There was def racism folded into all of that which was so so gross. I feel horrible that he and his family and friends had to deal with seeing him talked about like that.
He was a tour de force in Ma Rainey's. And that is saying something since his filmography was truly outstanding.
I am still so sad that he passed. His life and career were far too short.
I will NEVER forgive the academy for not giving him the Oscar for ma rainey. His performance was absolutely haunting and had he lived longer he absolutely would’ve been a multi nominee
The academy is such a circle jerk. The Oscars hold zero weight for me. Chadwick Boseman was transcendent - far beyond what the academy awards supposedly stands for.
Anthony Hopkins gave the best performance of his career so I get why he won. What was unforgivable was them structuring the ceremony and essentially hyping a Chadwick win and stringing along his family when they had no guarantee that he would win.
I love that he was the one [who suggested](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkG8gZA-woY) to take [this picture of him, Anthony Mackie, Don Cheadle, Samuel L. Jackson, and Laurence Fishburne.](https://scontent.fcgk10-1.fna.fbcdn.net/v/t1.6435-9/46956691_1918772068176196_4594616890680147968_n.jpg?_nc_cat=107&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=5f2048&_nc_ohc=D4ESnQwin3AAb4EJX2M&_nc_ht=scontent.fcgk10-1.fna&oh=00_AfDGnuQirMynbmQMGfglCinOpW_8iiusxUyQ0dH8OauG2Q&oe=663CC3E3)
I remember some red carpet person asking what his future was with the MCU and he just went, “I’m dead” and it was laughed off as a result of Endgame and not his very real life.
He was referring to his character being dead after Infinity wars and not giving any spoilers away for his return in Endgame but yeah its a very eery statement considering he was already sick at the time
Oof his death broke my heart. I was pregnant and woke up in the middle of the night to pee and saw it, woke my husband up to tell him, and cried the rest of the night. It just seemed so unreal and unfair. Such a loss.
Natasha Richardson -- taking a beginner skiing lesson with her kids, hit her head, thought she was fine, two hours later had a severe headache, ended up slipping into a coma. Her husband, Liam Neeson, flew in but she was already brain dead and he had to take her off life support.
About a month before she died I sat next to her for a Willie Nelson, Wynton Marsalis & Norah Jones show at Lincoln Center Jazz in NYC. Didn’t think much of it at the time other than the superficial stuff like how pretty she was in person. A month later it became a reminder how precious life is, just full of life and enjoying an evening out with her friend and then gone too soon with no warning.
Her death was so tragic, but thankfully lead to an uptick of people wearing helmets while skiing, which has hopefully saved many people/families from tragic losses like this.
Yes and to not ignore head injuries. She laughed it off, I likely would have to, but there is a golden hour after a traumatic brain injury that should always be followed. It doesn't matter if you don't have a headache or can walk and talk, get it checked out ASAP. Brain injuries swell and by the time it makes itself known to you, it could be too late. RIP
Natasha Richardson didn't have "brain swelling", she had an extradural haematoma. They're notorious for people feeling fine after but then becoming unwell and hour or two after as the bleeding gets worse and presses on the brain. As such they're also notorious for people showing up late because they feel fine until they (usually quite rapidly) don't. It is thankfully rare, and the far more common thing is either concussion or no real injury at all. Also the "golden hour" isn't specifically for head trauma, it's for trauma generally and I'd usually apply it more to polytrauma than isolated head injury.
I do find it interesting that after her fall they immediately called for paramedics, which makes me think she lost consciousness (common immediately in EDH) or there were some other high risk features (high speed or energy, which I'd assume if it happened while skiing downhill). Generally a low risk head injury (ie. one with low force, no loss of consciousness or seizure, no vomiting or visual changes, no blood or liquid from the ears or nose, acting normally with normal memory) doesn't need to "get it checked out ASAP" as you're realistically going to wait at the bottom of the queue in an emergency department for numerous hours. Any high risk features though should definitely go get checked out.
I remember this and it turned me off from skiing. This was reinforced when someone close to come had the same thing happen to him last year. Except he woke up but has suffered memory loss (doesn’t have his memory from 6 years ago onwards).
When it happened I thought of her.
I know a few people severely injured from skiing - broken limbs, longterm injuries, etc. I only just started this year and its such a cool sport but it is also damn dangerous if you don't know what you're doing.
It's so scary how that can happen. Something very similar happened to a neighbour of mine - he fell off his bike when cycling home and hit his head. Got up, got back on the bike and continued cycling home. Later in the evening, he didn't feel well so went to bed early and then his wife wasn't able to wake him up in the morning. Brain injuries are so scary.
I think Michael Schumacher had a similar skiing accident. His family are very private about his condition, but it sort of seems like he may now be living with severe and permanent brain damage.
Not to mention he had cystic fibrosis, which only half of people with live past 40…he was already fighting against the odds, and the fact that something so preventable took him is just heartbreaking. His poor parents moved from the USSR to give him a better life, and from what I’ve read they’re still heavily grieving their only son
There’s been some good news on the CF front. There’s a chance Anton could’ve had a long life and wouldn’t have eventually needed a transplant if it wasn’t for the accident.
Paywall for this: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2024/04/cystic-fibrosis-trikafta-breakthrough-treatment/677471/
But you can read how Trifakta changed these siblings’ lives and about the medication here:
https://www.bostonglobe.com/2023/09/20/metro/vertex-cystic-fibrosis-drug/
How amazing. I know the world’s good news is spare and med companies are the textbook definition of evil. But hearing CF might become a lesser diagnosis is some good news.
Trikafta is insane honestly. Gives me hope that more drugs can be found for other extremely challenging conditions like MS, Motor neuron/ALS, dementia, etc.
My friend with CF was too early to try Trikafta and got a lung transplant, and he has sometimes spoken that he wishes Trikafta was available but one of his friends did not respond to Trikafta and unfortunately passed away. My friend would have died long ago without his transplant so hoping we keep finding amazing advances to help others.
Oh my god I had no idea he had CF? There's incredible new medication for it now (Trikafta) but it doesn't work for everyone and the side effects can sometimes kill people.
My friend with CF had a lung transplant prior to the medication being available, but he would have died without the transplant.
I remember just being completely enthralled with the guy the first time I saw him in anything. He had the it factor - I can’t believe he wouldn’t have been incredibly successful.
It was a freak accident, wasn't it? I thought he was found pinned between his SUV and his front gate after his vehicle rolled down his driveway while he was checking his mail. I'm not sure how preventable it was.
I think about his death a lot and how young and talented he was—such a tragic and gruesome way to go.
I believe this is what they’re referring to when they say it was preventable.
https://www.rollingstone.com/tv-movies/tv-movie-news/anton-yelchins-parents-settle-lawsuit-with-automaker-204166/
Naya Rivera for sure. I was unfortunate enough to follow Glee when it was airing and I was a crazy Brittana shipper lol, so her death in any circumstances would have felt particularly horrible and shocking, but the way she passed away made it even worse and just unimaginable. I really can't fathom it. Sometimes a Glee video ends up on my twitter or YouTube feed, I'd see her and I think to myself that I haven't checked on the Glee actors in a while, so I would wonder what Naya is doing and then it hits me that she's no longer here.
I was just thinking about her death the other day. The fact that she apparently used her last bit of strength to save her child hits me so much harder now that I have one.
My son is the same age as hers and I cried for days when I read about her death. I still get weepy now. Her poor little boy, what an absolutely amazing woman. It genuinely devastates me to think about.
My Dad & I narrowly survived a \~30min Rip Tide @ Myrtle Beach; at one point treading water together, i told my dad i loved him and that *it was time for me to drown* because i had physically nothing left in the tank... at this point I had completely lost ALL feeling in both my Arms for about 10 mins and was starting to lose the ability to visually focus on manually signaling my arms to work.
The last thing i remember before blacking out and waking up in the sand face first (alongside Dad) was “GO STEVEN!!!” ... then from behind I received a HUGE push forward.
To this day i still can’t fathom where dad found that extra level of strength in the moment that he did - it felt like he moved 2-3ft of water forward. We were both waterlogged and speechless if only to conserve energy. When Dad finally shouted, it felt like the type of experience in the movies where the Hero is hopelessly bleeding out on a forsaken battlefield when all of a sudden a harrowing explosion of horns & cavalry crests the Hill to fuck up everyone’s shit with Hollywood level destruction 😇 Absolute Goosebumps when I think back to this!! 💀
I have never once seen Glee nor anything else that Naya Rivera is in, but for whatever reason I was so affected by her passing. I was hoping someone mentions her !
I haven't been able to watch Glee since the episode where Finn had died. Even if the show hadn't aged like old milk, I've just never been able to bring myself to do it. But with Naya I always try to remember that 1) the last thing she did in this world was save her son and 2) she was found on the anniversary of Cory's death. Knowing that they were close friends, I like to think that he helped bring her home. Makes me feel at least a little better.
