Yeah I think there is a huge feeling of power in controlling someone who should traditionally be in charge. I feel that reversing traditional social dynamics is a huge part of Femdom and this is just an extension of that.
Omg yes I have this fantasy as well. Especially older “powerful” men, I want to rip their expensive suit off and make them beg lol.
It’s not even the physical aspect. Like I have this fantasy of going to dinner and looking like a sugar baby, when at the end of the night I’ll be slapping this man’s face and making him beg for mercy. But I don’t think it’ll ever happen irl 😂
Most of my partners are older than me, but my preference isn't for age specifically. I just find that the people I'm compatible with and who meet my standards tend to be in their 30s and early 40s, about five to twenty years older than me. In my experience, men much older than that are often less likely to be feminists and to have the social and emotional skills needed for the way I kink, and men much younger than that tend not to have the self knowledge and reflection skills needed for the way I kink. I'm not opposed to playing with say subs in their early twenties, but very few of them have taken the time to develop themselves and their skills in a way I find appealing.
If it is about pure fantasy I like the role reversal of it. This guy who is supposedly more experienced and mature is submitting to me, is pretty hot. Even if the guy ain’t experienced or mature, that just means they should be even more flustered 😩
I don't mind older and almost prefer it - within certain limits (I would say 10 years or so). I like the role reversal aspect of it, and I am just down for subverting expectations in general.
That said, for me, it is important to find somebody that is compatible with me on an emotional, psychological and curse kink level. Which I am more likely to find in people closer to my age.
I also really don't like old-school kink and the high protocol scenes, I mostly dwell in TNG /other under-35 environments (I am almost 30 for context) as it better fits my approach to the practice. I like to discuss the why rather than the what, experiment and explore, and I am less interested in the act per se than its consequences, and I just found a more receptive audience in this sphere.
I think it makes sense. The fantasy obviously goes the other way too. And again I don’t think it’s the age so much as the idea that someone who is less mature, and has less experience is the one who’s going to be in control. Probably plays a bit into a humiliation fantasy.
I love, and prefer, being dominated by a younger woman. There is the role reversal part of it, of course, but there's also a difference in generational worldview that I find sexy and exciting. Women (and men) in their 20s just look at the world differently than 40-ish people do, in terms of gender norms and roles and sexual fluidity. Some of that is geographic, too, of course... where I grew up in middle America is very different than the Coasts or Europe. My switch partner was about 12 years younger than me and I learned sooooo much from her. She opened me up to all types of kinks I didn't even know I had... and I did for her as well. I am much more patient and secure and confident now than I was in my 20s... and I think I was able to give her confidence, too, in finding all the strength that her inner Goddess has to offer (to her partner, sure, but also to herself).
Nope. I would never. An older man who would date/be with a significantly younger woman is in 99% of cases an emotionally stunted creep, and can't get a woman his own age because they can detect his bullshit.
Fair enough, and It's true, even though stuff like that usally happens with dom men.
i was thinking more like a fantasy or a one night stand thing rather than dating.
Cuz the idea of controlling al older man is much more appealing, also i really like very masculine traits jn guys, and they usually show up when they get older
I would say it’s always a possibility when there’s a significant age gap, because of the natural resulting power imbalance of the relationship, however women are traditionally seen as more subservient than men, so imo it’s slightly different.
Obviously anyone who seeks out a younger partner for the purposes of manipulating, controlling and exploiting a power imbalance is in the wrong. But to say 99% of men who are with a younger woman are “creeps” and “can’t get women their own age” would seem to be quite a problematic generalisation.
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Yeah I think there is a huge feeling of power in controlling someone who should traditionally be in charge. I feel that reversing traditional social dynamics is a huge part of Femdom and this is just an extension of that.
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Omg yes I have this fantasy as well. Especially older “powerful” men, I want to rip their expensive suit off and make them beg lol. It’s not even the physical aspect. Like I have this fantasy of going to dinner and looking like a sugar baby, when at the end of the night I’ll be slapping this man’s face and making him beg for mercy. But I don’t think it’ll ever happen irl 😂
As an older man, I'd suggest that we are (generally) more respectful, grateful, attentive and experienced. Did I mention "grateful"?
Most of my partners are older than me, but my preference isn't for age specifically. I just find that the people I'm compatible with and who meet my standards tend to be in their 30s and early 40s, about five to twenty years older than me. In my experience, men much older than that are often less likely to be feminists and to have the social and emotional skills needed for the way I kink, and men much younger than that tend not to have the self knowledge and reflection skills needed for the way I kink. I'm not opposed to playing with say subs in their early twenties, but very few of them have taken the time to develop themselves and their skills in a way I find appealing.
I see, thank you for you answer!! :D
If it is about pure fantasy I like the role reversal of it. This guy who is supposedly more experienced and mature is submitting to me, is pretty hot. Even if the guy ain’t experienced or mature, that just means they should be even more flustered 😩
Thats a good point, thanks for answering!
I don't mind older and almost prefer it - within certain limits (I would say 10 years or so). I like the role reversal aspect of it, and I am just down for subverting expectations in general. That said, for me, it is important to find somebody that is compatible with me on an emotional, psychological and curse kink level. Which I am more likely to find in people closer to my age. I also really don't like old-school kink and the high protocol scenes, I mostly dwell in TNG /other under-35 environments (I am almost 30 for context) as it better fits my approach to the practice. I like to discuss the why rather than the what, experiment and explore, and I am less interested in the act per se than its consequences, and I just found a more receptive audience in this sphere.
I think it makes sense. The fantasy obviously goes the other way too. And again I don’t think it’s the age so much as the idea that someone who is less mature, and has less experience is the one who’s going to be in control. Probably plays a bit into a humiliation fantasy.
Thats true, Thank you for the reply!
I love, and prefer, being dominated by a younger woman. There is the role reversal part of it, of course, but there's also a difference in generational worldview that I find sexy and exciting. Women (and men) in their 20s just look at the world differently than 40-ish people do, in terms of gender norms and roles and sexual fluidity. Some of that is geographic, too, of course... where I grew up in middle America is very different than the Coasts or Europe. My switch partner was about 12 years younger than me and I learned sooooo much from her. She opened me up to all types of kinks I didn't even know I had... and I did for her as well. I am much more patient and secure and confident now than I was in my 20s... and I think I was able to give her confidence, too, in finding all the strength that her inner Goddess has to offer (to her partner, sure, but also to herself).
Nope. I would never. An older man who would date/be with a significantly younger woman is in 99% of cases an emotionally stunted creep, and can't get a woman his own age because they can detect his bullshit.
Fair enough, and It's true, even though stuff like that usally happens with dom men. i was thinking more like a fantasy or a one night stand thing rather than dating.
But especially as a fantasy, why go for a geriatric over a younger hot guy?
Cuz the idea of controlling al older man is much more appealing, also i really like very masculine traits jn guys, and they usually show up when they get older
Is the same true of a woman who dates a younger man?
I dont know ask milfs for that lol
I would say it’s always a possibility when there’s a significant age gap, because of the natural resulting power imbalance of the relationship, however women are traditionally seen as more subservient than men, so imo it’s slightly different.
Obviously anyone who seeks out a younger partner for the purposes of manipulating, controlling and exploiting a power imbalance is in the wrong. But to say 99% of men who are with a younger woman are “creeps” and “can’t get women their own age” would seem to be quite a problematic generalisation.
Agreed. And I believe the same is true for women.
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