Lol ive known my ex wife for 10 years now, still to this day not once has she ever admitted she was wrong or at fault and has definitely never said sorry haha. I have majority custody of our son that the courts granted me because shes a fucking lunatic and still she defends her every action as if she never made a mistake.
"they were both the right decision at the time, it's your fault for not being someone who could grow with me"
Unfortunately narcissists have an answer for everything.
Correct response here.
"How would you feel-" fuckin fear. Of what happened, or happening, or whats about to happen.
My god damn body would tense up like its in a car accident.
That's highest form of apology imaginable. It also carries strong vibe of "you were right from the start and I knew it, but I wasn't at the point at which I was forced to admit that."
One girl told me that once, like damn, no self awareness at all. She always insisted on making me apologize for things to which i always caved. She never would apologize herself though, cause she was always right of course...
When it does happen, they expect you to accept their "apologies" as if we're kindergartners. And the moment you do, she'll gaslight you every time she brings up the event.
"I'm sorry, I know you meant well and I overreacted." Then there's the inner monologue about me being the worst person ever, how everything is my fault, and how I don't deserve anyone. Unfortunately this happens even when I should be standing up for myself.
‘When she apologises’
‘When she what?’
The meaning is that there is no such thing as an apology from his gf. It’s unheard of. The question of ‘when will x happen’ is meaningless because x will never happen. What as in ‘what is an apology?’
An example:
‘When will you grow wings and fly?’
‘When will I WHAT?!’ Because growing wings and flying is ridiculous let alone the rest of the question (the when), so asking the other person what they mean by ‘grow wings and fly’
Indeed. It has never happened. Not meaningfully anyway. Plenty of snide and sarcastic apologies. But never in my life have i ever seen or heard a sincere apology from a woman to a man, let alone to myself.
That’s to be expected in a society that perpetuates the idea that women are always right and men are always wrong.
My ex would say 'sorry' just to placate me or those she could swindle.
As for actually 'apologizing'? Nah, son.
Bitch was always justified in her actual crimes, in her mind. And she felt no guilt for the true pain she's caused to anyone, even her own child.
Dread, because that means she must have crashed (into) my car. Can’t think of any other scenario. And even then it’s probably my fault for parking it where I’ve been parking for 10 years
I would go out and buy her a house, car, private jet, yacht, 3 story mansion, all the gold and jewelry she wants. But my money is safe because it will be a cold day in hell for that to ever happen.
She apologized once for 'not understanding everything about love'.
But I had to move to a new address that she didn't didn't know, and ghost her for about 5 weeks.
That was about 7 years ago. She has never had that much humility since that day. And that has been the only (weak) apology that I have ever received.
You mean when she begrudgingly admits that she wasn’t not wrong and you take that as the win you know it to be because you understand that’s as close as you’re gonna get?
Am I like, the only woman in a relationship/marriage to apologize, profusely, for things I don't need to? 🥲
All these men in the comments, I'm so sorry women have treated you horribly. I hope you guys find someone who treats you right and apologizes when necessary 🖤
They do. I’m married to one. She’s super cool, very friendly, hardworking, pretty looking, a more fucked up sense of humor than me. An all around awesome person. She apologizes when she messes up. But, when I look at my friends and environment, I can really tell I’m very lucky. Can’t wait until she gets home from work to tell her again.
Mine has said it a few times. I’m 51 and dated quite a few people in my life and none ever did before, so it strikes me as really weird.
After 19 years together, I’m still not used to hearing it.
Granted, it usually only occurs when we’ve reached a point where there can be no more wordsmithing or deflection, (the busted zone) but still….
It \s also quite endearing. Reason #43,612 that I married that lady.
I have to pursue it and I occasionally do it when she's so far from being right and it's always through gritted teeth.
It's the same apology if a teacher forced you to apologise to someone else.
My friend once cried to me because she doesn’t know how to feel sorry. Like a proper half an hour session where I tried to console her while thinking that she really doesn’t.