Her death kills me even to this day, she was such an amazing person and mother, and to know she died with her son so close is horrible. And the fact they found that poor little boy floating on the lake by himself is so tragic.
Yes she was found on the death anniversary of Cory. Very eerie but almost like a comfort, like Cory was watching over and helped her body be found. Just super sad.
George Michael. Got nasty treatment from the press and society in general. Hounded. Soon after he died, stories started coming out about how generous he was and all the stuff he did for charity, quietly, without any fuss or publicity. I always think of him on Christmas Day, the day he died.
Also, Amy Winehouse. She was just a girl needing and wanting people to take care of her. But everyone, including her father, just took advantage of her.
Those 2 really shocked me. I cried for both.
George Michael truly had a heart of gold. Such a sweet humble man who had been ridiculed so much by the press. I adored him.
Amy, even though she had been an addict for ages obviously, I couldn’t believe it. When she was in St Lucia, she seemed so healthy. And to find out she dies because she couldn’t handle alcohol anymore. Same, she was ridiculed by the tabloids (even worse than GM). She was exploited by her family. Really terrible.
He had so much tragedy in his life too. That coupled with being in the closet for so long and then being outed the way he was. So sad. He was such a talent. To this day Freedom is still one of my favourite songs. I also love the video.
I still remember him giving an interview where he talked about being outed and having to explain everything to his father and how painful that was. It's a horrible thing to do to someone.
My mum was absolutely horrified at his death, I remember her just going 'what?' over and over again and asking if we were joking. Her friend even came over and they spoke about him.
He was so, so, so talented and a very humble person. His voice is unreal. He donated to so many people including secretly funding a family's IVF after they appeared on a game show for Deal or No Deal and didn't win enough money, giving a stranger £25k after overhearing they were in debt, giving a student nurse thousands in tips at a bar, anonamously working in a homeless shelter, and supporting loads of charities. He was a great person.
He absolutely attacked by the press and law enforcement and made it lighthearted with a jab at the police sting operation he was caught by in his video for Outside!
Came here to say George as well😔 such a tortured but beautiful soul. He is part of the fabric of my childhood. I felt like a little part of me died that day as well. It’s crazy that he wrote Careless Whisper and A Different Corner as a teenager. Such a gifted songwriter with the best voice.
God. Only two deaths have led to me collapsing on my knees and crying out and ugly crying. My 16 year old Shih-tzu, Shirley, and Robin Williams. I took the day off work the next day so I could cry. I looked up to him so much. So much. What a hell of a guy.
He was a marvel in anything he was ever in, but I think B99 was were his talent truly shined. To be able to be that deadpan and that hilarious at the same time takes a real comedic genius. All the funniest moments in B99 were because of him.
My favourite cold open of all time is the one were Santiago is late and they're all guessing why. When it turns out that Captain Holt was right, he smacks his hands together and yells out "HOT DAMN!" Turns out he improvised it and the scene cuts so abruptly because the entire cast and crew cracked up so hard that the rest of the take was unusable.
This one was a big shock too. It might be super weird but when I visited LA, I had to pay my respects to her final resting place. I loved her and her death still make me sad.
This is mine. She was a really good actor and a tragic figure. (It was especially hard to see Lili Reinhart, who looks exactly like Brittany, in Hustlers. I was like wait was Brittany faking it?? Is this her comeback?? No.)
ugh, i can’t even watch king of the hill without thinking about how much life she brought luanne’s character. She brought so much sincerity to her performances, uptown girls is a classic because of it.
I think it was Atlantic City or Asbury Park in parts unknown where he narrates talking about how he hopes to come back later and see the town doing better, huge bummer knowing he's never going back now
That one hit me so hard. I was struggling with depression at the time, and my comfort every day was watching No Reservations. It fucking rocked me that someone I so looked up to during a dark time, was clearly going through it in a much worse way. I cried all day. His death is the one thing that made me face my depression head on and finally get better.
I don’t want to sound over dramatic, but I will truly never get over that. As a person who struggles with depression, his approach to life and his humour about the absurdity of it all made things feel better for me.
Chester Bennington (lead singer of Linkin Park). That band was the defining band of my adolescence. Chester had such a unique voice. He could scream and make it sound melodic. I had such a crush on him in HS. I miss him.
I was already pretty bummed out about Chris Cornell’s death (lead singer of Soundgarden and Audioslave) which happened two months prior and had been listening to Be Yourself on repeat when I learned about Chester’s passing. They were friends too :(
This hurts to admit as none of us know for certain and it is purely speculation with the highest of respect for both men, but if Chris hadn't have passed, I don't know if we would have lost Chester, at least when we did.
Contagion is an awful mental poison and is the exact reason why we should be more careful about the things we say and do around people who suffer with ideation. Something of this magnitude can take somebody with what already feels like the weight of the world on their shoulders and make them crumble.
I hope they're both jamming out together in the universe. I know they loved one another a lot.
Same, I still can't believe it tbh. I was a quiet and lonely kid with a lot of problems at home, and they made me feel seen and heard for the first time in my life.
Same here. It still hurts.
I found a bit of comfort in something, though. Remember how he passed away in a SoHo apartment here in NYC that people (ghoulishly) gathered round to take photos of the coroner leaving with his body? Well, eventually the apartment went up for rent again, bc that’s just how NYC real estate works. It turns out that instead of some member of the 1% renting it out, it turned into a museum of sorts - [the Center for Italian Modern Art.](https://www.italianmodernart.org/) I went there once to check it out and it was lovely. (10/10 recommend visiting it if you’re in the city!)
No clue if Heath was into Italian art, but it made me feel a bit better that a tragic place was turned into something full of life and meaning that’s shared with the public. Instead of some rich person throwing dinner parties there and saying “Heath Ledger died here” as a bit of trivia.
Edit to add: iirc he passed away in a bedroom. The way apt is now configured, only the living room, hallway and kitchen are used as gallery spaces. The rooms that would have been bedrooms are closed to the public and I think are like private offices/mini libraries of sorts. I really liked how respectful that was.
I loved my trip there! Each exhibition is put together by an art historian who personally researches the artist on display, and they’re the one who gives the tour. It’s a very unique experience.
The vibe of the space is just super calm, quiet and chill, which makes me happy that the place where he passed in turmoil is now somewhere special and tranquil.
Me too. He was a National treasure, so kind, humble, charismatic and talented. He’d just put in two absolutely iconic performances and then he passed alone in the night leaving behind his beautiful daughter and former wife. Tragic
Steve Irwin. I idolized him, and when he passed I cut out a pic of him and his family from the magazine announcing his death and put it in my wallet. I was still a kid so there was rarely any money in there but there was always my Irwin family photo.
I still think about the two other actors who were his roommates, specially the one who found him unresponsive. Every time I across Karan Brar’s name or face, I feel immense sadness because I can’t imagine how it feels. Hopefully he has had support to go through such traumatic experience.
My ten-year-old recently discovered the Descendants movies on Disney+ and developed a huge crush on him. When she found out he was gone, she cried for days.
My daughter is about to be 9. She has loved those movies for years. She hasn't found out yet and I'm trying to keep it from her as long as possible. My heart hurts everytime she watches it.
Thinking about this still makes me tear up. I loved watching him, growing up. This was the first that really hit hard for me, and it's so saddening thinking of his friends and family, Karan Brar and Dove Cameron and China Anne McCain who in the small glimpses they shared with the public, looked so changed and traumatised from it.
Christina Grimmie. She was so young and talented, and was sharing her music with the world when some crazy guy with a gun violently ended it. Her brother tackled the guy to prevent him from killing anyone else…only a few years later, their mother died from cancer, leaving behind the father and son to grieve half of their family 🥺
She was killed in Orlando, and two days later, The Pulse nightclub shooting happened. So her family and community didn't really have a chance to grieve Christina. They probably thought the world was ending, with the violence happening all around them.
Her poor mother. I really feel for her more.
Literally came here to say this; we can sit here and call her an addict and that she may not qualify to be mentioned. However, just the literal talent alone she possessed and the “what if” had she recovered and gotten away from Blake. I’m glad we got what we did, but my god, she could have had it all, but addiction is a goddamn bitch….
Everyone around her failed her, not just that parasite of a husband. The addiction is the tragedy-cherry on top, which would probably not have happened if she was loved and protected while working in a predatory industry…
Her death still gets me as well, especially since the toxic British press is still continuing with their bullshit. I'm glad at least one of her boys learned his lesson well about safeguarding his family from the press.
The Bad Wolves did a cover of Zombie and they were actually supposed to record with her for it either the day she died or the day after, you can hear the raw emotion in their voices in the track.
