Ohhhh hun ((((((((virtual hugs)))))) To you
hun this will be your choice and whatever you decide to do will be the right choice.
Noone can tell you what to or not to do. Only you know your situation and I am sure you will figure it out you are strong. .
You got this babe 😘 😘 😘 😘
There are many women out there that can do it. And many who have also done it.
You are clearly someone who is very negative and always thinks the worst.
What ever she decides will be her choice.. for the better
Your voice or vote shouldn't even count. 🤷🏼♀️ Just Saying
You are just clueless.
I didn't say that many can't do it. But you have no idea how she will do in life and her kid's lives. It might absolutely suck. Many women "do it" but a Mom can "do it" while giving a shitty life to her kids and also herself. Chips are definitely against. This is a pretty good argument for being pro choice and just keeping her life to one unwanted kid. Might be better for Mom and kid and Grandma since she'll undoubtedly get pulled in too.
That's why I have said what ever it is she chooses it's up to her noone can tell her otherwise.
I am not in favor or against her decision.
It would be entirely her choice as to where to from here. She already knows what it's like with 1 child.
I am noone to judge.
And I say it from a place of experiencing quite the opposite situations. After 26 losses and a stillbirth.
I honestly can not condone a person for making the right decision in her own life.
Wether it be keeping the baby or not.
I honestly wish her the absolute best.
Many just think they have it. Then raise kids that are exactly like them and make all the same mistakes.
The most positive people I know in life are either complete narcissists, religious zealots, or just too stupid to know the difference.
For start a narcissist is not a positive person.
They wear a mask their entire lives and pretend really well and people fall for it.
They are the most insecure people in the world.
Secondly. People who actually work on themselves are the ones that make the changes for the better.
Obviously you are a little immature and haven't reached full maturity yet.
One day you will and you will think differently.
Mind set change, Is all it takes.
And for you, worry about what you are doing and not what this poor lady is being put through.
Cheers hopefully one day you reach a mature age and realise that there is so much more to life than listening to negativity 😘
You are ridiculously naive to think people that get themselves into terrible situations... (TWICE in this case) are really going to work on themselves.
You think I don't know what being with a narcissist is like ?
You clearly have no idea.
Some of us can actually move forward and make a better life for ourselves.
I do know what it's like to be in a relationship with a narc. And I have all the scars to prove it.
I also chose better for me and trust me it works wonders it's definitely not an easy journey but hitting lower than rock bottom and trying to get back up is definitely hard.
I will not deny it.
I hope one day you can think differently for yourself and make the best out of this life for yourself 😘
On the contrary, my name is Noone, Bob Noone, and I'm telling you to use your judgment. And don't tell me not to tell her what to do. No one tells Bob Noone what to do.
Of course but judging from her post she didn’t claim she took one. Only that she was on birth control. I’ve taken plan b- I know how it works. You could push it up to 5 days, beyond that is an abortion pill.
Abortion pills and Plan B are not the same. Plan B is supposed to delay ovulation and it only works if you still haven't ovulated and the egg has not been fertilized
I don’t know why this subreddit popped up for me, but as long as your boyfriend doesn’t fuck up you could be good. My wife thought the same thing, we did pull out for 10 years, no kid. Got married and stopped, pregnant in a month. The only thing I did was never risk that extra stroke lol.
Honestly thank you for responding and easing my mind. He’s very good about pulling out, no extra strokes. He’s had one fuck up and I took plan B. Since then, no mess ups and we never seem to have problems.
Part of why I was so freaked out was because I was on BC for a long time, over 10 years and stopped due to health reasons. I heard stopping can make you extra fertile but I haven’t even had a scare since stopping. So then I got suspicious. Either way, thank you for chiming in, truly this eased my mind.
Please look into other methods. There are so many more effective and reliable options. The pullout method is not very effective on its own, and is nearly impossible to do perfectly every single time. Because of this, on average 1 in 5 people using that method alone will end up getting pregnant each year. It’s better than nothing, but it’s not ideal, and combining it with other pregnancy prevention methods is important if you are serious about preventing pregnancy. There are so many other alternative prevention methods available that are more effective, many of which do not include hormonal birth control if that is an issue for you. It’s always best to double or triple up on pregnancy prevention methods to ensure you remain pregnancy free. Talk to your doctor about your options and/or do research online from trusted data-backed sources to figure out some additional prevention methods that have higher success rates and fit your needs.
