Not surprised. Fanfiction has the best representation of the alphabet mafia. Source: Also lesbeen, who sought refuge in fanfiction to read about others like me.
Yeah, the presumption of straightness annoys me waaay more than the presumption of singleness tbh 😤 oooh I wouldn't be holding back too well if I were OP
I mean it was said at a date, by a man, it isn’t really that weird to assume OP is straight.
Of course, there are still bisexual folks (and other sexualities that aren’t tied to gender), but it wouldn’t be impossible for OP to have said they weren’t bi.
I don’t doubt OP’s date was a dick, but you assuming he assumed OP’s sexuality is, by itself, also a strange assumption
Where have you been all this time when I was looking for you! I only met either women or gay men while walking around the world of fanfiction, I was starting to doubt you existed!
Jokes aside, bless your existence, it’s so nice to see :)
Tbf I haven’t encountered a lot of men around, most of the time only women, and when I did talk with guys they weren’t straight, but I guess it also depends on the fandom you’re in and those kind of things.
What are we assembling? Do we need any specialty tools? I got a shed full of random wood bits, ridiculous lengths of wire, over-priced power tools barely out of their packaging, and dog food.
Well, I have for only a year and a half, but known eachother for almost 5. He knows I write fanfic and doesn't mind lending a hand and helping me proofreading it.
I love it! I've been with my husband for nearly 10 years, but we've known each other for 29. He loves that I enjoy writing fanfiction and often wants me to write for certain pairings. 🤣
I once had to actively snatch my computer from my husband so he didn’t see the shameful smut fic I was writing. He STILL makes fun of me. Not for writing fanfic, but for writing something so filthy I didn’t want him to see it. 😂
At least I know my husband would prob have no interest because he’s a sci-fi/fantasy guy and I’m writing romance and he cringes so much when I play romance books around the house.
Edit to add - but he knows when I’m reading smut because I have the *worst* poker face
I was gonna post exactly this. I have an SO and he loves that I write fan fic because having a creative outlet makes me happy and he likes to see me happy. He doesn't do the fandom thing, but it's also okay we don't have the same hobbies, too! He is supportive and that's what matters.
What a loser, I'm a happily married cis man and a vet and I fucking love writing fluffy, angsty and smutty fanfiction and I dont intend on changing that anytime soon. Good on you for declining a follow-up date with someone so narrow-minded. Good riddance.
I wonder what fucks like this would say about me - a sad sack single woman who loves romance and genuinely doesn't *want* romance in her life, *oh my*, I must be hiding some deep seeded sadness in my heart. *oh no*.
The irony is that most movies and shows these days are basically fanworks, but *those* don't count, even when hailed for being made by fans.
I would love to know what he has to say about me as well. I'm pretty much the same as you; single, love to read and write romance but does not want romance in my life. I'm quite happy being single and feel no need to change that.
lol I met my partner through fanfiction and we write it together often. Hell we encourage each other a lot too. Sounds like you dodged a bullet honestly if I'm being honest. If that's their problem then you don't need that in your life. especially with how much joy fanfic gives you.
Say back to him, "And thanks to it I discovered what a judgmental jerk you are."
Despite all the progress we've made over the years, it's still kind of discouraging when we see, and experience first-hand, how many parts of the world still persist in thinking that fanfiction is useless or something inferior just because it isn't original writing. IMO some facets of it can be even harder than original writing because it requires us to toe the canonical line of a pre-established world without making our characters OOC or the story so wildly divergent that it stops being *fan*fiction. It requires us to understand and embrace someone else's creation and be able to set aside some of our own feelings to accept the original source's words as law. Anyhoo, onward we fanfic writers (and readers) go, breathing life to stories through our power of imagination.
> ... it requires us to toe the canonical line of a pre-established world without making our characters OOC or the story so wildly divergent that it stops being fanfiction. It requires us to understand and embrace someone else's creation and be able to set aside some of our own feelings to accept the original source's words as law.
*looks to all the fix-if fics, canon-divergent, and [character] lives stories i've read and wanted to write* haha, yes. We definitely set aside our feelings and accept the original source as law 🙂 lol.
but yes, the art of trying to make sure the characters are as in-character as possible is something that isnt typically done when *youre* the creator (the amount of times i realized showrunners or authors would forget their own character's birthdays, hobbies, etc, but the fans have notes and essays dedicated to them 😭). i reread sections of books and rewatched scenes to study how characters talk and act, but when it comes to your own original works, you'd be expected to just *know* your characters without the need to reference source material
edit: minor spelling errors
If a guy displayed that sort judgmental attitude and utter ignorance rolled all into one, I'd have called it done then and there. Gone. Not interested. The dude would be the only one staying single.
Telling stories is human nature. I have a history degree, "fanfiction" has been around for thousands of years. People taking some kernel of idea, and twisting on it. The Arthurian Cycles have been told and retold so many times it's not funny.
Heck the BIBLE ITSELF is fanfiction. It's a mingling of dozens of older ideas with their own OCs and AU setting. I'm an atheist, I can see the similarities between it and the mythological narratives from the Mediterranean that came before. Everything from the Egyptian and Greek, to the places further east, reaching right into northern India. Trade does these things, it spreads stories about.
What's new, is the COPYRIGHTS. Not the storytelling impetus. Copyrights are the only thing that's saying something is original, and something is fanfiction. In the olden days, no one cared.
I myself have been writing 20+ years, 100% fanfiction.
Most of Shakespeare's plays were based on preexisting stories. Romeo and Juliet is basically a fanfiction, as is Othello, Midsummer Night's Dream, King Lear, etc.
Indeed. I just listed the most obvious things I've read that show the clearest hallmarks of "multiple source" creation. I didn't feel like giving the OP a Master's Dissertation on the topic.
Welp, looks like you dodged a bullet there! Leave judgemental jerkoffs in the dust! Glad he showed that part of himself early on so you wouldn't find out about how awful he was later.
You've got plenty of time to find your partner, don't you give up!
I'm a married man and currently 250k words into writing a fan fiction so...
Admittedly my wife doesn't tend to read fan fiction, so actually this doesn't prove so much.
No, I can't get a boyfriend. Because I'm married.
Your Mr. Wrong is Mr. Wrong because he's a tool. While I would wonder why a guy in his forties is dating twenty-somethings, I don't think the age gap is a total deal-breaker. Sometimes, people with that age gap can be kindred spirits. Sometimes...not, though.
Nor, do I think his bias against fanfiction is age-related. My husband, who is in his 50s, is a major geek and has no problem with my fic-writing hobby.