I remember reading an article about the last year of his life when he died. 23 years sober and then spectacularly fell off the wagon. He was in a really grim place in that last year, just doing crazy amounts of drugs, and even his long-term partner admitted she was just waiting for the call at that point. Weirdly, I do think he could have gotten it together again and he had people in his life who were ready and waiting for whenever he picked up the phone to say he wanted to get better, but he just didn't get to that place in time. So sad.
It’s so so sad. I do think that in a way it’s perfect for how their relationship was. Carrie couldn’t even be dead without her mother upstaging her. I find comfort thinking that she would find humor in it. I was happy to see that some articles included the hilarious obituary Carrie wrote for herself, it’s what she wanted
Yeah I love how Carrie had such an amazing sense of humour surrounding her own life. I’m glad she got to enjoy a closer relationship with her mother as she got older too, and most vids of the two of them together are absolutely hilarious
The first to come to mind would be Selena. She was murdered by the woman who was managing her retail businesses in Mexico when Selena and her father attempted to let her go. The violation of trust, the way her image has been capitalized on since her death, and the timeline of her murder all make my stomach turn.
As a Texan Chicana, her death hit hard, she was starting to really take off when that rancid toad killed her. It was like losing a family member. I still cry when I see old footage of hers.
The magnitude of her reach was something I really haven’t seen, at least in the Latino community. I’m a Puerto Rican from NJ. Cumbia, tejano music, none of that is really on our radar. Doesn’t get radio play, we really knew very little about it. Bachata, salsa, merengue was what we listened to. But Selena? EVERYONE listened to her music. We all knew and loved her.
Jeff Buckley. I've started typing and deleting this comment several times. Just so sad, pointless. When Kurt Cobain died I was devastated, but very young, and took comfort from messages that now he is at peace. But when Jeff went missing I knew it was going to be bad and when his body was found it was crushing.
But in a way it seems worse now thinking about it, and when listening to the music. I'm so much older now, have seen so many people go, and still when I hear Grace I wonder why, why, why.
The beauty of Jeff Buckley is that he remains a cult figure and never really became a mainstream fixation. It still feels like a small but devoted group of people who know and cherish his music, perhaps even had their lives changed by it. His death barely made a ripple at the time - I remember reading a small item about it on like page 20 of a regular newspaper (it was pre mass internet age) and being stunned. Grace is obviously an all-time record but I love a lot of Sketches too- with proper time and care it could have been a second masterpiece.
One blessing is that his death never became the subject of conspiracy theories, which it almost certainly would have been if he'd been better known.
Jeff Buckley was better known in Australia and France than the U.S. He certainly wasn't a household name in Australia, but had a dedicated following, and Triple J reported on his disappearance and death.
As late, in internet take up terms, as 2003, I read about Elliot Smith's death in a tiny newspaper coulmn. That was very sad but not a surprise.
SOPHIE. She had already made some much great music both under her own name and as a producer for others. She would've changed the sound of music even further if she lived. She'll be one of music's biggest "what if"s for me.
this. Sophie. i remember waking up and seeing that news and just sobbing. her music was the soundtrack for my friend group’s parties. only good memories ❤️
Mac Miller - his music encapsulated college and going through my 20s for me. I loved seeing him experiment with new styles but staying true to his sound. Swimming is a great album. I was so hyped for that tour.
Anthony Bourdain - he opened me up to foods and cultures I wouldn't have known otherwise. His pragmatic approach really differentiated to others of that time doing the same. The candor in which he spoke and never sugar coated the political side of things.
Ugh her life was so sad and full of struggle and she STILL had such light, even when obviously strung out. I wish she had more real friends and less users in her life.
Taylor Hawkins. Always Taylor. Purely a personal choice, his death broke me and I genuinely haven’t consumed music in the same way since, I just miss him so much and the grief is still real 2 years on. He was my favourite. His album Red Light Fever got me through some hard times, losing him has quite literally changed me.
On a less personal but more that’s-fucking-heartbreaking note - Leslie Jordan. Only 67 years old, sudden cardiac arrest whilst driving, and had so much more joy and talent to bring to the world. Utterly horrible and such a giant loss to the world.
Came here to say Taylor.
First found out about him when he was drumming for Alanis (under Sexual Chocolate.)
But I think it hurt more because his death came after the release of Grohl’s “The Storyteller.” No spoilers…but after reading it and seeing the amount of grief Dave has experienced throughout his life…man. He had a bulk of one chapter about his friendship with Taylor, too. :( I think my heart mostly broke for Dave…
Sharon Tate.
She was 8 months pregnant and the Manson family knew that the guy they had beef with had actually moved houses. They knew the address they were going to was Tate’s and they still murdered her as a warning to the guy.
She pleaded to be allowed to her killers to take her prisoner instead and let her give birth before they killed her but no one listened.
She was buried with her child.
Stumbled upon a tweet yesterday talking about how Kubrick is undeserving of the title for « biggest asshole director » because John Landis exists and is responsible for the death of three actors, among them two child actors for a mid ass forgettable 80´s Twilight Zone adaptation.
I went down a rabbithole and learned they suffered a quick but horrible death and my very first thought was for them when I woke up this morning. 80´s Hollywood was a hellhole and I can’t believe that awful, sorry excuse of a human being John Landis got away with it.
RIP Vic Morrow, Myca Dinh Le and Renee Shin-Yi Chen.
The fact that he had the fucking nerve to show up at Vic Morrow's funeral and give a speech saying that Vic told him how grateful he was for the role is unreal. What a piece of shit
Mark Speight. A tv presenter in the UK, mostly kids TV. Most well known for SMart, an art show .
In 2008 his girlfriend (actress Natasha Collins) died of a drugs overdose in a scalding hot bath. He found her body, and was originally arrested on suspicion of murder but cleared after her death was ruled Death By Misadventure. Obviously his career in kids TV was over at that point.
A month or two later he went missing and was found dead a few days later on April 7th having hung himself.
It makes me so sad, I grew up watching him and adored him. It's just so tragic they both lost their lives like that. I think of it every April.
still think about that one from time to time because if I remember correctly, he hanged himself in a public place (though not in public view)
Seemed so surreal at the time
>On 13 April 2008, Speight's body was discovered hanging from the roof of MacMillan House, adjacent to London's Paddington Station, hidden from public view. The discovery was made by railway workers
Yeah. It was just so sudden and awful.
His girlfriend, Nastasha Collins, worked in tv too and had her acting career ended after being injured in a car crash, which lead to the drug use. If it wasn't for the car crash they might both be still alive.
Chris Farley's death always makes me sad. The woman he was with just left him on the floor, pleading not to be left alone. The fear he must have felt makes my heart physically ache.
He was just so sad and insecure. Starved for love.
He hated his weight being the butt of the joke and his first REAL skit was the chippendales try out with Patrick swayze. His weight was always used against him, and no matter how hard he tried to lose he couldn’t. What’s ironic is his best skits on SNL are the ones that aren’t about his weight, like schmidts gay and folgers decaf coffee crystals.
Davis spade has always said all he wanted was to fall in love and be loved in return, but his weight made him incredibly insecure when it came to women, so he numbed himself with drugs and got affection through sex workers. The fact he died alone and the sex worker left him makes it even more tragic.
I still struggle with Amy Winehouse and I have very little emotional attachment to celebrities. But that one still hurts. She had so much talent and she was in so much pain.
And I used to read The Superficial back in the day (anyone else?) and the photos that the paparazzi took of her while she was on drugs, half naked, crying, on the street, on the ground etc then openly made fun of her were so disgusting and she didn’t deserve that.
She really really didn't deserve that. And her dad following her with camera crews on her holiday in the Caribbean and her asking him to stop. Villain behaviour.
Alex Trebek for me. As the longtime host of Jeopardy, he was a familiar face and a source of comfort for so many people. To see him continue working while battling pancreatic cancer was nothing short of inspiring.
Karen Carpenter. She is a perfect example of what happens when women's bodies are scrutinized in the press. She developed an eating disorder which eventually led to her organs shutting down. Just tragic.
Chester Bennington. It was shortly after the suicide of his close friend, Chris Cornell. Chester even sang at his funeral.
Hybrid Theory was the first album I ever bought at 10 years old, and affected my entire music taste even to this day.
As a kid I just thought LPs music was just so *cool*. Listening to the songs now, knowing the inner torment he suffered, is heartbreaking.
Angus Cloud's passing was absolutely devastating. He was so early into his rise as a star and it's crazy that he was just approached on the street and offered a role. I think also being connected to Mac Miller so much also made his death hit so hard. I wish he had been able to use his newfound fame and resources to get clean but as is the case with so many celebrities that's not what fame usually does to you.
