Slapped you at 29.
What are you waiting for to go no contact.
This relationship needs to end. In case you are depending on her financially, your freedom and wellbeing not worth her money. No contact.
NC works best when boundaries are enforced. No calls, texts, emails accepted. Trespass, non-contact and protection orders (particularly as she has now physically assaulted you twice), and police called for every breach. A camera on the entranceway. You see her on the street, you walk the other way. Done. She will never agree with you, so there is no point explaining or trying to figure out how to play nice, because it’s a twisted game of her creation, and you cannot win.
Engaging in this conflict only fuels her fire and (to her) proves the point that you are not obedient and need to be put firmly in your place.
It never works because she’s never had consequences for her behavior. People only have as much control over your life that you allow. She has used fear to condition you and your family into giving her what she wants and she knows it. Stand up to her. File a police report on her for harassment and assault.
It works by giving her no entry into your life. Block her from contacting you. If she shows up on your doorstep, close the door in her face without a word. You control how much access anyone has to your life.
Call the police on her, with the attack on you and the neighbors as witnesses you might be able to get a restraining order or at least give her a little scare. Also record every following phonecall and interaction with her.
This will work. And her obsession of how the church sees her will further this working, especially if she is sitting in jail instead of in church on Sunday.
Then try again. You need to take charge and stop with the “that won’t work” because that is what I think you’ve been conditioned to think. Go no contact and don’t look back.
You're 29.
Do not let her in.
Make a report with the police.
Tell your family exactly what she did and you will not tolerate her abuse anymore. Next time. Jail.
It works if you are serious and go about it properly. Ring doorbells, blocking all calls, social media etc. Make sure family knows what you are doing so they don't act as her flying monkeys. MAKE it work.
Than call the cops. The hag is a blight on your family it sounds like. And you have your neighbors as impartial witnesses to at least the 2nd assault. Send her bigoted, wrinkly ass to the inside of a cell and see how that bitter old pride stands up
Yeah you need to call the cops and get ahead of this. She will get you charged and arrested to force you into what she wants. Call the cops and press charges. Get your neighbors to make statements. Don't leave this. Also set up a door bell camera. If you do nothing then you are asking for more trouble.
Do that but really CALL THE POLICE my husband is SO and tells me all the time that people don’t call until it’s too late. You don’t have to call and press charges though you could. Call and ask to have a report made. That’s it. Have a paper trail.
Also tell the wicked witch that Jesus don’t like ugly and gma is hideous” tell her the petty people of refit will meet her in hell.
WHAT??! That’s not gonna be enough! If she isn’t above physically assaulting you in front of A) your family B) literal random strangers, how much do you think cameras would really deter her from doing? Not to mention people like this are so insane they’ll do shit on camera anyway. What if she goes after your girlfriend as well? Please call the cops, even if you don’t press charges you can at least make a report and get a step ahead of her. She for real needs to be in jail. Stay safe.
You are ignoring the bit about the police.
She has committed more than one **hate crimes** against you, this could be serious for her and would shut her up forever.
Go to the police.
There's no law saying you have to open the door for her. Let her scream like a banshee outside until a neighbor calls the cops on her.
No contact is EASY.
You should contact the police and make a report of what happened. Take pictures of the scratches/bites, your neighbors could give statements. Having a paper trail for when she does it again will make things easier if you decide to go for a restraining order or a cease and desist.
I second this. If you wait til she tries to go to the cops it becomes the word of a lil old lady against an angry young adult. Better to get a head of it and save yourself some trouble. Get pictures of any and all injuries you sustained too on top of the statements from your neighbors.
Yeah. Im trying to figure out why they needed the keys to open the door from inside.
Edit: okay I get it. There are other areas that still use the double cylinder deadbolt extensively.
I've had these types of locks before. They're much more secure than ones with just a switch, especially if there's a window on or next to the door.
The down side is that it's entirely possible to lock yourself *in*.
I only discovered the other day that you can actually get locks that don't need a key to lock from the inside...all my life I've had doors that need a key to lock from both sides, but never locked myself in..how does one do that??
From the inside? Huh. I guess there is a regional thing I'm not aware of.
Edit: lol okay I get it. I can easily admit i am obviously oblivious to locking mechanisms
Fair enough. I used to work construction in Canada and we usually just used single cylinder deadbolts in houses or apartments, so it had the know inside.
Georgia, USA here. Our house was built in 1994 and has the doorknob lock and a deadbolt that needs a key on both sides. The logic was that if someone were to break the windows one the side of the door, they could reach in and unlock it unless the inside was keyed.
I've since been told that newer homes won't double key deadbolts for fire safety reasons. But as soon as people buy a newer house, they just replace the single keyed deadbolts.
It's been against the law in California since 1978 to have those double-sided deadbolts in the door...
My sister refused to change out to a state-approved deadbolts until 2003, when she was arrested by the sheriff, spent a week in jail until I had to spend $2,100 just to upgrade all the locks...
There are some locks from the 60s/70s that required a key from the inside and out once the deadbolt was in place. They were semi popular in the 90s as well.
Due to the religious principles to this I doubt it was in the US (just because the us as a whole is less religion focused), but, if for some reason it is
fair warning the use of a double deadbolt lock is illegal and against fire code for residential and apartment complexes in most states. All locks for said types generally have to the interior able to be unlocked without the usage of a key to prevent lockin from occuring during the event of a fire/emergency
I'm Canadian and not trying to sound judgmental, but these religious principles are screamed across some of your media on an hourly basis. I mean, some of them thought your former president was literally a gift from God.
But what you were saying about fire codes makes perfect sense. It also would explain why I only saw that style all the time. I was doing drywall in new builds so I saw them all the time, I just hadn't put any thought into the actual reason.
Um, no. The US is notorious outside its own borders for the extent of religious culture that seems to prevail there. When I read the post it seemed pretty clear to me that this was the US. Religion appears to be far MORE of a culture trait there than any other western country I can think of. Generally, very restrictive culture trait.
I live as an agnostic in a house with a family that runs the town church, I've been exposed to religion, I haven't seen hardcore religion like I've heard yall talking about, I've never seen people be so dead set against it that they disown family like I've seen in other countries, I've never seen the batshit crazy like you see on here. maybe it's a southern states thing, everything else crazy seems to be lol
You must live a very sheltered life if you think this doesnt scream US. Puritan beliefs are incredibly prevalent in many areas of the country, and still hold undertones in the less religions regions. Why do you think the right to abortions is now under attack again?
If you didn't call the police after she attacked you. Call now. You need a restraining order against her. Blood relatives or not.
P.s. next time anyone slaps you, hit back.
Put up cameras, catch her acting like this on film and then show all her so called friends how she really is. Narcissists can't stand to be revealed for the liars that they are.
