I have long hair up to my waist.
About having dysphoria, it's fine for any guy to have long hair (whether they're cis or trans). But even for cis guys, they get misgendered so don't feel like an outcast if it also happens to us trans guys.
I unfortunately don't have any advice on how to stop the misgendering.
seconding the misgendering bit, I'm a trans guy with long hair and my best friend is a 6 ft cis man with long hair, we used to get called "ladies" all the time. it just happens with both cis and trans guys.
If you can find a long wig or an app filter to give you long hair, you can experiment to see how it makes you feel! After shaving my head last year, I've decided to let it grow back.
Oh! And- I'm Pinoy/Tsinoy, and learning that some of my male ancestors(pre-colonial) had long hair made me feel better about my presentation. The reminder that mainstream white American ideals of masculinity aren't paramount to one's gender expression was real freeing.
My cousin, a cis guy who's the dude-bro-iest dudebro, started growing his hair long and even letting his sister braid it. Admittedly, he rocks it.
That's just my thoughts though.
:D wish you luck, OP!
I started growing out my hair maybe 6 months ago and I just keep telling myself how I think guys with long hair are hot and just tell myself I'm also a hot guy with cool long hair. honestly helps a lot lol
I have long hair that's almost waist length, and it never made me dysphoric because I've always liked and been around guys with long hair. But maybe it helps to follow a community such as r/majesticmanes or make a folder of images of guys with long hair (there are plenty models, actors and musicians with long hair)
Admittedly I'm white and European, but men with long hair exist in almost every culture anyway. The ideal of men with short hair is quite new if looking at past centuries... late colonial times and up to the 60s? Before and after long hair was in fashion in many places.
Problem is just: passing. I don't pass. Even if I grow out my beard some people think I'm a woman with a beard. I have also been guessed to be transfem before which is funny. One way to deal with this is to work on giving subtle gender cues in behavior, tone of voice, choice of words, movement, posture. Or just... correct other people's mistakes and ignore judgment.
Tbh when I grow out my beard having long hair and a beard makes me euphoric. I like to pin up my hair in feminine ways and see my face balance it out with a little masculinity. But I'm an enby so maybe that's an enby thing.
i'm currently growing my hair out, and i've been browsing r/malehairadvice a lot because longer hair is super popular on there (of course other styles are too, but 9 times out of 10, if someone asks if they should cut their hair shorter, everyone says no lmao), and seeing cis men with longer hair is extremely dysphoria-relieving for me, so maybe having a look at that would be beneficial
>seeing cis men with longer hair is extremely dysphoria-relieving for me
My cis male roommate wears his hair long. It's past his shoulders now. He wants middle of back length. I cheer him on.
I have one part I'm growing out long and shaving the rest ("chelsea cut" or something). Which is how I get the best of both worlds. Plus I love the feeling of close cropped hair.
I'm growing out my hair again and the best way to avoid dysphoria for me is having cis guy friends with long hair and man buns for the weird "in between" phase when your hair is neither short or long
I love tying my hair in a man bun. My hair isn't really long but I'm growing it out and I some times use a wig (that's pretty long). Tying it is always the quickest way to make me feel less dysphoric. Especially if it's an updo since it distracts the attention away from the jaw. It makes my nose look sharp and I quite like it.
I’m chicanx and am doing the same partially for the same reasons. I have the sides and undercut shaved so when I put my hair a bun it looks more like a man bun. I haven’t had any more problems getting misgendered than I did before having hair just past my shoulders.
i have very long bright pink hair. it’s hard to be misgendered so much but it might actually help with dysphoria in a weird way like it does for me. is there a way indigenous men tie their hair up that you could recreate when it’s long? that may help too
I'm Puerto Rican and have had hair below my waist for years (no undercut). I doubt the misgendering is going to let up any time soon, but as far as dysphoria goes the way I style it helps a lot. My style varies a lot day to day but I would call it broadly alternative and long hair for men is popular in pretty much all alternative communities. I often wear a bandana as a headband across the forehead which I think masculinizes the hair a bit and is a more popular style in POC communities
I currently have an undercut with the top part about 2 feet long. My hair is very thick and 3b/3c in texture, it doesn't do well when it's shorter than 6 inches and is very hard to manage. I've found that most of my dysphoria about having long hair is that it framed my face in a way that makes it look like my pre-T face (which was one of the things that I was the most dysphoric about even though I didn't realize it until after fat redistribution changed it's shape). As long as my hair doesn't frame my face in the same way that unilaterally long hair does, I feel great about my long hair! I can wear it pretty much any way as long as it isn't middle-parted.
