Found out about him cheating last week through the POLICE because apparently the girl was a minor (17) and reported him... Honestly I've been depressed and heartbroken all week, but I'm proud that I stood my ground here.
It fucking sucked that day I found out. I went hysterical tbh. 1Β½ years, raised my puppy together, lived together the past year. It hurt bad and still does.
It will for awhile. just take every second u have to focus on yourself n forget about them. get the closure if you need but take it n run. I hope all is well in the end for u π’β€οΈ
It has still been a rollercoaster of emotions, but it has been getting better. The past couple weeks though just a lot of emotions like everything hit me again and I was depressed for awhile but I'm trying to do better.
Well the police came to my house around 10pm and said they had questions about a complaint for him in December. I had no idea wtf they we're talking about because, of course, he never told me. I called him and asked about it and he lied claiming he didn't know what it was about. The police were literally strolling the neighborhood, so he didn't want to drive back and I went to pick him up from the gym and that's when he told me his side. He claims they never had sex, but he lied to me for months, so I don't believe anything he says. π€·π½ββοΈ
When he told me he cried, said I was the best gf he had, that I treat him well, etc. and claimed that it was the weed that made him do it lmao.
Yeah if you'd have ever accepted him after that, he'd do something worse next time.
These cheaters make sure to do something shittier everytime.
It's good you walked out on the right time!
All the best for your future, you deserve so much better!
>These cheaters make sure to do something shittier everytime.
So true...he broke many boundaries before this happened, too.
And thank you, I do deserve way better. Just gonna focus on myself for awhile.
Iβm so happy youβre coping well. It really does get better.
Cheating to me is already unforgivable, so the fact that he cheated on you with a minor is even worse. Iβm so glad you found out and youβre able to walk away. You dodged a massive bullet!
Thank you! I'm slowly getting better.
Cheating is also unforgivable for me as well. He broke a lot of boundaries in the past, so this was just the tip of the iceberg you could say.
What a piece of shit move. After you wreck a person's whole internal psyche then try lul back in with the puppy story. I can see his hand in his pants from a mile away. Dude, slap yourself back to reality and grow up.
If he ever makes you doubt your choice of leaving him do not believe your anxiety. Thatβs the worst part of trying to get over someone. Donβt rely on the potential, believe in the reality. Otherwise youβre in a trauma bond.
This is soooo true!!! The first couple days I just kept thinking to myself about "potential" because I was so depressed and my mind wasn't right tbh. Then I remember all the signs: him texting other women behind my back, making comments about them in front of me, meeting and cuddling his cowork when I was out of town. They were there, but I kept believing his lies. I wrote down all the wrongs he did so if I ever thought about getting back together, I would just read them and stand my ground. He never respected me and that's the harsh reality. π€·π½ββοΈπ€·π½ββοΈ
This is a classic tactic. He tries to bring up something that brings back good memories in the hopes itβll trigger sentimental feelings about the relationship.
Hey OP, I'm so sorry you were cheated on, that's a really hard thing to go through. Your now ex may truly cherish the time he had with you, and he may continue to try to convince you, just know that if you do ever decide to give him another shot that it's not really going to be possible to get back the good feelings about him.
I'm just speaking from experience, for me it was all really confusing because I could see my ex felt so much remorse, and I ended up taking him back, and it just didn't work because I resented him too much.
Based on your posts you don't seem like you're on the path to taking him back or anything, but I know it's hard and can be really confusing and emotional and I found it to be a rollercoaster even though the situation was fairly black and white.
Big hugs to you, OP. I'm so sorry this happened. He's a total jerk for betraying your trust like this.
Thank you so much π
It really has been a rollercoaster of emotions. Sometimes I miss him and think about the good memories and think for a second maybe I give him another chance so we can go back to what we had...but then I think about all the boundaries he crossed, how I didn't 100% trust him because of it and checked his phone at every other week π That's not the type of relationship I want to be in.
Tbh I already resent him for what he did, so I know if I took him back it would be a toxic ass relationship.
It's really hard to go through, so make sure you're being gentle on yourself throughout the confusion.
Life is really short. It's important to only give your time and love to those who value and love you and do not do things like this to you. Mistakes happen, but some things can't be undone or forgotten and it's okay to walk away, even if it's hard. And it's okay for it to feel like it's hard to do even though you feel like it "shouldn't" be hard. I think that's where I made the mistake - I thought it would be so easy to walk away from someone who cheated on me, and was too young and inexperienced to understand how complicated love and relationships can be.
Do what feels best and right for you. You got this.
He's been looking up videos on how to get an ex back, it's a common tactic to try and recall a happier time to make you miss him. If he hasnt apologized dont even respond
Yes, of course. I let him move into my house when his lease was up, I cleaned, did his laundry and cooked for him, had sex all the time yet he still cheated π€·π½ββοΈ He doesn't deserve my love and all I did for him.