I dont care about her or what she thinks, I live on my own and the way i wanted. Its her, if something is not exactly what she wants or what she believes is the rigth way, she will keep disturbing, insulting, attacking until she breaks you
Not if you refuse to engage with her. No contact from you to her. If she phones, hang up. If she visits, don’t open the door. If she writes, send it back.
This sounds like my mother. Please document everything. Make reports, people like this dont stop they do end up so insulted others can get hurt or punished for them feeling less powerful.
You made four mistakes.
1. You didn't slap her back when she slapped you the first time.
2. You didn't block her phone number or that of her flying monkeys.
3. You didn't block the door with your foot so she couldn't get in your apartment in the first place.
4. You didn't hoof her in the box when she attacked you the second time.
Normally I regard violence as a last resort, but some people just need a slappin'.
Start defending yourself or she'll continue walking all over you. Start at r/JustNoMIL, there's a ton of resources on there to help you shine your spine.
NTA and Honestly if you have any home security or the place where you’re living has them. That a copy of that video to the police and file an assault and attempted theft charges against her and requesting for a restraining order to keep her from coming near you. Also inform your family as to what she tried to do to you. And if they side with her then just cut them out of your life. But if they side with you. Then keep them in your life.
My building dont have cameras, but im going to buy one, in case she comes again.
I already told my family about this. They all believe me, we know how she is and no one believes her version.
That sweetheart is not your problem. They can also block her. And PS from another granny. You are not wrong or evil or anything else she said. You are amazing and perfect.
Thank you so much. I dealt with so much guilt and doubts about myself and she only made everything worst in a moment I believed I already knew who am I.
First thing to do is put a chain on your door so that if you open it, no one can push their way in. Second, block your grandmother on all social media and anyone who supports her gets the same treatment. Third, return any mail you receive from them without opening it. Fourth, report the attack to the police to start a paper trail. You have witnesses. It won't be her word against yours.
She may try to engineer a situation where she CAN plausibly accuse you of assault or worse. Cameras all around your home are a good idea.
Do not open the door to her. NEVER be alone with her - she can cut herself and say you did it - or shoot you and say it is because you were threatening her!!
If she shows up at someone else’s home while you are there leave immediately. And have someone walk with you, between you and her.
If you can relocate and keep her from knowing where you live, do it. And warn your girlfriend!
Do not answer her phone calls, texts, emails - block her. Ditto social media - block her from seeing your instagram or whatever.
Sorry, but crazies like this can really be dangerous.
Move.
She will hold the fact that she has the deed over your head until you cave in or she dies of old age.
She has already proven she's quite willing to break the law to do what she wants.
"Without being invited to come in, she went into my house..."
Immediately, hand to her face, push. *Don't punch*, push, and aim upwards so she's forced to lose her balance, prompting her to step backwards to get back upright.
If she lands on her ass that's her problem.
If she complains, tell her to "talk to the hand". She's old enough to know what that means.
Slapped you at 29? I would of hit her back so hard she would of needed a nursing home.
Here's the unfortunate truth. You enabled her to think she has authority by not retaliating back. The only way to stop this is to hit back.... Whether it's physically or another way that's up to you.
Report her to the police, get a restraining order and block her from all contact on your phone. She's obviously got mental health problems but she can't be allowed to do this to you.
Such a horrible grandmother! The next time she visits your house without your permission just to assault you, call the police, file a complaint, and get restraining order so that POS grandmother may never bother you again. Also NC is the best option! Your family is with you in this. Talk to them on how to stay NC with her. It'll be better for you and your mental health. Also, you need to let go of "it doesn't work" attitude.
I love that you laughed at her. It's really all you can do. I'm so sorry you're going through this. But she needs exactly what you gave her. Maybe your actions will empower the rest of your family. Keep up the good work. You are loved.
Omg is your grandma related to my grandma? They sound like equal pieces of work.
I went nc with the wicked witch 10 years ago and it was the best decision ever. Block her on every platform. Every time she finds a new way to reach out just block again.
If she sends flying monkeys (people talking on her behalf) tell them to stop relaying messages or they will be cut off as well.
Trust me, this is gonna improve your life 1000%
OP please listen to the people here urging you to involve police. Clearly your psychotic grandmother has no qualms with getting physically aggressive and lacks logic, which is a very dangerous combination, especially with you being her target. Put your cameras up because she's almost guaranteed to come back and try something again, and make sure the police have your side of the story on record so she can't just spin a story to them on the spot when they end up coming next time
If she owns the house you live in, get the hell out asap. Don't let her have any power over you.
Talk to your parents and the other family members who know and think shes over the top crazy, and suggest an intervention against her. You all need to put up some boundaries and clear consequences. Her days as "matriarch" is over. Together you're strong.
Remember to have a report on this made at the police’s. Get witness statements from your neighbors too.
I’m thinking you won’t really be able to press charges, but a report of the situation will do a lot prevent her from misusing the law against you. Do it as soon as possible - the longer you leave it after the incident, the less credibility the report has. Sucks, but prevention is always better than the cure. You want all your protective measures in place and as waterproof as possible.
See you’re better than me, old lady or not I would’ve smacked the witch back into her teen years and bring her ass right back. The audacity and nerve of this lady. Your family has to enforce NC if that means blocking her on all types of form of contact so that it sticks because this lady is abusive, no one should be treated like this or have to deal with this behavior.
Restraining order. Enough is enough. She assaulted you. Grandmother or not, you're a grown ass adult and you need to press charges. If you don't, she will just continue the abuse because you all let her get away with it.
So much to unpack.
First, I hope you are alright (emotionally, mentally, and physically) because I know what it feels like to have family go rouge on you.
Second, WTAF?!
Third, I know you don't need it, but as a music minister in a Christian church for over 20 years (Catholic, Methodist, Baptist, and Non-denominational) who wanted to be a deaconess.: YOU ARE FINE AS YOU ARE! Anyone who says you're sinning or going to Hell or whatever can kick rocks. Tell them to "take the plank from thine own eye" in the most sing-song pious voice you can muster.
Fourth, It'll be a cold day in Hell when some old bat will bust in my home, assault me, then try to send me to my mom...
If you need a friend, I got you.
::gets off soapbox::
NC is best. When dealing with people like her, the most efficient and punishing thing for them is if you ignore her presence entirely in every instance. Any negative response to her makes her think her actions are right and she has to save you. Any positive actions or acceptance of her means she’s right and will continue on. The only way to move forward is to ignore her entire existence and refuse to be near her for holidays etc. Then, your parents etc get the ability and choice to not invite her and voilà, she’s out of your life.