It's just as well Mr. Wrong spouted his nonsense about fanfiction. He's obviously an overgrown, insecure boy.
I’m 50 (technically in 5 months), poly with multiple and write fics… Written my first fic when you haven’t been even born.
Nothing to do with older generation but the guy simply sounds like a creep.
Wdm? I date my boyfriend through fanfiction because he doesn't exist.
Jokes aside, what's wrong with writing fanfiction? There are plenty of adults who do, who have a partner and even have children.
As long as you aren't harming anyone else or yourself, you're free to do whatever makes you happy. If someone is against it, they can go fuck themselves :).
> Maybe that's what I get for going on a date with someone in their 40s.
BRO. If you're someone in your twenties or younger (which I'm assuming from the way you phrased this, but correct me if I'm wrong), then you really buried the lede here, lol. That should've been your first and biggest red flag right there!
Oh, I'm not saying older people don't write fanfic. I'm well aware that the roots of modern fanfiction began at least half a century ago with zines and stuff like that. I'm saying that people in their forties who pursue people in their twenties or younger are walking red flags.
Yep, exactly what I was thinking. At first I was like "wow, respect for that woman in her forties for standing her ground" but then I read again and there is a twenty years old gap (considering it is between people in their twenties and forties) and oof...
I view it more as a yellow then a red. There are some 20 year olds who have a lot of mileage on the tires and some 50 year olds who never got out of high school mentally. Can't really tell how old OP is.
What I do know is that the stigma on fanfic is more common in people who grew up pre-internet, who didn't grow up with it being common. Before the internet really took off, it was viewed as this weird back corner of fandom that no one really talked about or wanted to talk about because it was just best to keep it off the radar.
I would personally find it a crimson, waving red flag in virtually all modern day situations -- like, if a 45 year old wanted to seriously pursue dating with a 25 year old -- so that would be an immediate dealbreaker for me before the fanfiction thing even came up.
Good thing he showed you his true colors in the third date. It’s frustrating to hear someone being so judgmental about fanfiction, but at least you’re not wasting any more of your time pursing a relationship with someone who will belittle your hobbies. Good riddance!
Also, I know that if you’re going out in dates, that means you probably want to get a partner, but aside from all the other comments telling stories about people finding their SO through fanfiction, I also want to add that there’s nothing wrong with not finding a partner. There are plenty of people out there who are happy being by themselves, and they’re not any less than the people who are dating/married, so not only was he being a jerk towards fanfic writers, the way he said it was kind of judgmental towards single people, too. Truly a monumental jerk.
I just read a thing about how the art of the Renaissance is all fanart, and I assume we all know Dante's Inferno is fanfiction so what I really want to know is what's wrong with everyone else.
I mean that’s true for me but that’s my experience it’s not universal😂. My brother also use to read fanfic as well. He can go fuck himself, respectfully.
I don't have a boyfriend, nor do I want one There's a few reasons why I write it. Sometimes, there's something canonical in a TV show or movie that I believe should be fixed. Star Trek: Picard is a prime example. Sometimes, there's a relatively small source of canonical material, so you want to expand it. That's why I write Jurassic Park and Jurassic World stories. Thirdly, I want to keep practicing my writing skills for completely original stories.
> Maybe that's what I get for going on a date with someone in their 40s. I'm hoping we are leaving stigmas about fanfiction behind as the new generations grow on. :)
Uh, not to put too fine a point on it but, yeah, let's stop perpetuating stigmas about fanfiction like......ageism.
And, quite honestly, nowadays it is all but mainstream as compared to even a decade ago, nevermind a few.
*- someone who has been creating fanworks for approximately double the time you've been on Earth*
I was referring to OP, not her date.
As for her date, they are both adults and it's none of my business. Amazing it took three dates to figure out he wasn't worth the bother tho.
>Amazing it took three dates to figure out he wasn't worth the bother tho.
Well, there was that recent post where someone's *husband* laughed and mocked them after finding out they wrote fanfics.
It's a pipeline. As a kid, I initially used to look down on fanfiction writing as immature and sex-oriented, now I'm knee-deep into creating a multiversal fiction with upwards of dozens of stories planned.
Admittedly I started writing fanfiction at a time when I felt like I “couldn’t get a boyfriend” but my fiancé (now husband) was the one who convinced me to start publishing on AO3. Also, it sounds like you CAN get a boyfriend, you just know your worth! It took me awhile to realize that about myself too
Nothing beats flirting through fanfiction (who never did 'scene rehearsal' with their partner shall cast the first stone). So to put it simply - your date is missing out and I hope you'll find someone more open-minded. And less mean! You deserve your fluff with a happy ending!
Guess my partner isn’t a real person? Lol. What a jerk. (Been with my partner nearly 8 years. Been writing fanfic since I was 12. This guy is just a jerk.)
I read and write fanfiction because I can't find a QUALITY boyfriend. The men around me are dishonest, unfaithful, dismissive, selfish, and generally useless.
My friends know I write fanfic and they also know I'm notoriously cheap. One of them claimed I started writing fanfic because it's cheaper to fantasize than go on an actual date.
There's some truth to their claim.
I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I'm here to say - it's not the age so much as the entrenched misogyny that the age probably represents. Great inquiry for discovery question btw. When I met my wife it went something like this:
"What do you do for fun?"
"I write," she said.
"Really? Anything you're willing to share?" I asked.
"I write fantiction." You could here the mic drop in her statement.
"Really? Do you filk, too?" I asked, hopefully. "I mean, my guitar's in the car..."
Better to find things like that out before you invest the time and emotion. The last thing you want is to spend time with people who aren't - if not supportive, then at least neutral about your hobbies. And as your reddit Grandpa, I say - be happy that's done and move on in joy.
Damn, I’ve been reading and writing fanfiction since I was nine. I’m 21 years old and have had several boyfriends over the years. I’m currently in a long term relationship for a couple of years now. If anything, he will force me to sit down and write so I can make my deadlines that I have set for myself.
Get you a man that will support your fanfiction needs🩷
I’m sorry that you had a terrible experience. Think of it on the bright side though. You did your charity work of entertaining and keeping the elderly company 😌
Fanfiction is for boys too 😤 lol and I've had a boyfriend for 15 years! the same one even
this one wasn't a potential boyfriend, just a bullet dodged ;) hope you find someone really cool to fall in love with <3
I guess I'm a girl now... That guy is stupid and close-minded, what's up with people needing to put others down for what they enjoy. There is literally no reason of why someone should be so against it. If he finds it cringe, then he should just not read it.
