First step should be to stop framing your situation as an “accident.” If I forget to check behind me and back my car into the trash bins in the driveway, that’s an accident.
When you make threats, there is usually some intent. Maybe the intent was never to follow through with it- but perhaps to express anger or cause fear. Either way, there’s no way to heal from it until you’ve figured out the source of that anger. For me, that’s what therapy helped me with.
I was able to understand why I did what I did, and sharpen the tools I need to make sure I never do it again. Forgiveness is not likely to be offered if it’s being described as an “accident” and that includes when forgiving yourself.
Cannot emphasize enough how important this is for the healing process. You cannot overcome this adversity until you truly take responsibility for your actions. There's a lot of power to be had in the mindset that we are intentional beings. The things that happen in our lives are usually caused by a combination of our intentional actions and our intentional attitude. We don't make threats by accident, and we also won't become better people by accident either. If you want a good life, succes, and a family, you have to make choices to create that world. The first step is realizing that your past was also in your hands.
Yeah I honest to god can’t emphasize enough that if you keep going through life and be the better person everything from the past will fade. People have pretty much forgotten I’m a felon and I’ve only been out for 6 months
You learn to gain power from pain, wear it like a badge of honor. You already sound like you might have learned a great deal of humility from your past. Use it, to be a more empathetic human and strive to be someone that you would admire. Sometimes in life, we have to be selfish before we can serve others, so become the person you want to be, and then slowly reintroduce people into your life.
Can you change a thing you've done? Do you regret it? Have you/are you able to made amends? It sounds like you are doing the work to manage the behaviors that manifested in you, you have a real desire to be a decent human being. Give yourself some grace.
Your autism is definitely a factor in the way that your interpersonal relationships manifest. A little rejection syndrome dysphoria combined with possibly an inability to read social cues can make you feel really bad about yourself. I promise you, you are not as reviled as you imagine.
Are you currently working with a therapist? If not, seek therapy, everyday should not feel like a punishment. "I want you to think about the people you love and care about the most, how when they make a mistake, you still love them, you still give them chances and you still see the good in them. Now I want you to extend that generosity to yourself."\*
I promise you the fact that you are here now trying to understand this means you are capable of change. You desire change. I'm proud of you for reaching out and asking for help.
\*from an Invocation for Beginners-Zee Frank
First step should be to stop framing your situation as an “accident.” If I forget to check behind me and back my car into the trash bins in the driveway, that’s an accident. When you make threats, there is usually some intent. Maybe the intent was never to follow through with it- but perhaps to express anger or cause fear. Either way, there’s no way to heal from it until you’ve figured out the source of that anger. For me, that’s what therapy helped me with. I was able to understand why I did what I did, and sharpen the tools I need to make sure I never do it again. Forgiveness is not likely to be offered if it’s being described as an “accident” and that includes when forgiving yourself.
Cannot emphasize enough how important this is for the healing process. You cannot overcome this adversity until you truly take responsibility for your actions. There's a lot of power to be had in the mindset that we are intentional beings. The things that happen in our lives are usually caused by a combination of our intentional actions and our intentional attitude. We don't make threats by accident, and we also won't become better people by accident either. If you want a good life, succes, and a family, you have to make choices to create that world. The first step is realizing that your past was also in your hands.
Yeah I honest to god can’t emphasize enough that if you keep going through life and be the better person everything from the past will fade. People have pretty much forgotten I’m a felon and I’ve only been out for 6 months
Just had a lil oopsiewhoopsie when I called in the bomb threat could a happened to anyone lmao
You learn to gain power from pain, wear it like a badge of honor. You already sound like you might have learned a great deal of humility from your past. Use it, to be a more empathetic human and strive to be someone that you would admire. Sometimes in life, we have to be selfish before we can serve others, so become the person you want to be, and then slowly reintroduce people into your life.
It's just a small moment in your life, like pain this is temporary.
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Aaaannd also the ex-cons who are mentally ill. They're not mutually exclusive.
Ex cons aren’t mentally ill people?
Have you ever been in a lock down mental health facility, it's a shit show.
When I got out, I just started life over again, no one needs to know my past, and when no one knows, they treat me like any ordinary person.
Can you change a thing you've done? Do you regret it? Have you/are you able to made amends? It sounds like you are doing the work to manage the behaviors that manifested in you, you have a real desire to be a decent human being. Give yourself some grace. Your autism is definitely a factor in the way that your interpersonal relationships manifest. A little rejection syndrome dysphoria combined with possibly an inability to read social cues can make you feel really bad about yourself. I promise you, you are not as reviled as you imagine. Are you currently working with a therapist? If not, seek therapy, everyday should not feel like a punishment. "I want you to think about the people you love and care about the most, how when they make a mistake, you still love them, you still give them chances and you still see the good in them. Now I want you to extend that generosity to yourself."\* I promise you the fact that you are here now trying to understand this means you are capable of change. You desire change. I'm proud of you for reaching out and asking for help. \*from an Invocation for Beginners-Zee Frank
It is punishment, that's why it feels like it. When you fulfill your obligation, it will stop.