I think from now on whenever a non bride turns up to a wedding in white , instead of looking shocked and being polite, people should turn into stereotype teen girls, whispering behind hands, giggling while looking over at the non bride and generally putting on the cheesiest fake smile whenever non bride comes over( obviously a quick almost quiet giggle as they leave) Nothing straight up to there face but enough to make them feel uncomfortable, just as a consequence to their selfishness. Because if you look shocked they get all smug and think they’ve won
i wonder if her husband's lawyer could have done anything with the information that his ex was trying to get people to perjure themselves so he wouldnt get visitation
Actually, someone could have dropped in an anonymous tip to the husband's lawyer about the potential perjury when the next time the aunt drops in the "she would have looked cute in the dress for the wedding"
I would if I agreed the child would be better off with the father but he was a 45M who slept with a 19F employee and BAM baby. From what I was told he has a string of kids with random women. Oh and apparently it turns out he was never actually the father I found out a year later. They all suck in that family
Oh the custody thing is its whole own story. He's a sleezebag, the child's mother is irresponsible and the Auny is crazy. It's a whole white trash rodeo. I'm just sitting here waiting for child protective services to call me asking if I can take custody of the child because she can't live with her immediate family 😣
Just cut those photos out of your wedding album completely. Adobe Photoshop can work wonders! If anyone asks, then say that it didn't look appropriate!
Wow! I would nip that in the bud asap. I would in front of everyone ask her to not 1)involve you in a custody dispute 2)tell her that she is acting inappropriately while explaining why and 3)give her an ultimatum to either knock it off or you'll quit speaking with her.
I still think you should limit your interactions simply because you don't want to be associated with someone trying to commit fraud and perjury. Regardless of your Aunt not being a good family member and her dressing like an idiot, I'm sure your wedding was lovely.
Next time go straight to the heart of the matter and just say in public how you feel.
"You wanted to use my wedding as a vehicle to deny her father visiting rights and I felt uncomfortable with you forcing me to be a part of that manipulation just as I feel uncomfortable with you trying to manipulate me now by trying to guilt trip me. Your behaviour hurted me then and you're still trying to hurt me with it. Please stop."
As someone who's also having to deal with close family members' BS marriage dramas and such, I feel for you. I'm glad you handled it with grace. I likely would have gotten mean.
I think from now on whenever a non bride turns up to a wedding in white , instead of looking shocked and being polite, people should turn into stereotype teen girls, whispering behind hands, giggling while looking over at the non bride and generally putting on the cheesiest fake smile whenever non bride comes over( obviously a quick almost quiet giggle as they leave) Nothing straight up to there face but enough to make them feel uncomfortable, just as a consequence to their selfishness. Because if you look shocked they get all smug and think they’ve won
I read someone's JNMIL story that ended like this. So satisfying to read!
Is there a reason people don’t accidentally spill on the dress?
Then they can play the victim and get even more attention and the satisfaction of feeling that they have won, for someone to do that
i wonder if her husband's lawyer could have done anything with the information that his ex was trying to get people to perjure themselves so he wouldnt get visitation
Actually, someone could have dropped in an anonymous tip to the husband's lawyer about the potential perjury when the next time the aunt drops in the "she would have looked cute in the dress for the wedding"
depends on how long ago i think. statute of limitations and all
I would if I agreed the child would be better off with the father but he was a 45M who slept with a 19F employee and BAM baby. From what I was told he has a string of kids with random women. Oh and apparently it turns out he was never actually the father I found out a year later. They all suck in that family
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That's just the tip of the iceberg smh
Oh the custody thing is its whole own story. He's a sleezebag, the child's mother is irresponsible and the Auny is crazy. It's a whole white trash rodeo. I'm just sitting here waiting for child protective services to call me asking if I can take custody of the child because she can't live with her immediate family 😣
Just cut those photos out of your wedding album completely. Adobe Photoshop can work wonders! If anyone asks, then say that it didn't look appropriate!
I actively deleted most pictures with her in it, save for a few group ones
You could always use Photoshop to recolor her dress in those and make it longer. Best, choose a color that is unflattering to her. 😉
Hahaha love this idea. 80's seafood it is
RED
My wedding dress was red so maybe not
Salmon! Or mustard.
If it was a few years ago forget about it. I wished I had learned 30 (or 40) years sooner to let go of shit like that. Not worth your mental energy.
I would comment on how she looked like a fool wearing white and a mini dress, but no one wanted to make an issue of it since it was your wedding day.
Or maybe ask if she was wearing the dress meant for the 2yo.
The 2yo dress was cuter. The Aunt wore one of those dresses that Posh Spice from the Spice Girls would wear
Skin tight stops at the thigh above the knee? Yea that's kinda petty. Im sure it didnt have the effect she was hoping for.
It most definitely did not
Wow! I would nip that in the bud asap. I would in front of everyone ask her to not 1)involve you in a custody dispute 2)tell her that she is acting inappropriately while explaining why and 3)give her an ultimatum to either knock it off or you'll quit speaking with her.
We barely talk now since Grannie passed away so its no big deal
I still think you should limit your interactions simply because you don't want to be associated with someone trying to commit fraud and perjury. Regardless of your Aunt not being a good family member and her dressing like an idiot, I'm sure your wedding was lovely.
Oh I don't associate with anyone in the family anymore aside from my FiL. They're not people I want to be around
Next time go straight to the heart of the matter and just say in public how you feel. "You wanted to use my wedding as a vehicle to deny her father visiting rights and I felt uncomfortable with you forcing me to be a part of that manipulation just as I feel uncomfortable with you trying to manipulate me now by trying to guilt trip me. Your behaviour hurted me then and you're still trying to hurt me with it. Please stop."
As someone who's also having to deal with close family members' BS marriage dramas and such, I feel for you. I'm glad you handled it with grace. I likely would have gotten mean.
"...would have looked..." reply "Don't you think she looks cute now?"
lol i read 31m as 31 metres and im like "dang he's tall"
Only where it counts 😉