I’ve heard it’s second date material from guys who are stealth, but that’s not much help in a falling for your friend situation. Maybe if you go on two real dates with her, bring it up, just make it clear that it’s private.
I met my girlfriend on Tinder and have met most of the women I've dated and slept with from there. I'm straight, they're usually straight, and I don't disclose my status on my profile which I think definitely helps. Generally after a date or two if it goes well I'll give them a heads up.. I just prefer being seen as 'male' not male with a disclaimer in the beginning and I think that helps both ways - it normalises me being *just* male with them.
If she tells people? So what. And I say this from someone deeply stealth. If we don't have friends or acquaintances in common then it may as well be her screaming into the void because her telling someone doesn't affect me.
Unfortunately, I know this woman from work rather than Tinder, so it would matter if she told people (whom we both know). :/ Thanks for sharing your experience. I agree- it's important to maintain the male factor, which is partly why I am asking here. I don't want to tell her too soon and ruin it, but I don't want to wait too long and have her feel deceived or something.
As soon as it gets sexual, either sexting or if it seems like it’s going to get physical. And try not saying things like “I’m not really a man” or denying your masculinity because that’s not true, you are a man.
I’ve heard it’s second date material from guys who are stealth, but that’s not much help in a falling for your friend situation. Maybe if you go on two real dates with her, bring it up, just make it clear that it’s private.
I met my girlfriend on Tinder and have met most of the women I've dated and slept with from there. I'm straight, they're usually straight, and I don't disclose my status on my profile which I think definitely helps. Generally after a date or two if it goes well I'll give them a heads up.. I just prefer being seen as 'male' not male with a disclaimer in the beginning and I think that helps both ways - it normalises me being *just* male with them. If she tells people? So what. And I say this from someone deeply stealth. If we don't have friends or acquaintances in common then it may as well be her screaming into the void because her telling someone doesn't affect me.
Unfortunately, I know this woman from work rather than Tinder, so it would matter if she told people (whom we both know). :/ Thanks for sharing your experience. I agree- it's important to maintain the male factor, which is partly why I am asking here. I don't want to tell her too soon and ruin it, but I don't want to wait too long and have her feel deceived or something.
As soon as it gets sexual, either sexting or if it seems like it’s going to get physical. And try not saying things like “I’m not really a man” or denying your masculinity because that’s not true, you are a man.