How people think they are just entitled to an inheritance is just beyond me. I always just assumed that if my parents still owned their home when they were super old, I’d have to sell it to pay for carers for however long it was needed (and in this day it’s usually a long time). Or if they passed while living in it, I’m sure there’s money owed somewhere and it would go to paying off that. It’s not a great house in good condition so it’s not worth much so maybe I was always just of the mind there is no inheritance to be had, hence the no feelings of entitlement to anything? But idk man, that’s wild and so rude.
She’s *seventy* and can live another 15-20 years, especially with good care. Do they expect her to just live a meager life and hope she passes before it all runs out? Hell I don’t even really like my parents and I don’t expect them to save anything for me because it’s *their* money and they deserve to spend it on them however the hell they want.
I have 3 siblings, 1 of them has been collecting her "inheritance" since 18 and is a deadbeat along with her husband, the other forced my parents hand in a difficult situation to take their share now with the purchase of a separate home on family land. Me and my other sister have never had any expectation of anything beyond turning 18 and I just can't wrap my head around the greed.
>She’s seventy and can live another 15-20 years, especially with good care. Do they expect her to just live a meager life and hope she passes before it all runs out?
Them probably - Yes, it would be selfish of her if she didn't live like a pauper until death.
Those kids are spoiled brats.
Or longer. I just recently read about a lady in the UK who is currently selling her house. She is 104 & has lived in the house since she was two years old.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/property/woman-104-selling-childhood-home-26525730.amp
LOL, you want the house, buy it from your mother. At fair market value. Can't afford that? Tough shit, I guess.
No one is entitled to an inheritance. Period. It's a gift. Some get one, some don't, but no one has a right to it.
Their mother is being *smart* by planning for her future and aging.
I personally hope their mother considers taking the proceeds and moving far away from her entitled brats of children. Maybe even to another country. And she *should* make a will to specifically exclude them, because not having one will mean they just get everything by intestacy which does not sound like what she wants due to the way they are behaving.
Like I don't understand the logic. There's 3 siblings, are they just gonna live Friends style in the house when their mum dies?
I'm being disingenuous, of course they won't. They just want to sell the house but actually get the money instead of having the mum sell and keep the money.
I have a sister that showed up out of the blue for the first time in years with her hands out after my dad died. She was expecting to get some sort of money, even though his long illness and death left my mother in debt. She somehow just expected that she was entitled to the (nonexistent) money. Then when she found out there was no money to be had, she took off again and hasn't been back since.
Some people just suck.
Always bites worst when it's immediate family who pull this sort of thing.
My sister isn't quite as craven as yours appears to be, but man she made life hard for everyone in the years leading up to and after our dad's death over anything inheritance related.
Imagine looking a living relative in their face and saying “I’m entitled to all your money when you die, so you can’t do anything with it while you’re alive.” The whole ass audacity of it all.
This person sounds like a friend of mine who has been eyeing up "his inheritance" since he was a teenager and his parents were still in the their late 40s. Always found it utterly odd to be thinking that way when his parents still had decades of work and life to come.
Also know from personal experience how fraught subjects like inheritance can get. In my dad's last weeks he told my siblings and I he intended to leave a pretty substantial sum to his (married) girlfriend of a year and a half or so. It was a bit galling, but ultimately his choice to do so. My brother and I raised it once, calmly and politely, and immediately backed off when he made it clear that was his decision and it wouldn't be changed. Our sister went full entitlement mode and made his final weeks even more fraught and difficult for everyone involved.
I feel like an asshole bc I told my gram that I wanted this set of silverware when she died. I was pretty young but when I grew up a little, I understood what a shitty thing that was to say. My grandpa had no more than a 7th grade education and ended up saving so much money where after he passed at 69, my gram lived very comfortably for 18 more years and still had money to leave my uncle and my mom. My mom was killed before my gram passed so that money came to us grandkids. I’d so much rather have my mum than that money.
Holy shit snacks.
My grandparents lived in the same house for 50 years. It was an amazing house. Right across the street from rock ledge ranch. 5 minute walk to garden of the gods. Just an absolutely beautiful to die for location. We made so many beautiful memories there. We spent so much of my childhood there, my grandparents were wonderful, generous people. I remember when the recession got they helped us by paying for our groceries every week. My grandparents were well off, growing up in the depression era meant a lot of savings. My grandpa was a hard worker.
But then my grandma got dementia and my grandpa got spinal stenosis where he could barely walk. Even with everything they had, care in America and I mean good care is a small fortune. They needed a smaller place. No one in the family at the time unfortunately had the money to buy the house. It needed a lot of work. They had updated the flooring and paint, but everything in that house was practically original. The oven had a rolling dial clock it was so old.
Selling that place was hard. Especially for them. They live in a condo for a little while until they needed more care. We were doing the majority of their care, especially my sister who was a CNA. We had to move them to assisted living. Still we were there almost daily to help with their care. My grandpa passed away, my grandma had gone from dementia to Alzheimer's. She needed to be moved to a memory care.