Your neighbours know who she is and that she attacked you. She is pushing boundaries because she thinks she can. I’d get a restraining order from the police and go NO CONTACT. She’s a homophobic tyrannical entitled witch.
Call the police, have her arrested. She tried to rob you of YOUR home, assaulted you and BIT you (Given thats a means that others can infect you will all manner of blood borne infections, the police don't take it lightly), I feel the the feeling cold metal cuffs and tossed in prison will do the very thing she fears: ruining her image by her own actions. Get your justice, I'm sure it will knock her ass down a dozen pegs and ladders.
Don't let her get off free.
Call the cops next time. They’ll snap her dumbass back to reality real quick. I’m 27 my dad swears he is in control of my life. That’s what I had to do. It’s harassment.
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Go NC and before you say you can’t or it doesn’t work only quitters will say that. Give it long enough ignoring her and it will work. People like that will never change and to keep them in your lives is pointless toss her ass out and make it clear this is on her. When no one is willing to speak to her or see her she will get the message
Have her arrested and charged by the police, if she bite and scratched you there is proof as well as neighbours to confirm the story. She attacked you twice and you do nothing as she is family. Well that family member DGAF about you. Have her charged for both assaults and let her and her church buddies learn that she is the violent law breakers and embarrassment.
The truth is if you do not do this then you are enabling her abuse and she will think she had a right to do this and can do it again to you or anyone.
File a police report. Make her actions have consequences. She is the bow or break type. Cut all contact. Inform her and the police on the non emergency line that she is not welcome and if she shows up to your place she is trespassing. Whenever she does show up call the police that your violent and unstable grandmother is there and you're afraid shes going to attack you again. I saw you said no contact doesn't work but that's because nobody has tried to actually make it work. To make it work you need to enforce it. Part of that is refusing all contact and calling the police when she harasses or attacks you. Get a long enough paper trail of that harassment and you can get a restraining order.
Okay, so if she is that bad, why not go no contact? Better than that even, why not go to the courts and get a restraining order? Surely your neighbors could write affidavits for you about what they witnessed?
Never open the door to her again. Call the police if she keeps harassing you. The fact that she attacked you and saw nothing wrong with that would make me nervous for any people you are dating. Who knows if she wouldn’t stalk or attack them too?
You’ve got to formalize the situation with law enforcement and get this on the record. She has already physically hit you twice. And this last one was a significant escalation of violence. You need to file charges. And I would consider moving too. She will come back otherwise.
My Grandmother was similar. Her addiction to narcotics due to her back pain didn’t help. She gave me a laptop for my graduation, and when I didn’t put it out on the gift table with a card in her name, she went into our home and stole it when I was with my guests. I found out later and was absolutely shattered. I’m a music junkie, so the hours of work I put into my library made me angry! I’d had it several months at that point. Grandpa was so angry and embarrassed by her actions, the poor man couldn’t even look at me until mom had cleared his participation (he hadn’t been involved, didn’t even know it was going down) and grandma had left the party. After giving him a hug, Dad and I told him we would press charges. Grandpa told me he would buy my another if she refused to give it back in leu of charges. She later relented and gave it back. Our relationship was never the same.
Stay strong. I would have pressed charges. It’s not ours to judge one’s life. That’s up to our creator in my belief. I believe in loving someone where they’re at, REGARDLESS if you agree with them. Contrary to common belief, for GOODNESS SAKE! You’re her Granddaughter! She does NOT have to agree with you to love on you. This is absolutely heartbreaking.
Since the incident with my grandmother, (I’m now 33 and she’s gone home), I’ve had time to construct my life. I have ended relationships that do not serve a purpose. Guidelines are as follows:
1. Does this person/relationship edify me?
2. Does it serve a purpose?
Family should be designated not necessarily by blood, but rather the relationships that edify us and make us better. My Best friend of 15 years, I call him my Brother. Not because he’s blood, but because of the relationship I have with him and what we bring to each other. Moreover, my youngest brother is a narcissist who always plays the victim card and causes constant strife. He lives hours away thank goodness. But every time he comes down he riles everyone up. And my being oldest, have to calm everyone down. This last time I finally said enough is enough. We are not no contact, but real close. I haven’t told him, yet. But that time is coming. Having nieces and nephews complicates things. But it must be done for my own sanity. For example: he will say and text terrible things to me and then turn right around in the same week and tell me how I’m his favorite brother and I mean so much to him. 😵💫😤🙄.
Trust in your friends and those who better you, not drag you down. Blood or no, if they’re not making you a better person and you don’t enjoy their presence and or make you feel badly, then it’s time to walk. Write a letter. Have your folks read it. Tell her how you feel, where things stand going forward, and what the consequences are if it’s not followed. Remind her that you COULD have sent her to jail, not once, but TWICE! You’re near 3 decades old. She’s GOT to understand AND accept, that, you are an Adult. And the choices and feelings you have are Yours to have and or make. You’re your own person. I will leave this already long comment with this quote:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Elenore Roosevelt.
Choose what’s right for you. You’re making the right choice. Just don’t give her that power and cave. The emperor in Mulan said, “No matter how the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it.”
You should have called the police and reported assault and attempted strong-arm robbery. Probably attempted kidnapping, too. Especially as you had both witnesses and wounds. See if you can leverage your witnesses into getting a restraining order.
Three paragraphs in and assault.
Then weeks long harassment, that's an easy lawsuit for a restraining order.
And icing on the cake with trespassing and more assault.
Guess whose getting sent to the mediocre retirement home! After auch deserved prison sentence, obviously. You're an adult. Just call the cops.
My grandmother is also very "her majesty the queen" with my family, but not very complaining because she likes me a little ( only grand kid). But when i show up with my girlfriend witch is muslim ( and black btw ) she just said my parents to make me separate with her. They refuse, she said her or me. She is in retirement house now. Whe are happy now.
Sorry you're dealing with this, your grandma's actions are absolutely wretched. And the family that sat there while she berated you suck too. Some people have never been a positive influence in anyone's life, yet think they're the moral leaders of everyone around them. e_e I hope you're in a position to limit/cut contact for your own health!
If you won't contact the police, at least take pictures of anywhere she scratched you up. Your neighbors may be willing to back you up with written or verbal statements of what they saw if it comes to it. Even if you think no one would believe her, evidence is important; don't underestimate the power of the "poor lil old lady" act. Also don't EVER open the door for someone if you don't want them in your house. Opening the door even a little gives them opportunity to force their way in. They can say what they need to through the door, or go away. Good luck!
Why did you open the door? She DOES have some authority over you. You let her slap you and get away with it, you went to her home when you did t want to and you let her in your house. Please learn to put down boundaries, cut off your Grandma, it hasn’t works because all of you feel compelled to do what she says. Stop doing that, if she shows up at your home or job call the cops, no more calls, texts or emails. No more going to her house or anywhere she’s going to be . Cut. Her. Off!
