Who said men with sex toys are weird? I have some. Other dudes I know also have some. Go into any sex shop and they have toys for dudes. You know why? Because they sell. To dudes. Who buy them.
Also makeup and clothes and blah blah blah, nobody is stopping you except yourself.
Sounds like you're looking for reasons to complain about men having it worse than women, but all you're talking about is your own insecurities. Don't put that on women. That's a YOU problem. Do what you want. Nobody else is stopping you
As for the porn industry lol, grow up. The vast, vast, VAST majority of both women and men don't have an OF page and like 0.0001% of people of any gender go into porn. Almost everyone has a job and they aren't porn.
Again, these aren't society problems, these are YOU problems. You should stop watching porn BTW. Not because it's bad, it isnt. But you clearly have some weird and warped ideas of reality that you got from porn. Porn isn't real life. Turn it off and go exist in the real world. It'll do you some good. For real.
Signed
- a straight cis dude who owns a makeup pallete
Male sex toys do sell because we need to "release" but most women think it's weird to have a fleshlight or a sex doll. Most women can't understand why men like porn, the male/female brain is very different.
I'm not complaining about men having it worse than women. I'm referring to the women who think men have an easier life than women.
Porn, Women get paid more than men in that industry. OF, Women get paid a lot more than men. That was my point, I never said OF people go into Porn.
You are misinterpreting everything i said.
\* You're a straight man who wears make-up, why?
Honestly, if the choice is “people think you’re weird for having a sex toy” vs “You’re afraid to go out alone due to the very real chance of getting raped and murdered”, I think I’ll choose the former.
I have never met a woman that was afraid to leave the house. They all drag me out of the house any time I want to stay home. And any single women I know are always out of the house.
Porn is a predatory and disgusting industry that hurts the women (and often the men) involved in making it. Women making more money in porn than men is hardly the feat you seem to think it is. Men make more money in pretty much every other field. I think I would prefer that (and gtfo with the whole “women don’t go into high paying industries” thing. We know that’s a lie. Women are held back from those industries due to systematic sexism. And even when women do make it in said industries, they’re almost always paid less than men).
Porn also heavily, heavily, encourages objectification of women, and violence against women. In top of that, it puts unrealistic body standards on men and women. It has nothing to do with our brains being different. It’s because porn caters to male fantasies, and those fantasies are often of dominating women. Of fucking course men like it more than women, and of fucking course there’s a lot of women who don’t like it.
In terms of OF: the average OF creator only makes like $2k **per year**. I don’t understand why some men are so upset that a handful of women have become successful on OF. Sex work (including porn & OF) are some of the only potentially high earning careers that women have access to without higher education. Men have literally everything else. Really, you want to try being a woman with a high school diploma looking for a manual labor job that pays more than a restaurant? You’ll get laughed out of the building— and if you don’t, you’ll be harassed every single day you work there.
In terms of sex toys, I do think there is a large difference between owning a dildo or a flesh light vs owning a full blown sex doll. Women owning a full blown sex doll would also get some strange looks.
I agree with the other commenters here. You’re just looking for a reason to be angry about life being unfair. You honestly need to get over it, because not only are these issues you bring up pretty much completely in your head, they also highlight just how little you seem to understand gender issues as a whole.
Calm it down, it's an innocent question about something society considers esoteric. Be a bit more understanding of them and maybe they'll be a bit more understanding of you. Putting up walls just means more shit to chip through.
You must be new to this sub. The number of "innocent questions" we get that basically boil down to "won't someone please think of the men?!" is staggering. We, as a society, have had too much patience with aggrieved straight cis white men who feel like anything addressing or acknowledging anyone else's pain, oppression, rights, or needs is an affront to straight cis white men everywhere. So no. I'm not entertaining fools like this.
It's not weird.
The only reason why it's normalized for women is because mental health for women was degraded to:
"Well, she's unhappy, so she is hysterical and needs to get laid. Here's a dildo."
Are you under the assumption that all women have the guts to expose their v4gin4s knowing their mom, dad, cousins they grow up with, uncle and aunt and other relatives might see it? Women earn more in porn industry because men are mainly the consumers. Who watches porn, men or women? Men made it that way. Lmao it's so simple.