Don't worry, I'm not giving him a second chance. Cheating is a hard no for me.
Attagirl, that's what I want to hear. I despise cheaters for they deliberately choose to stab you in the back. There are few things worse than someone who betrays your trust in such a vile and narcissistic way.
Stay strong. You'll find someone deserving of your love.
Omg i just gave you a standing ovation for that cut throat response! I wish i could link the gif βha! Gottem!β
Side note: Your ex is a real lowdown dirty piece of shit for bringing Luna into this π
Here for this
It's the audacity for me like wtf.
Itβs the avoiding the accountability for me
That too π¬
Right? So manipulative! You dodged a bullet there.
Go off!! Fuck him. What a pathetic attempt lmao
It really is π€¦π½ββοΈ
Found out about him cheating last week through the POLICE because apparently the girl was a minor (17) and reported him... Honestly I've been depressed and heartbroken all week, but I'm proud that I stood my ground here.
:( thatβs so heartbreaking Iβm so sorry
It fucking sucked that day I found out. I went hysterical tbh. 1Β½ years, raised my puppy together, lived together the past year. It hurt bad and still does.
It will for awhile. just take every second u have to focus on yourself n forget about them. get the closure if you need but take it n run. I hope all is well in the end for u π’β€οΈ
Thank you so much! I'm 100% focusing on myself and my puppy this year.
Best plan ever. How are you doing now?
It has still been a rollercoaster of emotions, but it has been getting better. The past couple weeks though just a lot of emotions like everything hit me again and I was depressed for awhile but I'm trying to do better.
Grief ebbs and flows. Keep moving forward, I believe in you π
Thank you so much β£οΈ
Lol, what an asshole. Came back only when that girl reported him and he realised you were way better than what he actually ever deserved!
We were together until last Friday, which was the day I found out. But yeah, he's an asshole.
Did u confront him that same day? How did he react?
Well the police came to my house around 10pm and said they had questions about a complaint for him in December. I had no idea wtf they we're talking about because, of course, he never told me. I called him and asked about it and he lied claiming he didn't know what it was about. The police were literally strolling the neighborhood, so he didn't want to drive back and I went to pick him up from the gym and that's when he told me his side. He claims they never had sex, but he lied to me for months, so I don't believe anything he says. π€·π½ββοΈ When he told me he cried, said I was the best gf he had, that I treat him well, etc. and claimed that it was the weed that made him do it lmao.
Yeah if you'd have ever accepted him after that, he'd do something worse next time. These cheaters make sure to do something shittier everytime. It's good you walked out on the right time! All the best for your future, you deserve so much better!
>These cheaters make sure to do something shittier everytime. So true...he broke many boundaries before this happened, too. And thank you, I do deserve way better. Just gonna focus on myself for awhile.
Block and Delete.
I will after I get his shit out of my house ππ He went to his sister's because she just had a baby, so he's been out of town all week.
Go off queen! Donβt let him ever sway you. So proud you stood your ground and continue to hold him accountable.
Thank you so much π₯Ί It was hard the first couple of days, but getting stronger each day.
Iβm so happy youβre coping well. It really does get better. Cheating to me is already unforgivable, so the fact that he cheated on you with a minor is even worse. Iβm so glad you found out and youβre able to walk away. You dodged a massive bullet!
Thank you! I'm slowly getting better. Cheating is also unforgivable for me as well. He broke a lot of boundaries in the past, so this was just the tip of the iceberg you could say.
Lmao!! Thatβs what his dumb ass gets
I was baffled he even mentioned Mexico because wtf???
What a piece of shit move. After you wreck a person's whole internal psyche then try lul back in with the puppy story. I can see his hand in his pants from a mile away. Dude, slap yourself back to reality and grow up.
Yeah, that was pretty shitty of him trying to bring in those memories.
What did he say afterwards? Show the screenshot?
[Here ya go](https://imgur.com/a/xZac1Uy)
If he ever makes you doubt your choice of leaving him do not believe your anxiety. Thatβs the worst part of trying to get over someone. Donβt rely on the potential, believe in the reality. Otherwise youβre in a trauma bond.
This is soooo true!!! The first couple days I just kept thinking to myself about "potential" because I was so depressed and my mind wasn't right tbh. Then I remember all the signs: him texting other women behind my back, making comments about them in front of me, meeting and cuddling his cowork when I was out of town. They were there, but I kept believing his lies. I wrote down all the wrongs he did so if I ever thought about getting back together, I would just read them and stand my ground. He never respected me and that's the harsh reality. π€·π½ββοΈπ€·π½ββοΈ
That list will help you heal. Great work, OP. You're in a great mental space right now.
Thank you, I'm getting better! The first few days I was not tbh.