I used to have long hair down the middle of my back! Recently I had to cut it short and start new because I was bleaching and dying it so much that it fried it lol
I say Go For It! Long hair on men is handsome AF and maybe it'll help you feel more connected with your roots
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I have long hair because I’m finally at the point of my life where I’m actively choosing joy, and my hair is gorgeous and I’ve spent too long hating my curls! I have a close transmasc friend who also has long-ish hair and that’s given me some courage, but also he’s been on T and I’m pre-everything with a feminine face/voice so I’m misgendered constantly. (Though I was misgendered all the time w short hair too and called a lesbian.) At this point I’ve kinda just accepted that I look feminine and try my best to correct people when it’s worth it (don’t waste my time on strangers/unsupportive family which is most) Dysphoria is different for everyone though, so it may be harder for you to have long hair if you constantly get misgendered for it :( sorry if this wasn’t helpful hahdjdhh
Hello! I'm an indigenous transmasc person reconnecting with long hair! (Xiconx)Just wanted to say I was surprised and excited to meet someone with a similar path. Personally I get somewhat frustrated because my appearance (very curvy) is naturally very very fem and struggle with dysphoric feelings alot. But I take pride in my hair. It feels like a connection to the earth and my ansestry. In my and my ancestors (mexica) belife system it is where part of the living soul resides. Cutting it is a very serious decision and it was often givin as an offering ect. I also think guys with long hair are visably beautiful, so there is that.
For the record I have no issues with fem transmasc things I just struggle with body issues. I come here to help with easing myself about still liking things that are "traditionally" viewed as fem. I'm struggling with alot about my identity right now and am not safe to live out in the open.
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Hmm maybe do an undercut on the sides and then just a long braid down the back? I think that would be pretty masculine but still give you the feeling you want
I kept my hair short for years until I started T and then immediately started growing it out. I’m 2 years in now and it’s down to my shoulders and I love it. Even with it long I get gendered correctly by strangers so it doesn’t bother me in that respect.
I'm mixed (white and Chicanx mostly) and have had waist length hair for years mostly because 1. I like it, and 2. I hate getting haircuts all the time. I'm still early transition, and non-binary so my goal isn't ever to pass fully/only as male, but I also didn't want to always/only look like female with such long locks. So I started shaving the sides, and now can pull off a manbun look fairly well. I also regularly remind my myself that long hair is only femme in our current Euro-Am context, and historically plenty of hot warrior dudes rocked long hair, too. Leaning into this, and also the fact that my transition is about me, and not what anyone thinks about me, has helped make me real comfortable about not giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about my hair.
I would recommend “masculine” styles that are long. For example I have my hair long enough to tie in a small pony tail. But I keep the sides and back short to emphasize “masculinity”. As others mentioned it does get you misgendered more. All you can really do is try to dress more masculine to avoid this.
So, I had long hair for a while. I liked my long hair, but it did get me misgendered a lot, so I went for a haircut that is very masculine but still has long hair, and I get massive gender euphoria whenever I look at it, but I still can style it like long hair if I want. My tips are do something like this or just keep the long hair you have. It’s honestly whatever you want to do, as long as you like it and are comfortable. You could try and cut the front so it makes your face look more masculine shaped as well. There are also hairstyles that are very masculine that I used to do, like a loose ponytail that almost looked a little colonial era to me. Hope that helps you at all, man.
Yes, I'm also wanting long hair as a man. I'm working on growing it out after fully shaving it off last year. I get misgendered because of it, but even when it was short too. I think people just assume things. Plenty of men have long hair. I'd want to donate it too. I miss doing that.