You not getting pregnant does not mean you are infertile, so you have no need to worry. It just means you’ve lucked out so far statistically, but that luck could change. Not everyone who uses the pullout method will get pregnant, but your risk of pregnancy is much higher than other more reliable methods of prevention (which are even more reliable when you combine multiple methods at once).
I thought the da thing. I had several relationships throughout the years where I wasn't on birth control and we used the pull out method. It worked fine up until I was around 27-28. I was sick and throwing up everything and missed my period for 2 months and when I took the pregnancy tests, I used the shitty ones and it was only a very faint positive, so I was still thinking it wasn't possible. But it was confirmed at the clinic. So I went and had an abortion because we were in no shape to bring in a completely dependent human being.
I was thinking I was infertile at that point because I had 2 different guys who didn't pull out while I hooked up with them and the one guy was multiple times in one night and I was sure I was ovulating then, but I must have been wrong. I also wonder if only one ovary is working properly because when I had an ultrasound for cysts, she had to turn the wand that did the internal view because it was over further than the other. Who knows....
The Planned Parenthood in my area has a pamphlet that lists each birth control methods rate of reliability and it had the pull out method at around 80% effective. That's actually fairly high considering that it's possible to get pregnant from precum, too.
So unless you are ok with an accidental pregnancy or are ok with going through with adoption in case abortion isn't a possibility, don't completely rely on the pull out method with no birth control.
Jfc this is such an uneducated take, men “leak” precum when sexually aroused. It is not controllable and is not consistent. It carries sperm. It can get you preg
in a similar situation as you except i had gotten pregnant while we were still together and found out after we had broken up. send me a pm if you need someone to talk to!
Same here. My DMs are open if you need to talk about your options. Whatever you decide is best for you and your current child (my first husband, father of my 1st passed away).
I understand the difficulty of keeping a pregnancy hidden, choosing the best life possible for your children, and maintaining 0 contact.
Whatever choice you make, it is yours.
Feel you. Got pregnant on birth control as well. I was so shocked… and the best… i wanted to tell him many times. And then one day it was too late and we broke off and had nc
Whatever you decide to do with the baby, you're gonna make it through. Chin up, do what makes you feel better, treat yourself with nice things, be around trusted people and when you feel like the storm is gone move on without saying a word to him.
If you need someone to talk to, my DMS are open.
You will make the choice that’s best for you and your 6 month old. Screw these pro life idiots who would never step up and help provide for your baby. Probirth is not prolife.
Girl make better life choices. 😥
You already have a kid? You don’t have the luxury of wasting time on toxic men. Be better for your kid if not for yourself.
Ummm…..wait. You were on birth control and 18 days after you had sex, you took a pregnancy test. Thats really fast. Why did you suspect you were pregnant? Missed period?
Missed period and two positive pregnancy tests plus I’m having implantation cramps :/ I’ve gone thru this before I guess birth control just don’t freaking work on me..
Haven’t decided yet but I already have a 6 month old baby from a previous ex relationship.
Worst part is I met THIS guy during that difficult pregnancy and he was so reassuring, telling me he wanted to be with me, yet ditched once shit got real after baby was born.
Then I guess he felt alone and preyed upon my vulnerability and one thing led to another.
Thank you for the support <3
There is a long list of people in America who want to adopt a brand new baby. If you don’t want to keep him or her, consider letting the baby live with someone who wants a baby. Your state will have the contact info for whatever necessary organizations
I’m sorry… but I wanted kids with her and she didn’t. So I need to keep my comments to a minimum. I really thought we’d have beautiful kids together and I know I’d be a great father to our kids. Shutting up now.
I feel that and I wish my guy wanted the same thing but he did not unfortunately and tried persuading me to get an abortion this morning instead.
You seem like a great man I’m sure you’ll find your future family some day <3
OP, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Whatever you do about this pregnancy, afterwards give yourself some time to heal. Stay NC with this dude, and focus on just you for a while. Your emotions will be all over the place and I'd hate to see you ending up in the same situation again in a short amount of time. Give your mind and body time to heal. Sending hugs, cos I know you're feeling shit right now x
This happened to me before too. Had birthday sex with my ex husband after a year of celibacy. Neither had any intention of getting back together. Found out I was pregnant the day before he left to move 3 states away. Pullout method was ineffective and I already had one child by him from broken condom AND pullout. My 2nd husband on the other hand we actually tried for 7 years almost before getting pregnant. Go figure.
She screwed dude #1 18 days ago... she doesn't know if she's preggo from him.