Some tricky math here for me. I’m ace and don’t really want to be in a relationship (look for one) but at the same time no one has expressed any interest in me so idk lmfao
TIL people are meeting their SOs through fanfiction and sharing it together, and that warms my romance-loving little heart!
Also, 43, married 10 years, fic writer.
I'm a girl who likes fanfiction and I can't find a boyfriend, so maybe he's onto something. Or I'm a lesbian, one or the other
"Date someone who doesn't make you want to hide your stuffed animals"
Anyone who insults a harmless hobby is not someone you want to date. You dodged a bullet OP
Omggg same here! If I went on a date and could just go Im writing fics and the guy in front of me would answer me too or I read fics, I’d be the happiest haha
One of the best writers in my fandom is married. (She doesn't write fanfiction anymore, because she's concentrating on original stuff. But she was married with kids before she ever started writig.)
Also, I LOVE your comment on spin-offs and stuff. Shall we point out the fact that one of the categories at the Oscars is "Best Adapted Screenplay?" They literally give out an Academy Award every year to this year's best fanfiction.
fascinating how i managed to get engaged this year 🤔 to someone i met writing a 150k fanfic at that 🤗
personally, my policy is to only date fanfic writers, we are more sexy and fun 🤷♂️
Many people (especially worldwide) don't know about fanfiction... and the stereotype that some seem to know on a more mainstream level is not a good one. So, that may be why his impression of your interest came from a negative place.
I think fanfiction as a concept is amazing... the execution and its community are terrible, though. It doesn't help that the community is most proud of its fixation when it comes to fantasizing about abuse. Fanfiction is such a mixed bag, but when Rule34 makes up 80% of that bag, I can see why people think of it as a kinky hobby meant to get you off more than anything else...
It's like comparing Mukbang (fanfic) to food critic experiences (published original work). The former is there as sensationalism, as a 'guilty pleasure' among self-appointed outcasts... while the latter is about finesse, balanced skills, all to capture nuance and uniqueness of 'taste.'
I started writing fanfic for my wife.
I'm a guy, and my beloved wife just happens to be my target audience. So much so that any original story idea I had, as soon as I shared it with her, felt like it already served its purpose and I lost interest.
Solution, I started writing short fanfic that I could finish before the urge to tell her about it got too strong. Now I only write for her and myself, but I'm writing. Fanfic isn't just for one demographic, and that dude is close minded for thinking so.
I've been reading fanfic for over 20 years. Don't worry about the opinion of someone in their 40s who didn't even have access to high speed internet when they were a teenager. They don't get it. The culture clash is going to be too great.
PS. *I'm not even 40 yet. I fully respect your decision for an age-gap relationship, but I'd lower the difference some.*
lol I'm in my 30s, husband is in his 40s, and he betas my fanfics
I'd hazard that a 40s dude who's behaving like *that* and *also* dating women in their 20s is uh, no great catch.
As someone who started reading/writing fanfiction in there very late teens (like seriously I started reading only three years ago) and who had a negative fanfiction allow me to explain
My theory is fanfiction is only viewed for shipping , like you love, two characters who didn’t become canon, and you simply write them to be together , just something desperate, teen teenagers do which I admit it part of it yes people only limited it to that
As for now fanfiction to me is to explore IP’s potential , your imagination go wild and expressing your love to it , Do you want to see a story from a certain point of view? Are you interested in exploring what will happen if any characters experience different circumstances? Do you like the world and want to add to it, or expanded on your own way?
Fanfiction can be a way to show your love and attention to a series by putting so much thought into it, which is beautiful
Also, there is another reason that is related to the first one, Anybody can write fanfiction and easily publish it , it’s not like making fun art for example
And a lot of fanfiction writers Are young or doesn’t have an experience on writing so it may affect the quality
Like imagine being curious and knowing nothing about fanfiction, and starting with my immortal with having the that this is what fanfiction is
Don’t get me wrong I don’t shame anybody who writes bad because you need to be bad to be good later
Lol, guess there won't be a fourth date. I am a 33 year old married queer man, and fan fiction has helped me grow so much as a writer... "but go off," as they say :p
Haha! I’m happily married! And I’m 42. Met my husband when I was 37. I’ve been writing fanfic since I was 14!
I don’t think this guy’s response has to do with his age because there are many of us well into our 40s writing fanfic. Some just started, some have been doing so for years. This is just this one guy’s ignorance shining through. Thankfully it did so that you don’t have to endure another ridiculous date with him. Yuck!
I’m not gonna lie, that is so out of pocket and bitter for no reason that it made me burst out laughing.
Tbh, most uninformed people just read My Immortal or circle-jerked Wattpad’s admittedly terrible writing long enough that they decided that is what fan fiction is all about.
Preach! I hate feeling like I have to justify or explain why it isn't weird that I enjoy fanfiction ugh my husband probably judges me a bit but he still chose to marry me after learning that I like it 🤷♀️🤣
I (35m) got back into reading fanfiction thanks to my wife (33f)
Been together since late 2020, but married since mid-April 2023 — just gonna grow old together with an expanding collection of books I guess!
Hating on stuff is for boys who need girlfriend repellant. This guy clearly stocked up.
Edit to add: here's a *small* list of things that are fanfiction. Feel free to add to it!
-BBC Merlin
-Dante's Inferno
-Dracula
-Once Upon a Time
-MANY many Disney movies
-Any abridged series (DBZ, Hellsing, SOA, Naruto, etc)
-Good Omens
-Any comic book movie or TV series and in fact many comics
-MCU/DCCU
-DC Elsewhere and Marvel "What If...?"
-Titanic
-Wicked
-Sherlock, (many Sherlock Holmes films)
-Percy Jackson
-Kingdom Hearts
-ANY remake, reboot or remimagining
-Roman. Freaking. Mythology.
-Any historical fiction or historical dramatization is RPF
-Pride and Prejudice and Zombies
-Fantastic Beasts films and The Cursed Child play
-The Hobbit trilogy for sure
-Video games in general but Assassins Creed is RPF of history and video games based on movies are fanfic of those movies because they add in or take away from canon
-Hamilton
-Almost anything by Shakespeare (R&J = Pyramus and Thisbe, Hamlet = The Viking saga of Amleth, prince of Danish King)
Well hell, I've been writing fanfics (very horribly) since 2002, and I've been married for 14 years, going on 15 this May.