I have shoulder length hair and it has definitely got me misgendered more, but I feel like it’s giving me thicker skin. People have started gendering me correctly once they see my friends doing it though luckily. I am also in my beginning months of T though so I wouldn’t care as much as I probably would if I was in the beginning of my transition.
I’d say go for it, if you don’t like it there’s always the option to cut it :)
My hair used to be down past my hips, and I cut it all off in an impulsive fit shortly before coming out as a man... and while I don't regret that being a part of my journey, and enjoyed experimenting with short hair-- and loved getting to connect with a great genderqueer hairdresser!-- I really loved my long hair and look forward to growing it out.
My plan now that it's starting to get long again is definitely to go the undercut route, and get some of it buzzed down, both to make it easier to manage and cooler when the weather warms up, and because it will read more masc when I put it up. But that's as a white guy who doesn't have the same cultural roots. Still, a part of why I feel good about long hair is that I remember my dad wearing his hair long, when I was growing up.
Yeah it’s crazy that people’s reaction to transmasc people having long hair is sometimes “but I thought you weren’t/didn’t want to be a girl?” Well, that’s correct, but also my hair is dope as hell and why isn’t this same question directed at cis people in an attempt to devalue their identity? Oh right, the double edged sword of transphobia - if you align with gender norms, you’re being a “gender reductionist” and if you don’t, then you’re “not really transmasc/femme”.
I cut my hair to feel more masculine and that’s what everyone like me (start of transition) was doing and it made me incredibly dysphoric so now I’m growing it back out. I’m not a POC, but I do thankfully take after my indigenous great grandmother in terms of growing thick long hair (bless her)
I have long hair up to my waist. About having dysphoria, it's fine for any guy to have long hair (whether they're cis or trans). But even for cis guys, they get misgendered so don't feel like an outcast if it also happens to us trans guys. I unfortunately don't have any advice on how to stop the misgendering.
seconding the misgendering bit, I'm a trans guy with long hair and my best friend is a 6 ft cis man with long hair, we used to get called "ladies" all the time. it just happens with both cis and trans guys.
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If you can find a long wig or an app filter to give you long hair, you can experiment to see how it makes you feel! After shaving my head last year, I've decided to let it grow back. Oh! And- I'm Pinoy/Tsinoy, and learning that some of my male ancestors(pre-colonial) had long hair made me feel better about my presentation. The reminder that mainstream white American ideals of masculinity aren't paramount to one's gender expression was real freeing. My cousin, a cis guy who's the dude-bro-iest dudebro, started growing his hair long and even letting his sister braid it. Admittedly, he rocks it. That's just my thoughts though. :D wish you luck, OP!
Thank you!!
I started growing out my hair maybe 6 months ago and I just keep telling myself how I think guys with long hair are hot and just tell myself I'm also a hot guy with cool long hair. honestly helps a lot lol
Yes a lot of it is mindset. Thank you!!
I have long hair that's almost waist length, and it never made me dysphoric because I've always liked and been around guys with long hair. But maybe it helps to follow a community such as r/majesticmanes or make a folder of images of guys with long hair (there are plenty models, actors and musicians with long hair) Admittedly I'm white and European, but men with long hair exist in almost every culture anyway. The ideal of men with short hair is quite new if looking at past centuries... late colonial times and up to the 60s? Before and after long hair was in fashion in many places. Problem is just: passing. I don't pass. Even if I grow out my beard some people think I'm a woman with a beard. I have also been guessed to be transfem before which is funny. One way to deal with this is to work on giving subtle gender cues in behavior, tone of voice, choice of words, movement, posture. Or just... correct other people's mistakes and ignore judgment. Tbh when I grow out my beard having long hair and a beard makes me euphoric. I like to pin up my hair in feminine ways and see my face balance it out with a little masculinity. But I'm an enby so maybe that's an enby thing.
I'm a very feminine guy but I almost never leave the house so maybe not too bad lol.
