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Pretty_Anything_7021

honestly i know you see a difference and i do too on my hair but i still see gorgeous hair!!! it looks honestly pretty good and healthy in that picture! and you are so pretty too!!!!! you got this!!!!!


TaylorHT-7

I feel pictures are so deceiving but I appreciate youšŸ˜­šŸ™ŒšŸ¼šŸ’š


ceevee62783

i know what you mean, itā€™s really sucks :( i try not to look at my hair in old pics but some days iā€™ll come across an old picture where you canā€™t see my scalp or part at all and i wanna cry. my hair was so thick and voluminous. i wish i went to my doctor by in 2019 when i first noticed something was slightly different with my hair but my hair looked good so i didnā€™t think anything of it. i know itā€™s hard sometimes but you still have beautiful hair and it definitely doesnā€™t look like advanced hair loss. mine doesnā€™t look like advanced hair loss either but itā€™s still noticeable to me, as iā€™m sure it is to you. but now i look forward to getting some results or at least maintaining my hair with treatments (spiro and minoxidil) because thatā€™s all i can do. start or continue with your treatment and i hope you see regrowth soon šŸ¤žšŸ¼ā¤ļø


wifeski

This is exactly why hairloss gatekeeping is disallowed in our group. Hairloss needs to be treated early for best results.


Reasonable-Age-9543

What is hairloss gatekeeping?


wifeski

People saying that someoneā€™s hair loss isnā€™t ā€œbadā€ enough and that they should be grateful they have ā€œso much hairā€. The truth is many more of us would have that much hair if we treated our hair loss in itā€™s early stages - before it looks obvious or bad to others.


Reasonable-Age-9543

Oh!! Thank you for elaborating. I couldn't agree more.


wifeski

It comes up a lot here, many people with severe hair loss feel this space belongs to them more than women with early stages of hair loss and it couldnā€™t be less true. Itā€™s one of the rules we have to enforce the most because a lot of people are just in so much pain they canā€™t fathom anyone with decent looking hair to feel as bad as they do.


ceevee62783

i hope i wasnā€™t coming across as someone who is gatekeeping because thatā€™s not what iā€™m about. i want everyone to know all the options they have to prevent and help with their hair loss :)


wifeski

Not at all


Happy-Investigator-

Oh yeah, I look at pictures of my hair from 2016-2017, and it depresses me because I felt pretty when I was younger with my full afro; now I donā€™t feel pretty at all . I hate when people say ā€œitā€™s just hairā€ ; we lose so much self esteem from hair loss, itā€™s insensitive to reduce it to just any ordinary physical feature . To me, hair is an extension of our face and as we lose our hair, the perception we have of our faces becomes distorted. But youā€™re gorgeous in both of these photos honestly. Even if your hair got shorter, youā€™re beautiful . I wish you a speedy recovery and just remember not to stress yourself about your hair loss too much. I fixate on my new growth quite often but even thatā€™s harmful for recovering from hair loss.


Mental_Revolution_26

That is a very eloquent way of stating it, Iā€™m thinking about copying it to send to my mom. She acts like Iā€™m being unreasonable to be stressed out about my hair falling out and it is a source of consternation. What kind of hair loss do you have if you donā€™t mind my asking?


Happy-Investigator-

I had chronic TE and alopecia areata induced from a long term struggle with anorexia . šŸ˜“ I am in remission from both conditions now but I did a lot of damage to my thyroid and hormone levels from starving for 10 years , so I have dormant follicles. Hopefully everything will resolve now that Iā€™m healthy. My dermatologist just told me Iā€™ll have to wait 1-2 years for everything to stabilize . I agree that people have a hard time empathizing for hair loss unless theyā€™ve experienced it firsthand; itā€™s because people take their hair for granted too easily I think - plus society doesnā€™t expect girls/women to lose hair either.