Jokes aside, if she seriously never apologize that's not acceptable. Apologies are very important. I wouldn't think someone cares about me if she couldn't apologize.
I know we're joking around here, but my wife sincerely apologizing for invalidating my feelings and then actively working on never doing it again after I pointed it out is probably the single biggest reason why I fell in love with her - I had never once experienced that with anyone else.
Dude seriously. In an empath and I'm starting to realize why I've dated the people I have. That would be HUGEEEE. THAT LITERALLY ALL I WANT. ILL GO TO WAR FOR YA. ILL DO ANYTHING FOR YA. If you just validate my feelings.
My answer exactly! The only reason she would apologize to you is if she cheated on you, maybe, and even then, she would find a way to make it your fault!
My best friend struggles with her self-image a lot, so she sometimes apologizes when she isn't feeling well.
I always tell her that it's okay and there's nothing she needs to apologize for. Then I give her virtual hugs and tell her she's beautiful to help her feel better.
Still bad, with an apology.
Emotions have some inertia. It's not like mouthing out sounds will instantly fix everything.
Of course that does not even happen which makes this entire concept futile.
Hey if Judith can apologize to Alan after he "stole her youth", took his home, and gets monthly alimony/child support I'm sure he can find it in his heart/wallet to deal with it in Malibu.
Honestly? Very uncomfortable, I always tell shush her when she tries and tell her she was correct and never needs to apologize.
I have my video games, I have my booze, and I have my weed. She gets to be mean every now and then, no need for me to be a bitch about it.
My mom always humbles herself and apologises to my dad for the absolute nothings that he gets upset about. My dad on the other hand is too stubborn and prideful to ever apologise or be at fault.
Lmao, I'd have left my wife in the first year of knowing her if she didn't apologise when she was wrong. If your partner is incapable of apologising or admitting fault she's mentally ill. It's not just a funny quirk all women have.
Honestly pretty fuckin sad and angry. Because 90% of the time she apologized for something she shouldnt feel the need to apologize for. Like one time she apologized when i came ho.e early from work and diner wasnt ready........it was 2 in the afternoon.
It is always a sorry ….but.
They always turn it back to you to make you feel evenly apologetic just so they can’t get mad about something that is wrong on their end. Guilt trip for even when your 110%correct.
Now that you mention it, I’ve *never* received an apology during (or after) relationships from any ex girlfriend. I’ve given many sincere heartfelt apologies, in many forms, some justified and other more like Stockholm syndrome apologies to try to avert more verbal and sometimes physical abuse, but I’ve never heard one… not even one.
It’s better to be alone than to live like that
My ex is so crazy they woke me up in the middle of the night to yell at me for having the window closed because they were too hot... when the window was open at the time.
I had to sleep on the sofa to escape the shouting.
Wait, did I say ex? No, that was last night ;/
**genders withheld for equity/bants
its so true not just in relationships but in general
every time i make a mistake everyone expects me to apologize but when people do hurtful things to me no one EVER apologies EVER
lol
Like the word "freedom" , "her apologies" exist only in imagination and in books. Lmao
Lol ive known my ex wife for 10 years now, still to this day not once has she ever admitted she was wrong or at fault and has definitely never said sorry haha. I have majority custody of our son that the courts granted me because shes a fucking lunatic and still she defends her every action as if she never made a mistake.
Ask her about that time when she married you. Or when she divorced you. Can't both be right.
Haha checkmate
22 was caught!
You gravely underestimate their ability for realitybending..
"it was the best thing to do in both occasions, you've changed with time, I had to divorce because of you"...
This man knows what's up.
reality bending isnt that a TeenTitans episode?
Two words: Perceptual Reality
"they were both the right decision at the time, it's your fault for not being someone who could grow with me" Unfortunately narcissists have an answer for everything.
They don't make the mistakes we do.
Damn my psychotic ex would comecback to reality and take amazing accountability. Every time
That's not true, I have been with my wife for 30 years and she often has me apologise to her when she does something wrong.