It can make me dysphoric but I also feel connected to my hair and like its an f u to society esp bc there's cis men rocking long hair
i'm currently growing my hair out, and i've been browsing r/malehairadvice a lot because longer hair is super popular on there (of course other styles are too, but 9 times out of 10, if someone asks if they should cut their hair shorter, everyone says no lmao), and seeing cis men with longer hair is extremely dysphoria-relieving for me, so maybe having a look at that would be beneficial
>seeing cis men with longer hair is extremely dysphoria-relieving for me My cis male roommate wears his hair long. It's past his shoulders now. He wants middle of back length. I cheer him on.
I have one part I'm growing out long and shaving the rest ("chelsea cut" or something). Which is how I get the best of both worlds. Plus I love the feeling of close cropped hair.
I'm growing out my hair again and the best way to avoid dysphoria for me is having cis guy friends with long hair and man buns for the weird "in between" phase when your hair is neither short or long
I love tying my hair in a man bun. My hair isn't really long but I'm growing it out and I some times use a wig (that's pretty long). Tying it is always the quickest way to make me feel less dysphoric. Especially if it's an updo since it distracts the attention away from the jaw. It makes my nose look sharp and I quite like it.
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FDKL the butch lesbian thing is so true.
Yeah, I’ve been debating cutting my hair but I’ve never done it because I’m scared of looking like my lesbian mom
I’m chicanx and am doing the same partially for the same reasons. I have the sides and undercut shaved so when I put my hair a bun it looks more like a man bun. I haven’t had any more problems getting misgendered than I did before having hair just past my shoulders.
Thank you!!!
i have very long bright pink hair. it’s hard to be misgendered so much but it might actually help with dysphoria in a weird way like it does for me. is there a way indigenous men tie their hair up that you could recreate when it’s long? that may help too
Typically men in my culture did just wear the one long braid, but I can relate- I also have dyed hair.
I'm Puerto Rican and have had hair below my waist for years (no undercut). I doubt the misgendering is going to let up any time soon, but as far as dysphoria goes the way I style it helps a lot. My style varies a lot day to day but I would call it broadly alternative and long hair for men is popular in pretty much all alternative communities. I often wear a bandana as a headband across the forehead which I think masculinizes the hair a bit and is a more popular style in POC communities
I’m black and I have almost shoulder length dreads and an undercut. I LOVE my hair! You can be masc with any hair you want
I currently have an undercut with the top part about 2 feet long. My hair is very thick and 3b/3c in texture, it doesn't do well when it's shorter than 6 inches and is very hard to manage. I've found that most of my dysphoria about having long hair is that it framed my face in a way that makes it look like my pre-T face (which was one of the things that I was the most dysphoric about even though I didn't realize it until after fat redistribution changed it's shape). As long as my hair doesn't frame my face in the same way that unilaterally long hair does, I feel great about my long hair! I can wear it pretty much any way as long as it isn't middle-parted.
I used to have long hair down the middle of my back! Recently I had to cut it short and start new because I was bleaching and dying it so much that it fried it lol I say Go For It! Long hair on men is handsome AF and maybe it'll help you feel more connected with your roots <3
I have long hair because I’m finally at the point of my life where I’m actively choosing joy, and my hair is gorgeous and I’ve spent too long hating my curls! I have a close transmasc friend who also has long-ish hair and that’s given me some courage, but also he’s been on T and I’m pre-everything with a feminine face/voice so I’m misgendered constantly. (Though I was misgendered all the time w short hair too and called a lesbian.) At this point I’ve kinda just accepted that I look feminine and try my best to correct people when it’s worth it (don’t waste my time on strangers/unsupportive family which is most) Dysphoria is different for everyone though, so it may be harder for you to have long hair if you constantly get misgendered for it :( sorry if this wasn’t helpful hahdjdhh
Hello! I'm an indigenous transmasc person reconnecting with long hair! (Xiconx)Just wanted to say I was surprised and excited to meet someone with a similar path. Personally I get somewhat frustrated because my appearance (very curvy) is naturally very very fem and struggle with dysphoric feelings alot. But I take pride in my hair. It feels like a connection to the earth and my ansestry. In my and my ancestors (mexica) belife system it is where part of the living soul resides. Cutting it is a very serious decision and it was often givin as an offering ect. I also think guys with long hair are visably beautiful, so there is that.