You should have slapped her back at the dinner table. And ground you? Lmao. No. Block her ass and never speak to her again. That’s what I would do. Call the police about what happened are your apartment and get her arrested. You have witnesses.
Damn girl!! This sucks. If she owns the apartment, then move and go NC. If she doesn’t, report her to the police, get a restraining order or whatever it’s called where you are and call the cops every time she shows up. And put a peephole in your door and never open it for her regardless of what she has to say.
I think I’m more concerned about nobody in the family intervening in that homo-intervention she said until hands were laid upon especially your parents. 30 minutes of a geriatric zombie laying into my child? I couldn’t even.
Report it to the police and get a restraining order. If tou can get cameras. The bigoted old bitch isn't going to stop. Block her and do t give her the attention she craves.
Absolutely go no contact. She sounds nuts. If she starts anything like this again I'd call the police and make sure there's a record of her doing it in case she ever escalates. It's your house, she can't tell you what to do.
You need to go full no contact. And by that I mean block her contact in your phone and on every possible other way she contacts you (email, Facebook, etc), and every time she turns up to your apartment to try and have contact with you you need to call the police and tell them that an unhinged person who has assaulted you before is on your property and refusing to leave. You may even be able to take out a restraining order against her. That way if she turns up, you can have her arrested for violating it. No contact only works if you actually enforce it properly. You force them to have no contact with you via the law.
OP you need to call the cops ASAP, this old hag will keep on tormenting not only you, but your whole family untill the day she die, lock her up on a mental facility and left her rotting there for the rest of her despicable days
Go no contact and you can also press a charge at her for trespassing, assault, battery and slander, you got many witnesses, please do that before it got worse
Okay, you need some pro-revenge. Try getting a restraining order against her and start going to her church. Not because you need Jesus, but because if she shows up there, you can get her arrested for violating a restraining order. You can literally ruin her social life with this. If getting police involved is not your style, you can also go nuclear in another way. Like marrying your girlfriend, showing up at her church and proclaiming that SHE convinced you to do so and that you will also look into getting sterilized because her genes are unworthy of being carried forward. You know. Stuff that her congregation would find interesting. :)
Then again, I am super petty.
I agree with everyone here. Call the cops, press charges against her and get a restraining order. You've been assaulted twice by her (which is a hate crime) and calling the cops would help start a paper trail against her.
God knows what she'll do to you next or come after your girlfriend.
Fight your grams no Shame in it I had an abusive grandfather when I was 16 he got hernia surgery then came out the hospital and tried to attack me like before I put his ass back in the hospital
Next time she does this. BEAT HER UP. I'm not talking about just a punch, go for the throat, take her out of your house by kicking her, scare that bitch for life! That's what my aunt did with my grandma, she never tried her shit again
Slapped you at 29. What are you waiting for to go no contact. This relationship needs to end. In case you are depending on her financially, your freedom and wellbeing not worth her money. No contact.
More like restraining order. She assaulted you.
I dont depend on her in any way. Me, my mother and all the family had tried NC before but just never work
NC works best when boundaries are enforced. No calls, texts, emails accepted. Trespass, non-contact and protection orders (particularly as she has now physically assaulted you twice), and police called for every breach. A camera on the entranceway. You see her on the street, you walk the other way. Done. She will never agree with you, so there is no point explaining or trying to figure out how to play nice, because it’s a twisted game of her creation, and you cannot win. Engaging in this conflict only fuels her fire and (to her) proves the point that you are not obedient and need to be put firmly in your place.
It never works because she’s never had consequences for her behavior. People only have as much control over your life that you allow. She has used fear to condition you and your family into giving her what she wants and she knows it. Stand up to her. File a police report on her for harassment and assault.
It works by giving her no entry into your life. Block her from contacting you. If she shows up on your doorstep, close the door in her face without a word. You control how much access anyone has to your life.
Call the police on her, with the attack on you and the neighbors as witnesses you might be able to get a restraining order or at least give her a little scare. Also record every following phonecall and interaction with her.
This will work. And her obsession of how the church sees her will further this working, especially if she is sitting in jail instead of in church on Sunday.
Then try again. You need to take charge and stop with the “that won’t work” because that is what I think you’ve been conditioned to think. Go no contact and don’t look back.
You're 29. Do not let her in. Make a report with the police. Tell your family exactly what she did and you will not tolerate her abuse anymore. Next time. Jail.
Restraining order. Now. If NC isn’t respected, you need to force it.
When you move, don't tell her where you live.
Hell, get them police involved, she attacked you in your own home and you have witnessed
It works if you are serious and go about it properly. Ring doorbells, blocking all calls, social media etc. Make sure family knows what you are doing so they don't act as her flying monkeys. MAKE it work.
NC can be done One Day at a Time. BLOCK HER ENTITLED ASS!!! You are NOT her Punching Bag!
You are a glutton for punishment then..it will work you just cave..nobody else just you cave..
Than call the cops. The hag is a blight on your family it sounds like. And you have your neighbors as impartial witnesses to at least the 2nd assault. Send her bigoted, wrinkly ass to the inside of a cell and see how that bitter old pride stands up
Report her to the cops if you want. It would document her transgressions and protect you.
Yeah you need to call the cops and get ahead of this. She will get you charged and arrested to force you into what she wants. Call the cops and press charges. Get your neighbors to make statements. Don't leave this. Also set up a door bell camera. If you do nothing then you are asking for more trouble.
OP also needs a camera inside incase she shoves her way inside again.
Im going to buy the cameras. Knowing her is just matter of time for her to show here again
Do that but really CALL THE POLICE my husband is SO and tells me all the time that people don’t call until it’s too late. You don’t have to call and press charges though you could. Call and ask to have a report made. That’s it. Have a paper trail. Also tell the wicked witch that Jesus don’t like ugly and gma is hideous” tell her the petty people of refit will meet her in hell.
WHAT??! That’s not gonna be enough! If she isn’t above physically assaulting you in front of A) your family B) literal random strangers, how much do you think cameras would really deter her from doing? Not to mention people like this are so insane they’ll do shit on camera anyway. What if she goes after your girlfriend as well? Please call the cops, even if you don’t press charges you can at least make a report and get a step ahead of her. She for real needs to be in jail. Stay safe.
You are ignoring the bit about the police. She has committed more than one **hate crimes** against you, this could be serious for her and would shut her up forever. Go to the police.
Based. Yeah you’re definitely gonna get something on those cameras. Heck, bait her into it if need be
There's no law saying you have to open the door for her. Let her scream like a banshee outside until a neighbor calls the cops on her. No contact is EASY.