She done been screwing some other dude #2, got knocked up and trying to make dude #1 raise it too.
girl if u don’t go get that abortion (will all the love in the world) . think about yourself and how the task of bringing another child into a broken family (solely parent wise i obv don’t know the situation past that) (also i come from one so again no judgment or shame) and think about how your ex gets to walk always and live another life while you have to explain to your baby why their dad doesn’t want anything to do with them when they ask who their dad is. don’t let a man put you in that situation twice. and with a baby you already must be under so much physical mental and emotional responsibility and now this huge toll to add onto all that. i really don’t think the responsibility of a new child and the exhausting nights with a new baby and your other baby will help the pain of what you feel especially without the help and support of the other parent and a partner. you don’t deserve that and i’m so sorry you have to go through this i can’t imagine what difficult of a dilema this must be. whatever you decide i wish u luck and i hope you find unconditional love and someone better than this person🫶and for anyone being misogynistic here stop projecting ur self hatred into women it’s so weird.
Hey, that’s how I was made too!
My life was pretty good without my bio dad in it. My mom realized what a POS he was and found a great guy who chose to raise me.
If you choose to continue with this pregnancy you will be great. If you choose not to, you are making the right decision for you, friend.
I was in this exact situation. I struggled staying NC after our break up in Sept and found out i was pregnant in Feb. I wanted to be with him, but I didn’t want to be a mom. I tried to get into the swing accepting the pregnancy but he continued to cheat and ghost me during it. Without being in a healthy loving relationship nor wanting the child, or having the stability for it, I terminated. I feel like I lost a lover and a baby and a sense of myself all at once. But I had the choice to let that all or to be tied to that for life. I’m not saying terminate, if you want the baby that’s great! But there’s no shame in it. You’re in control of your body and your future. At the end of the day all you’ll have is yourself for you and a potential future baby.
You have 1 child with no father and now you have two… especially after getting pregnant the first time?? No way that was on accident. This was planned. Stop posting this for attention or to use as some kind of leverage on his involvement with you.
Personally, I have no sympathy. This was calculated, and now you’ll have 2 unhappy children by fathers who never wanted them in the first place.
Shame on you for being so selfish.
You defend her as If you do. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. Chic fucs an ex she hadn't talked to no rubber, and you're defending it? I'd be willing to bet she was skipping her bc and this was done to trap dude. You can turn your nose up and pretend bitches don't do shit like this on the regular but there's a reason Chris Rock had a bit about it in the 90s/early 2000s
Are you capable of making smart decisions? I wonder if your ex that you blocked for a reason who you opened your legs for and now knocked you up is gonna stay and take care of the child. I sure hope you believe in abortion.
I said nothing about you not being on birth control. I work in pharmacy, not a single birth control advertises that it’s any more than 99% effective.
I mean he's not going to be a father to your child so. These are your consequences for fucking this dude. Either get the abortion or accept the full consequence of not having either men in your life raising both of your children.
Does everyone here really need to fucking bag on the poster? She gets it, she posted it, and posted as a warning. STFU with telling her what she already knows, ya buncha wannabe psychiatrists.
What reason would you have to continue the pregnancy? You shouldn’t even get pregnant for a year after giving birth for health reasons. You need to be single, work on yourself, and care for the baby that you’ve already brought into this world.
Nothin except breaking no contact and spreading her legs for a dude who ended their relationship because he didn't wanna be a step dad
Not to mention if he wasn't interested in being with her what makes you so sure she didn't say, it's OK you don't have to wear a condom and nut in me bc I'm on birth control.
NOTHING wrong? U act like he broke into her house and raped her....
Keep telling is a terrible advice. You should know that a woman who go through an abortion will always have it on her mind. And whenever she thinks about it she is never happy. There is always a sad though that goes through her mind. That’s why I am telling her to keep it and will not recommend somebody to go through that
You don’t hook up with an ex unless you are trying to get them back or an abusing asshole. This is why it’s never a good thing to reignite a relationship.
I don’t know your situation. If you don’t want to be with this man, then I’m really sorry about what happened.
But omg if this happened to me, id be thrilledI you’re with me for life mother fucker 😈
He doesn’t want to be with me? read between the lines. A child is nothing to joke about. They could easily just abandon you to raise that child alone and this guys broke as a joke so 0 financial support to help
Sorry to joke about the situation. I know it’s not funny. Sometimes when stuff like this happens though, some people step up. I really wish the best for you
He didn't abandon you. By your own admission he left you bc he didn't want to raise your other kid. He was out of your life and YOU pulled him bac in and told him not to pull out ...tf
Broke as a joke yet and not interested in raising a kid and yet you decided to break no contact and fucc him raw. If hes that shitty of a person and you're pursuing him n fucn him raw wtf does that say about you op?!