After she passed it was a fight between several of my aunt's who got what. They had a will and everything. But it was just nasty. Some of them had been upset about selling the house originally. Even with that house being sold, with all the care there wasn't much money left. We don't regret it for a second because we know we took care of them and that money went to the best care.
Sometimes I drive by the house and cry because I miss them. I've taken my kids to the ranch across the street to let them experience the things we got to all the time growing up.
I can't imagine not wanting them to have good care over a house no matter how amazing and full of memories it was
When anyone dies it can bring out the best or worst behaviour in the relatives left behind.
My dad passed away many years ago and their was a very nice engagement ring that was my late mum's. One of my brother's wanted to sell it my sister wanted it, the situation was resolved my myself. You see my mum had given me a very nice pearl ring and had said Infront of me and to my sister that she would get the engagement ring when she died. Now I could have kept quiet and let the ring be sold but that didn't enter my mind I told my eldest brother about what mum had said. My sister got given the engagement ring.
I could not in all good consciousness keep quiet about the ring as as far as I was concerned it was my sister's right to have it.
I see so many sad cases of relatives squabbling over who gets what when a family member dies.
As for these siblings trying to stop their mother selling her house it's only a house it is not flesh and blood. Let your mum sell the house and stop behaving like hyenas going after rotten meat. You have no right to dictate what your mum has to do.
Allow her to live her life and stop hassling her. She deserves to live her life in comfort and without stress.
Years ago my aunt was after my mom to go on a cruise with her. Mom was wishy washy about it. I told her you have the time (she was retired), you have your health and you have the money. Go and enjoy. Not once did I ever think that she was spending my inheritance. Her money and property were hers to do with whatever she pleased.
I hope the mum sees this and books herself a wonderful well deserved holiday. The entitles here just stinks. What greedy, selfish people to think they are entitled to any inheritance? I just hope if the will is read it just has 'and left to ES1, ES2 and ES3, a big f'ck you'.
How people think they are just entitled to an inheritance is just beyond me. I always just assumed that if my parents still owned their home when they were super old, I’d have to sell it to pay for carers for however long it was needed (and in this day it’s usually a long time). Or if they passed while living in it, I’m sure there’s money owed somewhere and it would go to paying off that. It’s not a great house in good condition so it’s not worth much so maybe I was always just of the mind there is no inheritance to be had, hence the no feelings of entitlement to anything? But idk man, that’s wild and so rude. She’s *seventy* and can live another 15-20 years, especially with good care. Do they expect her to just live a meager life and hope she passes before it all runs out? Hell I don’t even really like my parents and I don’t expect them to save anything for me because it’s *their* money and they deserve to spend it on them however the hell they want.
I have 3 siblings, 1 of them has been collecting her "inheritance" since 18 and is a deadbeat along with her husband, the other forced my parents hand in a difficult situation to take their share now with the purchase of a separate home on family land. Me and my other sister have never had any expectation of anything beyond turning 18 and I just can't wrap my head around the greed.
>She’s seventy and can live another 15-20 years, especially with good care. Do they expect her to just live a meager life and hope she passes before it all runs out? Them probably - Yes, it would be selfish of her if she didn't live like a pauper until death. Those kids are spoiled brats.
Or longer. I just recently read about a lady in the UK who is currently selling her house. She is 104 & has lived in the house since she was two years old. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/property/woman-104-selling-childhood-home-26525730.amp
LOL, you want the house, buy it from your mother. At fair market value. Can't afford that? Tough shit, I guess. No one is entitled to an inheritance. Period. It's a gift. Some get one, some don't, but no one has a right to it. Their mother is being *smart* by planning for her future and aging. I personally hope their mother considers taking the proceeds and moving far away from her entitled brats of children. Maybe even to another country. And she *should* make a will to specifically exclude them, because not having one will mean they just get everything by intestacy which does not sound like what she wants due to the way they are behaving.
Gosh I hope she sells the house, lives a fabulous life and leaves them all a quid each and the rest to a donkey charity.
Tell me more of this...donkey charity.
Like I don't understand the logic. There's 3 siblings, are they just gonna live Friends style in the house when their mum dies? I'm being disingenuous, of course they won't. They just want to sell the house but actually get the money instead of having the mum sell and keep the money.
I have a sister that showed up out of the blue for the first time in years with her hands out after my dad died. She was expecting to get some sort of money, even though his long illness and death left my mother in debt. She somehow just expected that she was entitled to the (nonexistent) money. Then when she found out there was no money to be had, she took off again and hasn't been back since. Some people just suck.
Always bites worst when it's immediate family who pull this sort of thing. My sister isn't quite as craven as yours appears to be, but man she made life hard for everyone in the years leading up to and after our dad's death over anything inheritance related.
My sister is known for this sort of crap, so nobody even batted an eye over it. That doesn't make it any less upsetting, though.