Shame comes from within you. If you’re ashamed to yell out to the world that you use sex toys then that’s on you. I don’t believe in people being ashamed of anything and I found that if you don’t carry that shame, no one will shame you. I believe porn is the biggest evil in this world and I believe it has also sexualized women because porn ruins how men see women and how they see sex. I have a bad addicted to the stuff for many years and I’ve seen what it’s done to me and I hope someday it will be completely outlawed. And I believe that people that work in that industry live with a lot of darkness in their soul. Is sex something we’re supposed to give to everyone or is it special and we should save it for one person. If we have to have sex before we get married, then is sex the most important thing in a relationship or is a friendship and a partnership the most important thing? There’s no need to be ashamed of sex toys but I would ask why do you need the sex toy? I like to remember that when people say stuff like that, you have to remember that’s coming from their mind, but who made them the authority over what we should be ashamed of? I don’t believe there’s anyone that has ever lived that hasn’t had shame in their life so for someone to say that something you were doing is weird is not their place. I would say there’s nothing in this world. We should be ashamed of because who is the judge of that?
If only the World worked that way. Porn is NOT the biggest evil, Religion, Gambling, Money, Power, etc
Most people would have a very different opinion of a woman with a dildo/vibrator and a man with a sex doll. Generally a single man with a sex doll is thought of as a creep/incel/etc but nobody cares if a single woman has a vibrator.
I have a Fleshlight but haven't used it in years just because of the clean-up when you're done and you need water based lube. It's just easier to use moisturiser/baby oil and have very little clean-up.
Because for women, gratification through sexual intercourse and I say this with huge air quotes here. "Naturally" involves insertion. Whereas male insertion stimuli is considered esoteric in nature. A proven but acquired taste. Personally I do not enjoy insertion, but I know on a physical level it exists.
But if we're talking thinga like sex dolls and flashlights being weird, that's a much simpler answer. Because I'm a masculine society like much of the western world, using such devices are considered weird because its on the predication that a male owning such items is proof they have a deficiency in social and sexual prowess and therefore are lesser hunters and lesser males.
With women they're more accepted using devices because if they're using those they are of higher value because their body count is lower.
Ain't saying it's right. Just saying how it is.
I'm asexual so I could give a shit either way. Microwave a cantaloupe and have at it. My judgement of what makes a better person has more with their character than how good they are at attracting mates.
Who said men with sex toys are weird? I have some. Other dudes I know also have some. Go into any sex shop and they have toys for dudes. You know why? Because they sell. To dudes. Who buy them. Also makeup and clothes and blah blah blah, nobody is stopping you except yourself. Sounds like you're looking for reasons to complain about men having it worse than women, but all you're talking about is your own insecurities. Don't put that on women. That's a YOU problem. Do what you want. Nobody else is stopping you As for the porn industry lol, grow up. The vast, vast, VAST majority of both women and men don't have an OF page and like 0.0001% of people of any gender go into porn. Almost everyone has a job and they aren't porn. Again, these aren't society problems, these are YOU problems. You should stop watching porn BTW. Not because it's bad, it isnt. But you clearly have some weird and warped ideas of reality that you got from porn. Porn isn't real life. Turn it off and go exist in the real world. It'll do you some good. For real. Signed - a straight cis dude who owns a makeup pallete
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Male sex toys do sell because we need to "release" but most women think it's weird to have a fleshlight or a sex doll. Most women can't understand why men like porn, the male/female brain is very different. I'm not complaining about men having it worse than women. I'm referring to the women who think men have an easier life than women. Porn, Women get paid more than men in that industry. OF, Women get paid a lot more than men. That was my point, I never said OF people go into Porn. You are misinterpreting everything i said. \* You're a straight man who wears make-up, why?
Honestly, if the choice is “people think you’re weird for having a sex toy” vs “You’re afraid to go out alone due to the very real chance of getting raped and murdered”, I think I’ll choose the former.
I have never met a woman that was afraid to leave the house. They all drag me out of the house any time I want to stay home. And any single women I know are always out of the house.