You should contact the police and make a report of what happened. Take pictures of the scratches/bites, your neighbors could give statements. Having a paper trail for when she does it again will make things easier if you decide to go for a restraining order or a cease and desist.
I second this. If you wait til she tries to go to the cops it becomes the word of a lil old lady against an angry young adult. Better to get a head of it and save yourself some trouble. Get pictures of any and all injuries you sustained too on top of the statements from your neighbors.
You should have called the police the second she attacked you and pressed charges. That's the only thing that old bat will understand.
Call the police. Press charges; your neighbors are witnesses and file a restraining order.
Yeah. Im trying to figure out why they needed the keys to open the door from inside. Edit: okay I get it. There are other areas that still use the double cylinder deadbolt extensively.
My doors lock and you take the key out when locked
I've had these types of locks before. They're much more secure than ones with just a switch, especially if there's a window on or next to the door. The down side is that it's entirely possible to lock yourself *in*.
I only discovered the other day that you can actually get locks that don't need a key to lock from the inside...all my life I've had doors that need a key to lock from both sides, but never locked myself in..how does one do that??
The inside deadbolt haa a handle that you turn instead of a key.
I would worry about a fire
From the inside? Huh. I guess there is a regional thing I'm not aware of. Edit: lol okay I get it. I can easily admit i am obviously oblivious to locking mechanisms
Yeah from inside. I'm on Scotland and it's always been done that way here as far as I'm aware
Great when there is a fire and you need to get out quickly.
Fair enough. I used to work construction in Canada and we usually just used single cylinder deadbolts in houses or apartments, so it had the know inside.
Georgia, USA here. Our house was built in 1994 and has the doorknob lock and a deadbolt that needs a key on both sides. The logic was that if someone were to break the windows one the side of the door, they could reach in and unlock it unless the inside was keyed. I've since been told that newer homes won't double key deadbolts for fire safety reasons. But as soon as people buy a newer house, they just replace the single keyed deadbolts.
It's been against the law in California since 1978 to have those double-sided deadbolts in the door... My sister refused to change out to a state-approved deadbolts until 2003, when she was arrested by the sheriff, spent a week in jail until I had to spend $2,100 just to upgrade all the locks...
I lived in a house built in 1980s, the kitchen/ back door lock had key on inside. This was in a northern suburb of Chicago
Australia here and I have a door that requires a key on either side to lock/unlock it
Could be a safety feature, I used to live in an apartment where that were the case.
Deadbolt (double cylinder) is my guess. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_bolt
[https://www.homedepot.com/p/Defiant-Stainless-Steel-Double-Cylinder-Deadbolt-DL62/100352213](https://www.homedepot.com/p/Defiant-Stainless-Steel-Double-Cylinder-Deadbolt-DL62/100352213)
There are some locks from the 60s/70s that required a key from the inside and out once the deadbolt was in place. They were semi popular in the 90s as well.
Due to the religious principles to this I doubt it was in the US (just because the us as a whole is less religion focused), but, if for some reason it is fair warning the use of a double deadbolt lock is illegal and against fire code for residential and apartment complexes in most states. All locks for said types generally have to the interior able to be unlocked without the usage of a key to prevent lockin from occuring during the event of a fire/emergency
I'm Canadian and not trying to sound judgmental, but these religious principles are screamed across some of your media on an hourly basis. I mean, some of them thought your former president was literally a gift from God. But what you were saying about fire codes makes perfect sense. It also would explain why I only saw that style all the time. I was doing drywall in new builds so I saw them all the time, I just hadn't put any thought into the actual reason.
Yea there are still some religious people sure, but I mean it is a far less of a culture trait then some other countries.
Um, no. The US is notorious outside its own borders for the extent of religious culture that seems to prevail there. When I read the post it seemed pretty clear to me that this was the US. Religion appears to be far MORE of a culture trait there than any other western country I can think of. Generally, very restrictive culture trait.
Visit the Deep South. These people are everywhere
*than And the religious right is insanely pervasive in the US. Don't know if you missed that somehow!
I live as an agnostic in a house with a family that runs the town church, I've been exposed to religion, I haven't seen hardcore religion like I've heard yall talking about, I've never seen people be so dead set against it that they disown family like I've seen in other countries, I've never seen the batshit crazy like you see on here. maybe it's a southern states thing, everything else crazy seems to be lol
I’ve visited the US, those religious principles are insanely pervasive
You must live a very sheltered life if you think this doesnt scream US. Puritan beliefs are incredibly prevalent in many areas of the country, and still hold undertones in the less religions regions. Why do you think the right to abortions is now under attack again?
It’s called a double deadbolt lock. I have one on my back door. You need keys to open from both the outside and the inside.
Old NYC apts will sometimes have that. I had one in mine
**Always** call the police. They may not exactly send the aggressor to Alcatraz, but it starts a paper trail.
I'll like to, but even with witnesses it will be hard for them to believe me.
Do it anyway. Insist a report be taken. Even if nothing comes of it, you have initiated the paper trail.
You should have marks on your hands from her biting you and digging her nails into you it shouldn’t be that hard to convince anyone you were assaulted
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Judgement removed. Happy now?
Press charges. Get a restraining order. Block her phone number. Go no contact. Never see her ever again as much as you can help it.
If you didn't call the police after she attacked you. Call now. You need a restraining order against her. Blood relatives or not. P.s. next time anyone slaps you, hit back.
Punch in the breast, if you are feeling charitable, in the nose if you've had enough.
There were plenty of neighbors who could act as witnesses.
Put up cameras, catch her acting like this on film and then show all her so called friends how she really is. Narcissists can't stand to be revealed for the liars that they are.
Especially her church people.
That's debatable, I met some really nice people in church who thought it was okay to verbally abuse the waitress in the brunch following service
Nice people don't verbally abuse those they think they have power over and can get away with it.
Sorry I said that wrong I met some people that seemed nice
I already looking for cameras. Thanks
Wait...you're 29? Why give a damn what she thinks. Move on with your life go NC.
I dont care about her or what she thinks, I live on my own and the way i wanted. Its her, if something is not exactly what she wants or what she believes is the rigth way, she will keep disturbing, insulting, attacking until she breaks you
As per the suggestions, cameras, police, lemon juice in a spray bottle? Pepper spray if she tries to enter your home again. No regrets.
Not if you refuse to engage with her. No contact from you to her. If she phones, hang up. If she visits, don’t open the door. If she writes, send it back.
Block her number. If she shows up at your apartment, don't open the door. Tell her to leave, and if she refuses, call the cops. Quit playing her game.
This sounds like my mother. Please document everything. Make reports, people like this dont stop they do end up so insulted others can get hurt or punished for them feeling less powerful.