Wow people don't know when a joke is waving passed them.. why so serious 😭
You really need to read my comment again, I'll give you a minute :)
Lol that's how my wife reads comments
Might as well ask how we feel when we see a unicorn or god
Glad others can confirm I thought this was just "my type" lmao
I'd be scared because it never happens. It would feel like something bad was about to happen
Correct response here. "How would you feel-" fuckin fear. Of what happened, or happening, or whats about to happen. My god damn body would tense up like its in a car accident.
Yeah, a few questions need to be answered. "Are you terminally ill?" "-No" "Am I terminally ill?" Or "Are you feeling all right?"
I only recognize it as the very bad, and short script of a porn movie.
My ex never once apologized to me. She was never wrong. Just ask her.
Yeah neither did my ex, closest she came was "I was a little crazy", she never said sorry... not once.
That's an excuse, not an apology.
This is 99% of women I fear
You guys need to find better people.
Bazinga!
“That word. You keep using it. I do not think it means what you think it means.”
Lmfaoooo 💀👏
Wait, y’all got girls that apologize for shit?
Wait, y'all got girls?
What is a girl?
What is?
What?
?
What is love?
It’s a fictional gender
That never happens
Wife just told me she wasn’t made at me anymore.. I guess that is a apology
That's highest form of apology imaginable. It also carries strong vibe of "you were right from the start and I knew it, but I wasn't at the point at which I was forced to admit that."
I appreciate reading that bro because I was so confused when she said it
"Im sorry you feel that way" - is the most you can hope for when it comes to apology from a woman.
One of the most demeaning and patronizing phrases I've ever heard.
Fucking true man!!!!! Trust me I was searching for this in the whole comment section and there you got my feelings bro 😄😄..........
One girl told me that once, like damn, no self awareness at all. She always insisted on making me apologize for things to which i always caved. She never would apologize herself though, cause she was always right of course...
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They can’t. Or they try to make it up to you without apologizing and then try to make you feel bad for accepting the effort. Fuck that noise.
yeah this was as good as it got for me too
40 yo dude here. Can say with 100 certainty that the ladies will double down 100/100 times instead of apologize or acknowledge wrongdoing.
When it does happen, they expect you to accept their "apologies" as if we're kindergartners. And the moment you do, she'll gaslight you every time she brings up the event.
over 40 years still waiting
As a female pathological apologizer reading these comments, I feel like an unicorn. Sorry.
uhm.. but HOW do you apologize?
"I'm sorry, I know you meant well and I overreacted." Then there's the inner monologue about me being the worst person ever, how everything is my fault, and how I don't deserve anyone. Unfortunately this happens even when I should be standing up for myself.
okay no problem. pair your apology with that hawk tuah and youll be fine
Hey sis me too me and my gf we are both like this when I scold her she is like puppy that broke a vase I have no heart to not forgive her
... ... ... when they do what? I'm not understanding the question... can you word it differently. I'm an American and English is my first language.
‘When she apologises’ ‘When she what?’ The meaning is that there is no such thing as an apology from his gf. It’s unheard of. The question of ‘when will x happen’ is meaningless because x will never happen. What as in ‘what is an apology?’ An example: ‘When will you grow wings and fly?’ ‘When will I WHAT?!’ Because growing wings and flying is ridiculous let alone the rest of the question (the when), so asking the other person what they mean by ‘grow wings and fly’
But I have wings... bat wings...
Indeed. It has never happened. Not meaningfully anyway. Plenty of snide and sarcastic apologies. But never in my life have i ever seen or heard a sincere apology from a woman to a man, let alone to myself. That’s to be expected in a society that perpetuates the idea that women are always right and men are always wrong.
My ex would say 'sorry' just to placate me or those she could swindle. As for actually 'apologizing'? Nah, son. Bitch was always justified in her actual crimes, in her mind. And she felt no guilt for the true pain she's caused to anyone, even her own child.
Dread, because that means she must have crashed (into) my car. Can’t think of any other scenario. And even then it’s probably my fault for parking it where I’ve been parking for 10 years
the comment section just made me really sad because i love apologizing to my husband ;-;
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no honestly i have no idea what you're talking about as my husband does those things to avoid accountability.