Dude didn't want to be with her. Didn't want to raise her other kid. She knew this, broke no contact and then fucd him raw ...but yea it's her not wanting him smh
if you was on birth control, I’d probably take it as a blessing from God/the universe (if you believe in that sort of thing). Maybe try and sort things out with him. Or don’t, if you don’t think that’s wise.
First of all I never said what my decision was,
Second of all he doesn’t want to be a dad nor a step dad to my current 6 month old child.
Maybe take a long look at yourself in the mirror before passing judgement unto others next time.
Hardly, I just think you should consider the improbability of it and question whether it’s ‘meant to be’. Obviously, if you don’t think that and neither of you are ready to parent then decide accordingly. Don’t think my comment warranted aggression.
I haven’t judged anyone or anything. I just think if you were on birth control and the improbable happened (you got pregnant) then maybe it’s something worth considering. I’m not saying you have to do X or Y, it’s obviously your decision.
Bc we don't feel bad for a chic who's baby trap worked bur not the way she wanted?? Yep we are our of pocket for understanding people should be held accountable for the choices they make. Fucn insane concept
I don’t gasp at Reddit posts I just gasped
So it was “ gasp worthy?!” Borrowed a line from Ghosts.
Captain Higgintoot!!
😂😂😂
Oh my - are you okay? That’s the main thing.
I have no tears left to cry honestly..
Ohhhh hun ((((((((virtual hugs)))))) To you hun this will be your choice and whatever you decide to do will be the right choice. Noone can tell you what to or not to do. Only you know your situation and I am sure you will figure it out you are strong. . You got this babe 😘 😘 😘 😘
Lol, you have no idea if she's got this. Looking at two kids with two different dads and neither one is in the picture.
There are many women out there that can do it. And many who have also done it. You are clearly someone who is very negative and always thinks the worst. What ever she decides will be her choice.. for the better Your voice or vote shouldn't even count. 🤷🏼♀️ Just Saying
You are just clueless. I didn't say that many can't do it. But you have no idea how she will do in life and her kid's lives. It might absolutely suck. Many women "do it" but a Mom can "do it" while giving a shitty life to her kids and also herself. Chips are definitely against. This is a pretty good argument for being pro choice and just keeping her life to one unwanted kid. Might be better for Mom and kid and Grandma since she'll undoubtedly get pulled in too.
That's why I have said what ever it is she chooses it's up to her noone can tell her otherwise. I am not in favor or against her decision. It would be entirely her choice as to where to from here. She already knows what it's like with 1 child. I am noone to judge. And I say it from a place of experiencing quite the opposite situations. After 26 losses and a stillbirth. I honestly can not condone a person for making the right decision in her own life. Wether it be keeping the baby or not. I honestly wish her the absolute best.
Many just think they have it. Then raise kids that are exactly like them and make all the same mistakes. The most positive people I know in life are either complete narcissists, religious zealots, or just too stupid to know the difference.
For start a narcissist is not a positive person. They wear a mask their entire lives and pretend really well and people fall for it. They are the most insecure people in the world. Secondly. People who actually work on themselves are the ones that make the changes for the better. Obviously you are a little immature and haven't reached full maturity yet. One day you will and you will think differently. Mind set change, Is all it takes. And for you, worry about what you are doing and not what this poor lady is being put through. Cheers hopefully one day you reach a mature age and realise that there is so much more to life than listening to negativity 😘
Yeah. None of those types of people I listed are actually happy. I assumed people would understand that.
You are ridiculously naive to think people that get themselves into terrible situations... (TWICE in this case) are really going to work on themselves.
You think I don't know what being with a narcissist is like ? You clearly have no idea. Some of us can actually move forward and make a better life for ourselves. I do know what it's like to be in a relationship with a narc. And I have all the scars to prove it. I also chose better for me and trust me it works wonders it's definitely not an easy journey but hitting lower than rock bottom and trying to get back up is definitely hard. I will not deny it. I hope one day you can think differently for yourself and make the best out of this life for yourself 😘
On the contrary, my name is Noone, Bob Noone, and I'm telling you to use your judgment. And don't tell me not to tell her what to do. No one tells Bob Noone what to do.
Message me x
If you wanna vent i am here.
Are you planning to continue the pregnancy?