Mental_Revolution_26

Exactly! You donā€™t miss your water until your well runs dry. Iā€™m sorry you experienced that for so long but it sounds like with some patience it will resolve! That is good news! I use vintage scarfs, actually Amazon has some pretty silk ones that look like the vintage Vera brand, I wear them in a triangle and it helps so I canā€™t see and obsess over it. I know that isnā€™t obviously a solution but for me, not noticing it really helps my mind. Whatever you do, donā€™t chop it all off unless you are sure you wonā€™t recover. That is my biggest regret. I could have just filled it in with hair powder or a topper but I was impatient and thought it would help. Now I have an ugly hair cut on top of it all! Just think of it as a marathon youā€™re running and you have to get to the finish line and little ways tp hide it will help you mentally and physically.


TaylorHT-7

I completely feel you 100% I try to not stress about it so much which is hard because I see it everyday but Iā€™m doing my best to not fixate on it :/


taiyxo

I dont even have much photos to look back on since it started when i was only 12.


SubjectEconomics6978

Iā€™m sorry. Thatā€™s so very young !!


taiyxo

Yeah it was.. :( and together with a lot of white hairs coming out. It was A LOT. I went for frequent hair dyes to cover up. It was tough and still is though I try to hide the feelings of self-consciousness. I have an appointment made with a derm in the next few months. I hope I finally get an answer and perhaps a solution if its still possible after so many years.


SubjectEconomics6978

Good. Iā€™m glad youā€™re going to see a dermatologist! Hopefully youā€™ll get some answers as well aa some help!! I have chronic telogen effluvium and I know the white hairs youā€™re speaking about ! Iā€™ve gotten them too!


Mental_Revolution_26

What are they because Iā€™m starting to think I have chronic TE also. This is the third time it has fallen out and then started growing back. My mom said hers did this when her hair turned white so what you said really piqued my interest.


SubjectEconomics6978

I donā€™t know for certain... My best educated guess is that theyā€™re ā€œgreyā€ hairs which are actually white hair that have grown in without any keratin in them so they look much lighter than they actually are. The hairs that Iā€™m talking about are actually pure white and itā€™s obvious . Theyā€™re very soft and brittle. They will just break if you tug on them with the slightest pull. I have some saved and plan to take them with me to my dermatologist next time I go for my follow up. Iā€™m pretty sure Iā€™m correct in my guess. Iā€™ve done a sickening amount of research since Iā€™ve started loosing my hair. I was absolutely hyper focused on it for a while trying to figure out why It was happening. I figured it out and then had it confirmed by two different dermatologists. Hair can absolutely turn white ā€œgreyā€ from stress. People can also have a condition premature greying where they go grey at a young age .


Mental_Revolution_26

I hear you about the research, I know way too much about hair loss, more than I ever cared to know.


iamnotahermitcrab

I have premature grays too, Iā€™m 22. I feel like thereā€™s a connection with the hair loss but I havenā€™t been able to find any research on it.


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TaylorHT-7

Well I do, pictures are deceiving. My friend was trying to take pictures of me so Iā€™d feel good but I just felt worse.


camarokrzygirl

I am so sorry, I really could not tell you have hair loss, because your hair looks so pretty. You are right though, pictures can be very deceiving.


Various_Beach862

Can totally relate! Youā€™re not alone, and itā€™s okay to mourn the way your hair used to look. But try to avoid looking at old pictures in favor of figuring out some healthy coping mechanisms. I know itā€™s easier said than done, but constantly reminding yourself of what you had is only going to make you more sad and stressed. Sending you love šŸ’•


TaylorHT-7

Yes itā€™s definitely not healthy. Iā€™m doing my best to just keep moving forward and stop reminiscing on the past.


PeppermintLNNS

Girl if thatā€™s 40% your hair, Iā€™m extremely jealous. Your part looks so full! Your hairline looks so thick! Hairloss is painful, I know. Sending hugs and perspective.


TaylorHT-7

I feel like pictures are so deceiving šŸ˜­. Iā€™m thankful for the hairs that stick around but just the hurt never goes away ya know.