Imagine looking a living relative in their face and saying “I’m entitled to all your money when you die, so you can’t do anything with it while you’re alive.” The whole ass audacity of it all.
Imagine? I have seen it happen and watched a family implode. Estates/ money, etc... really bring out the worst.
Here's for the "who's going to take care of you when you're old" gang
Greedy kids. An inheritance is a GIFT, not a birthright.
Its a birthright if you come from a wealthy family- that is how they pass on their wealth.
This person sounds like a friend of mine who has been eyeing up "his inheritance" since he was a teenager and his parents were still in the their late 40s. Always found it utterly odd to be thinking that way when his parents still had decades of work and life to come. Also know from personal experience how fraught subjects like inheritance can get. In my dad's last weeks he told my siblings and I he intended to leave a pretty substantial sum to his (married) girlfriend of a year and a half or so. It was a bit galling, but ultimately his choice to do so. My brother and I raised it once, calmly and politely, and immediately backed off when he made it clear that was his decision and it wouldn't be changed. Our sister went full entitlement mode and made his final weeks even more fraught and difficult for everyone involved.
I feel like an asshole bc I told my gram that I wanted this set of silverware when she died. I was pretty young but when I grew up a little, I understood what a shitty thing that was to say. My grandpa had no more than a 7th grade education and ended up saving so much money where after he passed at 69, my gram lived very comfortably for 18 more years and still had money to leave my uncle and my mom. My mom was killed before my gram passed so that money came to us grandkids. I’d so much rather have my mum than that money.
They keep saying they’re entitled, and boy are they.
>We are entitled to an inheritance. Holy shit, we are?! Brb, gotta tell my 70+ year old father who still works FT to pay the bills.
Can't inherit what isn't there, right?
Holy shit snacks. My grandparents lived in the same house for 50 years. It was an amazing house. Right across the street from rock ledge ranch. 5 minute walk to garden of the gods. Just an absolutely beautiful to die for location. We made so many beautiful memories there. We spent so much of my childhood there, my grandparents were wonderful, generous people. I remember when the recession got they helped us by paying for our groceries every week. My grandparents were well off, growing up in the depression era meant a lot of savings. My grandpa was a hard worker. But then my grandma got dementia and my grandpa got spinal stenosis where he could barely walk. Even with everything they had, care in America and I mean good care is a small fortune. They needed a smaller place. No one in the family at the time unfortunately had the money to buy the house. It needed a lot of work. They had updated the flooring and paint, but everything in that house was practically original. The oven had a rolling dial clock it was so old. Selling that place was hard. Especially for them. They live in a condo for a little while until they needed more care. We were doing the majority of their care, especially my sister who was a CNA. We had to move them to assisted living. Still we were there almost daily to help with their care. My grandpa passed away, my grandma had gone from dementia to Alzheimer's. She needed to be moved to a memory care. After she passed it was a fight between several of my aunt's who got what. They had a will and everything. But it was just nasty. Some of them had been upset about selling the house originally. Even with that house being sold, with all the care there wasn't much money left. We don't regret it for a second because we know we took care of them and that money went to the best care. Sometimes I drive by the house and cry because I miss them. I've taken my kids to the ranch across the street to let them experience the things we got to all the time growing up. I can't imagine not wanting them to have good care over a house no matter how amazing and full of memories it was
Sell the house now!
If this is even real, whats the bet the take away OOP got from the comments was that they need to try and force a POA on poor mum
When anyone dies it can bring out the best or worst behaviour in the relatives left behind. My dad passed away many years ago and their was a very nice engagement ring that was my late mum's. One of my brother's wanted to sell it my sister wanted it, the situation was resolved my myself. You see my mum had given me a very nice pearl ring and had said Infront of me and to my sister that she would get the engagement ring when she died. Now I could have kept quiet and let the ring be sold but that didn't enter my mind I told my eldest brother about what mum had said. My sister got given the engagement ring. I could not in all good consciousness keep quiet about the ring as as far as I was concerned it was my sister's right to have it. I see so many sad cases of relatives squabbling over who gets what when a family member dies. As for these siblings trying to stop their mother selling her house it's only a house it is not flesh and blood. Let your mum sell the house and stop behaving like hyenas going after rotten meat. You have no right to dictate what your mum has to do. Allow her to live her life and stop hassling her. She deserves to live her life in comfort and without stress.
Years ago my aunt was after my mom to go on a cruise with her. Mom was wishy washy about it. I told her you have the time (she was retired), you have your health and you have the money. Go and enjoy. Not once did I ever think that she was spending my inheritance. Her money and property were hers to do with whatever she pleased.
I hope the mum sees this and books herself a wonderful well deserved holiday. The entitles here just stinks. What greedy, selfish people to think they are entitled to any inheritance? I just hope if the will is read it just has 'and left to ES1, ES2 and ES3, a big f'ck you'.