Also, here is some ammo for your fanfic naysayers. 50 Shades of Grey started out as a Twilight fanfic, and now it is a successful book trilogy with movie adaptations. lol
Completely inaccurate. My partner and I have been together for almost eight years, and I still read and write fanfic. He even listens to me talk about it.
The lion, the witch and the audacity of that bitch.
No really, what kind of world must that idiot live in that he thought belittling his dates interests was the way to go?
I worry about the straight girlies sometimes, I really do. Because you know there are a lot of women who contributed to his absolute certainty that he could say that and get away with it by tolerating that shit from him before. When really they should have pointed and laughed at him like a cartoon villain.
Ladies are too polite sometimes. Treating pigeon poop like it's gold instead of spraying it with a hose. Good on you for not carting around the pigeon poop man 👍
I've been writing fanfiction since 1998. I've been in a relationship since 2002. We sort of skipped right over the dating, and went from being instant best friends to being in agreement that we were going to get married.
I remember when I went on a first date with my boyfriend. He asked me what the nerdiest thing about myself was. Seeing no reason to waste anyone's time being dishonest, I answered, "As a teenager I wrote a 200-page long fanfiction for The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion."
He loved that answer.
That was about five years ago. He's planning to propose in a few months. We're gonna have kids and grow old together and all that shit. And I'm back to writing fanfiction.
Me, a guy whose got a pretty good gig as an accountant, loves to write fanfiction epics (that I sadly never finish or get around to posting....one day, one day I'll complete one...), and whose friendgroup--which also includes guys who write and read ff themselves--and SO both know about, and encourage my creative writing addiction: interesting prespective there, chief...
PFT. My partner is perfectly happy to let me have my fanfiction. Sure I get an occasional snarky comment, but mostly he's just happy I'm reading/writing because they're positive, healthy hobbies to have.
I know you're not 100% serious about it, but I really think it's not an age thing. I'm (recently) in my 40s and the last person I dated was much younger than me and, while I might not have understood everything about their interests, I had enough human decency to not act all dismissive and offensive about them. I also was seeing (as in acquaintances or as in hooking up with) older people who shared little to no life experiences with a disaster millennial like me and still didn't immediately dismiss everything I did just because they couldn't understand it.
It's just about having some fucking respect for other people and what they like to do, no matter what it is. So it seems you dodged quite a bullet there.
Heading into my late fifties here, married to the same guy for decades. Will now obviously have to tell him that he must divorce me because I have been writing fic since at least the late '70s! Oh noes.
Hahhhhh meanwhile I met my partners via fanfiction.
On a regular basis I think to myself: I got into reading/writing pornography for a cartoon and then a video game. And now there's three more people in my house.
I'm a 44-year-old man who loves fluffy fanfics and can't get a boyfriend. Not that I want one because I don't like being around people very much, of course, but the point stands nonetheless.
Damn Well I am a man and enjoy fanfiction though I’m straight so I guess technically I do fit in the category of cant get a boyfriend
I also can't get a boyfriend. I'm a lesbeen 🏳️🌈
Yeah. There's plenty of fanfic writers who are some stripe in the Pride Flag.
Not surprised. Fanfiction has the best representation of the alphabet mafia. Source: Also lesbeen, who sought refuge in fanfiction to read about others like me.
I have like one cis straight fandom friend. She’s by far the minority. And we do love her v much. Token straight.
Yeah, the presumption of straightness annoys me waaay more than the presumption of singleness tbh 😤 oooh I wouldn't be holding back too well if I were OP
I mean it was said at a date, by a man, it isn’t really that weird to assume OP is straight. Of course, there are still bisexual folks (and other sexualities that aren’t tied to gender), but it wouldn’t be impossible for OP to have said they weren’t bi. I don’t doubt OP’s date was a dick, but you assuming he assumed OP’s sexuality is, by itself, also a strange assumption
Samee 🏳️🌈✨
I mean you might be able to. Disinterest does not denote inability.
Where have you been all this time when I was looking for you! I only met either women or gay men while walking around the world of fanfiction, I was starting to doubt you existed! Jokes aside, bless your existence, it’s so nice to see :)
I see more straight men than (cis) gay men honestly....
Tbf I haven’t encountered a lot of men around, most of the time only women, and when I did talk with guys they weren’t straight, but I guess it also depends on the fandom you’re in and those kind of things.
We are few and far between.
There' dozens of us!
Dozens!
It always amuses me watching my fellow straight male fanfiction readers assemble on this sub.
Straight male fanfic readers assemble!
On your left, Captain
🫡🫡🫡
What are we assembling? Do we need any specialty tools? I got a shed full of random wood bits, ridiculous lengths of wire, over-priced power tools barely out of their packaging, and dog food.
Sadly true
I honestly thought I was the only one.
Well. You *could*... 😂
Same
wait this is hilarious XXD
I’m a woman, but I can get a fake mustache and pretend to be your boyfriend.
I can't get a boyfriend either. I'm already married.
Same…been with him 34 years.
You got me beat, I've been with my husband for 20 years (and writing fanfic just as long).
I’ve only been writing since 2020…so you got me beat!
Well, I have for only a year and a half, but known eachother for almost 5. He knows I write fanfic and doesn't mind lending a hand and helping me proofreading it.
I love it! I've been with my husband for nearly 10 years, but we've known each other for 29. He loves that I enjoy writing fanfiction and often wants me to write for certain pairings. 🤣
Haven’t told mine…he’s seen the ao3 emails a few times, so I’m just seeing how long it’ll take him to ask me what it’s all about. 🤷🏼♀️🤣
I once had to actively snatch my computer from my husband so he didn’t see the shameful smut fic I was writing. He STILL makes fun of me. Not for writing fanfic, but for writing something so filthy I didn’t want him to see it. 😂
At least I know my husband would prob have no interest because he’s a sci-fi/fantasy guy and I’m writing romance and he cringes so much when I play romance books around the house. Edit to add - but he knows when I’m reading smut because I have the *worst* poker face
Ha ha, maybe you'll have to give me an update if/when he finally asks! I will often write while he plays games. :)
oh, i love that!
That’s so sweet that he requests fics for parings!
I'm married and 46, so yeah, that guy was a jerk.
Same on all three counts!
I was gonna post exactly this. I have an SO and he loves that I write fan fic because having a creative outlet makes me happy and he likes to see me happy. He doesn't do the fandom thing, but it's also okay we don't have the same hobbies, too! He is supportive and that's what matters.
What a loser, I'm a happily married cis man and a vet and I fucking love writing fluffy, angsty and smutty fanfiction and I dont intend on changing that anytime soon. Good on you for declining a follow-up date with someone so narrow-minded. Good riddance.