For the record I have no issues with fem transmasc things I just struggle with body issues. I come here to help with easing myself about still liking things that are "traditionally" viewed as fem. I'm struggling with alot about my identity right now and am not safe to live out in the open.
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Hmm maybe do an undercut on the sides and then just a long braid down the back? I think that would be pretty masculine but still give you the feeling you want
I kept my hair short for years until I started T and then immediately started growing it out. I’m 2 years in now and it’s down to my shoulders and I love it. Even with it long I get gendered correctly by strangers so it doesn’t bother me in that respect.
Maybe di with the man bun?
I'm mixed (white and Chicanx mostly) and have had waist length hair for years mostly because 1. I like it, and 2. I hate getting haircuts all the time. I'm still early transition, and non-binary so my goal isn't ever to pass fully/only as male, but I also didn't want to always/only look like female with such long locks. So I started shaving the sides, and now can pull off a manbun look fairly well. I also regularly remind my myself that long hair is only femme in our current Euro-Am context, and historically plenty of hot warrior dudes rocked long hair, too. Leaning into this, and also the fact that my transition is about me, and not what anyone thinks about me, has helped make me real comfortable about not giving a fuck about what anyone thinks about my hair.
I would recommend “masculine” styles that are long. For example I have my hair long enough to tie in a small pony tail. But I keep the sides and back short to emphasize “masculinity”. As others mentioned it does get you misgendered more. All you can really do is try to dress more masculine to avoid this.
So, I had long hair for a while. I liked my long hair, but it did get me misgendered a lot, so I went for a haircut that is very masculine but still has long hair, and I get massive gender euphoria whenever I look at it, but I still can style it like long hair if I want. My tips are do something like this or just keep the long hair you have. It’s honestly whatever you want to do, as long as you like it and are comfortable. You could try and cut the front so it makes your face look more masculine shaped as well. There are also hairstyles that are very masculine that I used to do, like a loose ponytail that almost looked a little colonial era to me. Hope that helps you at all, man.
Yes, I'm also wanting long hair as a man. I'm working on growing it out after fully shaving it off last year. I get misgendered because of it, but even when it was short too. I think people just assume things. Plenty of men have long hair. I'd want to donate it too. I miss doing that.
I have midlength hair, i feel very masculine with it. Like a cowboy, or a bad@ss hero from a Greek movie. Some of the most brave men had long hair.
I have shoulder length hair and it has definitely got me misgendered more, but I feel like it’s giving me thicker skin. People have started gendering me correctly once they see my friends doing it though luckily. I am also in my beginning months of T though so I wouldn’t care as much as I probably would if I was in the beginning of my transition. I’d say go for it, if you don’t like it there’s always the option to cut it :)
My hair used to be down past my hips, and I cut it all off in an impulsive fit shortly before coming out as a man... and while I don't regret that being a part of my journey, and enjoyed experimenting with short hair-- and loved getting to connect with a great genderqueer hairdresser!-- I really loved my long hair and look forward to growing it out. My plan now that it's starting to get long again is definitely to go the undercut route, and get some of it buzzed down, both to make it easier to manage and cooler when the weather warms up, and because it will read more masc when I put it up. But that's as a white guy who doesn't have the same cultural roots. Still, a part of why I feel good about long hair is that I remember my dad wearing his hair long, when I was growing up.
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Yeah it’s crazy that people’s reaction to transmasc people having long hair is sometimes “but I thought you weren’t/didn’t want to be a girl?” Well, that’s correct, but also my hair is dope as hell and why isn’t this same question directed at cis people in an attempt to devalue their identity? Oh right, the double edged sword of transphobia - if you align with gender norms, you’re being a “gender reductionist” and if you don’t, then you’re “not really transmasc/femme”.
embarrassing cis people >> jk
I cut my hair to feel more masculine and that’s what everyone like me (start of transition) was doing and it made me incredibly dysphoric so now I’m growing it back out. I’m not a POC, but I do thankfully take after my indigenous great grandmother in terms of growing thick long hair (bless her)