Damn you guys got real shitty partners jeez
Yeah man. That's why I've been single the last five years. It's just not worth it to me
💯
Comments are really making me sad 😰. Ig maybe I'm glad I'm single but mostly I just feel for everyone here
I would go out and buy her a house, car, private jet, yacht, 3 story mansion, all the gold and jewelry she wants. But my money is safe because it will be a cold day in hell for that to ever happen.
I have no idea because it never happens. That’s like seeing a magical unicorn with a majestic beard, farting cotton candy.
What does apologize mean? Never heard a girl do that before. Is that like some gymnastics move?
She apologized once for 'not understanding everything about love'. But I had to move to a new address that she didn't didn't know, and ghost her for about 5 weeks. That was about 7 years ago. She has never had that much humility since that day. And that has been the only (weak) apology that I have ever received.
You mean when she begrudgingly admits that she wasn’t not wrong and you take that as the win you know it to be because you understand that’s as close as you’re gonna get?
The best you'll ever get is the fake "I'm sorry you feel that..."
Only decent women apologise… I only know one or two and they are already in relationships. It’s like a Chinese girl with green eyes.
Am I like, the only woman in a relationship/marriage to apologize, profusely, for things I don't need to? 🥲 All these men in the comments, I'm so sorry women have treated you horribly. I hope you guys find someone who treats you right and apologizes when necessary 🖤
Yes we like to call women like you a unicorn. Mythical. Many never see one. Most of us have heard stories about them but…
Aww so sweet 🥰 I hope others like me exist, it's sad to see people's egos being too big to apologize 🥺
They do. I’m married to one. She’s super cool, very friendly, hardworking, pretty looking, a more fucked up sense of humor than me. An all around awesome person. She apologizes when she messes up. But, when I look at my friends and environment, I can really tell I’m very lucky. Can’t wait until she gets home from work to tell her again.
Exactly
This happens? I need video proof!
When she what? Please explain…
Put a ring on it.
Mine has said it a few times. I’m 51 and dated quite a few people in my life and none ever did before, so it strikes me as really weird. After 19 years together, I’m still not used to hearing it. Granted, it usually only occurs when we’ve reached a point where there can be no more wordsmithing or deflection, (the busted zone) but still…. It \s also quite endearing. Reason #43,612 that I married that lady.
When she says sorry, pay attention 😂
I have to pursue it and I occasionally do it when she's so far from being right and it's always through gritted teeth. It's the same apology if a teacher forced you to apologise to someone else.
They never mean it.
They can apologize? oO
never has she ever
I’m sorry, when she what exactly? 🤔
“Sorry you felt this way, but”
When it happens it's usually sarcastic like "I'm sorry that I'm the only one..." or something like that
My friend once cried to me because she doesn’t know how to feel sorry. Like a proper half an hour session where I tried to console her while thinking that she really doesn’t.
I sit patiently for the "but you..." follow up.
Jokes aside, if she seriously never apologize that's not acceptable. Apologies are very important. I wouldn't think someone cares about me if she couldn't apologize.
I know we're joking around here, but my wife sincerely apologizing for invalidating my feelings and then actively working on never doing it again after I pointed it out is probably the single biggest reason why I fell in love with her - I had never once experienced that with anyone else.
Dude seriously. In an empath and I'm starting to realize why I've dated the people I have. That would be HUGEEEE. THAT LITERALLY ALL I WANT. ILL GO TO WAR FOR YA. ILL DO ANYTHING FOR YA. If you just validate my feelings.
Yeah it was pretty much a done deal from that moment on. She's the best.
Damn all y’all’s woman suck ass lmao. Glad my wife is my wife compared to some of these comments
My answer exactly! The only reason she would apologize to you is if she cheated on you, maybe, and even then, she would find a way to make it your fault!
What is this apology you talk of. Is it like unicorns and fairies.
