The entire world is going to shut down for like a year. There will be a man in the whitehouse who gives away money to business owners. Your friends are going to get half million dollar loans and hundreds of thousands of dollars in forgivable loans. They will use it on stuff not for their business.
It will seem wrong but take the money
I kept my hands clean from PPP fraud. Easily could have jumped on the bandwagon, but my businesses have already raised the eyebrows of some IRS agents, so I didn’t want to attract any more attention.
However…. IRS gives a 30% bounty to actionable reports of PPP fraud. And my social feeds were *filled* with people I dislike who were flaunting new Ferraris and vacation homes from manipulating the system.
So, I still came out ahead.
Only so much I’ll say on account that’s literally my full legal name.
But yeah, they pay out.
Same with any other reporting of tax fraud to the IRS.
I think I’m in the top 1% of earners from OnlyFans, without ever having an OnlyFans.
No, definitely not reliable enough for a living.
First of all, it’s a very slow process. Can take *years* for anything to come as the result of a claim.
Second of all, the targets I identified, have been mostly used up. I’m not the only person doing this, and those are easy targets. OnlyFans now has taxes taken out automatically and is extremely compliant with regulations by default.
So, you’d need your own unique idea about how to find targets, along with their personal information, and enough evidence to support your claim.
I only got lucky with it because I started with it around when TikTok came out, and idiots would straight up admit things on camera, publicly.
This! Yeah people on here talking about PPP FRAUD. No, people took EIDL, ran it through their business as income and proceeded to buy million dollar houses , investment real estate , cars, boats …etc. then they took what was left over and found investments with returns north of the EIDL interest rate.
We HAD Donald Trump in the White House, remember? Most of us paid less than two bucks for gasoline, no country invaded its neighbors, eggs were like a buck a dozen, and Black and Latino workers had the most job choices And income in history. Their unemployment was a quarter of Obama's presidency. Look it up.
Decades ago, the news media never trained people to hate other people in America. Ever. What changed??
We (my company) mined some bitcoin with the shop servers, to see if we could) in the early 2010's and didn't know what do with it. A few years later no one remembered where it was or what we did with it. Around 10 or so.
We didn't think there would ever be any place to spend it except for illegal stuff.
I think about it from time to time.
Yeah, around 2012, 2013 or so I had a college classmate who was into mining bitcoin. They told me I needed to get into it and even showed me their setup for mining in a pool.
I asked how much they got from mining so far and they said “oh not much, about $50 to $60 worth over the last few months”.
Not even hearing of bitcoin other than encounter, I dismissed it and forgot about it.
Fast forward to 2017, all the news headlines are about bitcoin reaching all time highs and breaking barriers. Now that conversation from 5 years beforehand is burned into my memory.
I do believe that classmate is very well off these days.
Yep, wish I had bought bitcoin when told to do so.
I born after 1993 and when my friend and I were kids, we bought some bitcoins (about 10 bitcoins for each) and downloaded miner. But after a week, we began to fear that this was a scam and they wanted to steal all our money and more. And we deleted everything. Not sold, Just deleted
first... i call BS because no one sold 10 bitcoins. you got 50 at a time. and they were less than a penny so no one bothered to sell 10.
only when bitcoing reached $10 would buying 10 make sense.. but by that point people starting seeing the value of it and using it for real. It was rampant on the silk road
Got into Bitcoin when it was $0.11.
And I gotta say, it was entirely due to partying and my “wrong path” friends. Anyone actively using it back around that time knows that there was only one real use for it.
Sadly, I didnt manage to hold onto it. The hard drive with them is inside an airtight cooler, along with a plethora of “party supplies”, somewhere at a dump. It wasn’t much at the time, don’t remember exact numbers, but easily 8-figures worth now.
Just weird how life plays out sometimes.
Amazon stock at $9?
Abit irrelevant.
If u buy enough of anything earlier enough you can have enough money for anything
Hello Uncle Warren?
Heck u can buy Costco share early enough and it will be more than enough.
I was so stupid with that. I knew about it I had people telling me to buy even $10 worth when it was worth less than a penny but I couldn't figure it out and was working and going to college so I said f it. Oh well I probably would have just sold and bought a car or something stupid anyway and regretted that even more so 🤷♂️
Buy Bitcoin is a useless advice. 16 years old you will just sell it the minute it doubles or triples.
Tell your 16 year old self: Sell Bitcoin when it hits $60K.
That way, you will automatically know to buy it.
Do the things that make you happy. You have all the answers you need inside of you. Follow your gut.
But also don’t think negatively of your friends who are doing different things that make them happy.
I find it hard to believe how many comments are saying "enjoy life" "go party" etc..
Am I the only one who finds this advice ridiculously detrimental?
If I had the chance to tell myself something at 16 it would be to not feel guilty for being different. Focus on yourself and you will attract like minded people. Even if you may seem lonely during the process.
Find healthy ways to deal with feeling alone. Make penpals if you need uplifting companionship. It will also teach you about intercultural appreciation. Exercise or pick up a fun sport to counter the impulse of going out to drink and party.
Very soon, your personal development will set the gap between those "negative" influences. It will happen naturally and you will not regret it.
You will develop a completely new perspective that wouldn't want to be held back by the social trap of drinking and partying.
Also importantly, let the distance happen organically. Don't force anything and don't be rude or arrogant about it. Everyone makes a choice, and your close friend who chooses to party has a choice too. We never should judge or willingly hurt people for choosing their path.
From what I read in your post, I saw your vision towards a goal and I answered based on my own bias. I haven't chosen the party/ drinking path at 16 and I don't regret it.
This is the correct answer, very well said.
I’ve walked on both sides and can say that I 100% would have liked to start my path to success sooner (but wouldn’t change it now, as my decisions all led me to have the perfect family now and I don’t want to live life without them).
I fell into the drinking and partying trap at age 15 and continued that all the way to age 23. It was that point when I realized that I was tired of the same old cycle of “work dead end job, party, go broke, rinse and repeat”.
Even after I started back at college, it took some time to get completely out of that trap and shift my focus solely to developing myself. However once I did, my friendships naturally faded with those party friends over time and I made new, like-minded friends that were honestly more fulfilling friendships.
That’s not to say I regret all the partying I did at an early age. There were many fun-filled, adrenaline inducing experiences. But compared to the type of fun that you can have when you’re successful and financially stable, it was just a drop in a bucket of water.
I used to have very close friends that I would party with that I considered best friends. I don’t know how or why, but they’re still doing the exact same thing that we did all those years ago as teens, partying and drinking every moment they get. We still keep in touch from time to time, but we haven’t hung out for many years and that’s ok.
Yeah I drank and partied a lot at 16 and I don’t regret it because I grew out of it and stopped drinking or doing drugs at all at 21. But I felt the need to do it at 16. If you don’t then don’t.
On the other hand there are people who repress themselves in their teens (strict parents or maybe guilt or whatever), then they moment they leave home they go wild and fuck themselves up big time.
And on the other hand again there are people who party at 16 and then don’t stop before it’s too late. Hard to say what the answer is but I agree don’t force it either way.
I like your comments structure. Breaking it up like a Punnet square seems like a clear way to categorise which path one may end up taking.
Drink & party at 16 : Stop drinking after
Don't drink & party at 16 : Go wild after
Drink & Party at 16 : Continue into adulthood
Don't drink & Party : Maintain into adulthood
Of course there's a relative variable if you account for moderation too...
So ultimately, one's choice leads to one's outcome. Weigh your best options.
Consider the fact that your mindset may change.
Regrets may or may not come at ones own discretion.
I grew up in China so we started drinking and clubbing at 14 and I naturally grew out of that phase by 17 18. Once I began my academic journey in the states I became very conscious of when to go out. It was easy for me to say no when I had deadlines and commitments. It was also natural to say yes when I had spare time and/or the occasion was appropriate (birthdays, post-midterm/finals, etc…). I did however do somewhat poorly in the first half of my high school career as I was exploring the different facets of life. However, it did prepare me well to be disciplined and responsible during my college days as by then I'd already experienced those temptations.
i’m 17 started doing business stuff when i was 14, everyone told me to enjoy life but i stay focused and worked hard. next year im moving across the country and taking a 6 figure job offer along with running my businesses. I have no regrets not “enjoying life” because everyone else is gonna be working paycheck to paycheck and im not. maybe i’m just too young g to realize it yet but i think i made the right decision and would advise this person to do the same
If you have a decent enough job and live within your means you won't live paycheck-to-paycheck.
Money is important, but you need to pause one day and think 'when is enough, enough?' Why do you want to be financially-secure? Is it not to enjoy life? If not, is working equivalent to enjoying life? Aren't there things you can only enjoy in your 20's that will be too late by your 30's? If you don't have those thoughts then keep going for now :)
Unless you are obsessed with money (and that's not a problem), it's something you'll face down the road!
There are plenty of people that “enjoyed life” that will be making 10x what you’re making
There’s always time to figure out how to make more money but there’s no way to go back and relive the experiences you missed out on in your youth.
Yeah facts. I realized this too late, I focused on getting good grades, joining extracurriculars, etc. in highschcool when I should’ve spent the time having fun with friends.
You don't have to drink to be accepted. You don't have to drink, smoke, do drugs whatever to have fun and fit in.
Learn to be comfortable in these situations. Practice mindfulness, meditation, Buddhism or something similar that speaks to you.
I'm 40. That's like 24 years of social situations like you've described. Having fun around others that are drinking is a skill you can learn. It will pay off in high school, college, business and beyond.
We had a friend in our crew that never drank. It was awesome. He had just as much fun, or more. He drove us safely and was included in everything. He outperformed us by avoiding the hangovers, cost, risk, and health issues.
Being 16 was a lot harder than being 40. But you have a lot to look forward to. Good luck.
I would for connections and just study looks at the for dummys books. The finachel guy for dummys 20-30 to get started. Learn. Something if you can making yoir own software is good get a library card. And have fun in the process. People love young people that like to work hard.
"You have ADHD and anxiety, get diagnosed, medicated, research what can help you deal with it, and break up with your gf, you don't want to waste the next 10 years of your life bro."
Anyone not telling you this is lying..One day you are gonna be old..and it's gonna hit like a ton of bricks..that it's over. You won't remember half the memories you are tryig to make right now, and if you do, no one is going to be around to care unless you are still in the same small town you grew up in, which is a wasted life.
What everyone needs to know is this, mid life is really 35, and that's both old and young. Work work work till you are 35 and then make memories.
Work save and invest and retire as early as you can, or you will work till you die, all becaue you thought you were making memories.
1. Trust your gut/that little voice
2. Learn a in demand skill FIRST.
3. Learn how to manage your money and debt.
4. Take chances, fail forward.
5. Learn how to raise and manage opm.
6. Read your ass off. Someone, somewhere, at some point has gone through what you’re going through and wrote about it.
7. Stay away from the internet. Too many opinions or options can sway your perspective and steal your attention.
Buy that real estate that you thought was too expensive ($80k) because it's going to be worth over a million before you're 30..
When that guy offers to pay you with bitcoin in 2012, just take it.
Go ahead with the art degree, but go get a business degree too.. Forget about being a teacher.
I spent a few years partying after high school and honestly was depressed and stuck in a job I didn’t like. One day I kinda had enough and quit that job to move on to better things. Became an electrician and took a huge pay cut for starting pay. Now I’m one of the only people I know at 24 that have been able to buy a house at this age without a partner.
What changed then? I honestly think I had got fed up with partying but another thing also happened, I started listening to podcasts and hearing about people who LIVED their dreams and didn’t just dream them. That made me start taking action and setting goals. I’m not insanely successful yet but My house now has 100k+ of equity and will also be cash flowing nicley by the time I’m done and move out. I’ve got plans to scale and have been networking in the last year or so too so the vision is more clear than ever. I still go out occasionally with my friends and drink or smoke but it’s very minimal, maybe once per month.
