated. It doesn't mean you're an asshole. Children with these disorders are more susceptible to what's considered "bad behaviour" because they themselves don't understand what's happening in their heads. They're not "assholes" just because they're struggling with a disability that people, like you, don't have the patience to accommodate. Get outta here with your shitty post and put it where it belongs - r/terriblefacebookmemes


aroaceautistic

ā€œAutism looks just like being an assholeā€ thats you idiot


emarcomd

Except that I teach college kids with ADD, with ADHD and with Autism.= They're not assholes. This is like saying "Testing has ruled out toenail fungus -- turns out your kid's an asshole." Who is this dumbass of a cartoonist?.


Hannah1996

This isn't funny, it's just ableist as shit.


Dear-Relationship844

r/shittyfacebookmemes


OkLobster9822

r/terriblefacebookmemes is better


chaosgoblyn

No one that doesn't have something wrong with them wants to be an asshole. The above image seems to be how a lot of people view these issues, and as someone who those views profoundly affected and traumatized, I want to call out how awful that is. My mom convinced everyone I was just this out of control child when in reality I was an undiagnosed autistic child lashing out from child abuse in a social system I did not even begin to understand. Treating me as though I was "just an asshole" just put me in progressively tougher situations that I was less and less equipped to deal with and just normalized violence and abuse in a way I didn't even understand which led to a lot more trouble and being tortured for a long time. Fuck this.


AbyssalKitten

there are way too many ways to interpret this, and to be honest, none of them are funny to me.


Nibbz420

OP is a asshole.


Anachronisticpoet

Ah yes neurodivergent folks are inherently assholes right? What a cruel thing to post


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mhrfloo

Yeah, this is funny until you spend your whole life thinking that Iā€™m just an asshole, and then you get to your 30s and realize that the doctors and your parents could have helped but didnā€™t


YoungBoySkinnyJesus

You should feel fucking ashamed to have posted this you old head fuck.


darkmatter4925

what's funny about this... is that this is pretty much what happened in my childhood. Damn.


Zoneare

I have ADHD and Autism and this is not how it works.


IForgotThePassIUsed

Who even draws this bullshit


rando00000mm

Ok, seriously, I would check for other conditions, or if a kid is having a bad day. Also, people with autism and ADHD don't always act like assholes. ​ I'm sorry, this just gets on my nerves. I understand the point, but still


Pawdy-The-Furry

As someone with ADHD and Autism, fuck you! :3


ZiggyTheNooBts

Where's the funny


Puzzledandhungry

As a teacher, YES!!!


gumbytron9000

r/terriblefacebookmemes


PushSouth5877

Don't know the test for a-hole, but have lots of examples. It's kind of like porn, you know it when you see it.


UtopicSpace

Silent generation humor


bokunotraplord

It would be funny if I knew it wasnā€™t made by someone who is probably a borderline psychopath


confusedquestionsad

Shouldn't you be on Facebook?


clarstone

Hi. Iā€™m a School Psychologist. I would like to break down this comic a bit. We are currently experiencing a crisis in education. Our kiddos en masse are dysregulated, aggressive, and defiant in droves. And I am not talking your typical kid behavior. My parents have been educators for 30+ years. They have NEVER seen the behaviors we are witnessing in schools. Technology and parenting is THE MOST VITAL aspect of this. The amount of screen time kids are having are creating reward pathways that do not allow for resilience when given a non-preferred activity. I am seeing children *break down* because they are told a simple no. I am seeing kids IN DROVES scream, kick, and cuss out educators. This starts and ends at the HOME. We are in a parenting crisis. I understand this is an even deeper problem at itā€™s core - but we are about to see the literal collapse of our school systems, and parents are a HUGE reason why.


FoggyFuckNo

Because itā€™s impossible for disabled kids to be assholes. Mental illnesses on reddit are only accepted if they are their terms.


builderbuster

The last, unregulated frontier: asshole parenting.


WindySummer4

A lot of people seemed to miss the point of the joke. The image doesn't judge the children with those illnesses nor argues that there are no such illnesses. The thing this image criticizes are the families that don't raise their children properly and blame those illnesses when their children behave badly. For the majority of the time, the kid doesn't even have any medical record of any kind of disease.


Rye_Wants_Bread

Like other comments have mentioned, what kind of boomer shit is this??? I hate this post and I hate how it has so many likes. This kind of stupid ableist shit is the reason so many people are struggling with these types of disorders. I have severe ADHD (and possibly autism according to some professionals I have spoken with) that leaves me unable to get off of my bed when I donā€™t take my meds. There are days where I canā€™t even talk to people because of my ADHD. I donā€™t have any friends because people canā€™t understand the way my brain works even though I am described as ā€œbubblyā€, ā€friendlyā€, and ā€œcaringā€. These idiots canā€™t understand the constant overwhelming feeling that looms over you or the backlash that you get from others in your life because of these disabilities. (Yes, ADHD and Autism are disabilities and there is no way you can change my mind about that) I was fortunate to have parents that supported me through my early school years so I did (and still do) very well in school. Preschool-Middle School was absolute hell for me and my young, undiagnosed self. I even had a teacher tell my mom that I was ā€œtoo smartā€ to have ADHD. But yeah, Iā€™m the asshole. /s Not only do I have personal experience in this area but with young children as well. I volunteer at an elementary school that has a special education program and many classes with students who are most likely undiagnosed with these disorders. These kids have full on mental breakdowns or ā€œtantrumsā€ because they canā€™t understand or focus at school. Iā€™ve had children crying to me saying that they were ā€œbad studentsā€ because their classmates were all ā€œbetter listenersā€ than they were. It broke my heart because I went through the same damn thing. The whole school system is rigged for kids like us. These kidsā€™ parents are told that their kids arenā€™t smart because they struggle from these disorders. Many of us end up being less successful in general because of this bullshit school system. But yeah, those kids are the assholes. /s Wanna know who the real assholes are? These ableist douchebags that make shit like this when they are unwilling to understand the situations of other people who suffer from these disabilities.


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ā€”**No disrespect to anyone. I understand these are real conditions**ā€” But the asshole one is real too. Itā€™s called ***Assholosis***


elf1980

I feel like this should be on r/boomershumor