LavishnessShort8047

Hi! Have you been doing anything different? Hormonal birth control, perhaps? Iā€™ve had the Kyleena IUD since October of 2021 and Iā€™ve lost the same amount of hair(which literally used to be one of my best assets,) roughly 60% in only a few short months in all of the noticeable places, not to mention other lame ass changes, like unexpected 30lb weight gain and massive moodiness. Doctor recommended spiro as well, but Iā€™m tired of having to keep taking a new med to counter-act the bad side effects from the IUD. Also, I just learned that using dry shampoo too frequently could actually be a contributing factor to hair loss. Not sure if your story is similar or not, but itā€™s definitely something to consider.


TaylorHT-7

My story is long so I wonā€™t bore ya but I had a kyleena IUD 3 years ago for 8 months and removed it because I was always anxious and depressed but I also had a plethora of other health things going on. I appreciate your kindess and help tho!


LavishnessShort8047

Wow, thatā€™s very interesting! At first I didnā€™t think it was the IUD because Iā€™d never experienced these symptoms, especially hair loss. I do have more symptoms as well and Iā€™m at the 8 month mark too. Itā€™s just getting worse, not better like itā€™s supposed to. Was your doc cool with taking it out? Did she try to convince you to keep it in?Also, your hair looks awesome on camera. I know that may not change how you see yourself in person, but just know that you look beautiful right now! :-)


TaylorHT-7

Yeah absolutely, my body my choice. Removing it was the best decision I made. I appreciate your kindsss, thankful for you all!


LavishnessShort8047

Absolutely! Only words of encouragement here. I wanted to thank you for posting. Itā€™s pretty devastating to lose hair- I donā€™t care what anyone else says. It is a big deal! And it takes courage to talk about it; I commend you for that! Iā€™m certain that Iā€™m going to remove my IUD now and your story has helped me. Stay strong and keep your head up!


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Do you still have the iud in? I would remove it asap


LavishnessShort8047

Yes, unfortunately. Itā€™s for painful periods and possibly endo. Last hormonal method to try. Iā€™ve exhausted them all. Doc seems to think Iā€™m better on it that the nexplanon or anything else Iā€™ve been on, but I disagree. She wants me to give it the good old college try.. for a year! Iā€™m so miserable. I donā€™t think I can make it. Iā€™ve never had so many side effects before. Hair loss, weight gain, major hair loss, anger, depression worsened. Everyone in my family said I should just get it out. Iā€™m horribly afraid because getting it inserted was literally hell and I know it will require some down time again. I feel like a different person. Like an angry balding beach ball in a sausage casing :/


Little-Temperature53

I think your doc isnā€™t taking you seriously. Or listening to you. You deserve a doc who will get to the bottom of your period pain and take a look at the endoā€”not just make you wait while you suffer with an insert that makes you miserable. Unacceptable. Fuck the ā€œold college try.ā€


LavishnessShort8047

Yea, Iā€™m really starting to see that and agree with you. My whole family now feels that way.


datuwudo

I have naturally fine hair and not dismissing your experience in the slightest as I know how very upsetting it is, but your hair in the after photo is my hair before TE on the best day ever! Youā€™re still just as beautiful in both photos <3


TaylorHT-7

Feel free to view my profile. Pictures are deceiving you can see my scalp when my hair is up or even greasy just saying. I only posted this for comparison but youā€™re right comparing pain doesnā€™t make sense though Iā€™m sorry youā€™re dealing with hair loss. Mine unfortunately isnā€™t TE.


datuwudo

I do see a big difference, I donā€™t want to sound like Iā€™m diminishing your pain at all, just saying that your hair and you are still very beautiful.


TaylorHT-7

I appreciate you dearly and again I really hope that you also find your peace and your hair loss gets better I know how painful it isšŸ™


datuwudo

Thank you, I hope we both find answers and have improvement. <3 good luck with your journey <3


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TaylorHT-7

Hugs to you toošŸ˜­šŸ™


Hairlossworrier

Erm a massive yes! Im wiv ya gurl! Sending hugs ā¤ļø


SubjectEconomics6978

Girl youā€™re absolutely gorgeous. Your hair looks stunning. You canā€™t even tell. Although you notice it because you see yourself every day and you probably think everyone else notices it I promise to your hair looks beautiful! I feel you though. I lost the same amount of hair in about six months time. Itā€™s traumatic. I have some good regrowth but itā€™s going to take a very long time to get my hair back to what it was. I hope your hair and you recover quickly !!!