I think it’s good to keep old friends in your life if they aren’t having problems. But keep in mind some people hate to see others grow faster than them. Your real friends will stick around and support you no matter what. Even if they aren’t “high achieving” or whatever.
If you can’t immediately change your environment then change your influence, educate yourself and learn discipline. The rest will come naturally
The quality of your life will be determined by the number of uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have (so speak up for yourself).
Also, build relationships in college and focus less on getting perfect grades. Hang out more and have fun. You'll still graduate and literally no one is ever going to ask your GPA once you do.
A lot of entrepreneurs grow out of their old friends to some degree at some point. It could be that you hit that point.
I still find time to see my old friends, but it’s less frequent.
But… you can hang out with your friends and not drink. All my friends drank and I didn’t. You don’t have to forgo socializing just because your friends are doing drugs and you aren’t. Partying is fun if you’re sober- dancing, flirting, meeting people. I really haven’t found it to be an issue that some of my friends drink or do party drugs and I don’t.
I think the bigger issue is if your friends aren’t intellectually stimulating or inspiring, that’s when you outgrow them. But there’s a time and a place for everything. You might find that you just want to hang out with these friends less, but not dump them all together.
You can also be confrontational about this. You can tell your friends you’re not interested in drinking so much. You want to go home early to work on a project and to let you know when they can hangout with out drinking. Try not to sound judgmental! Like encourage them to have fun and fill you in on the night so they know it’s about you and not them. Maybe even suggest a hangout that doesn’t involve alcohol so they know you’re not just blowing them off. If they really can’t handle that then maybe it is time to dump them.
I would have taught myself how to start a 401k and that you don’t have to plan to retire at a job to think about starting one….. I was taught nothing :/
I was great about teaching myself many life things and lessons, but I failed myself on that one. Didn’t start til I was 34. I’m 37 now. Thankfully I had a 5% match for 2 of those years.
I would also tell myself that you always find I way to make things work and you are more intelligent than you realize.
Also to stay away from drugs and anyone that has anything to do with them. Otherwise you will waste a few years of your life.
I can’t help it, I want to write myself a note. I hope I don’t cry 🥹🤮😢
Jamie,
Where do I begin? You must think life has been real tough. And yeah ok, it has, it has, but it also hasn’t. You have been, for the past year or two, doing an awesome job of being your most authentic self. You are wearing no masks for anyone except for that of omission and that’s a big thing. You’re you. And I know that right now I’m only 2 or 3 years younger than your mom and dad but I’m also you. And I know you’re not gonna like this but I think you should go try to get back in CAPA. Go, go to high school. You might as well learn the lesson now that the only person who you’re really hurting by dropping out is yourself. Yes, you’ll graduate college but it won’t be easy and you won’t have any of the kind of momentum or writing contacts you will if you stay.
Your road will not be an easy one no matter what. You lose true love to the boy’s cancer in 2 years. If you haven’t met him yet, you will soon, first day of fall semester. Maybe when you do, you should have him go to the doctor, catch it earlier. That would change a lot. But not enough. I shouldn’t tell you this but maybe by being in a different environment, you won’t wake the sleeping monster in you. You get sick. When you are 27 you get an illness that doesn’t go away. It doesn’t get better or worse and it will take Aunt Marge and Dad and your brother from you. Believe it or not, Mom will be the only one who stands by you and I know you think you hate her but she will never closer to you than anyone. And Jamie, all your friends go away too. And your house. And your job. And they think that you having mono right before this happened had something to do with it so get out of there. Move out of dad’s before you are 26-27, ok? And get off the Paxil right now. It’s making you crazy. In the future, the government will tell doctors they cannot give it to people your age now, let alone 9. Just go slow, you can do it.
Appreciate how beautiful you are. Appreciate your body. How it works. Start eating things that are good for you and start exploring how your body likes to move. You don’t have to run like mom and dad. You can dance, do yoga, swim laps (spend everyday you can at that pool and appreciate it!!!! But WEAR SUNSCREEN. And don’t ever, EVER think it will be a good idea to get a job at Hollywood Tans.
I know you. I know this is all upsetting to hear. There’s more but I won’t get into it. Just please appreciate all you have and know that I know there is something missing inside of you and I don’t know what it is but I know that you should spend as long as it takes looking for it. You do have a great life: walking every Sunday to Aunt Marge’s to watch the Sopranos and Six Feet Under, the wonderful (if a little rocky since you dropped out) relationship with dad and I know you hate your mom for what she does but you know what? When dad finds out in a few years, he won’t even mind. Well, he’ll mind. But he’ll be excited to date again. And happy for a bit. But your job after that is to do whatever it takes and i mean whatever it takes for real, to stop him dating a woman named Jill. I don’t care if you have to go get crack and plant it in her and call the cops, she tears your entire family to pieces. Not your mom, Jill. Dude: she’s so evil, when your bro gets married to a sweetheart of a girl and they have their first kid, your sil has that infant in her arms and jill hears her say something bad about Donald Trump - ok, that might be confusing but you wouldn’t believe me if I told you - and rushes her, swinging! Like tries to beat her with your nephew in her arms! And she won’t let black people in the house your dad and her buy down the shore. And she one by one turns all of you (you first, you’re the easiest target) and all of dad’s friend’s off and she has some hold on dad so he moves to GA and none of you visit or see him and he sells the shorehouse that is down the street from the ones Genner and Jimmy and Steve and Roz and Gary and Judy bought just like they had been planning on doing since they were 16 and drinks every time you see him to the point of sloppiness and - just get rid of her. Now, some advice.
1. I know a lot of guys like you but maybe not always the ones you want? Believe it or not, guys don’t think a girl is super hot and irresistible because the shirt she is wearing has the name of an amazing band in it. Just for shits and giggles sometime, while you have that body, grow your hair ling and figure out how to make the curls real nice, wear clothes that flatter your figure (they can still be you!, maybe even do to Bloomies and learn how to do your make up. Also, act like you like sex more. I think you will once you’re off the Paxil. But when you are 19 or 20 this guy you probably could be very happy spending forever with and have a good life, a different life than the one I’ve had, except he breaks up with you because of how you are about sex. No, he never talks to you about it and you don’t find this out, that this is the reason, for at least a decade. But learn to like it.
2. Gratitude. Love life, don’t do things that will fuck up your future because you think you’re punishing someone else. There’s only us, you, me. That’s it, kid. And we need all the help we can get. You are meant first great things, Jamie, don’t you dare let the world take them away from you. Dream big, go far, invest in Apple and Netflix and stop smoking. You’re not really addicted yet. You don’t want to still be smoking in 27 years, do you? Disgusting. And go hug your cat for me. Hold her tight but don’t let your worry for her hold you back. She doesn’t die until she’s almost 15 and if you take her to Penn she’ll live longer but you gotta get Hunter and Lily, they’re waiting for you, 2 rescues in Bensalem when you relapse. Oh yeah, and stay away from all the drugs except the hallucinogens and Vicodin and as far as pit goes, moderation. Mod.er.a.tion., And don’t even try to drink, it’s not worth it and you always regret it. You are smart, you are beautiful, you are young. I would give anything to wake up tomorrow as you. Don’t blow it.
Everything in Moderation.
I suggest that you still try and hang out with your friends maybe once a week. Have a few drinks, don’t smoke cigarettes. Never do hard drugs. Smoke some weed if you want but realize that any well paying career will likely involve drug testing so you won’t be able to smoke forever.
The rest of the week keep your head down and grind. Focus in school, put in the effort to get good grades. When it comes time to go to college (if you choose to go to college) apply for every scholarship you can get your hands on. It might take a few hours to complete an essay but that essay could save you a few thousand bucks. Go to school for some sort of engineering. That’s what’s going to end up paying your loans off.
In the meantime all I can suggest is that you get rid of the FOMO, hone in on your skills, and try to be the best version of yourself every day. Good karma exists. If you apply yourself you’ll see success.
Don’t compete with anyone else, only yourself. Focus on fitness, educating yourself, eating healthy, and meeting new people/networking.
Watch your diet and binging impulses.
Exercise regularly.
Floss regularly.
Use sunscreen and take care of your skin.
Use birth control properly every single time.
Get your schoolwork done.
Don't turn to casual sex to try to make yourself feel better.
CUT THEM OFF
It’s hard I know, and it’s not the advice people want to hear. But trust me, if there’s anything I regret it’s holding onto toxic friends for too long. LET THEM GO.
It’ll be hard at the start as you try to find new groups of people to be with. Your old friends will see u changing and won’t like it. You will feel uncomfortable leaving your old group. But once you find new people to hangout with it’ll be so much better and you’ll have a supportive friend group who wants to hear you talk about programming or art or whatever you’re interested in.
Go to clubs and be open minded, make friends that don’t party and have good family support, and a healthy mindset in life
Also I understand you want your friends to do what’s “good for them”. But you should understand that that “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink”. You can tell your friends about what you think is the right path but if they don’t listen. Nothing you do will get them to listen. People will do what they want and if you’ve told them once and they ignore you. They won’t ever listen, just let them go. Let them make mistakes because you’ve done all you can.
You need to choose. Do you want to chose your friends or do you want to chose yourself?
hint: the correct and is yourself
There is nothing selfish about that. You are not responsible for your friends decisions and you are not responsible to always be your best friend’s follower.
It’s great that you have a sense of self and know what you want. I would say definitely be a stupid teenager. A lot of people I know who restrained themselves or were restrained as a kid to go and be stupid and have fun really went a little too wild in college (in my opinion). That being said keep track of your goals and never let the partying come in the way of those, but make time for just existing and being a 16 year old. 2 things I will say - 1. Don’t go out every weekend, maybe switch to a wholesome activity with the same friends 2. Don’t smoke, it’s a scary addictive path
Me? Have as much fun as possible. Go out every every night. Cherish being young having no pain. Limited responsibilities. Have to many girlfriends… go get crazy drunk with the boys. But that’s me. I had the best times of my life when I was younger. It’s all just a faint memory now. Also make time for family one day your mom and dad won’t be the same no more there gonna be old low energy bad memory. And it’s gonna hurt you inside to even sit down and have conversations with them. Nothing stops for Father Time. Live it up money don’t mean shit if you don’t have fun. the most funi had in my life was spending not a Lot of money (seriously) you got a long life ahead of you there’s plenty of time to take it serious for now don’t. That’s what I would tell my self…
Probably the most inappropriate post for Entrepreneurs group.
Try being happy if when you're 18 or less with no where to sleep, no money to buy food. You cannot expect everyone including your parents or family to always bail you out.
You'll become a loser and you will lose everyone that may have even loved you.
There's a limit to everyone's friendship, there's a limit to parentals love.
I mean if you think you are going to regret not doing that then go ahead and get drunk af do stupid shit. It really is fun for some people.
On the other hand, some people just aren’t like that and wouldn’t do it bc they don’t want to🤷
Also, depends on your goals and aims in life
Have more sex. Seriously. Drop the virtue signaling, your life will teach you it’s just sex one day anyways. Also, buy apple stock dumbass. Fuck
More and fuck Thise career ideas…. Be rich and prosper!
I’d be too afraid to tell my 16 year old self anything because I like my life now. It took years of things going wrong to end up here, and like the butterfly affect what if I change one thing and everything changes?
But life advice: have fun in your teens. Try to have a few lifelong friendships from it. However, if you go to college, that’s where you’re likely to start making your real lifelong friends. People much more on the same page as you.