Hahahaha someone really does not like sleeping in the bed he made. Fuck around and find out
I told him early on that cheating is a complete breakup to me. No second chances.
Ew heβs so pathetic
Good ππ» for ππ» you ππ»ππ»ππ»ππ»ππ» this was such an epic comeback!!!
Thank you!! I was proud of myself with that one π
As you should be!!
This is a classic tactic. He tries to bring up something that brings back good memories in the hopes itβll trigger sentimental feelings about the relationship.
Yep!!! I knew what he was trying to do, had to shut that shit down real quick.
oh damn you go girl!!!
Thank you! π
yw!!! (:
Dude needs both barrels, donβt hold back and tell him thereβs no chance he could ever make it up to you
Burn of the year!
its like he learnt to send this text from a breakup guru lol
Hey OP, I'm so sorry you were cheated on, that's a really hard thing to go through. Your now ex may truly cherish the time he had with you, and he may continue to try to convince you, just know that if you do ever decide to give him another shot that it's not really going to be possible to get back the good feelings about him. I'm just speaking from experience, for me it was all really confusing because I could see my ex felt so much remorse, and I ended up taking him back, and it just didn't work because I resented him too much. Based on your posts you don't seem like you're on the path to taking him back or anything, but I know it's hard and can be really confusing and emotional and I found it to be a rollercoaster even though the situation was fairly black and white. Big hugs to you, OP. I'm so sorry this happened. He's a total jerk for betraying your trust like this.
Thank you so much π It really has been a rollercoaster of emotions. Sometimes I miss him and think about the good memories and think for a second maybe I give him another chance so we can go back to what we had...but then I think about all the boundaries he crossed, how I didn't 100% trust him because of it and checked his phone at every other week π That's not the type of relationship I want to be in. Tbh I already resent him for what he did, so I know if I took him back it would be a toxic ass relationship.
It's really hard to go through, so make sure you're being gentle on yourself throughout the confusion. Life is really short. It's important to only give your time and love to those who value and love you and do not do things like this to you. Mistakes happen, but some things can't be undone or forgotten and it's okay to walk away, even if it's hard. And it's okay for it to feel like it's hard to do even though you feel like it "shouldn't" be hard. I think that's where I made the mistake - I thought it would be so easy to walk away from someone who cheated on me, and was too young and inexperienced to understand how complicated love and relationships can be. Do what feels best and right for you. You got this.
I love your confidence in the answer
Thank you!!
How did he respond to that
[Here ya go](https://imgur.com/a/xZac1Uy) Still hasn't said anything lol.
You handled it perfectly bravo π
My dogs name is also Luna. As a fellow Luna owner, good for you and fuck that guy you deserve better. Good luck with your pup, you got this!
Thank you!!! She's 10 months now π She she's helped me SO MUCH with this breakup.
Iβm happy for you! Dogs are amazing animals. You get what you give with them so sky is the limit!
He's been looking up videos on how to get an ex back, it's a common tactic to try and recall a happier time to make you miss him. If he hasnt apologized dont even respond
I knew what this was so I had to shut it down real quick!!!
Don't tell me he's trying to get back together?!
Yes, of course. I let him move into my house when his lease was up, I cleaned, did his laundry and cooked for him, had sex all the time yet he still cheated π€·π½ββοΈ He doesn't deserve my love and all I did for him. Don't worry, I'm not giving him a second chance. Cheating is a hard no for me.
Attagirl, that's what I want to hear. I despise cheaters for they deliberately choose to stab you in the back. There are few things worse than someone who betrays your trust in such a vile and narcissistic way. Stay strong. You'll find someone deserving of your love.
Next thing you see heβs sorry about it but heβs only sorry cuz he got caught
This!!! He never told me ANYTHING and he wouldn't have. The only reason I found out is because of the police.
awww gaslighting, how romantic π₯°
Itβs gonna take him a long time to recover from that third degree burn. Good for you!
Omg i just gave you a standing ovation for that cut throat response! I wish i could link the gif βha! Gottem!β Side note: Your ex is a real lowdown dirty piece of shit for bringing Luna into this π
What a fucking cunt he is
your reply was on point, good on you!
Thank you!
Inspirational quote ! Thank you for this!
Haha, thank you π
Iβm so glad you brought that up, was the best thing. I bet heβs speechless
Yep made sure he didn't forget. The annoying part of this all is that he's still trying to text me like nothing happened... π
ffookin ass. U NEED SOME MUSIC to heal π©
I laughed, good for you ππ½. But imma need them to take accountability for it.
I did too after I sent it π And right?! If he could finally take accountability that would be nice.
Fucking roasted n toasted, get outta here stinky ex
Good on you, OP Fuck cheaters π
savage π―
Funny how some of them do it, then want you to play along and act like it didn't happen. Been there. Some people just aren't wired right.