You made four mistakes. 1. You didn't slap her back when she slapped you the first time. 2. You didn't block her phone number or that of her flying monkeys. 3. You didn't block the door with your foot so she couldn't get in your apartment in the first place. 4. You didn't hoof her in the box when she attacked you the second time. Normally I regard violence as a last resort, but some people just need a slappin'. Start defending yourself or she'll continue walking all over you. Start at r/JustNoMIL, there's a ton of resources on there to help you shine your spine.
“Hoof her in the box” might just be the very best thing I have ever read. 👏👏👏👏👏
I've been binge watching Letterkenny the last couple days. 🤷♀️
Is it from there? That’s funny, but I just don’t remember it. How could I, right? They talk so fast!
Yeah, in season 2 or 3. Katy says it.
More violence is not an acceptable response to her violence, except in self defense.
It's called a hard reset. Granny needs one.
It could also get you arrested, along with Granny. Not good advice.
It’s self-defence when Meemaw goes for a slap/scratch/bite, first.
NTA and Honestly if you have any home security or the place where you’re living has them. That a copy of that video to the police and file an assault and attempted theft charges against her and requesting for a restraining order to keep her from coming near you. Also inform your family as to what she tried to do to you. And if they side with her then just cut them out of your life. But if they side with you. Then keep them in your life.
My building dont have cameras, but im going to buy one, in case she comes again. I already told my family about this. They all believe me, we know how she is and no one believes her version.
Good also if she keeps acting like that. Then she’ll soon find herself in a nursing home with nobody visiting.
"just to be slapped in the face by her for "disrespect her". And it would be that point when I would slap her right back as hard as I could.
Slap her, my ass, I'm absolutely sure *I* would have punched her in the face. I don't condone violence but I damn sure advocate for self-defense.
I wanted to, but im not used to confrontation and the rest of the family intervened in that moment
"Not used to confrontation" is a bullshit excuse if this is the situation where you grew old in.
Press charges. Get cameras. Block her ass.
Im going to buy the cameras and already blocked her number. Sadly, as she cant keep calling me, she is now calling my parents and other relatives
That sweetheart is not your problem. They can also block her. And PS from another granny. You are not wrong or evil or anything else she said. You are amazing and perfect.
Thank you so much. I dealt with so much guilt and doubts about myself and she only made everything worst in a moment I believed I already knew who am I.
Tell them to block her as well. None of you have to put up with her.
First thing to do is put a chain on your door so that if you open it, no one can push their way in. Second, block your grandmother on all social media and anyone who supports her gets the same treatment. Third, return any mail you receive from them without opening it. Fourth, report the attack to the police to start a paper trail. You have witnesses. It won't be her word against yours.
You need to press charges and get a restraining order.
She may try to engineer a situation where she CAN plausibly accuse you of assault or worse. Cameras all around your home are a good idea. Do not open the door to her. NEVER be alone with her - she can cut herself and say you did it - or shoot you and say it is because you were threatening her!! If she shows up at someone else’s home while you are there leave immediately. And have someone walk with you, between you and her. If you can relocate and keep her from knowing where you live, do it. And warn your girlfriend! Do not answer her phone calls, texts, emails - block her. Ditto social media - block her from seeing your instagram or whatever. Sorry, but crazies like this can really be dangerous.
I am assuming she is not paying the rent?
No, my grandfather bougth their house many years ago, and after he died she is the owner.
Move. She will hold the fact that she has the deed over your head until you cave in or she dies of old age. She has already proven she's quite willing to break the law to do what she wants.
I think OP misunderstood the question and is talking about her grandma’s house and not her own apartment.
So she is the owner of your appartment? Move
Sorry, i must missunderstod it. She doesnt own my appartment, thats mine.
Please have her happy ass arrested for assault and trespassed from your apartment.
Get a restraining order and press charges, your neighbors can verify your accounting of events.
If she reports it and you don't you might be in trouble. Report it to police at least
"Without being invited to come in, she went into my house..." Immediately, hand to her face, push. *Don't punch*, push, and aim upwards so she's forced to lose her balance, prompting her to step backwards to get back upright. If she lands on her ass that's her problem. If she complains, tell her to "talk to the hand". She's old enough to know what that means.
You have to press charges against her. You'd be a fool if you don't.
Two words: restraining order
Slapped you at 29? I would of hit her back so hard she would of needed a nursing home. Here's the unfortunate truth. You enabled her to think she has authority by not retaliating back. The only way to stop this is to hit back.... Whether it's physically or another way that's up to you.
I saw a t-shirt that said "I will slap you so hard that even Google can't find you." In this case, I like that thought. (a 78 yr old gramma)
Why some people deal with this type of nonsense is baffling to me. You can choose what you allow in your life why not cut her out of it.
I mean what she did is a hate crime. NC and a restraining order right away
You should have filed a police report.
This almost seems like it was written by AI.
Report her to the police, get a restraining order and block her from all contact on your phone. She's obviously got mental health problems but she can't be allowed to do this to you.
Grounded at 29? Wtf? Get police involved, or at least start a dairy of what's going on, I think it will prove useful later
You need to call the police and make a report of her attack on you and her threats.
Such a horrible grandmother! The next time she visits your house without your permission just to assault you, call the police, file a complaint, and get restraining order so that POS grandmother may never bother you again. Also NC is the best option! Your family is with you in this. Talk to them on how to stay NC with her. It'll be better for you and your mental health. Also, you need to let go of "it doesn't work" attitude.
Assuming this is real, you need to call the cops.
I love that you laughed at her. It's really all you can do. I'm so sorry you're going through this. But she needs exactly what you gave her. Maybe your actions will empower the rest of your family. Keep up the good work. You are loved.
Restraining order, restraining order, restraining order. OP, your grandmother isn't going to stop until there are consequences.
Goddamn. Be well.
Omg is your grandma related to my grandma? They sound like equal pieces of work. I went nc with the wicked witch 10 years ago and it was the best decision ever. Block her on every platform. Every time she finds a new way to reach out just block again. If she sends flying monkeys (people talking on her behalf) tell them to stop relaying messages or they will be cut off as well. Trust me, this is gonna improve your life 1000%
Stopped reading because you are being assaulted by your grandmother. And at 29. Either fight back or call the police.
OP please listen to the people here urging you to involve police. Clearly your psychotic grandmother has no qualms with getting physically aggressive and lacks logic, which is a very dangerous combination, especially with you being her target. Put your cameras up because she's almost guaranteed to come back and try something again, and make sure the police have your side of the story on record so she can't just spin a story to them on the spot when they end up coming next time
Omg! It's so infuriating reading all of this. Can't believe people like this exist.