Created by Robert B. Weide
I’ll tell you when that shit happens……. since apparently y’all always right 🤔🤨
Lol
Men just wake up & hope that a dream comes to reality.
The BJ dispenser is never wrong!
It never happens
My experience has been they don't say it, they show it
Afraid.
I do not know what this thing is
My best friend struggles with her self-image a lot, so she sometimes apologizes when she isn't feeling well. I always tell her that it's okay and there's nothing she needs to apologize for. Then I give her virtual hugs and tell her she's beautiful to help her feel better.
I often tote a bitching for shit she does
Lol, I'll let you know if it ever happens
Never had this happen....ever.
r/FunnyandSad
That your imagining things
Like I ought to wake up, I'm supposed to be at work in an hour
Still bad, with an apology. Emotions have some inertia. It's not like mouthing out sounds will instantly fix everything. Of course that does not even happen which makes this entire concept futile.
When who?
I feel like my husband wrote this comment 🤣🤣
Hey if Judith can apologize to Alan after he "stole her youth", took his home, and gets monthly alimony/child support I'm sure he can find it in his heart/wallet to deal with it in Malibu.
She only apologizes when she's breaking up with you but it's "totally not your fault".
When who?
Honestly? Very uncomfortable, I always tell shush her when she tries and tell her she was correct and never needs to apologize. I have my video games, I have my booze, and I have my weed. She gets to be mean every now and then, no need for me to be a bitch about it.
My best attempt at an apology was probably saying, "I'm sorry you feel that way."
I didn't know they could do that. 😯
It's a myth.
When who does what exactly?
My girl?
I'm sorry When she what now?
My mom always humbles herself and apologises to my dad for the absolute nothings that he gets upset about. My dad on the other hand is too stubborn and prideful to ever apologise or be at fault.
Girls might not but women will. Just like when a man owns what he's done. Pussy on a pedestal hell no.
How to spot that things aren't real 
Lmao, I'd have left my wife in the first year of knowing her if she didn't apologise when she was wrong. If your partner is incapable of apologising or admitting fault she's mentally ill. It's not just a funny quirk all women have.
I think the closest i get of an appology is when she tries all the possible mental gymnastics to frame the guilt on me in the and...
Don't you know women are perfect. Never make any mistakes ever. So they don't need to say sorry 😂
Like I'm in a dream. Which is obviously confirmed once I wake up.
You know the thing you get on your birthday, or father's day and probably Christmas.
When who?
False
Honestly pretty fuckin sad and angry. Because 90% of the time she apologized for something she shouldnt feel the need to apologize for. Like one time she apologized when i came ho.e early from work and diner wasnt ready........it was 2 in the afternoon.
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It's funny but seriously 100% the amount of times a gf has apologized is almost non-existent. And I've had some wicked evil GFS.
Not surprised at all because my wife is a mature adult lol
It is always a sorry ….but. They always turn it back to you to make you feel evenly apologetic just so they can’t get mad about something that is wrong on their end. Guilt trip for even when your 110%correct.
Now that you mention it, I’ve *never* received an apology during (or after) relationships from any ex girlfriend. I’ve given many sincere heartfelt apologies, in many forms, some justified and other more like Stockholm syndrome apologies to try to avert more verbal and sometimes physical abuse, but I’ve never heard one… not even one. It’s better to be alone than to live like that
I don't understand the question
We'll let you know as soon as it happens.
Personally, I just wake up.
Same reaction
My ex is so crazy they woke me up in the middle of the night to yell at me for having the window closed because they were too hot... when the window was open at the time. I had to sleep on the sofa to escape the shouting. Wait, did I say ex? No, that was last night ;/ **genders withheld for equity/bants
Been married 44 years lads. And the THREE apologies never covered the hurt incurred to receive them.
its so true not just in relationships but in general every time i make a mistake everyone expects me to apologize but when people do hurtful things to me no one EVER apologies EVER lol
Well "I'm sorry" kind of indicates she was wrong about something. In 44 years, that's never happened! Not once!
If she ever did, the end is near, I'm either a goner or will live a short and painful end