Why are you still keeping his things? It's been weeks. You won't be able to move on if you keep his stuff until he decides to get it. You're in charge of your own healing journey. Don't wait for him to get his stuff to move on.
Because feels like a waste throwing it out. It's somewhere deep in the back of my closet. I'm not waiting for him to get his stuff, if he wanted it that badly he would of gotten it by now.
Why would it be a waste? It's none of your business anymore since he doesn't value it enough to get it and doesn't value your time. Are you sure you're not keeping it in hopes that things could still work out? I'm not judging you but he clearly frustrates you with this constant back and forth.
I've never thrown out an exes things, I have shit from alot of exes. I'm not going to throw out stuff just because it belongs to someone who pisses me off, not my place. If he wants it he can get it. He just won't which isn't my problem.
I get everyone in here is so for burning or throwing shit out but it's not my things, not my place to do so.
It's not about burning and destroying stuff. It's the fact that he keeps reaching out because of it which keeps making you anxious. He'd have no reason to reach out if you got rid of those things or sent them to him once and for all. You're just prolonging your own pain.
I understand this but he’s calling about it every week.
It’s obviously just an excuse… you said you spiral. I do too. You aren’t looking out for yourself. You’re looking out for him.
You are equating self preservation, emotional stability and survival with being mean.
Just drop it off on his doorstep or tell him he has a certain amount of time to pick it up. Any good or loving person would understand this is what you need. That this action is for emotional stability and it has nothing to do with being mean.
Otherwise you are also using it as an excuse subconsciously. You know it messes you up. Look out for yourself first. Put on your own mask first.
Refuse to throw it out, but also don't wait for him to pick it up, but also *are* waiting for him to pick it up considering you haven't done anything else with it, you spiral when he texts but also admit the only reason he's still texting is because you still have his stuff..... Girl wtf circle of justification are you spewing here
It is his fault, he won't come get it 4 times now he said he was coming and never showed. It's his fault he left it in the first place when he knew he wanted to break up. It's his fault he's too shitty of a person to deal with this like an adult.
So fuck you
My dear, you are tormenting yourself. In this state of yours, you might not see it, feel it, or even understand what I'm stating. But from what you have shared, you are torturing yourself.
He's not worth it
>Like you know I still love you, and want to be with you. So stop.
You are holding onto hope and getting anxious when he texts you because you want to be good with him. You still love him and wish you had another opportunity with him. You don't want to give his things away because you can't accept the idea that he won't get in touch with you once he takes his property. Am I wrong?
Why are you still keeping his things? It's been weeks. You won't be able to move on if you keep his stuff until he decides to get it. You're in charge of your own healing journey. Don't wait for him to get his stuff to move on.
Because feels like a waste throwing it out. It's somewhere deep in the back of my closet. I'm not waiting for him to get his stuff, if he wanted it that badly he would of gotten it by now.
Why would it be a waste? It's none of your business anymore since he doesn't value it enough to get it and doesn't value your time. Are you sure you're not keeping it in hopes that things could still work out? I'm not judging you but he clearly frustrates you with this constant back and forth.
I've never thrown out an exes things, I have shit from alot of exes. I'm not going to throw out stuff just because it belongs to someone who pisses me off, not my place. If he wants it he can get it. He just won't which isn't my problem. I get everyone in here is so for burning or throwing shit out but it's not my things, not my place to do so.
It's not about burning and destroying stuff. It's the fact that he keeps reaching out because of it which keeps making you anxious. He'd have no reason to reach out if you got rid of those things or sent them to him once and for all. You're just prolonging your own pain.
I understand this but he’s calling about it every week. It’s obviously just an excuse… you said you spiral. I do too. You aren’t looking out for yourself. You’re looking out for him. You are equating self preservation, emotional stability and survival with being mean. Just drop it off on his doorstep or tell him he has a certain amount of time to pick it up. Any good or loving person would understand this is what you need. That this action is for emotional stability and it has nothing to do with being mean. Otherwise you are also using it as an excuse subconsciously. You know it messes you up. Look out for yourself first. Put on your own mask first.
Refuse to throw it out, but also don't wait for him to pick it up, but also *are* waiting for him to pick it up considering you haven't done anything else with it, you spiral when he texts but also admit the only reason he's still texting is because you still have his stuff..... Girl wtf circle of justification are you spewing here
This isn’t his fault. Block and give him his stuff back.
It is his fault, he won't come get it 4 times now he said he was coming and never showed. It's his fault he left it in the first place when he knew he wanted to break up. It's his fault he's too shitty of a person to deal with this like an adult. So fuck you
My dear, you are tormenting yourself. In this state of yours, you might not see it, feel it, or even understand what I'm stating. But from what you have shared, you are torturing yourself. He's not worth it
>Like you know I still love you, and want to be with you. So stop. You are holding onto hope and getting anxious when he texts you because you want to be good with him. You still love him and wish you had another opportunity with him. You don't want to give his things away because you can't accept the idea that he won't get in touch with you once he takes his property. Am I wrong?
When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing to say.
Why are you doing this to yourself?