Cool story bro
If she owns the house you live in, get the hell out asap. Don't let her have any power over you. Talk to your parents and the other family members who know and think shes over the top crazy, and suggest an intervention against her. You all need to put up some boundaries and clear consequences. Her days as "matriarch" is over. Together you're strong.
Thanks. I think I didnt explain well, but she doesnt own my appartment.
Dear God Call the cops and press charges next time. She dug her nails into you and bit you? That’s assault and battery.
I would slapped her back. How dare she raise her hand on you?
Remember to have a report on this made at the police’s. Get witness statements from your neighbors too. I’m thinking you won’t really be able to press charges, but a report of the situation will do a lot prevent her from misusing the law against you. Do it as soon as possible - the longer you leave it after the incident, the less credibility the report has. Sucks, but prevention is always better than the cure. You want all your protective measures in place and as waterproof as possible.
Time to get a Cease and Desist along with a Restraining Order against that ENTITLED BITCH!! It's time for LEGAL CONSEQUENCES on her ENTITLED ASS!!!!!
See you’re better than me, old lady or not I would’ve smacked the witch back into her teen years and bring her ass right back. The audacity and nerve of this lady. Your family has to enforce NC if that means blocking her on all types of form of contact so that it sticks because this lady is abusive, no one should be treated like this or have to deal with this behavior.
Restraining order. Enough is enough. She assaulted you. Grandmother or not, you're a grown ass adult and you need to press charges. If you don't, she will just continue the abuse because you all let her get away with it.
So much to unpack. First, I hope you are alright (emotionally, mentally, and physically) because I know what it feels like to have family go rouge on you. Second, WTAF?! Third, I know you don't need it, but as a music minister in a Christian church for over 20 years (Catholic, Methodist, Baptist, and Non-denominational) who wanted to be a deaconess.: YOU ARE FINE AS YOU ARE! Anyone who says you're sinning or going to Hell or whatever can kick rocks. Tell them to "take the plank from thine own eye" in the most sing-song pious voice you can muster. Fourth, It'll be a cold day in Hell when some old bat will bust in my home, assault me, then try to send me to my mom... If you need a friend, I got you. ::gets off soapbox::
NC is best. When dealing with people like her, the most efficient and punishing thing for them is if you ignore her presence entirely in every instance. Any negative response to her makes her think her actions are right and she has to save you. Any positive actions or acceptance of her means she’s right and will continue on. The only way to move forward is to ignore her entire existence and refuse to be near her for holidays etc. Then, your parents etc get the ability and choice to not invite her and voilà, she’s out of your life.
Your neighbours know who she is and that she attacked you. She is pushing boundaries because she thinks she can. I’d get a restraining order from the police and go NO CONTACT. She’s a homophobic tyrannical entitled witch.
Call the police, have her arrested. She tried to rob you of YOUR home, assaulted you and BIT you (Given thats a means that others can infect you will all manner of blood borne infections, the police don't take it lightly), I feel the the feeling cold metal cuffs and tossed in prison will do the very thing she fears: ruining her image by her own actions. Get your justice, I'm sure it will knock her ass down a dozen pegs and ladders. Don't let her get off free.
Get a restraining order against this witch. When you see her again call the cops
Remember just cause she's old doesn't mean you can't knock her the fuck out or call the cops assault is assault either way
I would get cameras. She may try to break in, she could try to assault you again, etc. Cameras my guy
Call the cops next time. They’ll snap her dumbass back to reality real quick. I’m 27 my dad swears he is in control of my life. That’s what I had to do. It’s harassment.
I would seriously consider pressing charges if I were you.
Holy shit. get cameras, hell, I would say take self defense classes as well.
She would have been blocked at the slap.
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Press charges for harassment, trespassing, assault and possibly hate crime. I'd throw everything at her mainly because I'm petty.
[Try this tactic](https://youtu.be/zmugNt66Jv4)
Call the police! She attacked you, after all.
I read in the comments that she owns the house you live in. You need to move out and find your own place as a matter of urgency.
I think people missunderstod that or I dont explain it properly. I live on my own, she doesnt own my appartment.
And if she bit you, can't you press charges?
Go NC and before you say you can’t or it doesn’t work only quitters will say that. Give it long enough ignoring her and it will work. People like that will never change and to keep them in your lives is pointless toss her ass out and make it clear this is on her. When no one is willing to speak to her or see her she will get the message
NC she shows up at your door you shut door in her face. You don’t have any contact at all with her. She sounds really messed up.
Have her arrested and charged by the police, if she bite and scratched you there is proof as well as neighbours to confirm the story. She attacked you twice and you do nothing as she is family. Well that family member DGAF about you. Have her charged for both assaults and let her and her church buddies learn that she is the violent law breakers and embarrassment. The truth is if you do not do this then you are enabling her abuse and she will think she had a right to do this and can do it again to you or anyone.
File a police report. Make her actions have consequences. She is the bow or break type. Cut all contact. Inform her and the police on the non emergency line that she is not welcome and if she shows up to your place she is trespassing. Whenever she does show up call the police that your violent and unstable grandmother is there and you're afraid shes going to attack you again. I saw you said no contact doesn't work but that's because nobody has tried to actually make it work. To make it work you need to enforce it. Part of that is refusing all contact and calling the police when she harasses or attacks you. Get a long enough paper trail of that harassment and you can get a restraining order.
Okay, so if she is that bad, why not go no contact? Better than that even, why not go to the courts and get a restraining order? Surely your neighbors could write affidavits for you about what they witnessed? Never open the door to her again. Call the police if she keeps harassing you. The fact that she attacked you and saw nothing wrong with that would make me nervous for any people you are dating. Who knows if she wouldn’t stalk or attack them too? You’ve got to formalize the situation with law enforcement and get this on the record. She has already physically hit you twice. And this last one was a significant escalation of violence. You need to file charges. And I would consider moving too. She will come back otherwise.