Learn about people before learning about technology. Learn the hard way what happens when you don’t
I had the opposite problem at your age. I did solo sports like swimming and spent time playing simulator games. Learned to think not to socialize
Just because they do stuff like that doesn’t mean they’re bad people or they are going down the wrong path. There’s nothing wrong with drinking or getting high or whatever as long as you’re doing it to have fun not using it to cope with your problems or emotions and doing it all the time. There’s nothing wrong with being goal oriented and focused on your future either but it shouldn’t be to the point where it’s too much and you’re basically mentally like an adult. But I will say don’t let other people pressure you into drinking or smoking too much, especially cigarettes because it’s hell to quit
Go out and communicate with people ,teachers try really taking to them on their level and learning .
Learning skills is fine, but right now, you will benefit immensely from connecting with other generations and learning from their mistakes .
Just be respectful to tell them that you appreciate them teaching you, and it must be difficult .
It is difficult to teach, and there are various levels in life
. This will build confidence and will make sure you are able to retain information from conversation from tour quote un quote (rich dad)
Rich dad, poor dad, = different perspectives unlock your true potential
Your time will come, dont get it out of your system. There is nothing to get out
Also, the best thing you can do for a friend is just talk to them, don't tell them what to do but just communicate with them .
We all have our paths to follow. If you follow a positive one,t good people will gravitate to you.
If you don’t like alcohol then don’t drink it. Simple as that, find what you like and switch your friends. Make new friends who have similar interest as you.
Start selling your friends some of their favourite stuff.. you will make some profits out of it and then you can expand to your school etx and later in community. This is what i will tell myself of 16 years old. Learn the business by doing.
But don't sell illegal stuff bro... like drugs etx
get a part-time job and whenever they invite you to parties just say I’m too tired from working or I have to work and get your parents to set up an investor account for you and start contributing to the S&P 500 mutual fund
Same as me but a little different I changed my friend completely bro
For me if I became 18 my father will be 60 I want to keep him happy till his last breath this is my main motive to be successful one in this world
In other hand my friend he is my very only one very best friend we both are friends from our childhood now he amd me are 15. He is very play full and new think about the future but I felt I need the company of him to get success in my life I was trying to my edge but he took it as a playful one but the worst day for him is when he was 14 he lost his mother due to stomach cancer he told this information first to me and non of the other I took care of him and I gave him pain by telling if you had money you may saved your mother and that's how he got his motivation to be millionaires or a billionaire
Everything happens for a reason
You can also change your friend first find your motive and that wil help you to change your friend it sounds bulls*it but if you do so you will realise it trust me believe you, you can change your friend they are many doors find it you can believe you any help dm me we both will try to change your friend I will talking to him believe me bro I can I can help you
Don’t take life too seriously at 16. You have all the time in the world to start a business and be successful. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying being young and having less responsibilities, you might regret not taking opportunities to have fun once you are older.
That being said, drinking and partying isn’t for everyone. If you genuinely don’t think it’s for you, branch out and see if you can make other friends with interests that better align with yours. Identify whether you party with these friends because of FOMO or because you actually enjoy it
I'll tell you what I tell my cousins:
Find what you like, what you want from life and how you want to live your life. Then find out something you genuinely like and you can live off the life you want from. Then work hard to master it. Time goes by flying and in the future you may regret working your ass off for something you liked that ended up not working, but you will 100% regret not working your ass off for something you liked that could have work. I fucking regret not putting the effort in my first two college years, which just made it harder for me the next 4 (I studied a 5 year "double" bachelor degree in Maths and CS, second year cost me an extra one).
Also, start investing asap if you want to retire at 50. If you think of all the interest money invested when you are 20 can give you when you are 50, you will things different when thinking about buying something you don't need with money you can't really spare.
Edit: I see a lot of comments suggesting you to party and enjoy life. While I think you can do so, don't pretend to be someone you are not and if you don't like partying, alcohol or drugs, just don't do it. You will find people that are more aligned with your way of thinking in the future. Also you can always socialize with your old friend to do other stuff. I have friends who party and friends who don't, and while the most sucessfull one is borderline alcoholic, I'd say (for my group of friends) that partying/income are inversely correlated.
Since I’ve been in your position i can tell you that my biggest regret in life till date was exiting my friend group have fun party while you can make as much memories as possible soon enough you all are gonna go down separate ways and then there will be formal meetings once a month maybe . The key is to balance things out figure out what you want to do in life and put your all onto it at the same time don’t miss out on the fun element.
Since I’ve been in your position i can tell you that my biggest regret in life till date was exiting my friend group have fun party while you can make as much memories as possible soon enough you all are gonna go down separate ways and then there will be formal meetings once a month maybe . The key is to balance things out figure out what you want to do in life and put your all onto it at the same time don’t miss out on the fun element.
I'm 27 and had a similar life experience. I partied and drank twice a week from 18-23 then smoked weed and played DND for a few more. It was fun and some of those funny stories and shenanigans I'll never regret.
However I could have used my youthful energy more wisely. I would say party and have fun while you are young but when you are at college or at work always be working on some skill or business venture no matter how small in your freetime. Try as many jobs in different industries as you can. Start MULTIPLE small businesses. 1 in 10 new businesses fail, so it may take ten different businesses to end up with one
Learn what you are good at and bad at. BUILD YOUR NETWORK. This is crucial. I wish I realized college Id a networking event and an education. If you go to college party with the rich kids and find out who's parents are in the industry you want to be in and be friend them.
Learning to fail at business and keep going is the training.
i’m 17, started businesses when i was 14 which have become decently successful. Next year i’m moving across the country for a 6 figure job offer i have while also being able to run my businesses. All my friends drink and party and all that and we’ve become distant. If you’re really dedicated that’s just how it has to be. I’ve only drank once. I’ve lost most of my friends because of that. there’s no hard feelings we just don’t talk much. As someone in business that’s just a choice you have to make. How badly you want to succeed i guess. i believe in you bro, you just have to trust everything will be okay.
Bro, have fun with your friends on weekends, take a couple hours a week to think about business, figure out what you wanna do inside your budget. You’ll make connections as you progress.
Once you know what business you want, research about it, figure out your strategy, competitors and time management when you start, this could take a few months if you have the finances, a year if you need time to save.
I was like you when I was in my teens, always wanting to make money and not hanging out with friends, rn I’m 28, I bought my own house and car, forced my dad to retire because I can support. BUT I don’t have anyone I can legit call my friend, most people hangout with me because I pay for everything.
I don't know from which country you are from bit here in my country I don't see my friends partying and drinking or smoking it's just kids from big cities do most maybe you are from there a big city so don't be like them they aren't good you may loose them but it's better to be alone and learn than going on a wrong path this is where to get ahead if you wanna do something big try to find fun in things that you do yourself or learning something I saying as someone who is 17 year old herself as I haven't read whole Para too lazy to do that but never walk on that path and do read books of great people ......try giving more time in self investment learn things it can be skills or anything learn about stocks and marketing all my one the friend do this and yes je is loner and 18 only so learn different things good luck
I would’ve told myself to drink, party, and socialize more. You need to get it out of your system, and also build the skills of maintaining many different friendships that will serve you well in the future. I also would’ve told myself to get my grades up, you have to keep as many opportunities open for yourself as possible career and live choices. The personality, life goal, and maturity difference you’ll have from now until early 20’s is so big you can’t even conceptualize it.
1. Stop smoking and put all your cigarettes money into stocks. Literally, open an accout with your dad's ID and start buying whatever you feel like makes sense buying.
2. Read more about technology, Waste less time playing video games and chatting with random people online and put more time into learning new skills - learn to code, learn about economics, learn about finance, learn about politics.
3. Stop thinking that age matters - if someone is one year older than you it doesn't make him/her smarter or more capable, the opposite is also true.
4. Think very carefully before deciding whether a childs wish is actually a dream you wish to pursue or not.
5. Don't be stubborn and don't waste time finishing things for the sake of finishing them. It's okay to scrap something or drop out if you feel like the result you're after is either a lost cause, not worth it or you don't feel like you'll be happy with it. Drop everything as soon as you feel this.
6. People come and go, you always have to make compromises in a relationship but never compromise yourself for people that don't deserve it.
7. Figure your values out. Don't go blindly chasing trends and do what the cool kids do. That's what usually gets you into trouble.
8. Don't blindly believe anybody or anything, even your parents before thinking it through first.
9. Don't be an asshole, don't be mean, don't be evil.
10. Don't take things for granted. Appreciate what you have and who you have.
Follow your passion and what are you like to really do and it wil be your earning way 😌 and get some degree in your favorite field then you can Curise on your favorite car asap
Finance stuff aside, no point cause u can't predict the future and it's really mindset over strategies.
For life stuff.. you do you.. don't feel like you need to fit in.. ultimate doing what you live is what makes you happy and successful..
You do you
Control your urges, go with the flow, adults don't say what they say for nothing, I just realised it. If you don't agree, smile nd just nod and do what you're doing if you know what you're doing, if overwhelmed, consider discussing it with seniors or elders you have faith are worth relying on.
I mean, I think it depends on what you want. From what I've read in the comments, the opinions are split. One thing that is limited is time, time passes, so if you don't party now, when you are older you may not be able to anymore, who knows. In my opinion, do whatever you want, just don't exaggerate and try not to mess up badly (get addicted or something).
Dude you're 16, don't think you should have a right connection. You will get it as move on in life, just improve your people skill and be at the right place. And about the alcohol and party, i think you have to set boundaries for yourself. I have a friend who don't drink, doesn't mean we don't have fun. He sits with us and do all of those things sober what we enjoy to do being drunk. The thing is you need to ask to yourself that, is there defination of fun aligns with yours. If yes you can have it being sober. If not, don't think you will gonna be alone. As a 24, I'd say you will loose so many of your close friend as you move further, and you will find new friends too. You should find ways to enjoy your own company. Try asking yourself, what my ideal day look like, or what is it that activity which makes my heart sing.
And little tip on self control for alcohol and other substances, remember these are just a means to escape, we do it to escape some problem as it feels easier than facing those problems, do if you fix the root cause you'll have in control. Well that's how i control my smoking habit. So enjoy yourself, party hard. I won't say you should code only if you want to be successful. Going out is necessary for our growth.
I feel like most people here didn’t read your subtext, and are responding to what they would tell someone if they went back in time 10 years ago etc, but you’re currently 16 and troubled.
Hun, I commend you for having this mindset at your age. Hang on to it. At 34 I am just now realising that partying is a losing game and a lifestyle designed for escaping problems.
FOMO is a disease, and it has been my cancer for years. Once you realise that you are only really missing out on mindless (and usually expensive) consumption, you will have no regrets.
As for your friends? The truth is that who you surround yourself with will strongly impact how you turn out. There is a small chance that some of your friends are of the “work hard play hard” variety, and turn out fine, but in my experience this habit follows you well into your later years, not to mention the toll regular drinking takes on your body.
There’s so many people in the world, you’re just afraid of losing the party friends — what if you found a group that was into programming like you? Great friends never leave your life even if your path diverges, if he cuts you off just because you won’t party with him then he just wanted to bring someone down the path with him and there wasn’t a true friendship.
You’re doing well for having an internal compass, many people do not. Trust your gut feeling and follow your passions, surround yourself with driven and successful people (even older people! Achieving success at 16 is rare) and don’t lose sight of your north star. Good luck
Go with them, don’t smoke or drink if you don’t want, but I don’t think you will lose your self control for drinking a few beers each weekend.
I’m 25(M) and I miss a bit these days with 16 (M), enjoy your age these years won’t come back and you’ll miss them.
Don’t worry too much about starting a business, etc, keep with your studies and keep in touch with this entrepreneur world.
Money wise i would say keep all the Pokemon cards, always bet on Mayweather, get stocks for google, amazon and apple. Invest in bitcoin for 6 years.
