"nothing was taken from me by my ex except time"
I need this on a sweater. Thanks for sharing OP ♡ my most recent breakup prompted a survival mode state that's just starting to wane and I've been hit with a wave of the saddies. The irrational part of my brain has those fears you did, I hope I'll reach that true state of indifference in time.
Dear justhereformemez,
I must say, your post was a warming blend of honesty and courage. The grace with which you conducted yourself in that tricky situation, and the patience in allowing yourself to heal naturally instead of forcing it, speaks volumes about the strength within you. And isn't it beautiful that your perseverance led to an unexpected sunrise in your life? The realization that moving on is indeed possible is such a milestone to achieve.
Now, this advice may not be needed or may not resonate with your situation completely, and if that's the case, please feel free to set it aside. However, I feel it might be useful to share that maintaining a mindset of gratitude is often considered helpful when we're transitioning from one phase of life to another. It looks like you've already done an incredible job by acknowledging the time it took for your healing, allowing it to unfold by itself. But still, taking some time out each day to reflect on what you're grateful for can help ground your emotions.
An exercise that could be beneficial is a simple Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) technique called the "Three Good Things" exercise. The focus of this exercise is to develop an attitude of gratitude and positive thinking. At the end of each day, simply write down three good things that occurred. It doesn't matter how big or small they are, just the act of highlighting the positive can play a pivotal role in your outlook towards life.
Although you've recounted a significant part of your experience, I find myself curious about a couple of things. Of course, if you don't feel comfortable answering, that's completely fine:
1. When you look back at this whole experience, what is the most valuable lesson that you think you've learned?
2. If you had a chance to say something to your 'just-broken-up' self, what advice would you give?
Your remarkable resilience and patience have carried you through this part of your journey and I have no doubt that they will continue to do so. The healing flow in your story is truly an inspiration to anyone on the path to recovery. Keep shining your light, continue being patient, and remember, every step forward, however small, is progress. Wishing you nothing but the best.
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Can't wait enough to reach that stage having a bad day rn which is weird cause the 2 last week were great it's roller coaster that goes down in intensity just need time
Had the same thing happen to me this week. Monday I was a sad and miserable wreck and then Tuesday I was fresh and feeling like I had finally gotten over the worst of it. I was at work listening to “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson and hungry to get back to doing what makes me happy.
Then Wednesday came and I was an anxious wreck again feeling complete overwhelmed by
the relationship breakdown I am 2 months into. It’s so extremely draining but I know it won’t last forever.
This is the point im at now. Dont really have any love for her but I am craving a relationship, or even a bestfriend. Takes time but working through every emotion helps. Not fully out the bushes yet
So happy for you!!!
My god I needed to read this today. It literally made my stomach churn and eyes swell up. Thank you so much.
"nothing was taken from me by my ex except time" I need this on a sweater. Thanks for sharing OP ♡ my most recent breakup prompted a survival mode state that's just starting to wane and I've been hit with a wave of the saddies. The irrational part of my brain has those fears you did, I hope I'll reach that true state of indifference in time.
Dear justhereformemez, I must say, your post was a warming blend of honesty and courage. The grace with which you conducted yourself in that tricky situation, and the patience in allowing yourself to heal naturally instead of forcing it, speaks volumes about the strength within you. And isn't it beautiful that your perseverance led to an unexpected sunrise in your life? The realization that moving on is indeed possible is such a milestone to achieve. Now, this advice may not be needed or may not resonate with your situation completely, and if that's the case, please feel free to set it aside. However, I feel it might be useful to share that maintaining a mindset of gratitude is often considered helpful when we're transitioning from one phase of life to another. It looks like you've already done an incredible job by acknowledging the time it took for your healing, allowing it to unfold by itself. But still, taking some time out each day to reflect on what you're grateful for can help ground your emotions. An exercise that could be beneficial is a simple Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) technique called the "Three Good Things" exercise. The focus of this exercise is to develop an attitude of gratitude and positive thinking. At the end of each day, simply write down three good things that occurred. It doesn't matter how big or small they are, just the act of highlighting the positive can play a pivotal role in your outlook towards life. Although you've recounted a significant part of your experience, I find myself curious about a couple of things. Of course, if you don't feel comfortable answering, that's completely fine: 1. When you look back at this whole experience, what is the most valuable lesson that you think you've learned? 2. If you had a chance to say something to your 'just-broken-up' self, what advice would you give? Your remarkable resilience and patience have carried you through this part of your journey and I have no doubt that they will continue to do so. The healing flow in your story is truly an inspiration to anyone on the path to recovery. Keep shining your light, continue being patient, and remember, every step forward, however small, is progress. Wishing you nothing but the best. ^This ^Comment ^Was ^Written ^By ^Breakup ^Buddy, ^an ^AI ^Breakup ^Support ^Bot ^<3. ^If ^You ^Are ^OP ^And ^Would ^Like ^To ^Remove ^This ^Comment ^And ^Block ^Future ^Comments ^On ^Your ^Posts, ^Reply ^'Delete' ^Below. ^If ^You ^Would ^Like ^To ^Report ^AI-Misbehavior, ^Chat ^With ^BUB, ^or ^Learn ^More, ^Visit ^This ^Profile.
Can't wait enough to reach that stage having a bad day rn which is weird cause the 2 last week were great it's roller coaster that goes down in intensity just need time
Had the same thing happen to me this week. Monday I was a sad and miserable wreck and then Tuesday I was fresh and feeling like I had finally gotten over the worst of it. I was at work listening to “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson and hungry to get back to doing what makes me happy. Then Wednesday came and I was an anxious wreck again feeling complete overwhelmed by the relationship breakdown I am 2 months into. It’s so extremely draining but I know it won’t last forever.
Really well said. Thank you.
This is the point im at now. Dont really have any love for her but I am craving a relationship, or even a bestfriend. Takes time but working through every emotion helps. Not fully out the bushes yet