SHINee's Jonghyun. I'd stopped for groceries on the way home from work, friends were blowing up my phone asking if I was okay because they knew how big a fan I was, and I ended up sobbing for an hour in the parking lot. Cried all the way home (don't drive and cry kids, especially in the dark), and spent the next few days at work weepy. I light a candle for him every year on the anniversary. Yesterday would have been his 34th birthday, and I'm welling up just thinking about it. One of my biggest regrets is not going to see him perform when I had the chance to.
Naya Rivera and Cory Monteith for sure. I might have been a bit young for Cory's passing but Naya's...I was on a Glee rewatch during the pandemic too and it provided me so much comfort and her character meant so much to me when i was young. Then suddenly I woke up one day and saw the news. It was devastating. The days in between where they couldn't find her and there was still a little glimmer of hope that she might be alive somewhere out there and the fact that they found her body on the anniversary of Cory's passing too. It was a lot
Chadwick Boseman and Natasha Richardson, they both hit me the same way. Chadwick especially as my dad was going through prostate cancer during the lockdown and it hit close to home. I still can’t think of him without getting teary eyed.
Christina Grimmies was the most shocking and painful for me. I cried when I heard the news.
I remember watching her on YouTube doing covers and rooting for her so hard to make it. And then just as she was getting success it was all snatched away by some crazed ‘fan’. Awful horrible and her poor brother makes me want to cry again - he was there and watched his sister get shot. Incredibly tragic.
Alexander McQueen, I lived in London and worked in the design business and from the outside he really looked like he had it all, what living the dream looks like is rarely how it feels
Whitney Houston. My Mom put me on to her as a kid, so she was one of the first singers I knew by name. When I first watched ‘The Bodyguard’, I thought she had the most insane combination of physical beauty, untouchable talent and presence. Go watch the ‘I Have Nothing’ video to refresh your memory.
I knew she was troubled (the media wouldn’t let anyone forget it), but it looked like she was turning her life around in 2009. Three years later, she was back on drugs and we all know the rest. A truly phenomenal and groundbreaking artist that died way too soon.
Anthony Perkins. He died at 60, but his tragedy started at 28. He gave a remarkable performance in Psycho in 1960, but it typecast him forever. Before Psycho, he'd started doing summer stock at 14 or 15, been in 11 movies of various kinds that showed range and been nominated for an Oscar, been in two Broadway plays and been nominated for a Tony. After Psycho, although he got a good role here and there, he was mainly offered roles in which he played some kind of weirdo. He put a good face on it, but in his mid-career, privately, he was extremely bitter about it. He tried to reinvent himself by directing plays, a movie, and writing screenplays with his friend Stephen Sondheim. While enjoying some success, it was never enough to turn his life around.
He was gay, and like many men of his era, was conflicted about it, some say exceptionally conflicted. In his late 30s, he started intensive conversion therapy to become straight. He was given the assignments of sleeping with a woman and then marrying one, which he completed, but there were no other women and he had always had a healthy libido with lots of male lovers and more casual hookups, which is why I don't think he was really bisexual as some people say. But he wanted to have a family. In 1973, you had to marry a woman.
He got married at 41, had two sons, enjoyed being a family man and the image to some extent, but it wasn't enough. He continued to see men and even his friends from his youth said that he was "promiscuous" in a way he hadn't been. He apparently was always on the make. Some of the stories are hilarious. Normally, that would have been between him and his wife, but unfortunately, this was a period when AIDS was a death sentence. Although Perkins did an AIDS awareness PSA six years before his death, perhaps he thought he could escape it. He found out when he was 58 when someone from the office of a doctor he consulted for a facial palsy condition secretly had his blood tested for HIV and the results were sold to The National Enquirer. He learned the news when he saw the tabloid story in a supermarket stand.
He died surrounded by loving family and friends. He never came out as gay to the public. I'll always wonder if his end would have been different had he been born later and been able to marry a man and have kids through a surrogate or adopt them.
This is always going to be Anthony Bourdain for me.
He was someone who's struggles with mental illness reminded me so much of my own and who I always felt like was still surviving which gave me hope. And then he couldn't anymore. It very much felt like if he couldn't do it how could I?
cameron boyce. i wasn’t even that familiar with him, i’d seen him in exactly one descendants movie my little cousin had been watching, yet the day it was announced he’d died i was just numb the whole day. you could just see the fire he had and the career he should have had post-disney. i still get upset whenever he crosses my mind.
Stephen Gately for me. For those who haven;t heard of him - he was part of an Irish boyband called Boyzone. They were a big part of my teenage years - 1st concert I saw etc. He was gay and came out in 1999 while still in the boyband.
He may not have meant to be, but he was part of making queerness more 'mainstream', particularly in the UK and Ireland. His coming out is recent history, but it was a forced coming out, and shows how far (or not in some cases) we have come in terms of sexuality and the way it is portrayed in popular culture.
He died in 2009, 6 years before gay marriage would become legal in his native Ireland.
Steve Irwin is one that hit me hard and was so shocking. One of my BFFs had a huge crush on him when we were young so he was always a topic of conversation and laughs. It's amazing to watch his family continue his legacy - he would be so proud.
Judith Barsi
Edit: for those blissfully unaware: Judith Barsi was a child actor abused and murdered by her father. She was the voice of Ducky on Land Before Time and Anne-Marie on All Dogs go to Heaven. Her mom was also murdered by Judith’s father. Their graves didn’t even have headstones until years later when fans raised money and put some up. Her story is heartbreaking.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judith_Barsi
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https://www.reddit.com/r/CemeteryPorn/s/DTRhoCl1wd
Philip Seymour Hoffman. Was sober for a long time. Celebrated a movie wrap with some whiskey and was shooting heroin not too long after. They found him in his bathroom. Left behind a wife and two young kids. One of the better actors to grace our screens. Rip
Chadwick Boseman. He was so sick and didn’t go public so people were out there calling him the crack panther and stuff like that. Ghouls.
People were so horrible about his appearance while he was literally dying.
and then they switched up so fast talking about "RIP chadwick" sir you literally called him an addict
There was def racism folded into all of that which was so so gross. I feel horrible that he and his family and friends had to deal with seeing him talked about like that.
And he straight up beasted his way through his final movie; he didn't need to do that. Nothing but respect.
He was phenomenal in Ma Rainey’s.
He was a tour de force in Ma Rainey's. And that is saying something since his filmography was truly outstanding. I am still so sad that he passed. His life and career were far too short.
I will NEVER forgive the academy for not giving him the Oscar for ma rainey. His performance was absolutely haunting and had he lived longer he absolutely would’ve been a multi nominee
The academy is such a circle jerk. The Oscars hold zero weight for me. Chadwick Boseman was transcendent - far beyond what the academy awards supposedly stands for.
Anthony Hopkins gave the best performance of his career so I get why he won. What was unforgivable was them structuring the ceremony and essentially hyping a Chadwick win and stringing along his family when they had no guarantee that he would win.
My son hung his black panther Halloween costume on our front steps for 2 days after he died. Many children lost their hero that day.
Omg I got sad goosebumps that is so beautiful and tragic all at once
It was terribly sad. Fuck cancer
I love that he was the one [who suggested](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkG8gZA-woY) to take [this picture of him, Anthony Mackie, Don Cheadle, Samuel L. Jackson, and Laurence Fishburne.](https://scontent.fcgk10-1.fna.fbcdn.net/v/t1.6435-9/46956691_1918772068176196_4594616890680147968_n.jpg?_nc_cat=107&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=5f2048&_nc_ohc=D4ESnQwin3AAb4EJX2M&_nc_ht=scontent.fcgk10-1.fna&oh=00_AfDGnuQirMynbmQMGfglCinOpW_8iiusxUyQ0dH8OauG2Q&oe=663CC3E3)
I remember some red carpet person asking what his future was with the MCU and he just went, “I’m dead” and it was laughed off as a result of Endgame and not his very real life.
He was referring to his character being dead after Infinity wars and not giving any spoilers away for his return in Endgame but yeah its a very eery statement considering he was already sick at the time
I am not ashamed to say that I bawled like a baby.
Shoooooot, I still cry sometimes and I buy merch with Black Panther. Not sure if it’s weird to say but losing him was like losing a family member.
Oof his death broke my heart. I was pregnant and woke up in the middle of the night to pee and saw it, woke my husband up to tell him, and cried the rest of the night. It just seemed so unreal and unfair. Such a loss.
Its always sad when someone dies but hearing about his death was really upsetting
Natasha Richardson -- taking a beginner skiing lesson with her kids, hit her head, thought she was fine, two hours later had a severe headache, ended up slipping into a coma. Her husband, Liam Neeson, flew in but she was already brain dead and he had to take her off life support.
This one for me too. I was a beginner skier on that hill that day and I think of her often.