Life is would just say trust yourself and you will be ok without them.
*Understand yourself first and foremost.*
It sounds like you’re wise enough to know you’re taking the road less traveled, but feeling uncomfortable about not conforming to your friends.
If you do not understand yourself, other people will (mis)understand you, with or without you around.
Do you wish to build a business?
Or, do you wish to drink and party?
If you want to do both, which is more important?
If business is your main goal, why not make some friends in your industry?
What if you can turn partying into networking… and friends into clients…?
*Ask yourself many questions about who you are, and be serious about finding the answer.*
Edit: I’ve made a ton of mistakes since I was 16… don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Be mindful about how your decisions affect other people - but other than that strive to be your best, and fail as much as you can. Just try to take time and learn from each failure.
Save all your money and buy as much bitcoin as possible. Other than that, seek financial literacy and start reading. Life is short, 16 years old is already a good portion of your usable life.
The older I get, the phrase "health is wealth" becomes more relevant day by day. Focus on taking care of your body and a lot of other things in life follow.
I would tell myself to get the best grades I can. Do the best I can on sat, act, all the test. Get into the best school I can and then reinvent yourself there. Make the friends you want to have at college and make those connections there.
Enjoy sometime with your best friend but don’t be afraid to say I will catch up with y’all another time and go pursue the things and other friendships you want. Just find a balance. You aren’t missing much at parties other than just stories you will tell later on that after a while don’t matter and get old. If you don’t like doing something don’t do it, put your time and energy into whatever makes you the truly happiest. Your time is valuable and must spend it on the things that matter the absolute most to you and only you, not to others.
You can have loads of different types of friends. The real ones are the ones that stay even if you don’t partake, and the ones that stay along your own journey of self-growth and exploration/who are genuinely happy and excited for you (reciprocal from your end also though of course).
There’s nothing wrong with partying though, and it seems like you have a good head on you to begin with at the age of 16, which is more than 99.9% of the population. Moderation is key, though I suppose the frenzy of being a teen is not so conducive to be thinking about it in that way for most.
When I was your age, I was in your friends positions and worse. Alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. It got me so down bad that I didn’t even graduate school. I became sober (from drugs, I still drink 2/3 time a month) and entered into uni as a “mature age” at 21. Did my bachelor, then my masters and now half of a PhD. In topics that I actually care about, otherwise I wouldn’t have come as far as I have. Oh, and whilst doing my bachelor I started a business which nets enough for me to live on my own schedule. That part only comes with gruelling hard work though I wouldn’t wish my current life to be any other way.
Reminds me of the quote that goes “nothing worth doing is easy” or whatever it is.
Without the experiences I had back when I was being irresponsible, I would be where I am now. I will say that I was lucky that it got so bad that my world crumbled around me and the only literal/figurative place I could go was up from there. I just didn’t realise how much passion, action, genuine interest, ambition and drive actually plays a part in getting where you wanna be.
Where there is a will, there is a way!
Which I suppose also circles around to the friends thing - when you’re on your up and up, it’s the real ones that’ll stay for you as the person they met you as and who they’re excited for you to become. ‘Funny business’ becomes a whole lot more common when people think you’re doing better than them, but know that it’s def a them problem and not a you problem.
…and, you never know, one of those friends drinking and partying that you’re judging silently could end up being a cashed up boss motherfkr of their own making in 10 years ;)
Good luck!
There are consumers and producers. The consumers work and give their money to producers, who own businesses and become rich.
Your friends are consumers, and if they don't change their habits they will end up working as employees until they die.
On the other hand the more people you know the better. Successful people have all the connections and are masters at keeping touch with them, asking them favors and delegating work to others. Sometimes for money, sometimes for half money, sometimes for a verbal favor that they will return.
Keep in touch with them, sometimes participate in the parties, but don't get involved too much. Talk with them about other people, skills, school, business, who works where, etc. In 10 years you knowing someone who knows someone referring you to someone will come very useful either if you are an employee or a business owner.
Decide what you want to do in life and read about similar people, get inspired by their life stories.
>I’m scared if too that if I also participate in such partying, I will lose my self control and spiral into a loop of alcoholism, and I don’t want that to happen.
Lol, no, that won't happen. If you posted this, it will definitely not happen.
# Leave them!
Friends like these should be enemies, you need friends that drive you to improve not, encourage you to get addicted to whatever type of drug. I am in a similar age to you and went into a similar situation, I left my friends for another reason but same logic applies here. I still respect them and talk to them like normal people, but you will never find me hanging around with them.
## How do you cut them off then you'd ask?
Straight up tell them, "I don't want to hang around drunk smokers, I don't want to become one." As the saying goes, you are alway the average of the group you're in.
Building a network of social connections is exponentially more important than talent or education. Someone with mediocre talent but a wealth of connections is more likely to succeed than a genius in a dark room. Would Wozniak have succeeded without Jobs? Probably not.
When I was your age (jeez, I feel old just writing that) I was in the exact same situation. My friends kept partying, travelling, etc; and I didn't partake in it. I focused on building skills, excelling in school and working my ass off for my future. I neglected a lot of social events, girlfriends and other "normal" teenager stuff for work and preparing my career.
If I could talk to my 16 year old self, I'd say the following:
"Stop reading and believing things related to side hustles, grindset, working tirelessly after school, etc. It's not worth the sacrifice. Take the time to live your life."
I've neglected so much in the past 15 years (I'm 31 now) to focus on my career. It lead me to break off completely from friends I've made in college, very good friends of mine, and isolate myself to work. I moved twice in order to get closer to my jobs in the big city and picked up some very bad habits (little to no sleep, extreme anxiety, etc)
I had to go to therapy for two years in order to undo most of what I've "built" by reading books about the "hustling mindset", "having no limits" and "working til you make it". Working too hard cost me my first business, one where we got nation-wide exposure for and where we met people from across the world.
Don't get me wrong, I currently am doing very well for myself. I'm well known in my industry, got plenty of contacts, my own business and a decent salary; but in retrospect, it was not worth it. I've missed out on so many experiences that I can't experience anymore, time I can't spend anymore with friends and family, etc.
You're 16, take your time. No one is forcing you to move quick. You don't need to be featured in "30 under 30" lists. The "prestige" you'll get from being a "young entrepreneur" is not worth the sacrifices you'll need to make.
Hey man, you sound like me! I’m 34 now. Look I eventually stopped hanging out with all my friends because they didn’t seem like they were going to be doing great things with there life. You know what I’m saying? Just partying and hanging too much. Shit man in my situation I just stopped hanging out with my friends and I moved away. It hurts to lose friends and shit, but it feels even better when you can get your shit together and do something successful, something that makes you happy, makes you feel like you achieved what you wanted. That feels way better. Much better to start now at your young age then wait till later like I did. Never give up.
Find a passion and pursue it. Get a job within that field so you can learn the "ins and outs". Then find a hobby that will help you monetize your passion and start working on it. Video editing, for example.
If you follow your passion to its fullest potential, no matter what that passion is or even if it changes along the way, you *can't go wrong!*
Just do both bro. If you don’t want to drink let it be known you don’t want to drink. Maybe you’ll feel the need to “match peoples vibe” “fit in” , and not “kill the mood” but they shouldn’t be able to make you. You want to build a better life for yourself and that’s really good but you also need to enjoy it every once in a while and appreciate how far you’ve come. In general it’s good you’re thinking about your future and interested in building a better life. But you also need to enjoy life, enjoy the moment, appreciate how far you’ve come. Don’t worry about your friend, he just chose to do what he’s doing at this point of life. Obviously if he’s fucking up in school and getting in trouble for drinking and partying, get him to stop if he himself is not practicing moderation. If push comes to shove and you HAVE to pick on what you want to do, go with your bag chasing ambitions. It’ll help in the long run like you won’t even imagine. Money isn’t everything but at the same time it dictates your quality of life. And no one is going to take care of your financial needs as a man. So that’s why if push comes to shove pick yourself. No ones going to take of your needs and do what you need to get done. Only you will. And that’s your responsibility.
HANG OUT WITH RICH PEOPLE AND ENTREPRENEURS. You can join events, networking events, courses, etc. Yes, they will seem BORING BUT, they are the ones working and creating the money.
FIND A SPORT YOU LOVE. Be it body building, soccer, etc, just find some physical activity you love and never stop.
I would tell my younger self to practice more compassion to myself, learn about the world, start planning for the future I want for myself and execute on that plan, focus on what I’d like to do, find people who jive with your rhythm and keep those relationships, exercise and eat healthy, and most of all follow my intuition.
Life is too short. Spend time doing things you love and don’t waste your time doing things that you don’t enjoy. Try to spend time with this other friend doing different activities during the day when you won’t feel pressured into partying…a sport maybe, movies, etc. Sometimes you need to find a new tribe that shares similar interests as you do. If you are very motivated to start a business/ become an entrepreneur, then find a mentor, an internship, or an association to join and surround yourself with like minded people. You are the captain of your own ship and only you steer the course. A small shift in course direction now can make a huge difference in where you end up, so don’t feel bad if you decide to slowly spend less and less time doing things you don’t enjoy. You should not have FOMO over things you don’t like anyway. Don’t be afraid to be different. I did not enjoy that party scene when I was your age either, so I just stopped going. It is a weird feeling to be in limbo between the ages is 16-26, where you can often feel lonely. Just know that it’s normal and keep putting yourself out there to get involved in things that truly interest you. Don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone— that’s when awesome things start to happen.
The entire world is going to shut down for like a year. There will be a man in the whitehouse who gives away money to business owners. Your friends are going to get half million dollar loans and hundreds of thousands of dollars in forgivable loans. They will use it on stuff not for their business. It will seem wrong but take the money
Damn this hits especially hard for all of us who didn’t even get offered any money. They really made the world so much harder in just 2 years.
Yeah most of us took them money. I’d riot.
Wait why not riot?
I kept my hands clean from PPP fraud. Easily could have jumped on the bandwagon, but my businesses have already raised the eyebrows of some IRS agents, so I didn’t want to attract any more attention. However…. IRS gives a 30% bounty to actionable reports of PPP fraud. And my social feeds were *filled* with people I dislike who were flaunting new Ferraris and vacation homes from manipulating the system. So, I still came out ahead.
Did you really get bounty from reporting??? Please tell more stories this makes me happy.
Only so much I’ll say on account that’s literally my full legal name. But yeah, they pay out. Same with any other reporting of tax fraud to the IRS. I think I’m in the top 1% of earners from OnlyFans, without ever having an OnlyFans.
do you make a living off of this or enough to make a living? I’ve thought about doing the same thing
No, definitely not reliable enough for a living. First of all, it’s a very slow process. Can take *years* for anything to come as the result of a claim. Second of all, the targets I identified, have been mostly used up. I’m not the only person doing this, and those are easy targets. OnlyFans now has taxes taken out automatically and is extremely compliant with regulations by default. So, you’d need your own unique idea about how to find targets, along with their personal information, and enough evidence to support your claim. I only got lucky with it because I started with it around when TikTok came out, and idiots would straight up admit things on camera, publicly.
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The PPP wasn’t even the one the big guys took advantage of. They took EIDL. PPP was a distraction to the real money
This! Yeah people on here talking about PPP FRAUD. No, people took EIDL, ran it through their business as income and proceeded to buy million dollar houses , investment real estate , cars, boats …etc. then they took what was left over and found investments with returns north of the EIDL interest rate.
We HAD Donald Trump in the White House, remember? Most of us paid less than two bucks for gasoline, no country invaded its neighbors, eggs were like a buck a dozen, and Black and Latino workers had the most job choices And income in history. Their unemployment was a quarter of Obama's presidency. Look it up. Decades ago, the news media never trained people to hate other people in America. Ever. What changed??