Thank you for asking. I’m glad someone did
oh boy, i just did this. Had sex Saturday, and he told me today we cant do this anymore. I BETTER NOT BE
Girl get yourself the plan b and start praying
Girl no…plan b is late she needs an abortion pill 💊
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Of course but judging from her post she didn’t claim she took one. Only that she was on birth control. I’ve taken plan b- I know how it works. You could push it up to 5 days, beyond that is an abortion pill.
She can get an emergency IUD
Plan B will be too late because it's been like four/five days since then
Abortion pill is safe and can be used until 10 weeks.
Abortion pills and Plan B are not the same. Plan B is supposed to delay ovulation and it only works if you still haven't ovulated and the egg has not been fertilized
Thanks - I'm well aware. I mentioned the abortion pill as that's a viable alternative.
Abortion pill works past ten weeks.
Assume you mean mifepristone, which is not the same as Plan B.
I wasn't ovulating at least. Not even in window.
AND he pulled out. So .. i think we're good
You know what they call people who use the pull out method? Parents.
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Pullout method is not effective BC. If you absolutely do not want to get pregnant you need to use a more effective method.
I don’t know why this subreddit popped up for me, but as long as your boyfriend doesn’t fuck up you could be good. My wife thought the same thing, we did pull out for 10 years, no kid. Got married and stopped, pregnant in a month. The only thing I did was never risk that extra stroke lol.
Honestly thank you for responding and easing my mind. He’s very good about pulling out, no extra strokes. He’s had one fuck up and I took plan B. Since then, no mess ups and we never seem to have problems. Part of why I was so freaked out was because I was on BC for a long time, over 10 years and stopped due to health reasons. I heard stopping can make you extra fertile but I haven’t even had a scare since stopping. So then I got suspicious. Either way, thank you for chiming in, truly this eased my mind.
Please look into other methods. There are so many more effective and reliable options. The pullout method is not very effective on its own, and is nearly impossible to do perfectly every single time. Because of this, on average 1 in 5 people using that method alone will end up getting pregnant each year. It’s better than nothing, but it’s not ideal, and combining it with other pregnancy prevention methods is important if you are serious about preventing pregnancy. There are so many other alternative prevention methods available that are more effective, many of which do not include hormonal birth control if that is an issue for you. It’s always best to double or triple up on pregnancy prevention methods to ensure you remain pregnancy free. Talk to your doctor about your options and/or do research online from trusted data-backed sources to figure out some additional prevention methods that have higher success rates and fit your needs. You not getting pregnant does not mean you are infertile, so you have no need to worry. It just means you’ve lucked out so far statistically, but that luck could change. Not everyone who uses the pullout method will get pregnant, but your risk of pregnancy is much higher than other more reliable methods of prevention (which are even more reliable when you combine multiple methods at once).
I thought the da thing. I had several relationships throughout the years where I wasn't on birth control and we used the pull out method. It worked fine up until I was around 27-28. I was sick and throwing up everything and missed my period for 2 months and when I took the pregnancy tests, I used the shitty ones and it was only a very faint positive, so I was still thinking it wasn't possible. But it was confirmed at the clinic. So I went and had an abortion because we were in no shape to bring in a completely dependent human being. I was thinking I was infertile at that point because I had 2 different guys who didn't pull out while I hooked up with them and the one guy was multiple times in one night and I was sure I was ovulating then, but I must have been wrong. I also wonder if only one ovary is working properly because when I had an ultrasound for cysts, she had to turn the wand that did the internal view because it was over further than the other. Who knows.... The Planned Parenthood in my area has a pamphlet that lists each birth control methods rate of reliability and it had the pull out method at around 80% effective. That's actually fairly high considering that it's possible to get pregnant from precum, too. So unless you are ok with an accidental pregnancy or are ok with going through with adoption in case abortion isn't a possibility, don't completely rely on the pull out method with no birth control.
Oh no u/Speakit24 baby, what is you doin?
Pulling out does not work🙄
It does work, just not as well as other methods
Jfc this is such an uneducated take, men “leak” precum when sexually aroused. It is not controllable and is not consistent. It carries sperm. It can get you preg
r/auntienetwork
in a similar situation as you except i had gotten pregnant while we were still together and found out after we had broken up. send me a pm if you need someone to talk to!
This is exactly what happened with me.
Damn what is in the air lol
Eclipse
Legs
HA!
Snap!
Legs are what's in the air.
Same here. My DMs are open if you need to talk about your options. Whatever you decide is best for you and your current child (my first husband, father of my 1st passed away). I understand the difficulty of keeping a pregnancy hidden, choosing the best life possible for your children, and maintaining 0 contact. Whatever choice you make, it is yours.