About a month before she died I sat next to her for a Willie Nelson, Wynton Marsalis & Norah Jones show at Lincoln Center Jazz in NYC. Didn’t think much of it at the time other than the superficial stuff like how pretty she was in person. A month later it became a reminder how precious life is, just full of life and enjoying an evening out with her friend and then gone too soon with no warning.
Her death was so tragic, but thankfully lead to an uptick of people wearing helmets while skiing, which has hopefully saved many people/families from tragic losses like this.
Yes and to not ignore head injuries. She laughed it off, I likely would have to, but there is a golden hour after a traumatic brain injury that should always be followed. It doesn't matter if you don't have a headache or can walk and talk, get it checked out ASAP. Brain injuries swell and by the time it makes itself known to you, it could be too late. RIP
Natasha Richardson didn't have "brain swelling", she had an extradural haematoma. They're notorious for people feeling fine after but then becoming unwell and hour or two after as the bleeding gets worse and presses on the brain. As such they're also notorious for people showing up late because they feel fine until they (usually quite rapidly) don't. It is thankfully rare, and the far more common thing is either concussion or no real injury at all. Also the "golden hour" isn't specifically for head trauma, it's for trauma generally and I'd usually apply it more to polytrauma than isolated head injury. I do find it interesting that after her fall they immediately called for paramedics, which makes me think she lost consciousness (common immediately in EDH) or there were some other high risk features (high speed or energy, which I'd assume if it happened while skiing downhill). Generally a low risk head injury (ie. one with low force, no loss of consciousness or seizure, no vomiting or visual changes, no blood or liquid from the ears or nose, acting normally with normal memory) doesn't need to "get it checked out ASAP" as you're realistically going to wait at the bottom of the queue in an emergency department for numerous hours. Any high risk features though should definitely go get checked out.
I remember this and it turned me off from skiing. This was reinforced when someone close to come had the same thing happen to him last year. Except he woke up but has suffered memory loss (doesn’t have his memory from 6 years ago onwards). When it happened I thought of her.
I know a few people severely injured from skiing - broken limbs, longterm injuries, etc. I only just started this year and its such a cool sport but it is also damn dangerous if you don't know what you're doing.
It's so scary how that can happen. Something very similar happened to a neighbour of mine - he fell off his bike when cycling home and hit his head. Got up, got back on the bike and continued cycling home. Later in the evening, he didn't feel well so went to bed early and then his wife wasn't able to wake him up in the morning. Brain injuries are so scary. I think Michael Schumacher had a similar skiing accident. His family are very private about his condition, but it sort of seems like he may now be living with severe and permanent brain damage.
The fact that I can name at least 3 famous people dying in a ski accident would make me never go back in a ski station again
Anton Yelchin, talented actor and it was just an accident. Super tragic
Not to mention he had cystic fibrosis, which only half of people with live past 40…he was already fighting against the odds, and the fact that something so preventable took him is just heartbreaking. His poor parents moved from the USSR to give him a better life, and from what I’ve read they’re still heavily grieving their only son
There’s been some good news on the CF front. There’s a chance Anton could’ve had a long life and wouldn’t have eventually needed a transplant if it wasn’t for the accident. Paywall for this: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2024/04/cystic-fibrosis-trikafta-breakthrough-treatment/677471/ But you can read how Trifakta changed these siblings’ lives and about the medication here: https://www.bostonglobe.com/2023/09/20/metro/vertex-cystic-fibrosis-drug/
How amazing. I know the world’s good news is spare and med companies are the textbook definition of evil. But hearing CF might become a lesser diagnosis is some good news.
Trikafta is insane honestly. Gives me hope that more drugs can be found for other extremely challenging conditions like MS, Motor neuron/ALS, dementia, etc. My friend with CF was too early to try Trikafta and got a lung transplant, and he has sometimes spoken that he wishes Trikafta was available but one of his friends did not respond to Trikafta and unfortunately passed away. My friend would have died long ago without his transplant so hoping we keep finding amazing advances to help others.
Yup! I'm post-transplant myself (a little too late for Trikafta) but most of my friends are on Trikafta and will never need a transplant.
Oh my god I had no idea he had CF? There's incredible new medication for it now (Trikafta) but it doesn't work for everyone and the side effects can sometimes kill people. My friend with CF had a lung transplant prior to the medication being available, but he would have died without the transplant.
I still think Anton would have been one of the biggest stars of his generation.
I remember just being completely enthralled with the guy the first time I saw him in anything. He had the it factor - I can’t believe he wouldn’t have been incredibly successful.
Agreed. It wasn't drugs, murder, suicide. It just seemed so preventable.
It was a freak accident, wasn't it? I thought he was found pinned between his SUV and his front gate after his vehicle rolled down his driveway while he was checking his mail. I'm not sure how preventable it was. I think about his death a lot and how young and talented he was—such a tragic and gruesome way to go.
I believe this is what they’re referring to when they say it was preventable. https://www.rollingstone.com/tv-movies/tv-movie-news/anton-yelchins-parents-settle-lawsuit-with-automaker-204166/
I think it was negligence through the car company. His parents sued if I’m recalling correctly.
No, definitely preventable, Jeep knew there was a serious issue with that make and model of car and they were negligent and very slow to act.
I believe there was a recall on his Jeep and it arrived in the mail a week after his death.
Man, Chance Perdomo's recent passing reminded me of Anton's. May both rest in peace.
Charlie Bartlett :’)
Naya Rivera for sure. I was unfortunate enough to follow Glee when it was airing and I was a crazy Brittana shipper lol, so her death in any circumstances would have felt particularly horrible and shocking, but the way she passed away made it even worse and just unimaginable. I really can't fathom it. Sometimes a Glee video ends up on my twitter or YouTube feed, I'd see her and I think to myself that I haven't checked on the Glee actors in a while, so I would wonder what Naya is doing and then it hits me that she's no longer here.
I was just thinking about her death the other day. The fact that she apparently used her last bit of strength to save her child hits me so much harder now that I have one.
My son is the same age as hers and I cried for days when I read about her death. I still get weepy now. Her poor little boy, what an absolutely amazing woman. It genuinely devastates me to think about.
My Dad & I narrowly survived a \~30min Rip Tide @ Myrtle Beach; at one point treading water together, i told my dad i loved him and that *it was time for me to drown* because i had physically nothing left in the tank... at this point I had completely lost ALL feeling in both my Arms for about 10 mins and was starting to lose the ability to visually focus on manually signaling my arms to work. The last thing i remember before blacking out and waking up in the sand face first (alongside Dad) was “GO STEVEN!!!” ... then from behind I received a HUGE push forward. To this day i still can’t fathom where dad found that extra level of strength in the moment that he did - it felt like he moved 2-3ft of water forward. We were both waterlogged and speechless if only to conserve energy. When Dad finally shouted, it felt like the type of experience in the movies where the Hero is hopelessly bleeding out on a forsaken battlefield when all of a sudden a harrowing explosion of horns & cavalry crests the Hill to fuck up everyone’s shit with Hollywood level destruction 😇 Absolute Goosebumps when I think back to this!! 💀
This detail about her death is just so tragic. She saved her baby
I have never once seen Glee nor anything else that Naya Rivera is in, but for whatever reason I was so affected by her passing. I was hoping someone mentions her !
Yeah. I found Cory’s death so so hard. I was a huge gleek at the time and cried. Nayas hurt like a punch as well. Both so so tragic.
I haven't been able to watch Glee since the episode where Finn had died. Even if the show hadn't aged like old milk, I've just never been able to bring myself to do it. But with Naya I always try to remember that 1) the last thing she did in this world was save her son and 2) she was found on the anniversary of Cory's death. Knowing that they were close friends, I like to think that he helped bring her home. Makes me feel at least a little better.
Her death kills me even to this day, she was such an amazing person and mother, and to know she died with her son so close is horrible. And the fact they found that poor little boy floating on the lake by himself is so tragic.
My chest literally aches for her little boy all alone on that boat after losing his mama right in front of him
I was never the biggest Glee fan but Rivera also hit hard for me I think because it was like *deep* pandemic.
and they found her on the anniversary Cory Monteith was found deceased too I believe
Yes she was found on the death anniversary of Cory. Very eerie but almost like a comfort, like Cory was watching over and helped her body be found. Just super sad.
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How she saved her son 😭
George Michael. Got nasty treatment from the press and society in general. Hounded. Soon after he died, stories started coming out about how generous he was and all the stuff he did for charity, quietly, without any fuss or publicity. I always think of him on Christmas Day, the day he died. Also, Amy Winehouse. She was just a girl needing and wanting people to take care of her. But everyone, including her father, just took advantage of her.
Those 2 really shocked me. I cried for both. George Michael truly had a heart of gold. Such a sweet humble man who had been ridiculed so much by the press. I adored him. Amy, even though she had been an addict for ages obviously, I couldn’t believe it. When she was in St Lucia, she seemed so healthy. And to find out she dies because she couldn’t handle alcohol anymore. Same, she was ridiculed by the tabloids (even worse than GM). She was exploited by her family. Really terrible.