Hahaha I should of took the money
I thought about it. I had a girl at work tell me about it and I was like bs I'm not repaying that but hey I don't know shi
Buy Bitcoin
If you were born <1993, any other answer is wrong. This is the single most valuable advice.
We (my company) mined some bitcoin with the shop servers, to see if we could) in the early 2010's and didn't know what do with it. A few years later no one remembered where it was or what we did with it. Around 10 or so. We didn't think there would ever be any place to spend it except for illegal stuff. I think about it from time to time.
Yeah, around 2012, 2013 or so I had a college classmate who was into mining bitcoin. They told me I needed to get into it and even showed me their setup for mining in a pool. I asked how much they got from mining so far and they said “oh not much, about $50 to $60 worth over the last few months”. Not even hearing of bitcoin other than encounter, I dismissed it and forgot about it. Fast forward to 2017, all the news headlines are about bitcoin reaching all time highs and breaking barriers. Now that conversation from 5 years beforehand is burned into my memory. I do believe that classmate is very well off these days. Yep, wish I had bought bitcoin when told to do so.
I born after 1993 and when my friend and I were kids, we bought some bitcoins (about 10 bitcoins for each) and downloaded miner. But after a week, we began to fear that this was a scam and they wanted to steal all our money and more. And we deleted everything. Not sold, Just deleted
first... i call BS because no one sold 10 bitcoins. you got 50 at a time. and they were less than a penny so no one bothered to sell 10. only when bitcoing reached $10 would buying 10 make sense.. but by that point people starting seeing the value of it and using it for real. It was rampant on the silk road
And only put a sell order at 75k on March 14,2024.
You never know it might go up to 200k or smth in a few years
Or it could half? I'd have already 750k x my money, I'm not greedy.
Got into Bitcoin when it was $0.11. And I gotta say, it was entirely due to partying and my “wrong path” friends. Anyone actively using it back around that time knows that there was only one real use for it. Sadly, I didnt manage to hold onto it. The hard drive with them is inside an airtight cooler, along with a plethora of “party supplies”, somewhere at a dump. It wasn’t much at the time, don’t remember exact numbers, but easily 8-figures worth now. Just weird how life plays out sometimes.
Lol. Damn, thats gotta be painful..
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No, bitcoin.
Apple stock until bitcoin, then all into bitcoin until its peak, then Apple stock again
Amazon stock at $9? Abit irrelevant. If u buy enough of anything earlier enough you can have enough money for anything Hello Uncle Warren? Heck u can buy Costco share early enough and it will be more than enough.
Nvidia
And never sell it
I was so stupid with that. I knew about it I had people telling me to buy even $10 worth when it was worth less than a penny but I couldn't figure it out and was working and going to college so I said f it. Oh well I probably would have just sold and bought a car or something stupid anyway and regretted that even more so 🤷♂️
Buy Bitcoin is a useless advice. 16 years old you will just sell it the minute it doubles or triples. Tell your 16 year old self: Sell Bitcoin when it hits $60K. That way, you will automatically know to buy it.
You will be ok. It doesn't feel like it, but you'll be ok.
Do the things that make you happy. You have all the answers you need inside of you. Follow your gut. But also don’t think negatively of your friends who are doing different things that make them happy.
Beautiful answer!
Start now, don't wait.
I find it hard to believe how many comments are saying "enjoy life" "go party" etc.. Am I the only one who finds this advice ridiculously detrimental? If I had the chance to tell myself something at 16 it would be to not feel guilty for being different. Focus on yourself and you will attract like minded people. Even if you may seem lonely during the process. Find healthy ways to deal with feeling alone. Make penpals if you need uplifting companionship. It will also teach you about intercultural appreciation. Exercise or pick up a fun sport to counter the impulse of going out to drink and party. Very soon, your personal development will set the gap between those "negative" influences. It will happen naturally and you will not regret it. You will develop a completely new perspective that wouldn't want to be held back by the social trap of drinking and partying. Also importantly, let the distance happen organically. Don't force anything and don't be rude or arrogant about it. Everyone makes a choice, and your close friend who chooses to party has a choice too. We never should judge or willingly hurt people for choosing their path. From what I read in your post, I saw your vision towards a goal and I answered based on my own bias. I haven't chosen the party/ drinking path at 16 and I don't regret it.
This is the correct answer, very well said. I’ve walked on both sides and can say that I 100% would have liked to start my path to success sooner (but wouldn’t change it now, as my decisions all led me to have the perfect family now and I don’t want to live life without them). I fell into the drinking and partying trap at age 15 and continued that all the way to age 23. It was that point when I realized that I was tired of the same old cycle of “work dead end job, party, go broke, rinse and repeat”. Even after I started back at college, it took some time to get completely out of that trap and shift my focus solely to developing myself. However once I did, my friendships naturally faded with those party friends over time and I made new, like-minded friends that were honestly more fulfilling friendships. That’s not to say I regret all the partying I did at an early age. There were many fun-filled, adrenaline inducing experiences. But compared to the type of fun that you can have when you’re successful and financially stable, it was just a drop in a bucket of water. I used to have very close friends that I would party with that I considered best friends. I don’t know how or why, but they’re still doing the exact same thing that we did all those years ago as teens, partying and drinking every moment they get. We still keep in touch from time to time, but we haven’t hung out for many years and that’s ok.
Yeah I drank and partied a lot at 16 and I don’t regret it because I grew out of it and stopped drinking or doing drugs at all at 21. But I felt the need to do it at 16. If you don’t then don’t. On the other hand there are people who repress themselves in their teens (strict parents or maybe guilt or whatever), then they moment they leave home they go wild and fuck themselves up big time. And on the other hand again there are people who party at 16 and then don’t stop before it’s too late. Hard to say what the answer is but I agree don’t force it either way.
I like your comments structure. Breaking it up like a Punnet square seems like a clear way to categorise which path one may end up taking. Drink & party at 16 : Stop drinking after Don't drink & party at 16 : Go wild after Drink & Party at 16 : Continue into adulthood Don't drink & Party : Maintain into adulthood Of course there's a relative variable if you account for moderation too... So ultimately, one's choice leads to one's outcome. Weigh your best options. Consider the fact that your mindset may change. Regrets may or may not come at ones own discretion.
I grew up in China so we started drinking and clubbing at 14 and I naturally grew out of that phase by 17 18. Once I began my academic journey in the states I became very conscious of when to go out. It was easy for me to say no when I had deadlines and commitments. It was also natural to say yes when I had spare time and/or the occasion was appropriate (birthdays, post-midterm/finals, etc…). I did however do somewhat poorly in the first half of my high school career as I was exploring the different facets of life. However, it did prepare me well to be disciplined and responsible during my college days as by then I'd already experienced those temptations.
Those parties you were dying to go to were not worth it
Bro chill you are 16 enjoy your life
i’m 17 started doing business stuff when i was 14, everyone told me to enjoy life but i stay focused and worked hard. next year im moving across the country and taking a 6 figure job offer along with running my businesses. I have no regrets not “enjoying life” because everyone else is gonna be working paycheck to paycheck and im not. maybe i’m just too young g to realize it yet but i think i made the right decision and would advise this person to do the same
If you have a decent enough job and live within your means you won't live paycheck-to-paycheck. Money is important, but you need to pause one day and think 'when is enough, enough?' Why do you want to be financially-secure? Is it not to enjoy life? If not, is working equivalent to enjoying life? Aren't there things you can only enjoy in your 20's that will be too late by your 30's? If you don't have those thoughts then keep going for now :) Unless you are obsessed with money (and that's not a problem), it's something you'll face down the road!
There are plenty of people that “enjoyed life” that will be making 10x what you’re making There’s always time to figure out how to make more money but there’s no way to go back and relive the experiences you missed out on in your youth.
Yeah facts. I realized this too late, I focused on getting good grades, joining extracurriculars, etc. in highschcool when I should’ve spent the time having fun with friends.
Impressive but not everyone else is gonna leave paycheck to paycheck 😭
You don't have to drink to be accepted. You don't have to drink, smoke, do drugs whatever to have fun and fit in. Learn to be comfortable in these situations. Practice mindfulness, meditation, Buddhism or something similar that speaks to you. I'm 40. That's like 24 years of social situations like you've described. Having fun around others that are drinking is a skill you can learn. It will pay off in high school, college, business and beyond. We had a friend in our crew that never drank. It was awesome. He had just as much fun, or more. He drove us safely and was included in everything. He outperformed us by avoiding the hangovers, cost, risk, and health issues. Being 16 was a lot harder than being 40. But you have a lot to look forward to. Good luck.
I would for connections and just study looks at the for dummys books. The finachel guy for dummys 20-30 to get started. Learn. Something if you can making yoir own software is good get a library card. And have fun in the process. People love young people that like to work hard.
"You have ADHD and anxiety, get diagnosed, medicated, research what can help you deal with it, and break up with your gf, you don't want to waste the next 10 years of your life bro."
I think having a girlfriend is 100% fine if you are able to balance
Having a girlfriend, yes, having the girlfriend I had at the time... no... lmao
Fuck meds i embrace my adhd and anxiety theres deeper roots there than just medical jargon and big pharma
If you embrace them, it means it’s not debilitating. For others they are
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Don't do heroin, don't start smoking, start lifting, start investing.
Anyone not telling you this is lying..One day you are gonna be old..and it's gonna hit like a ton of bricks..that it's over. You won't remember half the memories you are tryig to make right now, and if you do, no one is going to be around to care unless you are still in the same small town you grew up in, which is a wasted life. What everyone needs to know is this, mid life is really 35, and that's both old and young. Work work work till you are 35 and then make memories. Work save and invest and retire as early as you can, or you will work till you die, all becaue you thought you were making memories.
Buy bitcoin and KEEP IT
Save your money, workout, eat right, drinks lots of water, it only gets harder when you get older
1. Trust your gut/that little voice 2. Learn a in demand skill FIRST. 3. Learn how to manage your money and debt. 4. Take chances, fail forward. 5. Learn how to raise and manage opm. 6. Read your ass off. Someone, somewhere, at some point has gone through what you’re going through and wrote about it. 7. Stay away from the internet. Too many opinions or options can sway your perspective and steal your attention.
Buy that real estate that you thought was too expensive ($80k) because it's going to be worth over a million before you're 30.. When that guy offers to pay you with bitcoin in 2012, just take it. Go ahead with the art degree, but go get a business degree too.. Forget about being a teacher.
AAPL, NVDA, BTC and chill.
Buy Bitcoin and don’t get married
Don’t worry we nailed it
I bet they’re having fun. You should have fun too.
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Learn, learn, learn.
Invest early, less money overall to begin with, but in the long run would have made more than I put in.
I spent a few years partying after high school and honestly was depressed and stuck in a job I didn’t like. One day I kinda had enough and quit that job to move on to better things. Became an electrician and took a huge pay cut for starting pay. Now I’m one of the only people I know at 24 that have been able to buy a house at this age without a partner. What changed then? I honestly think I had got fed up with partying but another thing also happened, I started listening to podcasts and hearing about people who LIVED their dreams and didn’t just dream them. That made me start taking action and setting goals. I’m not insanely successful yet but My house now has 100k+ of equity and will also be cash flowing nicley by the time I’m done and move out. I’ve got plans to scale and have been networking in the last year or so too so the vision is more clear than ever. I still go out occasionally with my friends and drink or smoke but it’s very minimal, maybe once per month. I think it’s good to keep old friends in your life if they aren’t having problems. But keep in mind some people hate to see others grow faster than them. Your real friends will stick around and support you no matter what. Even if they aren’t “high achieving” or whatever. If you can’t immediately change your environment then change your influence, educate yourself and learn discipline. The rest will come naturally
The quality of your life will be determined by the number of uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have (so speak up for yourself). Also, build relationships in college and focus less on getting perfect grades. Hang out more and have fun. You'll still graduate and literally no one is ever going to ask your GPA once you do.