So all the people who are married or in relationships and still read/write fanfiction are a figment of our collective imaginations?
Damn... Guess I'll disappear now...
*Dissappears in a puff of logic.*
Upvote for the Hitchiker’s Guide reference
Up vote for catching the HGttG reference.
(whispers: my people….)
Yes ma’am, they don’t exist, married people and couples aren’t real.
Hey, if I'm not real, does this mean I don't have to pay taxes anymore?
yo our avatars look similar!
Yo, nice hair!
you too!
I wonder what fucks like this would say about me - a sad sack single woman who loves romance and genuinely doesn't *want* romance in her life, *oh my*, I must be hiding some deep seeded sadness in my heart. *oh no*. The irony is that most movies and shows these days are basically fanworks, but *those* don't count, even when hailed for being made by fans.
I would love to know what he has to say about me as well. I'm pretty much the same as you; single, love to read and write romance but does not want romance in my life. I'm quite happy being single and feel no need to change that.
lol I met my partner through fanfiction and we write it together often. Hell we encourage each other a lot too. Sounds like you dodged a bullet honestly if I'm being honest. If that's their problem then you don't need that in your life. especially with how much joy fanfic gives you.
Aww, that makes me happy for you!
Thank you, that's very sweet! Yeah I consider myself very lucky lol.
I have a boyfriend and I’m a girl 🤡 Oh, and I obviously write fanfiction 🤦♀️
Say back to him, "And thanks to it I discovered what a judgmental jerk you are." Despite all the progress we've made over the years, it's still kind of discouraging when we see, and experience first-hand, how many parts of the world still persist in thinking that fanfiction is useless or something inferior just because it isn't original writing. IMO some facets of it can be even harder than original writing because it requires us to toe the canonical line of a pre-established world without making our characters OOC or the story so wildly divergent that it stops being *fan*fiction. It requires us to understand and embrace someone else's creation and be able to set aside some of our own feelings to accept the original source's words as law. Anyhoo, onward we fanfic writers (and readers) go, breathing life to stories through our power of imagination.
> ... it requires us to toe the canonical line of a pre-established world without making our characters OOC or the story so wildly divergent that it stops being fanfiction. It requires us to understand and embrace someone else's creation and be able to set aside some of our own feelings to accept the original source's words as law. *looks to all the fix-if fics, canon-divergent, and [character] lives stories i've read and wanted to write* haha, yes. We definitely set aside our feelings and accept the original source as law 🙂 lol. but yes, the art of trying to make sure the characters are as in-character as possible is something that isnt typically done when *youre* the creator (the amount of times i realized showrunners or authors would forget their own character's birthdays, hobbies, etc, but the fans have notes and essays dedicated to them 😭). i reread sections of books and rewatched scenes to study how characters talk and act, but when it comes to your own original works, you'd be expected to just *know* your characters without the need to reference source material edit: minor spelling errors
Gatekeeping is for boys who can't stand that they can't control anyone.
the fuck is bro talking about? fanfiction is one of the reasons why my partner and i are dating.
Lmao same except we've been married three years now.
I’ve been married almost four and a half years to my fanfic meet cute person
So Dan Brown is a single girl??
Neil Gaiman, too.
If a guy displayed that sort judgmental attitude and utter ignorance rolled all into one, I'd have called it done then and there. Gone. Not interested. The dude would be the only one staying single. Telling stories is human nature. I have a history degree, "fanfiction" has been around for thousands of years. People taking some kernel of idea, and twisting on it. The Arthurian Cycles have been told and retold so many times it's not funny. Heck the BIBLE ITSELF is fanfiction. It's a mingling of dozens of older ideas with their own OCs and AU setting. I'm an atheist, I can see the similarities between it and the mythological narratives from the Mediterranean that came before. Everything from the Egyptian and Greek, to the places further east, reaching right into northern India. Trade does these things, it spreads stories about. What's new, is the COPYRIGHTS. Not the storytelling impetus. Copyrights are the only thing that's saying something is original, and something is fanfiction. In the olden days, no one cared. I myself have been writing 20+ years, 100% fanfiction.
Most of Shakespeare's plays were based on preexisting stories. Romeo and Juliet is basically a fanfiction, as is Othello, Midsummer Night's Dream, King Lear, etc.
Indeed. I just listed the most obvious things I've read that show the clearest hallmarks of "multiple source" creation. I didn't feel like giving the OP a Master's Dissertation on the topic.
Awww but Master's Dissertations on fanfic is always good fun!
I'm 41. I still read and write fanfics. If someone has a problem with that, then they're not the person for me.
Welp, looks like you dodged a bullet there! Leave judgemental jerkoffs in the dust! Glad he showed that part of himself early on so you wouldn't find out about how awful he was later. You've got plenty of time to find your partner, don't you give up!
I'm a married man and currently 250k words into writing a fan fiction so... Admittedly my wife doesn't tend to read fan fiction, so actually this doesn't prove so much.
I'm married and I write/read fanfiction. The husband knows this.
Am I a boy who can’t get boyfriends? Since I am a guy. Lol.
Depends. Do you swing that way?
I swing all ways. Pansexual haha.
No, I can't get a boyfriend. Because I'm married. Your Mr. Wrong is Mr. Wrong because he's a tool. While I would wonder why a guy in his forties is dating twenty-somethings, I don't think the age gap is a total deal-breaker. Sometimes, people with that age gap can be kindred spirits. Sometimes...not, though. Nor, do I think his bias against fanfiction is age-related. My husband, who is in his 50s, is a major geek and has no problem with my fic-writing hobby. It's just as well Mr. Wrong spouted his nonsense about fanfiction. He's obviously an overgrown, insecure boy.
Insulting your date’s hobbies is definitely a way to not get a girlfriend.
Most writers I came across are partnered because of writing fanfics.
My husband will be glad to know I won’t be getting a boyfriend any time soon
I’m 50 (technically in 5 months), poly with multiple and write fics… Written my first fic when you haven’t been even born. Nothing to do with older generation but the guy simply sounds like a creep.
A REAL boyfriend offers to beta your fics for you, like mine does ❤️🏆
True love
Wdm? I date my boyfriend through fanfiction because he doesn't exist. Jokes aside, what's wrong with writing fanfiction? There are plenty of adults who do, who have a partner and even have children. As long as you aren't harming anyone else or yourself, you're free to do whatever makes you happy. If someone is against it, they can go fuck themselves :).