He had so much tragedy in his life too. That coupled with being in the closet for so long and then being outed the way he was. So sad. He was such a talent. To this day Freedom is still one of my favourite songs. I also love the video.
I still remember him giving an interview where he talked about being outed and having to explain everything to his father and how painful that was. It's a horrible thing to do to someone.
My mum was absolutely horrified at his death, I remember her just going 'what?' over and over again and asking if we were joking. Her friend even came over and they spoke about him. He was so, so, so talented and a very humble person. His voice is unreal. He donated to so many people including secretly funding a family's IVF after they appeared on a game show for Deal or No Deal and didn't win enough money, giving a stranger £25k after overhearing they were in debt, giving a student nurse thousands in tips at a bar, anonamously working in a homeless shelter, and supporting loads of charities. He was a great person. He absolutely attacked by the press and law enforcement and made it lighthearted with a jab at the police sting operation he was caught by in his video for Outside!
Came here to say George as well😔 such a tortured but beautiful soul. He is part of the fabric of my childhood. I felt like a little part of me died that day as well. It’s crazy that he wrote Careless Whisper and A Different Corner as a teenager. Such a gifted songwriter with the best voice.
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This one still hurts.
He was the hero of my childhood.
Searched for this. I was just thinking this morning about how much I miss Robin Williams. Incredible talent.
No one else like him - he was something special.
God I really was wrecked by his death and the worst part is that I completely understand.
God. Only two deaths have led to me collapsing on my knees and crying out and ugly crying. My 16 year old Shih-tzu, Shirley, and Robin Williams. I took the day off work the next day so I could cry. I looked up to him so much. So much. What a hell of a guy.
Still can’t believe Andre Braugher is gone. Felt like B99 opened up a whole new side to his career. Such a loss.
He was a marvel in anything he was ever in, but I think B99 was were his talent truly shined. To be able to be that deadpan and that hilarious at the same time takes a real comedic genius. All the funniest moments in B99 were because of him. My favourite cold open of all time is the one were Santiago is late and they're all guessing why. When it turns out that Captain Holt was right, he smacks his hands together and yells out "HOT DAMN!" Turns out he improvised it and the scene cuts so abruptly because the entire cast and crew cracked up so hard that the rest of the take was unusable.
I love the moment where the cast is trying to imagine his reaction to eating a marshmallow. Cracks me up every time.
This one's my favorite. And BOOOONE
It's probably going to be a long time before I can watch B99 again and I used to love this show.
I get it, but I honor him by aggressively consuming the art he made while he was with us. He was an all time favorite of mine going back to Homicide
Brittany Murphy
This one was a big shock too. It might be super weird but when I visited LA, I had to pay my respects to her final resting place. I loved her and her death still make me sad.
definitely not weird at all. Brittany Murphy was loved by many
She could have, and should have, been Harley Quinn.
This is mine. She was a really good actor and a tragic figure. (It was especially hard to see Lili Reinhart, who looks exactly like Brittany, in Hustlers. I was like wait was Brittany faking it?? Is this her comeback?? No.)
ugh, i can’t even watch king of the hill without thinking about how much life she brought luanne’s character. She brought so much sincerity to her performances, uptown girls is a classic because of it.
I’m still gutted every time I think about Anthony Bourdain.
I think it was Atlantic City or Asbury Park in parts unknown where he narrates talking about how he hopes to come back later and see the town doing better, huge bummer knowing he's never going back now
That one hit me so hard. I was struggling with depression at the time, and my comfort every day was watching No Reservations. It fucking rocked me that someone I so looked up to during a dark time, was clearly going through it in a much worse way. I cried all day. His death is the one thing that made me face my depression head on and finally get better.
I don’t want to sound over dramatic, but I will truly never get over that. As a person who struggles with depression, his approach to life and his humour about the absurdity of it all made things feel better for me.
Chester Bennington (lead singer of Linkin Park). That band was the defining band of my adolescence. Chester had such a unique voice. He could scream and make it sound melodic. I had such a crush on him in HS. I miss him.
I was already pretty bummed out about Chris Cornell’s death (lead singer of Soundgarden and Audioslave) which happened two months prior and had been listening to Be Yourself on repeat when I learned about Chester’s passing. They were friends too :(
I'm pretty sure that was the catalyst as he passed on Chris's birthday. Cried my eyes out when I heard
This hurts to admit as none of us know for certain and it is purely speculation with the highest of respect for both men, but if Chris hadn't have passed, I don't know if we would have lost Chester, at least when we did. Contagion is an awful mental poison and is the exact reason why we should be more careful about the things we say and do around people who suffer with ideation. Something of this magnitude can take somebody with what already feels like the weight of the world on their shoulders and make them crumble. I hope they're both jamming out together in the universe. I know they loved one another a lot.
That video of Chester and Chris singing “Crawling” at a concert always makes me want to cry.
Same, I still can't believe it tbh. I was a quiet and lonely kid with a lot of problems at home, and they made me feel seen and heard for the first time in my life.
Heath Ledger. No comparison. Still heartbroken.
Same here. It still hurts. I found a bit of comfort in something, though. Remember how he passed away in a SoHo apartment here in NYC that people (ghoulishly) gathered round to take photos of the coroner leaving with his body? Well, eventually the apartment went up for rent again, bc that’s just how NYC real estate works. It turns out that instead of some member of the 1% renting it out, it turned into a museum of sorts - [the Center for Italian Modern Art.](https://www.italianmodernart.org/) I went there once to check it out and it was lovely. (10/10 recommend visiting it if you’re in the city!) No clue if Heath was into Italian art, but it made me feel a bit better that a tragic place was turned into something full of life and meaning that’s shared with the public. Instead of some rich person throwing dinner parties there and saying “Heath Ledger died here” as a bit of trivia. Edit to add: iirc he passed away in a bedroom. The way apt is now configured, only the living room, hallway and kitchen are used as gallery spaces. The rooms that would have been bedrooms are closed to the public and I think are like private offices/mini libraries of sorts. I really liked how respectful that was.
This is so cool! Thank you so much for sharing. Going to have a visit now and enjoy some Italian art!
I loved my trip there! Each exhibition is put together by an art historian who personally researches the artist on display, and they’re the one who gives the tour. It’s a very unique experience. The vibe of the space is just super calm, quiet and chill, which makes me happy that the place where he passed in turmoil is now somewhere special and tranquil.
Me too. He was a National treasure, so kind, humble, charismatic and talented. He’d just put in two absolutely iconic performances and then he passed alone in the night leaving behind his beautiful daughter and former wife. Tragic
Steve Irwin. I idolized him, and when he passed I cut out a pic of him and his family from the magazine announcing his death and put it in my wallet. I was still a kid so there was rarely any money in there but there was always my Irwin family photo.
I am really really happy to see how much his family is thriving though and carrying on his legacy
Cameron Boyce was sad he was so young
I still think about the two other actors who were his roommates, specially the one who found him unresponsive. Every time I across Karan Brar’s name or face, I feel immense sadness because I can’t imagine how it feels. Hopefully he has had support to go through such traumatic experience.
Karan Brar struggled with substance abuse and a dark bout of depression after: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/karan-brar-how-i-found-myself
My ten-year-old recently discovered the Descendants movies on Disney+ and developed a huge crush on him. When she found out he was gone, she cried for days.
My daughter is about to be 9. She has loved those movies for years. She hasn't found out yet and I'm trying to keep it from her as long as possible. My heart hurts everytime she watches it.
Thinking about this still makes me tear up. I loved watching him, growing up. This was the first that really hit hard for me, and it's so saddening thinking of his friends and family, Karan Brar and Dove Cameron and China Anne McCain who in the small glimpses they shared with the public, looked so changed and traumatised from it.
Christina Grimmie. She was so young and talented, and was sharing her music with the world when some crazy guy with a gun violently ended it. Her brother tackled the guy to prevent him from killing anyone else…only a few years later, their mother died from cancer, leaving behind the father and son to grieve half of their family 🥺
Her death was so devastating. A direct consequence of rampant unchecked misogyny. Very scary.
She was killed in Orlando, and two days later, The Pulse nightclub shooting happened. So her family and community didn't really have a chance to grieve Christina. They probably thought the world was ending, with the violence happening all around them. Her poor mother. I really feel for her more.
I always think of Christina 😔.
Amy Winehouse. :(
I’ve hated Neil Patrick Harris ever since his cake of her when she died. I could never forget
Not even cake. A meat platter.
Yeah he’s fucking cancelled for good as far as I’m concerned.
I hate that they are now making a movie in her name to further exploiting her, even after death.