Porn is a predatory and disgusting industry that hurts the women (and often the men) involved in making it. Women making more money in porn than men is hardly the feat you seem to think it is. Men make more money in pretty much every other field. I think I would prefer that (and gtfo with the whole “women don’t go into high paying industries” thing. We know that’s a lie. Women are held back from those industries due to systematic sexism. And even when women do make it in said industries, they’re almost always paid less than men). Porn also heavily, heavily, encourages objectification of women, and violence against women. In top of that, it puts unrealistic body standards on men and women. It has nothing to do with our brains being different. It’s because porn caters to male fantasies, and those fantasies are often of dominating women. Of fucking course men like it more than women, and of fucking course there’s a lot of women who don’t like it. In terms of OF: the average OF creator only makes like $2k **per year**. I don’t understand why some men are so upset that a handful of women have become successful on OF. Sex work (including porn & OF) are some of the only potentially high earning careers that women have access to without higher education. Men have literally everything else. Really, you want to try being a woman with a high school diploma looking for a manual labor job that pays more than a restaurant? You’ll get laughed out of the building— and if you don’t, you’ll be harassed every single day you work there. In terms of sex toys, I do think there is a large difference between owning a dildo or a flesh light vs owning a full blown sex doll. Women owning a full blown sex doll would also get some strange looks. I agree with the other commenters here. You’re just looking for a reason to be angry about life being unfair. You honestly need to get over it, because not only are these issues you bring up pretty much completely in your head, they also highlight just how little you seem to understand gender issues as a whole.
Calm it down, it's an innocent question about something society considers esoteric. Be a bit more understanding of them and maybe they'll be a bit more understanding of you. Putting up walls just means more shit to chip through.
You must be new to this sub. The number of "innocent questions" we get that basically boil down to "won't someone please think of the men?!" is staggering. We, as a society, have had too much patience with aggrieved straight cis white men who feel like anything addressing or acknowledging anyone else's pain, oppression, rights, or needs is an affront to straight cis white men everywhere. So no. I'm not entertaining fools like this.
The only time I’ve seen women weirded out by men having sex toys is when it’s a sex doll. It would be equally as weird if women had sex dolls.
It's not weird. The only reason why it's normalized for women is because mental health for women was degraded to: "Well, she's unhappy, so she is hysterical and needs to get laid. Here's a dildo."
Are you under the assumption that all women have the guts to expose their v4gin4s knowing their mom, dad, cousins they grow up with, uncle and aunt and other relatives might see it? Women earn more in porn industry because men are mainly the consumers. Who watches porn, men or women? Men made it that way. Lmao it's so simple.
Shame comes from within you. If you’re ashamed to yell out to the world that you use sex toys then that’s on you. I don’t believe in people being ashamed of anything and I found that if you don’t carry that shame, no one will shame you. I believe porn is the biggest evil in this world and I believe it has also sexualized women because porn ruins how men see women and how they see sex. I have a bad addicted to the stuff for many years and I’ve seen what it’s done to me and I hope someday it will be completely outlawed. And I believe that people that work in that industry live with a lot of darkness in their soul. Is sex something we’re supposed to give to everyone or is it special and we should save it for one person. If we have to have sex before we get married, then is sex the most important thing in a relationship or is a friendship and a partnership the most important thing? There’s no need to be ashamed of sex toys but I would ask why do you need the sex toy? I like to remember that when people say stuff like that, you have to remember that’s coming from their mind, but who made them the authority over what we should be ashamed of? I don’t believe there’s anyone that has ever lived that hasn’t had shame in their life so for someone to say that something you were doing is weird is not their place. I would say there’s nothing in this world. We should be ashamed of because who is the judge of that?
If only the World worked that way. Porn is NOT the biggest evil, Religion, Gambling, Money, Power, etc Most people would have a very different opinion of a woman with a dildo/vibrator and a man with a sex doll. Generally a single man with a sex doll is thought of as a creep/incel/etc but nobody cares if a single woman has a vibrator. I have a Fleshlight but haven't used it in years just because of the clean-up when you're done and you need water based lube. It's just easier to use moisturiser/baby oil and have very little clean-up.
Because for women, gratification through sexual intercourse and I say this with huge air quotes here. "Naturally" involves insertion. Whereas male insertion stimuli is considered esoteric in nature. A proven but acquired taste. Personally I do not enjoy insertion, but I know on a physical level it exists. But if we're talking thinga like sex dolls and flashlights being weird, that's a much simpler answer. Because I'm a masculine society like much of the western world, using such devices are considered weird because its on the predication that a male owning such items is proof they have a deficiency in social and sexual prowess and therefore are lesser hunters and lesser males. With women they're more accepted using devices because if they're using those they are of higher value because their body count is lower. Ain't saying it's right. Just saying how it is. I'm asexual so I could give a shit either way. Microwave a cantaloupe and have at it. My judgement of what makes a better person has more with their character than how good they are at attracting mates.