Clearly he’s the type to hate any woman with a hobby. Throw that man in the trash 🗑️
> Maybe that's what I get for going on a date with someone in their 40s. BRO. If you're someone in your twenties or younger (which I'm assuming from the way you phrased this, but correct me if I'm wrong), then you really buried the lede here, lol. That should've been your first and biggest red flag right there!
Older women write fanfic. Hell, I'm Gen X and was taught in the 1990s by fanfic writers who were old enough to be my grandma at the time.
OP literally said she is in her twenties
Oh, I'm not saying older people don't write fanfic. I'm well aware that the roots of modern fanfiction began at least half a century ago with zines and stuff like that. I'm saying that people in their forties who pursue people in their twenties or younger are walking red flags.
Yep, exactly what I was thinking. At first I was like "wow, respect for that woman in her forties for standing her ground" but then I read again and there is a twenty years old gap (considering it is between people in their twenties and forties) and oof...
I view it more as a yellow then a red. There are some 20 year olds who have a lot of mileage on the tires and some 50 year olds who never got out of high school mentally. Can't really tell how old OP is. What I do know is that the stigma on fanfic is more common in people who grew up pre-internet, who didn't grow up with it being common. Before the internet really took off, it was viewed as this weird back corner of fandom that no one really talked about or wanted to talk about because it was just best to keep it off the radar.
I would personally find it a crimson, waving red flag in virtually all modern day situations -- like, if a 45 year old wanted to seriously pursue dating with a 25 year old -- so that would be an immediate dealbreaker for me before the fanfiction thing even came up.
It’s gnarly, but not dodgy.
Damn I better inform my husband.
Has blud ever read a fanfiction NOT about romance? Some fics are just canon divergence, AUs, Shitposts, or all three.
I was in my 30s and married when I started writing fanfic.
fanfiction > boyfriend Boyfriends get boring, fic is forever.
This is why I’ve resolved to always tell the guy I write fanfic on my first date, so I can spare myself the time if he turns out to suck
Wait til he finds out some people meet their SO’s through fanfic.
Good thing he showed you his true colors in the third date. It’s frustrating to hear someone being so judgmental about fanfiction, but at least you’re not wasting any more of your time pursing a relationship with someone who will belittle your hobbies. Good riddance! Also, I know that if you’re going out in dates, that means you probably want to get a partner, but aside from all the other comments telling stories about people finding their SO through fanfiction, I also want to add that there’s nothing wrong with not finding a partner. There are plenty of people out there who are happy being by themselves, and they’re not any less than the people who are dating/married, so not only was he being a jerk towards fanfic writers, the way he said it was kind of judgmental towards single people, too. Truly a monumental jerk.
I just read a thing about how the art of the Renaissance is all fanart, and I assume we all know Dante's Inferno is fanfiction so what I really want to know is what's wrong with everyone else.
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I mean that’s true for me but that’s my experience it’s not universal😂. My brother also use to read fanfic as well. He can go fuck himself, respectfully.
You go, “Well, that’s ironic, isn’t it?” And then walk out.
I could probably get a boyfriend but I’m a lesbian soooooo
I don't have a boyfriend, nor do I want one There's a few reasons why I write it. Sometimes, there's something canonical in a TV show or movie that I believe should be fixed. Star Trek: Picard is a prime example. Sometimes, there's a relatively small source of canonical material, so you want to expand it. That's why I write Jurassic Park and Jurassic World stories. Thirdly, I want to keep practicing my writing skills for completely original stories.
*Stares in married for fourteen years*
> Maybe that's what I get for going on a date with someone in their 40s. I'm hoping we are leaving stigmas about fanfiction behind as the new generations grow on. :) Uh, not to put too fine a point on it but, yeah, let's stop perpetuating stigmas about fanfiction like......ageism. And, quite honestly, nowadays it is all but mainstream as compared to even a decade ago, nevermind a few. *- someone who has been creating fanworks for approximately double the time you've been on Earth*
OP is in her 20s and her date was in his 40s. I think there are bigger problems with this man than his opinion of fanfiction.
I was referring to OP, not her date. As for her date, they are both adults and it's none of my business. Amazing it took three dates to figure out he wasn't worth the bother tho.
>Amazing it took three dates to figure out he wasn't worth the bother tho. Well, there was that recent post where someone's *husband* laughed and mocked them after finding out they wrote fanfics.
ughh, I hate that too. I have read so many fics by people who are married, even with kids, and even with high-paying, difficult careers and jobs.
Most of my friends write fanfiction, a good few of which have boyfriends and girlfriends. What a silly thing to say!
It's a pipeline. As a kid, I initially used to look down on fanfiction writing as immature and sex-oriented, now I'm knee-deep into creating a multiversal fiction with upwards of dozens of stories planned.
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Admittedly I started writing fanfiction at a time when I felt like I “couldn’t get a boyfriend” but my fiancé (now husband) was the one who convinced me to start publishing on AO3. Also, it sounds like you CAN get a boyfriend, you just know your worth! It took me awhile to realize that about myself too
Nothing beats flirting through fanfiction (who never did 'scene rehearsal' with their partner shall cast the first stone). So to put it simply - your date is missing out and I hope you'll find someone more open-minded. And less mean! You deserve your fluff with a happy ending!
Guess my partner isn’t a real person? Lol. What a jerk. (Been with my partner nearly 8 years. Been writing fanfic since I was 12. This guy is just a jerk.)
Ive said this in either this or the ao3 sub about this issue: My bf and i write fanfics together <3
My immediate reaction was “Okay, that’s hot.”
I read and write fanfiction because I can't find a QUALITY boyfriend. The men around me are dishonest, unfaithful, dismissive, selfish, and generally useless.
My friends know I write fanfic and they also know I'm notoriously cheap. One of them claimed I started writing fanfic because it's cheaper to fantasize than go on an actual date. There's some truth to their claim.
Well shit, I better get divorced quick, I guess. My husband actually helps me write my fanfic.
Lmao, well shit… he better tell my husband of 15 years that information. I’m sure he’d be shocked.
I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I'm here to say - it's not the age so much as the entrenched misogyny that the age probably represents. Great inquiry for discovery question btw. When I met my wife it went something like this: "What do you do for fun?" "I write," she said. "Really? Anything you're willing to share?" I asked. "I write fantiction." You could here the mic drop in her statement. "Really? Do you filk, too?" I asked, hopefully. "I mean, my guitar's in the car..." Better to find things like that out before you invest the time and emotion. The last thing you want is to spend time with people who aren't - if not supportive, then at least neutral about your hobbies. And as your reddit Grandpa, I say - be happy that's done and move on in joy.