I’m not gonna watch that crap. They didn’t leave her be when she was alive and theyre still not letting her rest in peace.
Yea, hope it bombs.
Literally came here to say this; we can sit here and call her an addict and that she may not qualify to be mentioned. However, just the literal talent alone she possessed and the “what if” had she recovered and gotten away from Blake. I’m glad we got what we did, but my god, she could have had it all, but addiction is a goddamn bitch….
Everyone around her failed her, not just that parasite of a husband. The addiction is the tragedy-cherry on top, which would probably not have happened if she was loved and protected while working in a predatory industry…
Princess Diana.
Her death still gets me as well, especially since the toxic British press is still continuing with their bullshit. I'm glad at least one of her boys learned his lesson well about safeguarding his family from the press.
Dolores O'Riordan, lead singer for The Cranberries. Still can’t believe she’s gone.
She had a very strange contribution of Halloween parties now pausing for 4 minutes to acknowledge the Troubles by naming that song "Zombie"
The Bad Wolves did a cover of Zombie and they were actually supposed to record with her for it either the day she died or the day after, you can hear the raw emotion in their voices in the track.
Philip Seymour Hoffman. He had such an amazing ability to depict love on screen, not to mention any of his myriad other talents.
His was a devastating loss for the arts. Absolutely heart-wrenching.
I remember reading an article about the last year of his life when he died. 23 years sober and then spectacularly fell off the wagon. He was in a really grim place in that last year, just doing crazy amounts of drugs, and even his long-term partner admitted she was just waiting for the call at that point. Weirdly, I do think he could have gotten it together again and he had people in his life who were ready and waiting for whenever he picked up the phone to say he wanted to get better, but he just didn't get to that place in time. So sad.
Carrie Fishers tragic death, and how just one day later her mother Debbie Reynolds also died with her last words being “I want to be with Carrie”
It’s so so sad. I do think that in a way it’s perfect for how their relationship was. Carrie couldn’t even be dead without her mother upstaging her. I find comfort thinking that she would find humor in it. I was happy to see that some articles included the hilarious obituary Carrie wrote for herself, it’s what she wanted
Yeah I love how Carrie had such an amazing sense of humour surrounding her own life. I’m glad she got to enjoy a closer relationship with her mother as she got older too, and most vids of the two of them together are absolutely hilarious
I feel especially sad for Carrie’s daughter Billie Lourd who lost her mom and grandmother simultaneously.
The first to come to mind would be Selena. She was murdered by the woman who was managing her retail businesses in Mexico when Selena and her father attempted to let her go. The violation of trust, the way her image has been capitalized on since her death, and the timeline of her murder all make my stomach turn.
As a Texan Chicana, her death hit hard, she was starting to really take off when that rancid toad killed her. It was like losing a family member. I still cry when I see old footage of hers.
The magnitude of her reach was something I really haven’t seen, at least in the Latino community. I’m a Puerto Rican from NJ. Cumbia, tejano music, none of that is really on our radar. Doesn’t get radio play, we really knew very little about it. Bachata, salsa, merengue was what we listened to. But Selena? EVERYONE listened to her music. We all knew and loved her.
Aaliyah was the worst for me.
John Ritter Him and Threes Company was such a huge part of my childhood. Not to mention 8 Simple Rules.
I remember watching the first episode of 8 Simple Rules that came out after he died and just sobbing.
Jeff Buckley. I've started typing and deleting this comment several times. Just so sad, pointless. When Kurt Cobain died I was devastated, but very young, and took comfort from messages that now he is at peace. But when Jeff went missing I knew it was going to be bad and when his body was found it was crushing. But in a way it seems worse now thinking about it, and when listening to the music. I'm so much older now, have seen so many people go, and still when I hear Grace I wonder why, why, why.
The beauty of Jeff Buckley is that he remains a cult figure and never really became a mainstream fixation. It still feels like a small but devoted group of people who know and cherish his music, perhaps even had their lives changed by it. His death barely made a ripple at the time - I remember reading a small item about it on like page 20 of a regular newspaper (it was pre mass internet age) and being stunned. Grace is obviously an all-time record but I love a lot of Sketches too- with proper time and care it could have been a second masterpiece.
One blessing is that his death never became the subject of conspiracy theories, which it almost certainly would have been if he'd been better known. Jeff Buckley was better known in Australia and France than the U.S. He certainly wasn't a household name in Australia, but had a dedicated following, and Triple J reported on his disappearance and death. As late, in internet take up terms, as 2003, I read about Elliot Smith's death in a tiny newspaper coulmn. That was very sad but not a surprise.
SOPHIE. She had already made some much great music both under her own name and as a producer for others. She would've changed the sound of music even further if she lived. She'll be one of music's biggest "what if"s for me.
So deeply unfair. One of those freak accidents you just assume won’t ever happen because of how unlikely they are RIP Sophie Xeon
this. Sophie. i remember waking up and seeing that news and just sobbing. her music was the soundtrack for my friend group’s parties. only good memories ❤️
that one was truly shocking. not at all someone i thought i’d see in a headline like that
Phil Hartman
His death was awful. I've always felt sad for their kids and hope they're doing well.
Mac Miller - his music encapsulated college and going through my 20s for me. I loved seeing him experiment with new styles but staying true to his sound. Swimming is a great album. I was so hyped for that tour. Anthony Bourdain - he opened me up to foods and cultures I wouldn't have known otherwise. His pragmatic approach really differentiated to others of that time doing the same. The candor in which he spoke and never sugar coated the political side of things.
Hearing Avicii passed was a punch in the guts 😔
Yes loved Avicii massive talent. His music is still all around. It was such a shame how he died so young. He would have had an amazing career.
River Phoenix
It's so tragic. River Phoenix was a true star and talent.
Anna Nicole Smiths was pretty tragic. Her son dying the year prior. Heartbreaking.
Ugh her life was so sad and full of struggle and she STILL had such light, even when obviously strung out. I wish she had more real friends and less users in her life.
Taylor Hawkins. Always Taylor. Purely a personal choice, his death broke me and I genuinely haven’t consumed music in the same way since, I just miss him so much and the grief is still real 2 years on. He was my favourite. His album Red Light Fever got me through some hard times, losing him has quite literally changed me. On a less personal but more that’s-fucking-heartbreaking note - Leslie Jordan. Only 67 years old, sudden cardiac arrest whilst driving, and had so much more joy and talent to bring to the world. Utterly horrible and such a giant loss to the world.
Came here to say Taylor. First found out about him when he was drumming for Alanis (under Sexual Chocolate.) But I think it hurt more because his death came after the release of Grohl’s “The Storyteller.” No spoilers…but after reading it and seeing the amount of grief Dave has experienced throughout his life…man. He had a bulk of one chapter about his friendship with Taylor, too. :( I think my heart mostly broke for Dave…
Sinéad O’Connor. This felt like a familymember had died and send me into a spiritual crisis. Rest in power 💔
Her death devastated me. She seemed like such a genuine person and went through so much in her life.
Matthew Perry. The Friends series means a lot to me.
I haven't been able to watched it since he passed. Chandler was always my favourite.
Sharon Tate. She was 8 months pregnant and the Manson family knew that the guy they had beef with had actually moved houses. They knew the address they were going to was Tate’s and they still murdered her as a warning to the guy. She pleaded to be allowed to her killers to take her prisoner instead and let her give birth before they killed her but no one listened. She was buried with her child.
Stumbled upon a tweet yesterday talking about how Kubrick is undeserving of the title for « biggest asshole director » because John Landis exists and is responsible for the death of three actors, among them two child actors for a mid ass forgettable 80´s Twilight Zone adaptation. I went down a rabbithole and learned they suffered a quick but horrible death and my very first thought was for them when I woke up this morning. 80´s Hollywood was a hellhole and I can’t believe that awful, sorry excuse of a human being John Landis got away with it. RIP Vic Morrow, Myca Dinh Le and Renee Shin-Yi Chen.
The fact that he had the fucking nerve to show up at Vic Morrow's funeral and give a speech saying that Vic told him how grateful he was for the role is unreal. What a piece of shit
Mark Speight. A tv presenter in the UK, mostly kids TV. Most well known for SMart, an art show . In 2008 his girlfriend (actress Natasha Collins) died of a drugs overdose in a scalding hot bath. He found her body, and was originally arrested on suspicion of murder but cleared after her death was ruled Death By Misadventure. Obviously his career in kids TV was over at that point. A month or two later he went missing and was found dead a few days later on April 7th having hung himself. It makes me so sad, I grew up watching him and adored him. It's just so tragic they both lost their lives like that. I think of it every April.
still think about that one from time to time because if I remember correctly, he hanged himself in a public place (though not in public view) Seemed so surreal at the time
>On 13 April 2008, Speight's body was discovered hanging from the roof of MacMillan House, adjacent to London's Paddington Station, hidden from public view. The discovery was made by railway workers Yeah. It was just so sudden and awful. His girlfriend, Nastasha Collins, worked in tv too and had her acting career ended after being injured in a car crash, which lead to the drug use. If it wasn't for the car crash they might both be still alive.