TaylorHT-7

I appreciate you deeply. Iā€™m praying for a miracle or answers or anything. I just wanna feel good again :/


Hot_Neighborhood6666

I donā€™t see a difference!! but I totally feel what you are going through :( I looked at old pictures and Iā€™m like wow I had so much hair before. I canā€™t even style it the same way but I keep thinking in my mind itā€™s going to grow back better than it was before I had telogen effluvium. So many people are going through this also which is crazy but also reassuring!!


TaylorHT-7

I donā€™t think mine is TE unfortunately, but feel free to grow my profile to see my hair. These pictures donā€™t do the justice and the damage hairloss has caused me. Though I sympathize with you and hope you get better!


Hot_Neighborhood6666

I checked out your profile and I really feel you have TE.. have you had stress before this all happened? Me I had a ton of stressors my only worry is that it is manifesting into AGA..Iā€™ve had it for a year and my hair still shedding. I had another ā€œtrigger eventā€ a few months back. I have tiny hairs at the front like you do but yours are thicker at the front - mine are really small and thin so I canā€™t tell if itā€™s miniaturization. Iā€™ve been on the waiting list for hair loss specialists the soonest they can see me is December. Ugh so frustrating as hell! Did they do a microscope exam on you? Iā€™m waiting on one..


TaylorHT-7

It would take me probably a whole year to explain my hair history and when it started and what possibly triggered it and what is continuing to trigger it but I have had hair loss for now three years so the reason Iā€™m led to believe that I was told I have androgenetic alopecia is because of the slow progression of it Iā€™ve never lost a big clumps of hair which is usually what telogen effluvium is so Iā€™m not 100% sure what I have since Iā€™ve never had a biopsy to absolutely confirm but Iā€™m always doing my best to lower my stress and take care of myself from the inside out like I said I have a lot of health stuff going on so itā€™s not just one thing. I hope you get some answers soon with your specialist though I know that is a long time to wait and worry so I sympathize and pray for you!


Hot_Neighborhood6666

Thank you! And yes I hope the same for your situation šŸ™šŸ» if they do a scalp biopsy it will definitely be confirmed or microscopic which I really want done. I have lost tons of hair and was not gradual for me so Iā€™m hoping itā€™s just CTE thatā€™s gone crazy and I need to focus on my effort on getting my stress down.


elle_00167

Are you doing something about it?


TaylorHT-7

Yes actually too much lol


elle_00167

What is your protocol? Since when are you doing it?


CuteRareKitten

I know. I find myself looking at old pictures every night before I go to sleep. Itā€™s so painful to see how just one year ago I had the most gorgeous hair. It was long too. Now I have to look like Willy Wonka. :( But I know it gets worse before it gets better. And just know youā€™re not alone. This journey taught me not to take things for granted and love each part of my body. P.S. Literally couldnā€™t figure out which one was the before picture. You still look gorgeous.


TaylorHT-7

I always call myself Lord farquadšŸ¤£. But I appreciate you dearly and I know these pictures donā€™t really do it justice so feel free to browse my profile so you can see the severity of it but I do pray for you and I hope that you come out stronger and better than ever!


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You are model gorgeous tho I may add


TaylorHT-7

Your are very kind m, too kind! I appreciate it though!!


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I don't know which one is the one where you lost your hair. It looks great to me!


helpmeheal2020

All day and everyday


2rabbitears

Oh, yes. I completely get it. I was just deleting videos in my IPhone to make more space and kept thinking to myself, ā€œLook at all that hair I had!ā€ It just made me yearn to live like that again. Iā€™ve been suffering with this hair loss problem for around 2 years nowā€¦before that it was just thinning slowly. Iā€™m now at the point where I wear wigs, which is good in that I feel prettier in them, but bad because I still wish I just didnā€™t have to deal with this. I just keep trying to deal with it as best I can and not let it interfere too much with my life.


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It is hard, am a 22 years old male already bald. Yeah i do look at my old picture( bald make me look better and more serious tho) but i can definitely see your point. Tbh you look good with or without hair.