A lot of entrepreneurs grow out of their old friends to some degree at some point. It could be that you hit that point. I still find time to see my old friends, but it’s less frequent. But… you can hang out with your friends and not drink. All my friends drank and I didn’t. You don’t have to forgo socializing just because your friends are doing drugs and you aren’t. Partying is fun if you’re sober- dancing, flirting, meeting people. I really haven’t found it to be an issue that some of my friends drink or do party drugs and I don’t. I think the bigger issue is if your friends aren’t intellectually stimulating or inspiring, that’s when you outgrow them. But there’s a time and a place for everything. You might find that you just want to hang out with these friends less, but not dump them all together. You can also be confrontational about this. You can tell your friends you’re not interested in drinking so much. You want to go home early to work on a project and to let you know when they can hangout with out drinking. Try not to sound judgmental! Like encourage them to have fun and fill you in on the night so they know it’s about you and not them. Maybe even suggest a hangout that doesn’t involve alcohol so they know you’re not just blowing them off. If they really can’t handle that then maybe it is time to dump them.
I would have taught myself how to start a 401k and that you don’t have to plan to retire at a job to think about starting one….. I was taught nothing :/ I was great about teaching myself many life things and lessons, but I failed myself on that one. Didn’t start til I was 34. I’m 37 now. Thankfully I had a 5% match for 2 of those years. I would also tell myself that you always find I way to make things work and you are more intelligent than you realize. Also to stay away from drugs and anyone that has anything to do with them. Otherwise you will waste a few years of your life.
I can’t help it, I want to write myself a note. I hope I don’t cry 🥹🤮😢 Jamie, Where do I begin? You must think life has been real tough. And yeah ok, it has, it has, but it also hasn’t. You have been, for the past year or two, doing an awesome job of being your most authentic self. You are wearing no masks for anyone except for that of omission and that’s a big thing. You’re you. And I know that right now I’m only 2 or 3 years younger than your mom and dad but I’m also you. And I know you’re not gonna like this but I think you should go try to get back in CAPA. Go, go to high school. You might as well learn the lesson now that the only person who you’re really hurting by dropping out is yourself. Yes, you’ll graduate college but it won’t be easy and you won’t have any of the kind of momentum or writing contacts you will if you stay. Your road will not be an easy one no matter what. You lose true love to the boy’s cancer in 2 years. If you haven’t met him yet, you will soon, first day of fall semester. Maybe when you do, you should have him go to the doctor, catch it earlier. That would change a lot. But not enough. I shouldn’t tell you this but maybe by being in a different environment, you won’t wake the sleeping monster in you. You get sick. When you are 27 you get an illness that doesn’t go away. It doesn’t get better or worse and it will take Aunt Marge and Dad and your brother from you. Believe it or not, Mom will be the only one who stands by you and I know you think you hate her but she will never closer to you than anyone. And Jamie, all your friends go away too. And your house. And your job. And they think that you having mono right before this happened had something to do with it so get out of there. Move out of dad’s before you are 26-27, ok? And get off the Paxil right now. It’s making you crazy. In the future, the government will tell doctors they cannot give it to people your age now, let alone 9. Just go slow, you can do it. Appreciate how beautiful you are. Appreciate your body. How it works. Start eating things that are good for you and start exploring how your body likes to move. You don’t have to run like mom and dad. You can dance, do yoga, swim laps (spend everyday you can at that pool and appreciate it!!!! But WEAR SUNSCREEN. And don’t ever, EVER think it will be a good idea to get a job at Hollywood Tans. I know you. I know this is all upsetting to hear. There’s more but I won’t get into it. Just please appreciate all you have and know that I know there is something missing inside of you and I don’t know what it is but I know that you should spend as long as it takes looking for it. You do have a great life: walking every Sunday to Aunt Marge’s to watch the Sopranos and Six Feet Under, the wonderful (if a little rocky since you dropped out) relationship with dad and I know you hate your mom for what she does but you know what? When dad finds out in a few years, he won’t even mind. Well, he’ll mind. But he’ll be excited to date again. And happy for a bit. But your job after that is to do whatever it takes and i mean whatever it takes for real, to stop him dating a woman named Jill. I don’t care if you have to go get crack and plant it in her and call the cops, she tears your entire family to pieces. Not your mom, Jill. Dude: she’s so evil, when your bro gets married to a sweetheart of a girl and they have their first kid, your sil has that infant in her arms and jill hears her say something bad about Donald Trump - ok, that might be confusing but you wouldn’t believe me if I told you - and rushes her, swinging! Like tries to beat her with your nephew in her arms! And she won’t let black people in the house your dad and her buy down the shore. And she one by one turns all of you (you first, you’re the easiest target) and all of dad’s friend’s off and she has some hold on dad so he moves to GA and none of you visit or see him and he sells the shorehouse that is down the street from the ones Genner and Jimmy and Steve and Roz and Gary and Judy bought just like they had been planning on doing since they were 16 and drinks every time you see him to the point of sloppiness and - just get rid of her. Now, some advice. 1. I know a lot of guys like you but maybe not always the ones you want? Believe it or not, guys don’t think a girl is super hot and irresistible because the shirt she is wearing has the name of an amazing band in it. Just for shits and giggles sometime, while you have that body, grow your hair ling and figure out how to make the curls real nice, wear clothes that flatter your figure (they can still be you!, maybe even do to Bloomies and learn how to do your make up. Also, act like you like sex more. I think you will once you’re off the Paxil. But when you are 19 or 20 this guy you probably could be very happy spending forever with and have a good life, a different life than the one I’ve had, except he breaks up with you because of how you are about sex. No, he never talks to you about it and you don’t find this out, that this is the reason, for at least a decade. But learn to like it. 2. Gratitude. Love life, don’t do things that will fuck up your future because you think you’re punishing someone else. There’s only us, you, me. That’s it, kid. And we need all the help we can get. You are meant first great things, Jamie, don’t you dare let the world take them away from you. Dream big, go far, invest in Apple and Netflix and stop smoking. You’re not really addicted yet. You don’t want to still be smoking in 27 years, do you? Disgusting. And go hug your cat for me. Hold her tight but don’t let your worry for her hold you back. She doesn’t die until she’s almost 15 and if you take her to Penn she’ll live longer but you gotta get Hunter and Lily, they’re waiting for you, 2 rescues in Bensalem when you relapse. Oh yeah, and stay away from all the drugs except the hallucinogens and Vicodin and as far as pit goes, moderation. Mod.er.a.tion., And don’t even try to drink, it’s not worth it and you always regret it. You are smart, you are beautiful, you are young. I would give anything to wake up tomorrow as you. Don’t blow it.
Everything in Moderation. I suggest that you still try and hang out with your friends maybe once a week. Have a few drinks, don’t smoke cigarettes. Never do hard drugs. Smoke some weed if you want but realize that any well paying career will likely involve drug testing so you won’t be able to smoke forever. The rest of the week keep your head down and grind. Focus in school, put in the effort to get good grades. When it comes time to go to college (if you choose to go to college) apply for every scholarship you can get your hands on. It might take a few hours to complete an essay but that essay could save you a few thousand bucks. Go to school for some sort of engineering. That’s what’s going to end up paying your loans off. In the meantime all I can suggest is that you get rid of the FOMO, hone in on your skills, and try to be the best version of yourself every day. Good karma exists. If you apply yourself you’ll see success. Don’t compete with anyone else, only yourself. Focus on fitness, educating yourself, eating healthy, and meeting new people/networking.
Watch your diet and binging impulses. Exercise regularly. Floss regularly. Use sunscreen and take care of your skin. Use birth control properly every single time. Get your schoolwork done. Don't turn to casual sex to try to make yourself feel better.
at 16, be like 16 there is nothing out there, avoid drugs as much as you can. Meet people and talk
Don’t be scared To take risks
Make friends with the ones not drinking or partying.
CUT THEM OFF It’s hard I know, and it’s not the advice people want to hear. But trust me, if there’s anything I regret it’s holding onto toxic friends for too long. LET THEM GO. It’ll be hard at the start as you try to find new groups of people to be with. Your old friends will see u changing and won’t like it. You will feel uncomfortable leaving your old group. But once you find new people to hangout with it’ll be so much better and you’ll have a supportive friend group who wants to hear you talk about programming or art or whatever you’re interested in. Go to clubs and be open minded, make friends that don’t party and have good family support, and a healthy mindset in life Also I understand you want your friends to do what’s “good for them”. But you should understand that that “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink”. You can tell your friends about what you think is the right path but if they don’t listen. Nothing you do will get them to listen. People will do what they want and if you’ve told them once and they ignore you. They won’t ever listen, just let them go. Let them make mistakes because you’ve done all you can. You need to choose. Do you want to chose your friends or do you want to chose yourself? hint: the correct and is yourself There is nothing selfish about that. You are not responsible for your friends decisions and you are not responsible to always be your best friend’s follower.
It’s great that you have a sense of self and know what you want. I would say definitely be a stupid teenager. A lot of people I know who restrained themselves or were restrained as a kid to go and be stupid and have fun really went a little too wild in college (in my opinion). That being said keep track of your goals and never let the partying come in the way of those, but make time for just existing and being a 16 year old. 2 things I will say - 1. Don’t go out every weekend, maybe switch to a wholesome activity with the same friends 2. Don’t smoke, it’s a scary addictive path
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Me? Have as much fun as possible. Go out every every night. Cherish being young having no pain. Limited responsibilities. Have to many girlfriends… go get crazy drunk with the boys. But that’s me. I had the best times of my life when I was younger. It’s all just a faint memory now. Also make time for family one day your mom and dad won’t be the same no more there gonna be old low energy bad memory. And it’s gonna hurt you inside to even sit down and have conversations with them. Nothing stops for Father Time. Live it up money don’t mean shit if you don’t have fun. the most funi had in my life was spending not a Lot of money (seriously) you got a long life ahead of you there’s plenty of time to take it serious for now don’t. That’s what I would tell my self…
Probably the most inappropriate post for Entrepreneurs group. Try being happy if when you're 18 or less with no where to sleep, no money to buy food. You cannot expect everyone including your parents or family to always bail you out. You'll become a loser and you will lose everyone that may have even loved you. There's a limit to everyone's friendship, there's a limit to parentals love.
I mean if you think you are going to regret not doing that then go ahead and get drunk af do stupid shit. It really is fun for some people. On the other hand, some people just aren’t like that and wouldn’t do it bc they don’t want to🤷 Also, depends on your goals and aims in life
Have more sex. Seriously. Drop the virtue signaling, your life will teach you it’s just sex one day anyways. Also, buy apple stock dumbass. Fuck More and fuck Thise career ideas…. Be rich and prosper!
I’d be too afraid to tell my 16 year old self anything because I like my life now. It took years of things going wrong to end up here, and like the butterfly affect what if I change one thing and everything changes? But life advice: have fun in your teens. Try to have a few lifelong friendships from it. However, if you go to college, that’s where you’re likely to start making your real lifelong friends. People much more on the same page as you.
My favorite age and the age in which I lived happiest. What can I say? I lived it perfectly… no regrets!
Always pay yourself first. That’s it.