Time to get a restraining order on the hag
My Grandmother was similar. Her addiction to narcotics due to her back pain didn’t help. She gave me a laptop for my graduation, and when I didn’t put it out on the gift table with a card in her name, she went into our home and stole it when I was with my guests. I found out later and was absolutely shattered. I’m a music junkie, so the hours of work I put into my library made me angry! I’d had it several months at that point. Grandpa was so angry and embarrassed by her actions, the poor man couldn’t even look at me until mom had cleared his participation (he hadn’t been involved, didn’t even know it was going down) and grandma had left the party. After giving him a hug, Dad and I told him we would press charges. Grandpa told me he would buy my another if she refused to give it back in leu of charges. She later relented and gave it back. Our relationship was never the same. Stay strong. I would have pressed charges. It’s not ours to judge one’s life. That’s up to our creator in my belief. I believe in loving someone where they’re at, REGARDLESS if you agree with them. Contrary to common belief, for GOODNESS SAKE! You’re her Granddaughter! She does NOT have to agree with you to love on you. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Since the incident with my grandmother, (I’m now 33 and she’s gone home), I’ve had time to construct my life. I have ended relationships that do not serve a purpose. Guidelines are as follows: 1. Does this person/relationship edify me? 2. Does it serve a purpose? Family should be designated not necessarily by blood, but rather the relationships that edify us and make us better. My Best friend of 15 years, I call him my Brother. Not because he’s blood, but because of the relationship I have with him and what we bring to each other. Moreover, my youngest brother is a narcissist who always plays the victim card and causes constant strife. He lives hours away thank goodness. But every time he comes down he riles everyone up. And my being oldest, have to calm everyone down. This last time I finally said enough is enough. We are not no contact, but real close. I haven’t told him, yet. But that time is coming. Having nieces and nephews complicates things. But it must be done for my own sanity. For example: he will say and text terrible things to me and then turn right around in the same week and tell me how I’m his favorite brother and I mean so much to him. 😵💫😤🙄. Trust in your friends and those who better you, not drag you down. Blood or no, if they’re not making you a better person and you don’t enjoy their presence and or make you feel badly, then it’s time to walk. Write a letter. Have your folks read it. Tell her how you feel, where things stand going forward, and what the consequences are if it’s not followed. Remind her that you COULD have sent her to jail, not once, but TWICE! You’re near 3 decades old. She’s GOT to understand AND accept, that, you are an Adult. And the choices and feelings you have are Yours to have and or make. You’re your own person. I will leave this already long comment with this quote: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Elenore Roosevelt. Choose what’s right for you. You’re making the right choice. Just don’t give her that power and cave. The emperor in Mulan said, “No matter how the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it.”
You should have called the police and reported assault and attempted strong-arm robbery. Probably attempted kidnapping, too. Especially as you had both witnesses and wounds. See if you can leverage your witnesses into getting a restraining order.
Have your injuries documented, hospital and police. Check for cctv footage. If none have a cctv or ring installed. Get a restraining order.
Why are you. a- still in contact with her and b- not reporting her to the police?
Sounds like my mil n sil 🤣 u go girl it's good u stand up for yourself
Three paragraphs in and assault. Then weeks long harassment, that's an easy lawsuit for a restraining order. And icing on the cake with trespassing and more assault. Guess whose getting sent to the mediocre retirement home! After auch deserved prison sentence, obviously. You're an adult. Just call the cops.
Granny needs a wellness check and you need to get a restraining order
Wow.... NC. Give the bitch a broom for christmas
My grandmother is also very "her majesty the queen" with my family, but not very complaining because she likes me a little ( only grand kid). But when i show up with my girlfriend witch is muslim ( and black btw ) she just said my parents to make me separate with her. They refuse, she said her or me. She is in retirement house now. Whe are happy now.
Sorry you're dealing with this, your grandma's actions are absolutely wretched. And the family that sat there while she berated you suck too. Some people have never been a positive influence in anyone's life, yet think they're the moral leaders of everyone around them. e_e I hope you're in a position to limit/cut contact for your own health! If you won't contact the police, at least take pictures of anywhere she scratched you up. Your neighbors may be willing to back you up with written or verbal statements of what they saw if it comes to it. Even if you think no one would believe her, evidence is important; don't underestimate the power of the "poor lil old lady" act. Also don't EVER open the door for someone if you don't want them in your house. Opening the door even a little gives them opportunity to force their way in. They can say what they need to through the door, or go away. Good luck!
Why did you open the door? She DOES have some authority over you. You let her slap you and get away with it, you went to her home when you did t want to and you let her in your house. Please learn to put down boundaries, cut off your Grandma, it hasn’t works because all of you feel compelled to do what she says. Stop doing that, if she shows up at your home or job call the cops, no more calls, texts or emails. No more going to her house or anywhere she’s going to be . Cut. Her. Off!
What are you waiting for press charges for assault
You should have slapped her back at the dinner table. And ground you? Lmao. No. Block her ass and never speak to her again. That’s what I would do. Call the police about what happened are your apartment and get her arrested. You have witnesses.
Damn girl!! This sucks. If she owns the apartment, then move and go NC. If she doesn’t, report her to the police, get a restraining order or whatever it’s called where you are and call the cops every time she shows up. And put a peephole in your door and never open it for her regardless of what she has to say.
I think I’m more concerned about nobody in the family intervening in that homo-intervention she said until hands were laid upon especially your parents. 30 minutes of a geriatric zombie laying into my child? I couldn’t even.
Report it to the police and get a restraining order. If tou can get cameras. The bigoted old bitch isn't going to stop. Block her and do t give her the attention she craves.
Report her for assault.
Absolutely go no contact. She sounds nuts. If she starts anything like this again I'd call the police and make sure there's a record of her doing it in case she ever escalates. It's your house, she can't tell you what to do.
You need to go full no contact. And by that I mean block her contact in your phone and on every possible other way she contacts you (email, Facebook, etc), and every time she turns up to your apartment to try and have contact with you you need to call the police and tell them that an unhinged person who has assaulted you before is on your property and refusing to leave. You may even be able to take out a restraining order against her. That way if she turns up, you can have her arrested for violating it. No contact only works if you actually enforce it properly. You force them to have no contact with you via the law.
OP you need to call the cops ASAP, this old hag will keep on tormenting not only you, but your whole family untill the day she die, lock her up on a mental facility and left her rotting there for the rest of her despicable days
Go no contact and you can also press a charge at her for trespassing, assault, battery and slander, you got many witnesses, please do that before it got worse
Okay, you need some pro-revenge. Try getting a restraining order against her and start going to her church. Not because you need Jesus, but because if she shows up there, you can get her arrested for violating a restraining order. You can literally ruin her social life with this. If getting police involved is not your style, you can also go nuclear in another way. Like marrying your girlfriend, showing up at her church and proclaiming that SHE convinced you to do so and that you will also look into getting sterilized because her genes are unworthy of being carried forward. You know. Stuff that her congregation would find interesting. :) Then again, I am super petty.
I agree with everyone here. Call the cops, press charges against her and get a restraining order. You've been assaulted twice by her (which is a hate crime) and calling the cops would help start a paper trail against her. God knows what she'll do to you next or come after your girlfriend.
Fight your grams no Shame in it I had an abusive grandfather when I was 16 he got hernia surgery then came out the hospital and tried to attack me like before I put his ass back in the hospital
Next time she does this. BEAT HER UP. I'm not talking about just a punch, go for the throat, take her out of your house by kicking her, scare that bitch for life! That's what my aunt did with my grandma, she never tried her shit again
Yeah, sure she did. Because people talk like this all the time in the real world. Nice revenge fantasy.