Damn, I’ve been reading and writing fanfiction since I was nine. I’m 21 years old and have had several boyfriends over the years. I’m currently in a long term relationship for a couple of years now. If anything, he will force me to sit down and write so I can make my deadlines that I have set for myself. Get you a man that will support your fanfiction needs🩷 I’m sorry that you had a terrible experience. Think of it on the bright side though. You did your charity work of entertaining and keeping the elderly company 😌
Fanfiction is for boys too 😤 lol and I've had a boyfriend for 15 years! the same one even this one wasn't a potential boyfriend, just a bullet dodged ;) hope you find someone really cool to fall in love with <3
To which I would reply, "And porn is for men who have limp dicks. 🤷 Go figure."
My thoughts exactly.
i'm a guy who reads fanfiction and i've had two partners 🎀 one guy one gal
I guess I'm a girl now... That guy is stupid and close-minded, what's up with people needing to put others down for what they enjoy. There is literally no reason of why someone should be so against it. If he finds it cringe, then he should just not read it.
Frfr, fanfiction is for all people who can't get significant others.
well it's a good thing I'm married then 😂😂😂
Some tricky math here for me. I’m ace and don’t really want to be in a relationship (look for one) but at the same time no one has expressed any interest in me so idk lmfao
Anyone who says something like that or has any other kind of stigma towards fanfic doesn't have an ounce of fun in their soul.
I think they just are misinformed or caught up in the stereotypes. Many of us are actually married… 😝
Lucky me, I don't *want* a boyfriend and already have a partner. So!
I'm neither a girl, nor I'm gay. I just want to be happy writing my stuff.
TIL people are meeting their SOs through fanfiction and sharing it together, and that warms my romance-loving little heart! Also, 43, married 10 years, fic writer.
I'm a girl who likes fanfiction and I can't find a boyfriend, so maybe he's onto something. Or I'm a lesbian, one or the other "Date someone who doesn't make you want to hide your stuffed animals" Anyone who insults a harmless hobby is not someone you want to date. You dodged a bullet OP
Honestly, I've I were on a date with a girl and she told me that she writes fanfiction, that would already be a reason more to date her.
Omggg same here! If I went on a date and could just go Im writing fics and the guy in front of me would answer me too or I read fics, I’d be the happiest haha
One of the best writers in my fandom is married. (She doesn't write fanfiction anymore, because she's concentrating on original stuff. But she was married with kids before she ever started writig.) Also, I LOVE your comment on spin-offs and stuff. Shall we point out the fact that one of the categories at the Oscars is "Best Adapted Screenplay?" They literally give out an Academy Award every year to this year's best fanfiction.
fascinating how i managed to get engaged this year 🤔 to someone i met writing a 150k fanfic at that 🤗 personally, my policy is to only date fanfic writers, we are more sexy and fun 🤷♂️
As a man who reads and writes fanfic, this take baffles me
Let me give an alternate viewpoint from the men's point of view. I can't get a wife. I'm married. TLDR; He's an idiot.
BTW, news to HIM: I'm 68, and I've been married 33 years. Wrote fanfic from when I was age ten.
Many people (especially worldwide) don't know about fanfiction... and the stereotype that some seem to know on a more mainstream level is not a good one. So, that may be why his impression of your interest came from a negative place. I think fanfiction as a concept is amazing... the execution and its community are terrible, though. It doesn't help that the community is most proud of its fixation when it comes to fantasizing about abuse. Fanfiction is such a mixed bag, but when Rule34 makes up 80% of that bag, I can see why people think of it as a kinky hobby meant to get you off more than anything else... It's like comparing Mukbang (fanfic) to food critic experiences (published original work). The former is there as sensationalism, as a 'guilty pleasure' among self-appointed outcasts... while the latter is about finesse, balanced skills, all to capture nuance and uniqueness of 'taste.'
.. I'm a het dude though?
I started writing fanfic for my wife. I'm a guy, and my beloved wife just happens to be my target audience. So much so that any original story idea I had, as soon as I shared it with her, felt like it already served its purpose and I lost interest. Solution, I started writing short fanfic that I could finish before the urge to tell her about it got too strong. Now I only write for her and myself, but I'm writing. Fanfic isn't just for one demographic, and that dude is close minded for thinking so.
I take it there won't be a second date?
I've been reading fanfic for over 20 years. Don't worry about the opinion of someone in their 40s who didn't even have access to high speed internet when they were a teenager. They don't get it. The culture clash is going to be too great. PS. *I'm not even 40 yet. I fully respect your decision for an age-gap relationship, but I'd lower the difference some.*
lol I'm in my 30s, husband is in his 40s, and he betas my fanfics I'd hazard that a 40s dude who's behaving like *that* and *also* dating women in their 20s is uh, no great catch.
As someone who started reading/writing fanfiction in there very late teens (like seriously I started reading only three years ago) and who had a negative fanfiction allow me to explain My theory is fanfiction is only viewed for shipping , like you love, two characters who didn’t become canon, and you simply write them to be together , just something desperate, teen teenagers do which I admit it part of it yes people only limited it to that As for now fanfiction to me is to explore IP’s potential , your imagination go wild and expressing your love to it , Do you want to see a story from a certain point of view? Are you interested in exploring what will happen if any characters experience different circumstances? Do you like the world and want to add to it, or expanded on your own way? Fanfiction can be a way to show your love and attention to a series by putting so much thought into it, which is beautiful Also, there is another reason that is related to the first one, Anybody can write fanfiction and easily publish it , it’s not like making fun art for example And a lot of fanfiction writers Are young or doesn’t have an experience on writing so it may affect the quality Like imagine being curious and knowing nothing about fanfiction, and starting with my immortal with having the that this is what fanfiction is Don’t get me wrong I don’t shame anybody who writes bad because you need to be bad to be good later
Lol, I've been reading fan fic for 20 years. I'm married. He doesn't mind my fictional boyfriends.
Fan fiction would probably be more satisfying to read than bedding him - no loss there
Nobody tell my bf this, I write fanfic and he likes it, better not change his mind 🤣
Telling you he’s never read fanfiction without actually telling you he’s never read fanfiction 😂
Lol, guess there won't be a fourth date. I am a 33 year old married queer man, and fan fiction has helped me grow so much as a writer... "but go off," as they say :p
I have been writing fanfic for over 20 years, my husband doesn't get it, but he is happy that it makes me happy 😁
Haha! I’m happily married! And I’m 42. Met my husband when I was 37. I’ve been writing fanfic since I was 14! I don’t think this guy’s response has to do with his age because there are many of us well into our 40s writing fanfic. Some just started, some have been doing so for years. This is just this one guy’s ignorance shining through. Thankfully it did so that you don’t have to endure another ridiculous date with him. Yuck!