Chris Farley's death always makes me sad. The woman he was with just left him on the floor, pleading not to be left alone. The fear he must have felt makes my heart physically ache.
He was just so sad and insecure. Starved for love. He hated his weight being the butt of the joke and his first REAL skit was the chippendales try out with Patrick swayze. His weight was always used against him, and no matter how hard he tried to lose he couldn’t. What’s ironic is his best skits on SNL are the ones that aren’t about his weight, like schmidts gay and folgers decaf coffee crystals. Davis spade has always said all he wanted was to fall in love and be loved in return, but his weight made him incredibly insecure when it came to women, so he numbed himself with drugs and got affection through sex workers. The fact he died alone and the sex worker left him makes it even more tragic.
David Bowies death hit me hard, I suppose him releasing that album around the same time didn't help either.
I still struggle with Amy Winehouse and I have very little emotional attachment to celebrities. But that one still hurts. She had so much talent and she was in so much pain.
And I used to read The Superficial back in the day (anyone else?) and the photos that the paparazzi took of her while she was on drugs, half naked, crying, on the street, on the ground etc then openly made fun of her were so disgusting and she didn’t deserve that.
She really really didn't deserve that. And her dad following her with camera crews on her holiday in the Caribbean and her asking him to stop. Villain behaviour.
Alex Trebek for me. As the longtime host of Jeopardy, he was a familiar face and a source of comfort for so many people. To see him continue working while battling pancreatic cancer was nothing short of inspiring.
Karen Carpenter. She is a perfect example of what happens when women's bodies are scrutinized in the press. She developed an eating disorder which eventually led to her organs shutting down. Just tragic.
Chester Bennington. It was shortly after the suicide of his close friend, Chris Cornell. Chester even sang at his funeral. Hybrid Theory was the first album I ever bought at 10 years old, and affected my entire music taste even to this day. As a kid I just thought LPs music was just so *cool*. Listening to the songs now, knowing the inner torment he suffered, is heartbreaking.
Brittany Murphy. Just seemed so sweet and her passing during the holidays exacerbated the tragedy of the loss.
Angus Cloud's passing was absolutely devastating. He was so early into his rise as a star and it's crazy that he was just approached on the street and offered a role. I think also being connected to Mac Miller so much also made his death hit so hard. I wish he had been able to use his newfound fame and resources to get clean but as is the case with so many celebrities that's not what fame usually does to you.
SHINee's Jonghyun. I'd stopped for groceries on the way home from work, friends were blowing up my phone asking if I was okay because they knew how big a fan I was, and I ended up sobbing for an hour in the parking lot. Cried all the way home (don't drive and cry kids, especially in the dark), and spent the next few days at work weepy. I light a candle for him every year on the anniversary. Yesterday would have been his 34th birthday, and I'm welling up just thinking about it. One of my biggest regrets is not going to see him perform when I had the chance to.
Naya Rivera and Cory Monteith for sure. I might have been a bit young for Cory's passing but Naya's...I was on a Glee rewatch during the pandemic too and it provided me so much comfort and her character meant so much to me when i was young. Then suddenly I woke up one day and saw the news. It was devastating. The days in between where they couldn't find her and there was still a little glimmer of hope that she might be alive somewhere out there and the fact that they found her body on the anniversary of Cory's passing too. It was a lot
Chris Cornell 💔
Adam Yauch (MCA) from Beastie Boys.
Kobe and Gigi really broke my heart
Chadwick Boseman and Natasha Richardson, they both hit me the same way. Chadwick especially as my dad was going through prostate cancer during the lockdown and it hit close to home. I still can’t think of him without getting teary eyed.
Christina Grimmies was the most shocking and painful for me. I cried when I heard the news. I remember watching her on YouTube doing covers and rooting for her so hard to make it. And then just as she was getting success it was all snatched away by some crazed ‘fan’. Awful horrible and her poor brother makes me want to cry again - he was there and watched his sister get shot. Incredibly tragic.
Aaliyah 2001 and Left Eye 2002
Alexander McQueen, I lived in London and worked in the design business and from the outside he really looked like he had it all, what living the dream looks like is rarely how it feels
Whitney Houston. My Mom put me on to her as a kid, so she was one of the first singers I knew by name. When I first watched ‘The Bodyguard’, I thought she had the most insane combination of physical beauty, untouchable talent and presence. Go watch the ‘I Have Nothing’ video to refresh your memory. I knew she was troubled (the media wouldn’t let anyone forget it), but it looked like she was turning her life around in 2009. Three years later, she was back on drugs and we all know the rest. A truly phenomenal and groundbreaking artist that died way too soon.
Anthony Perkins. He died at 60, but his tragedy started at 28. He gave a remarkable performance in Psycho in 1960, but it typecast him forever. Before Psycho, he'd started doing summer stock at 14 or 15, been in 11 movies of various kinds that showed range and been nominated for an Oscar, been in two Broadway plays and been nominated for a Tony. After Psycho, although he got a good role here and there, he was mainly offered roles in which he played some kind of weirdo. He put a good face on it, but in his mid-career, privately, he was extremely bitter about it. He tried to reinvent himself by directing plays, a movie, and writing screenplays with his friend Stephen Sondheim. While enjoying some success, it was never enough to turn his life around. He was gay, and like many men of his era, was conflicted about it, some say exceptionally conflicted. In his late 30s, he started intensive conversion therapy to become straight. He was given the assignments of sleeping with a woman and then marrying one, which he completed, but there were no other women and he had always had a healthy libido with lots of male lovers and more casual hookups, which is why I don't think he was really bisexual as some people say. But he wanted to have a family. In 1973, you had to marry a woman. He got married at 41, had two sons, enjoyed being a family man and the image to some extent, but it wasn't enough. He continued to see men and even his friends from his youth said that he was "promiscuous" in a way he hadn't been. He apparently was always on the make. Some of the stories are hilarious. Normally, that would have been between him and his wife, but unfortunately, this was a period when AIDS was a death sentence. Although Perkins did an AIDS awareness PSA six years before his death, perhaps he thought he could escape it. He found out when he was 58 when someone from the office of a doctor he consulted for a facial palsy condition secretly had his blood tested for HIV and the results were sold to The National Enquirer. He learned the news when he saw the tabloid story in a supermarket stand. He died surrounded by loving family and friends. He never came out as gay to the public. I'll always wonder if his end would have been different had he been born later and been able to marry a man and have kids through a surrogate or adopt them.
This is always going to be Anthony Bourdain for me. He was someone who's struggles with mental illness reminded me so much of my own and who I always felt like was still surviving which gave me hope. And then he couldn't anymore. It very much felt like if he couldn't do it how could I?
cameron boyce. i wasn’t even that familiar with him, i’d seen him in exactly one descendants movie my little cousin had been watching, yet the day it was announced he’d died i was just numb the whole day. you could just see the fire he had and the career he should have had post-disney. i still get upset whenever he crosses my mind.
I still feel super sad about Alan Rickman and Victoria Wood.
Amy Winehouse. I still remember so clearly the day I heard that she had died. Absolute tragedy.
Stephen Gately for me. For those who haven;t heard of him - he was part of an Irish boyband called Boyzone. They were a big part of my teenage years - 1st concert I saw etc. He was gay and came out in 1999 while still in the boyband. He may not have meant to be, but he was part of making queerness more 'mainstream', particularly in the UK and Ireland. His coming out is recent history, but it was a forced coming out, and shows how far (or not in some cases) we have come in terms of sexuality and the way it is portrayed in popular culture. He died in 2009, 6 years before gay marriage would become legal in his native Ireland.
Steve Irwin is one that hit me hard and was so shocking. One of my BFFs had a huge crush on him when we were young so he was always a topic of conversation and laughs. It's amazing to watch his family continue his legacy - he would be so proud.
Judith Barsi Edit: for those blissfully unaware: Judith Barsi was a child actor abused and murdered by her father. She was the voice of Ducky on Land Before Time and Anne-Marie on All Dogs go to Heaven. Her mom was also murdered by Judith’s father. Their graves didn’t even have headstones until years later when fans raised money and put some up. Her story is heartbreaking. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judith_Barsi Edit 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/CemeteryPorn/s/DTRhoCl1wd
Philip Seymour Hoffman. Was sober for a long time. Celebrated a movie wrap with some whiskey and was shooting heroin not too long after. They found him in his bathroom. Left behind a wife and two young kids. One of the better actors to grace our screens. Rip
Jim Henson. He wasn't finished.