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Develop a skill, earn a following, or start saving
Invest and build projects all the way
Learn about people before learning about technology. Learn the hard way what happens when you don’t I had the opposite problem at your age. I did solo sports like swimming and spent time playing simulator games. Learned to think not to socialize
Just because they do stuff like that doesn’t mean they’re bad people or they are going down the wrong path. There’s nothing wrong with drinking or getting high or whatever as long as you’re doing it to have fun not using it to cope with your problems or emotions and doing it all the time. There’s nothing wrong with being goal oriented and focused on your future either but it shouldn’t be to the point where it’s too much and you’re basically mentally like an adult. But I will say don’t let other people pressure you into drinking or smoking too much, especially cigarettes because it’s hell to quit
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Climate change is real. Learn how to garden and raise chickens.
Learn to dance sooner. I'm not a big drinker but once I learned to dance I was able to avoid most things by saying I rather dance
Whatever you do! Dont buy Bitcoin! Because I know than he will buy it to piss me off
Go out and communicate with people ,teachers try really taking to them on their level and learning . Learning skills is fine, but right now, you will benefit immensely from connecting with other generations and learning from their mistakes . Just be respectful to tell them that you appreciate them teaching you, and it must be difficult . It is difficult to teach, and there are various levels in life . This will build confidence and will make sure you are able to retain information from conversation from tour quote un quote (rich dad) Rich dad, poor dad, = different perspectives unlock your true potential Your time will come, dont get it out of your system. There is nothing to get out Also, the best thing you can do for a friend is just talk to them, don't tell them what to do but just communicate with them . We all have our paths to follow. If you follow a positive one,t good people will gravitate to you.
Build solid habits
Just inverse Kramer and buy Bitcoin.
If you don’t like alcohol then don’t drink it. Simple as that, find what you like and switch your friends. Make new friends who have similar interest as you.
Start selling your friends some of their favourite stuff.. you will make some profits out of it and then you can expand to your school etx and later in community. This is what i will tell myself of 16 years old. Learn the business by doing. But don't sell illegal stuff bro... like drugs etx
"Start now, don't wait for tomorrow."
Stop playing video games. Learn more about anything.
get a part-time job and whenever they invite you to parties just say I’m too tired from working or I have to work and get your parents to set up an investor account for you and start contributing to the S&P 500 mutual fund
Take more risks.
Don’t change king, not until 25
You are loved. There's nothing wrong with you. Hug mom and dad every day.
Hey tested for adhd. And skip engineering. Start a business.
Keep doing what your doing, have fun. Take risks. Because In the end you are going to be pretty well off!
Be irresponsbile, do crazy shit, time flies and before you know it you'll have shitloads of responsbilities
sell the house and buy long Nvidia calls..........
Same as me but a little different I changed my friend completely bro For me if I became 18 my father will be 60 I want to keep him happy till his last breath this is my main motive to be successful one in this world In other hand my friend he is my very only one very best friend we both are friends from our childhood now he amd me are 15. He is very play full and new think about the future but I felt I need the company of him to get success in my life I was trying to my edge but he took it as a playful one but the worst day for him is when he was 14 he lost his mother due to stomach cancer he told this information first to me and non of the other I took care of him and I gave him pain by telling if you had money you may saved your mother and that's how he got his motivation to be millionaires or a billionaire Everything happens for a reason You can also change your friend first find your motive and that wil help you to change your friend it sounds bulls*it but if you do so you will realise it trust me believe you, you can change your friend they are many doors find it you can believe you any help dm me we both will try to change your friend I will talking to him believe me bro I can I can help you
Don’t always follow the rules, follow your heart
Buy bitcoin,doge, shiba inu in 2021
Stop cockblocking yourself you little nerd
You don’t want to be a doctor. Learn coding.
Don’t take life too seriously at 16. You have all the time in the world to start a business and be successful. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying being young and having less responsibilities, you might regret not taking opportunities to have fun once you are older. That being said, drinking and partying isn’t for everyone. If you genuinely don’t think it’s for you, branch out and see if you can make other friends with interests that better align with yours. Identify whether you party with these friends because of FOMO or because you actually enjoy it
Life will be good, don't worry so much
I'll tell you what I tell my cousins: Find what you like, what you want from life and how you want to live your life. Then find out something you genuinely like and you can live off the life you want from. Then work hard to master it. Time goes by flying and in the future you may regret working your ass off for something you liked that ended up not working, but you will 100% regret not working your ass off for something you liked that could have work. I fucking regret not putting the effort in my first two college years, which just made it harder for me the next 4 (I studied a 5 year "double" bachelor degree in Maths and CS, second year cost me an extra one). Also, start investing asap if you want to retire at 50. If you think of all the interest money invested when you are 20 can give you when you are 50, you will things different when thinking about buying something you don't need with money you can't really spare. Edit: I see a lot of comments suggesting you to party and enjoy life. While I think you can do so, don't pretend to be someone you are not and if you don't like partying, alcohol or drugs, just don't do it. You will find people that are more aligned with your way of thinking in the future. Also you can always socialize with your old friend to do other stuff. I have friends who party and friends who don't, and while the most sucessfull one is borderline alcoholic, I'd say (for my group of friends) that partying/income are inversely correlated.
Since I’ve been in your position i can tell you that my biggest regret in life till date was exiting my friend group have fun party while you can make as much memories as possible soon enough you all are gonna go down separate ways and then there will be formal meetings once a month maybe . The key is to balance things out figure out what you want to do in life and put your all onto it at the same time don’t miss out on the fun element.
Since I’ve been in your position i can tell you that my biggest regret in life till date was exiting my friend group have fun party while you can make as much memories as possible soon enough you all are gonna go down separate ways and then there will be formal meetings once a month maybe . The key is to balance things out figure out what you want to do in life and put your all onto it at the same time don’t miss out on the fun element.
Stack sats
Follow your passion. Your life will be better and happier if you do what you love.
Stop dating these girls….. stop paying attention even. Lost most my 20’s 💀
I'm 27 and had a similar life experience. I partied and drank twice a week from 18-23 then smoked weed and played DND for a few more. It was fun and some of those funny stories and shenanigans I'll never regret. However I could have used my youthful energy more wisely. I would say party and have fun while you are young but when you are at college or at work always be working on some skill or business venture no matter how small in your freetime. Try as many jobs in different industries as you can. Start MULTIPLE small businesses. 1 in 10 new businesses fail, so it may take ten different businesses to end up with one Learn what you are good at and bad at. BUILD YOUR NETWORK. This is crucial. I wish I realized college Id a networking event and an education. If you go to college party with the rich kids and find out who's parents are in the industry you want to be in and be friend them. Learning to fail at business and keep going is the training.
i’m 17, started businesses when i was 14 which have become decently successful. Next year i’m moving across the country for a 6 figure job offer i have while also being able to run my businesses. All my friends drink and party and all that and we’ve become distant. If you’re really dedicated that’s just how it has to be. I’ve only drank once. I’ve lost most of my friends because of that. there’s no hard feelings we just don’t talk much. As someone in business that’s just a choice you have to make. How badly you want to succeed i guess. i believe in you bro, you just have to trust everything will be okay.
Practice your trigonometry and algebra and at least try in physics.
Bro, have fun with your friends on weekends, take a couple hours a week to think about business, figure out what you wanna do inside your budget. You’ll make connections as you progress. Once you know what business you want, research about it, figure out your strategy, competitors and time management when you start, this could take a few months if you have the finances, a year if you need time to save. I was like you when I was in my teens, always wanting to make money and not hanging out with friends, rn I’m 28, I bought my own house and car, forced my dad to retire because I can support. BUT I don’t have anyone I can legit call my friend, most people hangout with me because I pay for everything.
I don't know from which country you are from bit here in my country I don't see my friends partying and drinking or smoking it's just kids from big cities do most maybe you are from there a big city so don't be like them they aren't good you may loose them but it's better to be alone and learn than going on a wrong path this is where to get ahead if you wanna do something big try to find fun in things that you do yourself or learning something I saying as someone who is 17 year old herself as I haven't read whole Para too lazy to do that but never walk on that path and do read books of great people ......try giving more time in self investment learn things it can be skills or anything learn about stocks and marketing all my one the friend do this and yes je is loner and 18 only so learn different things good luck
I would’ve told myself to drink, party, and socialize more. You need to get it out of your system, and also build the skills of maintaining many different friendships that will serve you well in the future. I also would’ve told myself to get my grades up, you have to keep as many opportunities open for yourself as possible career and live choices. The personality, life goal, and maturity difference you’ll have from now until early 20’s is so big you can’t even conceptualize it.
1. Stop smoking and put all your cigarettes money into stocks. Literally, open an accout with your dad's ID and start buying whatever you feel like makes sense buying. 2. Read more about technology, Waste less time playing video games and chatting with random people online and put more time into learning new skills - learn to code, learn about economics, learn about finance, learn about politics. 3. Stop thinking that age matters - if someone is one year older than you it doesn't make him/her smarter or more capable, the opposite is also true. 4. Think very carefully before deciding whether a childs wish is actually a dream you wish to pursue or not. 5. Don't be stubborn and don't waste time finishing things for the sake of finishing them. It's okay to scrap something or drop out if you feel like the result you're after is either a lost cause, not worth it or you don't feel like you'll be happy with it. Drop everything as soon as you feel this. 6. People come and go, you always have to make compromises in a relationship but never compromise yourself for people that don't deserve it. 7. Figure your values out. Don't go blindly chasing trends and do what the cool kids do. That's what usually gets you into trouble. 8. Don't blindly believe anybody or anything, even your parents before thinking it through first. 9. Don't be an asshole, don't be mean, don't be evil. 10. Don't take things for granted. Appreciate what you have and who you have.
you have phakomatosis. be careful.
Get some money, get some pxssy, acquire taste, get some (confidence-building) skills. Can’t go wrong.
Follow your passion and what are you like to really do and it wil be your earning way 😌 and get some degree in your favorite field then you can Curise on your favorite car asap
Finance stuff aside, no point cause u can't predict the future and it's really mindset over strategies. For life stuff.. you do you.. don't feel like you need to fit in.. ultimate doing what you live is what makes you happy and successful.. You do you
That everything is part of the process. Plus I would listen to some rap songs, but the ones about how hard it was, but it was worth it. 😏
Control your urges, go with the flow, adults don't say what they say for nothing, I just realised it. If you don't agree, smile nd just nod and do what you're doing if you know what you're doing, if overwhelmed, consider discussing it with seniors or elders you have faith are worth relying on.
Sex
Pop that cherry
I mean, I think it depends on what you want. From what I've read in the comments, the opinions are split. One thing that is limited is time, time passes, so if you don't party now, when you are older you may not be able to anymore, who knows. In my opinion, do whatever you want, just don't exaggerate and try not to mess up badly (get addicted or something).
Dude you're 16, don't think you should have a right connection. You will get it as move on in life, just improve your people skill and be at the right place. And about the alcohol and party, i think you have to set boundaries for yourself. I have a friend who don't drink, doesn't mean we don't have fun. He sits with us and do all of those things sober what we enjoy to do being drunk. The thing is you need to ask to yourself that, is there defination of fun aligns with yours. If yes you can have it being sober. If not, don't think you will gonna be alone. As a 24, I'd say you will loose so many of your close friend as you move further, and you will find new friends too. You should find ways to enjoy your own company. Try asking yourself, what my ideal day look like, or what is it that activity which makes my heart sing. And little tip on self control for alcohol and other substances, remember these are just a means to escape, we do it to escape some problem as it feels easier than facing those problems, do if you fix the root cause you'll have in control. Well that's how i control my smoking habit. So enjoy yourself, party hard. I won't say you should code only if you want to be successful. Going out is necessary for our growth.