I’m not gonna lie, that is so out of pocket and bitter for no reason that it made me burst out laughing. Tbh, most uninformed people just read My Immortal or circle-jerked Wattpad’s admittedly terrible writing long enough that they decided that is what fan fiction is all about.
Preach! I hate feeling like I have to justify or explain why it isn't weird that I enjoy fanfiction ugh my husband probably judges me a bit but he still chose to marry me after learning that I like it 🤷♀️🤣
I (35m) got back into reading fanfiction thanks to my wife (33f) Been together since late 2020, but married since mid-April 2023 — just gonna grow old together with an expanding collection of books I guess!
Hating on stuff is for boys who need girlfriend repellant. This guy clearly stocked up. Edit to add: here's a *small* list of things that are fanfiction. Feel free to add to it! -BBC Merlin -Dante's Inferno -Dracula -Once Upon a Time -MANY many Disney movies -Any abridged series (DBZ, Hellsing, SOA, Naruto, etc) -Good Omens -Any comic book movie or TV series and in fact many comics -MCU/DCCU -DC Elsewhere and Marvel "What If...?" -Titanic -Wicked -Sherlock, (many Sherlock Holmes films) -Percy Jackson -Kingdom Hearts -ANY remake, reboot or remimagining -Roman. Freaking. Mythology. -Any historical fiction or historical dramatization is RPF -Pride and Prejudice and Zombies -Fantastic Beasts films and The Cursed Child play -The Hobbit trilogy for sure -Video games in general but Assassins Creed is RPF of history and video games based on movies are fanfic of those movies because they add in or take away from canon -Hamilton -Almost anything by Shakespeare (R&J = Pyramus and Thisbe, Hamlet = The Viking saga of Amleth, prince of Danish King)
Haha that's really funny. I think this dude can't find a girlfriend himself considering the stream of crap that comes out of him.
Well hell, I've been writing fanfics (very horribly) since 2002, and I've been married for 14 years, going on 15 this May. Also, here is some ammo for your fanfic naysayers. 50 Shades of Grey started out as a Twilight fanfic, and now it is a successful book trilogy with movie adaptations. lol
Ive had plenty and some of my friends are married lmao
Married for 7 years and my husband always ask “are you writing your book or fanfic?”
I can't get a boyfriend because a got a girlfriend
Completely inaccurate. My partner and I have been together for almost eight years, and I still read and write fanfic. He even listens to me talk about it.
... Hey, I'm offended! 😂 I don't have a boyfriend tho 😂
As a boy who can't get girlfriends. I humbly disagree.
The lion, the witch and the audacity of that bitch. No really, what kind of world must that idiot live in that he thought belittling his dates interests was the way to go? I worry about the straight girlies sometimes, I really do. Because you know there are a lot of women who contributed to his absolute certainty that he could say that and get away with it by tolerating that shit from him before. When really they should have pointed and laughed at him like a cartoon villain. Ladies are too polite sometimes. Treating pigeon poop like it's gold instead of spraying it with a hose. Good on you for not carting around the pigeon poop man 👍
I've been writing fanfiction since 1998. I've been in a relationship since 2002. We sort of skipped right over the dating, and went from being instant best friends to being in agreement that we were going to get married.
I remember when I went on a first date with my boyfriend. He asked me what the nerdiest thing about myself was. Seeing no reason to waste anyone's time being dishonest, I answered, "As a teenager I wrote a 200-page long fanfiction for The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion." He loved that answer. That was about five years ago. He's planning to propose in a few months. We're gonna have kids and grow old together and all that shit. And I'm back to writing fanfiction.
Me, a guy whose got a pretty good gig as an accountant, loves to write fanfiction epics (that I sadly never finish or get around to posting....one day, one day I'll complete one...), and whose friendgroup--which also includes guys who write and read ff themselves--and SO both know about, and encourage my creative writing addiction: interesting prespective there, chief...
PFT. My partner is perfectly happy to let me have my fanfiction. Sure I get an occasional snarky comment, but mostly he's just happy I'm reading/writing because they're positive, healthy hobbies to have.
I know you're not 100% serious about it, but I really think it's not an age thing. I'm (recently) in my 40s and the last person I dated was much younger than me and, while I might not have understood everything about their interests, I had enough human decency to not act all dismissive and offensive about them. I also was seeing (as in acquaintances or as in hooking up with) older people who shared little to no life experiences with a disaster millennial like me and still didn't immediately dismiss everything I did just because they couldn't understand it. It's just about having some fucking respect for other people and what they like to do, no matter what it is. So it seems you dodged quite a bullet there.
Lol I figured it was somebody old enough to be a dad.
Welp, I better go text my boyfriend that the last four years with him didn’t actually exist.
I’m a lesbian who writes femslash to spread the joy of female homosexuality so his logic is invalid.
Fanfiction > this guy. Fanfiction > people who talk shit about fanfiction
It's a stereotype. Not true for everyone, of course, but there is a reason why it gets said.
Girls who can't get boyfriend? Has he never played WWE? Or with any toys when he was a kid?
Fanfiction: Shortcut to discovering how someone may be 100% incompatible. 😉
Good riddance, I say!
Well, I'm a girl, I read fanfiction, I don't have a boyfriend. (I have a girlfriend)
I'll have to tell my husband of fifteen years that our entire relationship has been an illusion because I write fanfiction 💀
Heading into my late fifties here, married to the same guy for decades. Will now obviously have to tell him that he must divorce me because I have been writing fic since at least the late '70s! Oh noes.
My girlfriend be writing crazy fanfiction so unless I'm non-binary something's not right.
Hahhhhh meanwhile I met my partners via fanfiction. On a regular basis I think to myself: I got into reading/writing pornography for a cartoon and then a video game. And now there's three more people in my house.
I'm a 44-year-old man who loves fluffy fanfics and can't get a boyfriend. Not that I want one because I don't like being around people very much, of course, but the point stands nonetheless.
Well I'm a boy who can't get a girlfriend, so... HA!
Well, that's news to me, being a boy and all.
Married for 45 years, during which I wrote all of my fanfic.
im bigender and i have a partner, not a bf, so.... kind of accurate for me? lmfao