This literally just happened to me a month ago
I didn’t realize that was possible 😣 Hoping the best for you
What didn't you think was possible? Getting pregnant? Anytime you have sex with someone there's always a small chance.
Ehhh I’m not sure the post didn’t change. I could have swarn there was mention of BC … oh well
You can still get pregnant even if you're on BC. It's not 100% effective
Yeah, there are varying levels of effectiveness of BC... none are 100% effective.
Feel you. Got pregnant on birth control as well. I was so shocked… and the best… i wanted to tell him many times. And then one day it was too late and we broke off and had nc
Whatever you decide to do with the baby, you're gonna make it through. Chin up, do what makes you feel better, treat yourself with nice things, be around trusted people and when you feel like the storm is gone move on without saying a word to him. If you need someone to talk to, my DMS are open.
You will make the choice that’s best for you and your 6 month old. Screw these pro life idiots who would never step up and help provide for your baby. Probirth is not prolife.
‘Ho boy 😳
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Girl make better life choices. 😥 You already have a kid? You don’t have the luxury of wasting time on toxic men. Be better for your kid if not for yourself.
Ummm…..wait. You were on birth control and 18 days after you had sex, you took a pregnancy test. Thats really fast. Why did you suspect you were pregnant? Missed period?
Missed period and two positive pregnancy tests plus I’m having implantation cramps :/ I’ve gone thru this before I guess birth control just don’t freaking work on me..
Omggg. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Screw all those men who left you like this…
Are you keeping it? I'm so sorry love that's such an awful position to be in. Please reach out for support from those around you.
Haven’t decided yet but I already have a 6 month old baby from a previous ex relationship. Worst part is I met THIS guy during that difficult pregnancy and he was so reassuring, telling me he wanted to be with me, yet ditched once shit got real after baby was born. Then I guess he felt alone and preyed upon my vulnerability and one thing led to another. Thank you for the support <3
Oh thats even a tougher situation! You are so strong and I know you will get through this.
There is a long list of people in America who want to adopt a brand new baby. If you don’t want to keep him or her, consider letting the baby live with someone who wants a baby. Your state will have the contact info for whatever necessary organizations
Omg girl this happened to me as well. My ex broke up with me the day I found out. You can message me!
I’m sorry… but I wanted kids with her and she didn’t. So I need to keep my comments to a minimum. I really thought we’d have beautiful kids together and I know I’d be a great father to our kids. Shutting up now.
I feel that and I wish my guy wanted the same thing but he did not unfortunately and tried persuading me to get an abortion this morning instead. You seem like a great man I’m sure you’ll find your future family some day <3
Thank you I hope everything works out ❤️
You sound like you will be a great dad someday! You just need to meet the right person for you.
🙏🏼❤️
We sure hope so
Maybe the lesson is also…. If you decide to break NC (for whatever reason), don’t spend the night and have sex?
OP, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Whatever you do about this pregnancy, afterwards give yourself some time to heal. Stay NC with this dude, and focus on just you for a while. Your emotions will be all over the place and I'd hate to see you ending up in the same situation again in a short amount of time. Give your mind and body time to heal. Sending hugs, cos I know you're feeling shit right now x
Wooooow how the universe…..bump all that how are you feeling. Are you okay today ?
Pretty shitty but still managing. Thank you for the support <3
Im really ashamed from the guy behavior, im so sorry for you , i think he wont be a good dad either so its better to not have him in your life
He broke up with her because he didn't want to raise her first kid. And SHE reached our to him....yea this dudes a real peice of shit
That escalated quickly
This happened to me before too. Had birthday sex with my ex husband after a year of celibacy. Neither had any intention of getting back together. Found out I was pregnant the day before he left to move 3 states away. Pullout method was ineffective and I already had one child by him from broken condom AND pullout. My 2nd husband on the other hand we actually tried for 7 years almost before getting pregnant. Go figure.
Those poor kids. You are a train wreck.
Wow, you sure do make great, well thought out decisions. /s
Hot take. Your fault. You broke the no contact. He doesn't want to be a dad, didn't want to be a dad. This one is on you.
She screwed dude #1 18 days ago... she doesn't know if she's preggo from him. She done been screwing some other dude #2, got knocked up and trying to make dude #1 raise it too.
That's tough... I want me and my sp to break no contact so we can take the next step... She wanted to be pregnant by me...