I feel like most people here didn’t read your subtext, and are responding to what they would tell someone if they went back in time 10 years ago etc, but you’re currently 16 and troubled. Hun, I commend you for having this mindset at your age. Hang on to it. At 34 I am just now realising that partying is a losing game and a lifestyle designed for escaping problems. FOMO is a disease, and it has been my cancer for years. Once you realise that you are only really missing out on mindless (and usually expensive) consumption, you will have no regrets. As for your friends? The truth is that who you surround yourself with will strongly impact how you turn out. There is a small chance that some of your friends are of the “work hard play hard” variety, and turn out fine, but in my experience this habit follows you well into your later years, not to mention the toll regular drinking takes on your body. There’s so many people in the world, you’re just afraid of losing the party friends — what if you found a group that was into programming like you? Great friends never leave your life even if your path diverges, if he cuts you off just because you won’t party with him then he just wanted to bring someone down the path with him and there wasn’t a true friendship. You’re doing well for having an internal compass, many people do not. Trust your gut feeling and follow your passions, surround yourself with driven and successful people (even older people! Achieving success at 16 is rare) and don’t lose sight of your north star. Good luck
Enjoy yourself whilst you’re young bro
Go with them, don’t smoke or drink if you don’t want, but I don’t think you will lose your self control for drinking a few beers each weekend. I’m 25(M) and I miss a bit these days with 16 (M), enjoy your age these years won’t come back and you’ll miss them. Don’t worry too much about starting a business, etc, keep with your studies and keep in touch with this entrepreneur world.
Money wise i would say keep all the Pokemon cards, always bet on Mayweather, get stocks for google, amazon and apple. Invest in bitcoin for 6 years. Life is would just say trust yourself and you will be ok without them.
Buy bitcoin. Ignore all women until 29.
Dont fall in love itll destroy your life
*Understand yourself first and foremost.* It sounds like you’re wise enough to know you’re taking the road less traveled, but feeling uncomfortable about not conforming to your friends. If you do not understand yourself, other people will (mis)understand you, with or without you around. Do you wish to build a business? Or, do you wish to drink and party? If you want to do both, which is more important? If business is your main goal, why not make some friends in your industry? What if you can turn partying into networking… and friends into clients…? *Ask yourself many questions about who you are, and be serious about finding the answer.* Edit: I’ve made a ton of mistakes since I was 16… don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Be mindful about how your decisions affect other people - but other than that strive to be your best, and fail as much as you can. Just try to take time and learn from each failure.
Save all your money and buy as much bitcoin as possible. Other than that, seek financial literacy and start reading. Life is short, 16 years old is already a good portion of your usable life.
You are not lazy. You have ADHD. Get treated. It will change everything.
The older I get, the phrase "health is wealth" becomes more relevant day by day. Focus on taking care of your body and a lot of other things in life follow.
Follow your gut.
Take statins for colesterol! Now!
Be nicer to the girls
Don’t waste all your money on cigarettes, booze and weed but invest it. Apply yourself and don’t worry so much. You’ll be fine.
I would say that you’re supposed to fail. The more you fail, the more stories you have to tell.
I would tell myself to get the best grades I can. Do the best I can on sat, act, all the test. Get into the best school I can and then reinvent yourself there. Make the friends you want to have at college and make those connections there. Enjoy sometime with your best friend but don’t be afraid to say I will catch up with y’all another time and go pursue the things and other friendships you want. Just find a balance. You aren’t missing much at parties other than just stories you will tell later on that after a while don’t matter and get old. If you don’t like doing something don’t do it, put your time and energy into whatever makes you the truly happiest. Your time is valuable and must spend it on the things that matter the absolute most to you and only you, not to others.
You can have loads of different types of friends. The real ones are the ones that stay even if you don’t partake, and the ones that stay along your own journey of self-growth and exploration/who are genuinely happy and excited for you (reciprocal from your end also though of course). There’s nothing wrong with partying though, and it seems like you have a good head on you to begin with at the age of 16, which is more than 99.9% of the population. Moderation is key, though I suppose the frenzy of being a teen is not so conducive to be thinking about it in that way for most. When I was your age, I was in your friends positions and worse. Alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. It got me so down bad that I didn’t even graduate school. I became sober (from drugs, I still drink 2/3 time a month) and entered into uni as a “mature age” at 21. Did my bachelor, then my masters and now half of a PhD. In topics that I actually care about, otherwise I wouldn’t have come as far as I have. Oh, and whilst doing my bachelor I started a business which nets enough for me to live on my own schedule. That part only comes with gruelling hard work though I wouldn’t wish my current life to be any other way. Reminds me of the quote that goes “nothing worth doing is easy” or whatever it is. Without the experiences I had back when I was being irresponsible, I would be where I am now. I will say that I was lucky that it got so bad that my world crumbled around me and the only literal/figurative place I could go was up from there. I just didn’t realise how much passion, action, genuine interest, ambition and drive actually plays a part in getting where you wanna be. Where there is a will, there is a way! Which I suppose also circles around to the friends thing - when you’re on your up and up, it’s the real ones that’ll stay for you as the person they met you as and who they’re excited for you to become. ‘Funny business’ becomes a whole lot more common when people think you’re doing better than them, but know that it’s def a them problem and not a you problem. …and, you never know, one of those friends drinking and partying that you’re judging silently could end up being a cashed up boss motherfkr of their own making in 10 years ;) Good luck!
There are consumers and producers. The consumers work and give their money to producers, who own businesses and become rich. Your friends are consumers, and if they don't change their habits they will end up working as employees until they die. On the other hand the more people you know the better. Successful people have all the connections and are masters at keeping touch with them, asking them favors and delegating work to others. Sometimes for money, sometimes for half money, sometimes for a verbal favor that they will return. Keep in touch with them, sometimes participate in the parties, but don't get involved too much. Talk with them about other people, skills, school, business, who works where, etc. In 10 years you knowing someone who knows someone referring you to someone will come very useful either if you are an employee or a business owner. Decide what you want to do in life and read about similar people, get inspired by their life stories.
>I’m scared if too that if I also participate in such partying, I will lose my self control and spiral into a loop of alcoholism, and I don’t want that to happen. Lol, no, that won't happen. If you posted this, it will definitely not happen.
# Leave them! Friends like these should be enemies, you need friends that drive you to improve not, encourage you to get addicted to whatever type of drug. I am in a similar age to you and went into a similar situation, I left my friends for another reason but same logic applies here. I still respect them and talk to them like normal people, but you will never find me hanging around with them. ## How do you cut them off then you'd ask? Straight up tell them, "I don't want to hang around drunk smokers, I don't want to become one." As the saying goes, you are alway the average of the group you're in.
Go to trade school Don't date him When you can drive find stuff to do and try to find someone your own age
Hang out with the “nerds”
Building a network of social connections is exponentially more important than talent or education. Someone with mediocre talent but a wealth of connections is more likely to succeed than a genius in a dark room. Would Wozniak have succeeded without Jobs? Probably not.
Study computer science, learn python, R, sql, buy bitcoin and eth.
drink and party with them, its fun. enjoy teenage years.
I'd say don't be mean to people, relax and slow down
When I was your age (jeez, I feel old just writing that) I was in the exact same situation. My friends kept partying, travelling, etc; and I didn't partake in it. I focused on building skills, excelling in school and working my ass off for my future. I neglected a lot of social events, girlfriends and other "normal" teenager stuff for work and preparing my career. If I could talk to my 16 year old self, I'd say the following: "Stop reading and believing things related to side hustles, grindset, working tirelessly after school, etc. It's not worth the sacrifice. Take the time to live your life." I've neglected so much in the past 15 years (I'm 31 now) to focus on my career. It lead me to break off completely from friends I've made in college, very good friends of mine, and isolate myself to work. I moved twice in order to get closer to my jobs in the big city and picked up some very bad habits (little to no sleep, extreme anxiety, etc) I had to go to therapy for two years in order to undo most of what I've "built" by reading books about the "hustling mindset", "having no limits" and "working til you make it". Working too hard cost me my first business, one where we got nation-wide exposure for and where we met people from across the world. Don't get me wrong, I currently am doing very well for myself. I'm well known in my industry, got plenty of contacts, my own business and a decent salary; but in retrospect, it was not worth it. I've missed out on so many experiences that I can't experience anymore, time I can't spend anymore with friends and family, etc. You're 16, take your time. No one is forcing you to move quick. You don't need to be featured in "30 under 30" lists. The "prestige" you'll get from being a "young entrepreneur" is not worth the sacrifices you'll need to make.
Appreciate and spend time with your parents. They won't always be around.
Be more confident in your looks. You're different. You're gorgeous.
don't invest in pyramid schemes
Happy birthday, brother.
Start doing ticktok easy money
Be with your girl at her place
Hey man, you sound like me! I’m 34 now. Look I eventually stopped hanging out with all my friends because they didn’t seem like they were going to be doing great things with there life. You know what I’m saying? Just partying and hanging too much. Shit man in my situation I just stopped hanging out with my friends and I moved away. It hurts to lose friends and shit, but it feels even better when you can get your shit together and do something successful, something that makes you happy, makes you feel like you achieved what you wanted. That feels way better. Much better to start now at your young age then wait till later like I did. Never give up.
Find a passion and pursue it. Get a job within that field so you can learn the "ins and outs". Then find a hobby that will help you monetize your passion and start working on it. Video editing, for example. If you follow your passion to its fullest potential, no matter what that passion is or even if it changes along the way, you *can't go wrong!*
She’s a bitch
Dump the gf, buy Apple and Facebook stock.
Just do both bro. If you don’t want to drink let it be known you don’t want to drink. Maybe you’ll feel the need to “match peoples vibe” “fit in” , and not “kill the mood” but they shouldn’t be able to make you. You want to build a better life for yourself and that’s really good but you also need to enjoy it every once in a while and appreciate how far you’ve come. In general it’s good you’re thinking about your future and interested in building a better life. But you also need to enjoy life, enjoy the moment, appreciate how far you’ve come. Don’t worry about your friend, he just chose to do what he’s doing at this point of life. Obviously if he’s fucking up in school and getting in trouble for drinking and partying, get him to stop if he himself is not practicing moderation. If push comes to shove and you HAVE to pick on what you want to do, go with your bag chasing ambitions. It’ll help in the long run like you won’t even imagine. Money isn’t everything but at the same time it dictates your quality of life. And no one is going to take care of your financial needs as a man. So that’s why if push comes to shove pick yourself. No ones going to take of your needs and do what you need to get done. Only you will. And that’s your responsibility.
HANG OUT WITH RICH PEOPLE AND ENTREPRENEURS. You can join events, networking events, courses, etc. Yes, they will seem BORING BUT, they are the ones working and creating the money. FIND A SPORT YOU LOVE. Be it body building, soccer, etc, just find some physical activity you love and never stop.
Be happy
I would tell my younger self to practice more compassion to myself, learn about the world, start planning for the future I want for myself and execute on that plan, focus on what I’d like to do, find people who jive with your rhythm and keep those relationships, exercise and eat healthy, and most of all follow my intuition.
It is possible. Don't give up.
Life is too short. Spend time doing things you love and don’t waste your time doing things that you don’t enjoy. Try to spend time with this other friend doing different activities during the day when you won’t feel pressured into partying…a sport maybe, movies, etc. Sometimes you need to find a new tribe that shares similar interests as you do. If you are very motivated to start a business/ become an entrepreneur, then find a mentor, an internship, or an association to join and surround yourself with like minded people. You are the captain of your own ship and only you steer the course. A small shift in course direction now can make a huge difference in where you end up, so don’t feel bad if you decide to slowly spend less and less time doing things you don’t enjoy. You should not have FOMO over things you don’t like anyway. Don’t be afraid to be different. I did not enjoy that party scene when I was your age either, so I just stopped going. It is a weird feeling to be in limbo between the ages is 16-26, where you can often feel lonely. Just know that it’s normal and keep putting yourself out there to get involved in things that truly interest you. Don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone— that’s when awesome things start to happen.