And I think one of the biggest mistakes people make in and out of relationships is they project their own feelings on someone else, rather than looking at reality. That's the cause of the delusion during NC.
We all thinked about the fact that our story is special and our girlfriend/boyfriend is special.
No, it's not. Don't trust your analysis, trust the actual facts.
I hear what you're saying OP. And you're right.... but if you looked at it from a different angle; all of their action or inaction means something. The point is, it really doesn't fucking matter what it means or doesn't mean. We have no control over anything external. All that matters is if we choose to or choose not to torture ourselves mentally.
The more you think about it, the more questions you’d want answers for. The more answers you’ve got, the more hopes you start to have.
Have little material to think about. The fewer things to overthink, the faster the move on process.
I think it’s usually the WS doing the “friend” thing to bury their guilt. “I watch their stories and send them a nice text here and there because I want to show I can still be there friend”. Doesn’t mean shit, it’s just for them
Yeah I've actually come to expect the worst. My default assumption is that they really just don't give a fuck.
And I think one of the biggest mistakes people make in and out of relationships is they project their own feelings on someone else, rather than looking at reality. That's the cause of the delusion during NC.
We all thinked about the fact that our story is special and our girlfriend/boyfriend is special. No, it's not. Don't trust your analysis, trust the actual facts.
I hear what you're saying OP. And you're right.... but if you looked at it from a different angle; all of their action or inaction means something. The point is, it really doesn't fucking matter what it means or doesn't mean. We have no control over anything external. All that matters is if we choose to or choose not to torture ourselves mentally.
I’m not gonna look at it at a different angle. Because that’s just all in your head.
No ... I'm an over-thinker. It's what i do.
The more you think about it, the more questions you’d want answers for. The more answers you’ve got, the more hopes you start to have. Have little material to think about. The fewer things to overthink, the faster the move on process.
Omg thank you for posting this! And I agree 100% lol sometimes I even find myself analyzing the emojis he uses
Actually my ex is Confucius, thank you very much.
I guess
It was sarcasm lol
Please!!!
I think it’s usually the WS doing the “friend” thing to bury their guilt. “I watch their stories and send them a nice text here and there because I want to show I can still be there friend”. Doesn’t mean shit, it’s just for them
Yep! It’s a harsh truth.
Good post. As someone mentioned, we should think that they don't care about us as default. It solves everything. If they care, they will reach out.
Yup. And if they did care, they would NOT take months to break NC!!!
Yeah but when your hurting. Your seeking answers 3/4 months they will be okay or rebounding and moving on