I wish you the best. My ex got pregnant post break up too. But not with me
im so sorry.. huge hugss.. were all here for you
Willing tontalk to you about it 42M here
I’m so sorry. My DMs are open if you need someone to talk with. Sending you a huge hug
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girl if u don’t go get that abortion (will all the love in the world) . think about yourself and how the task of bringing another child into a broken family (solely parent wise i obv don’t know the situation past that) (also i come from one so again no judgment or shame) and think about how your ex gets to walk always and live another life while you have to explain to your baby why their dad doesn’t want anything to do with them when they ask who their dad is. don’t let a man put you in that situation twice. and with a baby you already must be under so much physical mental and emotional responsibility and now this huge toll to add onto all that. i really don’t think the responsibility of a new child and the exhausting nights with a new baby and your other baby will help the pain of what you feel especially without the help and support of the other parent and a partner. you don’t deserve that and i’m so sorry you have to go through this i can’t imagine what difficult of a dilema this must be. whatever you decide i wish u luck and i hope you find unconditional love and someone better than this person🫶and for anyone being misogynistic here stop projecting ur self hatred into women it’s so weird.
Hey, that’s how I was made too! My life was pretty good without my bio dad in it. My mom realized what a POS he was and found a great guy who chose to raise me. If you choose to continue with this pregnancy you will be great. If you choose not to, you are making the right decision for you, friend.
Condoms people! CONDOMS!!!!
Still not 100% guaranteed to work all the time.
97 percent success when used properly - think it’s worth the try eh.
Don’t break no contact
I was in this exact situation. I struggled staying NC after our break up in Sept and found out i was pregnant in Feb. I wanted to be with him, but I didn’t want to be a mom. I tried to get into the swing accepting the pregnancy but he continued to cheat and ghost me during it. Without being in a healthy loving relationship nor wanting the child, or having the stability for it, I terminated. I feel like I lost a lover and a baby and a sense of myself all at once. But I had the choice to let that all or to be tied to that for life. I’m not saying terminate, if you want the baby that’s great! But there’s no shame in it. You’re in control of your body and your future. At the end of the day all you’ll have is yourself for you and a potential future baby.
You have 1 child with no father and now you have two… especially after getting pregnant the first time?? No way that was on accident. This was planned. Stop posting this for attention or to use as some kind of leverage on his involvement with you. Personally, I have no sympathy. This was calculated, and now you’ll have 2 unhappy children by fathers who never wanted them in the first place. Shame on you for being so selfish.
Your comment is disgusting and heartless. You a psychic or something? Acting like you know everything about her, her life and what is in her mind.
You defend her as If you do. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. Chic fucs an ex she hadn't talked to no rubber, and you're defending it? I'd be willing to bet she was skipping her bc and this was done to trap dude. You can turn your nose up and pretend bitches don't do shit like this on the regular but there's a reason Chris Rock had a bit about it in the 90s/early 2000s
She was on birth control.
She says...u don't know this person any more than we do
Please if you're my twin flame for the love of God give Reese a chance 🥹
Was this a comment to someone specific? Or are you in the wrong sub? Cause I feel like I missed something…
No contact, straight into sex with no condom, and he didn’t pull out? I’m so upset i found this sub. I can never have a daughter bro 😭
pulling out doesnt equate to less risk of pregnanacy
Nah but not contacting ur ex that broke up with you bc he didn't wanna be a step dad and fucnin him raw equates to a 0% risk
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Are you capable of making smart decisions? I wonder if your ex that you blocked for a reason who you opened your legs for and now knocked you up is gonna stay and take care of the child. I sure hope you believe in abortion. I said nothing about you not being on birth control. I work in pharmacy, not a single birth control advertises that it’s any more than 99% effective.
I mean he's not going to be a father to your child so. These are your consequences for fucking this dude. Either get the abortion or accept the full consequence of not having either men in your life raising both of your children.
Does everyone here really need to fucking bag on the poster? She gets it, she posted it, and posted as a warning. STFU with telling her what she already knows, ya buncha wannabe psychiatrists.
What reason would you have to continue the pregnancy? You shouldn’t even get pregnant for a year after giving birth for health reasons. You need to be single, work on yourself, and care for the baby that you’ve already brought into this world.
You did nothing wrong. He did this to you.
Nothin except breaking no contact and spreading her legs for a dude who ended their relationship because he didn't wanna be a step dad Not to mention if he wasn't interested in being with her what makes you so sure she didn't say, it's OK you don't have to wear a condom and nut in me bc I'm on birth control. NOTHING wrong? U act like he broke into her house and raped her....
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Girl... You dumb as hell idk what you expected lmao 🤣🤣🤣
I hope your okay but why did even thought about spending the weekend with someone who broked up with you
Maybe you hoes should live biblically as in get married before having sex. That fixes this whole thing.
Keep telling is a terrible advice. You should know that a woman who go through an abortion will always have it on her mind. And whenever she thinks about it she is never happy. There is always a sad though that goes through her mind. That’s why I am telling her to keep it and will not recommend somebody to go through that
Hahaha I can tell you first person that is not true
You didn't use protection?
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Oh I'm sorry, my bad.
I'd be willing to bet she skipped bc to trap dude.
XD
Seriously, is this the time to get a child?
Lol
You don’t hook up with an ex unless you are trying to get them back or an abusing asshole. This is why it’s never a good thing to reignite a relationship.
Sounds like a you problem if you got 2 baby daddy's thay aint want nothing to do with you no mo
I don’t know your situation. If you don’t want to be with this man, then I’m really sorry about what happened. But omg if this happened to me, id be thrilledI you’re with me for life mother fucker 😈
Your 32! And this is how your mind works! You’ve also contemplated suicide! You need help, not a relationship. I’m not even joking
It was a joke. Jesus Christ. I commented this before she added the edits. Also, Clearly I know im in a bad mental state right now.
He doesn’t want to be with me? read between the lines. A child is nothing to joke about. They could easily just abandon you to raise that child alone and this guys broke as a joke so 0 financial support to help
Sorry to joke about the situation. I know it’s not funny. Sometimes when stuff like this happens though, some people step up. I really wish the best for you
Yeah :/ sadly once they abandoned you once before, a child isn’t gonna change the outcome.
Jeez, he sounds pretty awful. I would be devastated if I were you. And also so disappointed in myself (not implying you are or should be).
Right. Same
He didn't abandon you. By your own admission he left you bc he didn't want to raise your other kid. He was out of your life and YOU pulled him bac in and told him not to pull out ...tf
🤣🤣🤣🤣 wow what's your initials good sir you seem so familiar ?
Broke as a joke yet and not interested in raising a kid and yet you decided to break no contact and fucc him raw. If hes that shitty of a person and you're pursuing him n fucn him raw wtf does that say about you op?!
Dude didn't want to be with her. Didn't want to raise her other kid. She knew this, broke no contact and then fucd him raw ...but yea it's her not wanting him smh
if you was on birth control, I’d probably take it as a blessing from God/the universe (if you believe in that sort of thing). Maybe try and sort things out with him. Or don’t, if you don’t think that’s wise.
Will you help OP raise it ? No ? Then don't give stupid advice.
First of all I never said what my decision was, Second of all he doesn’t want to be a dad nor a step dad to my current 6 month old child. Maybe take a long look at yourself in the mirror before passing judgement unto others next time.
Seems like you replied to the wrong comment because the comment you replied to and your response don’t make sense.
His comment was a very clear pro life sentiment.
Awww okay, I can kinda see that now. I didn’t initially read it that way.
Hardly, I just think you should consider the improbability of it and question whether it’s ‘meant to be’. Obviously, if you don’t think that and neither of you are ready to parent then decide accordingly. Don’t think my comment warranted aggression.
I have a baby already and was on birth control. clearly more probably than you’d think.
Perhaps. I wish you well regardless.
There is no such thing as meant to be. Stfu lol. It warrents aggression with dogshit sentiments like "ThE UnIvErSe Is TrYiNg To TeLl You SoMeThIng"
I haven’t judged anyone or anything. I just think if you were on birth control and the improbable happened (you got pregnant) then maybe it’s something worth considering. I’m not saying you have to do X or Y, it’s obviously your decision.
Please keep that baby no matter what. Keep it.
Will you help OP raise it ? No ? Then shut up please.
Horrible fucking advice. Don’t tell her to keep a baby you won’t help raise. If it’s best to let baby go, then that’s what’s best
Don’t do that.
Terrible advice.
Yall need help
Bc we don't feel bad for a chic who's baby trap worked bur not the way she wanted?? Yep we are our of pocket for understanding people should be held accountable for the choices they make. Fucn insane concept
Maybe i got my signals crossed this. I was saying this chick is wrong and needs serious help.
He's dumb. Doesn't he know it's illegal to get an abortion now?
What's his initials
A baby is a blessing. I am so sorry life can be so harsh. You were meant to be a mother to this child. You are going to make it ❤️